# Homework: Building Persistence, Resilience & Independence

An episode of [How Not to Screw Up Your Kids](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1571503566), 6 May 2026, 23 min.

Audio: https://sphinx.acast.com/p/open/s/66756955a4ecc30012453c07/e/69fb0462a6ade255925136ef/media.mp3

Hands up if you like homework… Me neither. But homework isn’t just a task to be completed. It’s a powerful opportunity to build persistence, resilience and independence in your children. Homework can so easily become a battleground filled with tears, avoidance and frustration, yet when we shift our focus from performance to process, everything changes. In today’s episode, I explore why the “how” of our support matters far more than the worksheets themselves, and why our job isn’t to rescue our children from discomfort but to create the conditions that help them start, stick with it and feel capable. You are going to learn how to tailor homework routines to your child’s needs, how to spot when avoidance is really anxiety or perfectionism, and how to use five practical strategies to transform homework from a nightly fight into a long‑term skill‑building habit. If homework has become a source of stress in your home, this episode will help you reset the dynamic with clarity and confidence. So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation… Highlights from this episode: 00:33 - Not just about the work 03:52 - Focus on the how 05:17 - Who’s homework is it? 09:50 - How to support your child 12:03 - Homework avoidance 14:05 - Connection over correction 17:09 - Praise the process 20:49 - The bigger goal 💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together 💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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