# The Long Distance Relationship Game

An episode of [We Don't Have Time For This](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1544178687), 6 Jul 2026, 42 min.

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Quick reminder to check your bosoms because we're nothing if not committed to your wellbeing. Then it's onto the great moustache debate because Revz has developed a concerning appreciation for the humble soup strainer. Gem dishes out some tough love after an Iggy, World Cup and pocket money situation that has the group chat divided. Plus, a trip down memory lane to New York and the early days of Gem and Hubs. Gem dishes out all her long distance relationship tips, now that Revz is dealing with different time zones. Gem drops another health update and let's just say someone's crystals are copping the blame. Happy Tuesday DLs. May the school holidays be ever in your favour. #NotSpon: G: Benefit Lip Stain R: The Four Seasons on Netflix - Check out our Amazon Storefront (Prime Day Sale 7-13 July!) Know Thyself 2026 LIVE SHOW TICKETS and MERCH Subscribe to MORE TIME For This: Subscribe on Apple Subscribe on Spotify Submit your OTDL Submit your Bestie Hotline Sign Up To Bestie Bulletin Join our Facebook Group Listen to our cool little sister podcast: The Fifth Trimester on Spotify The Fifth Trimester on Apple See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

## Transcript

[0:00] Speaker 1: We would like to acknowledge the treatitional custodians of the
[0:03] Speaker 1: land that this podcast is recorded on first step of
[0:06] Speaker 1: the month.
[0:06] Speaker 2: Grab those titties, girls, Grab the girls girls, It's time
[0:10] Speaker 2: to do a boob check?
[0:11] Speaker 1: Sure is? Are you doing it right now?
[0:13] Speaker 2: Right now? Feel yourself to I can't do it because
[0:16] Speaker 2: I've got foundation on my hand and a cream jumper. Yes,
[0:19] Speaker 2: so I shan't you shan't fond all myself. I could
[0:21] Speaker 2: go wonder I wanted to ask you and it's not.
[0:24] Speaker 1: You'll do it for me?
[0:25] Speaker 2: Like remember that time I waxed you a bikini line
[0:27] Speaker 2: for you? Yeah, because we were poor? Can you do
[0:29] Speaker 2: a boob check on me? Oh?
[0:30] Speaker 1: With pleasure? Okay? Good? Because like I feel like.
[0:33] Speaker 2: You're way more thorough and you understand it more, and
[0:37] Speaker 2: I think it's important that we have attention to detail
[0:39] Speaker 2: in this ERAa GP.
[0:40] Speaker 1: So can you do me after this?
[0:41] Speaker 2: Would happily? I feel, I reckon it'd be quite easy
[0:45] Speaker 2: to spot a lump on you. I don't know, I'm
[0:48] Speaker 2: quite is it under the armpits.
[0:49] Speaker 1: That feels tricky to feel through?
[0:52] Speaker 2: I just don't trust my type B. Yeah, I did it,
[0:55] Speaker 2: you know right, I'm getting older. Okay, I'll do an
[0:58] Speaker 2: exam after the pull dot to gem sounds good. Pashtag
[1:01] Speaker 2: not a doctor, Jim Death's not a docky, but let's
[1:04] Speaker 2: get into the Yes.
[1:06] Speaker 1: Start the episode.
[1:07] Speaker 2: We have a thousand things to do, but rather chat
[1:12] Speaker 2: to you with emails and meetings and husbands and kids.
[1:17] Speaker 1: We don't have time for this. Just what you need
[1:22] Speaker 1: to basic bitches with the podcast. Hello, and welcome to
[1:28] Speaker 1: We don't have time for this.
[1:29] Speaker 2: I'm your host, Jemmy Pernita aka Jemmy Peena on the
[1:32] Speaker 2: Gram along with my co.
[1:33] Speaker 1: Host Kate Graves Gang.
[1:35] Speaker 2: Have we noticed mustaches are back with a vengeance? And
[1:40] Speaker 2: how do we feel about That's what I'm gonna say you,
[1:41] Speaker 2: how do you feel about it? Because I feel like
[1:43] Speaker 2: they're one of the most divisive choices a man can
[1:46] Speaker 2: make with his look. I feel like anything that's a choice,
[1:51] Speaker 2: for example, a bob yes or a stash.
[1:54] Speaker 1: I think it's not for everyone. No, and some.
[1:57] Speaker 2: People really rocket and others on like what's coming on there?
[2:01] Speaker 1: Did you forget? Make another choice?
[2:03] Speaker 2: Make another choice. I love them across the board, blanket
[2:08] Speaker 2: pretty much across the board. I just would not like
[2:11] Speaker 2: it on my husband. Oh, yes, I can't imagine there
[2:14] Speaker 2: is a quirky, creative edge to a star.
[2:18] Speaker 1: It's giving.
[2:19] Speaker 2: I work in advertising, advertising pr barista.
[2:23] Speaker 1: Yes, you know sexy guy on hinge covered in tattoos.
[2:26] Speaker 2: Yes, slightly emo edge emo, No, disagree, No, it's a
[2:31] Speaker 2: great no emo.
[2:32] Speaker 1: No, Emo's more anemic.
[2:34] Speaker 2: Okay, like creative, cool cat, cool cat with a little
[2:36] Speaker 2: bit of quirk, but it's so much more mainstream that
[2:39] Speaker 2: it's not quirky anymore. Like, literally, anyone between the ages
[2:43] Speaker 2: of twenty five and thirty five has a mustache if
[2:45] Speaker 2: they're malen'.
[2:46] Speaker 1: You pe right. Yeah.
[2:48] Speaker 2: Look, so I can only use my husband as an
[2:50] Speaker 2: examples my yardstick.
[2:51] Speaker 1: I just feel like he would look a bit seedy.
[2:54] Speaker 2: Yeah, he's not really the demo, No, but he's got friends,
[2:59] Speaker 2: a rocking star, rock starshes okays.
[3:01] Speaker 1: It's a dad ye men? Yeah great.
[3:04] Speaker 2: Oh, we have a mutual friend who's had a stash
[3:06] Speaker 2: longer than they were cool. He's had one for a
[3:08] Speaker 2: long time and he rocks it. He rocks it.
[3:11] Speaker 1: But that's a real seventies dad vibe.
[3:13] Speaker 2: That's like I'm going to golf and then I'm going
[3:15] Speaker 2: to sink some beers and then I'll come home and
[3:17] Speaker 2: put on the barbie that it's a very AUSI stash. Yeah,
[3:21] Speaker 2: but he is creative, so yeah. I trying to imagine
[3:24] Speaker 2: Teddy and Iggy.
[3:27] Speaker 1: Blonde boys.
[3:29] Speaker 2: The blondes can't carry it off as well, And I
[3:31] Speaker 2: wonder if they'll have patchy facial hair growth as well,
[3:34] Speaker 2: because they might.
[3:35] Speaker 1: You know, their dads aren't like full bearded men. They're
[3:38] Speaker 1: not bearded men, so fascinating, fascinating.
[3:44] Speaker 2: Speaking of Iggy to segue for a second, I found
[3:48] Speaker 2: myself in a bit of a dilemma when it comes
[3:51] Speaker 2: to pocket money and chore money. Really pivoting here for
[3:54] Speaker 2: a second, but I just want to bring it to
[3:56] Speaker 2: the pod. I don't know if I made the right decision.
[3:58] Speaker 2: So basically, my kids have a chore chart, stick a chart,
[4:01] Speaker 2: whatever you want to call it. Each sticker is worth
[4:03] Speaker 2: fifty cents. By the end of the week they can
[4:05] Speaker 2: earn if they do everything correctly. I think about twelve
[4:08] Speaker 2: dollars fifty it's pretty good, not bad.
[4:10] Speaker 1: They never get there.
[4:11] Speaker 2: However, Eggy has really taken it upon himself to nail
[4:15] Speaker 2: his chores, and he saved twenty one dollars.
[4:19] Speaker 1: And I thought amazing. Wow.
[4:20] Speaker 2: Rap's the kind of kid who gets to the end
[4:22] Speaker 2: of the week with say, six dollars, and then she's like,
[4:24] Speaker 2: can I go to the newsagents and buy lollies every week?
[4:27] Speaker 2: And I'm like, I feels, I'm like sure, it burns
[4:29] Speaker 2: a hole in her fuckets.
[4:30] Speaker 1: Fine.
[4:30] Speaker 2: She didn't used to be that way, but lately she's
[4:32] Speaker 2: a bit instant gratification. Whereas Iggy, they fully switch. He's
[4:36] Speaker 2: on the save train and so he saved twenty one
[4:39] Speaker 2: dollars and he said, Mum, I want to go spend
[4:41] Speaker 2: my chore money. And I was like, great, let's go
[4:43] Speaker 2: to the mall. Your sister's got soccer training, we can
[4:45] Speaker 2: go to them all together. And I said, what do
[4:47] Speaker 2: you want to buy? And he said, really specifically, I
[4:50] Speaker 2: want the fee for World Cup soccer ball.
[4:53] Speaker 1: Oh honey, twenty one and fifty ain't going to do that.
[4:55] Speaker 2: Well, naive mother, nonsports mom, Oh no, not as deep
[4:59] Speaker 2: into it as Kate rev girl had no idea. And
[5:02] Speaker 2: I thought twenty bucks for a ball, no drama, not
[5:05] Speaker 2: for the FIFA branded fucking World Cup ball. Okay, I'm loan, sorry, sorry,
[5:08] Speaker 2: I'm loan, sorry, totally set. I'm gonna let you finish,
[5:12] Speaker 2: I now know. Well, first of all, we went to
[5:14] Speaker 2: Big w yep and sold out, went km up, sold out.
[5:17] Speaker 1: Well yeah, And I said.
[5:18] Speaker 2: To Eggs, I was like, I think we need to
[5:20] Speaker 2: pivot here because and he goes, no, no, no.
[5:22] Speaker 1: Somewhere's gotta have it.
[5:23] Speaker 3: And I thought, Rebel, Rebel always has it.
[5:25] Speaker 1: Well Rebel haven't. Yeah, Anyway, I went to Rebel. They
[5:27] Speaker 1: had it. They had five left. Oh the ball was
[5:31] Speaker 1: fifty bucks. Oh that's quite good, is it?
[5:34] Speaker 2: Oh?
[5:35] Speaker 1: I was expecting a lot more.
[5:36] Speaker 2: A standard ball is usually sixty dollars, and this is
[5:40] Speaker 2: a branded, licensed like special edition. Oh okay, Well, the
[5:43] Speaker 2: other balls in the pit at Rebel were kind of
[5:46] Speaker 2: about thirty forty bucks and this was fifty, which I thought,
[5:49] Speaker 2: it's like when you buy Disney branded licensed anything like that.
[5:52] Speaker 2: PFA is one of the biggest ips in the world. Right,
[5:55] Speaker 2: It's like the Dallas Cowboys, gotcha, right, So fifty is
[5:58] Speaker 2: reasonable because I thought.
[6:00] Speaker 1: Fifty dollars ball, I wish you'd gotten me one.
[6:02] Speaker 2: Oh sauce, yeah, had I know, But the problem was
[6:07] Speaker 2: he has twenty one dollars.
[6:08] Speaker 1: His heart sank, oh my god, and traped around the
[6:11] Speaker 1: wind Westfield.
[6:13] Speaker 2: Yeah. And then meanwhile ruff as soccer trainings and I'm
[6:16] Speaker 2: like this, we got to leave.
[6:17] Speaker 1: We gotta leave what we do.
[6:18] Speaker 2: And he's holding this ball and it's I've got to say,
[6:20] Speaker 2: I'm not a ball person, but this was an impressive
[6:23] Speaker 2: fucking ball. Like it's colorful, it's got hologram trim around
[6:26] Speaker 2: the colorful ball.
[6:27] Speaker 1: We're having a cultural moment.
[6:29] Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, my kids are really into it.
[6:31] Speaker 1: And I just looked at.
[6:32] Speaker 2: Him and he goes, oh, it's fifty dollars. I only
[6:35] Speaker 2: have twenty one dollars. And I was like yeah, and
[6:39] Speaker 2: he was trying to come up with solutions in his head.
[6:41] Speaker 2: I could see his brain ticking over. He wasn't going
[6:43] Speaker 2: to let go of this ball. And he's like, can
[6:45] Speaker 2: I give you back thirty dollars Kenny, lay by it,
[6:49] Speaker 2: Kenny after pay it at the Bank of.
[6:52] Speaker 1: Mark That's where we were at.
[6:53] Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, And I said, well, that means working off
[6:56] Speaker 2: your chore chart. Yeah, and you're not going to have
[6:58] Speaker 2: money at the end of that might take you a
[7:00] Speaker 2: few weeks. That money's going to go to me and
[7:02] Speaker 2: he goes, no, no, no, I want to pay you
[7:04] Speaker 2: back thirty dollars and I said, well, technically it's twenty
[7:06] Speaker 2: nine dollars that you own me. He goes, okay, I
[7:08] Speaker 2: want to pay you back. And I was like, are
[7:09] Speaker 2: you sure, buddy, because he's never done this before.
[7:12] Speaker 1: Never Okay, yeah, because you know me, I'm anti I know.
[7:15] Speaker 2: I was like, I'm like allergic to the idea of
[7:18] Speaker 2: owing people money. I costed someone recently where I was like,
[7:22] Speaker 2: what are your pay ID details and she's like, I
[7:24] Speaker 2: don't know. I don't think I have pay idea. I
[7:25] Speaker 2: was like, what's your bit. She's like, we'll sort out later.
[7:27] Speaker 2: I was like, no, we're going to sort this out now.
[7:29] Speaker 2: Fun at parties, that's me.
[7:31] Speaker 1: I'm your fun friends at parties.
[7:33] Speaker 2: I just don't want to walk away because it just
[7:35] Speaker 2: sometimes doesn't get done, the ADHD stress of it. It
[7:39] Speaker 2: becomes a task. Later it'll get and then I.
[7:41] Speaker 1: Want to close the tab. You want to close that
[7:43] Speaker 1: it will consume my night thoughts.
[7:44] Speaker 2: Yeah, thank you just letting you know, because you have, now,
[7:48] Speaker 2: at forty years old, an amazing track record. If you
[7:51] Speaker 2: forgot to pay me, or we didn't do it on
[7:53] Speaker 2: the spot or whatever, I would never be like, Jim
[7:55] Speaker 2: didn't pay me.
[7:56] Speaker 1: I think some people would because she always does. I
[7:59] Speaker 1: would have to let go. Oh Nick Jim didn't pay me.
[8:01] Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to remind her, and she's going to
[8:03] Speaker 1: be covered.
[8:03] Speaker 2: In shame, and I want her to know it's okay.
[8:06] Speaker 2: I know where she lives. She has a good track record,
[8:08] Speaker 2: and I know she forgot well. The thing about owing
[8:10] Speaker 2: people money, I feel like if you don't deal with
[8:13] Speaker 2: it in the moment, then.
[8:14] Speaker 1: It's stretched and sounds the thing.
[8:15] Speaker 2: It's a bit like this is how I am with
[8:17] Speaker 2: replying to text messages. You'll either hear from me immediately
[8:20] Speaker 2: or in a month's time. Fair there is no in between. Yes,
[8:23] Speaker 2: and it's awkward and I don't like this side of
[8:25] Speaker 2: my personality. And they usually start with I do confess
[8:28] Speaker 2: I forgot to and I'm like, it's okay, okay, you
[8:32] Speaker 2: got to it now.
[8:33] Speaker 1: Anyway to round out, I've given Iggy the opportunity.
[8:38] Speaker 2: I said, okay, you can pay me back twenty nine dollars,
[8:41] Speaker 2: And to my absolute surprise and delight, this morning, he
[8:44] Speaker 2: woke up before school, he made his bed, he got
[8:46] Speaker 2: dressed in his school uniform without asking, and he came
[8:49] Speaker 2: into my room and woke me up and he was like, hi, money,
[8:51] Speaker 2: and I was like, oh, you're dressed. He's like, yeah, well,
[8:53] Speaker 2: I've got to pay you back. So he hasn't kind
[8:55] Speaker 2: of taken the mick and god, oh, she says, I
[8:59] Speaker 2: got to pay you back whatevers.
[9:00] Speaker 1: I'm not motivated.
[9:01] Speaker 2: No, He's like, I need to pay this off quickly
[9:04] Speaker 2: so that I can earn my next keep again.
[9:06] Speaker 1: Like you've got track record, you've got form, you know.
[9:09] Speaker 1: I think it's good. It's a good lesson.
[9:11] Speaker 2: And then you can talk to him about it when
[9:12] Speaker 2: he gets the under and he's worked hard and not
[9:14] Speaker 2: nothing to show for it because he's got his ball.
[9:16] Speaker 1: But like, you know, it's good lessons. I just hope
[9:18] Speaker 1: he doesn't lose it, you know. Oh he will. He'll
[9:20] Speaker 1: kick it over a fence onto a roof or some
[9:22] Speaker 1: other kid will and it'll be devastating.
[9:24] Speaker 2: I know.
[9:25] Speaker 1: Yeah. Anyway, life lesson. It's funny.
[9:29] Speaker 2: He's got a best mate who was actually doing a
[9:31] Speaker 2: similar activity with his mum, spending his pocket money. They
[9:35] Speaker 2: had both had a similar amount because we shared stories
[9:37] Speaker 2: and she said, oh, my son's tight. He saw the
[9:40] Speaker 2: price of the ball and went not too expensive and
[9:43] Speaker 2: I was like, Oh, I wish he was a bit tight.
[9:46] Speaker 1: No, you don't before you do whatever. That's just my
[9:49] Speaker 1: personal judgment coming out.
[9:51] Speaker 2: Like it is really really interesting when they start to
[9:54] Speaker 2: show their personalities in this way and some of its
[9:56] Speaker 2: nature and some of its fucking nurture.
[9:58] Speaker 1: My daughter, I don't think she's ever.
[10:00] Speaker 2: She has sorry, she has spent twenty eight dollars of
[10:03] Speaker 2: money she's in. I know that because she bought an
[10:05] Speaker 2: Awala water bottle because she wanted one so badly, and
[10:08] Speaker 2: I was like, no, I'm not buying another fucking water bottle.
[10:10] Speaker 1: She's like, I'll buy it. And I was like, are
[10:12] Speaker 1: you sure?
[10:13] Speaker 2: Because her savings is like her whole over a brand
[10:17] Speaker 2: over two grand. Now, yeah, that literally eight bucks would
[10:20] Speaker 2: have put a dent in her two.
[10:21] Speaker 1: I was like, oh, then I'll be under two thousand dollars.
[10:24] Speaker 2: Because like, you know, she's really saved, and she's going
[10:27] Speaker 2: to be the kind of like she's gonna buy herself
[10:29] Speaker 2: a car and she finishes school. You know, she's gonna
[10:31] Speaker 2: be that kind of girl. And I'm like, wow, who
[10:33] Speaker 2: made you? Not me?
[10:34] Speaker 1: But there's also the.
[10:35] Speaker 2: Other extreme where you might have to work with Eiler
[10:38] Speaker 2: I'm thinking ahead with all different money personalities where she's
[10:41] Speaker 2: the kind of person who will sit with bags of
[10:43] Speaker 2: money under the bed and never spend it. And sometimes
[10:45] Speaker 2: there's positive debt and you've got to learn that sometimes
[10:49] Speaker 2: you can spend and you don't have to agonize over it.
[10:52] Speaker 1: Yes, and money is a tool. It doesn't say anything
[10:54] Speaker 1: about who you are.
[10:55] Speaker 2: It shouldn't be emotional. It's not emotional, it is it
[10:58] Speaker 2: can be, yeah, but it's a tool to get you
[11:00] Speaker 2: the life you want, you know. Yeah, that's gonna be
[11:03] Speaker 2: a really interesting journey. Yeah, where sometimes she might starve
[11:06] Speaker 2: herself of things that she actually wants, yeah, just can't
[11:09] Speaker 2: bring herself.
[11:10] Speaker 1: To spend it.
[11:10] Speaker 2: And then also it's like, well you got to invest money, Yeah,
[11:13] Speaker 2: just sit on it and make it work for you.
[11:14] Speaker 1: All that stuff that anyway, that's a good problem to have.
[11:17] Speaker 2: Sure, And then ted get a fucking job, move move
[11:21] Speaker 2: back from Guatemala and get a job.
[11:25] Speaker 1: Being a street artist isn't a real job, but it is.
[11:28] Speaker 2: It is.
[11:28] Speaker 1: Go Teddy, go Teddy. Do you know what I don't
[11:30] Speaker 1: have time for? What don't you have time for?
[11:32] Speaker 2: Bestieh long distance relationship? I can just imagine I do
[11:37] Speaker 2: have time for it obviously, but.
[11:38] Speaker 1: I need to ask you.
[11:40] Speaker 2: I need your sage experience and wisdom. How Yeah, look,
[11:44] Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie. I knew your guy was moving
[11:47] Speaker 2: to New York, and Diel's will know.
[11:50] Speaker 1: I'm in a fifo fifo whatever the fuck it is.
[11:53] Speaker 2: We're both five pH now you're long distance, You're not
[11:56] Speaker 2: five fo. He's not home every Friday. He is not
[12:00] Speaker 2: not gone for two weeks. No, like he's gone. He's
[12:03] Speaker 2: gone indefinitely, and you're visiting him, which is great. But
[12:06] Speaker 2: I knew from personal experience, because my husband spends a
[12:09] Speaker 2: lot of time in the US, that that time zone
[12:13] Speaker 2: sucks a bag of dicks, really does. It's so challenging
[12:17] Speaker 2: because you bookenned each other's days with a catch art.
[12:21] Speaker 2: But often someone's going into their day so they're in
[12:24] Speaker 2: a rush to get on with their day, while the
[12:25] Speaker 2: other one's like, I'm going to bed and I have
[12:28] Speaker 2: time to chat.
[12:29] Speaker 1: Yeah, but someone's always tired.
[12:31] Speaker 2: Yeah, always, because it's you've either just woken up or
[12:34] Speaker 2: it's like you've waited up late to chat.
[12:36] Speaker 1: And then you're getting tired. Yeah, it's time to go
[12:38] Speaker 1: to bed.
[12:39] Speaker 2: Silver linings, because you're dealing with New York. I will
[12:42] Speaker 2: say from experience, it's slightly better than LA.
[12:44] Speaker 1: Oh I've heard this. LA is brutal.
[12:47] Speaker 2: Yeah, because it's four am versus ten pm, where it's
[12:51] Speaker 2: late for one but the other's not quite ready to
[12:53] Speaker 2: wake up.
[12:54] Speaker 1: It really doesn't work. But yeah, so that's how you
[12:56] Speaker 1: guys going.
[12:57] Speaker 2: It's going well, Like we're doing really well actually, but
[13:00] Speaker 2: it takes a commitment, you know.
[13:02] Speaker 1: And what my worry is, my life's established.
[13:05] Speaker 2: I can make space in my life for the time
[13:08] Speaker 2: and to make like a FaceTime date, right, But he's
[13:11] Speaker 2: like setting up in a new place and I don't
[13:13] Speaker 2: want to take any time from him to like go
[13:16] Speaker 2: out and do.
[13:17] Speaker 1: That, right.
[13:17] Speaker 2: Yeah, And he's got to take social opportunities, he's got
[13:20] Speaker 2: to make friends.
[13:22] Speaker 1: Is crucial, Yeah, for helping you settle.
[13:25] Speaker 2: They say it takes at least six months to settle
[13:27] Speaker 2: in to a new place that you live in, and
[13:29] Speaker 2: you've got to put in the effort.
[13:30] Speaker 1: Yeah. But remember we're like a fresh relash.
[13:33] Speaker 2: We're fresh, so we're not maintaining something that's like, you know, established, established.
[13:38] Speaker 2: It's like we're still like getting to know each other,
[13:41] Speaker 2: growing it, learning about each other, like we're dating. We're dating,
[13:44] Speaker 2: but we're dating. My boyfriend's in my phone. It's like
[13:47] Speaker 2: I have to give I have a tama gotchi. I
[13:51] Speaker 2: have to water and feed it, emotionally nurture it. Yeah,
[13:54] Speaker 2: which I want to, you know. Like that's the good
[13:56] Speaker 2: thing about us being fresh is like I'm like, ooh,
[13:58] Speaker 2: my tamagotchi's awake, you know, but like it is, Wow,
[14:02] Speaker 2: I've never experienced anything like this. It's so different, just
[14:06] Speaker 2: so different, and I can really see how it's both
[14:10] Speaker 2: so much more intense than like if you were dating
[14:12] Speaker 2: someone and you're seeing them twice a week in the
[14:15] Speaker 2: early stages. Well, I think the beautiful thing about long
[14:18] Speaker 2: distance is you get deeper faster because all you have
[14:24] Speaker 2: is communication and chat, verbal communication chat. There's no physical
[14:28] Speaker 2: time together. I don't just mean intimacy. But even if
[14:31] Speaker 2: you were together, you might go and do things together.
[14:33] Speaker 2: See a show, go to the movies, have go for look. Yeah,
[14:36] Speaker 2: I don't know, kayak at sunrise whatever.
[14:38] Speaker 1: Is your shore? Not me, but sure people do.
[14:41] Speaker 2: But you share and experiences and sometimes it doesn't always
[14:45] Speaker 2: elicit a deep conversation because you're busy doing the life together. Yeah,
[14:50] Speaker 2: but when it's just long distance. All you have is chat,
[14:53] Speaker 2: All you have is comms, and the only place there
[14:56] Speaker 2: is to go is somewhere deep. Otherwise it's really shallow
[14:59] Speaker 2: chat and that's boring for and I know you well
[15:01] Speaker 2: enough to know that that's not satiating enough. And also
[15:04] Speaker 2: you feel a bit like when it is the light,
[15:06] Speaker 2: so what did you do today? You know, it's a
[15:08] Speaker 2: bit like, yeah, it's like, well, I ate this for
[15:10] Speaker 2: breakfast exactly. The good thing is my work day is
[15:14] Speaker 2: so great because he's asleep, you know, so deficient.
[15:17] Speaker 1: I'm like getting everything. That's fantastic.
[15:20] Speaker 2: It actually suits me so much more than a boyfriend
[15:23] Speaker 2: who could annoy me during the day in the day,
[15:26] Speaker 2: you know, So that's good. But also I find the
[15:28] Speaker 2: morning hard. I think we both find my morning hard
[15:31] Speaker 2: and his evening. Yeah, because it's like I like to
[15:33] Speaker 2: get up and get the day, you know, and it's
[15:36] Speaker 2: nice to check in and all that stuff, but you
[15:37] Speaker 2: really like when you've got kids making lunches and getting
[15:40] Speaker 2: dressed and out the door and to work and the
[15:41] Speaker 2: dog and all that stuff, like it is hard to
[15:44] Speaker 2: I can't give that time, hard to carve out that space.
[15:46] Speaker 2: It's not good time, it'd be like, yeah, yeah, you
[15:48] Speaker 2: can come rush around with me. I guess on FaceTime,
[15:51] Speaker 2: but I'm present, I'm not present, and I'm like juggling
[15:54] Speaker 2: and doing it.
[15:54] Speaker 1: Yeah, it's tricky. So when is the best.
[15:56] Speaker 2: Time, Well, I guess my evening. His morning again, he
[16:00] Speaker 2: is a performer, so he has like a very disciplined
[16:03] Speaker 2: morning that he does with his craft.
[16:06] Speaker 1: No that's a terrible word.
[16:07] Speaker 2: No, but his routine, his routine where he's got to
[16:09] Speaker 2: sing and stretch and you know, do all that stuff.
[16:12] Speaker 2: So like, as this episode goes out, I'm in New
[16:14] Speaker 2: York hopefully there, so you know it will be really fascinating.
[16:18] Speaker 2: But do you know what I mean, it's the little things,
[16:20] Speaker 2: like we don't have time to sit in silence together,
[16:24] Speaker 2: you know. Yeah, it's those little things, those things that
[16:27] Speaker 2: build the life, you know stuff. Yeah, we're not like
[16:30] Speaker 2: making food together or like doing that or driving somewhere
[16:34] Speaker 2: or you know, there's those in between spaces where you
[16:36] Speaker 2: sort of feel like you're in the relationship. Yeah, we're
[16:39] Speaker 2: very much in the emotional relationship, but I like, hopefully
[16:43] Speaker 2: I'm there right now. They're like they're actual just like
[16:45] Speaker 2: moving around together in the world.
[16:47] Speaker 1: Well, you'll get that fix.
[16:49] Speaker 2: I mean, there's no more romantic city, in my opinion
[16:52] Speaker 2: than I agree. You dated in New York, Yeah, your husband.
[16:57] Speaker 2: That was the origins of my relationship with heart. You're
[17:00] Speaker 2: on new here. You have to have a little catch
[17:02] Speaker 2: up with this story. Well, hubs and I did long distance.
[17:06] Speaker 2: I mean, if we want to go deeper into the context,
[17:08] Speaker 2: he and I met when we were eleven years old.
[17:10] Speaker 1: You met everyone when you were eleven.
[17:12] Speaker 2: Well, because I moved to Australia at that age, in
[17:15] Speaker 2: ninety seven, moved to Australia.
[17:16] Speaker 1: He was born next door. We were friends for years.
[17:18] Speaker 1: Blah blah blah blah blah.
[17:19] Speaker 2: Anyway, when we were twenty eight years old, I was
[17:22] Speaker 2: living in la he was living in New York.
[17:24] Speaker 1: We found ourselves both single, and we start I.
[17:26] Speaker 2: Was shooting a film in New York for two weeks,
[17:30] Speaker 2: and yeah, we started dating. And it was so romantic
[17:33] Speaker 2: and it was so fun, and we booked hotels, we
[17:36] Speaker 2: were kissing on street corners, we were staying up till
[17:39] Speaker 2: two three am when the restaurant, I'll remember a very
[17:42] Speaker 2: vivid memory of being in this little like tequila bar
[17:45] Speaker 2: and they were putting the stools up on the bar
[17:47] Speaker 2: around us, and we were like, oh, we're still here.
[17:50] Speaker 1: No one wants to leave each other.
[17:52] Speaker 2: Yeah, And we have the fondest memories of New York
[17:54] Speaker 2: and have grand plans and dreams one day when our
[17:57] Speaker 2: kids are older to go back, and not for them,
[17:59] Speaker 2: but for us. Have this kind of nostalgia walk down
[18:02] Speaker 2: memory lane. And bike and I went ice skating together
[18:05] Speaker 2: in Central Park and we went to the Rockefeller's Center
[18:08] Speaker 2: and saw the Christmas Tree.
[18:09] Speaker 1: Like all the city is a movie.
[18:11] Speaker 2: It's more than Paris for the robe, like because there's
[18:16] Speaker 2: so much happening.
[18:17] Speaker 1: It's such a vibrant like it's like a casino.
[18:21] Speaker 2: It's intoxicating. I swear that it's a beautiful casino totally. Yeah,
[18:25] Speaker 2: But what I mean is the oxygen's difference.
[18:27] Speaker 1: Yeah, you feel alive. It's electric.
[18:30] Speaker 2: The smells like you know, there's like rats running down
[18:33] Speaker 2: the street, you're like riding the subway.
[18:35] Speaker 1: It just it's a lie.
[18:36] Speaker 2: It's because everybody in New York is there for a reason. Yes,
[18:40] Speaker 2: no one's like, well, people shore people are born and
[18:42] Speaker 2: raised whatever New York is, but like the majority, the
[18:44] Speaker 2: majority of people have come there from somewhere else to
[18:48] Speaker 2: do something, and it's got that energy of it. It
[18:51] Speaker 2: actually encapsulates year of the horse energy it does. You reckon,
[18:55] Speaker 2: it's got horsepower behind it does have horsepower in New
[18:59] Speaker 2: York City. Well, I hope you're having the best I
[19:01] Speaker 2: hope I'm having the best time ever. I'm sure you are.
[19:05] Speaker 2: How could you not. I've been to New York. This
[19:07] Speaker 2: is my thirteenth trip to New York.
[19:10] Speaker 3: And always on your heart home, I know.
[19:12] Speaker 2: And I think that's what's making this a lot easier
[19:15] Speaker 2: for me, is that, like I always thought I would
[19:17] Speaker 2: live in New York.
[19:18] Speaker 1: I did.
[19:19] Speaker 2: I was like, oh, I'll live here, I'll live here
[19:20] Speaker 2: one day. And then life happened and I absolutely didn't
[19:23] Speaker 2: live there. And every single time I've been I haven't
[19:26] Speaker 2: had a bad day.
[19:27] Speaker 1: I've never wanted to leave, Like you know, and I
[19:29] Speaker 1: sometimes you go.
[19:29] Speaker 2: Back to a place you went once You're like, oh
[19:31] Speaker 2: it wasn't as great that time, or oh the shine
[19:34] Speaker 2: came off, or maybe it's because I was younger or whatever,
[19:36] Speaker 2: but that city, like I've never wanted to leave. That's it.
[19:39] Speaker 1: Leaving is going to be fucked. I'm not looking to
[19:42] Speaker 1: that saying goodbye again for I'm glad you've got the
[19:46] Speaker 1: show to look. Oh my god, it's the best timing ever.
[19:48] Speaker 2: And we're diving straight into rains to distract you a
[19:52] Speaker 2: little bit. I'll be asked, whooping you? Oh good studio?
[19:55] Speaker 2: Oh my god, dancing dancing again? Guys, I'm mental pain
[19:59] Speaker 2: already just thinking about it. Oh, I know, terms like mine,
[20:03] Speaker 2: no now, five, six, seven, eight? Well, you know, but
[20:07] Speaker 2: what did you do when you did long distance?
[20:09] Speaker 1: Yeah? What did you do to like?
[20:12] Speaker 2: Did you have little rules and things to make it doable?
[20:14] Speaker 2: I think like all the things that people tell you,
[20:17] Speaker 2: like cook the.
[20:17] Speaker 1: Same meal at the same time, Like.
[20:19] Speaker 2: No, god, no, no, we never did that, I think
[20:24] Speaker 2: from memory. So we did twelve months coast to coast.
[20:28] Speaker 2: He could only come out to visit me in LA
[20:30] Speaker 2: for a weekend.
[20:32] Speaker 1: It was brutal.
[20:32] Speaker 2: He would fly in like Friday night, and he would
[20:35] Speaker 2: get the red eye on Sunday and roll straight into
[20:39] Speaker 2: work off the back of a five hour flight.
[20:41] Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, because La New York.
[20:43] Speaker 2: It doesn't sound that far, but actually it's like it's
[20:48] Speaker 2: horrendous and just enough time zone shift to feel fucked,
[20:51] Speaker 2: but not enough to flip it on its head.
[20:53] Speaker 1: It was so brutal.
[20:54] Speaker 2: For Hubs, whereas I had more flexibility. So when I
[20:58] Speaker 2: would go visit him in York, like you revs love
[21:01] Speaker 2: the city of it, enchanted by it. So I would
[21:03] Speaker 2: do two weeks stints. Yeah, nice, and you could do
[21:06] Speaker 2: what you were doing from there.
[21:08] Speaker 1: Absolutely.
[21:08] Speaker 2: I could do self tapes for auditions in New York.
[21:11] Speaker 1: It wasn't easy.
[21:12] Speaker 2: I didn't have a reader, so I had to be
[21:13] Speaker 2: my own reader, which meant recording the other person's lines
[21:16] Speaker 2: and leading gaps like it wasn't ideal, But I had time.
[21:19] Speaker 1: Yeah, So I.
[21:21] Speaker 2: Would hang out in his apartment on Bleak History and
[21:24] Speaker 2: do my auditions in the day and then have dinner.
[21:28] Speaker 1: He was on Blea Street.
[21:29] Speaker 2: He had a shoe box apartment in Bleaker Street.
[21:33] Speaker 1: When you're young, you don't care.
[21:35] Speaker 2: Hubs he had such bachelor energy. Where his oven he
[21:39] Speaker 2: used I'm not even kidding as a bookshelf.
[21:42] Speaker 1: He stored books.
[21:44] Speaker 2: Hubs is a big reader. In his oven. I found
[21:47] Speaker 2: it so weird. And his bedroom was so tiny that
[21:50] Speaker 2: his bed was up against the windows. It was you
[21:53] Speaker 2: could only fit a double bed in the corner, and
[21:56] Speaker 2: then you had little space to walk around. He had
[21:58] Speaker 2: a chest of draw was that you could barely open,
[22:01] Speaker 2: like you'd have to sit on the bed.
[22:02] Speaker 1: Basically the bed was the room. Oh my god.
[22:06] Speaker 2: But he had that charming New York window where you
[22:09] Speaker 2: lifted up in the fire stairwell is right there escape
[22:13] Speaker 2: yeah exacting, So yeah, No, it was fun. We'd get bagels.
[22:17] Speaker 2: The whole thing was very romantic and lovely. But I
[22:19] Speaker 2: do think for us, we never cooked dinner in different
[22:22] Speaker 2: time zones. It just didn't work because there's a time
[22:25] Speaker 2: difference between LA and New York US. It was just texts, yeah,
[22:29] Speaker 2: check in. Like we just were constantly texting and checking
[22:33] Speaker 2: in with each other, and we would see like, so
[22:36] Speaker 2: you're in New York now, I know you're planning to
[22:37] Speaker 2: go again after tour, potentially in January. I feel like
[22:42] Speaker 2: that's enough time to get your fixed. It's like Hubs
[22:45] Speaker 2: and I have this rule where we don't finish our
[22:47] Speaker 2: holiday without booking our next holiday.
[22:49] Speaker 1: Even if that holiday is a year away. It doesn't matter.
[22:53] Speaker 2: We've made We're not saying goodbye before we have another
[22:56] Speaker 2: date to reunited. I think that's the only way you
[22:59] Speaker 2: can't with a sense of indefiniteness of like, oh when
[23:03] Speaker 2: will we see each other, we'll.
[23:04] Speaker 1: Work it out. Yeah, it's got to be locked in. Yeah.
[23:06] Speaker 2: I think this is not for the insecure. That's what
[23:09] Speaker 2: I'm learning about this whole situation. You have to be
[23:12] Speaker 2: so fucking secure, And I have so many moments where
[23:15] Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, okay, I feel insecure. No, and I
[23:18] Speaker 2: have to talk to myself and be like, you are
[23:20] Speaker 2: a secure woman with an established life. Man, you are okay,
[23:24] Speaker 2: you know, like there's a lot of that you have
[23:26] Speaker 2: to do otherwise I can see how people would end
[23:28] Speaker 2: up crazy in this scenario where you're like, you don't
[23:31] Speaker 2: know what's happening their life over there. You don't know
[23:33] Speaker 2: these people. Who's that person you've just met, who's this
[23:36] Speaker 2: you know? What's this job? When's it going to be?
[23:38] Speaker 2: What does that mean for when we can talk? You know,
[23:40] Speaker 2: you could get so needy so quickly. Anyway, what's good
[23:43] Speaker 2: that you're.
[23:44] Speaker 1: Aware of that. Yeah, I feel like checking in with yourself.
[23:47] Speaker 2: He's done long distance before, which is like, well, it's
[23:50] Speaker 2: its own thing, you know, because obviously that didn't work out,
[23:53] Speaker 2: but like he had apprehension he did, but he's got experience,
[23:56] Speaker 2: Whereas I'm like, oh, wow, okay, this is real like
[23:59] Speaker 2: what people will say about this, but I feel like
[24:01] Speaker 2: I'm in a good place in my life, as in,
[24:03] Speaker 2: I am secure, I have my own life. I have
[24:05] Speaker 2: a lot of shit going on. I'm not like waiting
[24:07] Speaker 2: by a phone. But man, it's not for the fainthearted.
[24:10] Speaker 2: You've got this, bestI.
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[24:15] Speaker 2: You know what I don't have time for. What don't
[24:16] Speaker 2: you have time for, bestie? I don't have time for crystals?
[24:20] Speaker 1: Crystals? Yeah, what did crystals ever do to you? Well,
[24:23] Speaker 1: let me tell yeah, I love a crystals. I love
[24:25] Speaker 1: a crystal.
[24:25] Speaker 2: Well for context, Okay, you're not thinking of the crystals
[24:29] Speaker 2: that I'm thinking of, or I've become educated by so
[24:32] Speaker 2: DL's this is going to be the weirdest health update
[24:35] Speaker 2: ither those crystals?
[24:37] Speaker 1: Correct? bestI?
[24:38] Speaker 2: So, I have been dealing with some bizarre health scares,
[24:42] Speaker 2: nothing crazy, No I can thank for them. I've had
[24:45] Speaker 2: blood tests, I've had all sorts of testing done, so
[24:48] Speaker 2: I'm good. But what I had been experiencing what I
[24:51] Speaker 2: can only describe as feeling drunk whilst experiencing vertigo and
[24:57] Speaker 2: feeling like you're gonna faint, you know, revs and I
[25:00] Speaker 2: recorded a pod episode in here and I literally out
[25:02] Speaker 2: of nowhere. I had to rip my headphones off and
[25:04] Speaker 2: put my head between my knees because I thought I
[25:06] Speaker 2: was going to.
[25:06] Speaker 1: Hit the deck.
[25:07] Speaker 2: And then for ages, I was blaming it on the perry. Yeah,
[25:10] Speaker 2: I thought maybe it was a hyperglycemic attack. But that
[25:12] Speaker 2: day I had plenty of sugar. Yeah, I had more sugar.
[25:14] Speaker 1: I didn't feel better.
[25:15] Speaker 2: So it turns out I have, wait for it, dislodged
[25:19] Speaker 2: crystals in my inner ear.
[25:22] Speaker 1: Yeah. I was relieved that that was it. Yes, it
[25:25] Speaker 1: was getting a little dicey. I was like, what's going on?
[25:27] Speaker 1: Gems having to pull over her car? I did. She's
[25:30] Speaker 1: like not feeling herself, she's had these headaches. I was
[25:33] Speaker 1: getting a little worried.
[25:34] Speaker 2: Well, yeah, I was driving my car and I couldn't
[25:36] Speaker 2: read the number plate in front of me, and I
[25:38] Speaker 2: was like, oh, I need to pull over. I don't
[25:40] Speaker 2: feel safe behind a wheel. So that kind of shit
[25:43] Speaker 2: was going down. But like what in the woo woo
[25:46] Speaker 2: diagnosis were at all?
[25:47] Speaker 1: It's science?
[25:49] Speaker 3: Oh I know, but like I love that someone went, let's.
[25:53] Speaker 2: Call them in a ear crystals because they like that
[25:56] Speaker 2: they're like stealic types.
[25:57] Speaker 1: Well, they're actually more.
[25:58] Speaker 2: Like grains of sand from the research I've done, because
[26:03] Speaker 2: I was like, who named them?
[26:04] Speaker 1: Crystals? In my head?
[26:05] Speaker 2: They're so pretty, it's so glamorous. I've got cute dislodge
[26:09] Speaker 2: crystals in my inner ear.
[26:10] Speaker 1: You know, we're made of stardust, right, like.
[26:12] Speaker 2: Actually, well I believe in the Big Bang, So yes,
[26:14] Speaker 2: I believe we are made of stardust.
[26:16] Speaker 3: But it's just so cute that I couldn't take.
[26:18] Speaker 2: The diagnosis seriously. And when it saw my legit GP.
[26:23] Speaker 2: Sorry just for people who listened to a couple of
[26:25] Speaker 2: EPs ago. It's way better than platelets. Platelets, your platelets
[26:30] Speaker 2: and your crystals.
[26:31] Speaker 1: I knowlts dislodge all the cute things.
[26:35] Speaker 2: And when I saw my GP, she was actually doing
[26:38] Speaker 2: a stroke test on me, which I passed with flying colors.
[26:41] Speaker 1: And then she said.
[26:42] Speaker 2: Oh, you've got dislodged crystals in your ear, And I
[26:45] Speaker 2: was like, sorry, is that a joke? What's the cure?
[26:49] Speaker 2: Do I wish upon a fairy you get that fixed?
[26:53] Speaker 2: And she goes, no, no, no, it's a thing. And you
[26:55] Speaker 2: know she wasn't at my level.
[26:56] Speaker 1: You know, when you make jokes.
[26:58] Speaker 2: When she gets awkward and they're so soace and serious
[27:01] Speaker 2: and get this revs. The cure for it is a
[27:04] Speaker 2: maneuver called the Epley maneuver. The Epley Epley maneuver. Well
[27:09] Speaker 2: you love a maneuver? Well again, I was like, what
[27:12] Speaker 2: do you mean? I need to go and have a
[27:14] Speaker 2: maneuver performed on me to lodge the crystals in my
[27:18] Speaker 2: inner ear back into place. And she said, yeah, you
[27:21] Speaker 2: will do the Epply maneuver.
[27:22] Speaker 1: How did you dislodge them? Do they know? No, it's
[27:24] Speaker 1: not like you're like flipping around. Maybe it's your dance class.
[27:27] Speaker 2: Flip head could happily easily put it down to that
[27:32] Speaker 2: exercises does dance class once dislodges her crystals. Fun fact,
[27:36] Speaker 2: the crystals just gop just with the crystals in our
[27:40] Speaker 2: inner ear actually are designed to move like sand, and
[27:44] Speaker 2: it's your equilibrium.
[27:45] Speaker 1: It's what maintains your balance.
[27:47] Speaker 2: Yeah, what helps you understand what up from down is
[27:51] Speaker 2: all of That's why when you're underwater you lose your orientation.
[27:54] Speaker 2: But on land, it's your inner ear crystals, it's your
[27:57] Speaker 2: spirit level. Correct for the trades among us or trade
[28:01] Speaker 2: it's yeah, so mine have fallen out of whack. They've
[28:04] Speaker 2: been dislodged. That's why they don't work. So anyway, I
[28:06] Speaker 2: went and got this eply maneuver done.
[28:09] Speaker 1: Oh my god. And it's just with a physiotherapist.
[28:11] Speaker 2: You have to find a particular physiotherapist who can perform it.
[28:15] Speaker 1: And it's the weirdest thing.
[28:16] Speaker 2: They like throw you down on a bed with your
[28:18] Speaker 2: head turned in one direction and it's got to be
[28:20] Speaker 2: like a quick it's a whole thing. And then I
[28:22] Speaker 2: had homework. Anyway, happy to say crystals are back in
[28:26] Speaker 2: place a great and I don't feel drunk and like
[28:30] Speaker 2: the world is spinning, and that I have fallen.
[28:32] Speaker 1: Very glad to hear that.
[28:33] Speaker 2: I was worried for you with tour coming up, say,
[28:35] Speaker 2: I was like, imagine getting that on stage. That would
[28:38] Speaker 2: be terrifying. You'd be in the orchestra pit, fucking aot horrendous. Now,
[28:42] Speaker 2: if anyone's experienced vertigo, it is debilitated, it's not okay.
[28:46] Speaker 2: Your natural instinct is to hug the ground because you
[28:49] Speaker 2: just feel like you're going to keel over, and that
[28:52] Speaker 2: on stage would be terrible. I would end up in
[28:54] Speaker 2: the orchestra pit or front row audience, which would not
[28:57] Speaker 2: be a vibe. But I'm relieved and it's that and
[29:00] Speaker 2: it's solvable and it's fixable. Funnily enough, I called my
[29:03] Speaker 2: mum and I said, Mom, you won't believe this, but
[29:05] Speaker 2: I've been diagnosed with dislodged crystals in my inner ear.
[29:08] Speaker 2: And Mum goes, oh, the first time I got that
[29:11] Speaker 2: was in my forties and I've had it every ten
[29:14] Speaker 2: years since she recently had it. Yes, I forgot because
[29:18] Speaker 2: I just sort of went, oh, yeah, she's got a
[29:19] Speaker 2: bit of vertigo and that, yeah, she got that eplane.
[29:22] Speaker 1: You can't.
[29:22] Speaker 2: The thing about things like vertigoes, you can't keep going,
[29:24] Speaker 2: you know, you can't like soldier on, like it's gonna
[29:27] Speaker 2: take you down.
[29:28] Speaker 1: It's so debilitating. It's awful.
[29:30] Speaker 2: My stepmom gets vertigo same dislodge crystals all the time,
[29:33] Speaker 2: and it absolutely takes it down. It's really awful. And
[29:37] Speaker 2: my sisters had it.
[29:38] Speaker 1: Oh really Yeah.
[29:39] Speaker 2: I think we were relieved that it was not related
[29:41] Speaker 2: to her ms, but just yeah, and you just feel
[29:43] Speaker 2: completely out of control, like you can't get doing life.
[29:45] Speaker 1: It's awful.
[29:46] Speaker 2: Well, DL's just want to share this with you almost
[29:49] Speaker 2: as a PSA. If you're feeling vertigo and drunk and
[29:52] Speaker 2: it's coming and going in waves and you're.
[29:53] Speaker 1: Like, what the fuck is going on?
[29:55] Speaker 2: Crystals might be out, which yeah, hey, question, did you
[29:58] Speaker 2: charge them while they were out?
[30:00] Speaker 1: Did you put them under the full moon? You did? It?
[30:03] Speaker 2: Was?
[30:03] Speaker 1: She's looking at me with the Blanca stair.
[30:05] Speaker 2: Your crystals were out during the full moon's that's probably
[30:08] Speaker 2: gonna bow very well.
[30:10] Speaker 1: Well, let's see next few months. That would be great. Actually,
[30:13] Speaker 1: you need some crystal luck, you know what.
[30:15] Speaker 2: I know, this isn't the point of what you brought
[30:17] Speaker 2: this conversation for. But crystals and little witchy rituals are
[30:20] Speaker 2: so fun with kids. Feel free to expand on it. Well,
[30:24] Speaker 2: like you know the two fairries. Fine, sound is fine.
[30:27] Speaker 2: The easter Buddy's fine. But have you ever charged your
[30:29] Speaker 2: crystals under a full.
[30:30] Speaker 1: Moon and made moonwater? Have you? No? It? Iss? I
[30:33] Speaker 1: have not one? Okay, skeptic.
[30:35] Speaker 2: What's the difference between a buddy came and left chocolate
[30:38] Speaker 2: eggs around and let's make moonwater and have a great month.
[30:41] Speaker 1: Great here for it.
[30:42] Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so fun. You know what moonwater is. I
[30:45] Speaker 2: don't educate me. You just put out your crystals to
[30:48] Speaker 2: charge them under the full moon, ye, and you put
[30:50] Speaker 2: out glasses of water and we put a little.
[30:52] Speaker 1: Label Teddy mom Buster. We do Busters bowl water as well. Yeah,
[30:57] Speaker 1: and we charge up our moonwater.
[30:58] Speaker 3: And then in the morning, like the kids, it's so psyched.
[31:00] Speaker 1: We gotta drink our moon water. So you drink it.
[31:02] Speaker 1: You drink it.
[31:03] Speaker 2: What if a bug's in it, Well, bug's not in it, you.
[31:06] Speaker 1: Scoop it out. The bug is blessed. That's good protein,
[31:09] Speaker 1: protein and blessed. It's that full moon energy. You're putting
[31:12] Speaker 1: it inside your system.
[31:13] Speaker 2: And the kids love it, and you know what, it
[31:15] Speaker 2: really helps get them off to school in a good mood. Yeah.
[31:17] Speaker 1: Look whatever, we're going whatever. The other one is selenite.
[31:22] Speaker 2: So my back to full circle chat here with Iggy
[31:26] Speaker 2: and his like working off his debt and all that
[31:28] Speaker 2: sort of stuff. My teddy opposite wants everything now now, now,
[31:31] Speaker 2: now now, And my whole parenting journey with him is
[31:33] Speaker 2: teaching him delaid gratification.
[31:36] Speaker 1: I'm terrible at it. He's terrible at it. We're all
[31:37] Speaker 1: terrible at of it.
[31:38] Speaker 2: We don't know it because as a parent, oh my god,
[31:40] Speaker 2: there's so much on you to follow through.
[31:42] Speaker 1: And it's exhausting because when he wants something.
[31:44] Speaker 2: It's just like the negotiation and the non relentless relentlessness.
[31:49] Speaker 1: Anyway, so I bought him.
[31:50] Speaker 2: I didn't actually I had one a stick of selenite,
[31:53] Speaker 2: which is woo woo if you know you're witchy.
[31:55] Speaker 1: Shit is all about like manifesting and wishes. And what
[31:58] Speaker 1: I taught him was like, Babe, this is a really
[32:00] Speaker 1: powerful crystal. We're going to charge it under the full moon.
[32:03] Speaker 2: And then what you do is you get some paper
[32:04] Speaker 2: and you write out what you want and you wrap
[32:07] Speaker 2: it around the selenite. You put that selenite under your pillow,
[32:10] Speaker 2: and then if you sleep on that for a month
[32:11] Speaker 2: and you manifest like it helps your wishes come true.
[32:14] Speaker 1: I can get behind. It's fairly good.
[32:17] Speaker 2: It's basically goal setting with like a sparkle totally you
[32:20] Speaker 2: know Accessoryah.
[32:21] Speaker 1: Yeah, he loves it.
[32:22] Speaker 2: And sometimes when he's just fucking at me for some
[32:25] Speaker 2: shit that he wants to do or go or start,
[32:27] Speaker 2: he wants to try this or that, I'm like.
[32:29] Speaker 1: Write it on your selenite.
[32:30] Speaker 2: Boy.
[32:31] Speaker 1: I love it, and it really buys me time and
[32:33] Speaker 1: mental space. Good. Everyone get a stick of selenite.
[32:36] Speaker 2: You just reminded me something someone told me once in
[32:39] Speaker 2: year twelve, and I really took it to heart.
[32:41] Speaker 1: Was if you sleep on your books. Oh yeah, all
[32:45] Speaker 1: the knowledge will go in. Yes and not at the
[32:48] Speaker 1: was another lat and I did it. I would put
[32:49] Speaker 1: my work books. Oh, I don't know. It was fine.
[32:52] Speaker 1: We got through it. I guess I thought about a study.
[32:55] Speaker 2: But the other thing someone told me, and again I
[32:57] Speaker 2: committed it through to the bitter end of your twelve,
[33:00] Speaker 2: was if you listen to classical music.
[33:03] Speaker 1: While you study.
[33:04] Speaker 2: The theory in music actually helps expand your brain so
[33:08] Speaker 2: you can absorb more. And so I just pummeled classical
[33:12] Speaker 2: music all day, every day, undiagnosed.
[33:15] Speaker 1: I just raw dogged that U twelve was.
[33:17] Speaker 2: Really trying to find some framework, some scaffolding to help
[33:22] Speaker 2: me get through exams. But yeah, it's funny the things
[33:25] Speaker 2: you remember. I really thought that it worked, and that
[33:28] Speaker 2: was my hyper focus. Was Actually I spent more time
[33:30] Speaker 2: trying to find classical music albums and making.
[33:33] Speaker 1: Playlists that I enjoyed. What as you go to?
[33:35] Speaker 2: Oh, I made my own mix, you know, just all
[33:39] Speaker 2: my Air on a G string was like a favorite
[33:41] Speaker 2: of mine.
[33:42] Speaker 1: I really enjoyed that.
[33:43] Speaker 2: Pucker Bell's cannon like I had it all. Some real
[33:45] Speaker 2: hits from the Valdi just went in there. Chart toppers love,
[33:49] Speaker 2: chart toppers from the fourteen hundreds.
[33:52] Speaker 1: Yeah, love it. Hey girl, hear me with the nart spot.
[33:56] Speaker 1: I gotta not spawn for you DLS.
[33:58] Speaker 2: This is something that landed in my head that I
[34:00] Speaker 2: didn't know I needed, but now I have it. I'm
[34:02] Speaker 2: a stand for it. Repsie, you gave me this product.
[34:06] Speaker 2: It's the Benefit lip stain. It looks so good on you. Now.
[34:11] Speaker 2: It's a multi use product. It's not just a lipstain.
[34:13] Speaker 2: I use it as a cheek stain. If you've been
[34:16] Speaker 2: a longtime deal, you will know that my skin eats blush.
[34:20] Speaker 2: I have to use a liquid cream based oil based blush.
[34:24] Speaker 2: I can't use a powder blush. It just it doesn't stay.
[34:27] Speaker 2: You put it on and five minutes later it's like, wow,
[34:29] Speaker 2: she's back to Corpsville. But this Benefit lip stain, it's
[34:33] Speaker 2: got stain power.
[34:34] Speaker 1: It does what it says it's going to do.
[34:36] Speaker 2: And don't we love a beauty product that just does
[34:38] Speaker 2: what it says it's going to do. I will say
[34:39] Speaker 2: I use it as a base to absorb other products
[34:42] Speaker 2: on top, so I wear it as a lipstain.
[34:44] Speaker 1: But then I also I love my.
[34:46] Speaker 2: Buoy where the hell is my where the hell is
[34:48] Speaker 2: my nourished lipstick? And then my Charlotte Tilbury blush over
[34:52] Speaker 2: the top, and I just find it lasts most of
[34:54] Speaker 2: the day. Not you lay your blush colors though, because
[34:56] Speaker 2: the lipstain is like a berry. Yes, and then you
[34:59] Speaker 2: do like a more of a pea. Gee, Charlotte Tilbrey
[35:01] Speaker 2: over the top. It's a great combo cute as a button.
[35:04] Speaker 2: Thanks Reds. So anyway, thank you for that benefit lipstain.
[35:08] Speaker 2: I will be a customer of Benefit and purchase that
[35:10] Speaker 2: on repeat. Big Benefit. Did great lips to great brows?
[35:14] Speaker 1: Yeah, they kill it in the brown department as well.
[35:16] Speaker 1: I agree. Yeah, REPSI hear me with your nuts spot my.
[35:20] Speaker 2: TV show I always need a new TV show. Season
[35:23] Speaker 2: two has just come out of four seasons, which is
[35:27] Speaker 2: one of the best shows I've seen in a very
[35:29] Speaker 2: very long time. It's Tina Fey, It's Will Forte, It's
[35:31] Speaker 2: Coleman Domingo, it's all our favorite people never even heard of.
[35:35] Speaker 2: You would love it and we are right in the pocket.
[35:38] Speaker 2: It's like for like elder millennials, young gen X, I
[35:41] Speaker 2: wou'd say, Queazi, had you watch season one previously or
[35:44] Speaker 2: did you binge both? No?
[35:47] Speaker 1: I actually you haven't even started season two.
[35:48] Speaker 2: The only reason I'm bringing this as a knotspon is
[35:51] Speaker 2: because season two just dropped and I have been giving
[35:53] Speaker 2: it as recos to other people, and two people this
[35:56] Speaker 2: week voice texts me, I'm like, oh my god, thank
[35:57] Speaker 2: you for talking about four seasons?
[35:59] Speaker 1: Best show ever? Is it a thirty minute or forty five?
[36:01] Speaker 2: How many apps? I think there's four apps? There's only four, yeah,
[36:04] Speaker 2: but they're.
[36:05] Speaker 1: Like almost an hour. Do you think that's right.
[36:07] Speaker 2: It's basically about four couples and at the beginning all
[36:11] Speaker 2: four are married season one at one, they're all four married,
[36:13] Speaker 2: and they go on these holidays and it's on the
[36:16] Speaker 2: holidays and just how the dynamics and the relationships and
[36:19] Speaker 2: the group changes fun between the different literally holiday season.
[36:24] Speaker 2: So genre is it comedy, drama, remedy, okay, drama?
[36:28] Speaker 1: And it's hilarious like Steve Carrell's in it.
[36:30] Speaker 2: It's so so so funny, Tina Fe, I mean, the
[36:32] Speaker 2: absolute queen of my life.
[36:34] Speaker 1: Yes, Tina Fe.
[36:35] Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just like such a real take on marriage, relationships, humans, friendship. Yeah,
[36:41] Speaker 2: it's really, really, really fucking good. It's addictive. I wish
[36:44] Speaker 2: there was so many more episodes. You just love the characters,
[36:47] Speaker 2: love having time with them. And season two has come
[36:49] Speaker 2: out and I haven't even started it yet, but I'm
[36:50] Speaker 2: fucking psyched.
[36:51] Speaker 1: Great record.
[36:52] Speaker 2: If I didn't have a boyfriend in my phone, I
[36:54] Speaker 2: would be watching way more TV. I haven't watched TV
[36:57] Speaker 2: in like two months.
[36:58] Speaker 1: Well, I'm deep in the DC season, so I'm really
[37:03] Speaker 1: enjoying it.
[37:04] Speaker 2: Gone a different angle they had to, Yeah, and what
[37:08] Speaker 2: they really confront and deal with is their level of
[37:12] Speaker 2: fame and how it's changed because of the show, absolutely
[37:16] Speaker 2: purely because of Netflix. It is quite meta and looking
[37:19] Speaker 2: individually at the popularity of specific cheerleaders who have been
[37:23] Speaker 2: featured and how it's changed their lives. They look at
[37:26] Speaker 2: the good, the bad, the ugly. You would love this revs.
[37:29] Speaker 2: In at one they decide to tour a live show,
[37:33] Speaker 2: and it's really cool because the girls are like, everyone's
[37:35] Speaker 2: coming just for us, not for the football, you know,
[37:39] Speaker 2: and that we're like the side snack, you know. And
[37:41] Speaker 2: then they feature the leads in Netflix. It's very smart business.
[37:46] Speaker 2: But yeah, I like how they don't pretend, you know
[37:49] Speaker 2: how some shows get so big and then they kind
[37:51] Speaker 2: of ignore, sure, the fact that, yeah, we've become huge
[37:54] Speaker 2: in a very different way. I thought it was very meta,
[37:56] Speaker 2: very cool to kind of confront it. There's an Aussie
[37:59] Speaker 2: featured this year again, really beautiful, playful, charismatic, lovely representation
[38:05] Speaker 2: of Ossie's and you kind of get a bit of
[38:07] Speaker 2: pride watching her. But yeah, it's you know, I'm actually
[38:09] Speaker 2: watching it with the RAFA and what I am loving
[38:13] Speaker 2: is the strength of the sisterhood.
[38:15] Speaker 1: Yeah cool.
[38:16] Speaker 2: They also revisit the fact that they got a pay
[38:19] Speaker 2: rise and the girls who kind of made that legacy
[38:22] Speaker 2: and fighting for their right to earn more than fifteen
[38:25] Speaker 2: dollars an hour. But now they've got heaps of work
[38:29] Speaker 2: opportunities that almost now And look, I haven't finished the series,
[38:32] Speaker 2: but the girls who are part of DCC, you know
[38:35] Speaker 2: how before they had to hold down multiple jobs because
[38:37] Speaker 2: there's so many opportunities now for just the cheerleaders outside
[38:42] Speaker 2: of the NFL, they can.
[38:44] Speaker 1: Almost do it as a full time job exclusively. Right,
[38:47] Speaker 1: We love that for you girls.
[38:49] Speaker 2: But yeah, it's beautiful the love and the support and
[38:51] Speaker 2: the care and nurturing side of the girls specifically amongst themselves.
[38:56] Speaker 1: It's really cool. Yeah, very cool. Yeah, yay, so into that.
[39:00] Speaker 1: That was, like I said, a little extra nonspawn.
[39:02] Speaker 2: There four seasons and what is it called America's Sweetheart
[39:07] Speaker 2: sweet on Netflix?
[39:08] Speaker 1: Thanks Netflix.
[39:09] Speaker 2: All right, guys, there is a more time this Thursday
[39:11] Speaker 2: when we talk about phone sex. It was a juicy,
[39:16] Speaker 2: fun topic. We're very exposing and whatever. It's behind the
[39:21] Speaker 2: payball because it's really embarrassing. But you know, if you
[39:24] Speaker 2: want to hear about Jem and I.
[39:26] Speaker 3: Individual experiences with phone sex.
[39:29] Speaker 1: Oh my god, we went there. We weren't there anyway,
[39:32] Speaker 1: here's a little teaser. I think you need to take.
[39:35] Speaker 2: The talking off you, yeah, and ask questions. Ask more questions,
[39:38] Speaker 2: like say to him, what do you want to do
[39:40] Speaker 2: to me? Okay, great, great, start there, thank you, finally
[39:44] Speaker 2: a full sentence, and then let him.
[39:46] Speaker 1: He'll be good at this.
[39:47] Speaker 2: You'll be like credit, first, I'm going to pull your
[39:50] Speaker 2: brass wrap off your shoulder with my teeth.
[39:52] Speaker 1: I do it? No, No, okay, I'm.
[39:54] Speaker 2: Too I need.
[39:59] Speaker 1: What do I do? And then do I do it?
[40:02] Speaker 1: It's happening here.
[40:05] Speaker 3: You trying to bite your own brass drop off your should.
[40:10] Speaker 1: I don't know what I'm doing. I'm out of my
[40:12] Speaker 1: dead okay. And another line, it's coming to me now. Okay. Great.
[40:16] Speaker 2: If that sounds like something you'd like to wrap your
[40:18] Speaker 2: ears around, there's a link in the show that's on
[40:20] Speaker 2: a more time feed. We're on Spotify, We're on Apple,
[40:22] Speaker 2: you can get it from our Instagram. It's everyone's really
[40:24] Speaker 2: easy to find more time for this. We love you
[40:26] Speaker 2: DLS and as always, we'll be back in your ears
[40:28] Speaker 2: if not on Thursday, bright and early on Friday with
[40:31] Speaker 2: the bestie heartline.
[40:32] Speaker 1: Tickets to the.
[40:33] Speaker 3: Show still available in some cities.
[40:35] Speaker 2: Make sure you check out we Don't have time for
[40:36] Speaker 2: this dot com and grab your ticket.
[40:38] Speaker 1: Or you're upgrade.
[40:39] Speaker 3: We love you DLS. Bye bye, DLS.
[40:41] Speaker 2: As you already know, we're hitting the road with our
[40:43] Speaker 2: brand new live show.
[40:45] Speaker 1: Know thyself, We're together, irl.
[40:48] Speaker 2: We will unpack the glorious chaos of being a woman,
[40:51] Speaker 2: a mum, a partner, a friend, a person who somehow
[40:54] Speaker 2: ended up responsible for everyone's calendar and wrapping all the gifts.
[40:56] Speaker 2: So it's time to treat yourself to a night of
[40:59] Speaker 2: unhere humor, outrageous honesty, and dopamine or at the very least,
[41:05] Speaker 2: spend two hours with a room full of women who
[41:07] Speaker 2: get it, and maybe, just maybe walk away feeling like
[41:10] Speaker 2: you understand yourself a little better, which frankly is better
[41:13] Speaker 2: than therapy.
[41:14] Speaker 1: The number one.
[41:15] Speaker 2: Quazy we always get is do you have to be
[41:17] Speaker 2: a listener to understand the show?
[41:19] Speaker 1: Absolutely not.
[41:21] Speaker 2: To enjoy our live shows to the max, you simply
[41:23] Speaker 2: need a vagina. So gather your witches and bitches, your sister,
[41:26] Speaker 2: your mum, your emotionally exhausted neighbor with a toddler and
[41:29] Speaker 2: join us. Tickets to Know Thyself are on sale now Sydney, Brisbane,
[41:34] Speaker 2: Camera Melbourne and Adelaide. Pick your poison head to we
[41:37] Speaker 2: don't have time for this dot com.
[41:40] Speaker 3: Hey it's camra Rest. You know the trial times tickets
[41:45] Speaker 3: that sober.
[41:46] Speaker 2: Keeping it really the sound The weights got to run
[41:49] Speaker 2: the gash lives are crazy, he express up and passing
[41:53] Speaker 2: sarcasm in the air. The perfect times love it so no,
[42:00] Speaker 2: no no spelling, see made the chief jingle.
[42:06] Speaker 3: Man shot kick to Dy.
[42:08] Speaker 2: Show be on the time of this.
[42:12] Speaker 3: Let's go go, don't go

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