# ☎️ Bestie Hotline: I Can’t Look My Hairdresser In The Eye

An episode of [We Don't Have Time For This](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1544178687), 23 Jul 2026, 9:42.

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Today’s caller received an accidental bob from her best friend who is also her hairdresser. Disaster. Mentions: Bestie Hotline: I Don't Want Beef With My Neighbour (Spotify) Bestie Hotline: I Don't Want Beef With My Neighbour (Apple) - LIVE SHOW TICKETS and MERCH Check out our Amazon Storefront Submit your OTDL Submit your Bestie Hotline Join our Facebook Group Sign Up To Bestie Bulletin Subscribe to MORE TIME For This: Subscribe on Apple Subscribe on Spotify Listen to our cool little sister podcast: The Fifth Trimester on Spotify The Fifth Trimester on Apple Send This Episode To Your Friends: I Need A New Podcast (Spotify) I Need A New Podcast (Apple) See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

## Transcript

[0:00] Speaker 1: We would like to acknowledge the traditional custodians of the
[0:03] Speaker 1: land that this podcast is recorded on.
[0:21] Speaker 2: Thank you, hello, and welcome to bous the Hotline.
[0:24] Speaker 3: I'm Kate Revs and I'm Jemmy Peanut and you're the dels.
[0:28] Speaker 2: Just going about your Friday, hoping to get a little
[0:31] Speaker 2: entertainment in your heat holes. Unlucky, we are your entertainment beaches.
[0:35] Speaker 2: We are in rehearsals. I'm going to say it's a
[0:38] Speaker 2: miracle we.
[0:38] Speaker 1: Have time to solve dilemmas.
[0:41] Speaker 2: Self appointed heroes of the DL community. We are so
[0:46] Speaker 2: deep in rehearsals, so deep in rehearsals, but we never
[0:49] Speaker 2: forget about you guys. We know your life's keep life,
[0:51] Speaker 2: and that just means we must remain. We must remain,
[0:55] Speaker 2: and you know what, We're all thirsty dilemonade.
[0:58] Speaker 3: I don't know about you, reps, but I am especially
[1:00] Speaker 3: thirsty because we are dancing a lot.
[1:03] Speaker 4: That's right, So point a problems down my throat.
[1:07] Speaker 3: Hah here, I've got one to poor dramatic reading incoming
[1:11] Speaker 3: three two one, besties, I need advice because I think
[1:19] Speaker 3: I've created a situation.
[1:20] Speaker 1: She lives be British. My friend is a hairdresser, and
[1:23] Speaker 1: she offered to cut my hair at her place, just
[1:25] Speaker 1: a quick trim. Oh no, it didn't go great.
[1:28] Speaker 3: It's not terrible terrible, but it's definitely uneven and not
[1:33] Speaker 3: what I asked for.
[1:34] Speaker 1: Kind of an accidental Bob type vibe. Oh no, I
[1:37] Speaker 1: think she was really confident about it.
[1:39] Speaker 3: But I've been trying to style it and it just
[1:42] Speaker 3: isn't working. It isn't sitting right now. I don't know
[1:45] Speaker 3: what to do because I don't want to hurt her
[1:47] Speaker 3: feelings or make it awkward. But I also really don't
[1:50] Speaker 3: want her to touch my hair ever again.
[1:53] Speaker 4: Oh my god, this is worse than lawnmower situations. I'm
[1:57] Speaker 4: thinking about that. No, Clive what's his name?
[2:01] Speaker 3: Colin Colin the lawn Mower DLS. If you haven't listened
[2:05] Speaker 3: to that episode, we'll link in the show notes. It
[2:07] Speaker 3: was over, Goody continuing on, Do I just wait it
[2:10] Speaker 3: out and go somewhere else to fix it later, or
[2:14] Speaker 3: is there a way to tell her without making the
[2:17] Speaker 3: whole thing awkward?
[2:19] Speaker 4: Women? Just women all over this women in world?
[2:23] Speaker 1: Ain't that the truth?
[2:24] Speaker 4: Now?
[2:24] Speaker 3: I've got a question for you. I want to do
[2:25] Speaker 3: a thought experiment. Okay, you're the hairdresser, you did my hair.
[2:31] Speaker 3: What would you want to know?
[2:33] Speaker 2: To me?
[2:33] Speaker 4: Light?
[2:33] Speaker 1: To me, you love it, tell me lies, tell me
[2:37] Speaker 1: sweetly little.
[2:39] Speaker 2: That's the slowest renders. I don't know how I feel
[2:43] Speaker 2: about that. I don't want your feedback. It's done, Okay.
[2:46] Speaker 1: Would you be offended if I never asked you to
[2:48] Speaker 1: do my hair again?
[2:49] Speaker 4: Yeah, but it's not about me. It's your hair.
[2:52] Speaker 1: That's my feeling too.
[2:53] Speaker 3: Yeah.
[2:53] Speaker 1: Just ghost, just ghost, I reckon ghost?
[2:56] Speaker 4: How friendship is it? And also.
[3:00] Speaker 1: How friendship? How friendship?
[3:03] Speaker 2: How good of friends are you? I feel like maybe
[3:06] Speaker 2: we let this one go. She did you dirty?
[3:08] Speaker 1: Also by ghosting, it's the passaguay of letting her know
[3:12] Speaker 1: you're not good at your job.
[3:13] Speaker 2: So someone I know, someone very close to me, and
[3:16] Speaker 2: her girlfriends have a friend who's a hairdresser, and she's
[3:19] Speaker 2: fucked all their hair, all of them. Yep, cut it
[3:22] Speaker 2: too short, bleached it too much that it snapped, made
[3:24] Speaker 2: it an awful color, and then charges them like the
[3:27] Speaker 2: full whack like in the four hundreds.
[3:29] Speaker 3: Well, I'm sorry, but if a friend or someone I
[3:31] Speaker 3: knew did my hair, I'd be like, thank you so much,
[3:33] Speaker 3: And I too would happily pay.
[3:35] Speaker 4: Yeah, I know, but like not if you hate it.
[3:37] Speaker 3: But I couldn't verbalize that in the moment and then
[3:40] Speaker 3: ask for a discount.
[3:42] Speaker 1: Okay, no way, I've not evolved, No, not at all.
[3:45] Speaker 4: This is a space you haven't come through.
[3:47] Speaker 1: No, I haven't. And that's fine.
[3:49] Speaker 2: No, go to another head. So get it fixed and
[3:51] Speaker 2: never go back and just don't bring it up. Let's
[3:53] Speaker 2: just avoid it.
[3:54] Speaker 4: That's what I mean.
[3:55] Speaker 2: Avoidant attachment, avoid an attachment the shit out of this, babe.
[3:59] Speaker 4: It's gonna work great.
[4:00] Speaker 1: And you know what, she will work it out.
[4:02] Speaker 3: She will land at oh I did a ship job
[4:04] Speaker 3: herself and that's on her.
[4:06] Speaker 4: Or she won't.
[4:06] Speaker 1: She won't think about it again. Well, doesn't revolve around you.
[4:09] Speaker 4: Maybe she's got so many clients.
[4:11] Speaker 1: No, I reckon she'd think if it's a friend.
[4:13] Speaker 2: Accidental bob is not a thing we hear very often, and.
[4:17] Speaker 4: It's not that's positive.
[4:19] Speaker 2: No fuck, No, No one wants to accidentally I don't know,
[4:22] Speaker 2: bleach their eyebrows like it's quite a big thing to
[4:25] Speaker 2: get wrong.
[4:25] Speaker 3: Rafa got an accidental bob after a haircut that was
[4:29] Speaker 3: supposed to be a trim. Oh dear, Yeah, and then
[4:31] Speaker 3: her hair was out of its growth cycle for like
[4:34] Speaker 3: two years, and then she had this weird lob.
[4:36] Speaker 2: I'm accidentally in lob. No, it's fine, just don't bring
[4:41] Speaker 2: it up. Move on.
[4:42] Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely don't say anything. I mean that would be
[4:45] Speaker 3: the healthy thing to do. That would be what the
[4:47] Speaker 3: therapist would say.
[4:49] Speaker 1: Really, it's a great pick your battles.
[4:51] Speaker 2: What are you going to say, Hey, you did a
[4:52] Speaker 2: ship job in my hair and I hated it and
[4:54] Speaker 2: I went home and cried.
[4:55] Speaker 4: Like who wins? Who wins? Out of that scenario? The
[4:58] Speaker 4: hair does feel shit? You feel shit? It okay?
[5:00] Speaker 3: Then what if there's an opportunity for them to fix
[5:03] Speaker 3: the hair free of charge or mate? I feel like
[5:06] Speaker 3: the trust is broken. That's not right, it's gone totally.
[5:11] Speaker 3: I know someone like your friend who had their hair
[5:14] Speaker 3: bleached and they fucked it and she actually told the hairdresser.
[5:20] Speaker 1: If it was a professional situation, I would. Yeah. I
[5:23] Speaker 1: have actually a friend factor.
[5:24] Speaker 2: I have no qualms just going like hey, I'm not
[5:27] Speaker 2: happy and going in and expecting it to be fixed
[5:29] Speaker 2: for free.
[5:30] Speaker 1: I've done that many times as a blonde the life.
[5:33] Speaker 1: But it's the friend factor.
[5:34] Speaker 3: So what you're saying is have less friends in the world,
[5:39] Speaker 3: so you can complain professionally about poor service.
[5:44] Speaker 4: If you're going to pay anyway, just go pay someone.
[5:46] Speaker 1: I don't know.
[5:46] Speaker 3: Some things you shouldn't cross over. I agree, you know,
[5:50] Speaker 3: don't work with your friends, as I.
[5:52] Speaker 4: Say, what do you call this?
[5:54] Speaker 1: What a terrible idea?
[5:55] Speaker 4: This one?
[5:55] Speaker 1: Oh my god? Love you?
[5:58] Speaker 4: Love you too? All right, well, let us know.
[6:00] Speaker 1: If you're a headress, I please be upset.
[6:02] Speaker 4: We don't.
[6:03] Speaker 1: You're not you. You're obviously very good at your job,
[6:05] Speaker 1: especially if you're a DL. But also if I was
[6:07] Speaker 1: a headress.
[6:08] Speaker 2: I don't know.
[6:08] Speaker 1: I wouldn't want to cut my friend's hair.
[6:09] Speaker 4: I wouldn't want the fuss of it, you know.
[6:12] Speaker 1: I agree.
[6:12] Speaker 2: When I was a graphic designer, mate the amount of
[6:15] Speaker 2: people who wanted me to quickly whack up a thing,
[6:18] Speaker 2: and I'd be like, you don't want it from me.
[6:19] Speaker 2: I can recommend someone really good. You'll be chasing me
[6:22] Speaker 2: to the cows pass me.
[6:23] Speaker 4: You just don't want to. We don't want to work together.
[6:26] Speaker 4: We're mates. You want to keep it that way.
[6:29] Speaker 1: You won't feel like you can to me. No, I
[6:31] Speaker 1: agree anyway, Dels.
[6:32] Speaker 2: That brings us to the end of another Best You
[6:34] Speaker 2: Hotline episode, but we have to share this chat that
[6:38] Speaker 2: we had on more time the other day, because i mean,
[6:40] Speaker 2: listen for yourself. I'm genuinely at a loss without a
[6:44] Speaker 2: parent my nine year old son at the moment, and
[6:46] Speaker 2: I'm really fatigued, and I'm really if I can be vulnerable,
[6:51] Speaker 2: I'm really afraid. I just so often hit like a
[6:57] Speaker 2: dead end street, throw my hands up in the air,
[6:59] Speaker 2: and I'm like, don't know what to do. I don't
[7:02] Speaker 2: have an instinct. I don't understand this male brain. I
[7:06] Speaker 2: don't understand this age and stage that he's at. And
[7:09] Speaker 2: I literally am at a loss with what to do,
[7:13] Speaker 2: and so I'm constantly seeking out advice from experts, from
[7:18] Speaker 2: other parents of boys the same age or further on
[7:21] Speaker 2: than me.
[7:22] Speaker 4: And I'm really.
[7:23] Speaker 3: Exhausted, Like I'm really exhausted, but also the implementation of
[7:27] Speaker 3: all of this advice is exhausting, especially when you hit
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[7:35] Speaker 1: It's got no cut through, no cut through, no.
[7:37] Speaker 2: Breakthrough, just not lifting. I catastrophized, and you worry and
[7:42] Speaker 2: I won't.
[7:42] Speaker 3: Maybe it's susceptible to being radicalized in some way.
[7:46] Speaker 2: Well, like that he's picking up this, or like that
[7:48] Speaker 2: he's stuck here, you know what I mean.
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