# Nu’ayman ibn Amr (ra): The Funniest Man in Medina

An episode of [The Firsts with Dr. Omar Suleiman](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1522154152), 6 Jul 2026, 40 min.

Audio: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1194665/episodes/19713719-nu-ayman-ibn-amr-ra-the-funniest-man-in-medina.mp3

One of the Prophet's ﷺ Companions was the kind of man who could walk into a room and have everyone laughing. Nu'ayman ibn Amr (ra) was a gem, beloved for the joy he carried wherever he went. He pulled pranks on the Prophet ﷺ himself, talked his way into mischief no one else would dare, and once sold a fellow Sahabi as a joke that people laughed about for a whole year. But behind the laughter, he was carrying something heavier. He struggled with alcohol addiction, and he kept falling back into it. What the Prophet ﷺ said when a Companion cursed him for it is not what you'd expect. Discover the story of the funniest Sahabi who ever lived, the struggle behind the jokes, and three lessons on how the Prophet ﷺ dealt with someone who kept falling.

## Transcript

[0:07] SPEAKER_00: Inshallah ta'ala, we continue tonight in the theme of redemption.
[0:12] SPEAKER_00: Sahaba who had very interesting lives with the Prophet who committed some pretty serious mistakes in the life of the Messenger of Allah, but who were offered a pathway back to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that was absolutely beautiful.
[0:28] SPEAKER_00: And the Sahabi that I'm going to start off with, B'idn alara tonight, he's known as the funniest of the sahaba.
[0:36] SPEAKER_00: He's a sahabi who, when you read his biography, you have to read it with a lot of disclaimers and with a lot of caution.
[0:43] SPEAKER_00: Why?
[0:44] SPEAKER_00: Because the types of stories that he's implicated in Allahu Ta'ala anhu are so outrageous in terms of the level of joking that he would do that it almost makes you wonder like, how did the Prophet tolerate him so much?
[0:58] SPEAKER_00: And he's one of those sahabah that as you're reading, you keep going, is this even halal?
[1:02] SPEAKER_00: Is this halal?
[1:03] SPEAKER_00: Is this halal?
[1:04] SPEAKER_00: Because of how much he pushed the boundaries.
[1:06] SPEAKER_00: And that is the Sahabi by the name of Al-Nu'aiman ibn Amr, Ibn Rifa'a, Ibn Harith, Al uh Ibn Najar al-Ansari, to the end of his name.
[1:18] SPEAKER_00: Nu'aiman Ibn Amr, radiallahu ta'ala anhu, who is from the tribe of Banu Najr, from Al-Ansar.
[1:26] SPEAKER_00: Banu Najar, for those of you that may remember, these are the maternal relatives of the Prophet.
[1:32] SPEAKER_00: So this is a tribe, a subtribe of Khazraj, and the maternal relatives of the Prophet.
[1:38] SPEAKER_00: And so by default, he is an ansari and he has the reward of the Ansar.
[1:43] SPEAKER_00: And not only is he one of the Ansar, and this is something subhanAllah that's that's deeply profound again with all of these companions that we're talking about, he marks all of the best incidents in Islam, but there's no documentation of him specifically in those incidents.
[2:00] SPEAKER_00: So for example, uh some of the books of Sear mention him as being in Bayatul Akaba al-Akirah, going out and giving the pledge to the Prophet and Bayatul Akaba.
[2:11] SPEAKER_00: So of that elite group of companions that came to the Prophet, the final time to Akaba to give him the pledge before he made hijrah from Mecca to Medina.
[2:22] SPEAKER_00: He's also Badri, he's one of the companions of Badr.
[2:25] SPEAKER_00: And I'm actually prioritizing these companions because they're the most elite of the companions of the Prophet.
[2:32] SPEAKER_00: The best of the Sahaba, the best of this ummah are the Badriyun, are the people of Badr.
[2:39] SPEAKER_00: He also witnessed Uhut, he witnessed Khandak, and he witnessed all of the other important campaigns with the Prophet, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
[2:49] SPEAKER_00: He's also one of the people of Bay'at al-Rudwan who took the pledge with the Prophet under the tree that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala affirmed that he is pleased with.
[2:58] SPEAKER_00: So he checks all of these boxes of the most elite of the elite of the elite of the companions of the Prophet in terms of his resume.
[3:06] SPEAKER_00: If you knew nothing about him and none of the stories that I'm going to mention, and you just saw him in one of the books, like by Ibn Hiban or Ibn Hajr, that just mentioned people that checked off these boxes because of how rare they are, right?
[3:19] SPEAKER_00: They're only a handful out of all the companions of the Prophet, you'd say, amazing.
[3:25] SPEAKER_00: But he's known for his jokes.
[3:27] SPEAKER_00: Everything about his biography has to do with the pranks that he would pull on the Prophet and the companions, and one of his bad habits, by which the Prophet taught him and taught the community that he didn't have to be resigned to that bad habit.
[3:48] SPEAKER_00: So let's sort of place Nu'aimanhu just into how the Prophet dealt with laughter as a whole.
[3:56] SPEAKER_00: And this is something very beautiful that the Prophet is someone who is described asith of Abdullah Bul Harit Ma'aitu Ahadan Aktara Tabasuman.
[4:07] SPEAKER_00: I never saw anyone that smiled more than the Prophet.
[4:14] SPEAKER_00: He smiled and laughed all the time, and he caused other people to smile and laugh.
[4:21] SPEAKER_00: And this is despite him carrying the weight of revelation, the weight of the mission, despite him carrying the pain of all of those people that he had lost, the pain of persecution, the grief of having buried six of his seven children, sallallahu alayhi wasallam, the slander, the pressure, everything that he went through.
[4:40] SPEAKER_00: The Messenger of Allah, who was the most serious person about his mission in life and about pursuing the hereafter, was the person who smiled the most and who laughed the most.
[4:51] SPEAKER_00: And he did that from a place of sadaqah, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, of charity.
[4:57] SPEAKER_00: He said, Ali salatu wa sallam, tabasum kafiwaji achikalaka, sadaqah.
[5:02] SPEAKER_00: That's a smile in the face of your brother is a charity for you.
[5:06] SPEAKER_00: It's a good deed.
[5:07] SPEAKER_00: And so he liked to meet people that way, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and that was his default disposition.
[5:13] SPEAKER_00: Now, when it came to the types of jokes, the jokes of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, very dignified, very moderate, like everything else, very balanced.
[5:23] SPEAKER_00: He did not exceed limits, alayhi salatu.
[5:27] SPEAKER_00: He would not, you know, incur a lie just to get a laugh out of people.
[5:32] SPEAKER_00: So he only told the truth, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
[5:35] SPEAKER_00: He didn't degrade people, he didn't belittle people, he didn't scare people.
[5:38] SPEAKER_00: The jokes of the Prophet were beautiful in that they were elegant and they made people feel good.
[5:43] SPEAKER_00: As we talked about in the case of Zahiranu and some of the companions that came before.
[5:49] SPEAKER_00: But Jabr ibn Samurah, he says, The Prophet used to pray fajr.
[6:02] SPEAKER_00: And he would remain in a state of dhikr until the sun would rise.
[6:16] SPEAKER_00: Who had a dream last night, who has a question that they want to ask.
[6:20] SPEAKER_00: And then, Ya Khuduna fi umril Jahiliya.
[6:22] SPEAKER_00: This is in Sahih Muslim.
[6:24] SPEAKER_00: They would then talk about some of the old days.
[6:27] SPEAKER_00: Tell stories from Jahiliyyah.
[6:30] SPEAKER_00: So he said, Fayat hakkunah wayatabasamallahu alayhi wa sallam.
[6:35] SPEAKER_00: Everyone else would laugh, the Prophet would smile.
[6:39] SPEAKER_00: So he just had a big smile on his face.
[6:41] SPEAKER_00: They would tell jokes, they'd remember stories from the days of Jahiliya, they'd chant some of its poetry.
[6:46] SPEAKER_00: But the Prophet again was dignified, but approving.
[6:51] SPEAKER_00: He liked that culture, alayhi salatu wasam, where people felt comfortable joking with him and laughing around him.
[6:58] SPEAKER_00: Now, when it comes to Nu'aiman, Nu'aimanhu is the extreme jokester.
[7:04] SPEAKER_00: Almost every joke that I'm going to share with you from the life of Nu'aiman, don't do it.
[7:09] SPEAKER_00: Any of it.
[7:11] SPEAKER_00: And you could go to every one of these stories, and I'm going to list them in sort of the order of how extreme they are.
[7:17] SPEAKER_00: That's how I decided to take the jokes, how extreme these pranks are, how extreme these jokes are.
[7:23] SPEAKER_00: You could take each one of them and you could scrutinize the chain of narration.
[7:26] SPEAKER_00: You could scrutinize the sunad and you could say, well, perhaps this narration is not authentic and this narration is not authentic.
[7:32] SPEAKER_00: But the reason why Ibn Hajjar and Ibn Abdul Barr and Ibn al-Athir and the biographers still put these narrations is that they paint a picture of a man.
[7:40] SPEAKER_00: They paint a picture of this companion of the Prophet and what he was like in general, and how the Prophet had to deal with different personalities that he could have crushed Aries upon the first arrival.
[7:56] SPEAKER_00: And so the first way that he would deal with the Prophet, or the first joke that we find between him and the Messenger of Allah, again, Badri, Uhud companion, Khadda companion, like he was in the battlefield.
[8:09] SPEAKER_00: He was doing the serious stuff too.
[8:11] SPEAKER_00: But outside of that, everyone knew him for his joking.
[8:15] SPEAKER_00: Was that no one would enter Medina from the oil sellers or the people that would sell honey or whatever it may be, except that he would go to them.
[8:26] SPEAKER_00: And when Nur Iman likes something, there was once a man that was selling some honey.
[8:31] SPEAKER_00: He took some of that honey, radiallahu ta'ala annual, and he said, Be right back.
[8:35] SPEAKER_00: He went to the Prophet and he said, Ya Rasullah, this is a hadia for you, this is a gift for you.
[8:40] SPEAKER_00: So the Prophet takes the honey, he eats from the honey, and then the seller calls Nu'aiman and says, What happened?
[8:48] SPEAKER_00: You didn't pay me for the honey.
[8:49] SPEAKER_00: And so he goes and he brings the seller to the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
[8:54] SPEAKER_00: Ya Rasulullah, you like the honey?
[8:55] SPEAKER_00: Ya Rasulullah, it tastes good.
[8:56] SPEAKER_00: Alhamdulillah, now pay the man his price.
[9:00] SPEAKER_00: Pay him for what pay him what you owe him.
[9:04] SPEAKER_00: The Prophet says, Oh alamtu, didn't you give me this as a gift?
[9:14] SPEAKER_00: Oh Messenger of Allah, I don't have enough money to pay him.
[9:18] SPEAKER_00: But I would love for you to eat from it because I love to make you happy, and I knew that you would like this.
[9:28] SPEAKER_00: So the Prophet would laugh, and the Prophet would pay the man.
[9:32] SPEAKER_00: No problem.
[9:33] SPEAKER_00: Prophet did not turn this into a, hey, don't do this again.
[9:39] SPEAKER_00: I'm sick of you bringing me stuff that's not actually mine, right?
[9:42] SPEAKER_00: And forcing me to buy things that I don't actually want to purchase.
[9:45] SPEAKER_00: That's Nu'a Imam al di Allah and Hu's personality.
[9:49] SPEAKER_00: Okay?
[9:49] SPEAKER_00: So this is the first narration, and this narration kind of shows an endearing relationship between him and the Prophet.
[9:56] SPEAKER_00: So he's joking with the Prophet, and the Prophet is the one who the joke is being pulled on.
[10:04] SPEAKER_00: And yet the Messenger of Allah obliges and he pays the price and he moves on.
[10:11] SPEAKER_00: Now the next one is another degree of a little bit extreme with the prank.
[10:18] SPEAKER_00: And it has to do actually with an interesting man.
[10:21] SPEAKER_00: Sometimes, subhanAllah, you you read the name of a person and you just sort of zoom out of the story.
[10:26] SPEAKER_00: There was a man by the name of Ma'ramah ibn Nufad.
[10:31] SPEAKER_00: And he is from the elders of Banu Zuhra.
[10:35] SPEAKER_00: And he's one of those who are described in the Quran as Mu'allafati Qurubim, those who you give zakat to to reconcile their hearts.
[10:42] SPEAKER_00: Meaning he came into Islam very late, and the Prophet allocated extra spoils to these people because of their seniority and the difficulty of reconciling their hearts to Islam.
[10:53] SPEAKER_00: Right?
[10:53] SPEAKER_00: So there are people who came in very late into Islam.
[10:56] SPEAKER_00: The Prophet is giving them more than he's giving the ansar.
[10:59] SPEAKER_00: The ansar are wondering why, and the Prophet is explaining to them that look, they go home with all the stuff you go home with the Prophet.
[11:08] SPEAKER_00: This is actually a means of showing that love and reconciling their hearts into Islam.
[11:14] SPEAKER_00: And the Prophet gave him a very expensive um uh hulla, a very expensive cloak as he was reconciling his heart to Islam that was worth 40 uqiyyah, as is mentioned, so very expensive clothes, and tried to bring him into Islam.
[11:30] SPEAKER_00: Some of the narrations actually suggest that he is the one.
[11:33] SPEAKER_00: There's a famous narration with our mother Aisha radiallahu tal anha that there was a man that had entered into the Prophet's uh home, and the Prophet, before he entered, he said, sallallahu alayhi wa sallamul ashira that you know what what what a what a miserable man from a tribe this is, and he mentioned his harshness.
[11:54] SPEAKER_00: But when he entered with the Prophet, he sat with the Messenger of Allah, and the Messenger of Allah, you know, engaged him with good akhlaq, with good character, and then he left.
[12:03] SPEAKER_00: And Aisha said, Ya Rasulullah, you you said, you know, that he's someone who's foul, but you treated him so well.
[12:11] SPEAKER_00: And the Prophet mentioned that the worst of people are those that people leave off because they don't want to deal with their harshness, right?
[12:20] SPEAKER_00: So they kind of work around their temper, right?
[12:23] SPEAKER_00: They don't want to deal with their harshness.
[12:24] SPEAKER_00: So some of the narrations actually mention that that is machrama.
[12:27] SPEAKER_00: Why am I giving you this about Mahrama, Rodhi Allah?
[12:29] SPEAKER_00: Anu is a sahabi, someone who came very late in Islam.
[12:32] SPEAKER_00: Because this narration between Nu'iman and Mahrama involves him all the way in the time of Imman, Rodi Allah Anhu, and he was well over the age of a hundred years old.
[12:42] SPEAKER_00: So he reached over a hundred.
[12:45] SPEAKER_00: He was blind, and he needed to use the restroom, he needed to urinate.
[12:50] SPEAKER_00: But because he was blind, he started to urinate in a part of the masjid not realizing where he was.
[12:56] SPEAKER_00: So people screamed and shouted to let him know that he was urinating in the masjid.
[13:00] SPEAKER_00: So Nu'iman goes to him and he simply takes him to another side of the masjid and he says, Adjis Hahuna, uh, you can you can go here.
[13:11] SPEAKER_00: So he starts to use the restroom in that place too.
[13:15] SPEAKER_00: And so people once again come screaming at him, and he gets extremely upset, and he says, Manja'abi way hakum fihad al-Maulder, who brought me to this place then?
[13:25] SPEAKER_00: Who's the one that brought me to this place?
[13:27] SPEAKER_00: Because I was brought here and I thought that I was outside of the Mazda at this point.
[13:30] SPEAKER_00: So they said, Nu'iman.
[13:32] SPEAKER_00: He said, if I see him, I'm gonna pop him on the head.
[13:34] SPEAKER_00: If or if I come across him, I'm gonna pop him across the head with my stick.
[13:38] SPEAKER_00: So what does Nu'iman do?
[13:40] SPEAKER_00: He comes to him and he says to him, Are you looking for Nu'aiman?
[13:44] SPEAKER_00: He says, Yes.
[13:45] SPEAKER_00: So he says, Come with me.
[13:46] SPEAKER_00: Takes him over to none other than Sayyidina, Uthman radiallahu ta'ala annu.
[13:51] SPEAKER_00: So the man hits Utmanu.
[13:54] SPEAKER_00: And the people say, What are you doing?
[13:56] SPEAKER_00: That's Amirul Mu'mineen.
[13:57] SPEAKER_00: Utman uldiallahu ta'ala annu.
[13:59] SPEAKER_00: And Utman aldiallahua.
[14:01] SPEAKER_00: He says, Let it go, let it go.
[14:02] SPEAKER_00: He said, That's Nu'a Iman, and he's a person of badr.
[14:05] SPEAKER_00: Like we leave it, we let it go, right?
[14:08] SPEAKER_00: And they moved on.
[14:09] SPEAKER_00: Pretty extreme prank.
[14:11] SPEAKER_00: You're getting the picture, right?
[14:13] SPEAKER_00: This is a don't try this at home, don't try this in your masjid.
[14:17] SPEAKER_00: It's giving you the imagery of a man who kept pushing the limits.
[14:24] SPEAKER_00: And uh Banu Zuharah, by the way, which which leads to Mahramah, they actually were like getting together and they wanted to hurt Nu'aiman, and Isman radiallahu anhu was the one who said, No, let it go, it's just Nu'a imam, being Nu'aiman, he's a Badri companion.
[14:35] SPEAKER_00: Don't worry about it.
[14:37] SPEAKER_00: Right?
[14:37] SPEAKER_00: It's not a big deal.
[14:39] SPEAKER_00: The third narration involves the time of the Prophet, and it goes even a step further.
[14:48] SPEAKER_00: And that is that there was an Arabi man, a Bedouin man that came to the Prophet and he entered into the masjid and he tied his camel outside the masjid.
[14:57] SPEAKER_00: And he was taking his time with the Prophet inside the masjid.
[15:01] SPEAKER_00: And this is sort of like when the companions know who the funny person is amongst them, and they kind of this is what human beings do, right?
[15:08] SPEAKER_00: Kind of instigate it, like push him a bit and say, hey, you know what would be really funny?
[15:13] SPEAKER_00: What you could do here that would be really funny.
[15:14] SPEAKER_00: He's taking his time with the Prophet and the camel is outside.
[15:19] SPEAKER_00: So some of the young companions, they said to Nu'iman radiallahu ta'ala anhu, um, that you know, law nahartaha, if you would sacrifice the camel and we could eat from it, like we're craving it, looks really good, right?
[15:37] SPEAKER_00: Like that's a camel that you could sacrifice and we could eat from it.
[15:40] SPEAKER_00: And then don't worry, like the Prophet will pay him the price of his camel.
[15:45] SPEAKER_00: Right?
[15:46] SPEAKER_00: So Nu'iman says what?
[15:48] SPEAKER_00: Says, okay.
[15:50] SPEAKER_00: He goes, he takes the camel, he sacrifices the camel, and the poor man comes out.
[15:58] SPEAKER_00: Talk about an introduction to Islam.
[16:00] SPEAKER_00: It's like he's a Bedouin, and perhaps he's coming to ask the Prophet about Islam and understand Islam for the first time.
[16:06] SPEAKER_00: He comes out and his camel is sacrificed.
[16:09] SPEAKER_00: So he comes outside and he starts screaming, Wa akrawya Muhammad, where's my camel?
[16:16] SPEAKER_00: Oh Muhammad, where my camel is missing.
[16:17] SPEAKER_00: Oh Muhammad, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
[16:20] SPEAKER_00: So the Prophet comes out of the masjid and he says, What happened?
[16:23] SPEAKER_00: Manfa'a al-hada.
[16:24] SPEAKER_00: And he says to the companions, Who did that?
[16:26] SPEAKER_00: They said, Nu'aiman did it.
[16:28] SPEAKER_00: So what did Nu'aiman do?
[16:30] SPEAKER_00: Prophet went looking for him, and Nu'aiman went hiding in the garden of Adwa'a, Bint Zubair ibn Abdul Muqt uh Ibn Abdul Muqtalib.
[16:42] SPEAKER_00: Uh he went hiding in the garden, like in sort of like a pit, like in a ditch in her backyard, because he knew the Prophet was going to come looking for him.
[16:56] SPEAKER_00: So the Prophet he goes looking for Nu'ayman, radiallahu ta'a anhu after what he did.
[17:02] SPEAKER_00: I mean, this is a pretty big deal.
[17:04] SPEAKER_00: He sacrificed someone's camel without his permission, distributed the meat.
[17:08] SPEAKER_00: And the Prophet uh walks into the garden, he says, Um, has anyone seen him?
[17:14] SPEAKER_00: So there's a man who says in his voice that uh Ya Rasulullah, I don't know if I've seen him, but he points to where Nu'a iman is.
[17:21] SPEAKER_00: So the Prophet goes to him and Nu'a Iman comes out, and his face is covered in dirt and the leaves and the bugs and everything from that place.
[17:30] SPEAKER_00: And the Prophet says to him, Ya Nu'aiman, Muhammad, what caused you to do this?
[17:38] SPEAKER_00: Why would you do something so extreme?
[17:42] SPEAKER_00: He says, Ya Rasulullah, the people that sent you to me, Aladina dalluka, aliya Ya Rasullah, the ones that sent you to find me are the same ones that told me, Why don't you sacrifice the camel?
[17:53] SPEAKER_00: And the Prophet starts washing, he starts cleaning his face.
[17:58] SPEAKER_00: And the Prophet was laughing.
[18:01] SPEAKER_00: Again, not because he approves of the action, but because this is who he's dealing with.
[18:05] SPEAKER_00: And the Prophet himself goes and he pays the famin, he pays the man the price of his camel, and obviously in a generous amount, right, to cover for what was taken for him.
[18:17] SPEAKER_00: So, no, you don't steal someone's car outside and say, Don't worry, uh Shaykh Yasubrajas will pay the price of the car.
[18:25] SPEAKER_00: Right?
[18:26] SPEAKER_00: But it's showing you once again a place that he was willing to go, and the Prophet tolerating a character of this type of nature.
[18:37] SPEAKER_00: Now, by the way, like someone who's that bold in their joking, you can imagine that in the battlefield, it's probably extremely bold as well.
[18:45] SPEAKER_00: Right?
[18:45] SPEAKER_00: When they say someone like requires a certain level of ju'a, like a level of audacity, usually that audacity matches a courage about him.
[18:52] SPEAKER_00: And that certainly seems to be the case with this companion, Radiallahu ta'ala anhu.
[18:57] SPEAKER_00: Uh, the most extreme joke uh from him is the one that's narrated by Um Salama, Radiallahu Ta'ala Anha, which involves him and involves another um companion who is very similar to him, whose name is Saybit ibn Sa'ad, Ibn Harmala, Saybit, Ibn Sa'ad, Ibn Harmalah, uh Radiallahu Ta'ala Anhu, who um is one of the muhajirin from Mecca.
[19:28] SPEAKER_00: Very interesting.
[19:29] SPEAKER_00: He's actually from Ashabul Hijratain.
[19:31] SPEAKER_00: So he's one of those that migrated to Abyssinia, and he's one of and then migrated to Medina afterwards.
[19:37] SPEAKER_00: Also a Badri companion, right?
[19:40] SPEAKER_00: So he also checks these boxes.
[19:43] SPEAKER_00: So inshaAllah ta'ala, may Allah Azza allow us to be from the people of Jannah.
[19:47] SPEAKER_00: We have some funny sahaba that we can also get to talk to there as well.
[19:52] SPEAKER_00: Ibn Abdul Barr mentions that he, like Nur'aiman, radiallahu anhu is known for his excessive joking.
[19:58] SPEAKER_00: So he's he's someone that pushes the boundaries too when he jokes.
[20:02] SPEAKER_00: So Um Salama radiallahu ta'ala anha says that Abu Bakr radiallahu ta'ala anhu, Kharajatajir Busra.
[20:11] SPEAKER_00: Subalh brings the other series back into this, that Abu Bakr anhu went out on a trade route to Busra.
[20:18] SPEAKER_00: Remember, we were talking about Busra and Sham, the gateway to Greater Syria.
[20:24] SPEAKER_00: And he took with him on this trip Nu'aiman and Sawaybat.
[20:31] SPEAKER_00: Some of the commentators would say that, you know, when you travel, you want people that can keep the journey light.
[20:36] SPEAKER_00: You want people that can kind of keep you entertained on the journey.
[20:39] SPEAKER_00: This is like live entertainment to bring like two companions of the Prophet that are known for their excessive joking with you.
[20:47] SPEAKER_00: So Nu'aiman and Sawaybat are just back and forth, back and forth, back and forth.
[20:52] SPEAKER_00: These are two companions that never stop with each other.
[20:55] SPEAKER_00: And that's really nice to, it makes the time pass, right?
[20:57] SPEAKER_00: When you go on a journey to have people that can actually joke and people uh that can laugh.
[21:02] SPEAKER_00: So Sawaybit and Nu'aiman are both Badri and they're with Abu Bakr.
[21:07] SPEAKER_00: So these are three Badriun of the companions.
[21:09] SPEAKER_00: I mean, Abu Bakr al dialla Anu is the best of them, but they're also, again, serious companions.
[21:14] SPEAKER_00: So waybit, radiallahu ta'a anhu cana alazad.
[21:17] SPEAKER_00: He was in charge of the provisions, meaning the food, and you have to ration for the food and the drink and how you're going to get through uh the long journey.
[21:25] SPEAKER_00: So Nu'iman comes up to him and he says, I'm hungry, give me some food.
[21:30] SPEAKER_00: I'm hungry, give me some food.
[21:33] SPEAKER_00: Soybid says, uh, no, Hatayadi Abu Bakr, until Abu Bakr comes, I'm not gonna give you any food.
[21:40] SPEAKER_00: Nu'a Iman says, Give me some food, I'm hungry.
[21:42] SPEAKER_00: So Ibid says, I'm not gonna give you food until Abu Bakr comes.
[21:46] SPEAKER_00: Nu Raiman says, Listen, if you don't give me food, I'm gonna do something.
[21:51] SPEAKER_00: Right?
[21:52] SPEAKER_00: So Waybid said, until Abu Bakr comes.
[21:56] SPEAKER_00: So he said, like, I'm Going to, I'm gonna poke if you don't give me food.
[22:03] SPEAKER_00: So Wabit basically says, give it your best shot.
[22:06] SPEAKER_00: So what does Nu'a Iman do?
[22:08] SPEAKER_00: He goes to a tribe nearby and he says, Listen, he said, I have this slave.
[22:16] SPEAKER_00: He said, He's an Arab slave, very eloquent, very healthy, very smart.
[22:27] SPEAKER_00: He's really good.
[22:28] SPEAKER_00: Right?
[22:29] SPEAKER_00: And he said, I'm willing to sell him to you.
[22:33] SPEAKER_00: But he said, but the only thing is he's a little off, so if you take him, he's gonna keep saying, Anahur, anahur, I'm free, I'm free.
[22:43] SPEAKER_00: So that's his only thing.
[22:44] SPEAKER_00: Like he's very eloquent, but he's gonna insist that he's free.
[22:46] SPEAKER_00: He's like, if you don't want him, not chuf sidu alayhagulami, like don't mess up my uh my slave, basically.
[22:53] SPEAKER_00: Like, leave him to me.
[22:54] SPEAKER_00: But if you're interested, let me know.
[22:55] SPEAKER_00: It's right over there.
[22:56] SPEAKER_00: Great guy, I can sell him to you.
[22:59] SPEAKER_00: Ten camels for uh for him.
[23:03] SPEAKER_00: So, I mean, these guys have no idea what's going on.
[23:06] SPEAKER_00: They said, Really?
[23:07] SPEAKER_00: Okay, and he's convincing.
[23:08] SPEAKER_00: They said, All right, sounds sounds like a deal, sounds good.
[23:11] SPEAKER_00: So poor Sawabit, he's there with his goods, and then Nu'a Iman comes with this tribe and he says, There he is, Dunakum, Huwahada.
[23:22] SPEAKER_00: He's the one.
[23:23] SPEAKER_00: So they go and they start to tie him up and they say, Qatish Tarainak, we we've purchased you, come with us.
[23:28] SPEAKER_00: He says, Anuhur, anuhur, I'm free, I'm free.
[23:30] SPEAKER_00: They said, We know, we know.
[23:33] SPEAKER_00: We already know.
[23:35] SPEAKER_00: Just come with us.
[23:37] SPEAKER_00: They take saway bits uh a slight distance away.
[23:42] SPEAKER_00: Abu Bakr al dialla an who comes back and he says, Where's Sawabitz?
[23:46] SPEAKER_00: Nu'ayman sold him to that tribe over there.
[23:51] SPEAKER_00: Abu Bakr al diallahu goes, explains to them what happened, gives them back their camels, brings back saway bits.
[24:04] SPEAKER_00: Goes back to normal, everything is fine, they come back to Medina, and then they sit with the Prophet and they sit with the companions and they tell the Prophet what happens.
[24:14] SPEAKER_00: And Um Salama, says, the Prophet and his companions spent a year laughing about that incident.
[24:28] SPEAKER_00: Please do not tell anybody else to come get somebody else.
[24:34] SPEAKER_00: Don't try this at home, don't try this at your masjid, don't try this ever.
[24:39] SPEAKER_00: The point that you're getting is that this man used to push the boundaries all the way.
[24:46] SPEAKER_00: And you can imagine that the Prophet dealing with a personality like this could have had a very heavy hand with him, Rodiallahu Ta'an.
[24:58] SPEAKER_00: But he didn't.
[24:59] SPEAKER_00: And there's a hikmah to how the Prophet is going to deal with him.
[25:02] SPEAKER_00: By the way, it's haram to take something and to make your brother think that you've taken something from them.
[25:08] SPEAKER_00: The Prophet said, Do not take the matter, don't take the possessions of your brother.
[25:13] SPEAKER_00: Hazlan ojada, like like don't take it out of gesture, out of seriousness.
[25:18] SPEAKER_00: It is haram to jump out at someone.
[25:21] SPEAKER_00: It's something very common in our culture, by the way, that you jump out.
[25:24] SPEAKER_00: And the Prophet mentioned, la turawira, don't scare your brother or sister, right?
[25:29] SPEAKER_00: So I'm not telling you to take the halal and haram of joking from this.
[25:34] SPEAKER_00: I'm telling you to take an overall picture of a companion that was very, very, very funny, excessive, but loved by the Prophet.
[25:46] SPEAKER_00: And when you're a healthy community, you know how to adapt to different personalities.
[25:51] SPEAKER_00: You don't expect everyone to be molded in a certain way, especially in that time.
[25:55] SPEAKER_00: And the Messenger of Allah understood how to take people with their personalities and to gradually solidify them in Islam and to take the good of them.
[26:05] SPEAKER_00: Radiallahu ta'ala anhum, ajmaeen.
[26:08] SPEAKER_00: Now, what is the painful part of it, and where do we get from beyond the joking?
[26:13] SPEAKER_00: Obviously, he has all of these noble traits, but we get to the alcohol addiction.
[26:21] SPEAKER_00: And this is the one that I want to focus on in terms of redemption, not the joking, scrutinizing the stories and saying, is this story sahih?
[26:30] SPEAKER_00: Is that story sahih?
[26:31] SPEAKER_00: I'm saying you have a picture of a man who used to joke a lot, but he also struggled with alcohol.
[26:38] SPEAKER_00: And I want you to appreciate for a moment, by the way, I kid you not, subhanallah, that in Hajj, there's a brother that's telling me that like my brother is ready to embrace Islam, but he just can't give up drinking.
[26:53] SPEAKER_00: I'm talking about this year in Hajj, asking me to make dua for his brother, and he's saying he knows this the truth.
[26:58] SPEAKER_00: But giving up alcohol is very hard for him.
[27:01] SPEAKER_00: The Arabs at the time of the Prophet had a drinking culture.
[27:06] SPEAKER_00: Like it wasn't just like they drank on occasions, they always drank.
[27:11] SPEAKER_00: They drank for sadness, they drank for joy, they drank in their weddings, they drank in their festivals, they drank as ibadah in terms of their worship, they drank in everything that they did.
[27:21] SPEAKER_00: Right?
[27:21] SPEAKER_00: So alcohol was very much so embedded in the culture that the Prophet was coming to, an Aisha radiallahu ta'ala anha explains that the if the first ayat to come down from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala were um do not commit zina, la taznu, or la tashabul kamr, don't commit adultery, don't drink alcohol.
[27:48] SPEAKER_00: The Arabs would have said, we can never give up adultery, we can never give up alcohol.
[27:53] SPEAKER_00: But Allah Azzawajal sat down a suar al-mufassr, the short surahs of the Quran that emphasize Allah, the hereafter, jannah and nar, that make the reward of paradise sweeter than anything that you could get in this world from any type of possession, and make the punishment of the hereafter bitter enough that anything you get sweetness from is not worth that punishment in the hereafter.
[28:18] SPEAKER_00: So solidified Tawheed, that connection to Allah Azwajal, solidified belief in jannah and nar, belief in paradise and hellfire, to the point that people were able to give it up.
[28:30] SPEAKER_00: As a community, that doesn't mean as individuals, people did not struggle when the prohibition uh came down.
[28:37] SPEAKER_00: Now, some people struggled.
[28:38] SPEAKER_00: Not everyone was able to give it up right away.
[28:40] SPEAKER_00: Some of them had relapses with their khamar.
[28:43] SPEAKER_00: We know Anas Allah and Wa said that when the prohibition came down, people started breaking their bottles, right?
[28:48] SPEAKER_00: And they started spilling the khamar in the streets.
[28:50] SPEAKER_00: But at the end of the day, like these are real addictions.
[28:53] SPEAKER_00: Someone's gonna relapse, right?
[28:55] SPEAKER_00: This is a large community of companions.
[28:58] SPEAKER_00: Some of them are gonna have trouble.
[29:00] SPEAKER_00: And so these biographies tonight really have to do with a person that's trying to get out of a sin, that feels addicted to particular sins, because sins can become addictions.
[29:12] SPEAKER_00: And there is very little that is as pervasive and as addictive as alcohol, as al-Khamr.
[29:18] SPEAKER_00: And the Prophet said, that a believer does not commit adultery while he's a believer, he does not drink while he's a believer.
[29:31] SPEAKER_00: That means that at the time of committing these deeds, it's like iman is not there.
[29:35] SPEAKER_00: It's not that you're a kafir.
[29:37] SPEAKER_00: There's no takfir here.
[29:38] SPEAKER_00: You're not a disbeliever because a major sin does not make you a disbeliever.
[29:43] SPEAKER_00: But like you are you are disconnecting from Iman in order to commit these major sins, these destructive sins with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
[29:52] SPEAKER_00: And it was especially hard for some of that generation to get rid of it, even if they swore at times that I'm done with it, I'm done with it, I'm done with it, people relapse.
[30:01] SPEAKER_00: And they can be sincere.
[30:02] SPEAKER_00: And that's why you have commentary on this, narrations of someone who says, if I drink, Ya Rasulullah, will I be punished?
[30:09] SPEAKER_00: Yes, and if I repent, will I be forgiven?
[30:10] SPEAKER_00: Yes, and if I drink again, right?
[30:13] SPEAKER_00: Yes, if I repent again, yes, that people will relapse.
[30:18] SPEAKER_00: So Nu'imanhu is someone who struggled with the prohibition of alcohol.
[30:25] SPEAKER_00: And Uqb ibn al-Hadith, uh Radiallah anhu, he narrates Anna Nabi, now in this narration he says, Nu'ayman or the son of Nu'aiman.
[30:38] SPEAKER_00: While he was drunk.
[30:40] SPEAKER_00: Fashakqa alayhi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
[30:43] SPEAKER_00: See, this is this is really uh different here.
[30:47] SPEAKER_00: This was hard for the Prophet to see.
[30:50] SPEAKER_00: Prophet felt pain, right?
[30:52] SPEAKER_00: Like as much as he laughed and smiled, felt joy.
[30:57] SPEAKER_00: And by the way, perhaps in this is a wisdom for the Prophet overlooking some of the other transgressions of Nu'aiman, because from the hikmah of a person doing di'awa is that if someone is committing a greater sin, then you have to choose your battles.
[31:15] SPEAKER_00: And so maybe you let some of their indiscretions go, some of their transgressions go.
[31:19] SPEAKER_00: Not that you permission give, not that you say it's halal, but because like we have to deal with something that's much bigger.
[31:24] SPEAKER_00: So excessive joking and drinking alcohol, these are you know very far apart.
[31:31] SPEAKER_00: Sallallahu alayhi wa sallam wara radiallahu anulhu, ta'aman.
[31:35] SPEAKER_00: Allah knows best.
[31:35] SPEAKER_00: Allah knows best if this is the reason, but it could be a hikmah to overlook some of these things because like this is a problem.
[31:41] SPEAKER_00: Fashaq, the Prophet felt pain.
[31:44] SPEAKER_00: He genuinely was hurt, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
[31:47] SPEAKER_00: This was hard on him, alayhi salatu was salam, to see people fall.
[31:52] SPEAKER_00: So he um ordered sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for him to be struck in Ya'dribu.
[31:59] SPEAKER_00: So he was hit, he was punished as he should be punished, because there are accountability mechanisms for committing these types of sins.
[32:09] SPEAKER_00: And he was says, and and he says, that I was one of those who struck him.
[32:16] SPEAKER_00: So sin hurts the heart of the Prophet, it was hard on the Prophet, but then look at the narrations as they go on.
[32:22] SPEAKER_00: Um Abu Hurair says that a man came to the was brought to the Prophet and he was drunk, and the Prophet said, So strike him.
[32:33] SPEAKER_00: And while he was being struck, some of the people said, Akzaqallah, may Allah disgrace you.
[32:44] SPEAKER_00: And the Prophet said, Don't say that.
[32:53] SPEAKER_00: Don't support the shaytan against him.
[32:56] SPEAKER_00: Don't support the shaytan against him.
[32:59] SPEAKER_00: SubhanAllah, like wait a minute.
[33:02] SPEAKER_00: The Prophet ordered his punishment.
[33:04] SPEAKER_00: What's the difference between him being hit and someone saying to him, Akzaqallah?
[33:10] SPEAKER_00: May Allah disgrace you.
[33:13] SPEAKER_00: See, there's a punishment that purifies, and there's a humiliation that only causes further despair.
[33:20] SPEAKER_00: Prophet is not trying to humiliate.
[33:22] SPEAKER_00: And this is the perfect wisdom that the Prophet, as much as he has affection, he loves Nu'aima, he loves him.
[33:29] SPEAKER_00: And it's very obvious that he loves him.
[33:33] SPEAKER_00: But his affection does not cancel accountability, but his correction does not crush him.
[33:38] SPEAKER_00: Like I'm not trying to kill him or crush him.
[33:42] SPEAKER_00: Right?
[33:42] SPEAKER_00: There is a ruling that has to be applied, but we want to build him up, we want to bring him back to his senses.
[33:49] SPEAKER_00: So do not support the shaitan on him by cursing him.
[33:55] SPEAKER_00: And this is actually something very important here, too.
[33:59] SPEAKER_00: That the shaitan wants people to not believe that they can be redeemed.
[34:05] SPEAKER_00: And that's why when you relapse, when you sin, he comes to you and he tells you that there is no rahmah from Allah for you.
[34:13] SPEAKER_00: And Allah says, Don't despair from the mercy of Allah.
[34:18] SPEAKER_00: Right?
[34:18] SPEAKER_00: But Shaytan wants you to believe there is no rahmah for you after you committed the sin, despair.
[34:23] SPEAKER_00: And so when someone says Akzaq Allah, and you're hearing that from a companion, that hurts.
[34:28] SPEAKER_00: It can break you.
[34:29] SPEAKER_00: Prophet says, Don't support the shaitan on him.
[34:32] SPEAKER_00: And so I want you to think about when you mock someone in their sin.
[34:36] SPEAKER_00: I'm not saying you whitewash the sin.
[34:39] SPEAKER_00: By the way, this is uh the fine line that we have to find.
[34:43] SPEAKER_00: You're not erasing the sin or the magnitude of the sin, but you're also not erasing the person.
[34:48] SPEAKER_00: And someone says, someone says, Don't judge that person.
[34:50] SPEAKER_00: Well, I'll judge the sin.
[34:51] SPEAKER_00: The sin is a sin.
[34:52] SPEAKER_00: It is objectively haram what they're doing.
[34:56] SPEAKER_00: And there can be no permission giving of that haram.
[34:58] SPEAKER_00: But at the same time, I'm not gonna curse that person.
[35:00] SPEAKER_00: I'm not gonna say that person has no hope in Allah Azzawajal.
[35:03] SPEAKER_00: I'm not going to say anything to that person that's going to further shut the door on them, right?
[35:08] SPEAKER_00: Kick them on their way out when they're leaving from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and say you might as well resign yourself to the sin.
[35:14] SPEAKER_00: So that's the second narration.
[35:16] SPEAKER_00: The third one is actually from Umr al-Khattab radiallahu ta'a anhu.
[35:19] SPEAKER_00: And Umar radiallahu ta'ala anhu says that there was a man um named Abdullah, and he says his laqab, his nickname was Himar.
[35:29] SPEAKER_00: Himar, which means donkey, right?
[35:31] SPEAKER_00: By the way, like I'm sure I'm traumatizing a lot of Arab kids, got called that many times by their parents.
[35:37] SPEAKER_00: Right?
[35:38] SPEAKER_00: So his nickname was that, right?
[35:40] SPEAKER_00: Now, some of the scholars say this is talking about Nu'iman, probably not a separate person because it just matches up the other narrations to the other narrations.
[35:48] SPEAKER_00: And he came and he was brought and he was drunk and the people cursed him.
[35:53] SPEAKER_00: But listen to what the Prophet says.
[35:56] SPEAKER_00: So, don't support the shaitan against him.
[36:00] SPEAKER_00: And then he says, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, la ta'anuhu, do not curse him.
[36:11] SPEAKER_00: Because I swear that I know that he loves Allah and His Messenger.
[36:18] SPEAKER_00: That's probably the most stunning part of the entire hadith.
[36:25] SPEAKER_00: He loves Allah and His Messenger.
[36:29] SPEAKER_00: This is that balance that we can never find.
[36:32] SPEAKER_00: Right?
[36:33] SPEAKER_00: The sister who does this, the brother who does this, are they doing nothing wrong or are they, you know, cursed?
[36:39] SPEAKER_00: Like, wait, find that balance.
[36:41] SPEAKER_00: The Prophet is not being sentimental here.
[36:44] SPEAKER_00: He's not removing the sin.
[36:45] SPEAKER_00: He ordered the punishment, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
[36:48] SPEAKER_00: But the Prophet did not erase the person.
[36:52] SPEAKER_00: He didn't become cruel, alayhi salatu.
[36:55] SPEAKER_00: And he could still see a man drunk and say he loves Allah and His Messenger.
[37:01] SPEAKER_00: I know he loves Allah and His Messenger.
[37:05] SPEAKER_00: Imagine being Nu'iman and hearing the Prophet say that about you.
[37:10] SPEAKER_00: I know you love Allah and His Messenger.
[37:14] SPEAKER_00: You want to say that the person is bigger than the sin.
[37:17] SPEAKER_00: You love Allah and the Messenger.
[37:19] SPEAKER_00: You're better than this.
[37:20] SPEAKER_00: You fell.
[37:21] SPEAKER_00: The sin does not have to be your identity.
[37:24] SPEAKER_00: Your identity is you're still our abdu of Allah, a muhib, someone who loves Allah and the Messenger.
[37:32] SPEAKER_00: And so of the lessons here is the Prophet punishes the act, but he protects the person.
[37:37] SPEAKER_00: And he's telling us, don't make shaitan's job easier by convincing this person that he no longer belongs to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
[37:46] SPEAKER_00: Right?
[37:47] SPEAKER_00: And don't aid the shaytan against him by disconnecting him from the community.
[37:52] SPEAKER_00: So he has Allah and he has the Messenger of Allah inside of him.
[37:57] SPEAKER_00: The community corrects him so he doesn't fall further prey to the shaitan.
[38:03] SPEAKER_00: The community doesn't hand him to the shaitan.
[38:05] SPEAKER_00: The community corrects him in a way that says, You're better than this.
[38:09] SPEAKER_00: You love Allah.
[38:10] SPEAKER_00: I know you love Allah.
[38:12] SPEAKER_00: I know you have something in your heart that is good.
[38:14] SPEAKER_00: And I want you to increase that goodness and act upon that goodness.
[38:18] SPEAKER_00: Also, of the lessons, by the way, is the illuminat mentioned that ma'syyah and iman can go together.
[38:23] SPEAKER_00: The Prophet is testifying that he has faith.
[38:27] SPEAKER_00: But he sinned.
[38:28] SPEAKER_00: And he committed a major sin in this regard.
[38:33] SPEAKER_00: So unlike Hatlib and Abu Baba, radiallahu anhuma, who committed a major sin and then there was a way back to Allah, Nu'a Iman is repeating the sin.
[38:43] SPEAKER_00: He's struggling with the sin.
[38:44] SPEAKER_00: And there's a repetition here.
[38:46] SPEAKER_00: And some of you might remember, by the way, from the names of Allah series when we talked about this, the difference between Al-Ghafar and Al-Ghafur.
[38:53] SPEAKER_00: Al-Ghafar refers to Allah Azzawajal forgiving the repeated sins.
[39:00] SPEAKER_00: The quantity.
[39:04] SPEAKER_00: Allah keeps on forgiving if you repent to him sincerely.
[39:09] SPEAKER_00: Ghafur is the magnitude of Allah's mercy that it doesn't matter how bad the sin was.
[39:17] SPEAKER_00: Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala can forgive a sin, no matter how big it actually is, even the sins you can't remember, you can't recall.
[39:25] SPEAKER_00: It's all encompassed under Allah Azzawajal Al-Ghafur Subhanahu wa wa ta'ala.
[39:30] SPEAKER_00: So this is Nu'iman radiallahu ta'ala anhu, a Badri companion, and of the testimonies perhaps of how the Prophet saying what he said about him and believing in him, finding his redemption, is that we don't know of him ever being punished for this ever again.
[39:46] SPEAKER_00: And he lived through the whole era of Khulafa al-Rashidin, and there is no documentation of him ever relapsing into the sin again.
[39:53] SPEAKER_00: Radiallahu ta'ala anhu.
[39:55] SPEAKER_00: And he has a Sahabi who is Badri.
[39:58] SPEAKER_00: He's one of the Ansar.
[40:00] SPEAKER_00: He is one of those that we love and we make dua for, and he's one of those that we hope to meet in Jannah.

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