# Karen DEMANDS To Bring Her Dog TO MY WEDDING! | Reddit Stories

An episode of [Reddit Stories Podcast - Mr. Redder](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1516821033), 24 Oct 2026, 33 min.

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## Transcript

[0:00] Speaker 1: Welcome to r slash am I the jerk, where Karen
[0:02] Speaker 1: demands to bring her dog to OP's wedding. Am I
[0:05] Speaker 1: the jerk for refusing to let my sister-in-law bring her
[0:08] Speaker 1: dog to my wedding? So I, 35 male, am getting
[0:11] Speaker 1: married in two months. My fiancé, Sarah, and I have
[0:15] Speaker 1: been planning this wedding for well over a year and
[0:17] Speaker 1: we're both very excited. It's going to be a relatively
[0:20] Speaker 1: small event with close family and friends, very intimate. We're
[0:23] Speaker 1: having it at a beautiful outdoor venue with a lovely garden,
[0:26] Speaker 1: something we've dreamed of for a long time. Here's the issue.
[0:30] Speaker 1: My sister-in-law Emily has this dog and by this dog,
[0:34] Speaker 1: I mean a tiny yappy Pomeranian that she takes everywhere.
[0:38] Speaker 1: I'm talking everywhere. Family dinners, grocery shopping, you name it.
[0:42] Speaker 1: Emily is super attached to her dog and assumes that
[0:44] Speaker 1: wherever she goes, the dog goes too. It's basically like
[0:48] Speaker 1: her emotional support animal, though not officially. A couple of
[0:52] Speaker 1: weeks ago, she casually mentioned that she couldn't wait for
[0:54] Speaker 1: the wedding and joked about what the dog would wear.
[0:57] Speaker 1: I laughed thinking that she was joking Then it hit me.
[1:00] Speaker 1: She wasn't. She fully intends to bring her dog to
[1:03] Speaker 1: our wedding. I told her flat out, sorry, no dogs
[1:07] Speaker 1: at the wedding. Emily got really upset and told me
[1:10] Speaker 1: that her dog is like family. She claimed it would
[1:12] Speaker 1: be cruel to leave him behind for an entire day
[1:15] Speaker 1: and said that she couldn't enjoy our wedding if she
[1:17] Speaker 1: was worrying about him the whole time. She even said, well,
[1:21] Speaker 1: you know dogs can sense love, right? What's more loving
[1:24] Speaker 1: than a wedding? Sarah and I talked about it and
[1:27] Speaker 1: we both agree that a wedding is not a place
[1:29] Speaker 1: for a dog, especially one that barks at random people
[1:33] Speaker 1: and can be a bit of a handful. Not to mention,
[1:35] Speaker 1: my aunt is allergic to dogs and the venue has
[1:38] Speaker 1: a strict no pets policy. I explain all of this
[1:41] Speaker 1: to Emily, but she insists that I'm being unreasonable and
[1:44] Speaker 1: that everyone knows how much her dog means to her.
[1:47] Speaker 1: Now my future mother-in-law is getting involved and she's siding
[1:50] Speaker 1: with Emily, saying that family is family and I should
[1:53] Speaker 1: just let her bring the dog to keep the peace.
[1:56] Speaker 1: But Sarah is standing by me and we don't want
[1:58] Speaker 1: to compromise the atmosphere of our wedding for one guest's dog.
[2:02] Speaker 1: Am I the jerk for sticking to my no dog
[2:04] Speaker 1: rule and refusing to let Emily bring her pet to
[2:06] Speaker 1: our wedding? If the place has a no pets policy,
[2:10] Speaker 1: then that's that. It's not a no pets except Emily's
[2:13] Speaker 1: dog policy. Not the jerk. I've got dog kids too,
[2:18] Speaker 1: but the venue does not allow pets, end of story.
[2:21] Speaker 1: And even if it did, the bride and groom's wishes
[2:23] Speaker 1: govern at the wedding. Am I the jerk for telling
[2:26] Speaker 1: my adult kid that they can't have an expensive hobby?
[2:30] Speaker 1: For context, I, 45 female, have three adult kids who
[2:34] Speaker 1: are 20, 23, and 25, with my husband who's 46,
[2:38] Speaker 1: all of whom live at home for various reasons. The
[2:40] Speaker 1: issue I'm having is with my oldest, Poe. They've been
[2:43] Speaker 1: living at home for over a year now after moving
[2:46] Speaker 1: in with friends for a while, but the situation turned
[2:48] Speaker 1: bad and they needed to come home. Just like our
[2:51] Speaker 1: other kids, they're working part-time since the place they work
[2:54] Speaker 1: for won't give them full-time hours, and we only charge
[2:57] Speaker 1: them $ 100 a week for rent. This rent includes all utilities, food,
[3:01] Speaker 1: personal supplies, and gas for the car. Side note, the
[3:05] Speaker 1: car is actually mine, but since neither my oldest nor
[3:07] Speaker 1: youngest has a car, They share my car to get
[3:10] Speaker 1: back and forth to work, with occasional help from my husband.
[3:13] Speaker 1: The only other expenses they have are their portion of
[3:15] Speaker 1: the cell phone service, they're under our account, their portion
[3:18] Speaker 1: of the car insurance, student loan payments, and their splurges,
[3:22] Speaker 1: meaning Spotify, which they split with our youngest, a subscription
[3:25] Speaker 1: to Xbox Gold, and another subscription to a PlayStation service.
[3:29] Speaker 1: Here's my problem. They enjoy LARPing. LARP means live-action roleplay.
[3:34] Speaker 1: Think a sort of live-action Dungeons & Dragons. However, LARPing
[3:38] Speaker 1: can get expensive, well over $ 100. They owe us approximately
[3:42] Speaker 1: $ 350 in back rent due to us not charging them
[3:46] Speaker 1: rent when they weren't working at one point. Now, I
[3:49] Speaker 1: enjoy LARPing as well, and I plan on going to
[3:51] Speaker 1: next month's event. They started talking about how they're looking
[3:54] Speaker 1: forward to the event and how they'll just ride with us,
[3:57] Speaker 1: plus everything they're planning on doing. This doesn't sit well
[4:00] Speaker 1: with me since they owe us money and would be
[4:02] Speaker 1: losing income from not working an entire weekend when they
[4:05] Speaker 1: don't even work every day of the week. I want
[4:07] Speaker 1: to tell them that they can't go for these reasons,
[4:10] Speaker 1: but I know that there will be a lot of backlash,
[4:12] Speaker 1: plus they might end up going anyway since they have
[4:14] Speaker 1: friends who are going and would give them a ride.
[4:17] Speaker 1: We already have somewhat of a strained relationship and they
[4:19] Speaker 1: rarely talk to me unless it's about themselves. They tend
[4:22] Speaker 1: to either shut down or explode at me if I
[4:25] Speaker 1: say anything that comes across as even slightly critical. I've
[4:28] Speaker 1: told them that they can't go and that I will
[4:30] Speaker 1: put restrictions on them, like not allowing them out of
[4:32] Speaker 1: the house, even to see their friends, except for work
[4:35] Speaker 1: and medical appointments. I've already banned them from using the
[4:38] Speaker 1: car for anything other than those. So, am I the
[4:41] Speaker 1: jerk for putting my foot down and saying they can't
[4:44] Speaker 1: go and that there would be repercussions if they do?
[4:47] Speaker 1: You're the jerk. They might be under your roof, but
[4:50] Speaker 1: you absolutely cannot prevent them from leaving the house. They're
[4:53] Speaker 1: an adult and some things you just don't have a
[4:56] Speaker 1: say in whether they live with you or not. That's controlling.
[4:59] Speaker 1: Want to ban them from using your car? Fine. Don't
[5:02] Speaker 1: want to take them to your LARP event? Cool. You
[5:05] Speaker 1: can't keep them locked up in the house though. You
[5:07] Speaker 1: are mostly reasonable up until this point. Either stop them
[5:10] Speaker 1: from using your car or give them X amount of
[5:12] Speaker 1: days to pay you back on rent or they need
[5:14] Speaker 1: to live somewhere else. You're the jerk. Expecting your adult
[5:19] Speaker 1: kid to pay back the money they owe you is
[5:21] Speaker 1: perfectly reasonable. You should formalize a payment schedule agreement with
[5:24] Speaker 1: them and stick to it. Wanting to teach your adult
[5:27] Speaker 1: kid to be more financially responsible so they can get
[5:30] Speaker 1: out of debt and eventually start building their own wealth
[5:32] Speaker 1: and living independent of you and your husband is also
[5:35] Speaker 1: perfectly reasonable. However, while they may be your kid, they
[5:38] Speaker 1: are no longer in fact a kid and treating them
[5:41] Speaker 1: like one is a great way to permanently ruin your
[5:43] Speaker 1: relationship with them. You can't ground a 25-year-old and it's
[5:47] Speaker 1: ridiculous that you even think this is an option. No
[5:50] Speaker 1: wonder your relationship is strained. Let's play make-believe for a minute.
[5:54] Speaker 1: Imagine you have an extra room in your house and
[5:56] Speaker 1: you decide to rent it out to someone. This person
[5:58] Speaker 1: is not a relative of yours. Your relationship with them
[6:01] Speaker 1: is that of a landlord and a tenant. At one point,
[6:03] Speaker 1: your tenant is between jobs and gets behind on rent.
[6:06] Speaker 1: After a few months, they go back to work. You
[6:09] Speaker 1: don't set up a formal agreement with them about paying
[6:11] Speaker 1: back what they owe you, but instead you start tracking
[6:14] Speaker 1: their whereabouts and purchases. And when you learn what they're
[6:16] Speaker 1: spending their money on and you think they're wasting it,
[6:19] Speaker 1: you tell them that they're forbidden to leave the house
[6:21] Speaker 1: for social engagements. Does this sound completely insane to you?
[6:24] Speaker 1: Because it should. If you want your kid to start
[6:26] Speaker 1: acting like an adult, you need to also start treating
[6:29] Speaker 1: them like one. Everyone sucks here. Three adult kids with
[6:33] Speaker 1: part-time jobs and no car? I don't even want to
[6:36] Speaker 1: know how it comes to this. My kid can live
[6:38] Speaker 1: with me rent-free on the following conditions. Full-time school with
[6:41] Speaker 1: part-time job or full-time work. Pay their own bills with
[6:45] Speaker 1: their own income. Phone, insurance, entertainment. I would carry them
[6:49] Speaker 1: on health insurance as long as possible, but the co-pays
[6:51] Speaker 1: and coinsurance are on them. Have their own transportation. I
[6:55] Speaker 1: don't care if they rely on the bus, use a bike,
[6:57] Speaker 1: or own a car. If they needed to borrow my
[6:59] Speaker 1: car once in a while, that's fine. If they're staying
[7:02] Speaker 1: at home as adults and aren't handling their own crap,
[7:04] Speaker 1: They will be treated like kids until they figure it out.
[7:07] Speaker 1: I'm sorry you're in your 20s, but your room needs
[7:09] Speaker 1: to be cleaned daily or your cell phone gets restricted
[7:12] Speaker 1: to family calls only. You get your Xbox and PlayStation
[7:15] Speaker 1: taken away. You get allowance for your chores, which is
[7:18] Speaker 1: no more than $ 5 an hour for actual work at
[7:20] Speaker 1: my discretion. You will also have chores just for being
[7:23] Speaker 1: a member of the household. Want out of all that
[7:25] Speaker 1: childish BS? Get a full-time job and handle your crap
[7:29] Speaker 1: like an adult. Do that and you can live here
[7:31] Speaker 1: rent-free as long as you clean up after yourself and
[7:34] Speaker 1: minimally help when needed. I love you, kid, and my
[7:36] Speaker 1: job is to make sure that you grow up. Edit.
[7:39] Speaker 1: They will have a curfew if they aren't acting like adults.
[7:42] Speaker 1: 10pm on weekdays, midnight on weekends. Heck, I might have
[7:46] Speaker 1: them sleep in a camp trailer or something when the
[7:48] Speaker 1: weather allows for it. As far as the LARPing goes,
[7:51] Speaker 1: no problem as long as they can pay for it themselves.
[7:53] Speaker 1: If they can't, I will help where I can to
[7:56] Speaker 1: have a good time with my kids. As far as
[7:58] Speaker 1: the back rent goes, I wouldn't even worry about it.
[8:00] Speaker 1: Family should help family when necessary. If they were off
[8:03] Speaker 1: work for about a month while looking for a new job,
[8:06] Speaker 1: that's just reasonable help. The income difference between my boyfriend
[8:10] Speaker 1: and I makes me uncomfortable. For the past nine months
[8:14] Speaker 1: or so, I've been dating a wonderful guy. I have
[8:16] Speaker 1: zero complaints about him personally, but something that keeps coming
[8:19] Speaker 1: up is that he's financially much better off than I am.
[8:22] Speaker 1: For reference, I'm an administrative assistant, a secretary for a
[8:26] Speaker 1: large company. I manage a VP's calendar, schedule meetings, handle
[8:30] Speaker 1: expense reports, and process invoices. I make about $ 65, 000 a year,
[8:34] Speaker 1: but I live in a high-cost suburb with my parents
[8:37] Speaker 1: due to some poor life decisions. My boyfriend works in
[8:40] Speaker 1: IT security or something like that, and he makes almost
[8:43] Speaker 1: 10 times what I make. He's fully remote and lives
[8:46] Speaker 1: in a beautiful house he bought during lockdown, but he
[8:48] Speaker 1: lives by himself. I think he's planning to propose soon.
[8:51] Speaker 1: Maybe I'm just overwhelmed by emotion and feelings of inadequacy.
[8:55] Speaker 1: but I feel weird being financially spoiled and worried about
[8:58] Speaker 1: what things will look like in the future. I know
[9:00] Speaker 1: that it's a first world problem, but I feel awkward
[9:03] Speaker 1: trying to keep up. Some examples. He travels every other
[9:07] Speaker 1: week for two to three days. Since he has a
[9:09] Speaker 1: lot of hotel, airline, and Uber points, he often offers
[9:12] Speaker 1: for me to travel with him, which usually falls on
[9:14] Speaker 1: my remote days. We often extend the trip into the
[9:17] Speaker 1: weekend or take a light work day. He only has
[9:20] Speaker 1: to buy my flight since his meals, travel, and the
[9:23] Speaker 1: hotel are expensed. but I still feel bad because it's
[9:26] Speaker 1: about $ 400 every other week. He buys me pretty much
[9:29] Speaker 1: anything I show interest in. Like last month, I mentioned
[9:32] Speaker 1: that someday I'd love to have an electric bike to
[9:34] Speaker 1: run errands in our little downtown area, and last week
[9:37] Speaker 1: he bought me one, and they aren't cheap. We've had
[9:40] Speaker 1: some kind of date every weekend since the beginning of
[9:43] Speaker 1: the year. We've done cooking classes, hot air balloon rides, sailing,
[9:47] Speaker 1: fancy restaurants, football games, baseball games, all kinds of stuff.
[9:51] Speaker 1: He plans it all. I couldn't afford even a tenth
[9:53] Speaker 1: of it. He bought me nice jewelry about a month
[9:56] Speaker 1: into our relationship and introduced me to this capsule wardrobe
[9:59] Speaker 1: con which has basically been an excuse to buy me
[10:02] Speaker 1: really expensive clothing and accessories but they're everyday things. I
[10:06] Speaker 1: absolutely love it but I also feel guilty. An admin
[10:09] Speaker 1: like me shouldn't have the wardrobe I do. I want
[10:12] Speaker 1: to tell him to not offer me these things anymore
[10:15] Speaker 1: or maybe plan more affordable adventures so I can contribute financially.
[10:18] Speaker 1: but I don't want him to lower his standards for
[10:20] Speaker 1: vacations or fun just for me. A lot of this
[10:23] Speaker 1: probably comes from growing up in an upper middle class
[10:25] Speaker 1: family and then ruining my opportunities due to poor life choices.
[10:29] Speaker 1: Now I feel like I don't deserve nice things. It
[10:32] Speaker 1: just makes me feel like I'll never be able to
[10:34] Speaker 1: properly thank him or return the favor. Should I start
[10:37] Speaker 1: turning down some dates and gifts? Or should I talk
[10:39] Speaker 1: to him about doing cheaper things solely because I want
[10:42] Speaker 1: to be able to pay my share or at least
[10:44] Speaker 1: a quarter of it? He honestly just seems happy to
[10:47] Speaker 1: spend some of his hard-earned money on someone that he loves.
[10:51] Speaker 1: I have a much easier time spending my money on
[10:53] Speaker 1: my loved ones than myself. I don't know why, but
[10:56] Speaker 1: maybe he feels the same. I want your problems. I
[10:59] Speaker 1: doubt he cares. I've always made more than my wife.
[11:02] Speaker 1: It's just part of life. Make the wage gap work
[11:05] Speaker 1: for you or whatever they're saying these days. Speaking as
[11:08] Speaker 1: someone in a similar situation to your boyfriend, please don't
[11:11] Speaker 1: feel the need to provide the same value financially. I
[11:14] Speaker 1: don't want to say for certain, but I'd wager he's
[11:16] Speaker 1: just like the rest of us. The emotional support you
[11:19] Speaker 1: provide far outweighs the difference in finances. Making money is
[11:22] Speaker 1: almost the easy part here. Finding someone who's with you
[11:25] Speaker 1: through thick and thin and is an emotional support to
[11:28] Speaker 1: fall back on is much harder. You should tell him
[11:30] Speaker 1: how you feel though if you want reassurance. I'm sure
[11:33] Speaker 1: you two can work out a way to make you
[11:34] Speaker 1: feel like you're contributing equitably to the relationship. OP Yeah,
[11:39] Speaker 1: he had mentioned that he has not had a good
[11:41] Speaker 1: time dating and has had trouble finding someone he can
[11:44] Speaker 1: be himself around since he has to be someone else,
[11:46] Speaker 1: more outgoing, for work. So, I got that going for me.
[11:51] Speaker 1: My boss reprimanded me for not answering an email in
[11:54] Speaker 1: four minutes. I've been at my new job for just
[11:57] Speaker 1: over a month and have serious doubts about whether it's
[11:59] Speaker 1: going to work out. I'm finding it impossible to make
[12:02] Speaker 1: my supervisor, Martha, happy. Her criticism is frequent, harsh, and
[12:07] Speaker 1: in my opinion, often very unreasonable. The incident that has
[12:10] Speaker 1: me writing happened today when she reprimanded me in writing
[12:13] Speaker 1: for failing to answer an email in four minutes. Earlier
[12:16] Speaker 1: this week, Martha and my other boss, I support two teams,
[12:20] Speaker 1: but it's an uneven split. Unfortunately, my primary boss is
[12:23] Speaker 1: the difficult one, had a meeting with me where Martha
[12:26] Speaker 1: outlined all the things I was doing wrong and that
[12:28] Speaker 1: needed to change. I'm trying to understand her perspective, but
[12:31] Speaker 1: I'm not used to a work environment like this. She
[12:34] Speaker 1: proudly describes herself as a micromanager, apparently unaware that the
[12:38] Speaker 1: term has a negative connotation, and expects constant immediate responsiveness. Over-communication,
[12:44] Speaker 1: her words, and accountability. I understand she's the boss and
[12:47] Speaker 1: it's her call, but it's been a hard adjustment. Every
[12:50] Speaker 1: job I've had before focused on results, not on knowing
[12:53] Speaker 1: exactly where I am every minute or expecting instant responses.
[12:58] Speaker 1: All week, I've worked really hard to keep her happy
[13:00] Speaker 1: and show that I took her feedback seriously. Then today,
[13:03] Speaker 1: I received an email which Martha was cc'd on from
[13:06] Speaker 1: a senior partner asking for contact info for one of
[13:09] Speaker 1: our clients. I saw the email come in while I
[13:11] Speaker 1: was working on a project for the other boss. I
[13:14] Speaker 1: made the apparently grave error of not stopping instantly. Instead,
[13:18] Speaker 1: I finished the line in the Excel sheet I was
[13:20] Speaker 1: working on, then opened the email and started gathering the
[13:23] Speaker 1: requested info. Before I finished, Martha replied to both of us,
[13:27] Speaker 1: sending the partner the requested information, which for the record
[13:30] Speaker 1: was wrong, but I'll get to that later. Her email
[13:33] Speaker 1: arrived in my inbox a mere four minutes after the
[13:36] Speaker 1: original email from the partner. I stopped working on my
[13:39] Speaker 1: response since it was no longer necessary and returned to
[13:41] Speaker 1: my original project. Then I received an email from Martha. Jane,
[13:46] Speaker 1: this would have been a great opportunity to build a
[13:48] Speaker 1: relationship with the partner. Why didn't you dive in and assist?
[13:52] Speaker 1: Four minutes. A bathroom break can take four minutes. I
[13:56] Speaker 1: feel like she's determined to dislike me. I tried so
[13:58] Speaker 1: hard all week to follow her preferences and she still
[14:01] Speaker 1: found something to criticize. If she wanted me to respond
[14:04] Speaker 1: to the email, why didn't she give me a grace
[14:06] Speaker 1: period of, you know, maybe 5 minutes before answering it herself? Also,
[14:11] Speaker 1: as I said earlier, she gave him the wrong information.
[14:14] Speaker 1: He asked for the email address and she gave the
[14:16] Speaker 1: physical address. It seemed like she was so eager to
[14:18] Speaker 1: reply just so she could blame me for not answering
[14:21] Speaker 1: that she rushed in and sent the wrong info. By
[14:24] Speaker 1: the way, if I had sent incorrect information to a partner,
[14:27] Speaker 1: She would have acted like it was a catastrophe. But
[14:29] Speaker 1: when she does it, no big deal. For the record,
[14:32] Speaker 1: I understand some things are very time sensitive, but I
[14:35] Speaker 1: still think four minutes is a stretch for almost any situation.
[14:38] Speaker 1: This wasn't an urgent request. It could have waited five,
[14:41] Speaker 1: maybe even ten minutes. I'm not asking if my boss
[14:44] Speaker 1: is being reasonable here. I'm confident she's not. My question is,
[14:48] Speaker 1: should I start looking for a new job? This criticism
[14:50] Speaker 1: feels so unreasonable that I'm starting to think I'll never
[14:53] Speaker 1: make her happy. She either doesn't know how to manage
[14:56] Speaker 1: people or has developed an instant dislike for me and
[14:58] Speaker 1: will keep finding things to criticize no matter how hard
[15:01] Speaker 1: I try. I've been so stressed since starting this job,
[15:04] Speaker 1: constantly worrying about messing up, which, not surprisingly, probably makes
[15:08] Speaker 1: me mess up more. Is this salvageable or should I
[15:11] Speaker 1: start planning an escape? Update. Their responses were helpful. Martha
[15:15] Speaker 1: has messed with my head so much that I genuinely
[15:18] Speaker 1: started doubting myself. I even thought you might side with
[15:20] Speaker 1: her and ask, but why did it take you four
[15:23] Speaker 1: whole minutes to answer the email? So for you and
[15:25] Speaker 1: the commenters to reassure me that she was being unreasonable
[15:28] Speaker 1: was a big relief. As for the update, well, she
[15:31] Speaker 1: fired me. Yes, I took your advice and started looking
[15:34] Speaker 1: for a new job. She fired me before I could
[15:37] Speaker 1: find one. The 4 minute email incident happened about a
[15:40] Speaker 1: month after I started and I got fired just under
[15:42] Speaker 1: the 3 month mark. The official reason was that I
[15:45] Speaker 1: was making too many mistakes and they couldn't trust me
[15:47] Speaker 1: with my assignments. I'm curious how things are going with
[15:50] Speaker 1: my replacement if saving a draft in the wrong folder
[15:53] Speaker 1: and your first month at a new job qualifies as
[15:56] Speaker 1: a fireable offense. I did make mistakes, more than I
[15:59] Speaker 1: usually do, but I think it was because of how
[16:01] Speaker 1: Martha treated me. She was so volatile that I didn't
[16:04] Speaker 1: even feel comfortable asking questions and she would often disappear
[16:07] Speaker 1: for hours at a time. Meanwhile, I'd get in trouble
[16:10] Speaker 1: for missing a phone call because I was using the restroom.
[16:13] Speaker 1: Many times, I had to make my best guess, and somehow,
[16:16] Speaker 1: my best guess was always wrong. She would often send
[16:19] Speaker 1: me work with compressed deadlines, so I usually didn't have
[16:22] Speaker 1: the time to proofread or double check. Sometimes, I even
[16:25] Speaker 1: suspected she was moving the goalposts. She'd say, I told
[16:28] Speaker 1: you to do X, not Y. And I'd think, but
[16:32] Speaker 1: never say out loud, I don't think you did actually.
[16:35] Speaker 1: Other times it was clear she was just inventing reasons
[16:37] Speaker 1: to go off on me, like with the 4-minute email.
[16:40] Speaker 1: When that email incident happened, I knew deep down she
[16:43] Speaker 1: would never let up. She was always going to find
[16:45] Speaker 1: something to criticize and I suspected she'd eventually fire me
[16:49] Speaker 1: or make my life so miserable that I'd quit. That
[16:51] Speaker 1: prediction played out many times in the following weeks. If
[16:54] Speaker 1: I made a minor mistake, she'd blow up. If I
[16:57] Speaker 1: didn't make a mistake, she'd invent one. For example, she
[17:00] Speaker 1: emailed me once to say, The meeting has been over
[17:03] Speaker 1: for 30 minutes. By this point, you should have emailed
[17:06] Speaker 1: me to ask what our next steps are. Maybe, but
[17:09] Speaker 1: I hesitated to reach out to a volatile boss who
[17:11] Speaker 1: criticizes everything I say or do. I just couldn't win.
[17:14] Speaker 1: The whole experience was horrible, stressful, and completely demoralizing. The
[17:19] Speaker 1: good news is that I found another job, and I'm
[17:20] Speaker 1: much happier now. The first few weeks were tough though,
[17:23] Speaker 1: as I tried to put the experience with Martha behind me.
[17:26] Speaker 1: I was afraid to ask questions, and I constantly feared
[17:29] Speaker 1: I'd be fired for making even the smallest mistake. But
[17:32] Speaker 1: as time passed, I realized I was now working with
[17:34] Speaker 1: reasonable people, and things got much better. While I didn't
[17:37] Speaker 1: get out of my previous job in time, I'm grateful
[17:40] Speaker 1: for your responses because it helped me to keep some
[17:42] Speaker 1: perspective during a really awful experience. It's hard to accept
[17:46] Speaker 1: that someone could bully me like this, be completely in
[17:48] Speaker 1: the wrong, fire me, and still get away with it.
[17:51] Speaker 1: But all I can do now is look forward. We've
[17:54] Speaker 1: all had a Martha. Forget them and move on. I
[17:58] Speaker 1: remember mine well. I stayed for far too long and
[18:02] Speaker 1: the next folks at my next company looked at me
[18:04] Speaker 1: funny for months due to my blissful happiness at having
[18:07] Speaker 1: a normal workplace again. Micromanagers aren't worth the effort. Anyone
[18:11] Speaker 1: sabotaging an employee this badly, this early warrants a thanks
[18:15] Speaker 1: but no thanks as you walk out the door. Am
[18:18] Speaker 1: I the jerk for suing my cousin for $ 6, 000 to
[18:21] Speaker 1: pay for my hearing aids after he threw me in
[18:23] Speaker 1: the pool? My family is all on my cousin's side
[18:26] Speaker 1: regarding this issue, and I wanted some outside judgment. My cousin, 25, male,
[18:31] Speaker 1: has always been the golden child of our generation. He's funny, good-looking,
[18:34] Speaker 1: and outgoing, not to mention a boy among girls. He's
[18:38] Speaker 1: always loved to mess around and play pranks. For the record,
[18:41] Speaker 1: I really dislike this cousin. I think he's irresponsible, childish,
[18:44] Speaker 1: and annoying. I've had hearing problems for years. I recently
[18:48] Speaker 1: got a $ 6, 000 pair of hearing aids. Recently, at my
[18:51] Speaker 1: grandmother's birthday party, we were all eating and drinking on
[18:54] Speaker 1: the back porch. My grandmother has a pool. My cousin
[18:57] Speaker 1: decided he was going to throw me in the pool
[18:59] Speaker 1: because it would be funny to ruin my hair, which
[19:02] Speaker 1: I had just gotten done that day. I repeatedly told
[19:05] Speaker 1: him to stop and put me down in a very
[19:06] Speaker 1: serious and not playful tone. He threw me in the
[19:09] Speaker 1: pool and my hearing aids were ruined. Afterward, when I
[19:12] Speaker 1: told him what happened, he basically said, Whoops, didn't know
[19:16] Speaker 1: you had hearing aids now. When I told him the
[19:18] Speaker 1: cost of them and that he would have to replace them,
[19:20] Speaker 1: He freaked out and said, no way. My family didn't
[19:24] Speaker 1: want me to make him pay for them because I
[19:26] Speaker 1: significantly out-earned him and everyone else in the family. He
[19:29] Speaker 1: was in college at the time, barely making ends meet
[19:32] Speaker 1: in a call center job. His girlfriend and he have
[19:34] Speaker 1: a baby and they live in a one-bedroom apartment. He
[19:37] Speaker 1: refused to pay, so I took him to court. I won.
[19:40] Speaker 1: He refused to make the payments after, so I took
[19:42] Speaker 1: him back to court and his wages are now being
[19:45] Speaker 1: garnished for the maximum amount, which is 20% of his
[19:48] Speaker 1: total wages. It pushed him over the edge of what
[19:50] Speaker 1: he could afford, so he's had to work extra and
[19:52] Speaker 1: drop out of college to be able to pay their rent.
[19:55] Speaker 1: My family is absolutely fuming at me. I think he
[19:58] Speaker 1: made one bad choice after another, and he has never
[20:00] Speaker 1: given a sincere apology during this whole ordeal. Had he
[20:03] Speaker 1: given a real apology after the incident and asked if
[20:06] Speaker 1: he could wait until he finished school to pay me back,
[20:08] Speaker 1: I would have been fine with it. But the entitled
[20:10] Speaker 1: little jerk is digging his heels in at every turn.
[20:13] Speaker 1: Am I the jerk? The only reason I could see
[20:15] Speaker 1: me maybe being the jerk here is because it's affecting
[20:18] Speaker 1: his kid and his girlfriend. Not the jerk. Where he
[20:22] Speaker 1: messed up was not negotiating a payment plan with you
[20:25] Speaker 1: that he could afford after he did it. A 20%
[20:27] Speaker 1: garnish is a harsh way to learn his lesson, but
[20:30] Speaker 1: he earned that lesson. Yup. and he can go back
[20:34] Speaker 1: to court and request a lower percentage if it's really
[20:36] Speaker 1: hurting him. That he hasn't done so just shows me
[20:39] Speaker 1: that he'd rather play victim and try to make her
[20:41] Speaker 1: look bad. The court would listen to, in school, has
[20:44] Speaker 1: a wife, has a kid, and likely adjust that percentage
[20:47] Speaker 1: until after graduation. Am I the jerk for refusing to
[20:51] Speaker 1: pay for my niece's wedding after promising to cover it?
[20:54] Speaker 1: So I'm a 35-year-old guy, and I've always been close
[20:56] Speaker 1: with my older sister, Emily, who's 38, and her daughter, Lily,
[21:00] Speaker 1: who's 22. Emily had Lily when she was young, 16,
[21:03] Speaker 1: and since she was a single mom for most of it,
[21:05] Speaker 1: I've always tried to help out where I could. Over
[21:08] Speaker 1: the years, I've paid for Lily's summer camps, her college applications,
[21:11] Speaker 1: and even her first car. I did this because I
[21:14] Speaker 1: love them both and always wanted to support them. A
[21:17] Speaker 1: year ago, Lily got engaged to her long-term boyfriend. When
[21:20] Speaker 1: they announced the engagement at a family dinner, I said
[21:22] Speaker 1: I'd be happy to help with their wedding expenses. I
[21:25] Speaker 1: never said I'd pay for everything, but apparently my offer
[21:28] Speaker 1: was interpreted as me footing the bill for the whole wedding.
[21:31] Speaker 1: It became clear when Lily and Emily started planning a
[21:33] Speaker 1: big extravagant affair. Destination wedding, 200 plus guests, you name it.
[21:39] Speaker 1: I sat them down and said I'd contribute $ 15, 000, which
[21:42] Speaker 1: I thought was a pretty generous amount. But they both
[21:45] Speaker 1: seemed really upset. Lily said I promised to pay for
[21:48] Speaker 1: the wedding and Emily backed her up saying I always
[21:51] Speaker 1: supported them and this was the least I could do. Apparently,
[21:54] Speaker 1: they were expecting I'd cover a $ 50, 000 wedding. I told
[21:58] Speaker 1: them that wasn't happening. 15,000 was all I could give. Now,
[22:02] Speaker 1: here's where things get worse. Lily and Emily stopped including
[22:05] Speaker 1: me in the wedding planning entirely. I didn't hear much
[22:08] Speaker 1: from them for a while and it turns out they
[22:09] Speaker 1: booked everything for the wedding thinking I'd eventually cave and
[22:12] Speaker 1: cover it. Now they're in over their heads and the
[22:15] Speaker 1: wedding is in just three months. Emily called me crying
[22:18] Speaker 1: saying they were going to lose deposits and that I
[22:20] Speaker 1: ruined the wedding by not coming through. Lily isn't speaking
[22:24] Speaker 1: to me. Here's the kicker. Emily and Lily are now
[22:27] Speaker 1: saying I'm being manipulative. offering to help and then taking
[22:30] Speaker 1: it away at the last second, making them look bad
[22:32] Speaker 1: in front of the groom's family. They claim they never
[22:34] Speaker 1: would have planned something so extravagant if I hadn't promised
[22:37] Speaker 1: to cover it. But I never said that. I said
[22:40] Speaker 1: I would help. I feel like I've done more than
[22:42] Speaker 1: enough over the years, but now I'm being treated like
[22:44] Speaker 1: the villain for not paying for this giant wedding. Am
[22:47] Speaker 1: I the jerk? Not the jerk. How incredibly entitled. I
[22:52] Speaker 1: think it's absolutely awful that they're trying to take advantage
[22:55] Speaker 1: of your generosity. If an uncle offered to give me $ 15, 000
[22:57] Speaker 1: for anything, I'd be so grateful. They dug this hole themselves,
[23:02] Speaker 1: and now they're finding out your boundaries are, in fact,
[23:05] Speaker 1: actual boundaries that you plan to stick to. Good for you.
[23:09] Speaker 1: They could have planned a perfectly good wedding for $ 15, 000
[23:12] Speaker 1: or threw in a bit of their own money for
[23:14] Speaker 1: a $ 20, 000 wedding. Yesterday, my husband and I were in
[23:20] Speaker 1: our fenced backyard prepping to paint our house when a
[23:23] Speaker 1: drone buzzed overhead. I hate drones, but sometimes they fly by, whatever.
[23:28] Speaker 1: This one, however, stopped about 20 feet directly over our
[23:31] Speaker 1: house and hovered for a minute or two before zipping off.
[23:35] Speaker 1: I pointed it out and wondered who in our remote
[23:37] Speaker 1: rural neighborhood had one and why they would be taking
[23:40] Speaker 1: pictures of us. My husband thought it might be the
[23:42] Speaker 1: underwriter for our new insurance company, so we went out
[23:45] Speaker 1: the gate to see. There was a guy parked on
[23:47] Speaker 1: the street clearly operating it. My husband called out to
[23:50] Speaker 1: the guy, asking if he was with the insurance. The
[23:53] Speaker 1: guy just turned his back to us, so I hollered,
[23:56] Speaker 1: still from a distance, asking who he was. He finally
[23:59] Speaker 1: answered that he was taking pictures for a real estate listing.
[24:02] Speaker 1: I informed him, not particularly kindly, that this was my house,
[24:05] Speaker 1: and it wasn't being listed. He then pointed at our
[24:08] Speaker 1: neighbor's house, but that didn't explain why he was hovering
[24:11] Speaker 1: over our house, and when I said so, he replied with,
[24:14] Speaker 1: INCORRECT AND WRONG. I demanded to see the footage because
[24:18] Speaker 1: I quite literally watched him fly it over our house,
[24:21] Speaker 1: but of course he wouldn't show it to us. It
[24:24] Speaker 1: ended with him saying he didn't see what the problem
[24:26] Speaker 1: was and us pointing out that people don't like it
[24:28] Speaker 1: when strange men fly drones over their fenced backyards where
[24:31] Speaker 1: they have a reasonable expectation of privacy. In the moment
[24:35] Speaker 1: I was too heated to think and as we stomped
[24:37] Speaker 1: back to our house, it became clear that he was
[24:39] Speaker 1: over our house to get an aerial shot of the
[24:41] Speaker 1: neighbor's house. So why didn't he just say that, instead
[24:44] Speaker 1: of calling me a liar and saying he never flew
[24:47] Speaker 1: the drone over our house? That in itself is sketchy
[24:50] Speaker 1: to me. No threats were made, no cops were called,
[24:53] Speaker 1: but we felt pretty justified in our anger, especially given
[24:56] Speaker 1: his lying and gaslighting. Our neighbor on the other hand
[24:59] Speaker 1: texted and said we were lunatics for confronting the guy
[25:01] Speaker 1: and that it was no big deal. I asked how
[25:04] Speaker 1: he'd feel if some strange man flew a drone over
[25:06] Speaker 1: his house while his kids were outside. He refused to
[25:09] Speaker 1: answer that and just kept implying we were out of line.
[25:12] Speaker 1: So Reddit, were we? Not the jerk at all. If
[25:16] Speaker 1: he truly is a professional and had legitimate reasons to
[25:19] Speaker 1: be flying his drone over your house, professional courtesy would
[25:22] Speaker 1: dictate that he talk to you about it first and
[25:24] Speaker 1: assure you that he's not doing anything other than taking
[25:26] Speaker 1: some photos for the real estate listing. He could even
[25:29] Speaker 1: offer to show them to you afterwards. If I were you,
[25:32] Speaker 1: I would ask the neighbors or simply check on your
[25:34] Speaker 1: local listing site who the realtor is and contact their agency.
[25:38] Speaker 1: I'm certain that any reputable firm wouldn't want to be
[25:40] Speaker 1: represented in that manner. Tricking my slacker coworker into sabotaging himself.
[25:47] Speaker 1: I work in an office with a guy I'll call Seth.
[25:49] Speaker 1: Seth is that coworker everyone knows. Lazy, always passing his
[25:53] Speaker 1: work on to someone else and somehow always getting away
[25:56] Speaker 1: with it. He'll sit around on his phone or go
[25:58] Speaker 1: to the bathroom every 10 minutes. He's the kind of
[26:00] Speaker 1: guy who shows up late, makes some lame excuse about traffic,
[26:04] Speaker 1: and then disappears for lunch for two hours. For the
[26:07] Speaker 1: past six months, Seth's favorite target has been me. He'll
[26:10] Speaker 1: send emails asking if I can help out with a project,
[26:13] Speaker 1: but what he really means is, do all the work
[26:16] Speaker 1: while I take the credit. I complained to my boss
[26:18] Speaker 1: a couple of times, but somehow Seth always managed to
[26:21] Speaker 1: weasel his way out of trouble. The final straw came
[26:24] Speaker 1: when he passed off a major report that was due
[26:26] Speaker 1: to a client in two days dumping it on me
[26:28] Speaker 1: last minute. One day, I casually asked him if he
[26:32] Speaker 1: was good with Excel, and he admitted he didn't know
[26:34] Speaker 1: much about it. Perfect. The next time Seth tried to
[26:37] Speaker 1: dump a bunch of spreadsheets on me to organize for
[26:39] Speaker 1: his next report, I agreed, but this time I embedded
[26:42] Speaker 1: a series of hidden formulas into the documents. These formulas
[26:46] Speaker 1: didn't do anything important, just enough to mess with the
[26:48] Speaker 1: numbers if someone didn't know how to check for hidden cells.
[26:51] Speaker 1: It took me a little while, but I was careful
[26:53] Speaker 1: not to make it too obvious. The kicker? Every time
[26:56] Speaker 1: Seth tried to copy and paste the data into his report,
[26:59] Speaker 1: it would scramble everything just enough to be completely useless.
[27:02] Speaker 1: On the day the report was due, Seth slacked off
[27:05] Speaker 1: like usual, assuming I had handled it like always. When
[27:08] Speaker 1: the client called, furious because the report was filled with
[27:11] Speaker 1: nonsense numbers, Seth panicked. He rushed to fix it, but
[27:14] Speaker 1: every time he tried to fix one part of the report,
[27:16] Speaker 1: something else would break. He came to me, frantic, and
[27:19] Speaker 1: asked for help. I acted confused and said, Oh, I
[27:23] Speaker 1: don't know what happened. Maybe it's a glitch. I gave
[27:26] Speaker 1: him some vague advice and watched as he spent the
[27:28] Speaker 1: entire day trying to salvage his mess. Our boss found
[27:31] Speaker 1: out and for once, Seth couldn't talk his way out
[27:34] Speaker 1: of it. He got in trouble for messing up such
[27:36] Speaker 1: an important project and was put on temporary leave without pay.
[27:40] Speaker 1: I guess he'll be doing his own work from now on.
[27:43] Speaker 1: Hired a private investigator to watch my fiance on her
[27:46] Speaker 1: girls trip and now my life is over. To cut
[27:50] Speaker 1: a long story short, my fiance and I have been
[27:52] Speaker 1: together for five years. Every year, she goes on this
[27:56] Speaker 1: girls-only trip with her close friends. Something in my gut
[27:59] Speaker 1: had been bothering me about these trips. Maybe it was
[28:01] Speaker 1: the slight changes in her behavior afterwards or the cryptic
[28:05] Speaker 1: conversations I'd overhear. Instead of directly confronting her, I did
[28:09] Speaker 1: something I'm deeply ashamed of. I hired a private investigator
[28:12] Speaker 1: to watch her during her recent trip. I got back
[28:15] Speaker 1: the results a few days ago, and as much as
[28:17] Speaker 1: I regret violating her privacy, my suspicions were not unfounded.
[28:22] Speaker 1: The private investigator presented evidence of her being unfaithful. It
[28:25] Speaker 1: broke my heart. Now I'm caught in this storm of emotions.
[28:29] Speaker 1: On one hand, I deeply regret snooping and not trusting
[28:32] Speaker 1: her enough to talk about it. On the other hand,
[28:35] Speaker 1: the betrayal from her side feels even more significant. I
[28:38] Speaker 1: love her, but I can't see a future together anymore.
[28:41] Speaker 1: How do I even approach this situation? Do I confess
[28:44] Speaker 1: my snooping or just end things without revealing the reason?
[28:47] Speaker 1: Any advice is welcome. Just tell her you know. You
[28:51] Speaker 1: don't have to give details. She's not going to tell
[28:54] Speaker 1: all her details. Be glad you didn't marry her. Move on, dude.
[28:58] Speaker 1: When she asks why, say that you know she's cheating
[29:01] Speaker 1: and leave it at that. Don't tell her anything else.
[29:04] Speaker 1: Her punishment is never knowing how you know. When you
[29:07] Speaker 1: completely stump her and she has no idea how you know,
[29:10] Speaker 1: she'll start yelling at you, accusing you of all kinds
[29:12] Speaker 1: of stuff, insulting you however she can, anything to get
[29:16] Speaker 1: you to scream back. Don't lose your cool, keep it
[29:19] Speaker 1: together and just leave. Then ghost her. You're done here. Update.
[29:24] Speaker 1: When my fiancé returned from her trip, I tried my
[29:27] Speaker 1: best to handle things maturely. I gave her a chance
[29:29] Speaker 1: to be honest, asking if there was anything she wanted
[29:32] Speaker 1: to share about her trip. Instead of coming clean, she
[29:35] Speaker 1: gaslit me, making me question my own perceptions and reality.
[29:39] Speaker 1: Having the evidence I had, I confronted her about the affair.
[29:42] Speaker 1: She was taken aback and immediately asked how I knew.
[29:45] Speaker 1: I told her the truth, that I hired a private investigator.
[29:49] Speaker 1: I didn't want to falsely accuse any of her friends
[29:51] Speaker 1: as some of you suggested, even though honestly part of
[29:54] Speaker 1: me was tempted. She was furious. I've never seen her
[29:57] Speaker 1: that angry in all of our years together. Additionally, feeling
[30:01] Speaker 1: it was the right thing to do, I shared the
[30:03] Speaker 1: evidence with one of her friend's boyfriends so he could
[30:05] Speaker 1: be informed. It was clear to both of us that
[30:08] Speaker 1: our relationship had reached a breaking point. We broke up
[30:11] Speaker 1: right then. Despite it being my house that I've financially
[30:14] Speaker 1: covered for us, I left and checked into a hotel,
[30:17] Speaker 1: giving her space and asking her to pack her things
[30:19] Speaker 1: and move out. We didn't communicate for a few days.
[30:23] Speaker 1: When she finally reached out, she expressed a desire to
[30:25] Speaker 1: talk and perhaps find a way to mend things. but
[30:28] Speaker 1: the trust was already broken and I couldn't see a
[30:30] Speaker 1: future for us. I told her no. And now, the
[30:34] Speaker 1: part I didn't see coming. She's considering pursuing palimony payments.
[30:38] Speaker 1: For those unaware, palimony is financial support provided to a
[30:42] Speaker 1: partner in a non-marital relationship after separation. I've been informed
[30:46] Speaker 1: that due to the relationship laws in our state, this
[30:49] Speaker 1: could very well be a real concern. I've initiated the
[30:52] Speaker 1: process of hiring a lawyer. During our relationship, I took
[30:56] Speaker 1: on the majority of the financial responsibilities, including the mortgage.
[31:00] Speaker 1: We had an unspoken understanding. My money is our money,
[31:03] Speaker 1: her money is her money, due to our significant income difference.
[31:07] Speaker 1: I never thought that my generosity would come back to
[31:09] Speaker 1: haunt me. There it is, the update many of you
[31:12] Speaker 1: asked for. I wish I had a happier conclusion to
[31:15] Speaker 1: this chapter, but life has its twists and turns. It
[31:18] Speaker 1: seems she might have the upper hand in this final act,
[31:20] Speaker 1: but I'm hoping for a fair resolution. Thank you for
[31:23] Speaker 1: the support and advice. It's really meant a lot. I
[31:27] Speaker 1: can't comment on the legal part of it because I'm
[31:29] Speaker 1: not from where OP is from. But man, the audacity
[31:32] Speaker 1: of his ex to cheat on him and lie and
[31:35] Speaker 1: ask for money support after being found out. Wow. I
[31:39] Speaker 1: hope OP walks clean out of this mess. Yes, hiring
[31:42] Speaker 1: a PI could be considered shameful, but his gut feeling
[31:45] Speaker 1: was correct and it looks like his ex was only
[31:48] Speaker 1: using him for his money. That's so sad, man. Wishing
[31:51] Speaker 1: the best of luck. I always find it interesting how
[31:54] Speaker 1: people who have multi-year long affairs want to mend things.
[31:58] Speaker 1: What are you supposed to do in that situation? Check
[32:00] Speaker 1: their phone every day? Control who they're friends with? Never
[32:04] Speaker 1: let them go out anywhere unless you're with them? Or
[32:06] Speaker 1: do they really think they'll go back to the status quo?
[32:09] Speaker 1: So odd. I feel for this guy. You can tell
[32:12] Speaker 1: he really loves her. He has nothing to be ashamed of.
[32:15] Speaker 1: At least he had the sense to get proof. I'm
[32:18] Speaker 1: sure the private investigator did a better job than any
[32:20] Speaker 1: family or friends could have. getting all the evidence he
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