# Love After Loss (Guests: Ray & Lexus Singleton)

An episode of [Dear Future Wifey](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1506095537), 10 Sep 2025, 1 h 37 min.

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In this heartfelt episode, Ray Singleton opens up about his journey through love, loss, and new beginnings. Many came to know Ray and his late wife, Roslyn Singleton, through their beautiful and very public love story that touched countless lives around the world. Now, Ken shares how he has navigated grief while embracing life after loss. Alongside him is his new bride, Lexus Singleton, who brings powerful perspective on what it means to walk with someone through healing. Together, Ray and Lexus open up about the challenges and the beauty of their journey—how love can be reborn, how grief can be carried, and how faith sustains them both. This is a vulnerable conversation about resilience, love that endures, and the hope found in second chances. 📸 CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST https://www.instagram.com/willie_qool/ https://www.instagram.com/lexussingletontv PRE-ORDER LATERRAS R. WHITFIELD'S "STUDENT OF LOVE" https://a.co/d/bx0E1iv WANNA SEE BEHIND-THE-SCENES FOOTAGE? JOIN MY PATREON https://www.Patreon.com/laterrasrwhitfield SIGN UP FOR THE MAILING LIST https://bit.ly/LRWconnection PURCHASE "YOU (Dear Future Wifey)" Theme Song http://itunes.apple.com/album/id/1729993404 👑 SUPPORT OUR CAUSE Donate to Kingdom Royale: Empowering foster kids to become royalty: https://www.KingdomRoyale.com 👕 MERCH https://www.DearFutureWifey.com FOLLOW US 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dearfuturewifeypodcast | https://www.instagram.com/laterrasrwhitfield 📘 Facebook: https://www.Facebook.com/DearFutureWifey 🐦 Twitter: https://twitter.com/dfwifeypodcast See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

## Transcript

[0:00] Speaker 1: The biggest breakthrough for us was our second date. I
[0:03] Speaker 1: was asking him, do you see yourself getting married again?
[0:05] Speaker 1: I can only imagine emotionally mentally, and he straight up
[0:09] Speaker 1: told me, oh, I'm gonna be a baby daddy. I said, well,
[0:11] Speaker 1: I love that for you, but I'm somebody's wife. You're
[0:13] Speaker 1: not going to do that with me.
[0:15] Speaker 2: That's when I knew she was the one. No woman
[0:17] Speaker 2: had stood on their morals like that. It was just
[0:19] Speaker 2: trying to be with me, just to be with me.
[0:21] Speaker 3: She cares about how I feel, what I'm doing, what's
[0:24] Speaker 3: on my mind.
[0:25] Speaker 2: That's powerful. Dog, I got a partner.
[0:28] Speaker 4: Here they are celebrating three weeks of marriage. Wel to
[0:31] Speaker 4: dear Future Wiggie podcast Mister and Missus Ray's Singleton.
[0:38] Speaker 1: We're so compatible, it's crazy. I told her all the time,
[0:42] Speaker 1: I'm like, you're literally just.
[0:43] Speaker 5: Me but a man.
[0:44] Speaker 4: Two years ago we met an incredible couple whose story
[0:46] Speaker 4: inspired all of us.
[0:48] Speaker 3: I was married before I'm actually a widow. Our love
[0:51] Speaker 3: had went viral. We had been on Ellen Degenerous America's
[0:54] Speaker 3: Got Talented Black Love. As you mentioned, my late wife
[0:56] Speaker 3: by the name of Rosenhad Royal Singleton passed away. November fifteenth,
[1:00] Speaker 3: twenty twenty two, from stage four brain cancer. People were really,
[1:03] Speaker 3: really attached to our story, and when I decided to
[1:07] Speaker 3: find someone who literally restored my heart, people had mixed
[1:11] Speaker 3: feelings about it. At her funeral, her dad walked up
[1:14] Speaker 3: to me and said, you did right by my daughter.
[1:16] Speaker 3: I didn't care about nobody else's opinion.
[1:18] Speaker 2: After that, you still feel the need to respond when
[1:20] Speaker 2: I have time.
[1:22] Speaker 5: We met up at a run club.
[1:23] Speaker 1: By the time I get back to my car, he
[1:25] Speaker 1: did me, it's on the scale of one to ten,
[1:27] Speaker 1: how likely is it that I can take you to dinner?
[1:29] Speaker 2: And I was loud.
[1:30] Speaker 3: That was the message that got left on red all right,
[1:33] Speaker 3: that was a message.
[1:35] Speaker 1: I genuinely am living in my soft woman era. And
[1:38] Speaker 1: I don't say soft girl because I'm not a girl.
[1:40] Speaker 2: We're grown.
[1:41] Speaker 1: I can cater and submit. That's a word that a
[1:43] Speaker 1: lot of women like to get upset about.
[1:45] Speaker 2: It's a lot of hard stuff we got to do
[1:47] Speaker 2: in life. Being in love. Ain't ain't gonna be one
[1:49] Speaker 2: of them for me.
[1:49] Speaker 4: From your wife passed away and you post this is
[1:52] Speaker 4: my girlfriend?
[1:52] Speaker 2: How long?
[1:54] Speaker 4: Yeah, How in the world could you move on so quickly?
[1:56] Speaker 6: Yeah?
[2:00] Speaker 4: Dear Future WIFEI podcast has global impact from Texas.
[2:04] Speaker 1: I have been on this journey of healing and self
[2:06] Speaker 1: discovery and this podcast has been a vital part of
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[2:23] Speaker 3: and continue to learn so much as now a married
[2:27] Speaker 3: man Nigeria.
[2:28] Speaker 5: This is just therapy for me.
[2:30] Speaker 1: You know, I've been healed, I've been strengthening in my
[2:32] Speaker 1: convictions on the stot have to do single hoopta Amsterdam
[2:36] Speaker 1: way that you've shown us how it is possible for
[2:40] Speaker 1: a man to be as intentional as you are New Jersey.
[2:45] Speaker 2: I appreciate your vulnerability.
[2:47] Speaker 4: I appreciate just being able to see that there is
[2:49] Speaker 4: life after divorce.
[2:51] Speaker 2: To New York.
[2:52] Speaker 3: I am a single woman, so these episodes really give
[2:55] Speaker 3: me hope and courage that God does have a husband.
[2:57] Speaker 2: For me discover, cover and recover love.
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[3:29] Speaker 4: I prepare to take vows on November the twenty.
[3:33] Speaker 2: Second of this year. Listen this couple.
[3:37] Speaker 4: I've been wanting to talk to them for about two
[3:40] Speaker 4: years now, and at the time we're recording this, which
[3:45] Speaker 4: is Friday, what is September fifth, they are celebrating three.
[3:52] Speaker 2: Weeks of marriage.
[3:55] Speaker 4: And so, without further ado, welcome to a Dear Future
[3:57] Speaker 4: WIFEI podcast that New that that New News. Let people know.
[4:13] Speaker 4: If I was a batman, I would bet that y'all
[4:14] Speaker 4: in love.
[4:17] Speaker 5: Yeah, that would be a correct best.
[4:18] Speaker 4: So so let me ask you why why would you
[4:21] Speaker 4: say that y'all are in love?
[4:24] Speaker 1: Well, when it's God ordained and God is at the
[4:26] Speaker 1: center and you're equally yoked, what better way than to
[4:30] Speaker 1: be in love? I feel like the things that we
[4:33] Speaker 1: check off on each other's lists, we are so compatible,
[4:37] Speaker 1: it's crazy, Like it literally blows.
[4:39] Speaker 5: Our mind all the time.
[4:41] Speaker 1: I'm like, you're literally just me but a man, even
[4:49] Speaker 1: down to I'll give you one, even down to our childhood,
[4:53] Speaker 1: the way we grew up.
[4:54] Speaker 5: We both grew up.
[4:55] Speaker 1: Not eating vegetables, so our go to was chicken, mashed potatoes,
[4:59] Speaker 1: and and cheese.
[5:00] Speaker 5: And we are still that same way to this day.
[5:03] Speaker 1: Night So when we were starting to go on dates
[5:07] Speaker 1: and starting to post our food and going out to eat,
[5:09] Speaker 1: people like y'all don't got no.
[5:10] Speaker 5: Vegetables, blank what we like, and we keep it.
[5:17] Speaker 2: There, keep.
[5:19] Speaker 4: But you feel like you have to put on airs
[5:21] Speaker 4: at the very beginning rate. You know, try to take
[5:23] Speaker 4: us to nice restaurants and not just order chicken strips.
[5:28] Speaker 2: No, I mean, I am cultured ladies. I enjoy a
[5:33] Speaker 2: nice filate from now.
[5:34] Speaker 3: But our first date was at a steakhouse and gave
[5:38] Speaker 3: her the works.
[5:39] Speaker 2: Man, you know what I'm saying.
[5:40] Speaker 3: Whole show opened the door still due to this day,
[5:42] Speaker 3: fellas open your lady's door, but just just courted her
[5:46] Speaker 3: man and the conversation we had. I didn't have to
[5:50] Speaker 3: feel uptight, I was relaxed.
[5:52] Speaker 2: I was myself.
[5:53] Speaker 3: I didn't have to put on a character she accepted
[5:56] Speaker 3: me for exactly who I was, and it's amazing.
[5:59] Speaker 2: Man. So y'all got married just three weeks ago? How
[6:03] Speaker 2: does it feel?
[6:05] Speaker 5: Amazing?
[6:08] Speaker 2: Videos of fire? Y'all? Stuff is fire?
[6:12] Speaker 4: Whose idea was it to make sure that that was
[6:16] Speaker 4: on point?
[6:17] Speaker 2: Yeah?
[6:17] Speaker 5: Yeah, my husband just showed up. I love that for him.
[6:26] Speaker 1: I literally planned everything from front to back and back
[6:29] Speaker 1: to front. I've mocked up everything in Canva, gave it
[6:33] Speaker 1: to our designers, had meetings every day. You said, you
[6:38] Speaker 1: did up your own wedding planning, yes, and then I
[6:42] Speaker 1: handed everything over the day of this, I made a
[6:46] Speaker 1: playbook from everything from starting to finish tomline what Tom,
[6:50] Speaker 1: to get ready?
[6:50] Speaker 2: All the things really stress you out.
[6:53] Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, Like you don't really understand it until you're
[6:59] Speaker 1: in it.
[7:03] Speaker 4: Because a lot of So it's two things that happened,
[7:05] Speaker 4: but I'm gonna say it, so what happens.
[7:07] Speaker 3: In the I'm right, congratulation, congratulations.
[7:15] Speaker 1: So from the jump, it's managing your regular tasks and
[7:20] Speaker 1: duties on top of adding on your dream wedding that
[7:24] Speaker 1: you've envisioned in your mind and making sure everyone else
[7:27] Speaker 1: around you understands that same concept. So still working a
[7:31] Speaker 1: nine to five on top of running my clothing boutique,
[7:35] Speaker 1: on top of my husband's schedule being a musician.
[7:37] Speaker 5: We both travel.
[7:38] Speaker 1: We're always going somewhere every week, So managing that and
[7:42] Speaker 1: then carving out time for meeting with the video team,
[7:47] Speaker 1: the coordinator, the venue, making sure food is on point,
[7:50] Speaker 1: making sure the bridesmaids got everything.
[7:52] Speaker 2: The whole time.
[7:56] Speaker 1: I'm over here, Oh my gosh, I need this and this,
[7:59] Speaker 1: and Ray was just like, it's gonna work out, man,
[8:02] Speaker 1: you're soorry.
[8:03] Speaker 4: What people don't understand is there's a cost to all
[8:06] Speaker 4: of this that you're there's a wedding premium and so
[8:11] Speaker 4: with everything what you're doing, just because it's a wedding
[8:14] Speaker 4: and everything costs a whole lot.
[8:15] Speaker 5: Yeah, ten times.
[8:17] Speaker 4: How did y'all manage your relationship and not allowing the issues? Well,
[8:23] Speaker 4: I assume maybe that y'all did deal with a lot
[8:25] Speaker 4: of stuff in the wedding process. How did y'all try
[8:28] Speaker 4: to protect your relationship for y'all not to fall out
[8:30] Speaker 4: while y'all trying to plan this amazing day?
[8:33] Speaker 1: So I would say one of the biggest things that
[8:35] Speaker 1: Ray and I have continued to do on our relationship
[8:37] Speaker 1: is have mental health check ins. So what that consists
[8:40] Speaker 1: of is once we realized we've had a crazy week,
[8:44] Speaker 1: we will literally sit down with each other and say,
[8:46] Speaker 1: you know what, honey, how are you? Where are you mentally?
[8:49] Speaker 1: Not just how is your day? What'd you do today?
[8:51] Speaker 1: How are you mentally? What's weighing on you this week?
[8:54] Speaker 1: What's something I can take off of your plate? So
[8:56] Speaker 1: having a partner where we can discuss those things on
[8:59] Speaker 1: a weekly basis and we still date each other, like,
[9:02] Speaker 1: and it can be something as small as I know
[9:04] Speaker 1: you had a long day. On your lunch break, let's
[9:06] Speaker 1: go to chick Fila my baby. Know, having those check
[9:18] Speaker 1: ins in that one on one time really matters in
[9:21] Speaker 1: the long run.
[9:22] Speaker 2: What about you Ray letting her know I'm on her side. Like,
[9:25] Speaker 2: that's that's the thing.
[9:27] Speaker 3: It's small, but a lot of relationships miss it. It's
[9:30] Speaker 3: like it's not us against each other, it's us against
[9:33] Speaker 3: the problem. Like understanding, Hey, I'm on your side, I'm
[9:36] Speaker 3: on your team. Whatever you need me to do, I'm
[9:38] Speaker 3: here for you. I'm a very see the silver lining
[9:43] Speaker 3: in every situation. So every day it's gonna be great,
[9:46] Speaker 3: it's gonna work out. Use your imagination to your advantage.
[9:49] Speaker 3: So that's I was just sunshining and sunshine to.
[9:56] Speaker 2: Words.
[9:57] Speaker 4: So, Ray, you and I been trying to have this
[9:59] Speaker 4: conversation since when.
[10:00] Speaker 3: It's been a long long you had seen that we've
[10:07] Speaker 3: been trying to put this thing together. I looked at
[10:09] Speaker 3: my DM while we was out there since twenty twenty three. Wow,
[10:15] Speaker 3: twenty twenty three. Yeah, you DM me. Man, you said
[10:19] Speaker 3: some very kind words, and I appreciate you and I'm
[10:23] Speaker 3: glad we were finally able to make this happen. God's
[10:26] Speaker 3: timing is absolutely perfect, and I wouldn't want to be
[10:30] Speaker 3: on this couch with anybody else.
[10:32] Speaker 2: Man. Do you know why I reached out to you
[10:34] Speaker 2: back then? I don't.
[10:36] Speaker 4: So it was a post people were I didn't know
[10:40] Speaker 4: that you had started pursuing because y'all, how long ago
[10:42] Speaker 4: have y'all been dating?
[10:44] Speaker 2: I met her May twenty twenty three.
[10:46] Speaker 4: Okay, so it's around the time I reached out to you,
[10:49] Speaker 4: shortly around that time. But the truth is this one
[10:53] Speaker 4: of my biggest fears that I used to have. I've
[10:55] Speaker 4: been delivered from this since saying this so much. This
[10:59] Speaker 4: my podcast therapy. My biggest fear is to go through
[11:03] Speaker 4: all this work that I've gone through to take valves
[11:05] Speaker 4: with a woman and then not know the expiration date.
[11:09] Speaker 4: Of course we don't know, but that day come sooner
[11:11] Speaker 4: before we get into our old age.
[11:13] Speaker 2: That has That used to be my biggest fear.
[11:16] Speaker 4: I had a friend who got married in twenty twenty
[11:19] Speaker 4: and his wife passed away the next year, and I
[11:21] Speaker 4: was like, oh my god, now since then.
[11:24] Speaker 2: He's remarried, So here it is.
[11:26] Speaker 4: I saw you dating this amazing woman and people were
[11:32] Speaker 4: being negative, and I was like, what So if the
[11:37] Speaker 4: public had their timeline, when would they say it's okay
[11:41] Speaker 4: for you to start dating again.
[11:44] Speaker 3: If the public had their timeline, they would still want
[11:46] Speaker 3: me to be sad. They like, people got attached to
[11:50] Speaker 3: my grief. People got attached to me crying and being
[11:53] Speaker 3: sad and staying in yesterday. And they couldn't see past
[11:58] Speaker 3: that because people don't really make it out of grief.
[12:01] Speaker 3: People sometimes don't make it out of depression. So to
[12:03] Speaker 3: see me do it in such an elegant way.
[12:06] Speaker 2: Yes, it pissed people off. Ye. Unfortunately, you know what
[12:11] Speaker 2: fortunate because you see how good God is being in
[12:17] Speaker 2: my life.
[12:18] Speaker 3: Man, you have been faithful over a few I'm gonna
[12:22] Speaker 3: make you rule over many.
[12:23] Speaker 2: That's what God told me long time. Amen. Yeah, so
[12:26] Speaker 2: how did you deal with that?
[12:27] Speaker 4: Because here you are, you are dealing with the grief
[12:30] Speaker 4: of the loss of Well. Give people the backstore for
[12:32] Speaker 4: people that don't know. Yes, you were featured on Black
[12:35] Speaker 4: Love Powerful episode. Speak about that journey and introduce people
[12:41] Speaker 4: to who you are and what we're talking about.
[12:44] Speaker 2: Yes. Yes, so.
[12:46] Speaker 3: I was married before. I'm actually a widow. My late wife,
[12:49] Speaker 3: by the name of Rosalind Royal Singleton, passed away in
[12:52] Speaker 3: November November fifteenth, twenty twenty two, from glo blastoma multiforme
[12:57] Speaker 3: stage four brain cancer.
[12:59] Speaker 2: Our love had went viral. We had been on Ellen.
[13:01] Speaker 3: DeGeneres America's Got Talent Black Love, as you mentioned, show
[13:05] Speaker 3: after show, and after she had passed away, life got
[13:12] Speaker 3: crazy for me. I was here and there and people
[13:16] Speaker 3: were really really attached to our story while we're on
[13:19] Speaker 3: these shows. And when I decided to not only get
[13:24] Speaker 3: back in the dating world, but find someone who literally
[13:28] Speaker 3: restored my heart. When I shared that, just as I
[13:31] Speaker 3: shared everything else in my life, people had mixed feelings
[13:34] Speaker 3: about it.
[13:35] Speaker 2: And I'll tell you this.
[13:38] Speaker 3: At her funeral, her dad walked up to me and said,
[13:41] Speaker 3: you did right by my daughter. I didn't care about
[13:45] Speaker 3: nobody else's opinion after that that part he said you
[13:48] Speaker 3: did right by my daughter.
[13:49] Speaker 2: So anything that anybody had to say past that.
[13:53] Speaker 3: Yeah, oh your head, it don't apply to me. I've
[13:57] Speaker 3: gotten the handshake from the guy.
[14:00] Speaker 2: Yeah. What you say though, I mean you can say
[14:02] Speaker 2: it feel how you feel.
[14:04] Speaker 3: I'm a human, so like sometimes I'll see the hate
[14:07] Speaker 3: and like I used to care, right, but it don't
[14:11] Speaker 3: matter because your your motion ain't gonna stop mine.
[14:16] Speaker 2: Do you feel do you still feel the need to
[14:17] Speaker 2: respond when I have time? I don't know. So why
[14:25] Speaker 2: don't you have time? Man?
[14:28] Speaker 3: Because you think about the audacity of people, and people
[14:31] Speaker 3: like there be they're double minded.
[14:33] Speaker 2: They just say things.
[14:35] Speaker 3: So a lady emailed me and said, hadn't even haven't
[14:38] Speaker 3: even been a year yet, So okay, what what happens
[14:40] Speaker 3: on day three sixty six?
[14:42] Speaker 2: That was powerful to explain what you said on this like,
[14:44] Speaker 2: what what what happens? Are we still going to have
[14:47] Speaker 2: this conversation?
[14:48] Speaker 3: Grief has no time limit, but you didn't here my
[14:51] Speaker 3: DM talking about it hadn't been a year yet?
[14:52] Speaker 2: So which one is it? Man? Be blessed I hope
[14:55] Speaker 2: love finds you as it's found me. Come on, how
[14:58] Speaker 2: do you deal with that? Lexus?
[14:59] Speaker 4: Did you feel like that you have any people in
[15:01] Speaker 4: your circle that was saying and man, y'all moving too fast?
[15:04] Speaker 1: I never had anybody in my circle disagree.
[15:08] Speaker 5: And that's the thing.
[15:10] Speaker 1: It's never been anybody that knows us, that's in our family,
[15:13] Speaker 1: our friend's circle. They all have welcomed me with open
[15:17] Speaker 1: arms from his family and friends and vice versa.
[15:20] Speaker 5: It's been nothing but love.
[15:22] Speaker 1: It's always from the people that don't know us, have
[15:25] Speaker 1: never met us, Even people that don't even know my
[15:28] Speaker 1: backstory or my history anything about me that are drawing
[15:32] Speaker 1: conclusions of who they think we are based off of
[15:35] Speaker 1: social media, which I think gives a false perception. You
[15:39] Speaker 1: can see a video or a clip of somebody for
[15:40] Speaker 1: thirty seconds and you already have this thing in your
[15:43] Speaker 1: mind made up. Oh, this is who they are without
[15:46] Speaker 1: knowing anything or doing any research. So for me, initially,
[15:51] Speaker 1: it caught me off guard because he told me like.
[15:53] Speaker 7: Now.
[15:56] Speaker 5: That makes away? Is that fun? I just want you
[16:01] Speaker 5: to know.
[16:02] Speaker 2: That I knew it was coming. I knew it was,
[16:06] Speaker 2: but I did.
[16:06] Speaker 3: I did a photo shoot with with a girl just
[16:09] Speaker 3: for like a restaurant.
[16:11] Speaker 2: People under the who this woman? Who's that?
[16:13] Speaker 8: What?
[16:14] Speaker 3: And I was a photo shoot, so I knew, like
[16:17] Speaker 3: when I when I stepped out there, something was gonna happen. Now,
[16:21] Speaker 3: I didn't know to the degree it was. There's gossip pages.
[16:26] Speaker 1: Yeah, it's crazy wild stuff.
[16:29] Speaker 2: Man, it's a song.
[16:30] Speaker 5: We are committed.
[16:31] Speaker 2: So how long did all? Right? Let's back up? Yeah,
[16:34] Speaker 2: how did y'all meet?
[16:36] Speaker 5: Do I get this? Share?
[16:37] Speaker 2: Please? So this story?
[16:41] Speaker 5: Thank you?
[16:42] Speaker 1: So shout out to mad Miles run Club and Charlotte,
[16:44] Speaker 1: North Carolina. If you don't know about it, go your
[16:47] Speaker 1: husband or wife might be waiting on you.
[16:49] Speaker 2: Man.
[16:50] Speaker 1: So we met up at a run club and I
[16:52] Speaker 1: had posted on my story that I was going to
[16:54] Speaker 1: be there. So Ray saw it and I'm pulling up
[16:58] Speaker 1: to go see her. I got to find her.
[17:00] Speaker 2: What you did?
[17:00] Speaker 3: Yeah, because I've seen it on Instagram and I literally
[17:04] Speaker 3: from the one time I looked at the page, I
[17:06] Speaker 3: was like, I gotta find her. That's I don't I
[17:08] Speaker 3: don't know if I said that, because I did, and
[17:13] Speaker 3: she left me on wrath.
[17:16] Speaker 4: The conversation, so, so you was conversing back with him, it.
[17:20] Speaker 5: Was more hard eyes, thank you. It was more hard.
[17:24] Speaker 1: Eyes here and there and the story yeah, like stuff
[17:27] Speaker 1: like that, and then he had asked me out.
[17:29] Speaker 5: I didn't see it until the day that we met.
[17:32] Speaker 2: Okay, so he camera, that's my.
[17:37] Speaker 5: Story and speaking to it.
[17:40] Speaker 1: So he pulled up on me at mad Moss. I'm
[17:43] Speaker 1: talking with one of my friends, Bree, and he literally makes.
[17:46] Speaker 5: His way through the crowd. As we're talking, he.
[17:49] Speaker 1: Grabs my hand like this, I'm raised Singleton, It's nice
[17:53] Speaker 1: to finally meet you in person.
[17:55] Speaker 2: It walked away.
[17:57] Speaker 3: I walked and he just glimbing on across.
[18:04] Speaker 5: Start dancing and doing this thing. I'm just like the
[18:10] Speaker 5: first thing in my mind, I said, who does he
[18:12] Speaker 5: think it? And then the second thing I said, I
[18:15] Speaker 5: mean I like that. Nobody like that. So I'm over
[18:18] Speaker 5: here like, oh you know who you are?
[18:21] Speaker 1: Okay, okay. After that, we didn't talk the whole time.
[18:25] Speaker 1: We ran, danced, all that good stuff. By the time
[18:28] Speaker 1: I get back to my car, I checked my d
[18:30] Speaker 1: MS and he d M me, so, on a chance
[18:32] Speaker 1: on the scale of one to ten, how likely is
[18:34] Speaker 1: it that I can take you to dinner?
[18:36] Speaker 3: And I was like, that was the message that got
[18:38] Speaker 3: left on red that was that was the message.
[18:42] Speaker 2: So when she went back to a d M. I said,
[18:44] Speaker 2: it was a pleasure to meet you. And then and
[18:46] Speaker 2: then she said, oh my god, I didn't see this, Nancy.
[18:49] Speaker 5: That's supposed to be me.
[18:56] Speaker 2: Wow.
[18:57] Speaker 7: Right, So she so the message and.
[19:01] Speaker 5: The rest was history. We went on our first date.
[19:05] Speaker 5: He showed up with flowers.
[19:06] Speaker 4: He said, on the scale of one to ten, what'd
[19:08] Speaker 4: you say?
[19:09] Speaker 2: What did I? I actually said, on the scale from
[19:11] Speaker 2: one to fifteen. Yeah, I gotta give yourself a little cushion.
[19:19] Speaker 3: Listen, I'm telling you to catch him off guard and
[19:21] Speaker 3: give you a cushion, right, so I said, on the
[19:23] Speaker 3: scale of one to fifteen. Her response was, I don't know.
[19:28] Speaker 3: Depends on how much we how much I get to
[19:30] Speaker 3: know you. Then I said my number, I said, only
[19:32] Speaker 3: one way to do that.
[19:38] Speaker 2: We got hers yours.
[19:40] Speaker 5: Yeah, that one was in the house because of order.
[19:42] Speaker 2: I like that.
[19:43] Speaker 1: I like that, and literally after our first date we
[19:47] Speaker 1: have been inseparable ever since.
[19:49] Speaker 2: What did you like about him?
[19:51] Speaker 1: I love that he was exactly who he said he was,
[19:55] Speaker 1: like everything that he described to me on who he
[19:57] Speaker 1: was from childhood to growing up, being so open with
[20:01] Speaker 1: his emotions, he exuded that to my face. It's one
[20:05] Speaker 1: thing for somebody to tell you who they are, and
[20:07] Speaker 1: then as things starting to go, here come the red flags. Here, girl,
[20:12] Speaker 1: I knew better. I didn't deal with any of that.
[20:15] Speaker 1: I didn't deal with any of that. The biggest thing,
[20:17] Speaker 1: I said, the biggest breakthrough for us was our second date.
[20:21] Speaker 5: We went to Chick fil A, my favorite place. We
[20:25] Speaker 5: went to Chick fil A.
[20:26] Speaker 1: We literally sat in Chick fil A and had the
[20:29] Speaker 1: most in depth conversation I have ever had on a date.
[20:32] Speaker 5: I'm talking we.
[20:33] Speaker 1: Both crying at Chick fil A, Like we had that
[20:36] Speaker 1: conversation of where are you mentally? What do you want
[20:39] Speaker 1: out of life? Yeah, because we had a conversation along
[20:44] Speaker 1: the lines of I was asking him, do you see
[20:46] Speaker 1: yourself getting married again? I understand, well, I don't understand
[20:50] Speaker 1: where you are, but I can only imagine emotionally, mentally, physically,
[20:55] Speaker 1: what do you see for yourself? And he straight up
[20:58] Speaker 1: told me, oh, I'm gonna be a baby daddy.
[21:00] Speaker 2: And I was like.
[21:03] Speaker 1: The hard I said real quick And I was like, okay,
[21:07] Speaker 1: I said, well, I love that for you. I said,
[21:10] Speaker 1: but I'm somebody's wife, I said, I want to be married.
[21:16] Speaker 1: I said, and if that's where you are, that's fine,
[21:19] Speaker 1: but that's not what I'm looking for.
[21:21] Speaker 5: So it was nice to get to know you.
[21:22] Speaker 1: We still had a friendly conversation after that, and I said,
[21:26] Speaker 1: you're not going to do that with me.
[21:27] Speaker 2: What do you mean when you said that you really
[21:29] Speaker 2: want to be a dad? I was. I was in
[21:31] Speaker 2: a place in my mind man like bro.
[21:35] Speaker 5: Yeah, man, yeah, joined outside.
[21:39] Speaker 3: That's but she she caused an interruption, and what I
[21:50] Speaker 3: thought my plan was like the other women who like,
[21:55] Speaker 3: they didn't cause an interruption and what my plan was like,
[21:59] Speaker 3: they just kept no. I met her, She's like, no,
[22:02] Speaker 3: we're going this way, yes, ma'am. That's that's what I needed.
[22:07] Speaker 3: I needed someone to interrupt the plan that I thought
[22:11] Speaker 3: I had for myself.
[22:12] Speaker 2: And your plan you had was what not to.
[22:15] Speaker 3: Rich uncle baby daddy? Exactly what this woman and this woman, Yeah,
[22:20] Speaker 3: that's that's what I saw.
[22:21] Speaker 2: I was hurt, man, Yeah, I was hurt.
[22:23] Speaker 1: And I anticipated that, and I felt like one of
[22:27] Speaker 1: the biggest things that I want to express to women,
[22:29] Speaker 1: specifically ladies, stand on your beliefs and your morals. There
[22:34] Speaker 1: it is because that is the first time that I
[22:36] Speaker 1: can be honest with myself and say that I stood
[22:39] Speaker 1: on what I said I wanted and what God told
[22:41] Speaker 1: me to do, no matter who it was, no matter
[22:43] Speaker 1: what I wanted. God knows better than we do. So
[22:46] Speaker 1: when I stood on that, I didn't know what his
[22:48] Speaker 1: reaction would have been.
[22:49] Speaker 5: He could have said all.
[22:50] Speaker 1: Right, cool, onto the next and I kind of anticipated that.
[22:54] Speaker 1: So when he called me what a week later and
[22:57] Speaker 1: was like, you know what, No, I want to give
[22:59] Speaker 1: this a try. I really want to see what that
[23:01] Speaker 1: would look like, I said, well, I'm along for the
[23:04] Speaker 1: ride as long as you can be honest with me
[23:05] Speaker 1: with your emotions where you stand.
[23:07] Speaker 5: If you want to cry, call me.
[23:09] Speaker 1: I don't want you to feel like you have to
[23:11] Speaker 1: go to your homeboys, or your friends, or your family only.
[23:14] Speaker 1: I feel like people forget when you are dealing with
[23:18] Speaker 1: grief and you're trying to be in a relationship with
[23:20] Speaker 1: someone that's not just the person you're in a relationship with,
[23:23] Speaker 1: that's your friend too, So you have to show up
[23:26] Speaker 1: as such. I don't care if you just want to
[23:28] Speaker 1: sit in silence and cry for thirty minutes, Yes, call
[23:31] Speaker 1: me to do that.
[23:32] Speaker 5: I don't want you to.
[23:33] Speaker 1: Have to call and do that with anybody else. And
[23:34] Speaker 1: that's because that's the place that we.
[23:43] Speaker 2: Got to.
[23:47] Speaker 1: Let me, let me, let me come on over here.
[23:57] Speaker 4: How did that make you feel to hear her say that.
[24:00] Speaker 3: That I wasn't gonna do that with her, to say
[24:03] Speaker 3: that I wouldn't go and do that, for.
[24:05] Speaker 4: Her to say, well, even that part, I'll start from
[24:07] Speaker 4: there first, for her to say.
[24:08] Speaker 3: That, that's that's when I knew she was the one,
[24:11] Speaker 3: because no, no woman had stood on their morals like that,
[24:17] Speaker 3: and with with who I was at the time and
[24:20] Speaker 3: all the attention I had, they were just trying to
[24:22] Speaker 3: be with me, just to be with me. And again
[24:25] Speaker 3: the interruption and what I thought my plan was, she
[24:28] Speaker 3: stopped me on my tracks. And when I when I
[24:31] Speaker 3: realized that she truly cares about me. Dog, she she
[24:35] Speaker 3: cares about how I feel, what I'm doing, what's on
[24:38] Speaker 3: my mind?
[24:40] Speaker 2: Uh? Did I do I need it?
[24:41] Speaker 3: If I'm getting up and she sees me going to
[24:44] Speaker 3: look something, she asked me, what you need? That's that's powerful,
[24:48] Speaker 3: dog like and something like I gotta I gotta let
[24:53] Speaker 3: go of some of the stuff that I thought I
[24:55] Speaker 3: could handle by myself.
[24:56] Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying, Like I gotta I gotta
[24:58] Speaker 2: partner again.
[24:59] Speaker 3: It's it's a struggle of trying to do everything and said, no,
[25:03] Speaker 3: God sent you a help me.
[25:06] Speaker 4: Yeah, so yeah, let's I told him I'm holding God
[25:11] Speaker 4: sent me help me man.
[25:13] Speaker 2: Yeah, he'll do it.
[25:15] Speaker 4: And so for her to save space for you, explain
[25:18] Speaker 4: to women how important that is to a man.
[25:22] Speaker 3: Ooh, it's to hold space for you.
[25:26] Speaker 2: It is.
[25:27] Speaker 3: It is absolutely essential if your desires to be with
[25:32] Speaker 3: a man, it is absolutely essential that you saved space
[25:36] Speaker 3: for his mind, his mental.
[25:40] Speaker 2: Ask him how he doing, but truly cared.
[25:44] Speaker 3: Don't don't listen to respond, Listen to understand, like I
[25:49] Speaker 3: under I want to understand. I want to empathize and
[25:51] Speaker 3: truly let you know, Hey, I'm here to help you.
[25:54] Speaker 3: She she's never torn me down, she's never talked bad
[25:57] Speaker 3: about me.
[25:58] Speaker 2: She's never lied to me unless she was surprised me.
[26:00] Speaker 2: What up?
[26:01] Speaker 5: Always that's the only time she is.
[26:04] Speaker 2: She is made for me.
[26:07] Speaker 4: Lexus, you said you haven't always been like that. What
[26:10] Speaker 4: has your journey of singleness.
[26:11] Speaker 1: Been, TUXI, I've always been like the relationship type, being
[26:21] Speaker 1: in a relationship for a long time. So I've only
[26:24] Speaker 1: been in two serious relationships outside of Ray, and going
[26:29] Speaker 1: through those was like a college love distance, growing apart,
[26:33] Speaker 1: and then the last relationship feeling like oh okay, this
[26:37] Speaker 1: is going to go towards marriage, but not necessarily knowing
[26:40] Speaker 1: what he wanted. So as a woman, while you're trying
[26:44] Speaker 1: to navigate those waters on top of.
[26:46] Speaker 5: Your career because I was very career driven.
[26:48] Speaker 1: Okay, former news personality for Fox forty six in Charlotte,
[26:52] Speaker 1: and a lot of people didn't know my background either,
[26:54] Speaker 1: So when it came to meeting.
[26:56] Speaker 5: Ray, a lot of people always the.
[26:57] Speaker 1: Fame and I'm like, oh yeah, So I came from
[27:12] Speaker 1: the news industry. Was in the news industry for about
[27:15] Speaker 1: ten years give or take, so transitioning from that. I
[27:19] Speaker 1: was a go getter. So for me, my whole focus
[27:22] Speaker 1: was work, what's next, Let's do it? So battling that
[27:26] Speaker 1: and then dealing with a man that would degrade you
[27:31] Speaker 1: or undermine your value but only tell you your value
[27:34] Speaker 1: to you, but never anyone else.
[27:37] Speaker 5: It can take a toll on you.
[27:39] Speaker 1: It will make you question what you believe about yourself
[27:42] Speaker 1: and knowing what you deserve. So coming across Ray was
[27:46] Speaker 1: like night and day, Like I have never been a man.
[27:50] Speaker 1: I have never met a man to literally be who
[27:53] Speaker 1: he told me he was. And every day Ray is
[27:57] Speaker 1: exactly what y'all see. So the love and the tenderness
[28:02] Speaker 1: and telling me how beautiful I am, those things matter,
[28:07] Speaker 1: especially when it's genuine. I've never had to tell Ray,
[28:11] Speaker 1: why don't you call me? I've never had to ask Ray,
[28:14] Speaker 1: why don't you text me? This man would send me
[28:17] Speaker 1: voice notes singing good morning to me to wake me up,
[28:20] Speaker 1: like I don't think people understand what that does to
[28:23] Speaker 1: a woman that feels like you have to say.
[28:27] Speaker 5: Face and be hard.
[28:29] Speaker 1: And I genuinely am living in my soft woman era.
[28:33] Speaker 1: And I don't say soft girl because I'm not a girl.
[28:35] Speaker 1: We're grown my soft woman era. And I love that
[28:39] Speaker 1: I can be fully feminine. I can what do you need, honey?
[28:43] Speaker 1: I can cater and submit. That's a word that a
[28:45] Speaker 1: lot of women like to get upset about.
[28:47] Speaker 5: Submit.
[28:49] Speaker 1: You're in the position you're in because you don't want
[28:51] Speaker 1: to submit. That's what the Bible talks about. So you
[28:53] Speaker 1: need to submit. Come on, and I enjoy it. I
[28:57] Speaker 1: look forward to doing it. I look forward to what
[28:59] Speaker 1: do you me today? And transitioning from that, Ray reminds
[29:05] Speaker 1: me and shows me who I am every single day.
[29:09] Speaker 4: So Ray, can you take us to some of these
[29:11] Speaker 4: little voice memos she would get.
[29:15] Speaker 3: Get on.
[29:18] Speaker 2: Good Morning Long.
[29:21] Speaker 9: It's my favorite love song Ladies O Night Long.
[29:35] Speaker 10: Every Yeah.
[29:40] Speaker 4: So how far we move when you met her? How
[29:44] Speaker 4: far was it after your wife's passing?
[29:46] Speaker 2: Six months? It was six months?
[29:48] Speaker 4: And so when did you decide the poster for the
[29:50] Speaker 4: first time?
[29:51] Speaker 2: Oh? What was it? Uh? Was it up March March
[29:56] Speaker 2: or August? August? August? Okay, I want to say.
[29:59] Speaker 1: It was the d after you asked me to be
[30:02] Speaker 1: your girlfriend, because you had a show in Atlanta.
[30:04] Speaker 2: Yes, and to Atlanta yes.
[30:06] Speaker 3: So the day after I asked her to be my girlfriend,
[30:08] Speaker 3: we're sitting with sitting in Atlanta and we're sitting on
[30:11] Speaker 3: a balcony.
[30:11] Speaker 2: I'm like you ready.
[30:13] Speaker 1: He literally just I'm about to post you And I
[30:16] Speaker 1: just looked at him like what He was like, I want.
[30:20] Speaker 5: The world to know what I love.
[30:22] Speaker 1: Like that's what my page has always been, is I
[30:25] Speaker 1: show what I love and who I love is I
[30:27] Speaker 1: want the world to know who you are. And at
[30:29] Speaker 1: first I was just like wow, okay because for me
[30:32] Speaker 1: this is my first time also being loved out loud.
[30:35] Speaker 5: I've never been loved out loud. I've never say I
[30:41] Speaker 5: have never been loved out loud.
[30:44] Speaker 1: I've never had a man want to say I want
[30:46] Speaker 1: to show you off to the world. Your reaction with me,
[30:51] Speaker 1: I'm sliding down the right now.
[30:58] Speaker 5: So when he said that, he was like, are you
[30:59] Speaker 5: ready now.
[31:00] Speaker 1: Of course we had no conversation about what it would
[31:04] Speaker 1: look like, how it would take off, So I'm just like, wow, okay.
[31:07] Speaker 1: My followers had never seen me post a man either.
[31:10] Speaker 5: No, never, So I.
[31:12] Speaker 4: Was like, why did you post a man me?
[31:16] Speaker 2: That's why why it was shut.
[31:32] Speaker 1: That's the answer, that's the answers.
[31:37] Speaker 4: And so when you did that, so how far was
[31:41] Speaker 4: that from your wife passed away and you post this
[31:44] Speaker 4: is my girlfriend?
[31:45] Speaker 2: How long? Eight months?
[31:48] Speaker 4: And so that's that's why the knee jerk reaction was
[31:51] Speaker 4: what it was, with people like, oh my god, we're
[31:54] Speaker 4: still grieving, and it's like, how in the world could
[31:58] Speaker 4: you move on so quick? How did you balance whether
[32:03] Speaker 4: you were trauma bonding as they would say, I'm going
[32:08] Speaker 4: through this trauma, I found somebody I can latch onto.
[32:11] Speaker 4: How did you differentiate that this wasn't that or was
[32:15] Speaker 4: it that? Until it became not that it obviously it
[32:18] Speaker 4: was never that.
[32:19] Speaker 3: Like literally when I when I tell you and I
[32:22] Speaker 3: tell everybody, this woman changed everything for me because again I.
[32:28] Speaker 2: Stepped out there, put my toe in it, in the water, and.
[32:31] Speaker 3: Like nothing was, nothing was sticking, nothing, I was no
[32:36] Speaker 3: feelings like.
[32:38] Speaker 2: So I guess some of those that was.
[32:41] Speaker 3: But when I when I met her, Man, when when
[32:46] Speaker 3: when a man.
[32:47] Speaker 2: Finds a wife, he finds a good thing. And that's like,
[32:50] Speaker 2: you don't.
[32:51] Speaker 3: You don't find a wife when you after you say
[32:53] Speaker 3: I do you find her? Right then and there, that's
[32:56] Speaker 3: my wife you found. All we got to do is
[33:02] Speaker 3: go through the formality. Yeah, but it's a feeling. Like
[33:06] Speaker 3: people ask me the prayer, I don't. God, God saw
[33:10] Speaker 3: me what I needed and he saw what I did.
[33:13] Speaker 2: He said, IM gonna take care of you. So what
[33:15] Speaker 2: happened in that? That's that seven days?
[33:17] Speaker 4: That's seven days while you're vacillating from that conversation you
[33:20] Speaker 4: just had with her at Chick fil A, her saying
[33:22] Speaker 4: this is my standard, and then you calling her seven
[33:25] Speaker 4: days later?
[33:27] Speaker 2: What were you thinking in your mind?
[33:29] Speaker 3: I had already talked to my boys, and to be
[33:32] Speaker 3: completely honest with you, I had I had another situation.
[33:37] Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's street plans.
[33:42] Speaker 3: Yet I had this girl already coming in like so ooh,
[33:52] Speaker 3: And I was struggling with telling her because I had
[33:55] Speaker 3: start to fall for it. But the girl was like
[33:58] Speaker 3: the was already bought. So I'm like, do I tell her?
[34:03] Speaker 3: Because we've been we've been texting every.
[34:05] Speaker 2: Day, calling, and this girl here the weekend.
[34:07] Speaker 3: If I'm not texting her, if I'm not calling, I
[34:09] Speaker 3: don't want to deal with that, So let me just
[34:11] Speaker 3: tell her what's going on.
[34:12] Speaker 2: And I was honest with you.
[34:14] Speaker 3: I didn't think I was going to like you as
[34:16] Speaker 3: much as I did, and I gotta be honest with
[34:20] Speaker 3: you that I got I got someone coming, but I
[34:24] Speaker 3: really really like you. And uh, she she took it
[34:29] Speaker 3: good in my face, but apparently apparently she went home and.
[34:33] Speaker 1: Shout ahead of time, Okay, I'm gonna keep it all
[34:36] Speaker 1: the way. I kept it so cute in his face.
[34:40] Speaker 1: It was Mary, that's cool. You know I didn't expect
[34:44] Speaker 1: you to not be I mean, look at you, I said,
[34:47] Speaker 1: but me too.
[34:48] Speaker 5: I mean, you know, I got some cleaning up to
[34:50] Speaker 5: do too, So you know, I.
[34:52] Speaker 1: Said, I don't realize that's cool.
[34:57] Speaker 5: I completely understand. I appreciate you being honest.
[35:00] Speaker 1: We went and ate after him after he told me
[35:03] Speaker 1: we wouldn't ate, and then it started sinking in what
[35:06] Speaker 1: he said and I said, oh wait, no. He meant like,
[35:10] Speaker 1: I'm really about to be with somebody else all weekend.
[35:13] Speaker 5: So I said, okay, cool. I got home. I'm so sad.
[35:16] Speaker 1: Have a movie night with my younger sister. Come in,
[35:19] Speaker 1: close the door, go in my room. She said, oh
[35:21] Speaker 1: my gosh, what is I said, I don't want to talk.
[35:25] Speaker 5: Ray got somebody else. It's a whole thing. And she
[35:28] Speaker 5: was like, well, you need to get it together.
[35:30] Speaker 1: And then my mom gave me some of the most
[35:33] Speaker 1: sound advice when I talked to her. My mom said,
[35:36] Speaker 1: how can you be upset? And fought this man for
[35:38] Speaker 1: doing exactly what you asked and being honest with you.
[35:41] Speaker 1: Most men don't tell women what we claim we want
[35:45] Speaker 1: to hear for this reason, And I honestly had to
[35:49] Speaker 1: put my big girl panties on it and say, this
[35:53] Speaker 1: is a real man telling you what he's dealing with
[35:56] Speaker 1: and being honest, versus lying to you disappearing all weekend
[35:59] Speaker 1: like you're used to. He's being upfront and honest. So
[36:03] Speaker 1: I said, it ain't nothing else I can do about that,
[36:07] Speaker 1: but be mature about it and respect it.
[36:10] Speaker 3: And mature means going in her close friends and shaking
[36:12] Speaker 3: her booty the whole time.
[36:14] Speaker 2: So I can look at her.
[36:15] Speaker 3: You know, I was thinking about her.
[36:20] Speaker 2: Now.
[36:21] Speaker 5: Yeah, of course my friends.
[36:25] Speaker 1: Because I did not want to go out the whole weekend.
[36:29] Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, cool, I'm gonna let.
[36:30] Speaker 5: Him do his thing.
[36:31] Speaker 1: So my friends were like, oh, we're coming in town,
[36:33] Speaker 1: We're going out. You gotta look good. And I was like,
[36:36] Speaker 1: I ain't trying to be on that.
[36:37] Speaker 5: You know who I am. That was like, nah, he
[36:39] Speaker 5: needs to really know.
[36:40] Speaker 1: Put him in your friends, And I say, you know what,
[36:43] Speaker 1: you why baby, I just got my hair done.
[36:45] Speaker 5: Let's do it. So we go out.
[36:48] Speaker 1: They said, put him in your close friends. I said, Ben,
[36:50] Speaker 1: I'm only posting my close friends.
[36:52] Speaker 10: I'm in my phone like this right, I'm running to
[37:01] Speaker 10: the back other morning.
[37:09] Speaker 5: Honey, I'm having a tongue. Well, I'm making it look
[37:12] Speaker 5: like I'm having a time.
[37:14] Speaker 1: So I'm out having a good time with my girls.
[37:17] Speaker 1: So my friend was like, call him right now, and
[37:19] Speaker 1: I was like, no, he out with her. Call him
[37:22] Speaker 1: just to see if he answered, I said, you know what,
[37:25] Speaker 1: I like this energy.
[37:26] Speaker 5: Let's do it. I'm literally a con loud and a sweet.
[37:33] Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, I'm over here. I ain't want nothing. I
[37:38] Speaker 1: just wanted to see if you want answer. He was like, man,
[37:41] Speaker 1: don't do me like, don't like this.
[37:44] Speaker 5: I said, you did this to yourself? My girls?
[37:58] Speaker 2: All right? What was you doing? I'm in the car
[38:00] Speaker 2: and were driving.
[38:02] Speaker 3: The first I think the first time she called, I
[38:03] Speaker 3: got the little joint where I already had her name saying.
[38:11] Speaker 2: Up on the screen or her whole move change.
[38:13] Speaker 3: I tried to hit that, pissed off the rest of
[38:22] Speaker 3: the that the rest of the night, and dog watch
[38:26] Speaker 3: you as because I loved her.
[38:33] Speaker 1: Again because I literally told him, I said, well, I
[38:36] Speaker 1: appreciate you being honest. I'm a respected I'm gonna let
[38:39] Speaker 1: you do your thing because I know she ain't me,
[38:41] Speaker 1: So do your thing.
[38:42] Speaker 2: Come on.
[38:43] Speaker 5: When I called the answer and I said.
[38:45] Speaker 11: Why the phone in front of the girl, I knew
[38:49] Speaker 11: that this was the one dog and like the thing
[38:53] Speaker 11: about it if you don't, if you don't move.
[38:56] Speaker 2: Like God asks you to move like, he'll start revealing things.
[38:59] Speaker 3: So like when the girl was here, I started seeing
[39:02] Speaker 3: things that I didn't like about.
[39:04] Speaker 2: I started seeing things that I can't deal with that.
[39:07] Speaker 3: So God, in my flash, I was like, I still
[39:10] Speaker 3: got to make these plans, was all I got. I
[39:14] Speaker 3: showed you your way, but you wanna be hardheaded, Let's
[39:17] Speaker 3: let me let me take you through it.
[39:18] Speaker 2: And then he just started revenge. Okay, she don't. Yeah nah.
[39:22] Speaker 2: So literally, while I'm with her, all I could do
[39:24] Speaker 2: was think about her answer the phone.
[39:28] Speaker 3: Literally we had a whole clowne and she's like, he
[39:31] Speaker 3: keep from the bathroom, somebody.
[39:34] Speaker 2: Stop calling, you know, Sunday taking home maybe a little
[39:47] Speaker 2: two minutes. Yeah, I'm gay.
[39:50] Speaker 3: And I thought I was gonna lose her mm hmm.
[39:55] Speaker 3: But like that was that was the thing I had
[39:58] Speaker 3: to balance. And I guess when I initially told her
[40:02] Speaker 3: like I I was, I was that nervous because I
[40:07] Speaker 3: thought I was going to lose her. So if that
[40:10] Speaker 3: were going to be the case, I was going to
[40:11] Speaker 3: give her my best shot before she got out of here.
[40:14] Speaker 3: Like I like you, I look like, but I have
[40:17] Speaker 3: I got to tell you what's happening.
[40:18] Speaker 2: Let me tell you something Ray.
[40:19] Speaker 4: And this is the reason why I said, I have
[40:20] Speaker 4: to apply honesty and transparency. I'm past honesty. I say,
[40:26] Speaker 4: honesty is telling the truth when I asked a question.
[40:28] Speaker 4: Transparency is telling me what I don't even know to ask.
[40:31] Speaker 4: I desire transparency. So transparency is listen, I'm single. I
[40:35] Speaker 4: owe you anything. What I'm going to give you is
[40:39] Speaker 4: my transparency to say that, hey, I always want to
[40:41] Speaker 4: be upfront with you so that we could manage our
[40:44] Speaker 4: expectations and understand what it is and what it's not.
[40:47] Speaker 4: And for him to be able to say, listen, I
[40:49] Speaker 4: had all this motion going on before I met you.
[40:51] Speaker 4: This is this is my life. It just so happened.
[40:55] Speaker 4: I saw you on Instagram. I ran into you at
[40:57] Speaker 4: a run club, So this is what it is. I'm
[41:02] Speaker 4: meeting you just like any other one, but that actually
[41:05] Speaker 4: like you. Hold on, this is crazy? Am I tripping?
[41:08] Speaker 4: Because maybe because I could be wrong about you, like
[41:14] Speaker 4: you could be really great and cool. I've only known
[41:16] Speaker 4: you for such a short period of time. I don't
[41:18] Speaker 4: know who you are what you are. I know how
[41:19] Speaker 4: I feel, though, but I kind of got a question
[41:22] Speaker 4: my own feelings too. What I do know is this
[41:25] Speaker 4: sure thing that's coming through the next I don't know
[41:31] Speaker 4: what that is. And then in the process of it,
[41:34] Speaker 4: the fact that standing truth and honesty and say, listen,
[41:36] Speaker 4: this is what it is, and the way you handle that.
[41:39] Speaker 4: I'm telling you, and I'm gonna put words in Ray's
[41:42] Speaker 4: mouth that actually solidified even more you were to him
[41:48] Speaker 4: because he had a conversation with you.
[41:50] Speaker 2: She was like, she ain't tripping, she ain't great, she
[41:53] Speaker 2: can handle this.
[41:58] Speaker 1: He said, Oh, Man, was hurt and getting ready to
[42:01] Speaker 1: tell you that. I kept going back and forth, but
[42:03] Speaker 1: I was like, I just gotta tell her. I said, Alessa,
[42:06] Speaker 1: I'm so glad you did. I appreciate your honesty. I said,
[42:10] Speaker 1: no matter how my feelings may feel. Right now, you
[42:13] Speaker 1: have no idea what you did by telling me and
[42:16] Speaker 1: being honest that part you have revealed what can happen.
[42:21] Speaker 1: Now it's up to me on how I react for
[42:23] Speaker 1: this to play out facts.
[42:25] Speaker 5: I said, so, and.
[42:27] Speaker 4: Your mama said, that's the reason why it's always great
[42:30] Speaker 4: to have wise counsel around because they understand. They're like, baby,
[42:35] Speaker 4: you gotta be worried about what you don't know, because
[42:37] Speaker 4: if this man is telling you the truth, you want
[42:39] Speaker 4: to cultivate that and foster that as long as possible,
[42:43] Speaker 4: because that's the beauty. That's what protects you once you
[42:46] Speaker 4: get married. And he y'all go through a rocky moment
[42:49] Speaker 4: in y'all's marriage, and then his eyes start turning towards
[42:52] Speaker 4: a woman. He said, Oh, before it goes anywhere, baby,
[42:54] Speaker 4: let me tell you something. Yeah, this is woman I
[42:56] Speaker 4: ran into at such and such, and I've always been
[42:58] Speaker 4: honest with you. Now we're area, I'm gonna still be
[43:01] Speaker 4: honestly transparent with you. This woman right here, I feel
[43:04] Speaker 4: a little weak in this area. I need you to
[43:05] Speaker 4: cover me in that. Baby, I got you. Thank you
[43:07] Speaker 4: for being honestly. Let's go ahead and put some boundaries
[43:09] Speaker 4: around this. Let me pray for you, let me cover you,
[43:12] Speaker 4: let me I got you. I got you like cool.
[43:15] Speaker 4: You know what I'm saying, And that's what mayor should
[43:16] Speaker 4: be about. Not like if I tell her she's gonna
[43:18] Speaker 4: be tripping right, she gonna hold it over my head
[43:21] Speaker 4: like you're gonna weaponize my honesty the sword. If I
[43:27] Speaker 4: was trying to hear that, you wouldn't know about it.
[43:29] Speaker 4: When I was really trying to do something behind your back.
[43:31] Speaker 4: I promise you you wouldn't know about it. I'm sitting
[43:34] Speaker 4: up for telling you. Hey, this is what it is,
[43:36] Speaker 4: and you can choose any way to handle this, but
[43:38] Speaker 4: I gotta be free to least tell you, absolutely, tell
[43:41] Speaker 4: you what's going on. That is a good man to
[43:43] Speaker 4: operate like that.
[43:45] Speaker 2: That's a good man. But a lot of men don't
[43:48] Speaker 2: operate like that.
[43:48] Speaker 4: And then I used to always say, if you're a
[43:51] Speaker 4: true player, you can tell the truth. Listen, this is
[43:58] Speaker 4: what I got, This is what I got going on on.
[44:00] Speaker 4: What you're gonna do about it? She gotta because but
[44:03] Speaker 4: I learned that from a woman back in the day.
[44:05] Speaker 4: A woman told me, if men just told me the truth,
[44:08] Speaker 4: that I can decide what I want to entertain. So
[44:11] Speaker 4: when a woman told me that years ago, I said, well,
[44:13] Speaker 4: I'm always telling.
[44:17] Speaker 2: I'm dealing with this other chick. I'm dealing with you
[44:18] Speaker 2: want to be number three? So what you want to
[44:21] Speaker 2: do with that? Want know what? That's what time?
[44:25] Speaker 3: Whatever?
[44:26] Speaker 2: It's like, I'm telling you honesty.
[44:29] Speaker 4: They used to say, honesty is the best policy.
[44:31] Speaker 2: It really is. You don't understand until you put it
[44:33] Speaker 2: into the application.
[44:34] Speaker 4: Ever, and if she says no, I just don't want
[44:36] Speaker 4: to do with that, all right, cool, Just like you said,
[44:39] Speaker 4: I'm just looking at be a baby dadd here that.
[44:45] Speaker 2: I'm a wife, thank you.
[44:48] Speaker 4: So we're miss aligned to this. And if you want
[44:50] Speaker 4: to be a baby daddy, that's not what I want.
[44:52] Speaker 4: And go keep that energy. And you're sitting there like
[44:54] Speaker 4: hold on.
[44:57] Speaker 2: Usually working with.
[45:08] Speaker 3: She was solid, man and who she was and you
[45:12] Speaker 3: could feel it. She didn't have to tell me who
[45:15] Speaker 3: she was. I felt who she was. Man, What did
[45:17] Speaker 3: you like about her in those two dates? But her
[45:22] Speaker 3: personality is out of this out of this world. We
[45:24] Speaker 3: can hear what twenty something minutes and everybody like, her
[45:28] Speaker 3: personality is out of this world. She's god fearing, comes
[45:32] Speaker 3: from a good family, she can sing, she's she's drop
[45:42] Speaker 3: dead beautiful. Oh man, she's she's a nurturer, bro Like,
[45:48] Speaker 3: I feel her love. She doesn't just tell me that.
[45:51] Speaker 3: I feel that she loves me and cares about me.
[45:54] Speaker 3: And that is a rare, rare thing to find. And
[45:57] Speaker 3: if you got it, hold on tight. Please you said
[46:00] Speaker 3: beauty later.
[46:02] Speaker 4: And most women believe that beauty is what makes a
[46:05] Speaker 4: man marry a woman. I've heard women say that they
[46:09] Speaker 4: be like, oh, I mean, man, just caught up and
[46:10] Speaker 4: looks and all that. Why does beauty come down the
[46:15] Speaker 4: down the path man.
[46:16] Speaker 2: That came.
[46:17] Speaker 3: That came with wisdom because because the pretty girl drive
[46:19] Speaker 3: you crazy? Pretty woman drive me crazy? So that fell
[46:33] Speaker 3: that fell down my priority. Listen a long time.
[46:36] Speaker 1: I don't want to look at picture all day that
[46:38] Speaker 1: I don't want to listen to bring me you canna
[46:41] Speaker 1: be fine?
[46:41] Speaker 5: All you want? Drive me crazy?
[46:44] Speaker 3: Can I go to church with you? Can I bring
[46:47] Speaker 3: you around my friends and my family and my work,
[46:49] Speaker 3: my coworkers and my boss, Like, can can you be
[46:54] Speaker 3: who I need you to be? Forget a pretty face?
[46:57] Speaker 3: We can touch that up on Instagram?
[47:05] Speaker 2: Can you bring me peace? If I want to go
[47:09] Speaker 2: to sleep? Can you help me?
[47:11] Speaker 4: Can you help me do that? If I want to
[47:13] Speaker 4: go to sleep? Can you help me do that?
[47:26] Speaker 2: And so what is?
[47:28] Speaker 4: It seems like y'all are like each other's best friend.
[47:30] Speaker 4: Y'all laugh with each other, y'all crack up, y'all have
[47:33] Speaker 4: these moments of just y'all?
[47:35] Speaker 2: Just would you say that you can just tell him anything?
[47:38] Speaker 1: Yeah, it's so hard when it's time to surprise him
[47:42] Speaker 1: with something.
[47:43] Speaker 5: Because I tell him everything.
[47:46] Speaker 1: When I tell you the struggle bus be real Because
[47:50] Speaker 1: Ray is the first person that I think of when
[47:52] Speaker 1: something exciting happens, or I get a brand new idea,
[47:56] Speaker 1: I run to Ray So when I want to surprise
[47:58] Speaker 1: him with stuff and I'm like.
[48:00] Speaker 5: Oh, no, no, no, I can't tell.
[48:01] Speaker 2: I can't tell.
[48:02] Speaker 1: Like with his birthday, Oh my gosh, a struggle because
[48:05] Speaker 1: I'm big on birthday, so playing trips and taking the
[48:09] Speaker 1: places and he don't know nothing.
[48:11] Speaker 5: I'd be like, like, is you almost thought on you.
[48:14] Speaker 2: Real real quick.
[48:15] Speaker 3: On the birthday, I got a shout out with my wife.
[48:17] Speaker 3: My favorite artist is John Legend.
[48:19] Speaker 2: Y'all, I don't know if you follow me. I know
[48:22] Speaker 2: all his songs.
[48:24] Speaker 3: She got with the help of the vet Nicole Brown,
[48:27] Speaker 3: Love you girl.
[48:28] Speaker 2: She got John Legend to sing Happy Birthday to me.
[48:31] Speaker 2: Wow wow. It still depended on my on my Instagram.
[48:36] Speaker 2: Ba wow. She got John Legend, my favorite artist, to
[48:39] Speaker 2: sing a birthday to thank you.
[48:45] Speaker 3: He did this big one when he said he gonna
[48:47] Speaker 3: make you the head and not to tell. Come on,
[48:49] Speaker 3: when he said he gonna make you the first and
[48:50] Speaker 3: not the last. Please believe it, Please believe it.
[48:54] Speaker 2: Gave you beautiful ass man. Come on, brother, come on brother.
[48:59] Speaker 2: It was something so power befo.
[49:00] Speaker 4: I saw one of the videos I watched research and y'all,
[49:03] Speaker 4: what did you do to honor his late wife?
[49:08] Speaker 1: So for the one year passing, I decided I kept
[49:11] Speaker 1: asking him. As the tom was getting closer, I was like,
[49:14] Speaker 1: you know what, honey, what do you want to do?
[49:15] Speaker 1: I'm here for you. This isn't about anybody else but you.
[49:21] Speaker 1: You were in the relationship, you spent those hours in time.
[49:24] Speaker 1: How do you want to celebrate her memory? So we
[49:28] Speaker 1: kept going back and forth on trying to debate what
[49:30] Speaker 1: he wanted to do. He was like, you know, I
[49:31] Speaker 1: think I just want to do an intimate balloon release.
[49:33] Speaker 1: So I said, okay, we can do that. I decided
[49:36] Speaker 1: to take it a step further and reach out to
[49:38] Speaker 1: his mom. So I had his mom surprise him from Charleston.
[49:41] Speaker 1: She came in to Charlotte. Yeah, so I said, I
[49:45] Speaker 1: want to make today full of love for you. So
[49:48] Speaker 1: I decided to take him to breakfast to one of
[49:50] Speaker 1: his favorite spots, which is also a spot that him
[49:54] Speaker 1: and Roz used.
[49:54] Speaker 5: To enjoy going to. His mom surprised him at the restaurant.
[49:58] Speaker 5: So I'm sitting here, Oh, I got to take a
[50:00] Speaker 5: call real.
[50:01] Speaker 1: Quick, go outside to get his mom comeing in surprise him.
[50:04] Speaker 1: He cries at breakfast. We leave breakfast, I go to
[50:07] Speaker 1: Party City to get the balloons for the balloon release.
[50:10] Speaker 1: All the things took him to the gun range. I
[50:13] Speaker 1: was like, I want you to do things that help
[50:14] Speaker 1: you relax, you know, to enjoy the day. So after
[50:17] Speaker 1: we did that, he wrote a nice love letter, an
[50:21] Speaker 1: intimate letter on the balloon. We went to a not
[50:24] Speaker 1: even a park really, so it's right down the street
[50:27] Speaker 1: from where he lived at the time. It was like
[50:30] Speaker 1: an open pond, had prayer and just sat in silence,
[50:34] Speaker 1: and I said, honey, this time is for you to
[50:36] Speaker 1: do what you need, but I'm here for you, and
[50:39] Speaker 1: I let him have his moment, his time.
[50:41] Speaker 5: To do whatever he wanted to do.
[50:43] Speaker 1: Whatever he said during his prayer, released the balloon and
[50:46] Speaker 1: we literally just watched it. His mom took some pictures
[50:49] Speaker 1: and videos from behind us and just prayed, really prayed
[50:54] Speaker 1: over that, because I feel like when.
[50:56] Speaker 5: People see grief, they forget grief doesn't have a day.
[51:01] Speaker 1: So I knew going into this, which is why I
[51:04] Speaker 1: stress the importance of tell me what you need, even
[51:08] Speaker 1: if that's alone time, quiet, Tom. I just want to cry,
[51:12] Speaker 1: even if it's toime. You just want to reflect and
[51:14] Speaker 1: laugh about her or remember the times that y'all had.
[51:17] Speaker 1: That matters when you're entering into a relationship with someone
[51:22] Speaker 1: that has lost someone, because I tell him all the time,
[51:24] Speaker 1: I could not imagine what you went through, and not
[51:27] Speaker 1: only just the experience, but at the age that you were.
[51:32] Speaker 1: He was very young in his twenties to experience something
[51:35] Speaker 1: like that. I don't know anybody, let alone a man. Yeah,
[51:39] Speaker 1: to go through something that traumatic and not just experience it,
[51:44] Speaker 1: but in front of the world, to see you handled
[51:47] Speaker 1: it with grace and seeing that in him being so
[51:52] Speaker 1: transparent and where he was emotionally, All I wanted to
[51:56] Speaker 1: do was just be there and love on you. So
[51:58] Speaker 1: I didn't look at it as a let me be
[52:00] Speaker 1: your therapist and tell you what to do. I can't
[52:02] Speaker 1: tell you what to do. I've never lived in I've
[52:05] Speaker 1: never been in those shoes. All I can do is
[52:07] Speaker 1: love on you and be here for when you need me.
[52:10] Speaker 1: So I took it upon myself to just make it
[52:12] Speaker 1: a day of love and do whatever his heart desire.
[52:15] Speaker 2: Who told you do that, Lexus?
[52:21] Speaker 4: It would have to be because if you were immaturity emostly,
[52:25] Speaker 4: you wouldn't your immaturity would get in a way of
[52:28] Speaker 4: you being a wife.
[52:29] Speaker 2: Yeah, let me help you understand that. Help me, Holy Spirit.
[52:33] Speaker 4: Your immaturity could prevent you from showing up as a
[52:37] Speaker 4: wife that little girl, that little broken girl who always
[52:42] Speaker 4: was mishandled by relationships with men. Then you'd be like, now,
[52:47] Speaker 4: I'm not finna prioritize another woman over what I'm trying
[52:52] Speaker 4: to build with him. I don't want him focus on
[52:54] Speaker 4: what he had with some other woman over what I'm
[52:57] Speaker 4: trying to build with him. And that's why I say immaturity,
[53:01] Speaker 4: because maturity is if you can show up in a
[53:05] Speaker 4: place where you can give him space and grace in
[53:10] Speaker 4: this area and allow him to celebrate a love that
[53:15] Speaker 4: was taken away from him without you internalizing it as
[53:19] Speaker 4: looking at you as something less than or whatnot, then
[53:22] Speaker 4: it creates a greater bond with you. Gosh, it's so
[53:27] Speaker 4: this is so important because I had an episode with
[53:30] Speaker 4: Shavonne and Cheyenne and something similar where he ended up
[53:35] Speaker 4: getting a tattoo of his wife.
[53:37] Speaker 2: Didn't you get tattooed? Yeah, the tattoo. We got these together.
[53:41] Speaker 2: It's eleven or four when we got married. And then
[53:43] Speaker 2: this she had this on her hand, and then I
[53:46] Speaker 2: got this after she passed.
[53:47] Speaker 4: Away, and Chavon went with her now her husband to
[53:53] Speaker 4: get a tattoo of his wife's, of his late wives.
[53:57] Speaker 4: It was something that he got tattooed, and people like, uh,
[53:59] Speaker 4: that couldn't be me.
[54:01] Speaker 1: And I want to say something. I'm so glad you
[54:03] Speaker 1: say that. To the people that say it couldn't be me,
[54:05] Speaker 1: You're right, And that's exactly why it's not you. That's
[54:10] Speaker 1: exactly why y'all love to say what you would do
[54:14] Speaker 1: and I would react this way, which is why you're
[54:16] Speaker 1: not in the situation. And God didn't put you in
[54:19] Speaker 1: that place or in that season. It's because you would
[54:21] Speaker 1: mishandle it. So a lot of times we like to say,
[54:24] Speaker 1: oh girl, he mishandled me. Okay, well you've mishandled a
[54:26] Speaker 1: good man too. We need to take accountability there it
[54:30] Speaker 1: is and see ourselves. There's always room for growth, there's
[54:33] Speaker 1: always room to be better. And I feel as though
[54:36] Speaker 1: because of the way that Ray exuded himself, he didn't
[54:38] Speaker 1: hide anything about his situation from me. How could I
[54:44] Speaker 1: not want to be there for you and just love
[54:46] Speaker 1: you through that. People love to assume that there's a comparison,
[54:51] Speaker 1: and I'm like, there's nothing to compare. We're not talking
[54:55] Speaker 1: about an ex girlfriend, We're not talking about a situation.
[54:58] Speaker 2: This was his.
[55:01] Speaker 1: And there is a certain covenant between him and her
[55:05] Speaker 1: and the Lord that is sacred. So I'm going to
[55:09] Speaker 1: usher into that with the utmost care. I don't need
[55:12] Speaker 1: to know every single detail and everything that happened.
[55:16] Speaker 5: It was still a marriage. This ain't no high school relationship.
[55:21] Speaker 1: Okay, well tell me I don't need to know. I
[55:25] Speaker 1: know how you felt, I know how you loved, and
[55:28] Speaker 1: that's all that matters. There's no comparison. We are two
[55:32] Speaker 1: completely different people.
[55:34] Speaker 5: And for anyone that.
[55:34] Speaker 1: Feels the need to feel compared or feel a way
[55:40] Speaker 1: about someone that.
[55:41] Speaker 5: Is on with the Lord, your mind is in the
[55:42] Speaker 5: wrong place.
[55:44] Speaker 1: You are focused on the wrong thing, which is why
[55:46] Speaker 1: God is not going to bless you with your more
[55:49] Speaker 1: is because you're stuck and focused on the least.
[55:52] Speaker 5: That doesn't matter.
[55:55] Speaker 2: That doesn't matter. I think Lexis has a whole women's ministry.
[56:06] Speaker 5: You whatever you say, I'm gonna do walk in ministry
[56:09] Speaker 5: every day.
[56:10] Speaker 2: Right.
[56:10] Speaker 4: How did you How did you feel having her show
[56:14] Speaker 4: up for you like this.
[56:16] Speaker 2: One? Because I can't imagine what was going on in
[56:20] Speaker 2: your mind. I was.
[56:23] Speaker 3: I was blown away. Man, it's hard to put it
[56:26] Speaker 3: into words. I'm better at putting it into tears and
[56:31] Speaker 3: just cry and saying thank you God. But uh, I
[56:35] Speaker 3: said something on my live I think it was like
[56:37] Speaker 3: two three weeks ago.
[56:39] Speaker 2: Uh, and it just like jumped out of me.
[56:41] Speaker 3: I'm no longer surprised when God blesses me because I
[56:46] Speaker 3: know the life I'm living. I know what i'm I
[56:48] Speaker 3: know the work i'm doing. I know that the people
[56:50] Speaker 3: I'm helping. And God said, try me and see if
[56:53] Speaker 3: I will not open you the windows of heaven. God,
[56:57] Speaker 3: I'm doing what you're asking me to do. You ain't
[57:00] Speaker 3: never lied to me before, so I know some blessings coming.
[57:03] Speaker 3: So when I recognize it, that's why that's why I
[57:05] Speaker 3: appreciate it. I protect it, I love on it, I
[57:09] Speaker 3: share it. I can't keep it unless I give it away.
[57:12] Speaker 3: So like I was just in awe of God, thank you.
[57:17] Speaker 3: In a time where I could be said I could
[57:19] Speaker 3: be crying sad tears, I'm crying tears of joy.
[57:25] Speaker 2: What are some things that you have?
[57:27] Speaker 4: You had to walk through some things with Lexus in
[57:30] Speaker 4: these last couple of.
[57:31] Speaker 3: Years, initially when when the hateful comments started. And I
[57:41] Speaker 3: also want to say shout out to everybody who's showed
[57:43] Speaker 3: us nothing but love and support and congratulatories.
[57:47] Speaker 2: Like thank you, thank you.
[57:50] Speaker 3: We don't want to give the squeaky wheel the grease,
[57:53] Speaker 3: but you know what I'm saying, But.
[57:54] Speaker 2: The hate is what we're going to talk about right now.
[57:59] Speaker 3: I I had to. I had to try my best
[58:01] Speaker 3: to shield her from it and ask her how like
[58:06] Speaker 3: how it was making her.
[58:07] Speaker 2: Feel, and then just reassure, like to take all that stuff.
[58:12] Speaker 3: With a grain of salt, because none of those people
[58:14] Speaker 3: knew me, you know what I'm saying, So like walking
[58:18] Speaker 3: through that making sure she feels unique, like this is
[58:20] Speaker 3: a unique love special knowing that I care about her heart,
[58:26] Speaker 3: her mind, her family, just just letting her know I
[58:33] Speaker 3: am here.
[58:35] Speaker 2: That's a hard thing to balance.
[58:37] Speaker 4: How do you balance making this love unique when the
[58:43] Speaker 4: past love was so.
[58:46] Speaker 2: Promoted it was.
[58:48] Speaker 3: So it feels so promoted because most people just don't
[58:52] Speaker 3: live the way like that. Like just like Lexis said earlier,
[58:56] Speaker 3: I share everything that I love, so it's it's still unique,
[59:01] Speaker 3: It's just a different variation of it. Chocolate ice cream
[59:04] Speaker 3: and vanilla ice cream, both ice cream. You know what
[59:07] Speaker 3: I'm saying, like and it doesn't take away from from
[59:10] Speaker 3: one another. I love this woman uniquely. I love this
[59:14] Speaker 3: woman genuinely. I know that God blessed me with her.
[59:17] Speaker 3: That's all I'm focused on, man, just just nurturing this woman.
[59:22] Speaker 2: This relationship. Is she gonna give me some some some baby.
[59:25] Speaker 2: This is gonna be a legacy that's gonna be built here.
[59:27] Speaker 2: So I got to put all my stuff in.
[59:30] Speaker 3: I got I gotta give my best every day, and
[59:32] Speaker 3: even when I'm not my best, I still got to
[59:34] Speaker 3: show up.
[59:45] Speaker 5: I trust you, go right now, right now.
[59:50] Speaker 1: And you know it's It's funny how God works. I
[59:53] Speaker 1: feel like God has a sense of humor. You don't
[59:56] Speaker 1: realize how he prepares you until he reveals what he
[59:59] Speaker 1: had been working on all along. So the reason I
[1:00:01] Speaker 1: had brought up my news background was because I was
[1:00:05] Speaker 1: a very.
[1:00:05] Speaker 5: Private person before I met Ray.
[1:00:07] Speaker 1: So the only thing on my platform was work related
[1:00:11] Speaker 1: or just being out and about being a girl.
[1:00:13] Speaker 5: That was it. So when it came to the hate,
[1:00:17] Speaker 5: I had.
[1:00:17] Speaker 1: Already known how to deal with that because of my
[1:00:21] Speaker 1: news background. You can't appease everybody. Everyone has an opinion.
[1:00:26] Speaker 1: You can tell them it's going to rain today and
[1:00:27] Speaker 1: they gonna look at you in your.
[1:00:29] Speaker 5: Face and say you're a liar. So dealing with it.
[1:00:34] Speaker 5: So dealing with that.
[1:00:37] Speaker 1: Even before meeting and knowing Ray, I had already had
[1:00:41] Speaker 1: it in my mind. I've always been a person that
[1:00:43] Speaker 1: did not care about others opinions. I was a news reporter,
[1:00:49] Speaker 1: so I first started out as an assignment editor confirming
[1:00:51] Speaker 1: breaking news, and then I leveled up and got two
[1:00:53] Speaker 1: of my own segments called Charlotte Alive and Local, and
[1:00:56] Speaker 1: then I created my own coming out of the pandemic.
[1:00:59] Speaker 1: I wanted people to be able to experience fun things
[1:01:01] Speaker 1: they could still do safely, so that was called the
[1:01:04] Speaker 1: Charlotte Checklist. So I was the producer. I did all
[1:01:07] Speaker 1: the things on the one.
[1:01:09] Speaker 4: Yeah, and so you get you'll get negative stuff from that.
[1:01:12] Speaker 1: Oh, people always got to Yes, her nail's too long, child,
[1:01:17] Speaker 1: don't email me because your husband watching the movies.
[1:01:20] Speaker 5: He should come on. I don't got nothing with your household. Girl,
[1:01:24] Speaker 5: Is you gonna come in here and buy.
[1:01:26] Speaker 2: This or not?
[1:01:27] Speaker 5: That's what I'm worried about.
[1:01:28] Speaker 1: Okay, So I've dealt with emails, Facebook comings. I said, child,
[1:01:38] Speaker 1: don't care nothing about that.
[1:01:41] Speaker 5: Did you like my dress today?
[1:01:43] Speaker 1: Sally Sally?
[1:01:44] Speaker 5: Sally Man was cute or not? So when it came
[1:01:49] Speaker 5: down to stuff like that, had already been.
[1:01:51] Speaker 7: Like, y'all really didn't know who I was because I
[1:01:55] Speaker 7: don't care about none of this because it was never
[1:01:59] Speaker 7: that from the closest to and that's what mattered.
[1:02:02] Speaker 2: Are the people close to you?
[1:02:04] Speaker 5: Yeah, and so it never mattered.
[1:02:05] Speaker 1: We just look at it a lot of times, we
[1:02:07] Speaker 1: scrolling through it, laughing about it, like the.
[1:02:11] Speaker 5: It blows my mind the stories.
[1:02:13] Speaker 2: The imagination people come up.
[1:02:16] Speaker 1: With they think happened, or what they think is going on,
[1:02:20] Speaker 1: and I'm just like, y'all are hilarious, crazy.
[1:02:23] Speaker 2: What they think happened.
[1:02:25] Speaker 3: Oh, child, you think before in the background, And I'm.
[1:02:32] Speaker 5: Just like research people.
[1:02:34] Speaker 1: First of all, we had one time we were in
[1:02:38] Speaker 1: the grocery store. This guy came up to us and
[1:02:40] Speaker 1: was like, oh, y'all look so familiar.
[1:02:43] Speaker 5: I think I met you all of you. I said,
[1:02:44] Speaker 5: don't start that roomor sir like that we joke about
[1:02:53] Speaker 5: because please don't start that. They look like, Okay, We're like.
[1:03:03] Speaker 1: No, sir, absolutely not, honey. But yeah, all kinds of things.
[1:03:13] Speaker 1: And then from me having my news background, people assumed, oh, well,
[1:03:17] Speaker 1: you had to have known him and their story because
[1:03:19] Speaker 1: you worked in this. And I'm like, y'all don't understand
[1:03:22] Speaker 1: how news works. There are fifty millions of stories that
[1:03:26] Speaker 1: come in day in and day out on a regular basis.
[1:03:29] Speaker 5: It didn't work like that.
[1:03:31] Speaker 1: And that's why I always speak of the importance of
[1:03:34] Speaker 1: people knowing that our relationship is God ordained.
[1:03:37] Speaker 5: No one put us together but the Lord.
[1:03:40] Speaker 1: And I know people want to say nice things and
[1:03:43] Speaker 1: comment nice things that they think sounds good, but we
[1:03:46] Speaker 1: have to be careful with our words and who we
[1:03:48] Speaker 1: give power and authority to. No one put us together
[1:03:52] Speaker 1: but God. Roz is resting peacefully with the Lord without
[1:03:56] Speaker 1: a care in the world.
[1:03:58] Speaker 4: Wouldn't it wouldn't be funny to know if you if
[1:04:01] Speaker 4: you had, if we had the power to talk to her,
[1:04:03] Speaker 4: And Rob said, I'm not going to hook that up,
[1:04:08] Speaker 4: like no.
[1:04:09] Speaker 11: No, nobody knows.
[1:04:12] Speaker 2: Exactly based on.
[1:04:16] Speaker 5: To me about who she is. I said, ain't no
[1:04:19] Speaker 5: way y'all can really believe crazy.
[1:04:25] Speaker 1: Now, because I wouldn't say that sen him up here
[1:04:31] Speaker 1: with me?
[1:04:32] Speaker 4: What about what did my fiance say that what I
[1:04:37] Speaker 4: was saying, I was an interview all time. I'm telling you,
[1:04:39] Speaker 4: if something happened to me, I'm I'm a I'm a hont.
[1:04:44] Speaker 5: I'm sorry.
[1:04:48] Speaker 6: Knowing that exactly right, right right right when you hot
[1:04:55] Speaker 6: her one hundred one thousand percent, I mean, ain't gonna
[1:05:00] Speaker 6: be getting no action on the mine.
[1:05:01] Speaker 2: It's over. It's over.
[1:05:03] Speaker 5: I told him. I said, that's fine. I'm all right, Lord,
[1:05:05] Speaker 5: So what we're doing, my husband is gone immediately, immediately.
[1:05:17] Speaker 4: So gosh, y'all dated for how long before y'all got married?
[1:05:24] Speaker 2: A year?
[1:05:25] Speaker 1: He proposed on our one years, one year, and then
[1:05:28] Speaker 1: got married the day before our two years.
[1:05:33] Speaker 2: Yeah, the venue is cheaper.
[1:05:42] Speaker 5: We're still celebrating on the sixteen. Everybody, Oh you're not married.
[1:05:46] Speaker 5: Maybe all the coldes are eight sixteen. We're gonna keep
[1:05:50] Speaker 5: eight sixteen, all right.
[1:05:52] Speaker 1: Pray Lord got I still sixteen and.
[1:05:59] Speaker 2: This is the sixth.
[1:06:00] Speaker 5: We appreciate it, but we're celebrating on the sixteen.
[1:06:03] Speaker 4: Yeah, so y'all got so, y'all actual wedding day was
[1:06:06] Speaker 4: on fifteen.
[1:06:07] Speaker 2: Yeah, that's when my grandbaby was born. Oh, come on, grandmady.
[1:06:11] Speaker 4: August August to fifteenth you're a granddad. I'm a granddad.
[1:06:16] Speaker 2: What is grandfatherhood? Yeah? Does that work? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, yeah,
[1:06:20] Speaker 2: grandfather Well that's the work.
[1:06:22] Speaker 4: It just it feels so great because my daughter, she's
[1:06:25] Speaker 4: been married for three years to her high school sweetheart,
[1:06:30] Speaker 4: moved them to college together. And I don't even look
[1:06:33] Speaker 4: at that as like my son in law.
[1:06:35] Speaker 2: That's my son.
[1:06:36] Speaker 4: And so it's just been beautiful because the journey was
[1:06:39] Speaker 4: such a struggle and like, I'm gonna have her come
[1:06:42] Speaker 4: on there and she can share own story. But it
[1:06:43] Speaker 4: was a struggle and conceiving and my granddaughter was born
[1:06:48] Speaker 4: a month early. It's supposed to be born. This month
[1:06:53] Speaker 4: came August to fifteenth. They induced labor and she was born.
[1:06:58] Speaker 4: They said, we can get it to this next day,
[1:07:01] Speaker 4: then we're good. She want to have to spend time
[1:07:03] Speaker 4: and NICKI or whatever.
[1:07:04] Speaker 2: It should be good. And so.
[1:07:07] Speaker 4: That day they passed that, and then the next day
[1:07:10] Speaker 4: later by Clara Elizabeth Claire.
[1:07:15] Speaker 2: Elizabeth nice old white name Claren get Clara read all
[1:07:25] Speaker 2: the way through that.
[1:07:30] Speaker 4: Like wow, I said, yeah, I told my y'all picked
[1:07:32] Speaker 4: the whitest name y'all can find her.
[1:07:34] Speaker 2: She was like, we just liked the name. It sounds
[1:07:37] Speaker 2: very regal, I said, somebody was on the cl.
[1:07:45] Speaker 1: Clara Claire Claire.
[1:07:51] Speaker 5: Clar're gonna said, Hilaria.
[1:07:59] Speaker 4: So y'all got married the same day, even though y'all
[1:08:01] Speaker 4: are claiming the day after. Yeah, So what has marriage
[1:08:04] Speaker 4: taught y'all?
[1:08:06] Speaker 1: Communication is key, communication and making time for each other.
[1:08:12] Speaker 1: Do not let the work week and and just life.
[1:08:16] Speaker 1: Don't let that change what made you fall in love?
[1:08:20] Speaker 1: That's what it's taught me so far.
[1:08:21] Speaker 2: What about you? Right? What is it taught you? Uh?
[1:08:24] Speaker 3: This life thing ain't that hard, man, Love ain't hard,
[1:08:30] Speaker 3: like it's It's literally been one of the easiest things
[1:08:33] Speaker 3: to do. I don't have to I literally don't have
[1:08:36] Speaker 3: to put on I don't have to become a different person.
[1:08:39] Speaker 3: I wake up authentically and I'm loved authentically.
[1:08:43] Speaker 2: So now all I'm doing is just just pooring porn?
[1:08:46] Speaker 2: How okay?
[1:08:47] Speaker 3: How how can we be more happy? How can we
[1:08:49] Speaker 3: add some more spontaneity to it?
[1:08:52] Speaker 2: Like? How how can I learn her more? Oh?
[1:08:55] Speaker 3: It's this thing is not hard. It's a lot of
[1:08:58] Speaker 3: hard stuff we got to do in life. Being in
[1:09:01] Speaker 3: love ain't gonna be one of them for me.
[1:09:12] Speaker 2: Y'all, y'all y'all killing me right now.
[1:09:16] Speaker 5: That's what I'm gonna give you.
[1:09:17] Speaker 2: Two.
[1:09:17] Speaker 1: We have never had an argument, and people love to
[1:09:20] Speaker 1: bring that up and say, y'all not scared, And I'm like,
[1:09:22] Speaker 1: that's the.
[1:09:23] Speaker 2: Problem, is it?
[1:09:24] Speaker 4: Because you don't call what y'all have arguments, I'll just
[1:09:26] Speaker 4: call it disagreements.
[1:09:27] Speaker 5: We don't have those either.
[1:09:29] Speaker 2: We don't.
[1:09:29] Speaker 5: We have not had exactly I'm gonna assume it.
[1:09:36] Speaker 3: On that, but not like real stuff. We have not
[1:09:46] Speaker 3: disagreed raised a voice at each other. Bro, what's the
[1:09:52] Speaker 3: math on how many days we've been together? A lot
[1:09:54] Speaker 3: of Yeah, every single day has been one.
[1:10:00] Speaker 2: Yeah.
[1:10:01] Speaker 4: Did y'all go through pre engagement of a pre medal
[1:10:03] Speaker 4: counseling we did with our pastor?
[1:10:05] Speaker 2: Yea? And what was some things that they discovered with y'all?
[1:10:09] Speaker 1: Our compatibility honestly was off the charts, Like our pastor
[1:10:13] Speaker 1: literally was like, you guys have been the hardest couple
[1:10:16] Speaker 1: to counsel because.
[1:10:18] Speaker 2: Of how much y'all flow together, make up stuff.
[1:10:30] Speaker 1: It's because we did the hard work, like we literally
[1:10:35] Speaker 1: sat down forget all the Oh I like this and
[1:10:38] Speaker 1: I want to do this one.
[1:10:39] Speaker 5: No, what won't you tolerate.
[1:10:44] Speaker 1: What are things that are going to make you say
[1:10:46] Speaker 1: absolutely not, no arguing. I don't want to fuss. If
[1:10:49] Speaker 1: you feel like you're gonna get mad at a point
[1:10:51] Speaker 1: where you can't talk to me and be an adult,
[1:10:54] Speaker 1: it's not going to work.
[1:10:55] Speaker 5: Like those things we nailed down in.
[1:10:58] Speaker 1: Before we were even in a relationship of what we
[1:11:00] Speaker 1: would or would not tolerate between each other. And since
[1:11:04] Speaker 1: then it's just flow. Like you do the work and
[1:11:07] Speaker 1: you learn your person to know what they like don't like.
[1:11:11] Speaker 1: And as women, I'm gonna say it and you ain't
[1:11:13] Speaker 1: gonna like it.
[1:11:14] Speaker 5: I tell you a joke, but I'll never tell you
[1:11:17] Speaker 5: a lot.
[1:11:19] Speaker 2: Ladies.
[1:11:20] Speaker 1: Uh, we know when we say something that's gonna piss
[1:11:23] Speaker 1: off our men, So why do it?
[1:11:26] Speaker 2: Why?
[1:11:29] Speaker 1: There are many times where Ray can say something I
[1:11:33] Speaker 1: would look at and be like, I could roll my
[1:11:36] Speaker 1: eyes right now, but.
[1:11:38] Speaker 5: I know that's gonna make it mad.
[1:11:39] Speaker 1: So like, but when you know your person, it's like,
[1:11:42] Speaker 1: why even push that button to see what would happen
[1:11:46] Speaker 1: versus just okay, honey.
[1:11:48] Speaker 5: You're right and leave it at that. Everything don't need
[1:11:50] Speaker 5: a response, Everything don't need a back and forth. Some
[1:11:53] Speaker 5: things are just okay.
[1:11:55] Speaker 1: Baby, And that is where I feel like has gotten
[1:12:00] Speaker 1: to where we are. It's we've done that homework. We've
[1:12:03] Speaker 1: lived and experienced other relationships to know what your grandpoints
[1:12:08] Speaker 1: can be, and we've talked about that with each other, Like,
[1:12:10] Speaker 1: you know this is something that has set me off before.
[1:12:13] Speaker 1: How are ways that we can mamoeuver through that to
[1:12:16] Speaker 1: not have that problem? So doing that homework with each other.
[1:12:20] Speaker 1: God has blessed us tremendously.
[1:12:22] Speaker 4: Let me ask you this ray so people feel balanced. Yes,
[1:12:26] Speaker 4: let us some things that you can say that you.
[1:12:29] Speaker 2: Learn that women need to I don't want to sound
[1:12:37] Speaker 2: like a.
[1:12:37] Speaker 5: Put I'm ready to read them.
[1:12:45] Speaker 4: To help me and women help navigate possible disagreements and arguments.
[1:12:54] Speaker 2: I love it.
[1:12:57] Speaker 7: Just right.
[1:12:59] Speaker 2: Crazy thing is like men, we know we know what
[1:13:03] Speaker 2: to do, all of us. Men, women, we know what
[1:13:05] Speaker 2: you like. We know I know what's player, Like I
[1:13:08] Speaker 2: could wake her up, but it'd be real player if
[1:13:11] Speaker 2: I wake her up with breakfast. There it is, you
[1:13:12] Speaker 2: know what I'm.
[1:13:13] Speaker 3: Saying, Like I could uh take her out to dinner,
[1:13:17] Speaker 3: but it'd be real player. If I cooked clean, vacuum
[1:13:21] Speaker 3: all that, Like, I could get her.
[1:13:24] Speaker 2: But it'll be Yes, ma'am, I got it. I'm sorry.
[1:13:26] Speaker 2: I'll do better next time. That's it. Yeah, you got
[1:13:30] Speaker 2: you got to you got to get it right there. Yeah.
[1:13:33] Speaker 3: When you see something that could grow into argument, something
[1:13:37] Speaker 3: that could grow, now let's let's kill it.
[1:13:39] Speaker 2: You got to kill the weed at the root.
[1:13:41] Speaker 3: Dog.
[1:13:41] Speaker 2: So now let's let's go ahead and get this out
[1:13:43] Speaker 2: the way. I didn't like the way you said that.
[1:13:45] Speaker 2: Let's talk. You know what I'm saying, like, let's not.
[1:13:47] Speaker 2: I don't.
[1:13:47] Speaker 3: We don't want it fester. When we sit down, we're
[1:13:50] Speaker 3: having a conversation. It's us against the problem, not meeting
[1:13:53] Speaker 3: you against each other.
[1:13:54] Speaker 1: And Ray is so unique. He helped me realize how
[1:13:57] Speaker 1: much work I had to do. So for example, my
[1:14:00] Speaker 1: past relationships, it was always you're perfect, there's nothing you
[1:14:02] Speaker 1: need to do, there's nothing wrong. But meeting Ray, I'm like, wow,
[1:14:06] Speaker 1: there is some work that I need to do, or
[1:14:09] Speaker 1: I could say this better, or my delivery could change.
[1:14:12] Speaker 1: And he helped me change my mindset on how I
[1:14:15] Speaker 1: respond to him when he really asked what's wrong?
[1:14:18] Speaker 5: Tell him what's wrong versus nothing? And now I don't
[1:14:21] Speaker 5: want to talk all day, Like girl, you're the most
[1:14:24] Speaker 5: talking to.
[1:14:24] Speaker 1: Person I know, and you talking about ain't nothing wrong,
[1:14:26] Speaker 1: but you ain't talking well, you know, honey, this made
[1:14:29] Speaker 1: me feel a way, and I'm still trying to work
[1:14:31] Speaker 1: through how I'm feeling honestly, and immediately, Oh well, honey,
[1:14:35] Speaker 1: what can I do? Let's talk it through and talking
[1:14:38] Speaker 1: it through and that's it, And I'm like, wow.
[1:14:40] Speaker 4: So.
[1:14:44] Speaker 2: Keep that.
[1:14:45] Speaker 5: Let's give something hurting that work nothing.
[1:14:53] Speaker 4: To real quick because this is important, and Ray, I
[1:14:56] Speaker 4: want you to really think and process this because only
[1:15:00] Speaker 4: you are the only person with the wisdom that sit
[1:15:03] Speaker 4: on this couch. I've been through divorce, but I've never
[1:15:05] Speaker 4: been through what you've been through. How has going through
[1:15:09] Speaker 4: the loss of a spouse taught you how to show
[1:15:15] Speaker 4: up and value the time that you are allotted with lexus?
[1:15:25] Speaker 3: People don't I'll give you a quote. People don't understand
[1:15:29] Speaker 3: the power of a moment until it becomes a memory.
[1:15:33] Speaker 3: So like I've now maximized my moments, I touch her more,
[1:15:41] Speaker 3: I hug her more, I kiss her more, I tell
[1:15:44] Speaker 3: her how.
[1:15:44] Speaker 2: Beautiful she is.
[1:15:46] Speaker 3: Because I death came to my doorstep, like we are
[1:15:51] Speaker 3: we all got to get up out of here. But
[1:15:53] Speaker 3: until it comes like in front of you, you don't
[1:15:55] Speaker 3: really You don't really know what you're what you're dealing with.
[1:15:57] Speaker 2: No, we all have to die at some point before
[1:16:01] Speaker 2: that happens.
[1:16:02] Speaker 3: I'm going to pour out as much as myself as possible,
[1:16:06] Speaker 3: And God gave me a beautiful vessel to pour myself
[1:16:10] Speaker 3: out into.
[1:16:13] Speaker 2: I know he's gonna kill it.
[1:16:17] Speaker 5: Like, what is that an argue about?
[1:16:24] Speaker 4: Listen, I'm telling y'all, y'all wedding video was so far
[1:16:27] Speaker 4: like shout out to Fadeaway production, shout out to the camp.
[1:16:32] Speaker 2: Videographers, photographers, everybody is, Yeah, we got some more stuff
[1:16:38] Speaker 2: coming up.
[1:16:40] Speaker 4: Drop that he keep dropping. Man, anything else y'all want
[1:16:44] Speaker 4: to share? How can we support y'all? Y'all got drop
[1:16:46] Speaker 4: your social media handles or anything else you want?
[1:16:49] Speaker 2: How can we support you?
[1:16:51] Speaker 1: So? Yes, I also have my own online clothing boutique.
[1:16:55] Speaker 1: It is called the Contour Closet. Yes, and you know
[1:16:58] Speaker 1: I always got to show up in my pieces. Baby,
[1:17:01] Speaker 1: get into it if you want them pieces that everybody
[1:17:03] Speaker 1: else ain't gonna be having.
[1:17:05] Speaker 5: You know where to go. The Instagram is at the Contour.
[1:17:08] Speaker 1: Closet t H E C O N T O U
[1:17:11] Speaker 1: R C L O S E T and aside from that,
[1:17:16] Speaker 1: I'm gonna let my honey share what he does, and
[1:17:18] Speaker 1: then I'm gonna bring something that we've been working on.
[1:17:20] Speaker 2: Oh okay, okay, gotcha. Yeah, I didn't notice what was happening.
[1:17:24] Speaker 3: Yeah, So you can follow me on Instagram Willie Underscore
[1:17:28] Speaker 3: cool with the q w I L l I E
[1:17:32] Speaker 3: Underscore q O O L. I'm also a director in
[1:17:36] Speaker 3: my health and wellness company. If anybody's out there looking
[1:17:39] Speaker 3: to lose weight, get healthy, have more energy. I'm down
[1:17:42] Speaker 3: twenty five pounds, my wife is down twenty two. We
[1:17:45] Speaker 3: slim and trim like a bicycle round and were trying
[1:17:47] Speaker 3: to help as many people as possible.
[1:17:49] Speaker 1: And you right, I didn't even drop my own. My
[1:17:52] Speaker 1: personal instagram is Lexus Singleton now Lexus Singleton t V
[1:17:59] Speaker 1: l E x U s I n g l E
[1:18:02] Speaker 1: t O n TV and my honey and I have
[1:18:06] Speaker 1: been working on something we're super excited to drop. So
[1:18:08] Speaker 1: a lot of people been seeing our wedding content and
[1:18:11] Speaker 1: all though that type of thing, so I gotta pull
[1:18:14] Speaker 1: it out.
[1:18:15] Speaker 5: I'll pull it out.
[1:18:16] Speaker 1: So this was our wedding logo. It is the L
[1:18:19] Speaker 1: and R, but we decided to brand it to love rains.
[1:18:23] Speaker 1: Our two minds.
[1:18:24] Speaker 5: Together is unstoppable.
[1:18:26] Speaker 2: Yeah.
[1:18:26] Speaker 5: Okay.
[1:18:28] Speaker 1: So I originally had a line with my boutique called
[1:18:30] Speaker 1: love Winds, which was based off my initials Lexus Wilson.
[1:18:35] Speaker 1: But now being married, I kept looking at it and
[1:18:37] Speaker 1: I was like, Babe, I really want to do something
[1:18:39] Speaker 1: with this logo.
[1:18:40] Speaker 5: I made this logo in Canva, and I said, I
[1:18:43] Speaker 5: want something that speaks to what we have. And Ray
[1:18:46] Speaker 5: literally looked at the letters and said love rains. And
[1:18:49] Speaker 5: I said, I love that.
[1:18:52] Speaker 2: I said.
[1:18:54] Speaker 5: Every time I bring him an idea, he makes it.
[1:18:58] Speaker 1: So this is something that we are working on. We're
[1:19:00] Speaker 1: going to be rolling out a line called love Rains.
[1:19:03] Speaker 1: So please stay tuned, Stay tuned, States, stay tuned, stay tuned.
[1:19:07] Speaker 2: Listen. Man, I just I just thank you, man, thank you.
[1:19:11] Speaker 2: Can we say that before you say thank you? Go ahead.
[1:19:14] Speaker 3: Thank you for what you've done, thank you for the
[1:19:17] Speaker 3: content that you put out, thank you for your mission.
[1:19:20] Speaker 3: I can't imagine the thousands and thousands of people that
[1:19:23] Speaker 3: have been helped and blessed by your content. Man, And
[1:19:27] Speaker 3: as content creators, we don't really get pats.
[1:19:29] Speaker 2: On the back. So I will say, man, thank you
[1:19:31] Speaker 2: for what you do.
[1:19:33] Speaker 3: Continue to do it in the nights when you don't
[1:19:35] Speaker 3: want to do it, know somebody's counting on your man.
[1:19:38] Speaker 2: So thank you.
[1:19:38] Speaker 5: You are changing lives every day.
[1:19:40] Speaker 4: To God Bill Glory, I want to thank y'all for
[1:19:42] Speaker 4: loving each other well. We need more couples that just
[1:19:47] Speaker 4: don't fake the funk and just post.
[1:19:50] Speaker 2: What looks good on social media. But y'all are living it.
[1:19:53] Speaker 4: And there's a certain language that I hear when I
[1:19:55] Speaker 4: talk to couples who have done the work that value marriage,
[1:19:58] Speaker 4: that value can comitment, that value companionship is a certain
[1:20:03] Speaker 4: language that they have and I just hear it exude
[1:20:06] Speaker 4: from y'all, And so I just want to thank y'all
[1:20:08] Speaker 4: for two black people loving each other well. At the
[1:20:13] Speaker 4: beginning of this year, I said, my goal is to
[1:20:15] Speaker 4: increase marriage rates in the Black community and decrease divorced
[1:20:19] Speaker 4: artistics while providing tools so that we can do relationships better.
[1:20:23] Speaker 4: And y'all are the remnant. Y'all are people that loving
[1:20:27] Speaker 4: each other well. Like that y'all's offspring. When y'all give
[1:20:31] Speaker 4: these beautiful kids, and y'all bring these beautiful kids into
[1:20:33] Speaker 4: the world, they'll be able to see a loving relationship
[1:20:37] Speaker 4: and they'll be able to now have what it looks
[1:20:39] Speaker 4: like a picture of No my mom and daddy. They
[1:20:42] Speaker 4: loved each other well. They knew how to talk to
[1:20:44] Speaker 4: each other, they knew how to respect each other.
[1:20:46] Speaker 2: They knew it.
[1:20:48] Speaker 4: It wasn't like I see them on social media posting stuff,
[1:20:51] Speaker 4: but behind the scenes, we wanted them to get a
[1:20:53] Speaker 4: divorced because they are terrible for each other. It's this
[1:20:56] Speaker 4: beautiful legacy that we're able to create when we create
[1:21:01] Speaker 4: a legacy of love. And so yeah, love truly rains
[1:21:04] Speaker 4: with y'all and through y'all, and it will outlive y'all,
[1:21:07] Speaker 4: and so honor y'all today. I thank y'all for coming
[1:21:11] Speaker 4: on the Dear Future WIFEI podcast for blessing me with
[1:21:14] Speaker 4: this wisdom. I see it as a student, not some expert.
[1:21:18] Speaker 4: I sit as a student learning and gleaning insights from
[1:21:20] Speaker 4: couples to know what it looks like to navigate some
[1:21:24] Speaker 4: of the most painful things that we could ever experience,
[1:21:27] Speaker 4: Like Ray has to know what it looks like as
[1:21:30] Speaker 4: a woman to say, you know what, I can love
[1:21:33] Speaker 4: a man past my what people may put on me
[1:21:37] Speaker 4: as an insecurity that I can sit here and give
[1:21:40] Speaker 4: spaces man and hold my boundary.
[1:21:41] Speaker 2: Say this is what I desire, this is what I want.
[1:21:43] Speaker 4: I can create standards to be able to say, my
[1:21:47] Speaker 4: man before he became my man, can be honest with me,
[1:21:50] Speaker 4: and I can handle it with maturity and say I
[1:21:52] Speaker 4: respect that level of transparency, and you know, make them
[1:21:57] Speaker 4: regret it.
[1:21:57] Speaker 2: You know, Hey, listen, I want you to see you
[1:22:06] Speaker 2: could be right here. So yeah, give ma all that.
[1:22:14] Speaker 4: But I love that he was wise enough and mature
[1:22:16] Speaker 4: enough to say I'm gonna choose forever and not for
[1:22:19] Speaker 4: something that's just a flighty moment.
[1:22:21] Speaker 2: I'm gonna choose forever.
[1:22:22] Speaker 4: And so he chose forever in you, and you chose
[1:22:24] Speaker 4: forever with him, and I speak blessings over your relationship.
[1:22:28] Speaker 4: Matter of fact, I'm just gonna pray for you. A
[1:22:30] Speaker 4: haamdy Father, we lift up the singletons before you right now.
[1:22:33] Speaker 4: We thank you for the journey, We thank you for
[1:22:35] Speaker 4: the love. We thank you for the great exploits that
[1:22:38] Speaker 4: they're going to do and perform. Things that they're going
[1:22:42] Speaker 4: to accomplish that they haven't even began to even dream about. Now, God,
[1:22:48] Speaker 4: we know that you are a giver of life, and God,
[1:22:51] Speaker 4: we thank you right now the name of Jesus, for
[1:22:53] Speaker 4: fashion in their hearts for each other, making them compatible
[1:22:57] Speaker 4: for each other, making them aligned with each other, and
[1:23:00] Speaker 4: tethering their hearts to one another. Satan, we bind up
[1:23:03] Speaker 4: any demonic attack that tries to come against this relationship,
[1:23:06] Speaker 4: that tries to come against this marriage. Lord, you said
[1:23:09] Speaker 4: in your word that no weapon formed against them shall prosper.
[1:23:12] Speaker 4: Come on, and every tongue that rises up against them
[1:23:14] Speaker 4: shall be condemned, for this is their inheritance, because they
[1:23:18] Speaker 4: are servants of You. Every Where, when people begin to post,
[1:23:22] Speaker 4: they begin to comment in their DM, sliding the DM.
[1:23:26] Speaker 4: We come against that spirit in the name of Jesus.
[1:23:28] Speaker 4: We want those people to take a moment of thought,
[1:23:31] Speaker 4: a moment of clarity, and say, what purpose is this
[1:23:33] Speaker 4: DM going to serve? What purpose is this comment? Am
[1:23:36] Speaker 4: I being used by God? Am I being used by
[1:23:38] Speaker 4: the enemy? And they begin to check their own hearts,
[1:23:41] Speaker 4: their own motives. In the name of Jesus, I come
[1:23:44] Speaker 4: against that spirit of division that has been infiltrating social
[1:23:47] Speaker 4: media for years.
[1:23:49] Speaker 2: In the name of Jesus.
[1:23:50] Speaker 4: And God asked that you fortify their love, that you
[1:23:52] Speaker 4: fortify their relationship. And God I ask that you bless
[1:23:57] Speaker 4: Lexus wound right now in the name of Jesus. Asked
[1:24:00] Speaker 4: that you blessed the seed from ray in the name
[1:24:03] Speaker 4: of Jesus, and get healthy kids, healthy offspring, healthy mighty
[1:24:08] Speaker 4: children that serve you.
[1:24:10] Speaker 2: Guys, we thank you in advance Jesus name. We pray. Amen.
[1:24:15] Speaker 1: I need a box too. You are annoyed and that's
[1:24:23] Speaker 1: something that I want to commend you on. Is your
[1:24:26] Speaker 1: act for Christ and crying aloud is what we are
[1:24:32] Speaker 1: missing today, not just in general but on social media everywhere.
[1:24:36] Speaker 1: People love love and all that, but no, y'all got
[1:24:39] Speaker 1: to remember who is the creator and the center of that.
[1:24:42] Speaker 5: That has to be at the forefront. So thank you
[1:24:46] Speaker 5: for what you do and keeping God at the center.
[1:24:50] Speaker 2: To God be the glory.
[1:24:51] Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm about to have a raide talking about singing
[1:24:53] Speaker 4: the song Jesus.
[1:25:00] Speaker 8: Yeah, we can't go come on, come on, how you
[1:25:10] Speaker 8: gonna jump on?
[1:25:12] Speaker 5: You got to give him praise every chance you get.
[1:25:16] Speaker 2: You I'm ill can sing her face off. Man.
[1:25:21] Speaker 3: We got our first show tomorrow, we do yeah. Yeah,
[1:25:24] Speaker 3: we're performing for the first time tomorrow in Charlotte.
[1:25:29] Speaker 2: So fast. Yeah, really, man's going down. You'll see videos,
[1:25:35] Speaker 2: then see it in the video. You can't see any person,
[1:25:38] Speaker 2: go see the video. We got everybody don't work for
[1:25:43] Speaker 2: the airline, so I can't be hot on.
[1:25:45] Speaker 3: Pan'll dona perform together?
[1:25:53] Speaker 2: Yeah, it's going down.
[1:25:55] Speaker 4: They're gonna be singing love songs and the whole bab Yeah,
[1:25:59] Speaker 4: they got a whole show for I.
[1:26:00] Speaker 2: Got a whole set list. How long forty minutes? Hit
[1:26:03] Speaker 2: him in the chance and get out there. It's a
[1:26:05] Speaker 2: music festival, so yeah, we wanted to line up what
[1:26:07] Speaker 2: you're gonna sing. We got ain't no show, ain't no
[1:26:18] Speaker 2: enough best part, Daniel Caesar, He.
[1:26:21] Speaker 4: All right, stop sing a little bit of that real quick,
[1:26:26] Speaker 4: Yes you I don't ain't no podcast.
[1:26:31] Speaker 5: Go ahead, am I starting from the beginning wherever you
[1:26:35] Speaker 5: want to start from? All right, hold on, let me
[1:26:39] Speaker 5: hit a song.
[1:26:43] Speaker 2: Mmmmmm hey, you better singer.
[1:26:49] Speaker 5: You don't know, babe.
[1:26:52] Speaker 1: When you hold me mm hmmm and kiss me slowly,
[1:26:58] Speaker 1: it's the sweetest thing.
[1:27:01] Speaker 2: Mm hmmmm. And it don't change.
[1:27:06] Speaker 5: My hand in my way.
[1:27:09] Speaker 3: You know that.
[1:27:11] Speaker 2: You that's on YouTube, my whole video, my whole video
[1:27:33] Speaker 2: sharing work. But none of that.
[1:27:39] Speaker 4: Good Lord Jesus man, that's gonna beautiful how that feel
[1:27:42] Speaker 4: to be able to do this with your bride?
[1:27:45] Speaker 2: Well, yeah, yeah, awesome.
[1:27:48] Speaker 1: Because I grew up in the church. I grew up
[1:27:51] Speaker 1: singing on the praise team and that was it. So
[1:27:53] Speaker 1: only the people that grew up and knew me that
[1:27:56] Speaker 1: I sang. So Ray literally said oh no. Because we
[1:28:00] Speaker 1: started going to church together. I started going to his
[1:28:02] Speaker 1: church where he's the minister of music.
[1:28:04] Speaker 3: The church to go to, uh it was first Cavalary
[1:28:06] Speaker 3: Baptist Church, First Cavey, so he was the minister of music.
[1:28:09] Speaker 1: So I started singing on the praise team. And the
[1:28:11] Speaker 1: more I would sing, the more he was like, wait
[1:28:13] Speaker 1: a minute, you really sing?
[1:28:15] Speaker 2: You start getting a praise seas. Yeah, you do. Joined
[1:28:17] Speaker 2: the church and she would be around me all the time.
[1:28:21] Speaker 2: When go to choire her, so she she coming.
[1:28:23] Speaker 5: Yeah, so I said okay.
[1:28:29] Speaker 1: So after that we would start just singing at home
[1:28:31] Speaker 1: all the time, and then that turned into we.
[1:28:33] Speaker 2: Need to start doing something that's beautiful.
[1:28:35] Speaker 5: So while we were on the honeymoon, it was like, yep,
[1:28:37] Speaker 5: I got us a show.
[1:28:38] Speaker 1: I said, oh my gosh sake, Gap, So yeah, I'm
[1:28:42] Speaker 1: living out one of my bucket lists because that was
[1:28:45] Speaker 1: something suppressed.
[1:28:46] Speaker 4: But you see what marriage. Yeah, I'm gonna give me
[1:28:48] Speaker 4: a box. I'm not I'm not going to go into this. Yeah,
[1:28:52] Speaker 4: that's what mayors does. Yeah, it's a reason that God
[1:28:56] Speaker 4: with whole certain layers of our life and unlocks it
[1:29:00] Speaker 4: in marriage because that's what brings togetherness. That's what that's
[1:29:04] Speaker 4: the beauty of the journey where you look back and go,
[1:29:07] Speaker 4: I remember, I put this dream on the chef, and
[1:29:10] Speaker 4: then I got married and my husband began to extract
[1:29:14] Speaker 4: that out of me, and my wife began to push
[1:29:17] Speaker 4: me in this and it's just beautiful. That's what makes
[1:29:19] Speaker 4: when the Bible says I will give you a suitable helper,
[1:29:22] Speaker 4: it's so important that we choose wisely because everybody isn't
[1:29:26] Speaker 4: suitable to help you with the things that God has
[1:29:29] Speaker 4: in store for you. So it's like you had to
[1:29:31] Speaker 4: marry Ray in order for that conversation to take place
[1:29:35] Speaker 4: on the honeymoon, because that's his gift set, that's what
[1:29:38] Speaker 4: he does for a living, and so he could identify it,
[1:29:41] Speaker 4: he can see it, He has vision, and he knows
[1:29:43] Speaker 4: how to cultivate it out of you.
[1:29:45] Speaker 2: Couldn't be nobody else.
[1:29:46] Speaker 5: He exudes so much wisdom.
[1:29:49] Speaker 1: Ray said to me, if you don't use your gift,
[1:29:51] Speaker 1: God will take it, and that for me immediately made
[1:29:54] Speaker 1: me say, oh, well, I don't want God to take
[1:29:55] Speaker 1: my gifts, so I said, I need to use it
[1:29:57] Speaker 1: more other than just you know, at church on the
[1:30:00] Speaker 1: praise scenes. It became at the top of my little
[1:30:07] Speaker 1: It became something that we bonded over it and our
[1:30:10] Speaker 1: love for music. I now can share that with someone
[1:30:13] Speaker 1: that loves music just as much. And the archives is
[1:30:17] Speaker 1: one of the things that blew my mind about Ray.
[1:30:19] Speaker 1: How many church songs that we know together. And I'm like,
[1:30:23] Speaker 1: what you talk about that we're doing that all the
[1:30:24] Speaker 1: time of that, I'm like, oh, yeah, that's the old
[1:30:26] Speaker 1: school church.
[1:30:27] Speaker 5: Yes, that's all. Yeah, Thank you Lord.
[1:30:30] Speaker 4: Sent to him. My life just busting straight on out.
[1:30:35] Speaker 4: I love you man, listen. I could talk to you'll
[1:30:37] Speaker 4: all day. The Singletons. How's that SAYD when I say
[1:30:39] Speaker 4: miss so hey, y'all give it up for mister and missus,
[1:30:48] Speaker 4: Ray Singleton, thank you, Thank you.
[1:30:51] Speaker 2: Stay tuned to the end for a letter to my
[1:30:54] Speaker 2: future wife write and these love letters.
[1:31:02] Speaker 4: Ladarian thrust it suddenly into child protective Services in twenty fifteen.
[1:31:08] Speaker 2: My nephew, black a boy.
[1:31:11] Speaker 4: The likelihood have been adopted outside of kinship slim to none. Rmione,
[1:31:17] Speaker 4: sixteen years old, black a boy with five years in
[1:31:21] Speaker 4: the Falter care system before I even knew his name.
[1:31:24] Speaker 4: The likelihood have ever been adopted? Yep, you guessed it.
[1:31:29] Speaker 4: Slim to none. While Ladarian and Ourmiani were trying to
[1:31:33] Speaker 4: survive and barely thrive in an overpopulated and underfunded false
[1:31:37] Speaker 4: care system, I was living my own life, doing well professionally,
[1:31:41] Speaker 4: having been a single father with a daughter who at
[1:31:43] Speaker 4: that point was doing well in college. It was my
[1:31:45] Speaker 4: time to live my life right wrong. I felt unsettled, tireless, agitated.
[1:31:53] Speaker 4: There are just two many of our black children stuck
[1:31:57] Speaker 4: in ambiguity and in the limbo of the false care system.
[1:32:01] Speaker 4: In twenty seventeen, I legally adopted my nephew Ladarian. Fast
[1:32:05] Speaker 4: forward to twenty nineteen. I had no ties to this
[1:32:07] Speaker 4: other young king, but I felt God instructed me to
[1:32:10] Speaker 4: adopt them also on an babe starting over with parenting
[1:32:13] Speaker 4: should have been enough.
[1:32:15] Speaker 2: Right.
[1:32:15] Speaker 4: Working with various foster care and adoption agencies to help
[1:32:18] Speaker 4: bring awareness to the countless young Black kings and the
[1:32:21] Speaker 4: foster care system should have decreased my agitation. Right, Joining
[1:32:25] Speaker 4: the board of directors of Advantage of Adoption and organization
[1:32:29] Speaker 4: that helps find permanent adoptive homes for children in FALSI
[1:32:32] Speaker 4: care should have led to some type of resolve.
[1:32:34] Speaker 2: Right, No, not at all. None of it felt like
[1:32:39] Speaker 2: I had done enough.
[1:32:41] Speaker 4: I now realized that every one of those experiences was
[1:32:45] Speaker 4: land the fundamental foundation for my life's mission.
[1:32:48] Speaker 2: Kingdom Royal.
[1:32:50] Speaker 4: Kingdom Royal would be a luxury, state of the art
[1:32:53] Speaker 4: home for foster boys. Our first location will be in
[1:32:56] Speaker 4: the Dallas Fort Worth Metroplex.
[1:32:58] Speaker 2: We will utilize the whole person.
[1:33:00] Speaker 4: Approach that instills identity, empowers them to advocate for themselves,
[1:33:04] Speaker 4: and enlightens them regarding new perspectives and limitless options that
[1:33:08] Speaker 4: they thought were impossible. Though the young Kings will attend
[1:33:13] Speaker 4: the local public schools that are in proximity the King
[1:33:16] Speaker 4: of Royale. Our at home curriculum will broaden their worldview
[1:33:20] Speaker 4: through participating in the arts, attending various cultural events, learning
[1:33:24] Speaker 4: about and engaging in multifaceted discussions about current events and
[1:33:28] Speaker 4: even relevant historical contexts, Introducing them to gardening and landscaping,
[1:33:33] Speaker 4: and even caring for our animals on our form and
[1:33:36] Speaker 4: on site stables. We just launched our startup capital campaign
[1:33:41] Speaker 4: with the goal of raising two point eight million dollars.
[1:33:43] Speaker 2: Now why two point eight million dollars? Well.
[1:33:45] Speaker 4: In twenty seventeen, I created a web series in which
[1:33:48] Speaker 4: I performed random acts of kindness for targeting the homeless community.
[1:33:52] Speaker 2: One of the most notable successes.
[1:33:54] Speaker 4: Was that one of the videos went viral, garnering twenty
[1:33:57] Speaker 4: eight million views. However, one of my biggest regrets is
[1:34:01] Speaker 4: that I didn't raise a single dollar to help in
[1:34:04] Speaker 4: implementing a more sustainable plan for the homeless community. So
[1:34:08] Speaker 4: throughout the years, with much remorse, I reflect that I'm
[1:34:12] Speaker 4: not maximizing that moment. I knew if at that time
[1:34:15] Speaker 4: just ten percent of the viewers donated one dollar, we
[1:34:18] Speaker 4: would have raised at least two point eight million dollars
[1:34:22] Speaker 4: that could have really established long term support for the
[1:34:25] Speaker 4: homeless community, or at least started a long term initiative
[1:34:28] Speaker 4: to do so.
[1:34:30] Speaker 2: This is my do over, this is our new beginning.
[1:34:34] Speaker 4: Together, we can attack this at the route by specifically
[1:34:38] Speaker 4: helping our homeless Black boys, who are already disproportionately represented
[1:34:43] Speaker 4: in the American fossil care system. I'm a terisar Wickfield.
[1:34:47] Speaker 4: I've been nominated for three regional Emmys documenting my work
[1:34:50] Speaker 4: with the homeless as well as my personal adoption journey.
[1:34:53] Speaker 4: Despite those accolades, the greatest award for me is truly
[1:34:58] Speaker 4: providing the infrastructure for a transformed life. Visit Kingdomroyal dot
[1:35:04] Speaker 4: com for more details, Crown a king and make a
[1:35:07] Speaker 4: donation today.
[1:35:16] Speaker 2: Man, that is such a fun couple. I really enjoyed
[1:35:19] Speaker 2: talking to them.
[1:35:20] Speaker 4: Well, here's my favorite part of the podcast where I
[1:35:22] Speaker 4: speak to my future wifey, Dear future wifey.
[1:35:25] Speaker 2: Life has taught me that time is our most fragile possession.
[1:35:29] Speaker 4: Then the slip through our hands like grains of sand,
[1:35:33] Speaker 4: and once they're gone, they can't be retrieved. That's why
[1:35:36] Speaker 4: I vow to take full advantage of every moment God
[1:35:39] Speaker 4: blesses us with each other.
[1:35:41] Speaker 2: I don't want to merely exist by your side.
[1:35:43] Speaker 4: I want to be fully present with you, to savor
[1:35:46] Speaker 4: every laugh, to listen with my whole heart when you speak,
[1:35:50] Speaker 4: to hold your hand a little longer than necessary, to
[1:35:53] Speaker 4: memorize the light in your eyes, whether it's quiet mornings
[1:35:57] Speaker 4: with coffee, late night talks, and stretching until dawn, or
[1:36:01] Speaker 4: simply sitting in silence, breathing the same air. I want
[1:36:05] Speaker 4: to be intentional with you. I won't wait for anniversaries
[1:36:08] Speaker 4: to celebrate you. I won't wait for special occasions to
[1:36:12] Speaker 4: speak life into you. Every moment with you is sacred,
[1:36:15] Speaker 4: and I will treat.
[1:36:16] Speaker 2: It as such. Our love deserves to be lived in
[1:36:19] Speaker 2: real time, not postponed until tomorrow. So here's my promise.
[1:36:25] Speaker 4: No rush goodbyes, no distracted conversations, no wasted chances to
[1:36:30] Speaker 4: show you how much I love you. With you, every
[1:36:34] Speaker 4: second matters, and our plan to make each moment count
[1:36:37] Speaker 4: your future Hoby. I hope you enjoy this episode of
[1:36:40] Speaker 4: the Dear Future WIFEI podcast. Remember be lit, live intentionally
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