# Diego & Jessica Have VERY Different Ideas of Romance

An episode of [Marcus In The Morning Second Date Update](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1473865038), 16 Oct 2026, 6:34.

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The chemistry was there. The flirting was working. They even stayed until the restaurant closed! But one unexpected moment at the end of dinner completely changed Jessica's opinion of Diego. And when he tries to explain himself, things somehow get even WORSE. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

## Transcript

[0:00] Speaker 1: It's Marcus in the morning, and it's time once again,
[0:01] Speaker 1: we call it second date update, and try to bring
[0:04] Speaker 1: some people together. If you get ghosted on a first date,
[0:06] Speaker 1: you just call me, and then we will call your
[0:08] Speaker 1: date together and try to figure some things out. A
[0:10] Speaker 1: lot of times it's a misunderstanding. Let's bring our guy
[0:12] Speaker 1: Diego on. Diego, good morning.
[0:14] Speaker 2: Hey Marcus, how's it going? I'm good, brother. How are you?
[0:16] Speaker 2: I'm pretty good. I mean, I can't complain too much.
[0:19] Speaker 1: Considering, I guess, right?
[0:21] Speaker 2: Yeah.
[0:21] Speaker 1: Um, let's talk about Jessica. So like, yeah. So you
[0:25] Speaker 1: guys went on a date basically. And then she's, she's gone.
[0:28] Speaker 1: Like she's ghosted.
[0:29] Speaker 3: Yeah.
[0:29] Speaker 4: I mean, like, well, we, we matched on hinge, right.
[0:31] Speaker 4: And a couple of weeks earlier before that.
[0:34] Speaker 2: Right.
[0:34] Speaker 4: So then we're texting pretty consistently. Eventually we decided to
[0:38] Speaker 4: meet up. We go to the waterfront restaurant right there
[0:40] Speaker 4: in Alameda.
[0:41] Speaker 2: Okay. And, uh, Yeah. We, you know, she's there. I mean,
[0:44] Speaker 2: and she's gorgeous. I mean, like she's prettier than even
[0:46] Speaker 2: the picture.
[0:47] Speaker 4: So, you know, we're just like getting along. We order
[0:49] Speaker 4: some appetizers. We have some drinks. I think we literally
[0:52] Speaker 4: stay there till the, like they're kicking us out. Like
[0:54] Speaker 4: the whole thing closes.
[0:55] Speaker 2: I love that. Yeah.
[0:56] Speaker 4: It was, it was, the vibes were great. You know,
[0:58] Speaker 4: I walk into her car, we hug goodbye. Um, and
[1:02] Speaker 4: then I texted her in the morning to see how
[1:03] Speaker 4: everything was and then nothing.
[1:06] Speaker 2: Okay. Now. Yeah. I tried twice actually.
[1:10] Speaker 1: I was going to say, did you hit her more
[1:11] Speaker 1: than once?
[1:12] Speaker 4: Texted her in the morning and then i was like
[1:15] Speaker 4: maybe i should call i said no no no so
[1:16] Speaker 4: i waited a couple days i texted her again and
[1:18] Speaker 4: then still.
[1:18] Speaker 1: Nothing okay well let's call her and try to figure
[1:21] Speaker 1: these things out go ahead and mute your phone my
[1:23] Speaker 1: guy here we go hello hi i'm looking for jessica
[1:34] Speaker 1: speaking who's this jessica this is marcus calling from star
[1:39] Speaker 1: 1013 Okay, what's up?
[1:43] Speaker 2: How are you?
[1:45] Speaker 3: I'm good.
[1:46] Speaker 1: Do you listen to the morning show?
[1:48] Speaker 3: I can't say that I do.
[1:50] Speaker 2: Okay, totally fine. They're just my feelings. I have more.
[1:53] Speaker 2: I'm kidding.
[1:57] Speaker 1: So we do a segment on our show. It's called
[2:00] Speaker 1: Second Date Update. And basically, like, it's a dating thing.
[2:04] Speaker 1: I got your phone number from one of our listeners
[2:06] Speaker 1: who says he took you out on a date and
[2:07] Speaker 1: he really enjoyed his time.
[2:09] Speaker 2: But he's feeling like maybe.
[2:11] Speaker 1: You've lost interest that maybe you're ghosting him. And I'm
[2:15] Speaker 1: just trying to figure out where my guy may be
[2:17] Speaker 1: messed up or if there was a misunderstanding.
[2:19] Speaker 2: His name is Diego. Do you have a minute? Can
[2:24] Speaker 2: you talk about your date? Do you mind?
[2:26] Speaker 1: I'm just trying to get some info.
[2:28] Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, that's okay. Yeah, I have a few minutes.
[2:31] Speaker 3: I'll let you know what happened.
[2:33] Speaker 2: Thank you.
[2:34] Speaker 1: How was the date.
[2:36] Speaker 2: For you?
[2:37] Speaker 3: Well, actually... It was a really good date. I thought
[2:40] Speaker 3: he was funny and good-looking, seemed successful. I mean, I
[2:45] Speaker 3: was definitely interested. Okay. Until the check came.
[2:50] Speaker 2: Oh, God.
[2:52] Speaker 3: So he insisted on paying, which I really appreciated, but
[2:59] Speaker 3: before handing over the credit card, he asked the server
[3:02] Speaker 3: if the restaurant had a loyalty program. Okay.
[3:06] Speaker 1: And.
[3:07] Speaker 3: The server said yes, and he said, well, can I
[3:10] Speaker 3: sign up and collect points for the meal? And I thought,
[3:14] Speaker 3: you know, that was a little nerdy, but whatever. Nothing
[3:17] Speaker 3: wrong with saving money. But then he pulled out his
[3:19] Speaker 3: phone and opened a spreadsheet.
[3:22] Speaker 1: On his phone?
[3:24] Speaker 2: Yeah.
[3:25] Speaker 3: And it was just really weird. He explained that he's
[3:27] Speaker 3: really into budgeting and, you know, tracks all his expenses.
[3:32] Speaker 3: And again, okay, but strange timing, you know, and he
[3:35] Speaker 3: started showing me how he keeps track of restaurant spending,
[3:38] Speaker 3: credit card rewards, loyalty points. Again, a little intense, but
[3:42] Speaker 3: still kind of okay.
[3:44] Speaker 2: Right.
[3:45] Speaker 3: Until I noticed another tab, and it was labeled dating expenses. Okay.
[3:54] Speaker 3: So I kind of jokingly asked him what that was,
[3:57] Speaker 3: and he explained that he keeps track of how much
[4:00] Speaker 3: he spends on dates. And I thought he was kidding,
[4:04] Speaker 3: but he wasn't.
[4:05] Speaker 2: How does he track them?
[4:07] Speaker 3: Well, there were columns for the woman's name, restaurant, total cost,
[4:13] Speaker 3: whether there was a second date and one more ROI
[4:17] Speaker 3: as in return on investment.
[4:21] Speaker 2: Okay.
[4:21] Speaker 3: Right. So I immediately asked, like, what does that mean?
[4:25] Speaker 3: And he explained that, you know, dating is expensive and
[4:28] Speaker 3: he likes to know whether he's getting his money's worth.
[4:32] Speaker 2: Nice. All right. Yeah.
[4:34] Speaker 3: So I said, you're calculating the return on investment of
[4:38] Speaker 3: a date.
[4:39] Speaker 2: Right.
[4:39] Speaker 3: As in a date with a person.
[4:42] Speaker 2: Okay.
[4:42] Speaker 1: Hold on one second. I'm going to stop you right there.
[4:45] Speaker 1: So the other half of this is, so Diego is
[4:47] Speaker 1: actually listening.
[4:50] Speaker 2: Sorry.
[4:51] Speaker 1: Now I have questions. Hey, Diego, are you there?
[4:54] Speaker 2: First of all, I think it's kind of out of context.
[4:57] Speaker 2: We were joking around a lot back then.
[5:00] Speaker 4: And me showing her that was kind of like, yeah, just,
[5:03] Speaker 4: I don't know, like, you know, transparency about like, yeah,
[5:06] Speaker 4: this is how I think and this is.
[5:07] Speaker 2: How I operate. But this was like, it's a budgeting tool.
[5:11] Speaker 4: And I was just, you know, showing her like, yeah,
[5:13] Speaker 4: you know, this is aspects that I use in my
[5:15] Speaker 4: entire life, including dating.
[5:17] Speaker 1: Yeah, but she's not a stock portfolio.
[5:19] Speaker 2: Exactly.
[5:19] Speaker 4: Exactly.
[5:20] Speaker 2: Of course not.
[5:21] Speaker 4: But it's not just about the money. It's about whether
[5:24] Speaker 4: it was enjoyable, whether we had chemistry, whether I thought
[5:28] Speaker 4: there was potential in an actual relationship. Okay.
[5:32] Speaker 3: So then what was my ROI? What was it?
[5:36] Speaker 2: Yeah.
[5:38] Speaker 4: Well, I mean, we didn't really finish it because we
[5:41] Speaker 4: didn't do another date.
[5:44] Speaker 2: We didn't really follow up.
[5:45] Speaker 3: So my score went down because I didn't text you back?
[5:48] Speaker 3: Is that how it works?
[5:49] Speaker 2: Yeah, technically, yeah. I mean, yeah. Oh, wow. To be real.
[5:53] Speaker 3: Oh, my God. You are so weird. You don't seem
[5:56] Speaker 3: to realize that there's a difference between being financially responsible
[6:00] Speaker 3: and treating women like business expenses.
[6:03] Speaker 4: All right. But once again, the ROI wasn't just about
[6:06] Speaker 4: the money. It's about whether we connected, whether we had
[6:09] Speaker 4: a rapport.
[6:10] Speaker 1: All right.
[6:12] Speaker 2: We could go back and forth forever.
[6:15] Speaker 1: So what if he had not brought up the spreadsheet? Jessica,
[6:18] Speaker 1: did you enjoy yourself enough to maybe consider a second date?
[6:22] Speaker 3: At this point, absolutely not. This is absurd.
[6:25] Speaker 2: All right. I'm calling it. Time out. Hang on, you guys.
[6:29] Speaker 1: Too much info.
[6:30] Speaker 2: Too much disclosure. All right. Second date update.

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