# Classic Suze School: Don’t Turn Your Back on Yourself

An episode of [Suze Orman's Women & Money (And Everyone Smart Enough To Listen)](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1439621652), 3 Sep 2026, 17 min.

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## Transcript

[0:08] Robert: September 3, 2026. Welcome to the Women and Money podcast
[0:12] Robert: as well as everyone smart enough to listen. Hi everybody,
[0:16] Robert: it's Robert, the producer here. For today's classic Suze School,
[0:20] Robert: we're going back again to an episode called Don't Turn
[0:23] Robert: Your Back on Yourself. Now, when we do these Classic
[0:26] Robert: Suze School episodes, sometimes I need to cut out the
[0:30] Robert: part that's only relevant to when the episode was originally published,
[0:35] Robert: and that's the case for today.
[0:37] Robert: So we're gonna pick it up where Suze is telling
[0:40] Robert: us what happens when she opens up podcast at ask Suze.com.
[0:49] Suze: I do this thing where I like to spin them,
[0:52] Suze: and up comes an email, and I punch it, and
[0:55] Suze: I go, OK, that's the one that needs my attention.
[0:58] Suze: And one after another after another were from women, who
[1:06] Suze: are in their either mid-40s, mid-50s, mid-60s, even mid-70s.
[1:14] Suze: All having been left by their husbands, their spouses, or
[1:20] Suze: they've even chosen to leave.
[1:23] Suze: And somehow, one after another.
[1:27] Suze: They've gotten themselves into a state of such incredible anxiety
[1:33] Suze: and fear that they are paralyzed.
[1:36] Suze: They are paralyzed from doing anything that is possibly constructive
[1:41] Suze: for themselves, possibly even positive for themselves. They have given
[1:46] Suze: up hope. They have given up faith. They have all
[1:49] Suze: decided that they're never going to trust anybody again. They're
[1:52] Suze: always going to live a life of fear. They're never
[1:55] Suze: going to feel secure, and on and on and on.
[2:00] Suze: And I've spent hours and hours and hours, writing them back,
[2:08] Suze: going through their finances with them, one by one, statement
[2:12] Suze: by statement. Don't do this, don't do that, no. Here's
[2:17] Suze: what I want you to do.
[2:19] Suze: But even with the best advice from me. They're all like,
[2:24] Suze: I can't. I don't know da da da.
[2:28] Suze: So KT saw that I was angry. And whenever I'm angry,
[2:33] Suze: she said, go do a podcast, go do a podcast.
[2:37] Suze: 'Cause it's not about anger at them.
[2:42] Suze: It's about anger at the fact. That we turn our
[2:47] Suze: backs on our own power.
[2:51] Suze: Anger because it really is all of our profound fear of
[2:56] Suze: loss that keeps us from gain.
[3:01] Suze: All of us are... the ones anyway that I've been reading.
[3:05] Suze: They are holding on so tightly, to the little bit
[3:09] Suze: that they have. That their hands aren't open to receive
[3:14] Suze: that which is meant to come their way.
[3:17] Suze: And then you put on top of that some of
[3:21] Suze: the worst, the absolute worst financial advice I have ever
[3:27] Suze: seen in my life, being piled on top of the
[3:32] Suze: fact that these women are emotional wrecks right now and
[3:36] Suze: rightfully so, it's never easy to be left. It's also
[3:40] Suze: never easy to leave.
[3:43] Suze: It's hard to do so. But sometimes you have to
[3:48] Suze: just get through it, and it takes time.
[3:53] Suze: But to have financial advisors giving advice that is 100% wrong,
[4:02] Suze: that would hurt these women, it makes me even go nuts.
[4:07] Suze: So of course, I do my best to try to
[4:09] Suze: help them.
[4:11] Suze: And then I think about the Women and Money podcast,
[4:15] Suze: and I think about how I've said now, not just on
[4:19] Suze: this podcast, but on the Suze Orman show. Every talk
[4:23] Suze: I've given, every book I've written, every blog I've ever posted,
[4:28] Suze: I've said.
[4:30] Suze: I hate variable and universal life insurance policies, but it's
[4:37] Suze: as if it goes in one ear and out the other.
[4:42] Suze: I tell you things that you should not be investing in,
[4:46] Suze: and it goes in one ear and out the other.
[4:50] Suze: What happens to you when you sit down in front
[4:54] Suze: of a financial adviser and he or she says to you,
[4:59] Suze: this is what I think you should do, and you
[5:01] Suze: just say, OK. What causes you to give up your power?
[5:07] Suze: What causes you to make moves that are so radically
[5:12] Suze: wrong and that will hurt you financially speaking rather than
[5:16] Suze: help you.
[5:18] Suze: Is it that you just want somebody else to take
[5:21] Suze: care of you? Is it because when you've been left,
[5:24] Suze: even if you have left someone, you still want to
[5:28] Suze: be taken care of and you want to put your
[5:30] Suze: trust in the hands of somebody else that looks like
[5:34] Suze: they can take care of you?
[5:37] Suze: I want you to be what? What have I begged
[5:40] Suze: all of you to be over these years? How do
[5:43] Suze: we end every single podcast: to be strong, safe, and secure.
[5:49] Suze: But to do that, you have to have common sense. You
[5:55] Suze: cannot just take a financial adviser's word for anything. If
[6:01] Suze: they tell you that you could simply put in $15,000
[6:06] Suze: a year for 20 years and then you would have
[6:09] Suze: $1 million. Can you just simply do the math? Can
[6:15] Suze: you do the math and see if that is even possible?
[6:20] Suze: How much would your money have to earn per year
[6:22] Suze: for you to have $1 million, after 20 years?
[6:29] Suze: But no, you don't. You just sit there and go, OK,
[6:34] Suze: I'll give you $15,000 a year. OK, I'll do this. OK,
[6:40] Suze: I'll do that.
[6:42] Suze: I'm telling you, you have more common sense within your body, seriously,
[6:51] Suze: within your being than you have any idea.
[6:55] Suze: If you would just simply be willing to take the
[6:59] Suze: time to go within.
[7:02] Suze: To ask questions, to look at it on paper and
[7:07] Suze: say to the financial adviser, OK, I hear that this
[7:11] Suze: is what you say I'll have. Show me where it says,
[7:15] Suze: I'm guaranteed to have this.
[7:19] Suze: Show me. Show me, but you don't. You don't.
[7:27] Suze: You continue to go into another relationship with blinders on,
[7:33] Suze: feeling like, OK, I'll just do this. It'll be OK.
[7:40] Suze: I need you to come from this day forward, from
[7:45] Suze: a place of common sense.
[7:49] Suze: I need you to come from this day forward to
[7:54] Suze: understand that your words and your thoughts are more powerful
[7:58] Suze: than you have any idea.
[8:01] Suze: They have the power to create or the power to destroy,
[8:04] Suze: and the choice is up to you. When you say
[8:07] Suze: you can't, you never ever will.
[8:11] Suze: When you say you're never going to trust anybody ever again.
[8:16] Suze: You never will.
[8:18] Suze: When you say I am never going to be secure again,
[8:23] Suze: you never will.
[8:25] Suze: Because your words are mantra.
[8:29] Suze: Your words are what create your future. I've told you
[8:33] Suze: this before. I've told you, be very, very careful about
[8:37] Suze: what you think, 'cause what you think you eventually say.
[8:41] Suze: Be very careful about the words you use because your
[8:44] Suze: words become your actions. Your actions become your habits, and
[8:47] Suze: your habits become your destiny.
[8:51] Suze: But yet I read it over and over and over again.
[8:58] Suze: And what you hear from me over and over again,
[9:03] Suze: are the words that I've just said is the other
[9:07] Suze: saying I have, which is to be a warrior and
[9:10] Suze: to not turn your back on the battlefield. And what
[9:13] Suze: is that battlefield? That battlefield is your life. You are
[9:18] Suze: fighting for your own freedom. You are fighting for financial security.
[9:23] Suze: You are fighting so that you can wake up one
[9:26] Suze: morning and feel true joy all over again.
[9:31] Suze: And yet then what do you say to me? But Suze,
[9:35] Suze: I never want to be dependent on anybody again. I
[9:40] Suze: never want my kids to know what I'm going through,
[9:46] Suze: and I'm sitting there thinking to myself, why not?
[9:50] Suze: You gave everything to those kids.
[9:53] Suze: And when you need help, what is it, women? What
[9:56] Suze: is it, mothers?
[9:58] Suze: That stop you from saying to your kids, I need help.
[10:05] Suze: I want your help.
[10:08] Suze: Your role is not to just make sure that everybody
[10:12] Suze: else is OK. Your role in life is to make
[10:15] Suze: sure that you are OK. You, a vital human being,
[10:21] Suze: a mother, a sister, a woman.
[10:28] Suze: A woman.
[10:31] Suze: And yet for some reason, you turn your back on
[10:35] Suze: yourself to make sure that everybody is still OK.
[10:41] Suze: And when you use words like that,
[10:44] Suze: When you don't want others to know the truth about
[10:47] Suze: what's going on in your life, do you think that
[10:50] Suze: you're hiding it from them? Do you think that they
[10:53] Suze: don't really know? Of course they do.
[10:57] Suze: Of course they do.
[10:59] Suze: And if they're your children who really love you and
[11:02] Suze: you love them, they can feel your pain.
[11:07] Suze: And they wanna help you, but yet you don't want
[11:10] Suze: them to help you.
[11:11] Suze: You'd rather just break your back and mow this lawn
[11:15] Suze: of yours that is taking all weekend after you're working
[11:19] Suze: three jobs and you're working 20 hours a day and
[11:22] Suze: yet you still have to mow your grass and you
[11:24] Suze: still have to do this and yet you don't want
[11:26] Suze: to ask anybody for help. What is the matter with
[11:29] Suze: all of you? So I'm angry.
[11:33] Suze: I'm angry because I know what's possible. I even know
[11:38] Suze: what's probable. I've seen thousands of people turn their lives around.
[11:46] Suze: But those are people who are willing to use words
[11:50] Suze: of hope.
[11:52] Suze: Have feelings of encouragement to not sit there and dwell
[11:57] Suze: in anger, dwell in fear and dwell in shame.
[12:04] Suze: Which always brings me back to the three internal obstacles
[12:08] Suze: to wealth which are fear, shame, and anger.
[12:12] Suze: And yet you choose, you choose to turn to that,
[12:17] Suze: versus to turn in you and understand that everything that happens,
[12:25] Suze: everything is a blessing.
[12:28] Suze: And I know that's not easy to say or easy
[12:31] Suze: to believe.
[12:33] Suze: That you have to because what is your alternative? What
[12:37] Suze: else can you think? What else can you do?
[12:42] Suze: So, this isn't a long podcast today, and I'm sure
[12:46] Suze: this isn't one that you expected to tune into.
[12:50] Suze: This isn't even one that I expected to do. But
[12:55] Suze: I know that when I feel like this. It's because,
[13:00] Suze: not that I'm disappointed in you. But it's because I
[13:04] Suze: know what's possible for you, and I see many of
[13:08] Suze: you turning your back.
[13:11] Suze: Your thoughts, your feelings on the probability of true happiness
[13:19] Suze: of one day being able to say, Oh my God,
[13:23] Suze: thank God he left me. Or even thank God she
[13:27] Suze: left me. Or thank God I had the courage to leave.
[13:35] Suze: So, I do this podcast in so much love for
[13:39] Suze: every single one of you.
[13:41] Suze: In the desire that every single one of you lives
[13:45] Suze: your most fullest life, a life when you wake up
[13:49] Suze: in the morning where you're happy to wake up, you're
[13:52] Suze: happy to go to sleep, you're happy to see people,
[13:55] Suze: you are just happy and you feel fulfilled with every
[14:00] Suze: breath that you take.
[14:02] Suze: And how does that happen?
[14:04] Suze: It happens by making sure that every thought, every action,
[14:11] Suze: everything that you do passes through the three gatekeepers that
[14:15] Suze: I've talked to you about. Is it kind? Is it necessary?
[14:20] Suze: Is it true?
[14:22] Suze: Are you doing that, or are you just finding it
[14:25] Suze: easier to dwell in your anger? To reside in your fear.
[14:32] Suze: And to really just sit in your shame.
[14:37] Suze: I am begging you. I am begging you to have faith.
[14:42] Suze: That there is a life out there that is just
[14:47] Suze: waiting for you to live it.
[14:50] Suze: But you have to have faith that you're going to
[14:53] Suze: get through this time. You have to really believe from
[14:57] Suze: the deepest part of your core.
[15:00] Suze: That you can and will do anything.
[15:05] Suze: That you will not just survive, you will thrive, you
[15:09] Suze: will once again live the life that you've always dreamt
[15:13] Suze: of living. But you can't live a life of dreams
[15:19] Suze: when you're spending your time creating nightmares in your thoughts.
[15:25] Suze: So, very unexpected podcast from me. I hope it's one
[15:30] Suze: that you're sitting there going, what the heck was that.
[15:34] Suze: Maybe you're one of the people that needed to hear
[15:37] Suze: what I just said.
[15:38] Suze: Maybe you're not. Maybe you know somebody, however, who is
[15:43] Suze: in that situation, and they need to hear these words. So,
[15:49] Suze: maybe you could ask them to listen to this podcast.
[15:53] Suze: Always know that every single word whether it sounds harsh,
[16:00] Suze: whether it sounds angry whether it sounds whatever that I'm
[16:04] Suze: giving to Suze slapdown is grounded in the most incredible
[16:10] Suze: love, hope and joy in what's possible for every single one
[16:17] Suze: of you.

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