# Ep. 424 Sipping on Judgement

An episode of [Cocktales with Kiki](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1149484402), 12 Dec 2024, 1 h 10 min.

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## Transcript

[0:02] Speaker 1: Yeah, you a check one two, check one two. Is
[0:04] Speaker 1: this Mike On?
[0:05] Speaker 2: Is this Mike On?
[0:06] Speaker 1: Hey listen man, it's the one and only Trenks that
[0:08] Speaker 1: a DJ systm and you're listening to Cocktails Dirty Discussions
[0:12] Speaker 1: with Kikia Medina Monroe.
[0:14] Speaker 2: Here. Today's cocktail is called the Palm Passion. This is
[0:22] Speaker 2: a really simple cocktail. All you're going to need is
[0:25] Speaker 2: one and a half ounces of pomegranate juice and some
[0:28] Speaker 2: sparkling wine. And because I'm feeling fancy today, I guess
[0:31] Speaker 2: these dried rose petals. I got a wine Amazon and
[0:34] Speaker 2: it just makes the drink look pretty. So we're going
[0:36] Speaker 2: to add in about one and a half ounces of
[0:39] Speaker 2: the pomegranate juice. You might have this for breakfast with
[0:44] Speaker 2: your family during the holiday season, or just for breakfast
[0:48] Speaker 2: like I do sometimes, so add that in there. Then
[0:52] Speaker 2: we're just gonna top it off with the sparkling wine.
[0:56] Speaker 2: I prefer this if it's ever available at a restaurant.
[0:58] Speaker 2: I'm not big on Mimosa's, but I like this. I
[1:00] Speaker 2: like a point setup, which is gonna be cranberry juice
[1:03] Speaker 2: and the sparkling wine. Anything but orange juice, pineapple juice, mango.
[1:08] Speaker 2: It's just too thick, okay anyway, And I put those
[1:12] Speaker 2: on top and that is a palm passion cheers.
[1:16] Speaker 1: I couldn't find pomegranate juice when I was on the
[1:18] Speaker 1: way here. I stopped off of Martin Luther King Road
[1:22] Speaker 1: where she stopped. I stopped at the gas station. First
[1:25] Speaker 1: of all, I was terrified. There was a man in
[1:27] Speaker 1: the parking lot looking crazy. His booty was showing, and
[1:29] Speaker 1: I was like, why is your but showing? It had
[1:33] Speaker 1: to be and he was looking, so I was like,
[1:34] Speaker 1: I'm not getting out of the car for pome juice.
[1:36] Speaker 1: So then I went across the street to the other
[1:38] Speaker 1: gas station there was I was like, yeah, pomegranate juice. There.
[1:40] Speaker 1: We got fruit punch that is.
[1:42] Speaker 2: Not the same, and I hate it because I have
[1:45] Speaker 2: pomegranate juice. And I left it an refrigerator because we
[1:48] Speaker 2: won't be having no ice here. So I forgot it.
[1:50] Speaker 2: And I was like, if I turn around, this is
[1:52] Speaker 2: one probably gonna add ten minutes. Everybody's getting home right
[1:54] Speaker 2: now or leaving, who knows. We really didn't have to
[1:58] Speaker 2: rush today anyway. Welcome back to cocktails jury discussions, you guys,
[2:03] Speaker 2: Thank goodness, for door Dash and Uber Eats because I
[2:06] Speaker 2: ordered some so we can make it after the right way.
[2:08] Speaker 2: We're just sipping a little prosecco. It's been a busy week.
[2:12] Speaker 2: When you're at home and you do decide to have
[2:15] Speaker 2: a little wine or a little cocktail at home, do
[2:18] Speaker 2: you find that you have wine or are you like
[2:22] Speaker 2: mixing drinks?
[2:23] Speaker 1: You know, it depends. It depends what type of mood
[2:28] Speaker 1: I'm in. After I did that cocktail making class, the
[2:32] Speaker 1: one that I hosted, I really learned a lot from
[2:35] Speaker 1: Spirit and Soul m hmm. And she really talked about
[2:38] Speaker 1: how like if you really do have the time, like
[2:40] Speaker 1: add a little luxury to your drink. So if I
[2:43] Speaker 1: have the time and I'm in like a good mood
[2:45] Speaker 1: and I'm drinking out of a good mood, like it's
[2:48] Speaker 1: a good mood.
[2:48] Speaker 2: Sip, then I will you take a little time, you know,
[2:52] Speaker 2: I will take a.
[2:52] Speaker 1: Little time and add a little dried fruit and use
[2:55] Speaker 1: my cocktail shaker or that big long spoon and you know,
[2:59] Speaker 1: do like a little cold poor and really be like,
[3:01] Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I feel like I am on TV
[3:04] Speaker 1: or something. But if it's like a stress drink, I
[3:08] Speaker 1: just either pour a glass full of wine or whatever
[3:13] Speaker 1: the liquor is. I'll just get a little ice, just
[3:16] Speaker 1: pour it in there and then just put some juice
[3:18] Speaker 1: in there, not even start it or shake it.
[3:19] Speaker 2: M you put the juice.
[3:21] Speaker 1: I just.
[3:23] Speaker 2: I've been on a ginger beer kick, ginger ale kick,
[3:25] Speaker 2: so I've been doing that. Or sometimes I'll try club soda,
[3:28] Speaker 2: but I run out of club soda so quickly, and
[3:31] Speaker 2: I always end up buying like those little eight packs
[3:33] Speaker 2: of the ginger beer, so I usually have more of that.
[3:35] Speaker 2: But yeah, I do love a good ginger beer around
[3:37] Speaker 2: this time of year. I'm always trying to like look
[3:40] Speaker 2: for new recipes, not just food, but cocktails and stuff.
[3:43] Speaker 2: And I want to do like what I imagine the
[3:46] Speaker 2: people do, Like you know how you see the girls
[3:49] Speaker 2: who all they do is post their Amazon links, and
[3:51] Speaker 2: their homes are beautiful and they have all of these
[3:52] Speaker 2: gadgets and there so beautiful.
[3:56] Speaker 1: Right.
[3:56] Speaker 2: It's like, I bet when you make a cocktail when
[3:58] Speaker 2: your friends come over, it's like a real cocktail like
[4:00] Speaker 2: you would have and a nice restaurant on their specialty list,
[4:04] Speaker 2: not tequila in sprite or something basic like that. I've
[4:09] Speaker 2: been trying to try out different stuff and then seasonal
[4:11] Speaker 2: things too. It's fun to try. Everything's not good, and
[4:14] Speaker 2: it's like, damn, I still want to drink it because
[4:16] Speaker 2: I bought it, But you know, I've been trying to
[4:18] Speaker 2: get more adventurous.
[4:19] Speaker 1: Do you follow Jackieanna, Yes, she's one of those girls.
[4:23] Speaker 1: She's one of the girls where it's like, I feel like,
[4:25] Speaker 1: as soon as you walk in, it's just like, would
[4:27] Speaker 1: you like a warm towel for your We have warm towel, feet, socks,
[4:31] Speaker 1: you want to put somebody And she gives everyone a
[4:33] Speaker 1: pair of ugs slip. I just feel like, that's what
[4:35] Speaker 1: it's like when you go over there and I al.
[4:37] Speaker 2: It smells good with all her can Oh no.
[4:39] Speaker 1: It's and then she has a snack and an appetizer
[4:42] Speaker 1: and an like, I just like the movie nights are
[4:45] Speaker 1: so cute. She has the real little popcorn boxes twizzlers.
[4:49] Speaker 1: I'm just like, I love that.
[4:52] Speaker 2: I love when I go to somebody's home and they're
[4:54] Speaker 2: that kind of host. It's just so lavis.
[5:00] Speaker 1: She is and my dad is like that. But most
[5:03] Speaker 1: people on my dad's side are like my cousin's Ti
[5:05] Speaker 1: Mari's from my dad's side, and she is like that
[5:06] Speaker 1: she just moved to Atlanta. We'll not just she's been
[5:09] Speaker 1: here by a year. But I remember she come to
[5:11] Speaker 1: the thing she did Good Life taping. She came and
[5:14] Speaker 1: when I went to her place one day, she had
[5:17] Speaker 1: a hole. She's like, you want to do a little
[5:18] Speaker 1: our own little tequila tasting. I have all these a
[5:21] Speaker 1: plethora of tequilas. And it was just so cute the
[5:23] Speaker 1: way she presented, and she was like, and don't worry
[5:25] Speaker 1: if you have an empty stomach. I made some snacks. Also,
[5:27] Speaker 1: we have some charred Brussels sprouts with a child. I
[5:30] Speaker 1: was like, you just Sean is like that, he just
[5:32] Speaker 1: did this. I have grilled sour dough bread, like okay.
[5:39] Speaker 2: I went over to Sean's house this weekend. Shawn is
[5:41] Speaker 2: my aunt who lives here. Walker's mom, and.
[5:46] Speaker 3: She was like, I want you to come over Sunday,
[5:48] Speaker 3: and so I go over there. She's like, yeah, I
[5:50] Speaker 3: went to the farmer's market and I picked up these
[5:53] Speaker 3: cheeses and I got these artisanal breads, and so she's
[5:56] Speaker 3: putting all this stuff together.
[5:57] Speaker 2: She had made dinner and then she she's just like
[6:01] Speaker 2: a rep for a wine company, and so she always
[6:04] Speaker 2: has all of these different boutique ones. So she's like, oh,
[6:07] Speaker 2: try this one. What do you think try this one?
[6:08] Speaker 2: And I'm like, girl, I'm going home tonight. I'm not
[6:11] Speaker 2: spending night. You're gonna have me in here sleep And
[6:13] Speaker 2: I love it. I love it. I love a good
[6:16] Speaker 2: hostess like that. And she taught me a lot about
[6:18] Speaker 2: like hosting. I don't always apply the teachings because time, effort,
[6:22] Speaker 2: energy and appreciation. Sometimes it's lacking in all those things, so,
[6:27] Speaker 2: you know, depending, but when I'm in the mood, I
[6:29] Speaker 2: do like to do it. And holiday season is just
[6:31] Speaker 2: brings something out of me where I want to Maybe
[6:34] Speaker 2: I'll do something soon. I haven't hosted much in the
[6:37] Speaker 2: past year ever since I had that Memorial Day get together.
[6:41] Speaker 2: My homegirl had ate up all the little mini burgers
[6:44] Speaker 2: and she had left a piece of a burger patty.
[6:47] Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, she ate up all
[6:49] Speaker 1: the nobody else got to eat. Somebody brought beans.
[6:53] Speaker 2: I made beans, and there were beans everywhere. Yes, that
[6:56] Speaker 2: was that umber beans. Yes, there were beans, and then yeah,
[7:00] Speaker 2: a lot of things happen that day that carried over
[7:03] Speaker 2: into the next day, and I was just like, Okay,
[7:05] Speaker 2: I'm gonna have to wait till I have another gathering.
[7:08] Speaker 2: It's gonna be a while. And here we are. I
[7:10] Speaker 2: think I did one other one and that was May
[7:14] Speaker 2: of twenty twenty three, so scarred.
[7:18] Speaker 1: Yeah, I had a little pause on there. My sister's
[7:20] Speaker 1: also really good at that sort of stuff, especially for
[7:22] Speaker 1: her kids. I think it's important to do that with kids.
[7:24] Speaker 1: Do I will say when I have my nieces and nephews,
[7:27] Speaker 1: specifically Zaying, because I spend more one on one time
[7:29] Speaker 1: with him, because he's the oldest. I'll serve him his
[7:32] Speaker 1: food on a charcuterie board, like his little lunch, and
[7:35] Speaker 1: he absolutely, he don't even know he's getting like king treatment,
[7:38] Speaker 1: little prince, like little prince treatment. It'll be like the
[7:40] Speaker 1: little snack in the corner. I'll like decorate the grapes
[7:43] Speaker 1: and I'm like, yeah, you wonder what the little ones
[7:48] Speaker 1: are gonna be like when they get grown.
[7:49] Speaker 2: Absolutely, I wonder all the time. It's really interesting to
[7:53] Speaker 2: see how the kids and my family grow up. Like
[7:56] Speaker 2: Giselle is turning fifteen on Saturdays. That is just mind
[7:59] Speaker 2: blowing to me. But as they get older, their personalities change.
[8:04] Speaker 2: You see them kind of develop their own sense of style,
[8:07] Speaker 2: they start expressing themselves different, their voices changed. It's just
[8:10] Speaker 2: so cool to watch.
[8:11] Speaker 1: But even just like all of these little kids that
[8:13] Speaker 1: we'll see as adults, like they're growing up in a
[8:15] Speaker 1: world where, like we talk about emotions, we're not making
[8:18] Speaker 1: you give people hugs. Most children aren't getting whoopings. You
[8:23] Speaker 1: get to say I don't want to do that, mom,
[8:25] Speaker 1: and your parent might say, okay, express yourself, Like, well,
[8:28] Speaker 1: like I really wonder what those kids are going to
[8:30] Speaker 1: look like as adults.
[8:31] Speaker 2: Yeah, because sometimes honestly, y'all, I'm scared because I'm like,
[8:34] Speaker 2: all right, I think it's good to express yourself, and
[8:38] Speaker 2: you know, learning to communicate early is good. But sometimes
[8:42] Speaker 2: they are really testy and it's just like your mom
[8:47] Speaker 2: might let you do this, but if I said something,
[8:49] Speaker 2: I still need you to recognize I'm an adult. We're
[8:51] Speaker 2: not peers. That's it. Like, sometimes like you can express yourself,
[8:56] Speaker 2: but it's the limit. We're not going to be going
[8:58] Speaker 2: back and forth. And so I'm concerned out the future.
[9:00] Speaker 1: Yeah, the children that the children that don't get popped,
[9:04] Speaker 1: they will try you, like you'll be looking like.
[9:07] Speaker 2: I don't think I know any kids who get popped
[9:10] Speaker 2: at least not. Yeah, I don't know any kids who
[9:12] Speaker 2: get popped. A lot of the parents that I know
[9:14] Speaker 2: they don't do.
[9:14] Speaker 1: It because Walker ever got to pop, though I don't.
[9:17] Speaker 2: Know, probably from grandparents.
[9:20] Speaker 1: Grandparents ain't playing sit your last day. You ever seen
[9:23] Speaker 1: that meme where it's like there's two pictures in one
[9:26] Speaker 1: and one side is showing the parents doing the whole
[9:29] Speaker 1: thing like we're not. They're like, just t sit down,
[9:33] Speaker 1: like and they're like showing that, and the little child's
[9:35] Speaker 1: standing on the table like swinging as diverse and they're like, no,
[9:38] Speaker 1: we're going to talk about this, like you need to
[9:39] Speaker 1: sit down. And then the grandma on the other picture,
[9:43] Speaker 1: the child is acting right, and they're like, mom, how
[9:45] Speaker 1: do you get him to actress? She's like, I smack him,
[9:49] Speaker 1: I smack him? Who do need a little smack?
[9:52] Speaker 2: I think I'm so glad I'm not a parent, because
[9:55] Speaker 2: it's probably so hard to find that balance. And then
[9:57] Speaker 2: like when you have real conversations with people and you're thinking,
[10:01] Speaker 2: like this kid is different than that kid, and you
[10:03] Speaker 2: realize like everybody doesn't need the same thing. How you
[10:06] Speaker 2: figure all that out? Navigating what to do?
[10:08] Speaker 1: I just think about I always think about like being
[10:12] Speaker 1: a parent, which I do want, but like I do
[10:14] Speaker 1: think about it, like where it's like I even think
[10:16] Speaker 1: about like our parents are really your mama because mom's
[10:19] Speaker 1: been doing all stuff, like you also are dealing with
[10:22] Speaker 1: your own stress of life, like it might be a
[10:26] Speaker 1: day when you really are just like I don't have
[10:29] Speaker 1: it in me, but you gotta figure it out because
[10:32] Speaker 1: you got little babies.
[10:33] Speaker 2: I was talking to Sandra about that earlier this week,
[10:37] Speaker 2: and she was talking to me. We were updating each
[10:40] Speaker 2: other on life and just talking about some different stuff,
[10:42] Speaker 2: and somehow we got on the topic of her not
[10:45] Speaker 2: realizing how much her parents went through until after she
[10:50] Speaker 2: had her own daughter, and she was like, you know,
[10:53] Speaker 2: it's like I had a day where it was something
[10:55] Speaker 2: so simple, like I forgot something for my daughter and
[10:59] Speaker 2: I had to turn around, we had to cancel her lesson,
[11:01] Speaker 2: and I was just like I was feeling overwhelmed. I'm tired,
[11:04] Speaker 2: I'm stressed, it's so much on my mind. So she
[11:05] Speaker 2: called her husband and he was like, well, calm down,
[11:07] Speaker 2: why don't you just ask them if they have another opening,
[11:09] Speaker 2: Why don't you do this? So he was trying to
[11:10] Speaker 2: calm her down, and she was like, you know, thinking
[11:13] Speaker 2: about it, I don't do half the stuff that my
[11:15] Speaker 2: mama did as far as like daily things, but like
[11:17] Speaker 2: I work, my husband worked. She was like, I'm not
[11:19] Speaker 2: cooking home cooked meals every day. Sometimes he cooks and
[11:22] Speaker 2: sometimes we go out to eat. She was like, my
[11:25] Speaker 2: mom cooked every day.
[11:26] Speaker 1: For us when we got older. My mom it like
[11:28] Speaker 1: hearty meals and she worked.
[11:31] Speaker 2: Yeah, And so she's like, you know, it's just different.
[11:34] Speaker 2: And she did all of that and she did it
[11:37] Speaker 2: and I don't remember her like acting out or whatever.
[11:40] Speaker 2: And so she was like, I know, I just can
[11:42] Speaker 2: only imagine what she was going through. And she was like,
[11:43] Speaker 2: I have one child. My mom had four.
[11:45] Speaker 1: My mom had three all before like at this age.
[11:48] Speaker 1: I'm old at this one. My mom she already had
[11:51] Speaker 1: three by thirty. I believe I think.
[11:53] Speaker 2: My mom had all of us by the time she
[11:55] Speaker 2: was my age.
[11:56] Speaker 1: Is that right?
[11:56] Speaker 2: Yeah, Yeah, she definitely did.
[11:58] Speaker 1: And it's really funny for your kids sometimes when the
[12:00] Speaker 1: people in my family I won't call you one out
[12:02] Speaker 1: or like, are like like like having mental breakdowns about
[12:06] Speaker 1: you know, our generation is interesting, like everything is like soften.
[12:10] Speaker 1: We're a little too soft and my mom will be like,
[12:15] Speaker 1: y'all asking me how I did it? You just do it,
[12:17] Speaker 1: like you don't have time to be like. She'll be like,
[12:20] Speaker 1: y'all just don't know, like y'all don't know. You just
[12:23] Speaker 1: y'all knew moms are weak. That's what my mom would
[12:25] Speaker 1: be saying. We like talking about you can't do it,
[12:28] Speaker 1: you can do it like she didn't. People like, how
[12:30] Speaker 1: did you?
[12:31] Speaker 2: You just do it?
[12:32] Speaker 1: You didn't have any other offer, You just do it.
[12:34] Speaker 1: And my mom really made it look easy. But it's
[12:35] Speaker 1: funny because when we were younger and my mom used
[12:37] Speaker 1: to drop me and my sister off with this lady's
[12:40] Speaker 1: hair to learn it was miss Silvia. My mom would
[12:43] Speaker 1: be so late picking us up. I'm talking about like
[12:46] Speaker 1: at some point sometimes an hour late picking us up.
[12:48] Speaker 1: And Miss Silvia was like family. She wasn't family, but
[12:51] Speaker 1: she became like my mom got her hair done by
[12:52] Speaker 1: our week, got for so long, she did our hair
[12:55] Speaker 1: for such a long time, and we were there for
[12:57] Speaker 1: so long, and me and my sister realized that how
[13:00] Speaker 1: was mom's time by herself? Like she she need she
[13:05] Speaker 1: needed a minute, She needed a minute like you dealing
[13:08] Speaker 1: with wife problems you were working, always working, over time,
[13:12] Speaker 1: you got to cook the food. You got two girls
[13:15] Speaker 1: and a boy, like a so we were so involved
[13:18] Speaker 1: in things like that was her moment of like peace.
[13:21] Speaker 1: She probably was just meditating in the car, like taking
[13:24] Speaker 1: a nap, yeah, or crying with one of her best
[13:26] Speaker 1: friends on the phone. Whatever. And then you don't really
[13:28] Speaker 1: know what your parents went through, at least I don't.
[13:30] Speaker 1: You know. Some most things are kept private. It should
[13:32] Speaker 1: be easy, but you don't really know like what somebody
[13:35] Speaker 1: what maybe they went through, and you just she's still
[13:38] Speaker 1: in there cooking the pot roads.
[13:39] Speaker 2: Yep, making it happen because you don't feel like you
[13:42] Speaker 2: have another choice. That's another group of people that has
[13:45] Speaker 2: changed the hairstyles because every time I'm booking appointments, it's like,
[13:49] Speaker 2: no kids. They don't want to deal with it.
[13:51] Speaker 1: That's mean, Well they need to have like a little now.
[13:55] Speaker 2: I mean there are specialty places some people will take kids,
[13:57] Speaker 2: but I mean, if you can't handle a kid, you
[13:59] Speaker 2: do need to put that on your website because you're
[14:01] Speaker 2: not gonna be talking to no kids crazy yeah, or
[14:03] Speaker 2: being mean half of them not washing hair anyway.
[14:06] Speaker 1: So that's wild to me that you're gonna tell me
[14:09] Speaker 1: to come with my hair.
[14:10] Speaker 2: Was I feel like it's because you don't have a license,
[14:13] Speaker 2: like a cosmetology license, and so they're not supposed to
[14:17] Speaker 2: wash hair. So if the state somebody calls the state board.
[14:19] Speaker 2: Is like in Georgia, you can braid and stuff, but
[14:21] Speaker 2: that's why they'll tell you to go downstairs with somebody
[14:23] Speaker 2: else to wash it. When you're at the braid shops.
[14:25] Speaker 2: You're not supposed to do that. But I'm like, you
[14:27] Speaker 2: need to be licensed if you're doing all this stuff
[14:29] Speaker 2: to my hair.
[14:29] Speaker 1: Do you guys are the Asian people in the nail
[14:31] Speaker 1: salones are licensed. I'll always be wondering just using I heard.
[14:36] Speaker 2: Using other people's stuff. I'm sure other people do. I mean,
[14:39] Speaker 2: I know people who were doing nails in shops and
[14:41] Speaker 2: they told me that they worked in shops before as kids.
[14:44] Speaker 2: I know you didn't have a license.
[14:45] Speaker 1: You just know how to do a mean nail. You
[14:48] Speaker 1: want eyebrow, yes, yes I do. I don't That time
[14:53] Speaker 1: I got my eyebrows done in the nails a line.
[14:55] Speaker 1: That was the last time because it used to talk out.
[14:57] Speaker 1: I just used to get them cleaned up before I
[14:58] Speaker 1: got into the trendy stuff. She took off, like almost
[15:02] Speaker 1: all of my eyebrown I got in the car and
[15:03] Speaker 1: it was the first time I cried on the internet,
[15:05] Speaker 1: I think. And I made a video and I was
[15:08] Speaker 1: I was in there were you on?
[15:10] Speaker 2: Was this face on Instagram? On Instagra?
[15:14] Speaker 1: My whole eyebrow? And she tried to tell me. I
[15:17] Speaker 1: came in like that. I said, where is the manager?
[15:22] Speaker 2: And then it's like, you hope that the hair grows back,
[15:24] Speaker 2: but what if it doesn't? And now you got to
[15:26] Speaker 2: walk around.
[15:26] Speaker 1: I was, I'm talking about crying, and you know, when
[15:30] Speaker 1: the Asian people do start turning up on you, they
[15:31] Speaker 1: don't even care that you just I was like, I'm
[15:33] Speaker 1: not paying. They're like, we call police, call him, bitch.
[15:36] Speaker 2: I'm walking around with one eyebrow.
[15:38] Speaker 1: You're trying to really tell me. I walked in, like,
[15:41] Speaker 1: give me my eyebrows back. I was mad. I never
[15:45] Speaker 1: went there again. I wrote the meanest review. It was
[15:47] Speaker 1: a Google review too. I was just like, her name
[15:51] Speaker 1: is Sarah, she's the niece of Sue, And I said
[15:55] Speaker 1: if and then I read the other she has messed
[15:57] Speaker 1: other people's eyebrows and everybody said she was rude. Oh,
[16:00] Speaker 1: I was so mad.
[16:01] Speaker 2: I would be mad too, because you don't play about
[16:02] Speaker 2: eyebrows like that's your face. Who's trying to walk around
[16:05] Speaker 2: like Whoopy Gobert. You know.
[16:08] Speaker 1: Yeah, I love Whoopy.
[16:09] Speaker 2: I love her too, But she don't have no eyebrows
[16:12] Speaker 2: and never grew.
[16:13] Speaker 1: I don't think she ever had.
[16:14] Speaker 2: I think she shaved them off. I think she's talked
[16:16] Speaker 2: about it before she shaved them off or so.
[16:17] Speaker 1: I don't know why I thought it was like, well,
[16:19] Speaker 1: I could be wrong.
[16:20] Speaker 2: I don't know, but I do know there's no hair
[16:21] Speaker 2: up there. Yeah, and it's uh yeah, and that's not
[16:25] Speaker 2: the look I'm ever going for. I went and got
[16:27] Speaker 2: my tattooed.
[16:28] Speaker 1: Okay, if somebody told you they would give you five
[16:30] Speaker 1: million dollars to shave your eyebrows off, would you do it?
[16:32] Speaker 2: I do it now because my eyebrows are microbladed.
[16:35] Speaker 1: Oh so you can't. So even if you did take
[16:36] Speaker 1: a shaver around mine.
[16:38] Speaker 2: Well, they would shave it. But at least I have
[16:40] Speaker 2: an outline to go with to fill my eyebrows back
[16:43] Speaker 2: in and put on some makeup. I wouldn't want to
[16:44] Speaker 2: walk around like that because it looks different without the hair.
[16:47] Speaker 2: But you said five million dollars. Yeah, yeah, five million dollars.
[16:50] Speaker 2: I hope the hair comes back. If not, I got
[16:52] Speaker 2: five million dollars, I got something to figure it out.
[16:53] Speaker 1: I'll go.
[16:54] Speaker 2: I'm sure they got some lace from eyebrows. I mean,
[16:56] Speaker 2: I'll figure it out. I'll get a heavy bang something.
[17:00] Speaker 2: You wouldn't do it, definitely, I would do it for less, honestly.
[17:05] Speaker 1: One meal.
[17:06] Speaker 2: Okay, I was thinking lower than that, honestly, Like it's
[17:09] Speaker 2: eyebrow hair, and my eyebrows aren't naturally think anyway, It's
[17:13] Speaker 2: not even gonna take that long yet, Yeah, take moth.
[17:16] Speaker 1: Fine, where do you think you get most of your
[17:18] Speaker 1: looks from dad? But even like hair and bone structure, dad,
[17:25] Speaker 1: I think my dad.
[17:26] Speaker 2: I think there's a few things that I see that
[17:29] Speaker 2: are similar to my mom, but not much hair my dad.
[17:32] Speaker 2: I don't have hair like my mom. And then yeah,
[17:38] Speaker 2: I think just like my eyeballs, but even like my
[17:41] Speaker 2: eyelid and everything just as opening as her. But the
[17:43] Speaker 2: rest of it is my dad. And sometimes people say
[17:46] Speaker 2: they've said that, oh, I see the resemblance between you
[17:48] Speaker 2: and your mom, and I'm like, you ain't see my
[17:49] Speaker 2: dad yet.
[17:50] Speaker 1: I think that's so cool. Like jeans and like when
[17:53] Speaker 1: you do have kids, you don't know what's gonna hit.
[17:55] Speaker 1: And I just I absolutely love it. My sister's son, Kai,
[17:58] Speaker 1: my little baby nephew. I love that little boy, but
[18:00] Speaker 1: he better stop scratching and smacking kids at school. He
[18:02] Speaker 1: got in trouble. You don't sometimes little boys go there
[18:06] Speaker 1: like a rough liutt of. Anyways, he was scratching somebody
[18:08] Speaker 1: and he bes scratching Tink, and Tink won't me and
[18:10] Speaker 1: might be like, Tink, you're gonna have to get in
[18:13] Speaker 1: karate because now you got it you need.
[18:14] Speaker 2: She's just letting him do.
[18:15] Speaker 1: She'll like he's scratching me as he's scratching her. Punch him,
[18:19] Speaker 1: y'all y'all mean, I said, punch him next time he
[18:22] Speaker 1: does that, Tink. Don't let nobody scratch punching they little like, it's.
[18:27] Speaker 2: Not gonna hurt.
[18:27] Speaker 1: But I was what I was about to say was
[18:30] Speaker 1: Kai has blue eyes. And Kai isn't even like what
[18:34] Speaker 1: do you call it when you're not like directly mixed.
[18:36] Speaker 1: It's indirectly mixed. He's black mom mixed, but his dad
[18:38] Speaker 1: is half black, and it's not like he had Mecca's
[18:41] Speaker 1: married to a white man. He's mixed, so he's not like.
[18:44] Speaker 2: I did say he was black. I mean, if he
[18:45] Speaker 2: said he mixed, he mixed. But I get what you're saying.
[18:48] Speaker 2: The husband is mixed, right, Kuy's dad is mixed. But
[18:51] Speaker 2: Kai looks like he got a white mama, and we
[18:53] Speaker 2: be just looking at him like why do you look
[18:56] Speaker 2: like this? Like jeans are so interesting?
[18:58] Speaker 1: And it's funny because he has blue eyes and everybody
[19:00] Speaker 1: assumes it's from his dad being mixed, and we'd be like,
[19:03] Speaker 1: hold up, now, my grandmother's dad, who was a black man,
[19:07] Speaker 1: had bright blue eyes. I don't know where it came from.
[19:10] Speaker 1: I don't know what happened down the lineage and what
[19:12] Speaker 1: the slaves are doing, but he had blue eyes. And
[19:15] Speaker 1: we always be like, don't be trying to take on
[19:18] Speaker 1: the credit for the blue eyes.
[19:20] Speaker 2: Does he Okay? I did read somewhere that having blue eyes,
[19:26] Speaker 2: it's like the eyes are blue with a lack of melanin.
[19:31] Speaker 2: So like my grandma was telling me when I was born,
[19:33] Speaker 2: my eyes were blue, but they turned brown because the
[19:36] Speaker 2: melanin just wasn't there yet. And so when people be
[19:38] Speaker 2: going to Africa and get them surgeries and they take
[19:41] Speaker 2: the stuff out you remove the.
[19:42] Speaker 1: Melan and they get to do that tiny uh huh.
[19:46] Speaker 2: I didn't hear what she said. Yeah she did, her
[19:47] Speaker 2: and her daughter, and then they were saying their eyes
[19:49] Speaker 2: was hurting. I'll be careful out there.
[19:51] Speaker 1: I mean, I'm scared to get la sick. It's my
[19:54] Speaker 1: eyes like something one little he sneezed in the middle
[19:57] Speaker 1: of the Now, you lie.
[20:00] Speaker 2: My grandfather had Lasik surgery and remember, and now he's blind.
[20:04] Speaker 2: I would be scared too, because when he was well,
[20:06] Speaker 2: I think it was lasick. If it wasn't las sick,
[20:08] Speaker 2: it was something else, But it was a surgery on
[20:10] Speaker 2: the eye, right, and so something happened in the surgery,
[20:14] Speaker 2: something went wrong unexpected and they dropped, like his lens
[20:18] Speaker 2: is like the lens of his eye, not a contact
[20:21] Speaker 2: lens in the back of his eye. And so yeah,
[20:24] Speaker 2: he's blind. And that was years ago and he still
[20:28] Speaker 2: can't see. So yeah, I would be scared too. I mean,
[20:31] Speaker 2: I'm happy for everybody who doesn't have to go through
[20:33] Speaker 2: wearing contacts and glasses because the way I hear people
[20:35] Speaker 2: with vision problems complain ru and I couldn't imagine. I'm like,
[20:39] Speaker 2: as I'm working on my gratitude. I wake up every
[20:42] Speaker 2: morning and I can just see, and so I need
[20:45] Speaker 2: to be grateful because everybody around me cannot.
[20:47] Speaker 1: And I wake up every morning and reach for my glasses.
[20:49] Speaker 1: And sometimes when I'm in a rush and like have
[20:51] Speaker 1: to take shot of the vet or something, and I
[20:53] Speaker 1: don't get dressed, and I just like run out the
[20:55] Speaker 1: door and I start driving and I'm like, oh no,
[20:57] Speaker 1: turn around, Like I can't even try to make it.
[21:00] Speaker 1: Somebody's gonna get hit.
[21:02] Speaker 2: So what does it like look like? Because I also
[21:03] Speaker 2: didn't realize there were so many different types of actual blindness, it.
[21:07] Speaker 1: Looks like like like like you're underwater, like the person
[21:12] Speaker 1: is underway. It's like blur. It's just like I can
[21:14] Speaker 1: see you, but like right now it looks like somebody
[21:16] Speaker 1: put Like you're still kind of close to me, but
[21:18] Speaker 1: it looks like there's just a little glaze of water
[21:20] Speaker 1: over you, like if.
[21:21] Speaker 2: I was standing behind one of those textured windows.
[21:23] Speaker 1: Yes texts, and if you stood further it would be
[21:26] Speaker 1: even worse. Like now it's like you're really deep in
[21:29] Speaker 1: that puddle.
[21:30] Speaker 2: I've really got to be eating my carrots every day again,
[21:33] Speaker 2: taking my vitamins because the way I lose things. This
[21:37] Speaker 2: would be a disaster for me. I knew who to
[21:39] Speaker 2: let have visions.
[21:40] Speaker 1: Every time my go to get to get my eyes checked.
[21:45] Speaker 1: The last time I went, the doctor was like, are
[21:49] Speaker 1: you joking? You don't have to read the letters.
[21:53] Speaker 2: I was like, wait, I didn't say anything. What do
[21:54] Speaker 2: you mean?
[21:55] Speaker 1: I was like, and I'm saying it with confidence because
[21:57] Speaker 1: who gonna check me? And I was like bc a if.
[22:01] Speaker 1: He was like, slow down first, what you reading? You
[22:07] Speaker 1: need it bigger? I was like big, I was trying
[22:08] Speaker 1: to read it. He was like, don't string you know how.
[22:10] Speaker 1: They're like, don't if you can't see it, you can't see,
[22:11] Speaker 1: don't try. But I'm trying.
[22:12] Speaker 2: I ain't been to the eye doctor in so long.
[22:15] Speaker 1: You know, they got the America's best contacts and lens.
[22:18] Speaker 1: They do this like ninety nine dollars for three years.
[22:20] Speaker 1: If you didn't know, you go. It's a really good
[22:23] Speaker 1: deal and you get a percentage off. I mean you
[22:25] Speaker 1: don't need no glasses.
[22:26] Speaker 2: Though, so I'm not going. But if I ever started
[22:28] Speaker 2: getting blurry vision, I mean I stare at computers all day,
[22:32] Speaker 2: I'm fearful. Yeah, I need some carrots. I'm gonna be
[22:34] Speaker 2: next week, we're gonna have a carrot juice cocktail recipe
[22:38] Speaker 2: speak people being blind.
[22:40] Speaker 1: Let me tell you this. I thought this was so dope.
[22:42] Speaker 1: So you know, I have my Costa Rica trip coming
[22:44] Speaker 1: up in December, Yeah, with Paradise and Vibe. Excuse me,
[22:47] Speaker 1: Camille is coming. Remember we have the blind test on
[22:49] Speaker 1: She's coming to Costa Rica. Oh and this is a
[22:53] Speaker 1: hot yoga specific retreat. We're going surfing. And I was like,
[22:57] Speaker 1: I just wanted to make sure, you know, you know,
[22:59] Speaker 1: I just want to make the door like you know,
[23:00] Speaker 1: girl like gonna be like she said. She was like,
[23:05] Speaker 1: I'm gonna be good. She was like blind people's surf.
[23:07] Speaker 1: Like she's I've been learning so much about blind people
[23:09] Speaker 1: through her. She was like, the only thing I might
[23:10] Speaker 1: need help with is when we do the hot yoga
[23:14] Speaker 1: I'll need somebody to help me get my form because
[23:16] Speaker 1: I don't I can't see it. But she was like,
[23:18] Speaker 1: I can surf. I was like, okay, now gonna we
[23:21] Speaker 1: got to have somebody next to you. But but I
[23:24] Speaker 1: just thought that was really dope, Like that baby is
[23:26] Speaker 1: coming not scared at all.
[23:28] Speaker 2: You know, it must be really nice to be able
[23:31] Speaker 2: to have that confidence. In yourself to be so fearless
[23:33] Speaker 2: because I'm sitting here imagining surfing. I'm scared and I
[23:36] Speaker 2: could see but no assistance, and I could swim, but
[23:40] Speaker 2: I would be nervous. I was just watching have you
[23:43] Speaker 2: seen what is it called on Apple TV? Disclaimer? I
[23:46] Speaker 2: think it's called is it called disclaimer? Yeah? Okay. Kate
[23:50] Speaker 2: Blanchett is the actress or Beckham cell Kate Blanchet becon sale.
[23:55] Speaker 1: I love me some Blanchet.
[23:57] Speaker 2: Mmm, I think is that when I don't know anyway?
[24:01] Speaker 2: Great actress? Yes, so she is in that. And somebody
[24:04] Speaker 2: they were in Italy in one of the flashback scenes
[24:07] Speaker 2: and people were out there surfing and everything else, and
[24:09] Speaker 2: somebody drowned and died. Uh huh. That's kind of how
[24:12] Speaker 2: it shirted off. That shirted the scandal.
[24:14] Speaker 1: But I was just like, yeah, first of all, like
[24:17] Speaker 1: I've surfed before, and it's.
[24:18] Speaker 2: Like you going, where were you when you served?
[24:20] Speaker 1: It was in Hawaii. It's so difficult. And when you
[24:23] Speaker 1: get done, if you can even jump up and get
[24:25] Speaker 1: on the board, because it's a lot of upper body
[24:28] Speaker 1: you have, you're in the water, which is already difficult,
[24:30] Speaker 1: and then you have to jump up on your board
[24:33] Speaker 1: and then wait for the right time to stand up
[24:35] Speaker 1: and it's really difficult to stand up and you're probably
[24:37] Speaker 1: going to fall off, and then you know, you think
[24:38] Speaker 1: about sharks other sea creatures in there.
[24:41] Speaker 2: It was it was because sea creatures be ugly.
[24:43] Speaker 1: Yeah, it was very.
[24:45] Speaker 2: Really like that core strength. I don't have it, and.
[24:49] Speaker 1: It feels like like you did a really good workout.
[24:51] Speaker 1: Though after you're done, I see why they're so in
[24:53] Speaker 1: shape if you stick to it. You ever think about,
[24:56] Speaker 1: like when you have kids, Well.
[24:58] Speaker 2: If I did, I mean maybe I have step kids
[25:00] Speaker 2: or something like, maybe life will change. Who knows, got
[25:03] Speaker 2: five minutes left to have a kid?
[25:04] Speaker 1: The activities you want them to be involved in because
[25:06] Speaker 1: you want to. You're thinking about like making sure they're
[25:08] Speaker 1: in good shape their whole life. Yes, okay, me too.
[25:10] Speaker 1: I've thought about that. They need to run some track,
[25:13] Speaker 1: and you need to be in dance, and you might
[25:14] Speaker 1: need a serve m h.
[25:16] Speaker 2: And I just need to instill working out from a
[25:19] Speaker 2: very young ating good yes, all of those good healthy habits,
[25:23] Speaker 2: because it's so much easier if this is just your
[25:25] Speaker 2: every day you don't know different, versus trying to build
[25:29] Speaker 2: good habits as an adult after a lifetime of not
[25:33] Speaker 2: having good habits.
[25:34] Speaker 1: Yeah, Like I struggle for me is a struggle, Like
[25:37] Speaker 1: I just be thinking about like my onnborn babies, like okay,
[25:39] Speaker 1: like how are we going to do this? Because I
[25:40] Speaker 1: bet it feels really bad if you keep getting calls
[25:43] Speaker 1: about your kid and it's just like they're just doing
[25:44] Speaker 1: dumb shit, like just following following everybody. You're just like,
[25:48] Speaker 1: what the fuck? What's wrong with you?
[25:50] Speaker 2: I think about activities, and then I also think about
[25:53] Speaker 2: other things that they need to learn, other groups that
[25:55] Speaker 2: they need to be involved with. My kids would be
[25:56] Speaker 2: them kids or the step kids if they over there
[25:59] Speaker 2: with us, they would be the kids that's having a
[26:02] Speaker 2: ton of after school activities. You've got tutors, you've got everything,
[26:05] Speaker 2: because you need to stay involved.
[26:07] Speaker 1: I'm going to give you space for self care. Like
[26:09] Speaker 1: I want them to really know that too, Like this
[26:11] Speaker 1: is our day of break and we're gonna you know,
[26:13] Speaker 1: let's take care of our skin, let's get our little
[26:15] Speaker 1: I don't want to know sons at all, so like
[26:17] Speaker 1: my baby girls, okay, I just don't want it. I
[26:19] Speaker 1: mean I wouldn't either too much of a risk, a
[26:22] Speaker 1: risk for what you create a just a terror for
[26:25] Speaker 1: somebody's daughter. And I we've been through enough, Kiki, We've
[26:30] Speaker 1: been through enough.
[26:31] Speaker 2: You're right about that. I always think about that too,
[26:33] Speaker 2: like parents, the father saying their mothers, what are you
[26:36] Speaker 2: teaching your sons to try your best, hopefully to instill
[26:41] Speaker 2: good values in them or do you just let them become?
[26:46] Speaker 1: And in most families, I feel like the sons get
[26:49] Speaker 1: spoiled in a different type of way than what girls do.
[26:51] Speaker 1: And of everybody's family, like the boys are just treated differently,
[26:55] Speaker 1: especially if you're the only boy, and then it's just
[26:58] Speaker 1: like now you get grown and it's like, I mean,
[27:03] Speaker 1: really think about it. We know people who are married
[27:05] Speaker 1: and it's like the wives normally are like his mom
[27:07] Speaker 1: did this to him. You don't really hear that on
[27:11] Speaker 1: the other side of it, where it's like her dad
[27:14] Speaker 1: did this to her. No, it's like take out daddy
[27:17] Speaker 1: issues or you just didn't have a dad. But it's
[27:19] Speaker 1: like the moms be doing something to the sons. I
[27:22] Speaker 1: don't know what it is.
[27:23] Speaker 2: Well, I'm thinking about somebody who I know, like they
[27:26] Speaker 2: did they have both of their parents, their parents weren't together,
[27:28] Speaker 2: but he primarily lived with his father, so I'm blaming
[27:32] Speaker 2: the daddy on all his fuck ups.
[27:34] Speaker 1: There's the daddy issues with men too. You can't change
[27:36] Speaker 1: a tire. Why can't you tire?
[27:40] Speaker 2: No, I don't know. It's so many things that it
[27:44] Speaker 2: just makes me go. H. We do have topics and stuff.
[27:46] Speaker 2: We'll get to a visually. Oh, but it's fun to
[27:49] Speaker 2: catch up sometimes when we don't have a guess, I'm
[27:51] Speaker 2: gonna go ahead and do a weird sex so I
[27:52] Speaker 2: don't forget it's short and then we'll get back to
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[28:00] Speaker 2: I trying to spread cheer with my family, my friends,
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[30:37] Speaker 2: You said a man is not a necessity. A man
[30:40] Speaker 2: is a luxury like desserve. Yeah, a man is absolutely
[30:45] Speaker 2: not necessity. Did you mean that to sound mean it bitter?
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[30:50] Speaker 2: Not at all. I adore dessert. I love man. I
[30:54] Speaker 2: think men are the coolest, but you don't really need
[30:57] Speaker 2: them to live. Oh it's a feather. I was like,
[31:02] Speaker 2: what is this a toothpick? I got feathers everywhere I
[31:05] Speaker 2: look like Christmas. Okay, So this week for weird sex,
[31:11] Speaker 2: I wanted to go back. I was looking at all
[31:13] Speaker 2: of these different kinks and fetishes, and I'm always curious
[31:16] Speaker 2: about how people end up in like those crazy stories
[31:19] Speaker 2: where they end up in the hospital because they were
[31:21] Speaker 2: trying something that I would think, why would you even
[31:23] Speaker 2: want to do that? So then I fell down a
[31:25] Speaker 2: black hole looking up different kinks. So Halloween wasn't that
[31:29] Speaker 2: long ago, guess like a month ago. And when I
[31:32] Speaker 2: came across this one, I was wondering how many people
[31:34] Speaker 2: might be having sex in haunted houses or other creepy places. Right,
[31:38] Speaker 2: so there is a kink or fetish I guess I
[31:42] Speaker 2: should say called spectrophilia, and it's the sexual attraction to
[31:47] Speaker 2: ghosts or images in the mirror. Excuse me, bitch, how
[31:51] Speaker 2: do you even present that to somebody? I really like ghosts?
[31:54] Speaker 2: So can you dress up like Casper?
[31:56] Speaker 1: Oh it's not like they like conjure up the spirit
[31:58] Speaker 1: and getting well I fake tho.
[32:00] Speaker 2: Well, I don't know. I don't know any of these people.
[32:02] Speaker 2: I just read it on this list a cole online
[32:05] Speaker 2: and I was just like, what is happening? Like, how
[32:08] Speaker 2: do you realize that that's what you're attracted to? Are
[32:10] Speaker 2: you watching a movie? But it made me think about
[32:12] Speaker 2: haunted houses and I'm like, y'all are girls because if
[32:14] Speaker 2: you kids in the haunted houses and like other people,
[32:16] Speaker 2: are you going through the haunted house and it is
[32:18] Speaker 2: making your dick card or you puss you at and
[32:20] Speaker 2: it's just like ooh, these monsters and googles and goblins,
[32:22] Speaker 2: or you're in the fun house at the circus or
[32:24] Speaker 2: the fair and you're like, ooh, they played a trick
[32:27] Speaker 2: on me. This is turning me on. I want to
[32:29] Speaker 2: touch myself, Like what's going on? And you need help?
[32:32] Speaker 2: I'm sorry. Hopefully you're not acting on it. I guess
[32:36] Speaker 2: you can't help what you're attracted to. You just are
[32:38] Speaker 2: like I know, I like tall black men. I just
[32:40] Speaker 2: can't help it. It's nothing that anybody taught me. I
[32:42] Speaker 2: just love it. But like, how did you realize ghosts?
[32:45] Speaker 2: Were you watching Scooby Doo too much?
[32:47] Speaker 1: Was your dad or your mama mortician?
[32:49] Speaker 2: Ooh yeah, that could be scary, don't know? Or did
[32:56] Speaker 2: you grow up in a haunted house? And did you
[32:58] Speaker 2: see ghosts?
[32:59] Speaker 1: I don't know.
[32:59] Speaker 2: Have you been fucked by a sex demon?
[33:01] Speaker 1: Since?
[33:02] Speaker 2: And inappropriate?
[33:03] Speaker 1: I told you about that movie where it's a truth.
[33:04] Speaker 2: This is based on the truth you're about to say,
[33:06] Speaker 2: I told you about mine, like somebody you know who
[33:08] Speaker 2: did now?
[33:09] Speaker 1: Way last time I told you about the movie though
[33:11] Speaker 1: I couldn't remember the name of it. It just came.
[33:12] Speaker 1: It's called The Entity and it's old.
[33:15] Speaker 2: I'm about to add it to my list.
[33:16] Speaker 1: It's an old movie. I don't know what it's I
[33:18] Speaker 1: haven't seen it. For the Entity in this lady Yeah,
[33:23] Speaker 1: and the ghost keeps having sex with her and she
[33:26] Speaker 1: wants him to stop, and then he follows her. He
[33:28] Speaker 1: gets in the car with her, he tries to crush her.
[33:29] Speaker 1: I mean he's obsessed with the lady and everybody thinks
[33:31] Speaker 1: she's lying and she's not lying, and he having his
[33:35] Speaker 1: way the entity.
[33:37] Speaker 2: And how did he find her? I don't know if
[33:40] Speaker 2: she moved.
[33:40] Speaker 1: Into the house and his spirit was just already in
[33:42] Speaker 1: the house m hm, or if he just came up
[33:46] Speaker 1: in there. I would just be so mad, like, sir,
[33:49] Speaker 1: do you.
[33:49] Speaker 2: Think you've ever seen a ghost?
[33:52] Speaker 1: Yes?
[33:53] Speaker 2: What happened?
[33:54] Speaker 1: Okay, So I don't know if I okay, maybe I
[33:59] Speaker 1: haven't seen it go because I would probably not survive it.
[34:01] Speaker 1: But I feel like I've seen why would you not surviving?
[34:04] Speaker 1: Please God don't send them my way. I don't care
[34:06] Speaker 1: who they are. Maybe not I goes, but like ghostly
[34:10] Speaker 1: things have happened. But I think that I've seen an angel.
[34:13] Speaker 1: I think I've seen an angel. And this is really weird,
[34:16] Speaker 1: like they're not the same, right, I mean, I guess it.
[34:19] Speaker 2: Depends, like you know how some people feel like, oh,
[34:22] Speaker 2: like my grandmother has gone to heaven and she's my
[34:24] Speaker 2: angel now.
[34:25] Speaker 1: But then there's the others where sometimes the people are
[34:28] Speaker 1: like you're being an angel.
[34:30] Speaker 2: So the following I mean, I don't know, don't get
[34:33] Speaker 2: me to go. And but okay, so maybe an angel sob.
[34:36] Speaker 1: So one day I was out. I was remember when
[34:39] Speaker 1: Carlos and I used to live over there on that
[34:41] Speaker 1: street across the street from where Opera was. I can't
[34:44] Speaker 1: remember the name of that street, Crescent Crescent. And I
[34:47] Speaker 1: was outside walking shy. There was this man out there
[34:51] Speaker 1: and I saw him and he was He was a
[34:53] Speaker 1: homeless man. He told me that he was hungry, and
[34:56] Speaker 1: I was like, I had made lasagna, so I was like,
[34:58] Speaker 1: do you want some lasagna? Like, I can go grab
[35:00] Speaker 1: you some. I went upstairs, I got made the plate
[35:03] Speaker 1: of lasagno, a big old hunk of lasagna, heated it up,
[35:07] Speaker 1: got a fork, and went downstairs to give him his lasagna.
[35:11] Speaker 1: Right he was still sitting there. He was sitting on
[35:13] Speaker 1: the on like the sign of the apartment complex. And
[35:15] Speaker 1: I had never seen him before. Normally it's the same
[35:17] Speaker 1: homeless people around there. Yeah, I gave him his lasagna,
[35:20] Speaker 1: but I forgot to give him the fork. So I
[35:21] Speaker 1: gave him the lasagna, and I literally, I swear to you,
[35:24] Speaker 1: I had chills. I give him the lasagna and I turned.
[35:28] Speaker 2: I was like, oh, sir, you're fork and he was gone.
[35:30] Speaker 1: He was gone.
[35:31] Speaker 2: Maybe it was a test about like, you know, being
[35:34] Speaker 2: generous and charitable.
[35:35] Speaker 1: To that was my ticket to heaven. I know I'm
[35:37] Speaker 1: going first class. I'm sitting right there.
[35:40] Speaker 2: With first class.
[35:41] Speaker 1: But they got sections. I know they got sections.
[35:45] Speaker 2: So you think that lasagna is your taking.
[35:47] Speaker 1: I feel like you never know when you're gonna be tested.
[35:50] Speaker 2: Okay, but he was gone.
[35:53] Speaker 1: I mean, there was nowhere and I'm looking around.
[35:55] Speaker 2: I'm like, I've never had an experience like that. I'm
[35:58] Speaker 2: gonna tell you about one that somebody told me, So
[36:00] Speaker 2: I'm just gonna tell their story. But hold on, there's
[36:03] Speaker 2: a DoorDash delivery or uber eats, will you or cash?
[36:05] Speaker 2: Grab it there in the parking line. It's for our cocktail.
[36:08] Speaker 2: Got I just dashed the ingredients. But somebody told me
[36:12] Speaker 2: that he was He was driving right, and he was
[36:17] Speaker 2: going around this windy road and it was near like
[36:21] Speaker 2: a school in a football field, and I forgot where
[36:24] Speaker 2: is here in Georgia though, And he was with a friend.
[36:26] Speaker 2: He wasn't alone, and he was like, I know, I
[36:29] Speaker 2: wasn't tripping because my friends saw the same thing. So
[36:31] Speaker 2: they saw a man, just a lone man, walking right,
[36:35] Speaker 2: and so they thought it was strange because like, where
[36:38] Speaker 2: is he going? What's going on? And it just looked
[36:40] Speaker 2: it looked weird. And then so they keep driving and
[36:43] Speaker 2: then they get closer and then when they hit the
[36:45] Speaker 2: curve and turn, but it wasn't enough time to like
[36:48] Speaker 2: for anybody to go anywhere where you would be out
[36:50] Speaker 2: of sight because you're in this big, open lit field
[36:53] Speaker 2: and the man was gone, and so he was like,
[36:56] Speaker 2: what the fuck? So he thought he was tripping, so
[36:58] Speaker 2: he asked his friend. The friend kind of has a
[36:59] Speaker 2: shock too, and he was like, did you just see
[37:02] Speaker 2: that too? And so he was like, yeah, what the fuck?
[37:05] Speaker 2: And so they were on the internet looking up stuff
[37:08] Speaker 2: and apparently that's one of like the it's a really
[37:11] Speaker 2: haunted area and a really haunted place in Georgia. I
[37:16] Speaker 2: forgot what county. I forgot what county. I don't want
[37:19] Speaker 2: to see nothing like that ever in my life. I've
[37:23] Speaker 2: never seen a ghosting.
[37:27] Speaker 1: And talking to spirits. And you know, she's close to
[37:30] Speaker 1: she's on the she's on that closer side. But they
[37:34] Speaker 1: keep trying to be like, this is gonna be her
[37:35] Speaker 1: last year, and we'd be like, stop trying to she's
[37:38] Speaker 1: still here, but she'd be seeing stuff really clearly now,
[37:41] Speaker 1: Like she'll be like, who's that man next year on
[37:43] Speaker 1: the couch and she don't recognize him. You know, she's
[37:47] Speaker 1: dealing with dementia, so sometimes she might have, but most
[37:50] Speaker 1: of the time she don't.
[37:51] Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's uh, yeah, I would be freaking out
[37:55] Speaker 2: about that. Sean has told me about some different experience
[37:58] Speaker 2: I've had. Have you ever had this of experience where
[38:02] Speaker 2: it's like you don't see anything necessarily, but you feel
[38:06] Speaker 2: like a really strong something but nobody else is there,
[38:10] Speaker 2: and it gives you like chills, or you do feel
[38:12] Speaker 2: that cool thing go by, or like something is moved,
[38:16] Speaker 2: something has been moved, and there's no reason this stuff
[38:19] Speaker 2: should move. That has happened, and that is scary, and
[38:21] Speaker 2: I'm like, am I tripping?
[38:23] Speaker 1: I don't remember when Sean lived in that one house
[38:25] Speaker 1: and you used to say that it felt yeah upstairs.
[38:28] Speaker 2: I lived there too, and I didn't go home for
[38:30] Speaker 2: a long time because I was scared, and I used
[38:33] Speaker 2: to have these nightmares and so like in my bedroom
[38:36] Speaker 2: there there was a window near my bed, and I
[38:40] Speaker 2: just kept having this dream that somebody was at the
[38:44] Speaker 2: window trying to get in. And so then we had
[38:45] Speaker 2: talked to the neighbor and she lived next door and
[38:48] Speaker 2: the house was on a big hill, and she was like, yeah,
[38:50] Speaker 2: spooky stuff happens at my house all the time. And
[38:52] Speaker 2: so she started telling us the stories and she was like, yeah,
[38:55] Speaker 2: I was doing research because I was curious. She was like,
[38:57] Speaker 2: we've been here for many years and trying to figuregure
[39:00] Speaker 2: out what was here before we came. She was like,
[39:03] Speaker 2: I never got anything definitive, but I've always wondered if
[39:06] Speaker 2: it was an area where like this was a cemetery
[39:09] Speaker 2: of some sort for somebody, like whether it be the
[39:12] Speaker 2: Native Americans or whoever else that was here a long
[39:15] Speaker 2: time ago. I don't know, but go it was like
[39:18] Speaker 2: it's like kind of like an attic, but it was finished,
[39:21] Speaker 2: and so it's like lofty upstairs, and so we would
[39:23] Speaker 2: go up there and it would just be like a
[39:25] Speaker 2: heavy energy and it would just be weird. I used
[39:28] Speaker 2: to be scared. I was scared to wash my face sometimes,
[39:31] Speaker 2: like I gotta wash it with one eye. Oh lad,
[39:33] Speaker 2: it's just so scary, and it's like I don't see anything,
[39:37] Speaker 2: but something feels like it's here. And I definitely believe
[39:42] Speaker 2: that it would be stuff around. You just never know,
[39:44] Speaker 2: and you don't know if it's good or bad. And
[39:46] Speaker 2: I'm not really trying to talk to you and ask questions.
[39:47] Speaker 1: I'm not either. Please please just save my spot in heaven.
[39:52] Speaker 1: Don't come down here talking to me. I can't help you.
[39:55] Speaker 2: And if you're talking to me, you need to be
[39:56] Speaker 2: telling me it's time to go so we can go,
[39:58] Speaker 2: cause I can't survive this now. I'm and be living
[40:00] Speaker 2: my everyday earthly life worried and scared and.
[40:04] Speaker 1: People and keeping the light on. Now Georgia power bill
[40:06] Speaker 1: is skyrocket.
[40:07] Speaker 2: Three thousand dollars instead of two, Like what that's crazy
[40:12] Speaker 2: to me? Oh my goodness? Do you think if you
[40:15] Speaker 2: what would you do if you had to go to
[40:16] Speaker 2: your house right now?
[40:18] Speaker 1: I can't stay. I can't stay. I'm not What are
[40:23] Speaker 1: we gonna do? Like somebody gotta go and it's gonna
[40:26] Speaker 1: be me.
[40:26] Speaker 2: Would you try to have like like a pastor come
[40:29] Speaker 2: and like cleanse the No, because I don't.
[40:32] Speaker 1: Think I would be able to get over even if
[40:33] Speaker 1: they're like it's gone, It's like, how do we know?
[40:35] Speaker 1: Why did it come?
[40:36] Speaker 2: I was thinking about that when I was watching the
[40:38] Speaker 2: piano lesson. I was like, now, what would I do
[40:40] Speaker 2: because when stuff is shaking and doing all that job
[40:43] Speaker 2: rating and then it was doing the lights are flickering
[40:45] Speaker 2: and all this stuff, and you keep seeing this big man,
[40:47] Speaker 2: it's all this water coming out. Baby.
[40:49] Speaker 1: No. Now, I would like to go to a plantation
[40:53] Speaker 1: and like and have like a professional there. Have you
[40:55] Speaker 1: ever done one of those tours where they have the
[40:57] Speaker 1: ghost hunters there?
[40:58] Speaker 2: I'm not going to no ghosts because what if that
[41:01] Speaker 2: bring them back with me? You can bring them back
[41:03] Speaker 2: with you. Sometimes you're not hitching a ride on my back.
[41:05] Speaker 1: Honey, I did it once. I'm in Oklahoma.
[41:08] Speaker 2: And then which one is it gonna be? Who was
[41:10] Speaker 2: at the plantation? Which side of history were you on?
[41:13] Speaker 2: While you're trying to come with me? Are you coming
[41:15] Speaker 2: to terrorize me?
[41:16] Speaker 1: They have a plantation I want to say, yeah. I
[41:18] Speaker 1: think it's in Louisiana, and my sister were talking about
[41:21] Speaker 1: going to toy but they don't do ghost tours. But
[41:23] Speaker 1: they kept everything. It's not like a plantation where they
[41:26] Speaker 1: made it look cute and people getting married. There's which
[41:29] Speaker 1: is always weird. It's very weird, like do y'all know it?
[41:34] Speaker 1: They know this plantation though they don't let you get
[41:38] Speaker 1: married there because they keep it just how it would
[41:41] Speaker 1: look if it was slavery. They even have replicas. This
[41:43] Speaker 1: was one of the worst. I can't remember the name
[41:44] Speaker 1: of it in Louisiana they have They used to.
[41:46] Speaker 2: Put is it's a Whitney plantation, maybe is it? It
[41:50] Speaker 2: might be the wait somewhere near New Orleans, like it's
[41:52] Speaker 2: South Louisiana, right.
[41:53] Speaker 1: Yeah, like d Yeah, they have the head on the
[41:58] Speaker 1: pikes and they keep them on there. But obviously now
[42:00] Speaker 1: they're not real heads, but they look real. He has
[42:02] Speaker 1: like flies on it and it's dripping. I don't know
[42:04] Speaker 1: about all that, but they keep it the same because
[42:07] Speaker 1: they're like, we want you to come here when you
[42:08] Speaker 1: see it, and we're not making it pretty. This is
[42:10] Speaker 1: what it was like.
[42:11] Speaker 2: And so places where the black people run it, did
[42:13] Speaker 2: the black people run it?
[42:15] Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know.
[42:17] Speaker 2: You know how some people try to change history. That's
[42:19] Speaker 2: what made me where anyway continues it.
[42:21] Speaker 1: But yeah, I was like something like that to go
[42:25] Speaker 1: there and be able to just like talk to a slave,
[42:28] Speaker 1: like if you did go with a ghost hunter, like
[42:30] Speaker 1: to if I was going to talk to a ghost like,
[42:32] Speaker 1: I would want to talk to them would you want
[42:34] Speaker 1: to ask them just like I just would want to
[42:38] Speaker 1: ask a lot of questions, Like I'm not trying to
[42:41] Speaker 1: be funny, because I'm really not trying to be funny,
[42:42] Speaker 1: but I would want to ask them reular queen. We
[42:44] Speaker 1: don't have to dive deep real quick, like I just
[42:46] Speaker 1: want to know, like what did the food taste? Like literally,
[42:49] Speaker 1: like how did you guys still make good? Like I
[42:52] Speaker 1: feel like the food was busting with little with They
[42:55] Speaker 1: probably made really good biscuits.
[42:56] Speaker 2: I mean if they got hisads on stakes over there.
[42:58] Speaker 2: I don't know about that.
[43:00] Speaker 1: They had to eat something it wasn't good.
[43:04] Speaker 2: Some people were eating like little mush You ever had chitlings?
[43:09] Speaker 2: I mean some people love them. I've never had them either,
[43:12] Speaker 2: but I mean that's what people do. So I don't know.
[43:14] Speaker 2: I don't know.
[43:14] Speaker 1: They had to have something that was tasty, just something
[43:16] Speaker 1: because black people are creative. We still creative.
[43:20] Speaker 2: I mean I guess it depends on where you were
[43:22] Speaker 2: bust their hearts.
[43:24] Speaker 1: Like like like I would like to talk to them
[43:26] Speaker 1: about like we all dive deep later, like what if
[43:30] Speaker 1: they were like they had something tumultuous.
[43:33] Speaker 2: My husband got sold leave me alone? What would you do.
[43:37] Speaker 1: I would listen.
[43:37] Speaker 2: I would just be like, you'll be a sounding board.
[43:40] Speaker 1: I would just be I would just want to hear,
[43:42] Speaker 1: like what and what do you can y'all see us now?
[43:44] Speaker 1: And like what we got going on? Like what do
[43:45] Speaker 1: y'all be thinking? I would have so many questions.
[43:49] Speaker 2: They're lazy, that's what probly you think. So you think
[43:53] Speaker 2: about how little we have to do, really and truly,
[43:56] Speaker 2: you know, I might think that if all my life
[43:59] Speaker 2: was toiling soil and.
[44:03] Speaker 1: That's the only ghost.
[44:04] Speaker 2: I was definitely born at the right time, because absolutely not.
[44:07] Speaker 2: I just I'm scared to go on ghost chores. I
[44:12] Speaker 2: used to be really into it and interested, but I
[44:14] Speaker 2: think as I got older and I'm like, wait a minute,
[44:18] Speaker 2: I got too scared.
[44:20] Speaker 1: I didn't want to know. Oklahoma and they have one
[44:22] Speaker 1: of these. Did you go? It was an old museum house.
[44:25] Speaker 1: I think it's called the homestead House or something like that.
[44:27] Speaker 1: Some you know how they have those old houses. They
[44:29] Speaker 1: have some here in Georgia too, And my sister was like,
[44:32] Speaker 1: go to it and they it's like a ghost tour.
[44:34] Speaker 1: They have the stuff and like sometimes you'll see the lady,
[44:37] Speaker 1: the wife of the house and the baby because the
[44:39] Speaker 1: baby died, a little toddler died, and I didn't see nothing,
[44:41] Speaker 1: and Bible scared. I didn't go to the bathroom at all,
[44:43] Speaker 1: and I was I was like, no, I don't want
[44:47] Speaker 1: to see nothing, walk past nothing. But they were like,
[44:49] Speaker 1: sometimes she'll just you'll just see a lady and people
[44:51] Speaker 1: have thought that she's a part of the group. But
[44:53] Speaker 1: then you're like, why has she dressed like that? Is
[44:54] Speaker 1: this part of the is there a skit? And then
[44:56] Speaker 1: they're like, oh no, that was miss Sueanne.
[45:01] Speaker 2: Yeah.
[45:02] Speaker 1: And then they were like, sometimes they made the stables
[45:05] Speaker 1: the office and that's where they kept the black people stay,
[45:07] Speaker 1: and they're like, sometimes you hear people walking upstairs, but
[45:09] Speaker 1: there is no upstairs. It's it's the black people that
[45:12] Speaker 1: lived in. There ain't no way I'm coming to work
[45:14] Speaker 1: doing this.
[45:16] Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't want no parts, so none of that, please, no,
[45:19] Speaker 2: thank you. Oh my gosh. I can imagine or imagine
[45:23] Speaker 2: if you were just working somewhere there wasn't geared towards
[45:25] Speaker 2: hauntings and like spooky stuff and stuff is happening like that,
[45:28] Speaker 2: and your coworkers thought you were all crazy. You might
[45:32] Speaker 2: end up in a crazy house. I guess.
[45:34] Speaker 1: I mean, I look at some of the crazy people
[45:35] Speaker 1: that be walking on the street, and I'm like, what
[45:36] Speaker 1: if what they see really is real and we just
[45:40] Speaker 1: don't see and we just don't see it. They really
[45:42] Speaker 1: be talking and going off at times.
[45:46] Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm glad that I just don't have no experiences
[45:49] Speaker 2: that for my own. Could you imagine if if you
[45:52] Speaker 2: thought that something happened and you are like Kira, what
[45:55] Speaker 2: did she say?
[45:55] Speaker 1: Who is that?
[45:56] Speaker 2: And I'm like, girl, ain't nobody in here? I would
[45:59] Speaker 2: be so scared, like I have really lost my marbles
[46:01] Speaker 2: and how did that happen? And what's going to be
[46:04] Speaker 2: my future? And is everybody playing a joke on me?
[46:06] Speaker 2: I don't think I would. I don't know I would
[46:10] Speaker 2: be scared. I wonder how many times somebody saw a
[46:12] Speaker 2: ghost way back when before they knew more about different
[46:17] Speaker 2: mental diseases. Did they see a ghost maybe and everybody
[46:21] Speaker 2: thought they were crazy?
[46:23] Speaker 1: Yeah, even now people would think you were crazy. That's
[46:27] Speaker 1: the initial Like nobody's gonna be like, ooh, what is
[46:29] Speaker 1: she look like?
[46:29] Speaker 2: They're gonna be like yeah, but you know, like it
[46:31] Speaker 2: wasn't a go you saw something. You see things? You
[46:33] Speaker 2: have another issue versus what if you did. I don't
[46:36] Speaker 2: know the things that make you go home, that's the
[46:38] Speaker 2: things I'd be diving deep on the internet about late
[46:40] Speaker 2: at night when I can't sleep, ghosts, well, just random things.
[46:44] Speaker 2: What what was this weird thing like back then? And
[46:47] Speaker 2: I just searched, like I remember reading something about how
[46:52] Speaker 2: they the things that they would do to women in
[46:55] Speaker 2: mental institutions, Like what's something I think, like women who
[47:01] Speaker 2: are gay and just thinking that something is mentally wrong
[47:04] Speaker 2: with them and they're doing lobotomies and stuff like that,
[47:07] Speaker 2: or prescribing vibrators and shock treatments and like crazy things
[47:12] Speaker 2: over little things. Those are the things that I fall
[47:15] Speaker 2: into a deep dive on the internet with because it's
[47:17] Speaker 2: like the way that people look at different mental conditions
[47:22] Speaker 2: has changed so much even in recent years, because that
[47:24] Speaker 2: stuff was still like within the past hundred Oh it's crazy.
[47:29] Speaker 1: I can't remember which president was that he gave his
[47:31] Speaker 1: daughter a lobotomy because she didn't want to do you
[47:34] Speaker 1: know this, I'm trying to think of what it's one
[47:37] Speaker 1: of the presidents and he gave the daughter of lobotomy
[47:40] Speaker 1: because she didn't want to. This is right, like a minion,
[47:45] Speaker 1: but the people say that it's one of those real
[47:47] Speaker 1: ones where it's like she wanted to do something that
[47:49] Speaker 1: he didn't want her to do, Like he wanted her
[47:51] Speaker 1: to follow the whatever something which president gave his daughter
[47:55] Speaker 1: a lobotomy daughter, Well.
[47:58] Speaker 2: It google was listening to us Rosemary Kennedy Kennedy. It
[48:04] Speaker 2: was a Kennedy, the eldest daughter of Joseph Patrick and
[48:07] Speaker 2: Rose Elizabeth Fitzgerald Kennedy.
[48:11] Speaker 1: Not President Kennedy, but one of the Kennedy's. It is
[48:13] Speaker 1: their truck. I care she did. She was not listening
[48:15] Speaker 1: to something, and they're like, we're gonna take a piece
[48:16] Speaker 1: of your brain, bitch.
[48:18] Speaker 2: That is crazy.
[48:19] Speaker 1: Do you imagine your dad doing that? No, you're like
[48:22] Speaker 1: and he's like, you're you're marrying Walton Barry and you're like,
[48:25] Speaker 1: I don't want to marry Walton, daddy, And then you
[48:27] Speaker 1: just wake up lobottom eyes.
[48:30] Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. And she had disastrous results. Oh dear, Yeah,
[48:35] Speaker 2: in nineteen forty one, not even see not even one
[48:38] Speaker 2: hundred years ago.
[48:38] Speaker 1: You know the things people could just do back then
[48:41] Speaker 1: and you just got away with it, especially to women,
[48:44] Speaker 1: especially women and black people. I've been looking at old
[48:47] Speaker 1: people like, you don't even we will never know if
[48:49] Speaker 1: you did anything, because they wasn't There wasn't no DNA,
[48:52] Speaker 1: it wasn't no technology. You probably you don't know if
[48:55] Speaker 1: old people have murdered people, especially all white people. You
[48:58] Speaker 1: just threw a few black byes.
[49:01] Speaker 2: Yes, I read a lot of historical fiction books. I
[49:06] Speaker 2: like books in different eras and time period because I
[49:09] Speaker 2: find that I learned a lot about it, about different things.
[49:12] Speaker 2: But they do be murdered, and those books, I mean, it's.
[49:14] Speaker 1: Not real, but I'm never and you weren't gonna get caught.
[49:17] Speaker 2: It's so easy.
[49:18] Speaker 1: I know.
[49:19] Speaker 2: When things started changing with DNA being brought into like
[49:23] Speaker 2: the forensics of everything, I wonder how many people were
[49:26] Speaker 2: just shaking in their boots every day. I watched the
[49:28] Speaker 2: story the other day, and this man had killed his mistress,
[49:31] Speaker 2: and when he did it, it was so long ago,
[49:35] Speaker 2: and so then he was still alive. They arrested that
[49:38] Speaker 2: man forty three years later for the murder, and he
[49:43] Speaker 2: is old at this point. But she was his mistress.
[49:45] Speaker 2: She had just got off work being a nurse, and
[49:47] Speaker 2: he killed her ass But there was no DNA evidence
[49:50] Speaker 2: when the crime was committed. But they got him and
[49:53] Speaker 2: he died in there, and rightfully.
[49:55] Speaker 1: So, because what the fuck that's crazy? People is out
[50:00] Speaker 1: here crazy?
[50:02] Speaker 2: We didn't even plan to talk about crazy people and
[50:04] Speaker 2: Haunta ghost stories, but that's just what happened. We're gonna
[50:07] Speaker 2: move on to Indecisive Diane, and when we come back,
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[55:31] Speaker 2: Okay, and we are back from Indecisive Diana's time for
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[55:36] Speaker 2: email us advice at costailspod dot com.
[55:39] Speaker 1: Okay. This advice email is titled dealing with slut Shaming
[55:44] Speaker 1: from my Man. Hello ladies, Hey, I have been with
[55:49] Speaker 1: my man for eight years and we have a great relationship.
[55:53] Speaker 1: Where compatible is a lot. We are compatible is a
[55:58] Speaker 1: lot of what oh in a lot of ways like
[56:01] Speaker 1: him allowing me to fully embrace my inner NERD is
[56:04] Speaker 1: always super considerate and gives me whatever I need. The
[56:08] Speaker 1: only issue we have is he likes to insinuate that
[56:11] Speaker 1: I have a promiscuous past that he can't measure up to.
[56:15] Speaker 1: I've dealt with this. I've had less than ten partners,
[56:19] Speaker 1: but he's only had three, including me. He can't comprehend
[56:22] Speaker 1: how I could have casual sex and low key slutshames
[56:25] Speaker 1: me about my past. I've never been in this situation
[56:28] Speaker 1: because most of my past partners have more sexual partners
[56:31] Speaker 1: than me. I've also gone over a year without sex
[56:34] Speaker 1: in the past because I'm the type that I have
[56:35] Speaker 1: to get to know you before thinking about sex, So
[56:38] Speaker 1: when I was single, I was mostly abstinate. I feel
[56:41] Speaker 1: like we're in our thirties. Why is this even a conversation?
[56:44] Speaker 1: But it comes up from time to time. He also
[56:46] Speaker 1: periodically asks if I'm cheating on him or if I
[56:50] Speaker 1: have while we've been together. I'm trying not to take
[56:53] Speaker 1: offense because I want to ease his insecurities. However, it's
[56:57] Speaker 1: hurtful to be accused of having sex with other people.
[57:00] Speaker 1: I should also mention that when we first got together,
[57:02] Speaker 1: he couldn't even have sex with me because he kept
[57:04] Speaker 1: thinking about my past. We were having sex about one
[57:07] Speaker 1: time a month, but when he wanted more sex, I
[57:10] Speaker 1: took it up. I took it upon myself to initiate
[57:12] Speaker 1: more to appease him. It was out of my comfort zone,
[57:15] Speaker 1: but I loved him, so I did what I felt
[57:17] Speaker 1: was needed. My question is have y'all dealt with this
[57:20] Speaker 1: from a partner and how did you handle it?
[57:23] Speaker 2: Girl?
[57:26] Speaker 1: This is well, I don't want no son, because.
[57:29] Speaker 2: Sir, you're mad because you didn't get laid more than
[57:32] Speaker 2: then with more than three people, and so now you're
[57:35] Speaker 2: shaming her. This would piss me off.
[57:37] Speaker 1: But the deeper issue is, Okay, you have an insecurity
[57:40] Speaker 1: and everybody has probably fallen victim to this before because
[57:43] Speaker 1: we all have insecurities. But you're supposed to want to
[57:46] Speaker 1: get better about the insecurity. Whatever the insecurity is. I
[57:49] Speaker 1: get if somebody is like, dang, I ain't have sex
[57:52] Speaker 1: sex to that many people, but you should have a
[57:54] Speaker 1: conversation around your insecurity, like what like it' that's annoying
[58:00] Speaker 1: and it's I have dealt with this before?
[58:01] Speaker 2: Really, yes, like the slut shaming, like I don't think
[58:10] Speaker 2: I've ever been with somebody who's been with less people
[58:14] Speaker 2: than me. I'll start there, somebody feeling insecure because I'm
[58:19] Speaker 2: not as virginal as maybe they would like me to be. Yes,
[58:23] Speaker 2: that doesn't go well because it's only so many times
[58:25] Speaker 2: I'm gonna take little slick comments and then i'm him
[58:28] Speaker 2: below the belt. That is not good advice, So I
[58:30] Speaker 2: can't help.
[58:30] Speaker 1: That's not good advice, but that is human because now
[58:32] Speaker 1: I got to give you a little taste of Like
[58:34] Speaker 1: a little taste.
[58:35] Speaker 2: Is why are we not making each other feel good?
[58:36] Speaker 2: And it's not even like you're not trying to have
[58:38] Speaker 2: sex with him? You're initiating sex and doing all of
[58:40] Speaker 2: this stuff. I don't You didn't say it, so I
[58:43] Speaker 2: don't imagine that you're saying anything to make him feel insecure.
[58:46] Speaker 2: You said your relationship is great. It doesn't sound like
[58:48] Speaker 2: he's not pleasing you, So like, sir, do you even
[58:52] Speaker 2: want to fuck me? What's really going on?
[58:54] Speaker 1: Right? And this is why people be lying because it's
[58:56] Speaker 1: like you have a vulnerable moment, you tell the real
[58:58] Speaker 1: truth and now you're holding it over my head and
[58:59] Speaker 1: that doesn't fit that part sucks. Yeah, And but I
[59:03] Speaker 1: want to say this because you said like you're kind
[59:04] Speaker 1: of trying to do things to soothe his insecurity. Friend,
[59:07] Speaker 1: I've done it before too. It doesn't lead to a
[59:10] Speaker 1: good place because what's gonna happen is like y'all already
[59:12] Speaker 1: been together for eight years. Let's say, y'all, God, damn,
[59:14] Speaker 1: that is long. That is long. That's long. But so
[59:19] Speaker 1: I was gonna say that's part Yeah, eight years, so
[59:22] Speaker 1: that's a long time to be doing that already. But
[59:25] Speaker 1: if let's say y'all stay together eight more years, or
[59:26] Speaker 1: y'all get married, y'all have kids, Like you're gonna keep
[59:30] Speaker 1: trying to soothe his insecurity. It's not gonna get fixed,
[59:32] Speaker 1: and he's just gonna keep getting more insecure and more
[59:35] Speaker 1: insecure because it's eight years and more insecure. Now you
[59:39] Speaker 1: have a baby and you haven't his son. You got
[59:40] Speaker 1: a little insecure baby.
[59:43] Speaker 2: He's in his DNA genetics is a real thing.
[59:46] Speaker 1: Yeah, in his DNA, Like don't nobody want just like
[59:52] Speaker 1: you got to either have the conversation with him like hey,
[59:54] Speaker 1: this is and men get so mad and.
[59:57] Speaker 2: Yeah and unsettled, so you to flip it on him
[1:00:01] Speaker 2: and this is an I think this is an okay
[1:00:03] Speaker 2: time to flip something, because you know how we try
[1:00:06] Speaker 2: to be responsible adults and not flip situations, but this
[1:00:08] Speaker 2: one needs to be flipped. So you're making me feel bad.
[1:00:11] Speaker 2: I told you the truth. I wanted to be open
[1:00:13] Speaker 2: and honest with you. We have been in this eight years.
[1:00:15] Speaker 1: Something happened to you? Like I would ask him, does
[1:00:18] Speaker 1: something happen to you?
[1:00:18] Speaker 2: Because why are you questioning me? I'm not dealing with.
[1:00:23] Speaker 1: This and you might actually be doing something.
[1:00:26] Speaker 2: Yeah, are you trying to play mynd tricks with me?
[1:00:28] Speaker 2: Jedi mind tricks?
[1:00:30] Speaker 1: Do you want to get? Do you want to seek help? Like?
[1:00:32] Speaker 1: What do you want to do? Because I'm not going
[1:00:33] Speaker 1: to keep doing this.
[1:00:34] Speaker 2: It's nothing I can do.
[1:00:35] Speaker 1: Right. We got to figure out some work. You got
[1:00:37] Speaker 1: to figure out some work and then apply it to
[1:00:38] Speaker 1: this relationship because this is unattractive.
[1:00:41] Speaker 2: Mm hm, drying my pussy up? Well, good luck or
[1:00:46] Speaker 2: I'm sorry you're going through that. That is a long time.
[1:00:48] Speaker 2: You got some patience on you.
[1:00:50] Speaker 1: There ain't nothing worse than somebody accusing you of doing
[1:00:53] Speaker 1: something that you're really not doing and then you're just like,
[1:00:54] Speaker 1: maybe I should go do it that's how.
[1:00:56] Speaker 2: I be feeling. And then sometimes and sometimes at least
[1:01:03] Speaker 2: at least I'm gonna be dealing with the allegations that
[1:01:06] Speaker 2: you keep. Actually I'm not gonna beat them.
[1:01:08] Speaker 1: Well, I want to have a little fun ship. Yeah.
[1:01:12] Speaker 1: And then then sometimes they're right and you're like, you.
[1:01:14] Speaker 2: Got a camera, I mean, okay, around you look at
[1:01:19] Speaker 2: my fat What is in here? Am I hearing something? Shade?
[1:01:22] Speaker 1: How did you?
[1:01:22] Speaker 4: How did you know?
[1:01:23] Speaker 1: Every time line?
[1:01:24] Speaker 2: No?
[1:01:25] Speaker 1: But for elis, uh, don't let that grown man put
[1:01:28] Speaker 1: his insecurity off on you. And I hate to generalize,
[1:01:31] Speaker 1: but men be doing it. And when you call a
[1:01:34] Speaker 1: man insecure, it's like they act like it is the
[1:01:37] Speaker 1: worst thing you could do. But it's true, bro, Like
[1:01:40] Speaker 1: they act.
[1:01:40] Speaker 2: Like you called him sassy. But I can and we
[1:01:43] Speaker 2: can go there next if you really want to do it.
[1:01:45] Speaker 2: But I'll be trying not to do that.
[1:01:47] Speaker 1: Yeah, and make sure y'all read that book fight right.
[1:01:50] Speaker 1: Read the book, read it together, listen to it right. Yeah.
[1:01:54] Speaker 1: I hope you figure it out, girl, because that's annoying.
[1:01:56] Speaker 1: That really, that type of shit is really annoying. It's
[1:01:59] Speaker 1: annoying when women do it. It's annoying when men do it.
[1:02:01] Speaker 1: It's fucking annoying.
[1:02:02] Speaker 2: Stop if you find yourself doing that. Anyone listening to
[1:02:06] Speaker 2: this watching this, stop cut.
[1:02:07] Speaker 1: It out, cut it out, or go back outside and
[1:02:10] Speaker 1: be single.
[1:02:10] Speaker 2: Mm hmm and leave whoever you would alone, because that could.
[1:02:14] Speaker 1: Also maybe be what's going on. Maybe you think you
[1:02:16] Speaker 1: want to be in a relationship and you really don't,
[1:02:18] Speaker 1: so now you're trying to have all these you're.
[1:02:20] Speaker 2: Because some people don't want to break up with somebody
[1:02:23] Speaker 2: and they try to pick at you and pick at
[1:02:25] Speaker 2: you so that you in things. I hope you're not
[1:02:29] Speaker 2: doing that, because again eight years turn on resentment. All right,
[1:02:36] Speaker 2: we're gonna move on to the cocktails.
[1:02:39] Speaker 4: Uh uh huh uh huh, but it ain't got knock.
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[1:02:54] Speaker 2: in the nobody? Once upon a time, not long ago,
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[1:03:31] Speaker 1: I don't know why that happened, and I'm every wondering
[1:03:33] Speaker 1: when she gets so deep into characters like that, when
[1:03:35] Speaker 1: she goes home and she like, get away from me. Yeah,
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[1:03:43] Speaker 2: I'm taking the plane, me and my babies. We're gonna
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[1:03:53] Speaker 1: them r key allegations on you with you and D
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[1:03:56] Speaker 1: call me. I'm gonna tell them, all right.
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[1:04:08] Speaker 2: to our last person, your man. Keep backing up. Play
[1:04:13] Speaker 2: this part high, ladies. It's kind of long, but I
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[1:04:18] Speaker 2: get right into it. The backstory. My ex and nine
[1:04:21] Speaker 2: broke up earlier this year, but I honestly thought we
[1:04:23] Speaker 2: would get back together, so I wasn't dating. Plus, I've
[1:04:26] Speaker 2: had my side nigga longer than I've had my boyfriend,
[1:04:28] Speaker 2: so I wasn't horny or thirsty for any male attention.
[1:04:31] Speaker 2: These are the only two people I've been with for
[1:04:33] Speaker 2: like six to seven years. Okay, One night I thought
[1:04:37] Speaker 2: I was meeting my friend at a party, which was
[1:04:39] Speaker 2: actually a small kickback of close friends. She was already
[1:04:42] Speaker 2: the plus one, so I was basically crashing. Everyone was
[1:04:46] Speaker 2: really nice, and I ended up staying in touch with
[1:04:48] Speaker 2: the guy I met there. Fast forward two months later,
[1:04:50] Speaker 2: Me and the guy have been talking consistently. We found
[1:04:53] Speaker 2: out we have mutual friends. He has a great job,
[1:04:55] Speaker 2: tall chocolate, and doesn't really let more than a day
[1:04:58] Speaker 2: go by without us talking. Okay, we've hung out a
[1:05:01] Speaker 2: few times, but things are still very service level, friend
[1:05:04] Speaker 2: zone type of behavior. She put cocktail underline. All right, well,
[1:05:09] Speaker 2: I guess that's the backstory.
[1:05:13] Speaker 1: She's a teacher and that's why she did it.
[1:05:14] Speaker 2: Like maybe, but I appreciate it, and you really broke
[1:05:17] Speaker 2: this down. Thanks This one weekend, we both had a
[1:05:20] Speaker 2: pretty busy day, so we didn't make any plans to
[1:05:23] Speaker 2: see each other, but he was checking in more than usual.
[1:05:26] Speaker 2: Nothing crazy. But my friends noticed and said I was
[1:05:28] Speaker 2: making myself too accessible to him. I don't always have
[1:05:31] Speaker 2: to be available every time he calls, and basically stopped
[1:05:34] Speaker 2: answering the phone. I understand that strugg because when they
[1:05:38] Speaker 2: be fine, it's just hard not to be like a
[1:05:39] Speaker 2: little thirsty. You know, it's hard. I get you, sis. Okay,
[1:05:42] Speaker 2: So four hours, two text messages, and two miscalls later,
[1:05:46] Speaker 2: I finally called back. After I made it home. Y'all,
[1:05:49] Speaker 2: this man went off on me. Lol, Oh you liked it.
[1:05:51] Speaker 2: He turned up a little bit and it was like, oh,
[1:05:53] Speaker 2: he's strong. I had never heard him excited, let alone upset.
[1:05:59] Speaker 2: I've about ten minutes of questions and telling me, I
[1:06:02] Speaker 2: know you looked at your phone these past three hours.
[1:06:04] Speaker 2: He ends the conversation saying I'm about to come get you.
[1:06:09] Speaker 2: It's damn near two in the morning and we've been
[1:06:12] Speaker 2: running around all day. So I declined because I'm about
[1:06:14] Speaker 2: to go to sleep. His response is I'm about to
[1:06:17] Speaker 2: go to sleep too. I'm on my way. Ooh assertive.
[1:06:21] Speaker 2: Let me sniffle because I feel like, oh, I would
[1:06:25] Speaker 2: do this. Okay, We get back to his house I
[1:06:27] Speaker 2: don't live alone, and get right in the bed cuddling.
[1:06:30] Speaker 2: I'm the little spoon with his face buried in my
[1:06:32] Speaker 2: neck and his big hands palm in one of my cities.
[1:06:35] Speaker 2: We do a quick pack good night kiss, our first
[1:06:38] Speaker 2: ever kiss, and lay down. He asked for another kiss,
[1:06:41] Speaker 2: which turned into a full makeout session, then asked if
[1:06:44] Speaker 2: he could take my panties off oo while I'm thinking
[1:06:48] Speaker 2: if I should. While I'm thinking if I should, I
[1:06:51] Speaker 2: guess he didn't hear no, so they were off. This
[1:06:54] Speaker 2: man lifts a third This man, well, she didn't say it.
[1:06:59] Speaker 2: She was just thinking. So he was like, I ain't here, no,
[1:07:02] Speaker 2: So I guess it's a yes. This man lifted the
[1:07:05] Speaker 2: whole bottom half of my body off the bed and
[1:07:08] Speaker 2: stuck his face right in between my legs. When I
[1:07:11] Speaker 2: tell you he was down there doing everything like whatever
[1:07:15] Speaker 2: everything means to you, he did all that and some
[1:07:18] Speaker 2: new shit. I'm in heaven, but I'm also confused because
[1:07:21] Speaker 2: this man hasn't been giving me church huts for the
[1:07:23] Speaker 2: past two months. Because I'm an overthinker, I decided he
[1:07:26] Speaker 2: must have trash dick, because why would he even know
[1:07:29] Speaker 2: how to eat pussies? Is good if he also has
[1:07:32] Speaker 2: good dick. About twenty minutes later, he lays me back
[1:07:35] Speaker 2: down on the bed, staring at me with a juicy beard,
[1:07:37] Speaker 2: and pulls out the biggest dick I've ever seen it. Now,
[1:07:40] Speaker 2: see that would have scared me. Woo, all right, I'm
[1:07:44] Speaker 2: looking at it. It's looking back at me. I look
[1:07:46] Speaker 2: at him, and he asked if I want to put
[1:07:48] Speaker 2: if I want him to put on a condom. I
[1:07:50] Speaker 2: thought he was asking if I wanted to have sex,
[1:07:52] Speaker 2: but he clearly was asking if I wanted to have
[1:07:54] Speaker 2: protected sex. When I didn't answer immediately, probably still catching
[1:07:58] Speaker 2: my breath, he slid that monster inside of me. I
[1:08:01] Speaker 2: came so hard I screamed. I told him to stop
[1:08:04] Speaker 2: and grab a condom, which he did and proceeded to
[1:08:07] Speaker 2: wear me the fuck out. We both fitish, screaming, and
[1:08:10] Speaker 2: I leaned over. Oh, and I learned that I have
[1:08:13] Speaker 2: a praise kick. He rolled over, snoring while I laid
[1:08:17] Speaker 2: there for two hours holding my stomach. Because I tried
[1:08:19] Speaker 2: to take some dick. I knew, damn well I couldn't handle.
[1:08:22] Speaker 2: I don't want to make up with my ex anymore.
[1:08:25] Speaker 2: Love y'all.
[1:08:25] Speaker 1: Bye.
[1:08:26] Speaker 2: That was a good cocktail.
[1:08:27] Speaker 1: That was a good cocktail. That was a good I
[1:08:30] Speaker 1: was imagining you did a good job right now. That
[1:08:33] Speaker 1: was good good job.
[1:08:37] Speaker 2: And I'm glad you don't want to go back to
[1:08:38] Speaker 2: your ex. And maybe he was fucking somebody else and
[1:08:41] Speaker 2: he was just trying to be you know, mature about it,
[1:08:43] Speaker 2: and like, I'm not gonna be double dipping right now
[1:08:45] Speaker 2: because he probably doesn't like to use condoms often, so
[1:08:47] Speaker 2: he wants to spread it out. And that's why you
[1:08:49] Speaker 2: got the church hugs and you got the monster dick.
[1:08:50] Speaker 1: Look at that.
[1:08:51] Speaker 2: And I'm glad that y'all had protected sex, even though
[1:08:54] Speaker 2: it didn't start off that way. So remember to still
[1:08:56] Speaker 2: get tested anyway, you guys. I want to remind everybody, please,
[1:09:00] Speaker 2: can you sign up for my trip to Cis. We're
[1:09:02] Speaker 2: going March nineteenth or the twenty third. There's a few
[1:09:04] Speaker 2: spots left at the time of this recording. I'm really
[1:09:07] Speaker 2: excited about it and I cannot wait to go. I'm
[1:09:09] Speaker 2: on my toes in the sand, so dam bad. Okay,
[1:09:11] Speaker 2: I had a vacation. In a minute.
[1:09:13] Speaker 1: I feel you my vacation kind of was Iceland, but
[1:09:16] Speaker 1: it was cold, so toes were in the sand, they
[1:09:17] Speaker 1: would have been in the snow, and then you probably
[1:09:19] Speaker 1: have frost bite. So I can't wait for my toes
[1:09:22] Speaker 1: to be in the sand in Costa Rica for New
[1:09:24] Speaker 1: Year's Eve. So if you guys want to join us,
[1:09:26] Speaker 1: go to Paradise and vibe dot com and reserve your spot.
[1:09:28] Speaker 1: Now there really aren't that many tickets left. And again
[1:09:31] Speaker 1: Elizabeth Gilbert is joining us on this trip, so see
[1:09:34] Speaker 1: you bear.
[1:09:35] Speaker 2: All right, and make sure you guys are following us
[1:09:36] Speaker 2: on Instagram together We're Caughtails podcast. I'm Kiki said so.
[1:09:40] Speaker 1: And I'm at coffee Beande And.
[1:09:42] Speaker 2: Until next week, you guys, goodbye.
[1:09:44] Speaker 4: Goodbye bye bye bye bye, good.
[1:09:52] Speaker 1: Bye bye bye.
[1:09:56] Speaker 4: Bye bye bye.
[1:10:00] Speaker 2: Tentle came and tenty

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