# Fashionably Late: Book Club, Boundaries & Big Virgo Energy

An episode of [Cocktales with Kiki](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1149484402), 15 Sep 2025, 1 h 27 min.

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We’re back—fashionably late thanks to last week’s tech gremlins—but the Virgo Vixen energy is intact. Kiki and Medinah kick things off with the Virgo Vixen cocktail, then catch up on names vs. nicknames, a quick shout to Lula’s Legacy of Love (Breast Cancer walk 10/25 in Tampa), and Kiki’s Drinks & Reads book club featuring author Kimberly Brown. Kiki recaps Podcast Movement (anxiety to applause), a heavenly stop at Southern Classic Daiquiri Factory, and why her birthday plan is all about volunteering with Meals on Wheels (53 friends confirmed!). We get into Hedonism plans for December, TikTok family moments, sweet-16 prep, clubbing at Revel, and a real talk segment on dating while on a “soft pop-out”—fly-outs with boundaries, bundles discourse, and why “a lot” isn’t an insult. Medinah opens up about Paradise & Vibe Sedona: the celebrity no-show, the lessons learned, and how an intimate Lion Babe performance turned into a tiny-desk-style moment. Send us: Advice letters → advice@cocktalespod.com | Cocktales → cocktales@cocktalespod.com Visit soakingwet.com and use code COCKTALES for 10% off 💉 LifeRx.md - Use code COCKTALES for $50 off LifeRX.MD - Start your health journey today with LifeRX and use code COCKTALES at checkout for $50 off. LIFERX Use code COCKTALES- CLICK HERE https://liferx.md/?u1=188&_ef_transaction_id&oid=1&affid=188 Links Mentioned: • 💻 Join the Drinks & Reads Book Club on Patreon www.patreon.com/kikisaidso • Join Kiki in Jamaica at Hedo with Worst Behvior Tour, Let them Know Kiki Sent You! www.worstbehaviortour.com • 📺 Kiki's new show: xoMAN Podcast is out now! Check it out here: https://lnk.to/6JdRUZ • Join Medinah in Thailand for “The Lover Girl Layover” https://trovatrip.com/trip/asia/thailand/thailand-with-medinah-ali-aug-2026 • To Join The Cancer Walk or Make a donation: Cancer Walk Info Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cocktales-with-kiki--2818687/support. CONNECT WITH US Follow the host and join the conversation after the episode: Kiki Said So (Kiara Walker) Instagram: @kikisaidso TikTok: @kikisaidso Cocktales With Kiki Instagram:@cocktalespodcast TikTok: @cocktalespodcast Want to be a guest on Cocktales? We are always looking for interesting guests, experts, and storytellers to join the show. If you would like to be considered, please fill out our guest submission form here: Guest Interest Form

## Transcript

[0:02] Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Check one two, check one two.
[0:04] Speaker 2: Is this Mike On?
[0:05] Speaker 1: Is this Mike On?
[0:06] Speaker 2: Hey?
[0:06] Speaker 1: Listen man, It's the one and only Trunks that the.
[0:08] Speaker 2: DJ sis and you're listening to cocktails dirty Discussions with
[0:12] Speaker 2: Kikia Medina Monroe. Here.
[0:19] Speaker 3: Today's cocktail is called the Virgo Vixen. And if called
[0:25] Speaker 3: that because Virgos are equal parts sweet, spicy, and ready
[0:28] Speaker 3: to clut you off if you mess with their birthday plans.
[0:31] Speaker 3: So to make a Virgo Vixen, you need two ounces
[0:33] Speaker 3: of Tequila blanco, bold and clean like a virgos vibe.
[0:36] Speaker 1: Oh who made this?
[0:38] Speaker 3: One ounce of fresh lime juice, zero point seventy five
[0:41] Speaker 3: ounces of honey syrup. Honey equals virgo sweet but strong,
[0:45] Speaker 3: a half ounce of apparol that gives a little tart
[0:48] Speaker 3: fury kick, and you're gonna top it off with the
[0:50] Speaker 3: little club soda, and you're gonna garnish it with a limewheel,
[0:53] Speaker 3: an edible glitter rim for that birthday sparkle. So here's
[0:57] Speaker 3: how you'll make a Virgo Vixen. You're gonna shake the tequila,
[1:00] Speaker 3: the lime, the honey, and the operal with ice strain
[1:03] Speaker 3: that into a tall glass over ice and top with soda,
[1:06] Speaker 3: garnished with that glitter rim and lime wheel and enjoys it.
[1:09] Speaker 4: He had two cocktails dirty discussions. You guys, I'm your
[1:13] Speaker 4: host Kiara Walker or Kiki, said so, and.
[1:17] Speaker 3: I am your other hosts Medina Monroe or coffee Bean
[1:20] Speaker 3: Dean or Dean if you really know me. It's been
[1:22] Speaker 3: a lot of people liately just calling me Dean and
[1:23] Speaker 3: I'm like, oh, you didn't know.
[1:25] Speaker 1: I'm back back.
[1:26] Speaker 2: Yeah.
[1:27] Speaker 4: I used to not like when people would call me Kiki.
[1:30] Speaker 4: I've just had to accept it. A mentor I had
[1:33] Speaker 4: a long time ago. He was like, they're gonna fuck
[1:35] Speaker 4: up your name Kiera for a long time. Kiki is easier,
[1:38] Speaker 4: and so I went with that, but fuck that shit.
[1:41] Speaker 4: My mama named me Kiara, So I'm Kiara. But you
[1:43] Speaker 4: can call me Kiki if you've been here, if you're new,
[1:45] Speaker 4: I don't know what tel. I guess we'll move on vibes.
[1:49] Speaker 3: Does your family call you Kiki though people don't. I've
[1:53] Speaker 3: heard both.
[1:55] Speaker 1: Yeah, they call me Key, Kiki or Kiera. It just depends.
[2:00] Speaker 4: And sometimes I think about that, like.
[2:02] Speaker 1: Is it a mood thing? Yeah? I don't really know.
[2:05] Speaker 1: It's very all over the place.
[2:07] Speaker 3: Nobody calls me Medina and my family. And it was
[2:09] Speaker 3: funny because when somebody, wait, he's a right, didn't come,
[2:15] Speaker 3: I call my sister and I was crying on the
[2:16] Speaker 3: phone and Mecca was saying she was like Medina, like
[2:20] Speaker 3: when it's serious.
[2:21] Speaker 1: Serious, And Mecca called me the other night. It was
[2:23] Speaker 1: funny because Tink was like Medina, who's that?
[2:26] Speaker 2: Yeah?
[2:27] Speaker 3: It was like Medina, and Mecca said she just kept
[2:29] Speaker 3: saying it like Medina, Like who Why are y'all calling
[2:32] Speaker 3: her that?
[2:32] Speaker 1: Because they called me Dean? Yeah, I thought that was
[2:35] Speaker 1: so cute. That is funny.
[2:37] Speaker 4: Yeah, I've noticed like with little kids, it's cute and
[2:40] Speaker 4: funny because they don't always realize your name, especially if
[2:43] Speaker 4: they call you auntie something and then you get a
[2:46] Speaker 4: real name. I was with Sandra and her daughter Margo,
[2:52] Speaker 4: and I'll tell y'all more about that in a sec.
[2:54] Speaker 1: But I was with them and she was like, do
[2:59] Speaker 1: you you call what do you call key? Key?
[3:03] Speaker 4: And she had to pause Keierra because a lot of
[3:07] Speaker 4: times they say key Rera. I guess it's like, I
[3:10] Speaker 4: don't know, when you learn how to speak, it might
[3:12] Speaker 4: throw you off, but they'll say key Rara, and I've
[3:15] Speaker 4: heard lots of little kids say or they say my
[3:17] Speaker 4: name really slow, so Keky is much easier. I told her,
[3:21] Speaker 4: if you want to, you can call me Auntie Diva
[3:22] Speaker 4: and she's like no. I was like, all right, I
[3:25] Speaker 4: guess I'll reserve that for my blood nieces. But yeah,
[3:28] Speaker 4: Kiki And she's like, why do you call her that,
[3:31] Speaker 4: Kiera because Sandra will call me Kiera or key sometimes
[3:34] Speaker 4: and she's speaking really fast, and she's like it was
[3:37] Speaker 4: confusing her. And I was like, girl, I know your
[3:40] Speaker 4: mom a long time.
[3:41] Speaker 3: Okay, that is so funny. When you see these kids
[3:44] Speaker 3: looking at their moms, You're like, I know her.
[3:46] Speaker 4: Better exactly exactly. Anyways, Well this is Medina Coffee Bean Dean.
[3:53] Speaker 3: Y'all announce once. Yeah, some brief announcements. I want to
[3:56] Speaker 3: make sure that I let you guys know. Girl, my girl,
[3:59] Speaker 3: who started the nonprofit Lulah's Legacy of Love Foundation in
[4:02] Speaker 3: honor of her mother, she is really doing her thing
[4:05] Speaker 3: with it. She got a partner and I am so
[4:07] Speaker 3: excited to I'm just happy for her. She's really trying
[4:11] Speaker 3: to make this like as big as the breast Cancer Walk.
[4:14] Speaker 3: I forget the big name of the hospital that does
[4:17] Speaker 3: Susan G. Coleman, and she's really taking the steps forward
[4:20] Speaker 3: to do that. So she now has partnered with Moffitt
[4:23] Speaker 3: Cancer Center and so they're gonna help out with the
[4:26] Speaker 3: Save the Tatas two point zero Breast Cancer Awareness Walk
[4:29] Speaker 3: October twenty fifth in Tampa. If you aren't able to
[4:32] Speaker 3: make it, you can go to Lula's Legacy of Love
[4:34] Speaker 3: Foundation and you can donate to help African American women.
[4:38] Speaker 3: The mission is to bridge the gap and care for
[4:40] Speaker 3: minority women, especially those diagnosed with aggressive subtypes of breast cancer.
[4:44] Speaker 3: So as we creep up on Breast Cancer Awareness Month,
[4:47] Speaker 3: if you feel it in your heart, if you've been
[4:48] Speaker 3: affected by breast cancer and know someone who has, go
[4:50] Speaker 3: to the walk or donate if you can, it is
[4:53] Speaker 3: always a huge help and if.
[4:56] Speaker 1: You can, I think that'd be great. I'm gonna try
[4:58] Speaker 1: to go do the walk.
[4:58] Speaker 3: I don't know if I can yet, but hopefully also
[5:01] Speaker 3: love a girl's only trip. There's only three tickets left
[5:03] Speaker 3: and minute not a child. I'm so excited, So if
[5:07] Speaker 3: you want to go, go, I'm still deciding on if
[5:10] Speaker 3: I'm going to do a giveaway, and I'm leaning towards Yes,
[5:13] Speaker 3: Oh you're like you like a charitable queen.
[5:16] Speaker 1: I was just thinking, and I was like.
[5:18] Speaker 3: You ever been in a phase of life where you
[5:20] Speaker 3: really needed a trip, like a vacation, and you see
[5:23] Speaker 3: everybody traveling and you just aren't in a space to
[5:25] Speaker 3: do it and you can't. And I want to be
[5:27] Speaker 3: able to gift a trip to somebody. Now, Listen, it's
[5:30] Speaker 3: not all expenses pay. Like I can't get your flight,
[5:33] Speaker 3: but I could get your retreat ticket, which would take
[5:35] Speaker 3: care of the hotel. I can't give you spending money
[5:38] Speaker 3: now by the time it comes if I can, cool,
[5:39] Speaker 3: but like it's just gonna be a ticket to the retreat,
[5:42] Speaker 3: So you do need to have some sort of financing.
[5:45] Speaker 3: I just want to be honest when I posted. When
[5:47] Speaker 3: I post it on how to enter to win, just
[5:50] Speaker 3: make sure you keep that in mind. Don't come out
[5:51] Speaker 3: here broke, Like talent is cheap, but you still need
[5:53] Speaker 3: You need three dollars.
[5:54] Speaker 4: And you're gonna need to eat three dollars a day.
[5:56] Speaker 3: Yeah, it's the few meals included, but it's not all
[5:59] Speaker 3: of them. I'll be coming out here just like I
[6:01] Speaker 3: don't got nothing, because I'm gonna be looking at you like,
[6:03] Speaker 3: I know I brought you out here, but.
[6:04] Speaker 4: Beach or sign up for life or exit beforehand, and
[6:07] Speaker 4: then your appetite will be suppressing my night being hungry.
[6:10] Speaker 1: You can eat some fruit avocado.
[6:13] Speaker 3: People have the sacks of avocados with seasoning in it.
[6:16] Speaker 3: And I am just like girls and it actually is good,
[6:20] Speaker 3: not amful.
[6:20] Speaker 1: I said, see a good healthy fat mm hm, you
[6:25] Speaker 1: got any announcements?
[6:27] Speaker 4: Yes, okay, So I think the last episode I was
[6:31] Speaker 4: telling y'all you might have missed it. I mean, you
[6:33] Speaker 4: still missed it, but we had to reschedule our book
[6:36] Speaker 4: club meeting. It's not until tomorrow, which would be yesterday
[6:39] Speaker 4: for you guys listening or watching. But I'm excited because
[6:42] Speaker 4: Kim Ferlely Brown is coming.
[6:44] Speaker 1: I love that book.
[6:45] Speaker 4: Last time I talked about it, I said a lot
[6:48] Speaker 4: and everybody was like, oh, no spoilers, babe. That was
[6:51] Speaker 4: like chapter three. This book is juicy, is so much
[6:55] Speaker 4: going on, so many things happened. I finished it today literally,
[6:59] Speaker 4: and it which is really good. I love that it
[7:02] Speaker 4: was a romance story, but it had a lot of
[7:05] Speaker 4: other elements to it where it wasn't totally predictable and
[7:09] Speaker 4: like cheesy in a way that some of the books
[7:12] Speaker 4: can be, which is why I'm like averse to those,
[7:15] Speaker 4: but I'm excited about that. I don't know what our
[7:17] Speaker 4: next book will be, but we will decide before y'all
[7:23] Speaker 4: hear the episodes, so I will put it in the
[7:25] Speaker 4: description and you can always go to my patreon Patreon
[7:28] Speaker 4: dot com. Slash Kiki said, so is where the book
[7:30] Speaker 4: club is, and you can see what we're reading for
[7:32] Speaker 4: the month, and I'm going to be sharing more stuff.
[7:35] Speaker 4: Whether you've decided to officially join where you pay money,
[7:38] Speaker 4: or you can just sign up as a free member.
[7:39] Speaker 4: You can see the books there we're reading and just
[7:41] Speaker 4: keep a good reading list. Somebody also asked me about
[7:45] Speaker 4: a book that I mentioned where it was some sort
[7:47] Speaker 4: of mystery thriller and there were lots of twist and turns.
[7:50] Speaker 4: Maybe that's my favorite type. I have no idea. I
[7:52] Speaker 4: don't know if you saw my email back or DM
[7:55] Speaker 4: whatever it was, see if you can tell me more
[7:57] Speaker 4: details or when it was, and I'll go back and
[8:00] Speaker 4: soon it ain't gonna be that soon. By the end
[8:02] Speaker 4: of the year, I'll go back and make all those
[8:04] Speaker 4: post public so that y'all can see what we've been reading. Next,
[8:07] Speaker 4: I want to remind you guys to please check out
[8:09] Speaker 4: XO Man. The episode that came out yesterday, uh for
[8:14] Speaker 4: this week is with Kendrick Samson from did you see him? Well,
[8:18] Speaker 4: you did on Insecure and he was in some other
[8:21] Speaker 4: stuff I don't remember that.
[8:22] Speaker 1: Man was fine.
[8:23] Speaker 4: He from Houston. He got the green eyes.
[8:26] Speaker 1: Fine, now okay. There was like a okay, he's okay,
[8:30] Speaker 1: he's fine.
[8:31] Speaker 4: And I didn't he's from Houston.
[8:34] Speaker 1: I was like, are we cousins?
[8:35] Speaker 4: Because when we got to talking in the episode, he
[8:39] Speaker 4: was saying stuff about his dad and he's got a
[8:42] Speaker 4: whole bunch of anyway, really interesting interview. He had some
[8:45] Speaker 4: interesting perspectives. He is not interested in dating. He said
[8:50] Speaker 4: he can be a mister fix it. He said he
[8:52] Speaker 4: don't mind being a side niggah hurt him. He said
[8:57] Speaker 4: he doesn't have the time, okay, And he has so
[9:01] Speaker 4: many siblings, so many people in his family. He knows
[9:04] Speaker 4: that like he gives so much to them, he don't
[9:07] Speaker 4: really have time to give to somebody else. And if
[9:10] Speaker 4: he's in a relationship, he would like to give and
[9:11] Speaker 4: he just ain't there. One relationship makes sense. Up Set
[9:15] Speaker 4: somewhere around our age. He's in his thirties.
[9:17] Speaker 1: Okay, he's not hyn.
[9:21] Speaker 4: But I really enjoyed that one. It was fun that
[9:25] Speaker 4: one was virtual because he's in La and we recorded
[9:28] Speaker 4: so long ago.
[9:28] Speaker 1: He was getting ready for his birthday. Part of that
[9:30] Speaker 1: shit was in March.
[9:31] Speaker 4: But anyways, it's out now, so I hope that y'all
[9:33] Speaker 4: watch it, engage, lead some comments, let them know why
[9:37] Speaker 4: you're there, drop my name in the comments so that
[9:39] Speaker 4: people know what's up, and continue to.
[9:42] Speaker 1: Share it, tag me and stuff.
[9:44] Speaker 4: And then, oh, last one, not least, I was unpacking
[9:48] Speaker 4: my luggage from my recent Dallas trip for that podcast conference.
[9:54] Speaker 4: And packing planning all the things that you have to wear,
[9:59] Speaker 4: all the things that you used bring with you for
[10:00] Speaker 4: a trip can be really stressful. You know where you
[10:03] Speaker 4: don't have to worry about that at Hedonism with Worse
[10:06] Speaker 4: Behavior Tour, because baby, you don't really need no clothes.
[10:08] Speaker 4: If you don't want to bring no clothes. With the
[10:10] Speaker 4: clothes you're gonna wear in the airport there and back,
[10:12] Speaker 4: and plus a few things like you can literally do
[10:15] Speaker 4: a couple of swimsuits and maybe a cover up or two,
[10:19] Speaker 4: you will be fine. No need to stress because it's
[10:21] Speaker 4: probably gonna come off. It doesn't have to, but if
[10:23] Speaker 4: you wanted to, it can and it will be fine.
[10:25] Speaker 4: I mean, I was out there. My hair was a mess,
[10:27] Speaker 4: it was too short to put an upon a tail.
[10:28] Speaker 3: Two years ago we was both we recorded out there
[10:31] Speaker 3: looking crazy.
[10:32] Speaker 4: Yep, and it is what it is. It's available on
[10:34] Speaker 4: Patreoon anyway. That trip is coming up December thirteenth through
[10:40] Speaker 4: the eighteenth, I think are the days. Don't quote me
[10:42] Speaker 4: on that, check the description, but I hope that you
[10:44] Speaker 4: guys come. A few people DM me asking if you
[10:47] Speaker 4: don't have a roommate, to get a double room or
[10:51] Speaker 4: a triple room if they're still available, how does that
[10:54] Speaker 4: part work. I'm bringing somebody so you can't stay with me,
[10:58] Speaker 4: but they will match you up with somebody, I.
[11:01] Speaker 1: Mean, depending on how you look and how can.
[11:03] Speaker 4: I don't know what kind of time I'm gonna be on,
[11:05] Speaker 4: to be honest, don't put this in a clip GP,
[11:08] Speaker 4: but this is only for people who actually watch the episode.
[11:12] Speaker 4: I don't know what type of time I'm be on
[11:14] Speaker 4: for real, for real. Last time, I was on Demon
[11:16] Speaker 4: time for a little bit, and then I was clocking
[11:17] Speaker 4: in and out this time.
[11:18] Speaker 1: I don't know.
[11:18] Speaker 4: I'm in a much happier, healthier space, so maybe I
[11:22] Speaker 4: will want to just let my hair down. But don't
[11:24] Speaker 4: count on me. Count on the fellow trip goers. This
[11:28] Speaker 4: is a group. It's gonna be like at least two
[11:30] Speaker 4: hundred people. I'm not sure exactly how many, but this
[11:32] Speaker 4: is a very big group. If you are concerned about
[11:34] Speaker 4: the people who will be there, they are mostly black, brown.
[11:38] Speaker 1: Other that there are.
[11:40] Speaker 4: White people there too, so white people. Everybody's welcome, the
[11:43] Speaker 4: man and the women. You can be single, you can
[11:45] Speaker 4: be attached, it doesn't matter. There's so many different people.
[11:48] Speaker 4: But if you don't have somebody to travel with, they
[11:50] Speaker 4: will match you with somebody you fill out your questionnaire
[11:55] Speaker 4: or whatever. When you are reserving the price, when you
[11:57] Speaker 4: click the link in the description box, all the prices
[11:59] Speaker 4: are there. It's not like you have to wait to
[12:01] Speaker 4: get pricing. None of that is going on. You can
[12:03] Speaker 4: just get it and make sure that when you sign
[12:05] Speaker 4: up that you let them know. When they ask how
[12:07] Speaker 4: you heard about the trip, tell them that you heard
[12:09] Speaker 4: about it from me and I hope to see you
[12:12] Speaker 4: guys there. It's going to be a good time. If
[12:14] Speaker 4: you worried about that tummy. If you worried about your
[12:16] Speaker 4: dig being too little, you're asked being too flat, your
[12:18] Speaker 4: titti's being too tiny. That's okay. It's going to be
[12:21] Speaker 4: a lot more of that there, and you'll be at
[12:23] Speaker 4: home and nobody's going to make you feel a way
[12:25] Speaker 4: about it.
[12:26] Speaker 1: Trust me.
[12:26] Speaker 4: I know I was very self conscious before going before
[12:30] Speaker 4: and now I'm just like, I don't even care. I
[12:31] Speaker 4: would like to look my best, but if I don't,
[12:34] Speaker 4: nobody cares. If people are really moving on vibes and
[12:37] Speaker 4: having conversations. So I hope to see you guys there.
[12:39] Speaker 4: I guess that's it.
[12:42] Speaker 3: Oh.
[12:42] Speaker 1: I've been posting on Tiki Top Yeah yeah, and trying
[12:46] Speaker 1: to do it.
[12:47] Speaker 3: And I've been you got to sneeze, but then it
[12:51] Speaker 3: stopped and I was like, just turn.
[12:53] Speaker 1: Would I be editor?
[12:54] Speaker 4: It's something like, what do you can be on on
[12:55] Speaker 4: a lot when I'm talking?
[12:56] Speaker 1: Yes I am.
[12:57] Speaker 4: When I haven't posted on the tiki talk. My sister
[13:01] Speaker 4: been cracking that whip on me. It was funny. Oh
[13:05] Speaker 4: this is what I was gonna say. Sorry, okay, this
[13:09] Speaker 4: I was gonna say about TikTok I think or oh
[13:12] Speaker 4: family time. So I posted something. I guess it was
[13:16] Speaker 4: last night. I don't know, but it was a real
[13:18] Speaker 4: I had done with my brother and the amount of
[13:22] Speaker 4: DMS I got from y'all's hot in the twat ass bitches,
[13:25] Speaker 4: I was a lot. I don't think people realize that.
[13:29] Speaker 4: When I said my little brother, I think they were
[13:31] Speaker 4: thinking like kid or just like a kid, like not
[13:34] Speaker 4: legal grown.
[13:36] Speaker 1: He's very grown. He's twenty something.
[13:38] Speaker 4: I don't know how old he is, but I don't
[13:39] Speaker 4: really like to talk about that part because then it
[13:41] Speaker 4: starts to age me. Y'all be liking to be mathematicians
[13:44] Speaker 4: and shit, math fucking leads. Anyway, he's he's single, don't
[13:50] Speaker 4: ask me to hook you up.
[13:51] Speaker 1: I'm not. That's weird.
[13:54] Speaker 4: Yeah, but he did say his dms are open? Why
[13:57] Speaker 4: they why they messaging you? And I was sliding in mind.
[13:59] Speaker 4: I don't know, So I said, I put the word
[14:01] Speaker 4: out there. That's that's it. That's all.
[14:03] Speaker 1: Oh.
[14:04] Speaker 4: I did put him on the tapp, asked me to
[14:06] Speaker 4: remember the.
[14:07] Speaker 3: Tah you told me that you told us that last week.
[14:09] Speaker 3: Then you said a few people were like, but most
[14:11] Speaker 3: people were like, yeah, he's.
[14:12] Speaker 4: Got a lot of green flags. Still no red flags.
[14:14] Speaker 4: But I'm checking it for him because I'm a good sister. Yeah,
[14:19] Speaker 4: but we made a lot of tiktoks. We had a
[14:21] Speaker 4: lot of fun. It was good seeing the family in Dallas.
[14:25] Speaker 4: Of course I saw Mallory is Mallorie. She's doing well.
[14:31] Speaker 4: She I cannot believe this, y'all. My first niece is
[14:36] Speaker 4: turning sixteen in November, and she's having a.
[14:39] Speaker 1: Real sweet sixteen.
[14:41] Speaker 4: Like it's she's going all out like a king Signetta,
[14:44] Speaker 4: but sweet sixteen because it's literally at a place where
[14:47] Speaker 4: they'd have been to a few insignetas. So Moll's like, yeah,
[14:51] Speaker 4: next weekend, I have a tasting. I said, I tasted
[14:53] Speaker 4: for what you are already married. She's like, oh, no,
[14:55] Speaker 4: it's for Chiseault's party. I was like, oh, this is
[14:56] Speaker 4: a party party.
[14:58] Speaker 1: What are they tasting?
[14:59] Speaker 4: The food, the menu options. Oh, so this fancy and
[15:04] Speaker 4: it's gonna be a sneaker ball theme, so we'll wear
[15:06] Speaker 4: gown good but with sneakers. And I also thought it
[15:09] Speaker 4: was funny. The dress she wants to wear is my
[15:13] Speaker 4: red dress that I wore for the Christmas photos a
[15:16] Speaker 4: few years ago with the little train. No, it's just
[15:19] Speaker 4: that's the picture. She didn't even like put two and
[15:22] Speaker 4: two together. She probably didn't want to be there. No,
[15:24] Speaker 4: she can't fitish, she's.
[15:25] Speaker 1: Way too skinny.
[15:27] Speaker 4: But yeah, it was good seeing them Phoenix, watching them
[15:33] Speaker 4: grow up and just like how their personalities really evolve
[15:38] Speaker 4: and like bloom, It's so cool to watch. Then I
[15:43] Speaker 4: hung out with Sandra after the conference was over. Well,
[15:46] Speaker 4: let me back up. The conference was great. It's podcast movement.
[15:50] Speaker 4: I did get to meet a lot of people. I
[15:52] Speaker 4: met some listeners, I met other people. I met industry
[15:55] Speaker 4: people who knew about our show. Really yeah, and I
[16:00] Speaker 4: was like cool because there were some people I was like, Okay, okay,
[16:02] Speaker 4: I'm asking chat GPT, I'm asking friends, I'm calling people
[16:05] Speaker 4: like okay, I want to make sure that I meet
[16:08] Speaker 4: this person. I want to make sure that I talked
[16:10] Speaker 4: to this person. What do you think I should do?
[16:11] Speaker 4: All this stuff just in my head. And then when
[16:15] Speaker 4: I finally did like send a message so I can
[16:18] Speaker 4: make sure we would see each other, they're like, oh, yeah,
[16:20] Speaker 4: I'm familiar with her work. Love it. I listen or
[16:23] Speaker 4: watch or whatever the case may be. So all of
[16:25] Speaker 4: that was really cool. But I was really excited because
[16:29] Speaker 4: my friend Candace Candice, I love you, girl, but you
[16:31] Speaker 4: know you have like capassa. I don't even so long
[16:36] Speaker 4: since I'm beans. Remember I had the Memorial Day thing
[16:40] Speaker 4: and beans everywhere, the hamburgers berries. Yeah, but okay, if
[16:50] Speaker 4: y'all was by, this was like two or three years ago.
[16:52] Speaker 1: That was the.
[16:53] Speaker 4: Last big thing I had where I invited people over.
[16:56] Speaker 4: And then after that the Around the Way cafe shut down,
[17:01] Speaker 4: okay by the fire marshall and the health department because
[17:03] Speaker 4: I found burgers under the couch. Anyway, that's besides the point.
[17:06] Speaker 4: Candice can be a flake. She has a lot of
[17:08] Speaker 4: things going on in her mind, and you know, as
[17:12] Speaker 4: a person who time gets away from them, I get it.
[17:16] Speaker 4: But she showed up early. She came in running because
[17:19] Speaker 4: she thought she missed it, and I told her the
[17:21] Speaker 4: real time she thought she missed it, but she showed up,
[17:25] Speaker 4: and y'all, I don't know what came over me. A
[17:27] Speaker 4: lot of weird things have been happening. But I think
[17:29] Speaker 4: I was like either having an anxiety attack or a
[17:32] Speaker 4: panic attack right before. And I don't know why because
[17:35] Speaker 4: I literally did the same presentation I did in Chicago,
[17:37] Speaker 4: just with updated information that I found. But I just
[17:40] Speaker 4: like couldn't freeze. I thought I was gonna throw up.
[17:42] Speaker 4: I ran out of It's like a big conference in
[17:45] Speaker 4: this big ass hotel. I ran out, went to the bathroom,
[17:49] Speaker 4: like to calm myself down. This is like thirty minutes
[17:51] Speaker 4: before I had to be on the stage. Just a
[17:53] Speaker 4: lot of weird things are going on.
[17:54] Speaker 1: I don't know.
[17:55] Speaker 4: And it wasn't like being hungover, because I considered that too.
[17:58] Speaker 4: Because the parties that they have at these conferences. The
[18:02] Speaker 4: night before was a Patreon party. Patreon showed up and
[18:05] Speaker 4: showed out. Okay, obviously, any creator who is on Patreon,
[18:11] Speaker 4: you know that a cut of your money goes to Patreon.
[18:14] Speaker 4: People is creating on Patreon because we need to create more.
[18:18] Speaker 4: We do what we do. But even still, that party
[18:21] Speaker 4: was amazing. They had good food, They had all this stuff.
[18:23] Speaker 4: They gave us gift cards. If you don't want the
[18:25] Speaker 4: food that's available at this there's a food hall right here.
[18:29] Speaker 4: You can go get that open bar for hours an hour,
[18:32] Speaker 4: like five six hours. That's expensive. Anyway, great time. I
[18:37] Speaker 4: went to an iHeart party and I went to there's
[18:40] Speaker 4: another company called sounds Profitable. Anyway, do all of these
[18:43] Speaker 4: things if you guys have never been to a industry
[18:47] Speaker 4: conference for podcasting or digital media. Whether you are a
[18:51] Speaker 4: podcaster or you provide a service that helps podcasters, or
[18:56] Speaker 4: you have a product, I advise.
[18:58] Speaker 1: You to go.
[18:59] Speaker 4: If you are a firing to be in this industry,
[19:01] Speaker 4: or you're in this industry and need to learn and
[19:03] Speaker 4: grow more. This is a great time where everybody has
[19:06] Speaker 4: their mindset on growing, learning and meeting new people. You
[19:11] Speaker 4: should go and check these things out. This particular one
[19:15] Speaker 4: that I've been going to for a year now, they
[19:17] Speaker 4: do two a year. The next one, the next big one,
[19:20] Speaker 4: will be next September, I want to say, in New York.
[19:23] Speaker 1: So I'm excited about that.
[19:25] Speaker 4: Andy See, Yeah, hopefully I'll be speaking at that one too.
[19:29] Speaker 4: But pay attention to their websites because even if like
[19:32] Speaker 4: money is an issue because it's not free or cheap,
[19:37] Speaker 4: they offer free stuff and scholarships. If you're a brand
[19:40] Speaker 4: that advertises on podcasts or you're looking to get into it,
[19:43] Speaker 4: a lot of times they let them go for free
[19:44] Speaker 4: and you bring your tea. I mean, it's just a
[19:46] Speaker 4: lot of things. So look into it and find new
[19:48] Speaker 4: ways to meet people to elevate and educate you and
[19:55] Speaker 4: that's something I want to continue to tell people and.
[19:58] Speaker 1: What else do to say?
[19:59] Speaker 4: Oh, but Candice showed up and she was there, and
[20:02] Speaker 4: it was just really nice to have a friend show
[20:05] Speaker 4: up because I was just there by myself, and Mallory
[20:09] Speaker 4: came to my new manager make sure I get the.
[20:12] Speaker 1: Content, and she got that content.
[20:13] Speaker 4: When I looked up, I was like, there was like
[20:15] Speaker 4: a line of people waiting to talk to me afterwards,
[20:17] Speaker 4: So I'm talking to them and everything and changing information.
[20:20] Speaker 1: And then I was like, where's my sister? And they
[20:22] Speaker 1: were like, is your sister your manager?
[20:24] Speaker 4: And I was like yeah, They're like, oh, she's over there.
[20:27] Speaker 4: So I see Mallory and she's like in a huddle
[20:29] Speaker 4: with all of these people, the people who were at
[20:32] Speaker 4: the Patreon party the night before. She's like, hey, so
[20:34] Speaker 4: do you want to go to.
[20:35] Speaker 1: The Patreon party.
[20:35] Speaker 4: Two?
[20:36] Speaker 1: Where was it?
[20:36] Speaker 2: Oh?
[20:37] Speaker 1: The hotel?
[20:37] Speaker 4: Well, not at the hotel, it was at a different hotel.
[20:39] Speaker 4: It was at this place called Harvest Hall. It was
[20:41] Speaker 4: also in Grapevine. It's in another hotel and there's like
[20:44] Speaker 4: a food hall in there. They had dueling pianos, there
[20:47] Speaker 4: was a tork contest. All kind of stuff was going on.
[20:49] Speaker 4: I was not in tourk contest, but and I think
[20:52] Speaker 4: she got that video because if I would have known,
[20:54] Speaker 4: I probably would have fown that ass in a circle.
[20:56] Speaker 4: But Madison came to And I always forget madison actual career.
[21:01] Speaker 4: She works in social media marketing, and so sometimes I'll
[21:04] Speaker 4: call her about stuff, like you think this is weird,
[21:06] Speaker 4: this makes sense? She'll tell me and like that is
[21:08] Speaker 4: her full time job for Mallory.
[21:10] Speaker 1: It's passion.
[21:11] Speaker 4: But I'm like, I hope that y'all can work together.
[21:14] Speaker 4: I could see this going really far. But yeah, the
[21:18] Speaker 4: parties were great. I forgot the point of.
[21:21] Speaker 1: My tangent to the tangent to the tangent.
[21:23] Speaker 4: But anyway, I had a great time in podcast movement.
[21:25] Speaker 4: And if you met me and you haven't hit me
[21:28] Speaker 4: up and I didn't get your infant with what you
[21:30] Speaker 4: got mine, which your an't nosis, I'm went, no, y'all,
[21:33] Speaker 4: come on.
[21:34] Speaker 1: Connect.
[21:36] Speaker 4: I think people be shy, like there were some people
[21:38] Speaker 4: that and I was like, oh, not be ance. Why
[21:42] Speaker 4: are you act like this like people I'm just really
[21:44] Speaker 4: nervous right now.
[21:45] Speaker 1: And I was like, you're nervous about gave me a memory.
[21:50] Speaker 1: I saw this girl on the airplane. She made me
[21:53] Speaker 1: look so cool. I was like, what is the apps?
[21:58] Speaker 3: She actually have a red eye back from Sodona, from
[22:02] Speaker 3: the Paradise and byfest and I was sitting in my
[22:05] Speaker 3: chair and I was on the aisle and I was
[22:09] Speaker 3: it was a red eye, so who else tired? I
[22:11] Speaker 3: was like, okay, I'm probably about to I wanted to
[22:13] Speaker 3: get a little glass wine, but I was about to
[22:14] Speaker 3: be sleep before the flight.
[22:16] Speaker 1: I was so it was just where they could even
[22:17] Speaker 1: give it to you. Yeah, when I.
[22:19] Speaker 3: Host the Paradise and Vibe tweetd so it is a
[22:21] Speaker 3: lot of pouring, so it's a lot of taking out.
[22:24] Speaker 3: And so I'm sitting there and I have a little
[22:25] Speaker 3: hoodie on. This girl was like Medina And I was like,
[22:30] Speaker 3: I thought.
[22:30] Speaker 1: It wasn't attendee. So I was like, maybe somebody left
[22:33] Speaker 1: their phone.
[22:33] Speaker 2: Yeah.
[22:33] Speaker 1: I was like I didn't know what happened, Like it's
[22:35] Speaker 1: just a lot to be going on. She was like,
[22:36] Speaker 1: I listen to your show. But she was loud, thank
[22:38] Speaker 1: you girl, this is not a rose. Thank you. I
[22:40] Speaker 1: appreciate you.
[22:41] Speaker 2: Love.
[22:41] Speaker 1: When that happened, I loved it, like everybody.
[22:43] Speaker 3: The flights and it was like what she do and
[22:45] Speaker 3: I was like, bitch, something okay, but she was I
[22:48] Speaker 3: was like, well, I take a picture afterwards.
[22:49] Speaker 1: But we didn't see each other afterwards, and I'm so
[22:51] Speaker 1: sorry girl. But then we see each other again. I
[22:52] Speaker 1: was tired.
[22:53] Speaker 3: We landed at six a m. It was it was
[22:55] Speaker 3: it's a time difference, it was it was.
[22:58] Speaker 1: Just it was so much love. But she was really
[23:00] Speaker 1: screaming in the aisle. I said, thank you. I appreciate
[23:04] Speaker 1: you so much. He's listening, nobody listening to the show.
[23:09] Speaker 1: I thank you, y'all, y'all, y'all, thank you. Okay.
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[23:30] Speaker 3: This was her review. It worked within a day, and
[23:33] Speaker 3: my dryness is gone. And I said, oh, And I
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[23:39] Speaker 3: just top tier.
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[23:59] Speaker 3: a physician drops of product, you may be trusted a
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[25:46] Speaker 1: to the show.
[25:47] Speaker 4: I went to this place. It is called I want
[25:52] Speaker 4: you to go. If you're in Dallas. They have multiple locations.
[25:56] Speaker 4: There's one in Dallas, and I think there's one. It's
[25:59] Speaker 4: either it's on the fort Worth side, so I don't
[26:02] Speaker 4: know if it's fort Worth Proper or wherever else. But
[26:04] Speaker 4: it's called Southern Classic Dakery Factory. Go there and tell
[26:10] Speaker 4: them I sent you, because Danielle, who works at the
[26:16] Speaker 4: Dallas location, is amazing and I had such a great
[26:20] Speaker 4: experience and she needs a raise.
[26:22] Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know if the girl needs a
[26:23] Speaker 1: raise or not. I feel like we could all use
[26:24] Speaker 1: a raise, a raise.
[26:26] Speaker 4: But okay, So Southern Classic is a chicken spot in
[26:32] Speaker 4: Nacatish right. It's very popular. And then I've probably talked
[26:36] Speaker 4: about dakeries I don't know once or twice, but the
[26:39] Speaker 4: drive through dakery shop. So this place it's like if
[26:42] Speaker 4: you've never been there, it's like imagine Wet Willie's with
[26:46] Speaker 4: all the dakery things in there, and then they have
[26:50] Speaker 4: it's not Southern Classic chicken. I guess that's why they
[26:52] Speaker 4: put them names together. But they got all kind of
[26:53] Speaker 4: like food. This ain't somewhere you need to eat all
[26:56] Speaker 4: the time because it is big backery, but big backery.
[27:01] Speaker 4: It is big Backery and I got the big backplate.
[27:03] Speaker 4: I think it's called the Natchez porch plate or something
[27:07] Speaker 4: like that. I don't know, but it's like the perfect
[27:09] Speaker 4: plate for me. It's a little sample of everything. Anyway,
[27:12] Speaker 4: I go there and Danielle is working. She listens to
[27:14] Speaker 4: the show and she's looking at me like she knows me.
[27:18] Speaker 4: And I was looking at her like is this somebody
[27:19] Speaker 4: from high school? Because I was in Dallas. I was like,
[27:21] Speaker 4: is this somebody I know already? Where would I have
[27:23] Speaker 4: met her?
[27:24] Speaker 1: Oh?
[27:24] Speaker 3: God, I really have to go through your mind because
[27:25] Speaker 3: it is like, I never want to be the president,
[27:27] Speaker 3: just like you know me from Yeah, that's weird because
[27:31] Speaker 3: every time I've done that, they're like, no I went
[27:32] Speaker 3: to Clark and I'm like.
[27:33] Speaker 4: Oh, yeah, oh we went to daycare together my babbage.
[27:37] Speaker 1: I forgot.
[27:38] Speaker 4: I'll block that out. But she was looking I was like,
[27:41] Speaker 4: I don't know. And I kind of was annoyed because
[27:45] Speaker 4: I missed my flight because I was there early, but
[27:49] Speaker 4: I wasn't there early enough to check it bag. I
[27:51] Speaker 4: missed the bag checking in by one minute, and I
[27:55] Speaker 4: was like, well, can y'all just send my luggage on
[27:56] Speaker 4: a later flight? And it was like no, and I
[27:58] Speaker 4: was like, nobody can send my luck. I feel like Beyonce,
[28:01] Speaker 4: somebody can send your luggage. Nobody could send my luggage.
[28:03] Speaker 4: Delta said, we're not doing that, so get rebookeds. So
[28:06] Speaker 4: I was like, well, I guess I'm here for another
[28:08] Speaker 4: four or five hours. I just wanted to go home.
[28:10] Speaker 4: I missed my damn dog. Okay, so we leave, We
[28:14] Speaker 4: go pick Madison up because my mom and Martin, my
[28:17] Speaker 4: stepdather that Ain and my stepdad. They took me to
[28:21] Speaker 4: the airport and I already was like mad at myself.
[28:24] Speaker 4: I booked the wrong airport, so I was winding out
[28:27] Speaker 4: a love field versus df I know, right, I know
[28:30] Speaker 4: versus DFW. And my mom lives in Fort Worth now,
[28:34] Speaker 4: so it's like, why would I go all the way
[28:36] Speaker 4: to actual Dallas proper. I wasn't flying Southwest either, I
[28:40] Speaker 4: was on Delta. They do like five flights a day Anyway.
[28:45] Speaker 4: Madison lives in Dallas, not too far from there. They
[28:47] Speaker 4: already had plans to do stuff, and I was like, well,
[28:49] Speaker 4: can I tag along with y'all?
[28:50] Speaker 2: Sure?
[28:50] Speaker 4: Fine, So we end up going there, and I really
[28:53] Speaker 4: didn't want to go there because I wanted to make
[28:56] Speaker 4: better choices and I could barely eat the food.
[28:58] Speaker 1: But what I did eat, I taste everything.
[29:00] Speaker 4: It was delicious. And then well, I won't say what
[29:02] Speaker 4: she did. She made sure that we had an excellent time.
[29:05] Speaker 4: What was my mama having jello shots? I mean you
[29:09] Speaker 4: didn't think it was going there? Yeah, And she was like,
[29:11] Speaker 4: oh yeah, this tastes like ever clear. Let me have
[29:13] Speaker 4: yours if you don't want it.
[29:14] Speaker 1: And I'm like, bro, what youre trying to do? Take
[29:16] Speaker 1: it back?
[29:17] Speaker 4: Which makes me wonder something. You went to college in
[29:20] Speaker 4: a big city here. Did you ever take a trip
[29:25] Speaker 4: somewhere with like maybe whether it was a road trip,
[29:30] Speaker 4: I guess it has to be a road trip. Did
[29:31] Speaker 4: you ever take a trip and you didn't have no
[29:33] Speaker 4: place to stay and the plan was not we gonna
[29:35] Speaker 4: meet some niggas like you go like she was saying,
[29:41] Speaker 4: we used to go when my mom was in college.
[29:43] Speaker 4: She was like, we would drive down to New Orleans.
[29:45] Speaker 4: I think it was like three or four hour drive
[29:47] Speaker 4: for them. We would go to New Orleans with no plan.
[29:51] Speaker 1: We would go, we.
[29:52] Speaker 4: Would party, and then we would come back the next day.
[29:55] Speaker 4: We didn't book a room or nothing.
[29:56] Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah you did. Were you not with us.
[29:59] Speaker 3: When we drove, I wasn't nowhere to stay and we
[30:01] Speaker 3: ended up staying with Jacob York. And then he was like,
[30:03] Speaker 3: somebody's gonna give me some bud and.
[30:07] Speaker 1: Everybody was like, I'm not doing it. And I was like,
[30:09] Speaker 1: I'm not doing it, and everybody was like, well, flip
[30:12] Speaker 1: a coin.
[30:12] Speaker 4: Who won't give a niggas some boody because we got
[30:14] Speaker 4: to earn our keep you with us. I wasn't with
[30:17] Speaker 4: y'all into y'all in Miami. I went with a different
[30:21] Speaker 4: group of girls and I saw you there, but see no,
[30:23] Speaker 4: because that was the plan. We're gonna give somebody some ass.
[30:26] Speaker 3: Well, we didn't know where we were saying, and then
[30:27] Speaker 3: Jacob had posted that he was there and we were,
[30:29] Speaker 3: and then we knew that he like he liked young girls,
[30:32] Speaker 3: and so we were like, somebody's say something. And then
[30:34] Speaker 3: he was like, come, y'all can stay here. And then
[30:36] Speaker 3: it was like he was from the room. He literally
[30:38] Speaker 3: was like, somebody has to sleep in here. We were
[30:39] Speaker 3: all piled up in the other on the couch, like,
[30:41] Speaker 3: no sleep in here, like pack rat. Somebody had to
[30:44] Speaker 3: sleep in there. We pushed Jana, you gotta go because
[30:47] Speaker 3: you gotta go.
[30:47] Speaker 4: He like, yep, and we didn't go to him, so
[30:51] Speaker 4: go ahead and do what you do next time, and
[30:53] Speaker 4: to be on us for something else that he went.
[30:58] Speaker 1: We really did that, and then we didn't have gas
[31:01] Speaker 1: money to get back home.
[31:02] Speaker 3: So when we met some basketball players and went to
[31:04] Speaker 3: the strip club with them and we started stealing the
[31:06] Speaker 3: strippers money and we got gas money to go back home.
[31:09] Speaker 4: Well, sometimes you gotta get it how you live. They
[31:10] Speaker 4: would have did the same goddamn thing.
[31:12] Speaker 3: Yeah.
[31:13] Speaker 4: Well, my mom said that the plan was never to
[31:17] Speaker 4: meet men, and I was like, really, because like, don't
[31:19] Speaker 4: act how you wouldn't. I mean, I'm here and I
[31:21] Speaker 4: came from college. So she was saying that that was
[31:25] Speaker 4: never the plan. They were just always gonna go party
[31:27] Speaker 4: and turn around because they wasn't about to waste that money.
[31:30] Speaker 4: And it was always either her or one of her
[31:33] Speaker 4: other maybe her line sister or just a friend. They
[31:37] Speaker 4: were the only two with cars, but they would all
[31:39] Speaker 4: take turns driving. I said, so, y'all went to the club,
[31:42] Speaker 4: got fucked up? Well, I didn't say fucked up because
[31:45] Speaker 4: I don't curse to my mama, even though all my
[31:47] Speaker 4: siblings do.
[31:47] Speaker 1: But I'm.
[31:49] Speaker 3: Not like that.
[31:51] Speaker 4: So y'all went out there and got drunk, you took
[31:56] Speaker 4: a little cat nap in the car, and then you
[31:58] Speaker 4: took those sweaty, bonky cootycats back in the car. I said,
[32:04] Speaker 4: I'm not trying to be shady, but did y'all have
[32:06] Speaker 4: an AC in the car? Because I was like, I
[32:08] Speaker 4: don't know when everybody's that was just like standard. She
[32:12] Speaker 4: didn't answer me on that, but she's like, yeah, that's
[32:13] Speaker 4: what we do because she It all started because she
[32:15] Speaker 4: was saying she wanted to go to Buyouclassic this year
[32:18] Speaker 4: after Thanksgiving, and I told her I was interested, but
[32:21] Speaker 4: I didn't realize she didn't want a hotel what she
[32:23] Speaker 4: wanted to do. She wanted to have that nostalgic experience.
[32:26] Speaker 4: I said, oh, baby, no, and so she was like,
[32:29] Speaker 4: y'all didn't do that in college. It's me, Martin, her
[32:32] Speaker 4: and Madison and.
[32:33] Speaker 3: We're all like, no, wait, she wanted to drive down
[32:38] Speaker 3: and not have a place to stay as an adult.
[32:40] Speaker 4: Yeah, like in November, Buyo Classic is always the weekend
[32:44] Speaker 4: after Thanksgiving. Thanksgiving this Thursday, so Friday, Saturday, Sunday is
[32:48] Speaker 4: by And I was like, girl, no, I'm too old
[32:51] Speaker 4: for that.
[32:51] Speaker 1: She's like, oh, I thought it would be fun. We
[32:52] Speaker 1: just drive down there and drive it.
[32:54] Speaker 4: Oh drive what from Atlanta to New Orleans and back?
[33:01] Speaker 4: She's like, well, how far is it?
[33:02] Speaker 1: It's like a six hour drive, right five? I get r.
[33:07] Speaker 1: I drove it is eight plus hours.
[33:11] Speaker 4: And that's a different time zone too, So I don't
[33:13] Speaker 4: know which way that eight factors in with that, but
[33:15] Speaker 4: it is. I looked it up that day and I'm
[33:17] Speaker 4: in Texas to New Orleans. No, from here to New Orleans. Oh,
[33:20] Speaker 4: but it's like less than an hour flight. So I
[33:23] Speaker 4: was like, we could fly there. I'm not you could
[33:26] Speaker 4: fly there and fly home. I'll fly there and fly
[33:29] Speaker 4: back because she'll be here for thanks. Anyway, it ain't happening.
[33:33] Speaker 4: I'm so interested in going to buy you classic but.
[33:37] Speaker 3: No.
[33:37] Speaker 4: I was like, girl, I said, he was really living wild.
[33:40] Speaker 4: She's like yeah, and we just went on this whole
[33:42] Speaker 4: college thing. Maybe that's something I can ramble about on
[33:46] Speaker 4: Patreon one day, but it got me thinking, like, what
[33:51] Speaker 4: kind of experiences were people having in How different is
[33:54] Speaker 4: it when you're in like a big city versus the country.
[33:58] Speaker 1: Because she was in the country and.
[34:01] Speaker 4: Martin was in the country too, but he's from the city.
[34:02] Speaker 4: He from Miami, Miami. He probably wanted things to slow down.
[34:07] Speaker 4: And then Madison went to Houston. She went to University
[34:10] Speaker 4: of Houston. So yeah, but bitch can't relate. I never
[34:15] Speaker 4: did that, And if I know, if I would have
[34:17] Speaker 4: done that, I definitely would have been banking on me
[34:19] Speaker 4: and the man. That would have been priority number one.
[34:22] Speaker 4: And then we can have fun once we have a
[34:24] Speaker 4: place to stay, to secure it.
[34:26] Speaker 1: At fifty two years old, I'm not doing that. That's
[34:31] Speaker 1: how old I am.
[34:33] Speaker 4: I got to be able to have comfort and wash
[34:36] Speaker 4: my face good. I've been trying to do better with that.
[34:39] Speaker 1: I don't play it on my face. The face. This
[34:41] Speaker 1: face gonna get washed on the plane. Sometimes I be
[34:45] Speaker 1: tired and lazy and I regret it every time. So tired, drunk,
[34:50] Speaker 1: sleep and this face is getting washed. Yeah, I'm back.
[34:53] Speaker 1: Do you wrap your hair up, tie your edges down?
[34:55] Speaker 4: It's very slick, staring at you.
[34:59] Speaker 1: I don't anything. I just take the butt. But the
[35:01] Speaker 1: edges is laid. What are you using these days? It's
[35:04] Speaker 1: very slick. It's not moving.
[35:05] Speaker 3: I am using the Talio widget products and this is
[35:08] Speaker 3: not the new one. This is before she was a
[35:10] Speaker 3: sponsor this year for Paradise and Vibe and everybody got
[35:14] Speaker 3: a big old jar edge control.
[35:17] Speaker 1: But but I have too much, you don't have it.
[35:20] Speaker 3: I still use the last line. I don't even know
[35:22] Speaker 3: if this is the last line, but apple, the apple
[35:25] Speaker 3: and alo.
[35:26] Speaker 1: It's smell so smell so good.
[35:28] Speaker 3: And I love a good smell, good black product because
[35:31] Speaker 3: me and my sister always have said, like we always
[35:33] Speaker 3: gotta smell like Shaye butter and oil.
[35:35] Speaker 1: I want to smell like flowers and fruit like.
[35:38] Speaker 3: And I love that the Talio widget products, It's like,
[35:41] Speaker 3: you're not just smell like Shaye butter, like I want
[35:43] Speaker 3: to smell floral. Jesus, this is like black products. They
[35:49] Speaker 3: want to smell like Shaye butter and chocolate.
[35:51] Speaker 1: I don't want to smell like that.
[35:53] Speaker 3: And it's not a bad smell, but like it's I
[35:55] Speaker 3: love a good fresh, fruity smell. And so I still
[35:58] Speaker 3: use the apple and alow and I use it on
[36:00] Speaker 3: my edges. I don't. I just like do a little
[36:02] Speaker 3: bit and then I do a little bit here. But
[36:04] Speaker 3: then I put a little hairspray on it too, And
[36:06] Speaker 3: that's how I really get it. Sleep back and then
[36:08] Speaker 3: I take her new line that edge control. It's honey
[36:11] Speaker 3: and honey and something, and I put it at the
[36:13] Speaker 3: back of the ponytail. And I really love my butt.
[36:16] Speaker 3: There's a gentleman. Y'all know I'm not dating right now. However,
[36:21] Speaker 3: that ain't what the Internet said. But okay, I don't
[36:23] Speaker 3: know what.
[36:23] Speaker 1: The Internet is saying.
[36:24] Speaker 3: But I'm just tiptoeing out there and giving people get
[36:29] Speaker 3: starting to like, you know, give men a whiff again.
[36:32] Speaker 4: You don't want to pop out after cold turkey stopping
[36:37] Speaker 4: and then just be out there wild'n out.
[36:38] Speaker 3: Yea.
[36:39] Speaker 1: So it's a very slow like.
[36:41] Speaker 3: And I'm telling you right now, if you're interested to
[36:43] Speaker 3: me any kickup or mistake, it's a rap. I'm just
[36:46] Speaker 3: not at the point now where it's like I can
[36:47] Speaker 3: give you grace.
[36:48] Speaker 1: It's a done. I'm talking about done. You speak when
[36:51] Speaker 1: you talk.
[36:52] Speaker 2: Done.
[36:52] Speaker 1: You don't open the door and done. You say something
[36:55] Speaker 1: that's done.
[36:56] Speaker 4: It's real strict.
[36:57] Speaker 3: Yeah, you sting and and you done, so you better
[37:01] Speaker 3: come correct, So get better.
[37:06] Speaker 4: And if I catch something, I'm reporting all actions I
[37:09] Speaker 4: used to not report.
[37:10] Speaker 1: I report report him. And I'm a stage ten.
[37:14] Speaker 4: Snitch bitch so trip fucking like real lightly and so
[37:20] Speaker 4: there is a guy that is like interested in me.
[37:22] Speaker 3: He kind of like resourcing. I kind of like him,
[37:23] Speaker 3: but like not like he resurfing and I don't really.
[37:27] Speaker 1: Like him, but I kind of like him.
[37:28] Speaker 3: But it's also kind of like he says some shit
[37:30] Speaker 3: that like made me, It kind of annoyed me. He
[37:33] Speaker 3: was like, when are you gonna get rid of this button.
[37:40] Speaker 2: Who?
[37:41] Speaker 1: I was like, and I'm learning, I'm learning to not
[37:43] Speaker 1: be so reactive.
[37:44] Speaker 2: So I was like, what do you mean?
[37:45] Speaker 3: He was like, and he sent me the bundles. But
[37:48] Speaker 3: I'm enjoying wearing my hair. He was like, I want
[37:52] Speaker 3: you to wear your hair down. You know what I'm
[37:55] Speaker 3: doing for my birthday, I'm volunteering. He was like, I
[37:58] Speaker 3: wanted you to still have your hair down while weolunteer.
[38:00] Speaker 1: He's coming, we are making plates for people, old people,
[38:04] Speaker 1: we're boxing. We don't need hair. I don't need no hair.
[38:07] Speaker 3: You need to have it up and after if you
[38:09] Speaker 3: want to do something else. Maybe he was like, I
[38:11] Speaker 3: just I want you to have your hair down, like
[38:14] Speaker 3: so much so that he got the bundles. I said,
[38:17] Speaker 3: were he said, if you ain't got hair, I got
[38:19] Speaker 3: it for you.
[38:19] Speaker 2: Baby.
[38:19] Speaker 4: I don't know what's tucked up in that bun, but
[38:22] Speaker 4: don't you worry.
[38:24] Speaker 1: Yeah, did he book an appointment and read the rules.
[38:27] Speaker 3: So he said, he said, I will book the appointment. Like,
[38:29] Speaker 3: do you want to send me the appointment? I was
[38:31] Speaker 3: gonna send it.
[38:31] Speaker 1: I said, this is I'm not moving like this this
[38:34] Speaker 1: go around. I like my bun. I said, what are
[38:37] Speaker 1: we talking?
[38:38] Speaker 2: Now?
[38:38] Speaker 1: Send the bundles now they on the way, because at
[38:40] Speaker 1: some point I will, well, can't he put the appointment
[38:42] Speaker 1: for me? I'll ask him? But I was just like,
[38:45] Speaker 1: I said, let me ask you something. I said, So
[38:47] Speaker 1: you're talking about you want me to have the bundles
[38:48] Speaker 1: because you want to?
[38:49] Speaker 3: I said, so are you? Do you not think I
[38:51] Speaker 3: look pretty with my butN at this? I really like
[38:53] Speaker 3: seeing my face. That's what I was just trying to say.
[38:55] Speaker 3: You can clearly see your face. There's nothing hiding at Yeah.
[39:00] Speaker 1: I was like, so, what exactly is it about like
[39:02] Speaker 1: the hair being down that you need?
[39:04] Speaker 3: He said, I just think it's more feminine, and I
[39:06] Speaker 3: just I want you to look more feminine.
[39:09] Speaker 4: I was like, nigga, why like you're not say?
[39:11] Speaker 3: Man, does he think you look like mis Trenchful. He
[39:15] Speaker 3: might not even know who Miss Trenchable is. I'm gonna
[39:17] Speaker 3: ask him because I'm just.
[39:18] Speaker 1: Like, what are we doing here? Like I'm so, I
[39:25] Speaker 1: haven't cut him off. I haven't cut him off because
[39:27] Speaker 1: he's he's one of them guys.
[39:29] Speaker 4: I was like, a minute, we just said anything, but that's.
[39:34] Speaker 1: Not the thing for me, Like I appreciate it. I'm
[39:36] Speaker 1: not gonna lie.
[39:37] Speaker 3: I appreciate him, and that cares about how you look.
[39:38] Speaker 3: Like I don't mind a bundle, and if you're gonna
[39:41] Speaker 3: suggest something, pay for it.
[39:42] Speaker 1: He didn't even I didn't have to say that.
[39:44] Speaker 3: He was like, the bundles is on the way you
[39:45] Speaker 3: want twenty two and twenty four, twenty four and twenty six.
[39:47] Speaker 3: Cause I was like, twenty two and twenty four, I'm
[39:49] Speaker 3: not wearing bundles when we volunteer for my birthday there.
[39:53] Speaker 3: I was like, I'm not gonna do that, I said,
[39:54] Speaker 3: but get the bundles in. At some point I will,
[39:57] Speaker 3: you know, I'll put him in. But like right now,
[39:58] Speaker 3: I'm just kind of like feeling feeling getting to look
[40:03] Speaker 3: at me and getting to know me and doing all
[40:07] Speaker 3: of that in the way that I'm doing it. And
[40:08] Speaker 3: so like, don't try to rush it. He's not cut
[40:10] Speaker 3: off because again he did it in the wave that
[40:13] Speaker 3: if you're gonna do it.
[40:14] Speaker 1: Do it that way. But it still was just like, wow, men,
[40:17] Speaker 1: really be having audacity. You have a belly. You're talking
[40:21] Speaker 1: about a bundle?
[40:23] Speaker 4: Now, how would he feel if you bought him a
[40:25] Speaker 4: waist trainer?
[40:27] Speaker 1: And he also wears baggy boxers And I wait a minute, what.
[40:33] Speaker 3: Like that? So what I'm gonna this is my plan
[40:35] Speaker 3: because okay, we are gonna do a little beach trip.
[40:38] Speaker 4: Wait a minute, wait, this is Esklake. Y'all see how
[40:42] Speaker 4: she'd be grazy past? And let me be clear, somebody
[40:44] Speaker 4: sent me a message something, Kiki, you need to give
[40:46] Speaker 4: us a tea. I know, maybe I ain't got it.
[40:48] Speaker 4: I am finding out in real time with y'all.
[40:51] Speaker 1: I ain't no tea.
[40:52] Speaker 4: Yes it is, because how did we escalate from I'm
[40:55] Speaker 4: not really dating? I put my toe in. He's sending
[40:57] Speaker 4: me bundles. He's coming on my birthday volin tear trip.
[41:00] Speaker 4: I'll be there reporting live on the ground, not really,
[41:02] Speaker 4: but yes, I'm recording it.
[41:03] Speaker 1: We're gonna have a little cameracr Okay.
[41:04] Speaker 4: Well, I am reporting live on the ground because I RSVP.
[41:08] Speaker 4: When I saw an email, I will be there. You're welcome,
[41:12] Speaker 4: And it was the push I needed because I said,
[41:14] Speaker 4: when you talked about meals on wheels, I was like,
[41:16] Speaker 4: you know what, this is something that I would appreciate
[41:19] Speaker 4: my time. I used to volunteer with Nicholas House, which
[41:22] Speaker 4: is for homeless people. It's transitional housing. But I had
[41:27] Speaker 4: to switch because time. Yeah, so this is good, but
[41:31] Speaker 4: I will be there.
[41:33] Speaker 1: I know what I'm talking about. You don't know because but.
[41:35] Speaker 4: Y'all should volunteer with Mills on Wool. She told us
[41:37] Speaker 4: about it some time ago.
[41:39] Speaker 1: On my birthdayay, I'm.
[41:41] Speaker 3: Doing a and Cass, I sent Warren the invite, but
[41:44] Speaker 3: he said, y'all couldn't come.
[41:45] Speaker 1: But I want you to know y'all were included there.
[41:47] Speaker 1: Y'all are booked and busy.
[41:48] Speaker 3: But for my birthday this year, I was like, I
[41:50] Speaker 3: haven't celebrated my birthday in a way that included other
[41:54] Speaker 3: people in such a long time.
[41:55] Speaker 1: Last year, my birthday was not good, y'all.
[41:58] Speaker 3: I don't care what I posted on Instagra And I
[42:00] Speaker 3: woke up and I was crying and I was looking
[42:02] Speaker 3: at the man that I loved and had just freshly
[42:04] Speaker 3: fucked and listening to him say, well, because I pay
[42:08] Speaker 3: all the bills, I feel like I've given you like
[42:10] Speaker 3: a lot for your birthday.
[42:11] Speaker 1: And I was like, so we're not going to do anything?
[42:12] Speaker 3: Like all I wanted was him to make me breakfast
[42:14] Speaker 3: and he said no, and I was just like, I
[42:18] Speaker 3: was really sad, and we still ended up doing stuff,
[42:20] Speaker 3: but it's just different when somebody's doing it upset.
[42:23] Speaker 1: And so this year, I was like, hmm, I want
[42:26] Speaker 1: to do something that really means something for my birthday.
[42:28] Speaker 3: I didn't want to do a birthday dinner that I
[42:30] Speaker 3: wasn't gonna I probably wasn't gonna show up to it.
[42:34] Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want to do it. And
[42:36] Speaker 1: then I was like, you know what I want to
[42:39] Speaker 1: bring every Kiki.
[42:40] Speaker 3: When I tell you I invited two hundred and ten people,
[42:43] Speaker 3: it's fifty three confirmed, and it's people from we're volunteering
[42:47] Speaker 3: at Meals on Wheels and we're going to be packing lunch.
[42:49] Speaker 3: And to me, it's just like my grandmother meant so
[42:51] Speaker 3: much to me when my mom told me that my
[42:53] Speaker 3: grandma used to utilize Meals on Wheels in Pennsylvania in Pittsburgh. Yeah,
[42:57] Speaker 3: she was like we had to set it up because
[42:59] Speaker 3: we weren't there, and to the point where like that's
[43:02] Speaker 3: what she was getting. And so like I said, you
[43:03] Speaker 3: know what, like I just been thinking about my grandma
[43:05] Speaker 3: so much. We're so much alike. And I was like,
[43:10] Speaker 3: you know what, I'm about to see if people will
[43:12] Speaker 3: come show up to volunteer. You'll show up to smoke, cookle,
[43:15] Speaker 3: you'll show up to have a drink, you'll show up
[43:16] Speaker 3: to have dinner, you'll.
[43:17] Speaker 1: Show up, Will you show will and the amount.
[43:20] Speaker 3: I invited strippers, I invited producers, I invited podcasters, I
[43:24] Speaker 3: invited actors.
[43:25] Speaker 1: I invited people that I know in realism.
[43:27] Speaker 3: I invited people that have had an influence in my
[43:29] Speaker 3: life and a positive influence in my life that make
[43:32] Speaker 3: me want to be better, no matter if I've known
[43:34] Speaker 3: you a long time or you were just my manager
[43:36] Speaker 3: at one point.
[43:37] Speaker 1: And everybody was like you know what, yeah, you know what,
[43:41] Speaker 1: I haven't volunteered them in it.
[43:42] Speaker 3: And I said this, how this is probably gonna be
[43:45] Speaker 3: like a traditional thing because it's like I'm also it's
[43:48] Speaker 3: like there are people that was like, I haven't volunteered
[43:50] Speaker 3: in so long.
[43:50] Speaker 1: Yeah, your nigga come because if it was a dinner,
[43:53] Speaker 1: you would come. We had change you want to see.
[43:55] Speaker 2: I love that.
[43:56] Speaker 3: Yeah, I invited about five niggas. It's interested in me.
[43:59] Speaker 3: Who won't pack the best?
[44:01] Speaker 1: Because that is a yeah, who gonna show up? If
[44:04] Speaker 1: you don't, you're done, You're done, You're cuked, you're done.
[44:09] Speaker 2: Yeah.
[44:10] Speaker 3: If you in there and you're trying to connect and
[44:12] Speaker 3: you're not packing for the elders, you've done it.
[44:14] Speaker 1: Don't be in there eating up the fucking snacks you
[44:16] Speaker 1: or your belly, don't do it because they all got bellies.
[44:20] Speaker 2: I like it.
[44:20] Speaker 1: Oh, I'm back to all niggas, all niggas only I.
[44:24] Speaker 4: Don't mind a little belly.
[44:25] Speaker 2: They know an egg.
[44:28] Speaker 1: I like I'm about to play with all debate all niggas.
[44:31] Speaker 1: Don't debate what you need and what you want.
[44:33] Speaker 2: This is what it is.
[44:34] Speaker 4: Either I'm wish you or I'm not.
[44:36] Speaker 1: Yeah, and they're not gonna bug you. And it's no confusion.
[44:40] Speaker 3: They don't feel like they overdid. Even if you never
[44:42] Speaker 3: did anything, they don't feel like they overdid.
[44:44] Speaker 1: They understand.
[44:46] Speaker 4: Yeah, I haven't been with an old man in a
[44:48] Speaker 4: long time. My most recent person. He's younger than me,
[44:52] Speaker 4: which I I've always said I've never done. But you know,
[44:55] Speaker 4: times change. But I'm like old souls matter too.
[44:59] Speaker 1: I'm a boy. About six of them gonna see who
[45:01] Speaker 1: wins the race, and i'ma be there taking notes, backing,
[45:05] Speaker 1: lunch is taking. I'm by the church. They don't even
[45:08] Speaker 1: know Strippers is gonna be there.
[45:09] Speaker 4: I say, well, and that's that's who you need to
[45:11] Speaker 4: speak to. You just never know when you can reach somebody.
[45:14] Speaker 3: Yep.
[45:15] Speaker 1: And that lady name Mary Magdalene. Is that the one fact? Well, anyways,
[45:21] Speaker 1: I we're gonna.
[45:22] Speaker 3: Do that toast and a little cake and everybody after
[45:26] Speaker 3: the meals and we're gonna do a little cake.
[45:27] Speaker 1: I have a cute little cake, and we're gonna do
[45:29] Speaker 1: a little toast of champagne.
[45:30] Speaker 3: But there, but there out there, And my friend Amanda
[45:33] Speaker 3: was like, I want to go somewhere after and I
[45:35] Speaker 3: was like, well, one of the old niggas, we're driving
[45:36] Speaker 3: a Savannah to go to the beach.
[45:37] Speaker 1: And I was like, that's cute. Cute. This past weekend, yeah,
[45:41] Speaker 1: I've never experienced Savannah like that.
[45:43] Speaker 3: And I said, this birthday, I really wanted to just
[45:46] Speaker 3: have an old lady birthday volunteer, church volunteer, and I'm
[45:49] Speaker 3: going to Savannah.
[45:50] Speaker 4: I think that sounds lovely and I'm excited.
[45:53] Speaker 1: I'm like, I just want to sleep. I want him
[45:55] Speaker 1: to sleep because he works a lot.
[45:57] Speaker 4: Do you have one of those cute like picnic feminine
[46:00] Speaker 4: super like I don't know what they're called, but like,
[46:03] Speaker 4: I mean similar to this.
[46:04] Speaker 1: Actually this is cute. I don't even notice outfit changed.
[46:06] Speaker 1: It's cute.
[46:08] Speaker 3: But I really just want to sleep, That's really what
[46:11] Speaker 3: I just want to eat and sleep and get assize.
[46:13] Speaker 1: You have been working very hard. Yeah, I'm tired. I'm tired,
[46:16] Speaker 1: and I just want to sleep.
[46:17] Speaker 4: And anybody feel I feel you. Yeah.
[46:20] Speaker 1: And I had to tell my mom and my sister.
[46:21] Speaker 3: I was like, hey, y'all, don't be trying to do
[46:23] Speaker 3: extra shit because meals on Wheels will charge you if
[46:25] Speaker 3: it looks like an event for real. Yeah, and so
[46:29] Speaker 3: like I was like, don't and I know my mom,
[46:30] Speaker 3: my sister, my sister is going to come before. She
[46:33] Speaker 3: was like, why don't you do it while I'm going
[46:34] Speaker 3: to be there, said they don't. You can't do the
[46:36] Speaker 3: lunch packing on the weekend. So I was like I
[46:39] Speaker 3: can't do it, but my mom and my dad are coming,
[46:40] Speaker 3: my brother and maybe my sister will surprise me and stay.
[46:44] Speaker 3: I hope she will, but I don't know because them kids.
[46:47] Speaker 1: So she is a she is a mother. She is
[46:50] Speaker 1: a mother. But yeah, it's been cool, like.
[46:53] Speaker 3: Tiptoeing back outside. My girlfriend Chanelle, her birthday recently passed.
[46:56] Speaker 3: She is always going to go above me on because
[46:58] Speaker 3: she's a leo. And so we went to the club.
[47:01] Speaker 3: I went to Revel with my butt out, show butt
[47:05] Speaker 3: out my butt and I was like, oh my god,
[47:09] Speaker 3: it's been so long since I had been to a
[47:11] Speaker 3: club club.
[47:12] Speaker 1: And it was funny because we had dinner at mystoria.
[47:14] Speaker 1: Have you been a Astora? Oh, bro, it's cute. It's
[47:18] Speaker 1: it's on. It's randomly in the cut off.
[47:21] Speaker 3: Of is it Peedmont or is it I'm missing the
[47:26] Speaker 3: you know, No, it's Peedmont far down Pedema is. It's
[47:28] Speaker 3: next to a neighborhood. It's not even like in a
[47:31] Speaker 3: normal place where is yes, a few, it's a few
[47:36] Speaker 3: before you get to Iso.
[47:37] Speaker 1: So that's where Ayana teaches. And I went to that one.
[47:41] Speaker 3: You went to pet Oh it's not, but she teaches
[47:44] Speaker 3: it Io also but io it, but it's in a neighborhood.
[47:47] Speaker 3: You wouldn't even know it's there. It's called Misstora and
[47:50] Speaker 3: they have a little private room in the back. She
[47:52] Speaker 3: had a dinner back there, and then afterwards we were
[47:54] Speaker 3: going to the club, and it was so funny because
[47:56] Speaker 3: I did say that I was gonna go to the club,
[47:57] Speaker 3: but then once we started to dinner, I was like.
[47:59] Speaker 1: I'm not going to the club. I'm not going to club.
[48:01] Speaker 1: When I tell you, Chanelle bullied me to go. She
[48:04] Speaker 1: was like, what did you say? Someone said you weren't
[48:06] Speaker 1: going to the club, and I was like, I'm going.
[48:10] Speaker 3: We went to Revel and I'm so glad that I
[48:13] Speaker 3: went because I'm always just so nervous and scared. Now
[48:16] Speaker 3: that I'm gonna just like get out of my zone
[48:17] Speaker 3: and I'm not gonna lie. I had the time of
[48:19] Speaker 3: my life. We stood on couches, my butt was out.
[48:22] Speaker 3: I took a shot.
[48:23] Speaker 1: This is a new spot. It used to be a
[48:25] Speaker 1: French place and that closed down. Okay, let me.
[48:30] Speaker 3: Gonna make it a Mediterranean spot. And then that never
[48:32] Speaker 3: opened and then it's my stora.
[48:34] Speaker 1: Okay, let me save this to my place. It's really cute,
[48:36] Speaker 1: very dark inside. I will say it's very dark and intimate. Okay.
[48:40] Speaker 3: Anyway, So then after that we went out, we took
[48:43] Speaker 3: shots like we It was so much fun. I had
[48:48] Speaker 3: such a good time and I was glad that she
[48:51] Speaker 3: bullied me into going. She definitely belied me into going.
[48:53] Speaker 3: And we had a really good time.
[48:54] Speaker 1: And I did leave early.
[48:56] Speaker 3: I said I was gonna only stay for thirty minutes.
[48:57] Speaker 3: I stayed for two hours, but but I still left
[48:59] Speaker 3: early then. But just day the whole night, I was like,
[49:01] Speaker 3: all right, it's not I gotta go. I gotta go
[49:03] Speaker 3: to church in the morning, and I'm going. So we
[49:07] Speaker 3: did that and it was fun.
[49:08] Speaker 1: And like I said, I've been like just tiptoeing out.
[49:11] Speaker 1: Not nothing serious.
[49:12] Speaker 3: I know. I have posted the picture with the little
[49:13] Speaker 3: comedian dude Hugo, and I went to several of his
[49:16] Speaker 3: shows this weekend.
[49:17] Speaker 1: I noticed because I thought that was an open no,
[49:20] Speaker 1: it was very new.
[49:21] Speaker 3: I have taken so many people to see he is
[49:23] Speaker 3: a star, Like he's so funny, and it's like, oh,
[49:27] Speaker 3: I'm gonna he's so funny, he's cool, he's fun Everybody's like,
[49:32] Speaker 3: that's your man, know, it's not. I don't know how
[49:34] Speaker 3: many times. It's not like I have so much y'all.
[49:36] Speaker 3: You have to remember I'm not having sex right now.
[49:39] Speaker 3: And I also thought it was very interesting that so
[49:41] Speaker 3: many people were in the comments like he smashed that
[49:43] Speaker 3: and it's like to be a woman why.
[49:45] Speaker 4: I like the comments were so interesting that and then
[49:48] Speaker 4: the people are like, oh, she's gonna come back and
[49:51] Speaker 4: see that this is her husband. I was like, y'all
[49:53] Speaker 4: need to rewind. Did you not hear the things? And
[49:58] Speaker 4: this is not like just shit on him at all?
[50:00] Speaker 4: But if you listen to what Medina has been sharing
[50:04] Speaker 4: about her life, where she's been, where she's at, and
[50:07] Speaker 4: where she wants to go, and then you hear him talking,
[50:10] Speaker 4: how do you get confused? I guess that's why our
[50:13] Speaker 4: advice segment will never go away, because many people still
[50:16] Speaker 4: are not seeing the red flags. And then it was
[50:19] Speaker 4: interesting because I was like, well, am I being super
[50:21] Speaker 4: cynical like I often am? But then there were also
[50:25] Speaker 4: people like where are y'all talking about? Did we watch
[50:27] Speaker 4: the same episode? No, this is not a match, Madina.
[50:30] Speaker 1: This is not a match.
[50:31] Speaker 4: If you want to have fun, have fun, but this
[50:32] Speaker 4: is not a match. And I'm like Okay, so there
[50:34] Speaker 4: are people who are seeing different things, which also all
[50:38] Speaker 4: of it together kind of shows the beauty of people
[50:41] Speaker 4: and how it's important to have conversations because we can
[50:44] Speaker 4: all look at the same thing, see and hear something different.
[50:48] Speaker 4: And that's why it's important to continue to talk to people,
[50:51] Speaker 4: have conversations and get to know people on an individual basis,
[50:55] Speaker 4: because you just never know where somebody's head is at.
[50:57] Speaker 4: Because some people, I was very confused as to how
[50:59] Speaker 4: they're we're drawing certain conclusions and then some people are like, oh,
[51:03] Speaker 4: we want to hear about the day. You heard about
[51:04] Speaker 4: it all right by the time you left this comment.
[51:06] Speaker 3: If you caught up, but also if you doing Patreon,
[51:09] Speaker 3: we did post like my honest thoughts about.
[51:12] Speaker 1: Like what this is and yeah it was super short.
[51:17] Speaker 1: What's called patrion? No right or die?
[51:20] Speaker 4: Level?
[51:20] Speaker 1: Oh right or die?
[51:21] Speaker 3: He's fine and he's funny, and he's like, I'm just
[51:24] Speaker 3: like he's such a great friend. Like I'm about to test,
[51:26] Speaker 3: like can you really just be friends with the guy?
[51:28] Speaker 4: I did?
[51:29] Speaker 1: Kiss him?
[51:29] Speaker 2: Oh?
[51:30] Speaker 3: You did?
[51:31] Speaker 1: Was it a good kiss? It was a good kiss.
[51:32] Speaker 3: But this is why I don't like winmen, like people
[51:36] Speaker 3: that smoke too much weed because it's like you, you
[51:38] Speaker 3: smell your breast smells like weed.
[51:40] Speaker 1: I don't want. I don't smoke weed, so I don't
[51:42] Speaker 1: like do what you do. But like it's also kind
[51:44] Speaker 1: of just like but it was, Yeah, I don't.
[51:49] Speaker 4: I don't like the weed smoke taste. I mean, as
[51:52] Speaker 4: much as I drink, I also don't like that. I
[51:54] Speaker 4: don't like any of them tastes.
[51:55] Speaker 3: I don't my little alcohol taste, but like a weed
[51:57] Speaker 3: taste because it's also kind of like.
[52:00] Speaker 1: The worst so is cigarette. It's fast because it's like
[52:02] Speaker 1: your I know, your breath of the thing. But right
[52:04] Speaker 1: now it does like I might not smell it, but
[52:07] Speaker 1: I shall do tastes. And I don't know what a
[52:10] Speaker 1: swist to sweet tastes like, but I guess this is it.
[52:12] Speaker 1: I don't like it. It ain't sweet and you need
[52:16] Speaker 1: to just stop smoking. I don't know what to say.
[52:18] Speaker 3: It's not sexy to me. Like I understand people smoke
[52:20] Speaker 3: with Gina animal.
[52:22] Speaker 1: This weed smoke.
[52:23] Speaker 4: It's you better get you a drippy now that the
[52:27] Speaker 4: weed drinks, y'all, I am all in and drippy. We'll
[52:31] Speaker 4: see the other one that I like. Marry Jones do
[52:34] Speaker 4: y'all know those sodas. They're called jone soda. They come
[52:37] Speaker 4: in the glass bottles.
[52:39] Speaker 1: It's like four or.
[52:40] Speaker 4: Six in a pack. It's a weed soda, no regular soda.
[52:43] Speaker 4: Jan Soda company. And they have like a picture it's
[52:47] Speaker 4: always like black owned. I doubt it because the pictures
[52:50] Speaker 4: be having white babies and dogs, so it's given white people.
[52:53] Speaker 4: But we're not gonna worry about that. It's a good soda.
[52:56] Speaker 4: And I think that they use cane sugar versus like
[52:58] Speaker 4: corn syrup or something like that. Anyway, they make regular
[53:02] Speaker 4: sodas well. Now they make THHC sodas. And that company
[53:08] Speaker 4: or that line is called Mary Jones, like Mary Jane.
[53:12] Speaker 1: That's so cute.
[53:13] Speaker 4: And so they have a root beer, a Coke zero
[53:17] Speaker 4: cola zero flavor orange cream soda, and oh and there's
[53:24] Speaker 4: like a strawberry one. If any of y'all work for
[53:28] Speaker 4: go puff. I'm not talking about driving, but like the company.
[53:34] Speaker 4: I'll let you girl, because I feel like I'm the
[53:36] Speaker 4: only person at lant.
[53:37] Speaker 1: I'm buying the drippings.
[53:38] Speaker 4: And don't y'all start now unless it will help boost
[53:41] Speaker 4: their stock, they'd be running out. I will order some
[53:43] Speaker 4: and it'll be like, there's three left. I order a
[53:45] Speaker 4: pack jail order.
[53:47] Speaker 1: Some is two left, and I'm like, oh, it's just us,
[53:52] Speaker 1: and you know they're right here. I don't know it
[53:55] Speaker 1: will be a sponsor for our Selena movie. That's what
[53:57] Speaker 1: I'm saying.
[53:57] Speaker 4: We gotta do this.
[53:58] Speaker 3: People so many people sit in my day it's like,
[54:00] Speaker 3: are y'all really gonna do the Selena movie? That?
[54:03] Speaker 1: Yeah, we got to do it.
[54:04] Speaker 4: You can y'all do something?
[54:05] Speaker 1: Something, something, We got it. We got to do something.
[54:08] Speaker 4: And y'all could also sponsor Patreon lives every month when
[54:12] Speaker 4: we're at home where people need to get their alcohol
[54:15] Speaker 4: delivered in case they didn't have time to run home
[54:18] Speaker 4: before they had to pick the kids up from daycare
[54:19] Speaker 4: and put them on their iPads or whatever y'all parents do. Anyway,
[54:25] Speaker 4: y'all need to get on the drinks. But the Mary
[54:27] Speaker 4: Jane's Mary Jones, Yeah, Mary Jones, They're good.
[54:31] Speaker 1: Drippy is good. I mean, I've got a lot of
[54:33] Speaker 1: recommendations via him.
[54:35] Speaker 4: They need to start making those drinks because I do
[54:37] Speaker 4: like the tinctures.
[54:39] Speaker 1: I do like all the things that I love me
[54:40] Speaker 1: a little via him.
[54:41] Speaker 3: I love every single gummy that they have to offer
[54:44] Speaker 3: what they say it works for, it really works for.
[54:46] Speaker 3: Like I've been popping them flow states like a flow
[54:49] Speaker 3: state never flow stated before.
[54:51] Speaker 1: I know I've been elevated, yep, elevated, punctually.
[54:57] Speaker 3: Loved on top like I just love via him like
[55:00] Speaker 3: they are just a good quality brand. Life are X.
[55:04] Speaker 3: I just need y'all to I we just gonna already
[55:06] Speaker 3: get to it. So, Okay, I have not working out.
[55:09] Speaker 3: I haven't working out worked out and about I want
[55:12] Speaker 3: to say, it's been a good week and a half
[55:14] Speaker 3: maybe two weeks, and I'm getting into that zone. It's
[55:17] Speaker 3: that scary zone where it's like you get back in there,
[55:20] Speaker 3: but it's crazy because I'm like, well, I mean, I'm
[55:22] Speaker 3: still gonna be petite. I'm still gonna be petite. Life
[55:25] Speaker 3: our X still has me eating right because it has
[55:28] Speaker 3: meet it. It made me create an itinerary for my
[55:31] Speaker 3: food on a daily basis. I love Life our X
[55:34] Speaker 3: not only because it has helped me drop some of
[55:36] Speaker 3: the hard those hard areas that are just hard to
[55:39] Speaker 3: get like back little rolls on your side, or that
[55:42] Speaker 3: little gut that you just can't quite get rid of.
[55:44] Speaker 1: It helped me get rid of that.
[55:46] Speaker 3: But Also it makes me think and be intentional about
[55:48] Speaker 3: what I'm going to eat, so I can make sure
[55:49] Speaker 3: I'm getting the nutrients if I'm not gonna be that hungry.
[55:52] Speaker 1: I hope that makes sense.
[55:53] Speaker 3: I'm very much enjoying this product, and like I said,
[55:56] Speaker 3: it just makes me think better about what I'm putting
[55:59] Speaker 3: into my body.
[56:00] Speaker 4: Yeah, it really does matter. I had a checking appointment
[56:04] Speaker 4: and I was like, Okay, I'm losing weight. I see
[56:06] Speaker 4: things on the scale changing, I see the tape measure changing,
[56:10] Speaker 4: but only in the mornings. I'm still having this same issue.
[56:15] Speaker 4: And so I'm talking to the medical professionals the I
[56:19] Speaker 4: don't know who I was trying to do, but I
[56:21] Speaker 4: know that it was like the doctor anyway, I was
[56:26] Speaker 4: glad that you have to do these check ins and
[56:28] Speaker 4: you have to speak to a person like it's.
[56:30] Speaker 1: Not every week.
[56:31] Speaker 4: It's like a when it's time to like renew. Yeah,
[56:35] Speaker 4: They're like, okay, well let's check in. We're not just
[56:38] Speaker 4: going to send you out into the world. What's going on?
[56:41] Speaker 4: How are you feeling? And when I was talking to
[56:42] Speaker 4: her about that, she was saying, and we went through
[56:45] Speaker 4: I've been keeping a diary of the things I was eating,
[56:48] Speaker 4: and so something that I had gotten away from were
[56:50] Speaker 4: my probiotics, and she's like, we've got to get those
[56:53] Speaker 4: back in there for your gut health because you're bloating
[56:57] Speaker 4: every day. And so I was saying that I had
[57:00] Speaker 4: and really gassy, and I won't go too much into
[57:02] Speaker 4: that because like ero, but that was the case, and
[57:05] Speaker 4: so she was like, Okay, this is what you should do.
[57:07] Speaker 1: And it wasn't like I needed another prescription for them.
[57:10] Speaker 1: I have stuff.
[57:11] Speaker 4: So it's just like, okay, let's be conscious of this
[57:14] Speaker 4: and maybe try to cut out some of the things
[57:16] Speaker 4: that you are eating, and let's see if you see
[57:19] Speaker 4: a difference. And it's not as hard as it would
[57:22] Speaker 4: have been I don't know, six seven months ago, because
[57:24] Speaker 4: y'all know.
[57:25] Speaker 1: I love food.
[57:25] Speaker 4: But it's been easier to cut it out because I'm
[57:27] Speaker 4: only eating not that much, probably like what a human
[57:30] Speaker 4: should eat in a day, and not a simil wrestler.
[57:33] Speaker 4: So things are going great. I'm enjoying it, and I
[57:36] Speaker 4: hope that you guys are too. If you've tried it.
[57:39] Speaker 4: If you haven't signed up and you're waiting to pull
[57:41] Speaker 4: the plug, this is the sign to go ahead and
[57:43] Speaker 4: sign up. The QR code is on the screen. Click
[57:45] Speaker 4: the link in the description. If you're listening to this,
[57:48] Speaker 4: doesn't matter how you get there.
[57:49] Speaker 1: Just get there.
[57:49] Speaker 4: We've got a code. It's cocktails. You'll get fifty dollars
[57:53] Speaker 4: off your first month. Everybody is not going to get
[57:56] Speaker 4: the same products. So before you have your appointment, make
[57:59] Speaker 4: sure you go ahead yourself and you give them that information.
[58:03] Speaker 4: And then when they're talking to you, they'll let you
[58:05] Speaker 4: know if you need to do blood work, if you
[58:06] Speaker 4: need to do another appointment, what you need to do,
[58:08] Speaker 4: and what might be the best course of action. And
[58:11] Speaker 4: I'm just saying this not because y'all don't know, just
[58:13] Speaker 4: a friendly reminder. Be honest with the doctors when you're
[58:16] Speaker 4: talking to them. If you drink a lot, if you
[58:17] Speaker 4: drink a lot of caffeine, if you drink a lot
[58:19] Speaker 4: of alcohol, if you don't be doing shit, you are sedentary.
[58:22] Speaker 4: If you haven't worked out in three weeks, don't be
[58:24] Speaker 4: talking about you work out once a week. You don't,
[58:26] Speaker 4: you are sedentary. Because they need to know, Okay, how
[58:29] Speaker 4: many calories should this person be burning? Lots of the science,
[58:32] Speaker 4: tell the truth so that they can get you the
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[58:50] Speaker 3: And speaking of good quality brands, I wanted to talk
[58:52] Speaker 3: really quick about Paradise and Vibe. So y'all know I
[58:56] Speaker 3: host for treats with Paradise and Vibe. Yeah, and now
[59:00] Speaker 3: I have become part owner and.
[59:01] Speaker 1: That, oh congratulations. Yeah, that means a lot.
[59:05] Speaker 3: I pour a lot into them, and I see the
[59:07] Speaker 3: vision and I've always done more than is needed because
[59:11] Speaker 3: I see the vision, and so we have developed This
[59:15] Speaker 3: is our eleventh retreat Sedona. That's crazy, it actually because
[59:20] Speaker 3: it doesn't even feel and they when we were talking
[59:21] Speaker 3: about it, I was like, it doesn't even feel like that,
[59:23] Speaker 3: because you know when people say, like when you even
[59:26] Speaker 3: though it's very hard work to manage people, host people,
[59:30] Speaker 3: pour into people and like make sure people have a
[59:32] Speaker 3: quality experience. Paradise and Vibe is a luxury retreat. It is,
[59:38] Speaker 3: I will say, And I love that they don't they
[59:40] Speaker 3: don't diminish that for anybody.
[59:41] Speaker 1: It's not like you can be like you need to
[59:43] Speaker 1: lower the present. No, you need to make more money
[59:46] Speaker 1: or figure it out. Like it's just because it's like
[59:48] Speaker 1: it's giving you, it's given.
[59:50] Speaker 4: Everything doesn't have to be for everybody.
[59:51] Speaker 1: Everything is not for everybody.
[59:53] Speaker 3: And there were a couple of Cocktails listeners who were
[59:55] Speaker 3: in the comments at one point on YouTube, like six
[59:57] Speaker 3: thousand for a retreat. Yes, but but at the same time,
[1:00:00] Speaker 3: there are other Cocktails listeners that like, have they come
[1:00:03] Speaker 3: and they're reoccurring attendees, doctors, bitch brain, surgeons, lawyers like
[1:00:09] Speaker 3: and they're like, I listen to cocktails. I love connecting
[1:00:13] Speaker 3: with people on retreats because it's just so intimate. And
[1:00:15] Speaker 3: so anyways, well, parents and Vibe we do a lot.
[1:00:18] Speaker 3: We have like a very big dream with this, a
[1:00:21] Speaker 3: very big vision, very big goals like Coachella vision. So
[1:00:25] Speaker 3: we tried we did this Vibe Fest. This is the
[1:00:28] Speaker 3: first time we did this, but this was our eleventh
[1:00:30] Speaker 3: retreat and it was so effective, Like it was there
[1:00:35] Speaker 3: were a lot of letdowns, but there were a lot
[1:00:37] Speaker 3: of lessons learned. But it was also my very favorite
[1:00:39] Speaker 3: retreat because what happened was like most of you probably
[1:00:44] Speaker 3: were alluding to, because you're probably looking at my Instagram,
[1:00:46] Speaker 3: like where Israra did not come?
[1:00:49] Speaker 1: And I'm just gonna do a silence there.
[1:00:52] Speaker 4: Is.
[1:00:53] Speaker 1: Ray did not come to the retreat.
[1:00:57] Speaker 3: And this is the first time we ever even thought
[1:01:00] Speaker 3: about including a celebrity and really thought that this was like,
[1:01:04] Speaker 3: oh my gosh, this retreat is gonna be our best
[1:01:06] Speaker 3: retreat because we have Ra.
[1:01:08] Speaker 1: We're all fans of Ra.
[1:01:10] Speaker 3: We love Ray like I had a I had like
[1:01:13] Speaker 3: a whole I did so I thought. I brought my
[1:01:16] Speaker 3: note cars that I created which had her on it.
[1:01:18] Speaker 3: We had her in a lot of the marketing, and
[1:01:22] Speaker 3: she didn't come. And I'm not gonna get on here
[1:01:25] Speaker 3: and talk crazy about nobody because she got more money
[1:01:28] Speaker 3: than me.
[1:01:29] Speaker 1: But she didn't come, and I was crushed.
[1:01:33] Speaker 3: We were all crushed and we cried and we're like
[1:01:35] Speaker 3: how could the I'm not gonna like it. I've been
[1:01:40] Speaker 3: like a season of life where it's like everything is
[1:01:42] Speaker 3: no Everything that I want has been like nope, no, no,
[1:01:46] Speaker 3: no no, like nothing has been working out. Like it's
[1:01:50] Speaker 3: like you all, it's like you almost get there, you
[1:01:53] Speaker 3: almost get Like it's like you know that commercial where
[1:01:55] Speaker 3: the little man has the fishing rod and the dollars
[1:01:58] Speaker 3: at the end, and he's like almost everybody's trying to
[1:02:02] Speaker 3: grab the dollar, and I feel like I'm just like
[1:02:05] Speaker 3: every angle of my life, I'm just always trying to
[1:02:07] Speaker 3: grab the dollar and I don't get it. And with
[1:02:10] Speaker 3: the ray thing, I was like, dang, like I love
[1:02:13] Speaker 3: it's she coming, Like I got so many things to time. Anyways,
[1:02:16] Speaker 3: another no, I've been happy. If you've been having a
[1:02:19] Speaker 3: lot of no's this year, my heart goes out to
[1:02:22] Speaker 3: you because it's the quotes and stuff and everything everybody's
[1:02:25] Speaker 3: saying sounds good, but when you just keep getting to know,
[1:02:27] Speaker 3: you'd be like everybody shut up. Like so that's where
[1:02:31] Speaker 3: I'm at. It's like everything has just been a fucking no.
[1:02:34] Speaker 3: And and so that happened, and we didn't really know, like, hey,
[1:02:40] Speaker 3: are people going to be mad at me? Because like
[1:02:42] Speaker 3: at the end of the day, it's like I'm the
[1:02:43] Speaker 3: voice of Paradise and vibe. I set the vibe, I
[1:02:45] Speaker 3: curate the vibe, bitch. When I tell you, I learned
[1:02:49] Speaker 3: so much about myself, and like I learned so much
[1:02:54] Speaker 3: about myself, Like when when we had to tell people that,
[1:02:58] Speaker 3: like Ray is not coming. People that didn't come because
[1:03:00] Speaker 3: of me, people that came because like we did offer
[1:03:03] Speaker 3: day passes, and like they came because.
[1:03:05] Speaker 1: Of the Surralien. People were like, honestly, we got so
[1:03:08] Speaker 1: much from y'all already.
[1:03:10] Speaker 3: This has been amazing, Like we the way that y'all
[1:03:14] Speaker 3: are even handling telling us this with grace, the way
[1:03:17] Speaker 3: that I've never hosted like this before. We've never had
[1:03:19] Speaker 3: me on a stage with a microphone, inspiring bitches.
[1:03:22] Speaker 1: That's not how it has been.
[1:03:23] Speaker 3: Like normally, it's like we're at dinner, we're doing stuff,
[1:03:25] Speaker 3: and like I'm walking around curating a vibe.
[1:03:27] Speaker 1: But it's not. It's not it's not like all the
[1:03:30] Speaker 1: focal point on me.
[1:03:31] Speaker 3: Even people that we have a lot of recurring attendees,
[1:03:33] Speaker 3: they have been to almost all at least. There was
[1:03:36] Speaker 3: one guy there. His name was Jonathan Shot. He comes
[1:03:38] Speaker 3: to every retreat. He's only missed one. Yeah, Johnath thank
[1:03:41] Speaker 3: got money. He comes to everyone, He's only missed one.
[1:03:44] Speaker 1: I met Jonathan. Jonathan is a good time.
[1:03:46] Speaker 3: He's a good time. There's another girl, her name is Jessica.
[1:03:48] Speaker 3: She's been to almost everyone. She got money. It's a
[1:03:50] Speaker 3: lot of people that come and they're like, we support you,
[1:03:52] Speaker 3: We support y'all. We said, we like how we feel
[1:03:55] Speaker 3: when we come, Like what y'all pour into this? How
[1:03:58] Speaker 3: how like put together the retreat is and how we
[1:04:00] Speaker 3: can tell that each of you put your heart and
[1:04:03] Speaker 3: your soul in it. This is not easy, Like we're
[1:04:05] Speaker 3: doing stuff with no when people say like do it broke,
[1:04:08] Speaker 3: do it scared? Do it embarrassed? Do it heartbroken? Do
[1:04:12] Speaker 3: it confused? Like that is literally what Paradise and Vibe
[1:04:15] Speaker 3: has been, Like, how are we gonna make this? How
[1:04:18] Speaker 3: are we gonna make this?
[1:04:20] Speaker 1: Like help people?
[1:04:22] Speaker 3: That's what it's all about. Like if you come on
[1:04:24] Speaker 3: this trip and you never travel, you're traveling alone, Like
[1:04:27] Speaker 3: I want you to feel comfortable. If you're gonna come
[1:04:28] Speaker 3: on this trip and you've never been out of the country,
[1:04:30] Speaker 3: I want you to feel comfortable.
[1:04:31] Speaker 1: I want you to feel seen.
[1:04:32] Speaker 3: I want you to feel like you can connect with
[1:04:33] Speaker 3: people and you have a business idea like this one
[1:04:35] Speaker 3: was like all about the big magic.
[1:04:37] Speaker 1: You got an idea, do it.
[1:04:39] Speaker 3: Alama Day, the creator of Topical, she was there and
[1:04:42] Speaker 3: she ended up filling in for Asa Ran taught a
[1:04:44] Speaker 3: whole workshop about what happens as an entrepreneur when shit
[1:04:46] Speaker 3: just doesn't go your way.
[1:04:48] Speaker 1: She was such a beautiful person, a beauty. She was
[1:04:51] Speaker 1: so real. She didn't come on there on some celebrity
[1:04:53] Speaker 1: rich bit shit.
[1:04:54] Speaker 3: And at the end of the day, like Alama Day
[1:04:56] Speaker 3: and Topical, she has the fastest selling skincare brand in Sophora,
[1:05:01] Speaker 3: and she'd be.
[1:05:02] Speaker 4: Taking the black girls on the brand trips, unlike some
[1:05:06] Speaker 4: of these other brands that the big creators you often
[1:05:09] Speaker 4: talk about.
[1:05:10] Speaker 1: Actually for the culture and to sit down and interview
[1:05:13] Speaker 1: her and talk to her about I ever even knew
[1:05:14] Speaker 1: what she looked like until you posted, because she's.
[1:05:16] Speaker 4: Not she doesn't do that trying to be the star
[1:05:19] Speaker 4: at all. Some you got to watch out for too.
[1:05:21] Speaker 1: Yeah.
[1:05:23] Speaker 3: So she's also the youngest black woman. She's still in
[1:05:27] Speaker 3: her twenties. I don't want to get her name. Yeah,
[1:05:29] Speaker 3: she's still in any God, she's the youngest black woman
[1:05:32] Speaker 3: to raise as much as she did in capital for
[1:05:35] Speaker 3: her business, and it's like twenty million.
[1:05:37] Speaker 1: That's a lot of fucking money.
[1:05:39] Speaker 3: And then I sat down when I interviewed her, like girl,
[1:05:43] Speaker 3: like we struggling trying to just like make sure we
[1:05:46] Speaker 3: can show up and record. Patreon a y'all don't even
[1:05:49] Speaker 3: want to get no man anyway.
[1:05:50] Speaker 1: So she was like, I, but I also like the
[1:05:53] Speaker 1: way that I care.
[1:05:54] Speaker 3: I studied for EASTA Ray, Like I was really prepared
[1:05:56] Speaker 3: for her interview and it was going to be a
[1:05:58] Speaker 3: totally different type of may that's why the bitch changed
[1:06:00] Speaker 3: show up. But anyways, we won't do that. Okay, Sorry,
[1:06:04] Speaker 3: I got a little kilter there. Okay, gotta let us feel.
[1:06:08] Speaker 3: Gotta let us feel. With a Lama day, I did
[1:06:10] Speaker 3: the same thing. I'm gonna ask you real questions. I'm
[1:06:11] Speaker 3: not just asking you how you got money. I want
[1:06:14] Speaker 3: to ask everything we can google that. She pulled me
[1:06:17] Speaker 3: aside and she said, let me tell you something, and
[1:06:18] Speaker 3: she was like, I appreciate you so much for not
[1:06:21] Speaker 3: just focusing on like the business part.
[1:06:24] Speaker 1: I asked her about her love life.
[1:06:25] Speaker 3: Have you ever had your Have you ever been so
[1:06:27] Speaker 3: focused on somebody's ashy son that it took you off
[1:06:30] Speaker 3: the course?
[1:06:31] Speaker 4: Valance question for real?
[1:06:33] Speaker 1: Tell me the journey to.
[1:06:35] Speaker 3: This, because you don't just I don't like when people
[1:06:37] Speaker 3: just like wake up and act like you just got success,
[1:06:39] Speaker 3: and if you did, I really don't want to talk
[1:06:41] Speaker 3: to you. Tell me about the journey, and tell me
[1:06:43] Speaker 3: about the hardships, because that's what people are facing.
[1:06:45] Speaker 1: Tell me about what it feels like, what makes you
[1:06:47] Speaker 1: relatable it does.
[1:06:49] Speaker 3: Tell me what it feels like when you keep showing
[1:06:51] Speaker 3: up every fucking day and you still not really making
[1:06:55] Speaker 3: no money off of it. Tell me what it feels
[1:06:58] Speaker 3: like when nobody else sees the VISI.
[1:07:02] Speaker 1: That's what CC was like, Are you gonna be a preacher?
[1:07:04] Speaker 1: Is this like an entry? I was like, no, bitch,
[1:07:06] Speaker 1: like I'm cussing.
[1:07:09] Speaker 4: I got the cussoing preacher too.
[1:07:10] Speaker 1: Now I don't go to his preacher.
[1:07:13] Speaker 4: I think his name is literally the cussing y'all gonna
[1:07:15] Speaker 4: let us know it's somebody that's the cussing preacher. And
[1:07:18] Speaker 4: sometimes you just got to meet people where he's at.
[1:07:20] Speaker 4: That's his whole thing. Anyway, that's not my ministry.
[1:07:23] Speaker 3: Not But so this was the first time that we
[1:07:25] Speaker 3: did like interviews like this. This is the first time
[1:07:27] Speaker 3: where I was like on a microphone and like hyping
[1:07:29] Speaker 3: people up. So I wis I did try to tap
[1:07:31] Speaker 3: into the church. There was a moment where I was like,
[1:07:33] Speaker 3: turn to your neighbor and it was so high, it
[1:07:35] Speaker 3: was it was it was the best experience.
[1:07:38] Speaker 4: Ever need that, especially because some of those people might
[1:07:40] Speaker 4: have went by themselves.
[1:07:41] Speaker 3: A lot of them did. There was a moment where
[1:07:44] Speaker 3: there was a young lady in the bathroom. This is
[1:07:46] Speaker 3: when we Wisa Ray. We still thought she was coming.
[1:07:48] Speaker 3: She was in the bathroom talking in the military or something.
[1:07:50] Speaker 1: I walked in. She was like, and I was like,
[1:07:51] Speaker 1: are you good? She was like, oh, She's like, are
[1:07:53] Speaker 1: you the way that you just hyped us up? You
[1:07:56] Speaker 1: just hyped me up.
[1:07:56] Speaker 3: I'm gonna give Easter Ray my book. You just hype
[1:07:58] Speaker 3: me up to talk. I got my pitch together. I'm
[1:08:00] Speaker 3: gonna give him a book. I said, absolutely you should,
[1:08:03] Speaker 3: but he Si Ray didn't show up, so she didn't
[1:08:06] Speaker 3: get to do that, but she did get a little
[1:08:07] Speaker 3: bit of hype and she It was just great the
[1:08:10] Speaker 3: way we got to pour into people shout out to
[1:08:12] Speaker 3: Teleo Widjid. I reached out to Teleio Wigid and asked her,
[1:08:15] Speaker 3: would you be a sponsor for the show for a
[1:08:18] Speaker 3: paradise and vibe. At the end of the day, as
[1:08:20] Speaker 3: professional as it is ran and as great as it looks,
[1:08:24] Speaker 3: we're a small business and we need dollars. We need
[1:08:27] Speaker 3: people to pour in a lot of people look at it,
[1:08:29] Speaker 3: but like, y'all don't need nothing to know, yes we do.
[1:08:30] Speaker 3: We need to partner with people, We need sponsorship, and
[1:08:33] Speaker 3: so it was amazing that she jumped in on the
[1:08:36] Speaker 3: like literally a few weeks before we was going, and
[1:08:38] Speaker 3: she paid dollars and she gave so much product. And
[1:08:41] Speaker 3: so shout out to Telle Wadges, shout out to all
[1:08:43] Speaker 3: the other sponsors that we had.
[1:08:44] Speaker 2: It was.
[1:08:45] Speaker 3: It ended up being such a great retreat because we
[1:08:48] Speaker 3: we were like teaching about entrepreneurship and the power of
[1:08:51] Speaker 3: big thinking and in literally had to do it in
[1:08:55] Speaker 3: real life. There was a plan and it had to change.
[1:08:59] Speaker 3: And nobody looked at us like fuck y'all. Everybody was like, wow, y'all,
[1:09:04] Speaker 3: thank you.
[1:09:05] Speaker 1: You're really about it. You're really about it? Like you,
[1:09:08] Speaker 1: how do you?
[1:09:08] Speaker 3: How do you perform under pressure? How do you perform
[1:09:10] Speaker 3: when shit doesn't go your way? And I got to
[1:09:12] Speaker 3: see how I personally perform when you're embarrassed that something
[1:09:16] Speaker 3: didn't come out the way that it was supposed to
[1:09:18] Speaker 3: come out. And I'm proud of myself and proud of
[1:09:21] Speaker 3: Paris and Vibe and just proud of how the way
[1:09:22] Speaker 3: when this is my favorite retreat. This was my favorite retreat.
[1:09:25] Speaker 3: And so I just say to anybody who is like
[1:09:27] Speaker 3: me experiencing a bunch of no's and a bunch of
[1:09:29] Speaker 3: failure and a bunch of like shit, you just ain't
[1:09:32] Speaker 3: going how I thought it would be going this year,
[1:09:35] Speaker 3: shout out to you. If you have continued to keep going,
[1:09:38] Speaker 3: and if you're struggling to keep going, I don't know
[1:09:40] Speaker 3: what you need to lift you up, But what I
[1:09:43] Speaker 3: need to lift me up is keep challenging yourself and
[1:09:46] Speaker 3: just keep taking the steps. Keep keep taking the steps,
[1:09:49] Speaker 3: and keep taking the steps. That's what I'm gonna say.
[1:09:52] Speaker 3: And so Paris and Vibe was amazing. Issa Ray did
[1:09:55] Speaker 3: not show up. I'm gonna keep saying that she did
[1:09:57] Speaker 3: not show up, but she did go to invest face.
[1:10:01] Speaker 1: And what was you doing there?
[1:10:03] Speaker 4: Because also, why did invest FST have that competition?
[1:10:08] Speaker 1: I heard about it. I didn't see the content because
[1:10:11] Speaker 1: the money niggas was fighting.
[1:10:12] Speaker 4: That's what I called it, Like it's all internet shit,
[1:10:16] Speaker 4: but the money niggas I call all of the financial
[1:10:19] Speaker 4: literacy men, the money niggas that have podcasts. They were
[1:10:23] Speaker 4: fighting about somebody stilling an idea somebody going to China.
[1:10:29] Speaker 4: Somebody just like a.
[1:10:31] Speaker 1: Lot of like accusing people of copying and owing somebody money.
[1:10:37] Speaker 1: And I said, well, isn't this funny? One?
[1:10:39] Speaker 4: These are all financial literacy podcast people. I thought it
[1:10:43] Speaker 4: was really interesting that y'all preach about financial literacy. You
[1:10:48] Speaker 4: preach about getting business credit and all this different type
[1:10:50] Speaker 4: of credit and all these things. But you let a
[1:10:52] Speaker 4: motherfucker borrow a million dollars or however much it was,
[1:10:56] Speaker 4: and now you on the internet screaming about he owes you,
[1:11:00] Speaker 4: And it's just like, did he borrow the money on
[1:11:02] Speaker 4: the business credit that y'all preach about, or like, what
[1:11:04] Speaker 4: was this about?
[1:11:05] Speaker 2: One? Two?
[1:11:07] Speaker 4: If you are truly teaching people how to do things
[1:11:10] Speaker 4: and teaching people, Okay, this is what I did.
[1:11:13] Speaker 1: This is what you should take from that.
[1:11:15] Speaker 4: This is what you can do that I've learned, not
[1:11:17] Speaker 4: that I'm on the other side, this is what you
[1:11:19] Speaker 4: should do When people do that, well, is that a problem?
[1:11:22] Speaker 4: It just always rubs me the wrong way. When anybody
[1:11:24] Speaker 4: is in a place of influence and they get very
[1:11:26] Speaker 4: upset that they have influenced people and now they see it,
[1:11:29] Speaker 4: it's like, do you not want any do you really
[1:11:31] Speaker 4: want to help people or do you want to profit
[1:11:35] Speaker 4: off of people who aspire to be like you. But
[1:11:37] Speaker 4: the moment somebody actually figures out, Okay, this part that
[1:11:41] Speaker 4: you said is applicable and the rest is not, I'm
[1:11:44] Speaker 4: going to tweak it and do something like, what the
[1:11:46] Speaker 4: fuck anyway? Invest Fest I've never been.
[1:11:49] Speaker 1: I never I don't think i'll I don't know what
[1:11:52] Speaker 1: it's like.
[1:11:52] Speaker 4: So this is obviously I'm hating from the outside of
[1:11:54] Speaker 4: the club. And I'm not even hating. If you want
[1:11:56] Speaker 4: to go to invest Fest, go to invest Fest. I
[1:11:58] Speaker 4: think it's cool if you find some sort of event
[1:12:01] Speaker 4: that is attractive to you and you want to go.
[1:12:03] Speaker 4: But I do think it is some bullshit for her
[1:12:05] Speaker 4: to be at the fucking invest Fest with all these
[1:12:08] Speaker 4: people I don't even know who the fuck I don't
[1:12:12] Speaker 4: really understand because what I saw again outside looking in,
[1:12:17] Speaker 4: I didn't see a lot of people who are known
[1:12:20] Speaker 4: to be like venture capitalists, angel investors, anything like that.
[1:12:25] Speaker 4: It's just like a lot of popular people going to dinners,
[1:12:30] Speaker 4: being in whatever the facility was, sitting on panels talking
[1:12:35] Speaker 4: about business and things, when I don't really know that
[1:12:39] Speaker 4: they know. That's not where I was spending my money.
[1:12:41] Speaker 4: I would look for more niche conferences that do not
[1:12:44] Speaker 4: have that celebrity appeal. Honestly, you guys anything to celebrity.
[1:12:48] Speaker 1: I don't want celebrity off.
[1:12:50] Speaker 4: I was kind of I wanted to say this too.
[1:12:54] Speaker 4: I've never been on a Paradise and Vibe retreat. However,
[1:12:58] Speaker 4: when I look at this him and I've met Ayana
[1:13:02] Speaker 4: and Cassandra and you obviously y'all seem so passionate about it.
[1:13:07] Speaker 1: Well, you are so passionate.
[1:13:08] Speaker 4: I don't even have to say seen the trips look amazing.
[1:13:11] Speaker 4: I have met people and I have had like like
[1:13:15] Speaker 4: I went out when we were in Toronto. I went
[1:13:18] Speaker 4: out and we went and smoked hookah.
[1:13:21] Speaker 1: Who's that was that? Jonathan? Yes, Jonathan. I didn't go.
[1:13:25] Speaker 1: I was to go to bed because I well, we
[1:13:28] Speaker 1: was out smoking.
[1:13:29] Speaker 4: Who can have a good time and talk about all
[1:13:30] Speaker 4: kind of stuff. He told me a lot of stuff,
[1:13:32] Speaker 4: and I was sharing with him. But something that he
[1:13:35] Speaker 4: shared with me that stuck with me is like, how
[1:13:38] Speaker 4: great of an experienced period I send Vibe has been?
[1:13:41] Speaker 4: And I thought it was really great. And I was like, oh,
[1:13:44] Speaker 4: this is like a marker that they're growing in such
[1:13:48] Speaker 4: a great way to book such a big talent. But
[1:13:52] Speaker 4: in the back of my mind, I kept saying, I
[1:13:54] Speaker 4: wonder if they really need that, because I don't. I
[1:13:57] Speaker 4: think people book the trips and again outside looking in,
[1:14:01] Speaker 4: but it seems like people book the trips because of
[1:14:03] Speaker 4: the vibes that you guys truly do curate. It is
[1:14:05] Speaker 4: paradise wherever in the world are going. Y'all are creating
[1:14:09] Speaker 4: on paradise and the vibes are immaculate, and people are
[1:14:12] Speaker 4: going whoever is coming.
[1:14:14] Speaker 1: That's great.
[1:14:15] Speaker 4: I would love to learn from more people, but we
[1:14:18] Speaker 4: don't need them. We need y'all to stay in charge
[1:14:20] Speaker 4: of the retreats so that they are doing what we
[1:14:23] Speaker 4: need them to do and it's.
[1:14:24] Speaker 1: A good time.
[1:14:24] Speaker 4: So I know that it was very disappointing and I
[1:14:27] Speaker 4: hate that for y'all, and I hope people get what
[1:14:32] Speaker 4: they deserve me too, With all due respect is sometimes
[1:14:36] Speaker 4: none is due. But I think that y'all are doing
[1:14:39] Speaker 4: a great job, so fuck it, and maybe y'all just
[1:14:42] Speaker 4: don't need to be booking in people now more.
[1:14:43] Speaker 3: But what I will say is, Lion Babe, we did decide.
[1:14:46] Speaker 3: Lion Babe is a singer she's Vanessa William's daughter, and
[1:14:49] Speaker 3: she was the musical aspect. We never added a musical
[1:14:51] Speaker 3: aspect before, and like I said, we're trying to go
[1:14:53] Speaker 3: big with this, so it's always a different new Yeah.
[1:14:56] Speaker 3: That was a that was It was so after we
[1:14:59] Speaker 3: do we do it immaculate dinner at a farewell dinner,
[1:15:02] Speaker 3: and then after this time we did a musical aspect.
[1:15:05] Speaker 1: It was at the dinner after the dinner, so it
[1:15:07] Speaker 1: was like we did dinner and then afterwards.
[1:15:08] Speaker 3: There was a barn cash yeah, and everybody went and listen,
[1:15:12] Speaker 3: and we weren't sure how it was gonna go.
[1:15:14] Speaker 1: We asked her to do a cappella.
[1:15:15] Speaker 3: If you're familiar with Lion Bab, she does house music
[1:15:17] Speaker 3: and she was nervous to do a cappella. We inspired
[1:15:20] Speaker 3: her to do something different. It was incredible and so
[1:15:23] Speaker 3: now we were like, okay, what we do know is
[1:15:25] Speaker 3: it will be amazing. It doesn't have to be a
[1:15:27] Speaker 3: big artist. You could be a it doesn't matter, like
[1:15:30] Speaker 3: as long as you can sing and you can perform talent,
[1:15:32] Speaker 3: have a performal. Because it felt like MTV unplug It
[1:15:36] Speaker 3: felt like tiny house like it was like it was
[1:15:40] Speaker 3: like a large group of people just looking at the stage.
[1:15:42] Speaker 3: We started doing the electric slide to her look. It
[1:15:44] Speaker 3: was amazing. So I have now since reached out to
[1:15:46] Speaker 3: some of my friends who work for different music What
[1:15:50] Speaker 3: are you called labels?
[1:15:51] Speaker 1: And I'm like, hey, like, what do you.
[1:15:54] Speaker 3: Think about like having some up and coming artists and
[1:15:56] Speaker 3: they can perform at Paradise and Vibe and it can
[1:15:58] Speaker 3: be like a musical aspect.
[1:15:59] Speaker 1: It's good.
[1:16:00] Speaker 3: Was a really good time like her, She did so
[1:16:02] Speaker 3: good and it was amazing because she got her own
[1:16:04] Speaker 3: confidence up.
[1:16:05] Speaker 1: She was like, I don't do a cappella.
[1:16:08] Speaker 3: With her? Yep. It was amazing packed Yeah, impact it was.
[1:16:13] Speaker 3: We learned a lot, and we learned we don't really
[1:16:15] Speaker 3: need celebrities and won't do that ship again.
[1:16:17] Speaker 1: Because fuck that fuck that would have got a hundred that.
[1:16:23] Speaker 1: I just am still just like I love. I can't
[1:16:26] Speaker 1: even that's all right, y'all heroes they do.
[1:16:32] Speaker 4: She wouldn't mind, now, I tell you, I tell you, goddamn,
[1:16:35] Speaker 4: what if Beyonce showed her ass like that?
[1:16:37] Speaker 3: I don't even know what I would do. I don't
[1:16:39] Speaker 3: mean we nervous to meet Beyonce because what if she
[1:16:41] Speaker 3: am nervous? What if you did meet Beyonce and she
[1:16:43] Speaker 3: was like, don't touch me.
[1:16:45] Speaker 4: Well, I wouldn't even try to because that's like invade
[1:16:47] Speaker 4: in personal space because I don't like when everybody.
[1:16:50] Speaker 1: Just feel like. I don't like that either. But just
[1:16:52] Speaker 1: imagine she did some mean ship like you're.
[1:16:53] Speaker 4: Just like like remember when they was in Houston after
[1:16:56] Speaker 4: Hurricane Harvey and Blue Ivy. She didn't know no better
[1:16:59] Speaker 4: and she had held her seeing the homeless it was
[1:17:02] Speaker 4: or feeding everybody because like so much shit was bad.
[1:17:06] Speaker 4: But I feel like it was them green beans and
[1:17:08] Speaker 4: Blue Ivy. If you happen to see this, I know
[1:17:11] Speaker 4: you be on the internet. Girl, I get it because
[1:17:14] Speaker 4: green beans it was probably out the cans.
[1:17:16] Speaker 1: They stink.
[1:17:17] Speaker 3: But also someone who has a sensitivity to smell, I
[1:17:21] Speaker 3: can smell a fart before it comes off of your butthole.
[1:17:22] Speaker 1: So it's like if you, yeah, I don't know.
[1:17:24] Speaker 4: You'd be like, god, damn, here, come here.
[1:17:28] Speaker 3: I have a ctivity to smell, like I can smell
[1:17:32] Speaker 3: if your tooth is riding before you walk up, so
[1:17:34] Speaker 3: I can get because sometimes i'd be like, oh, y'all stink,
[1:17:38] Speaker 3: So I.
[1:17:38] Speaker 1: Get it, get it.
[1:17:39] Speaker 4: I mean, I'm very sensititional noise and obviously sight, and
[1:17:44] Speaker 4: I stop telling people that I don't like seeing certain
[1:17:47] Speaker 4: features and I just stop showing up.
[1:17:50] Speaker 1: Anyways, we ain't get to nothing we's gonna talk about.
[1:17:54] Speaker 1: But that's all right.
[1:17:55] Speaker 4: I hope you guys enjoyed this catchup. You got a
[1:17:59] Speaker 4: cock and she even all these goddamn dates and okay,
[1:18:04] Speaker 4: so I don't what after the comedy show, the people
[1:18:08] Speaker 4: want to know what can you tell us or what.
[1:18:12] Speaker 3: For that? Okay, but like they're here, Okay, there are
[1:18:16] Speaker 3: like a bunch of men, like really really like coming
[1:18:20] Speaker 3: at me for my attention, and I'm enjoying it.
[1:18:21] Speaker 1: I'm not gonna I'm really enjoying it. And I'm like
[1:18:23] Speaker 1: I feel like a woman.
[1:18:25] Speaker 3: So I don't really have a cocktail. But next tomorrow
[1:18:28] Speaker 3: there's a man who's interested me. He's flying me out
[1:18:30] Speaker 3: to LA and I'm getting my own room and it's
[1:18:34] Speaker 3: no sec already was like very clear, like sir, I
[1:18:37] Speaker 3: just needs you. I don't want you to be disappointed.
[1:18:39] Speaker 3: If you're expecting some coach, you're not getting a coach.
[1:18:44] Speaker 1: Let us be clear. I just want to be very god.
[1:18:46] Speaker 1: I know the men be mad. They're like what are
[1:18:48] Speaker 1: you calling? You're flying, I'm putting in the money.
[1:18:50] Speaker 4: What do you want, bro?
[1:18:53] Speaker 1: What did you expect? And I was just like, I
[1:18:55] Speaker 1: just want you to know what I expect. I expect
[1:18:57] Speaker 1: you to be a gentleman. I expect you to know.
[1:18:59] Speaker 1: I'm going to my room every night. This is not
[1:19:01] Speaker 1: me and your room, even though you paid for it.
[1:19:03] Speaker 1: It's my room.
[1:19:05] Speaker 3: And we're gonna go to a common show. We're gonna
[1:19:08] Speaker 3: go to some dinner and let's have some fun show.
[1:19:10] Speaker 1: Yep. I don't want to do anything else, I said,
[1:19:12] Speaker 1: And I'm and don't be bothering me tonight. Is he
[1:19:15] Speaker 1: a comedian? No, he's a businessman. So we're gonna see
[1:19:18] Speaker 1: this business man. He's a businessman. I'm not dating.
[1:19:24] Speaker 3: I will see wait and then next weekend I'm going
[1:19:28] Speaker 3: somewhere else.
[1:19:28] Speaker 1: So what's you say? I'm single? No, that's right. Wait
[1:19:32] Speaker 1: a minute, you're not dated? What is this star to day?
[1:19:35] Speaker 1: I'm stepping out? What's the difference. I don't know.
[1:19:40] Speaker 3: I'm doing what the NIGGASO ain't not serious, That's what
[1:19:42] Speaker 3: I'm saying. It's not don't be trying to claim.
[1:19:44] Speaker 1: A woman who loves to be on the nigga side
[1:19:47] Speaker 1: of things.
[1:19:49] Speaker 4: Welcome to the good life, welcome to the good life,
[1:19:53] Speaker 4: or whatever one of those crazy as niggas said, it's a.
[1:19:55] Speaker 1: Good time over here.
[1:19:56] Speaker 4: Sometimes you just got to lean into that. Stop listening
[1:19:59] Speaker 4: to what these bitch just saying to you. They're probably
[1:20:02] Speaker 4: miserable and they want to escape, and because they cannot,
[1:20:05] Speaker 4: they want you to be in jail with them.
[1:20:07] Speaker 1: It's just like any hood nigga, who know, he got
[1:20:10] Speaker 1: them friends in there.
[1:20:12] Speaker 4: It's like, I ain't ain't even that bad. You ain't
[1:20:13] Speaker 4: gotta pay rent or nothing like, Yeah, bitch, but you're
[1:20:16] Speaker 4: in jail. You have on jail shoes and jail clothes,
[1:20:19] Speaker 4: and you gotta watch your butt every night.
[1:20:20] Speaker 3: You gotta watch your booty. And another thing I would
[1:20:23] Speaker 3: just want to say, as a woman, that's a woman.
[1:20:26] Speaker 3: Sometimes people say that I'm a lot, and then you
[1:20:28] Speaker 3: know what I am, and I want that.
[1:20:30] Speaker 4: And that's what I'm saying, You better be a lot,
[1:20:32] Speaker 4: because if you're not a lot, then you need to
[1:20:34] Speaker 4: get get away from me with that bullshit.
[1:20:38] Speaker 3: And it feels good to say. It feels good to
[1:20:39] Speaker 3: be like, you know, like yeah, you know, hell yeah,
[1:20:42] Speaker 3: I am a lot. I want you to volunteer. I
[1:20:44] Speaker 3: want you to take off my trash. I want you
[1:20:46] Speaker 3: to buy me shit. I want you to love on me.
[1:20:49] Speaker 3: I want you to be present. I want you to
[1:20:50] Speaker 3: give me your time. I want you to buy the flight.
[1:20:52] Speaker 3: I want you to get the hotel. You know what, Yeah,
[1:20:55] Speaker 3: I am a lot, but I also bring a lot,
[1:20:57] Speaker 3: So don't fucking play with me, you bitch ass niggas.
[1:21:02] Speaker 1: And Blue Blue fuck your mama too.
[1:21:08] Speaker 3: Well.
[1:21:08] Speaker 4: You know, sometimes it be is like that, And yeah,
[1:21:13] Speaker 4: I just I mean, I don't know what to say
[1:21:15] Speaker 4: to that, other than I mean, I agree, who cares
[1:21:21] Speaker 4: if you're a lot? I always say this when people
[1:21:24] Speaker 4: say shit that they don't like about me to me
[1:21:27] Speaker 4: too critical. Well guess what, bitch, miyes is open. And
[1:21:30] Speaker 4: what I'm not about to do is sitting here getting
[1:21:32] Speaker 4: played again. I'm too goddamn old. I've been played too
[1:21:35] Speaker 4: many times for way less. You're not about to play
[1:21:37] Speaker 4: me again, not like this. If anybody's getting played, it
[1:21:40] Speaker 4: will be you. This is not a clip neither, but
[1:21:44] Speaker 4: it will be you and not me. Even though I'm
[1:21:47] Speaker 4: not playing those competitive games. I just think it's important
[1:21:51] Speaker 4: to be yourself. And if somebody doesn't like who you are,
[1:21:54] Speaker 4: no matter if it's to anything, to all those words,
[1:21:58] Speaker 4: y'all go back to your English classes and learn some
[1:22:01] Speaker 4: things what words mean things. If it's too much for you,
[1:22:05] Speaker 4: then I'm too much for you, and you can toute.
[1:22:08] Speaker 1: It on away from me, don't. I don't need everyone
[1:22:12] Speaker 1: to like me or love me or any of that.
[1:22:14] Speaker 4: And the sooner that we all become comfortable with not
[1:22:19] Speaker 4: needing everyone to like you, you just need to find
[1:22:22] Speaker 4: that one. And if you die not find them, well
[1:22:25] Speaker 4: that's okay.
[1:22:25] Speaker 1: That's what hobbies are for.
[1:22:27] Speaker 4: And I hope you get some knit a blanket, volunteer
[1:22:30] Speaker 4: or read in silence away from people if you don't
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[1:22:40] Speaker 4: at cocktailspod dot com and then cocktails at cocktailspod dot com.
[1:22:45] Speaker 4: We will be back in the studio next week, so
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[1:23:18] Speaker 1: Other than that, check the description box. Come with us.
[1:23:22] Speaker 4: There's what two three spots left for the lover girls.
[1:23:25] Speaker 3: Spots left for the lover girl layover come also compared
[1:23:29] Speaker 3: us and we have trips planned for next year, one
[1:23:31] Speaker 3: trip Turkey. And if you guys, I've never saved this,
[1:23:34] Speaker 3: do you know? Yeah, I'll tell you for this, we
[1:23:39] Speaker 3: need sponsors. So if you have a wellness company, even
[1:23:41] Speaker 3: if it's not a wellness company, if you have a
[1:23:43] Speaker 3: brand that you would love to you never sponsored, or
[1:23:46] Speaker 3: you want a sponsor, you know somebody that would hit
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[1:23:53] Speaker 1: Also tag you say and a clip and just be like, way,
[1:23:58] Speaker 1: yeas was that where we was in Arizona? Yeah? Just tagger,
[1:24:02] Speaker 1: just be like what happened?
[1:24:03] Speaker 4: Where were you?
[1:24:05] Speaker 1: I'm gonna ask and why did you do this?
[1:24:07] Speaker 2: Bro?
[1:24:08] Speaker 1: Why was she not at the function?
[1:24:09] Speaker 4: But she was in Atlanta, Atlanta, Arizona.
[1:24:11] Speaker 1: Those are why did you have? It's still get your
[1:24:15] Speaker 1: never mind?
[1:24:17] Speaker 4: All right, Well, she's not gonna do it.
[1:24:19] Speaker 1: I don't want to mess up anything.
[1:24:20] Speaker 4: But I'll tell you what. We've got thirty to ninety
[1:24:23] Speaker 4: days and.
[1:24:25] Speaker 1: I'll just come on over. I'll tell you anyway. Check
[1:24:28] Speaker 1: the description box our birthdays were coming up, which is
[1:24:31] Speaker 1: a wish list or something, and put that link in
[1:24:33] Speaker 1: there because oh, an Amazon wish list or something.
[1:24:36] Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, my birthday is in a couple of days.
[1:24:38] Speaker 4: When you hear this, my birthday is the thirteen, my virgo.
[1:24:42] Speaker 4: A lot of people have been sending me messages asking
[1:24:44] Speaker 4: if you're a Virgo too.
[1:24:45] Speaker 1: Nina's a libra im on the cuss, but I'm a
[1:24:47] Speaker 1: libra mm hmm.
[1:24:48] Speaker 4: She's the twenty third.
[1:24:49] Speaker 1: I'm the thirteenth.
[1:24:50] Speaker 4: So that should be very easy to remember. We're just
[1:24:53] Speaker 4: ten days apart. So if you love us like you
[1:24:57] Speaker 4: claim you do, a gift can be nice or even
[1:25:01] Speaker 4: just for me.
[1:25:02] Speaker 1: I don't speak for me. I like just a happy birthday.
[1:25:05] Speaker 4: And if I've done anything or said anything that makes
[1:25:08] Speaker 4: you laugh, cry in a good way, or reflect something
[1:25:12] Speaker 4: to make you better, or happy, or just a good feeling,
[1:25:15] Speaker 4: whatever is good to you, send me a.
[1:25:16] Speaker 1: Message and let me know.
[1:25:18] Speaker 4: Sometimes those little things are the things that keep me going.
[1:25:23] Speaker 1: I love that.
[1:25:23] Speaker 3: I will say for me what I would like, y'all.
[1:25:27] Speaker 3: I'm helping my sister grow a new business that she
[1:25:30] Speaker 3: is in. I hate her husband. I'm sorry, sorry, but
[1:25:34] Speaker 3: I need her to just get on her feet. And
[1:25:37] Speaker 3: so for me, my birthday gift everything is going to her.
[1:25:40] Speaker 3: She has a new business venture that I need people
[1:25:44] Speaker 3: to sign up for. I'm not going to go into
[1:25:45] Speaker 3: the details of it on the show, but like if
[1:25:48] Speaker 3: you were just like you know what, I want to
[1:25:49] Speaker 3: support a woman who made the run.
[1:25:53] Speaker 1: Can I share the link that she sent me?
[1:25:56] Speaker 3: No, because it'll be your link, Like she has to
[1:25:58] Speaker 3: send everybody a separate link. So if you want to help,
[1:26:02] Speaker 3: send me a d M or comment in the YouTube,
[1:26:03] Speaker 3: and then I'll contact you and connect you to her
[1:26:06] Speaker 3: so that we can just help women get up and
[1:26:08] Speaker 3: get out.
[1:26:08] Speaker 1: She should make a little Google form. I made a
[1:26:10] Speaker 1: Google form. She don't know how to use it. I
[1:26:12] Speaker 1: can send the guess oh, I'll.
[1:26:16] Speaker 3: Link, Okay, just yeah, if you just want to help
[1:26:18] Speaker 3: a lady that's what I would like for my birthday.
[1:26:20] Speaker 1: Help my sister.
[1:26:22] Speaker 4: We got to support the families. Anyway, y'all, thank you
[1:26:25] Speaker 4: so much for tuning in again. I hope you enjoyed
[1:26:28] Speaker 4: this episode with just us. Next week's episode, we've got
[1:26:31] Speaker 4: a married couple on and then we're fun.
[1:26:33] Speaker 1: And fly and uh interesting.
[1:26:36] Speaker 4: Y'all should check them out and we'll be back soon.
[1:26:41] Speaker 2: So bye, goodbye bye, b bye bye, good bye bye
[1:26:54] Speaker 2: bye bye bye bye.
[1:27:00] Speaker 1: Tentleck can can tent it

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