# EP. 427 "Reflections, Resolutions, And Back to Riding"

An episode of [Cocktales with Kiki](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1149484402), 2 Jan 2025, 1 h 54 min.

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This episode isn't just about new year resolutions; it's about celebrating small victories and the courage to face life's unexpected challenges. We highlight how overcoming fear and embracing change can lead to profound personal growth. Weird sex heads to the VA with a scandalous tale from a VA facility, reminding us all to "SAY NO TO COWORKERS!" The teachings from the Women Evolve conference and insights from Abraham Hicks offer valuable perspectives on spiritual growth, relationships, and the power of self-awareness for Medinah. For Kiki, looking forward to all the new opportunities that she can't wait to announce and her sex drive has finally come back. Listen to the full episode to get an OG CockTale...it's been 84 years lol! We also tackle the emotional complexities of relationships, particularly understanding and appreciating men's emotional needs. Navigating the intricacies of dating someone with children, we emphasize the importance of setting boundaries and recognizing personal limits. With a blend of humor and authenticity, we share stories of personal misadventures, from high love gummies to unexpected romantic encounters. As we move forward into the new year, we encourage our listeners to embrace personal evolution with optimism and gratitude, always supporting loved ones through life's unpredictable moments. Join Kiki In Curacao- https://www.seekdharma.com/trips/kikis-travel-tribe/ Visit www.soakingwet.com and use code COCKTALES for 10% off For all promo codes and links for promotions in the episode, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/cocktalesads Contact Us! Advice: advice@cocktalespod.com Cocktales: cocktales@cocktalespod.com Weird Sex: weirdsex@cocktalespod.com Live Show Sponsorship: sales@cocktalespod.com Guest Request/ General Inquiries info@cocktalespod.com Get your Vesper and other Jewelry From Crave https://lovecrave.com/cocktales Get Your Merch & Pre-Order Your Card Game Purchase Merch (Next Drop Arrives December 2024) www.imcurioustoknow.com Get Klassy Baste! Learn to Cook with Kiki www.klassybaste.com Join Kiki's Book Club- December's Book- The Boyfriend https://www.patreon.com/kikisaidso Travel with Kiki! We're going to Curacao! Reserve Your Spot Here! Travel With Medinah! Visit ParadiseandVibe.com Interested in sponsoring? Contact sales@cocktalespod.com today! Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cocktales-with-kiki--2818687/support. CONNECT WITH US Follow the host and join the conversation after the episode: Kiki Said So (Kiara Walker) Instagram: @kikisaidso TikTok: @kikisaidso Cocktales With Kiki Instagram:@cocktalespodcast TikTok: @cocktalespodcast Want to be a guest on Cocktales? We are always looking for interesting guests, experts, and storytellers to join the show. If you would like to be considered, please fill out our guest submission form here: Guest Interest Form

## Transcript

[0:02] Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah. Check one two, check one two?
[0:04] Speaker 2: Is this mic On?
[0:05] Speaker 1: Is this mike On?
[0:06] Speaker 2: Hey? Listen man, it's the one and only trunks that
[0:08] Speaker 2: are DJ sis and you're listening to cocktails Dirty Discussions
[0:12] Speaker 2: with Kikia Medina Monroe. Here. Today's cocktail is called a
[0:22] Speaker 2: Sparkling New Year, New Meat. The ingredients you need to
[0:26] Speaker 2: make this New Meat drink are a half a cup
[0:30] Speaker 2: of freshly squeezed grapefruit juice, some ice, one ounce of
[0:35] Speaker 2: lime juice, one and a half ounces of simple syrup,
[0:38] Speaker 2: two ounces of tequila, and then you want some champagne
[0:41] Speaker 2: to top it off. So here's how we're gonna start you, guys.
[0:43] Speaker 2: We're gonna take one of our grapefruit slices and rim
[0:47] Speaker 2: our cup with some nice coarse salt. Get it nice
[0:53] Speaker 2: and coated, okay, And then after that we are going
[0:58] Speaker 2: to get our cocktail shaker, our ice. We're gonna take
[1:05] Speaker 2: all of our liquids, so our two ounces of tequila
[1:11] Speaker 2: are grapefruit juice. I don't really like grapefruit, so I'm
[1:17] Speaker 2: not gonna use a lot. Then we're going to take
[1:23] Speaker 2: our simple syrup, okay, and I forgot about our lime juice.
[1:42] Speaker 2: The fun part. We're gonna shake it. Quila is nice
[1:51] Speaker 2: and cold. One of my pitties be taking that's weird.
[1:59] Speaker 2: Then we are going to poor and it's okay. If
[2:09] Speaker 2: you like a little bit more alcohol, We're not done
[2:11] Speaker 2: you little alcoholics. Happy news. We're gonna top it off, baby,
[2:20] Speaker 2: top it off with a little champon. Top it off
[2:24] Speaker 2: with a champon. Put your garnish because we like pretty
[2:29] Speaker 2: things over here. So you're gonna garnish it with a
[2:32] Speaker 2: gary grapefruit will and a lime will. Cheers, sparkling new Year.
[2:38] Speaker 2: Do me.
[2:41] Speaker 1: Well, you guys, Happy New Year's and welcome back to cocktails,
[2:46] Speaker 1: to your discussions.
[2:47] Speaker 2: How are you, y'all? I'm good? How are you?
[2:50] Speaker 1: I'm joing? Well, did you have some on yours?
[2:53] Speaker 2: I didn't have any song. I was back there Russian
[2:55] Speaker 2: and trying to be a housewife.
[2:57] Speaker 1: Okay, well, I guess that makes when you're husband. Because
[3:01] Speaker 1: now that the top pad off, I was trying to
[3:03] Speaker 1: figure out how my veil went, and I was like,
[3:06] Speaker 1: what is going on my veil?
[3:07] Speaker 3: I don't know.
[3:08] Speaker 1: It's wild, but it's cute cause it's like stuck.
[3:11] Speaker 3: It can't go too many places.
[3:13] Speaker 2: Yeah, I couldn't find a cute way to pen mind.
[3:15] Speaker 2: That's why I just put this one on and it
[3:17] Speaker 2: went better with the kind of like.
[3:19] Speaker 3: It does match.
[3:20] Speaker 1: It kind of reminds me of like the Little Aliens
[3:21] Speaker 1: when they have the two little buns and stuff.
[3:23] Speaker 3: For the antennas.
[3:25] Speaker 2: Kik is twenty twenty five. Not really. Yeah, we're recording.
[3:31] Speaker 1: Them, but it's about to be there like tomorrow it is.
[3:34] Speaker 1: You know, sometimes I dread the new year. Sometimes I
[3:38] Speaker 1: get really excited about it. I am choosing to have
[3:44] Speaker 1: a very positive outlook, and I.
[3:48] Speaker 3: Do have things that I already know about that I'm with.
[3:52] Speaker 1: You need to come on, y'all know, I'm a single mother.
[3:56] Speaker 2: These gentle would have snatched up.
[4:00] Speaker 1: And then she's gonna be barking because she ain't used
[4:02] Speaker 1: to all that, and we're both gonna be traumatized. But
[4:04] Speaker 1: you know, reflecting on this year of motherhood that I've had,
[4:09] Speaker 1: because you know, I adopted my doctor last year, I
[4:12] Speaker 1: think on the uncture dog daughter dog Budge doctor. When
[4:18] Speaker 1: I adopted her last year, it took a while for
[4:21] Speaker 1: her to come to me because I need to make
[4:23] Speaker 1: sure she had her shots, and she had to come
[4:25] Speaker 1: to me all the way from Ohio, she's so dirty.
[4:29] Speaker 1: When I rescued my baby, I was just like, what
[4:31] Speaker 1: was y'all doing in the transportation? Why is my baby?
[4:36] Speaker 1: I'm just glad she's in a good home now where
[4:38] Speaker 1: she is loved and cared for tremendously. I do do
[4:42] Speaker 1: a little bit of gentle parenting, Okay. I noticed that
[4:45] Speaker 1: when I'm around men, they tend to be more stern.
[4:50] Speaker 1: Like my brother with his dog is very different than me.
[4:53] Speaker 1: And I'm like, don't treat my little nephew like that.
[4:57] Speaker 1: And I'm like, my nephew's so he's a Yorkie.
[5:00] Speaker 2: Oh well, you know, I have a little baby or
[5:02] Speaker 2: a kid, and sometimes she ain't no baby.
[5:06] Speaker 1: She's your baby.
[5:07] Speaker 2: She's my baby, and she she gets I gotta get
[5:11] Speaker 2: a little rough with shy though she roams Chicago.
[5:13] Speaker 1: Oh well, little Twizy be getting attacked by dog. He's
[5:17] Speaker 1: been attacked twice. I know, right, somebody's pit bully protecting him.
[5:23] Speaker 2: That's because his parent is a dad in that.
[5:25] Speaker 1: Well, it's not even that the person who had the
[5:29] Speaker 1: pitbull didn't have control of their dog and they had
[5:33] Speaker 1: this wild animal out here.
[5:35] Speaker 2: But what was the second time, Well.
[5:37] Speaker 1: It's not the same dogs, different people having the dog.
[5:41] Speaker 2: The reason why I said that was because when I
[5:43] Speaker 2: have shy out and I know how shy as soon
[5:45] Speaker 2: as I if accidents happened that, but I'd be like, but.
[5:48] Speaker 1: Does you as a parent, I'm saying if different people
[5:51] Speaker 1: have the dog other than who has it? Anyway, this
[5:55] Speaker 1: pit bull two pipuls and attack my little nephew and
[5:58] Speaker 1: I was sad about it. But who Twizzy is okay?
[6:01] Speaker 1: And he still has a strong bark just like shit.
[6:03] Speaker 3: I guess that's the New York YNM. So they be
[6:05] Speaker 3: talking a lot of shit.
[6:07] Speaker 1: Okay, anyway, what have you been up to and what
[6:10] Speaker 1: are you looking forward to?
[6:12] Speaker 2: Well, wait, before we jump into that, I wanted us
[6:15] Speaker 2: to like give everybody a message about going into twenty
[6:20] Speaker 2: twenty five. So whatever you think that your message is
[6:23] Speaker 2: that you want the listeners to hear about leaving twenty
[6:26] Speaker 2: to twenty four and going into twenty twenty five. Here
[6:28] Speaker 2: is what I want to say. Okay, I want y'all
[6:32] Speaker 2: to say good riddance to twenty twenty four and everything
[6:36] Speaker 2: that was in it. Everybody might not make it with
[6:39] Speaker 2: you to twenty twenty five, and you might be shocked
[6:41] Speaker 2: at some of the people that don't. And twenty twenty
[6:43] Speaker 2: four may have been a rough rough, a rough ride,
[6:49] Speaker 2: but twenty twenty five is a totally different year. And
[6:51] Speaker 2: I really do want to try to spark, like you said,
[6:56] Speaker 2: some positivity into going into the new year and really
[6:58] Speaker 2: believing that you're gonna stay true to whatever it is
[7:02] Speaker 2: that you goals that you have set, whatever it is
[7:04] Speaker 2: that you wanted to try. Twenty twenty five just feel
[7:07] Speaker 2: so different. It feels different from any other year that
[7:10] Speaker 2: I've ever entered, and so I really do wish everybody
[7:15] Speaker 2: an amazing year. Something you wanted to try, bitch, try
[7:18] Speaker 2: it a nigga. You wanted to holler at and you
[7:20] Speaker 2: scared of him. Holer at him, sending the letter. Put
[7:22] Speaker 2: the note on his car, Put it under the windshield wiper.
[7:25] Speaker 2: You wanted to lose some weight, bitch, lose the weight.
[7:27] Speaker 2: This is the year. Get in the gym and really
[7:30] Speaker 2: do it. You want some veneers, get them. You want
[7:33] Speaker 2: to get fillers and get some lip plump. Get the
[7:35] Speaker 2: lip plump because I'm about to get my chend done.
[7:37] Speaker 2: Do the things that you want to do this year.
[7:40] Speaker 2: It is twenty twenty five, and everybody did not make it.
[7:45] Speaker 2: Please believe in yourself like for me like twenty twenty
[7:47] Speaker 2: five is the year of actually believing in yourself, not
[7:51] Speaker 2: just reading the books and just telling yourself it and
[7:53] Speaker 2: not believing it. You actually, even if you don't believe it,
[7:58] Speaker 2: you apply it. You just apply it. You'd be like,
[8:01] Speaker 2: I don't even think I could do this shit, Just
[8:02] Speaker 2: do it, Just do it. You scared to speak up
[8:05] Speaker 2: for yourself? Bitch? Speak up? What they gonna do? It
[8:08] Speaker 2: is twenty twenty five. The cars is about to be flying,
[8:11] Speaker 2: and dogs is getting gentle parented.
[8:13] Speaker 1: Kids.
[8:14] Speaker 2: Don't get whooped no more. Speak up for yourself, make
[8:17] Speaker 2: yourself pretty, do what the fuck you want to do,
[8:19] Speaker 2: and stop letting men disrespect you. If the relationship ain't working,
[8:23] Speaker 2: even if he's a great man, leaving. If you not happy,
[8:26] Speaker 2: go somewhere where you are. If you're not being treated
[8:28] Speaker 2: right by your friends, tell him about themselves. If you
[8:30] Speaker 2: want to go to Africa, buy the trip to Africa,
[8:33] Speaker 2: even if you can't afford it. Just start doing shit.
[8:36] Speaker 2: Oh what sorry, I just had to get it. I
[8:39] Speaker 2: just had to get it.
[8:40] Speaker 3: You had to get some things. I understand.
[8:42] Speaker 1: Well, I thought that I was gonna share mine at
[8:45] Speaker 1: the end, after we do our reflections, because it was
[8:48] Speaker 1: on the sand. But I'll say this to start, and
[8:51] Speaker 1: maybe i'll have something else to say. I will say
[8:53] Speaker 1: that the thing that that has been on me lately
[8:56] Speaker 1: that I keep thinking about is the subset you not
[9:01] Speaker 1: serving you. You feel irritated by it constantly. Okay, it
[9:08] Speaker 1: is okay to leave some things. It's okay to stop.
[9:10] Speaker 1: It's okay to say no. It is okay to make changes.
[9:13] Speaker 1: It is okay if you want a change, because the
[9:18] Speaker 1: only way to truly have change in your life is
[9:22] Speaker 1: for you to insight change right, because you don't always
[9:25] Speaker 1: want to be the person where everything is happening to you,
[9:28] Speaker 1: take some control and then stop allowing fear. This is
[9:33] Speaker 1: somethime I'm telling myself. So I'm gonna say it like
[9:35] Speaker 1: I already believe it. But this is something that I
[9:38] Speaker 1: hope that anybody who can relate to this will say
[9:41] Speaker 1: to themselves or whoever, stop allowing fear to keep you
[9:45] Speaker 1: from living your best life, keep you from being happy,
[9:49] Speaker 1: keep you from everything else. Sometimes you never know what
[9:51] Speaker 1: will happen because you're so fearful, and it's crazy when
[9:56] Speaker 1: you find out because I have been on the other
[9:59] Speaker 1: side of this a few times. You're scared of something,
[10:01] Speaker 1: You're fearful of something right, you're afraid to do whatever
[10:04] Speaker 1: that changes, whether it speak up, whether it's do things
[10:07] Speaker 1: differently than you normally would, or take somebody else's advice,
[10:12] Speaker 1: whatever the change is, when you do it, sometimes it
[10:17] Speaker 1: will ignite a special kind of fire under your ass
[10:21] Speaker 1: when you do that. And then change comes and it's bigger, better,
[10:28] Speaker 1: or whatever adjective you want to use, that is better
[10:32] Speaker 1: than what you thought you wanted, and you see that
[10:34] Speaker 1: it could be something else. Sometimes the only thing that's
[10:38] Speaker 1: holding you back is the thoughts and how you talk
[10:40] Speaker 1: to yourself, and.
[10:42] Speaker 2: Like, stop.
[10:42] Speaker 1: That has been what I have been tell myself all year,
[10:46] Speaker 1: and it took me a very long time to believe it,
[10:48] Speaker 1: but I'm believing it now. It's still work in progress,
[10:51] Speaker 1: but you got to stop doing it and just like
[10:53] Speaker 1: it's okay. Nothing is wrong with that. So I hope
[10:57] Speaker 1: that everybody celebrated New Years in a safe way. I
[11:01] Speaker 1: hope nobody got themselves into any predicaments. But on the
[11:07] Speaker 1: spirit of positivity, I hope that you continue to think
[11:10] Speaker 1: about it and don't just do it right now because
[11:13] Speaker 1: it's the new year. Keep checking in with yourself, keep
[11:16] Speaker 1: checking in with anyone you care about throughout the year,
[11:19] Speaker 1: and just try to keep the spirit alive and don't
[11:21] Speaker 1: let it die in February because we all know that
[11:24] Speaker 1: that happens, and you know, life be life, it happens,
[11:27] Speaker 1: but just try to just try to keep going.
[11:30] Speaker 2: Yeah. I was listening to the Woman Evolved podcast and
[11:34] Speaker 2: the guest was doctor Anita Phillips, and one thing that
[11:37] Speaker 2: she said and it was just like it made everything
[11:39] Speaker 2: just so like sometimes the New York can feel like
[11:41] Speaker 2: all this pressure and you're like, oh, what is the
[11:43] Speaker 2: year gonna be do? And she was like, you know what,
[11:46] Speaker 2: I started to look at it like if I wake
[11:47] Speaker 2: up on January first and I ain't able to take
[11:50] Speaker 2: a deep breath in and breathe out, I made it.
[11:55] Speaker 2: Commend yourself for that. You made it. You made it, just.
[11:58] Speaker 1: You made it. Yeah. So before we get into everything
[12:03] Speaker 1: else that we're going to talk about today, I do
[12:05] Speaker 1: have a little weird sex story.
[12:09] Speaker 2: You said a man is not a necessity.
[12:12] Speaker 1: A man is a luxury like dessert.
[12:15] Speaker 4: Yeah, a man is absolutely not necessity.
[12:18] Speaker 1: Did you mean that to sound meaning bitter, Oh not
[12:22] Speaker 1: at all. I adore dessert. I love men. I think
[12:26] Speaker 1: men are the coolest, but you don't really need them
[12:28] Speaker 1: to live these We made some bad decisions and I
[12:36] Speaker 1: just got to tell you about it, because y'all, this
[12:38] Speaker 1: is another crazy story that y'all sent me. And hopefully
[12:42] Speaker 1: these people don't bring this behavior into the new year,
[12:45] Speaker 1: or at least into the net workplace, right Scared, Well,
[12:53] Speaker 1: I can't even dissuade you from that feeling. All right,
[12:57] Speaker 1: So this story is about some people working at a
[13:02] Speaker 1: VA facility. Now I'm sorry, not this service that I'm
[13:09] Speaker 1: about to talk about, though, we are not thinking them
[13:11] Speaker 1: for this, and it just gave me a flashback to
[13:14] Speaker 1: this summer when I was in the hospital with somebody
[13:16] Speaker 1: because they went to the VA hospital and I was
[13:19] Speaker 1: pissed off and I wanted to write into some lobbyists
[13:22] Speaker 1: to find out who is over veterans affairs, because it
[13:25] Speaker 1: ain't no way that people been out here serving our
[13:28] Speaker 1: country for however long. I don't care if they did
[13:30] Speaker 1: a short sin or a long sin. And these people
[13:32] Speaker 1: walking around with missing limbs, missing eyes and their minds
[13:35] Speaker 1: are fucked and y'all are just being lax, But anyway,
[13:39] Speaker 1: I don't even know what's gonna happen with the VA
[13:42] Speaker 1: in the future come a couple of weeks. But anyway,
[13:45] Speaker 1: there was an investigation about a VA facility out in Tennessee. Y'all,
[13:50] Speaker 1: twelve officials who worked down there decided that they were
[13:55] Speaker 1: feeling frisky.
[13:58] Speaker 3: And they decided to have an origin.
[14:01] Speaker 1: One employee also has sex with thirty two different coworkers.
[14:09] Speaker 3: Way, y'all keep sucking at the job.
[14:12] Speaker 1: I don't think working down there is stressful because it
[14:14] Speaker 1: don't seem like too many people doing too much.
[14:16] Speaker 3: It seems pretty lax.
[14:18] Speaker 1: But y'all had an orgy and then somebody else went
[14:23] Speaker 1: for thirty two different people. That is just wild.
[14:26] Speaker 3: So there's been this whole.
[14:29] Speaker 1: Investigation going on because obviously that is not okay. The
[14:33] Speaker 1: VA officials in the state have resigned amid the probe.
[14:38] Speaker 1: This is where it was, the Mountain Home VA Medical
[14:42] Speaker 1: Center also known as James H. Quillen VA Medical Center.
[14:47] Speaker 1: So if that's where you've been.
[14:49] Speaker 3: Going or you know somebody who.
[14:51] Speaker 1: They worked there, this is a hospital.
[14:53] Speaker 2: And they just decided to have an orgy in the hospital.
[14:57] Speaker 1: While people over there losing their minds probably sitting on themselves.
[15:00] Speaker 1: They dying, they got fevers, they got COVID, all kinds
[15:04] Speaker 1: of stuff is happening. Like anybody who has been in
[15:06] Speaker 1: the military can go to the VA facility and they
[15:09] Speaker 1: are waiting for help. A waiting room down there is
[15:11] Speaker 1: scary because you see people like all jokes is like
[15:14] Speaker 1: they be down there coding and stuff. It's like stressful
[15:17] Speaker 1: and it's like you see the workers just chilling. And
[15:19] Speaker 1: now to know somebody in the back was having an orgy,
[15:23] Speaker 1: I would know when they gonna investigate down over there
[15:26] Speaker 1: indicator off Clearmont Road, because it's a reason it's real.
[15:29] Speaker 3: Slow over there.
[15:30] Speaker 1: I don't know, but I mean, I'm just saying somebody
[15:32] Speaker 1: might want to look into it. Anyway, They was doing
[15:36] Speaker 1: too much over there. So I just want to tell
[15:38] Speaker 1: everybody who keeps thinking about fucking their coworkers and especially
[15:41] Speaker 1: fucking at work, please don't. But if you are what
[15:45] Speaker 1: at a time, because god damn, you're doing a whole orgy,
[15:48] Speaker 1: and then it's like a thirty two Well maybe the
[15:50] Speaker 1: thirty two coworkers were over a course of time, but
[15:53] Speaker 1: a twelve person orgy, twelve of y'all need to be
[15:57] Speaker 1: working because somebody is in the waiting room and I
[15:59] Speaker 1: just don't think that's okay, And not thank you for
[16:03] Speaker 1: y'all service, but thank you to all the other vet services. Anyway.
[16:08] Speaker 3: That's it for We're sex this week.
[16:10] Speaker 2: Y'all stop, All right, ladies. You know we love to
[16:15] Speaker 2: come out with the podcast every week and make y'all
[16:17] Speaker 2: laugh and kiki and think deeply. But we also like
[16:19] Speaker 2: to make sure we give you tips on how to
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[16:53] Speaker 2: some in the car, keep some in my room, like
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[17:00] Speaker 2: not really what they call but I like to calm
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[17:12] Speaker 2: just like, you know, I don't know what I need.
[17:14] Speaker 2: I'm kind of feeling like a dry Sahara desert down there.
[17:18] Speaker 2: Give her this for Christmas. These are good stocking stuffers
[17:21] Speaker 2: and they won't be offended. Be like, girl, I'm just
[17:22] Speaker 2: trying to help you. It's cuffing season and if you
[17:25] Speaker 2: miss the season, you really need to prepare with some
[17:27] Speaker 2: soaking wet check it out. Have you ever had sex
[17:30] Speaker 2: with a coworker?
[17:33] Speaker 1: We're not gonna worry about that. If I did this show,
[17:37] Speaker 1: wasn't down at the job. I'm like, you just can't.
[17:40] Speaker 2: Wait till you get home? Like right, why?
[17:45] Speaker 1: I definitely have yeah, but I wasn't doing it at work.
[17:48] Speaker 1: And I am removed from that life.
[17:50] Speaker 2: That is so yeah, like it is really good. I
[17:54] Speaker 2: am removed from that life too.
[17:55] Speaker 1: It's depressed.
[17:56] Speaker 2: I was poor and said, true, I.
[17:59] Speaker 1: Was every negative thing that you could think, but ugly.
[18:03] Speaker 2: Wasn't That's what I was getting.
[18:07] Speaker 3: But I was delusional.
[18:09] Speaker 1: I was sad. I was depressed my self. Work was
[18:12] Speaker 1: that was at the bottom. It was up underneath.
[18:15] Speaker 2: I still look at you my sex work, well wait,
[18:18] Speaker 2: not sex work, sex. I said, now wait a minute,
[18:20] Speaker 2: that work, sex work, sex sex situation. And I just
[18:26] Speaker 2: be like, I just can't believe that that happened. If
[18:31] Speaker 2: you guys are you know O G cocktails listeners and
[18:36] Speaker 2: you know it was the husband and the wife and.
[18:38] Speaker 3: It was to get into it.
[18:41] Speaker 2: Yeah, that was just I looked back on it, I'm
[18:43] Speaker 2: just like, where was I like, what was going on?
[18:47] Speaker 1: I was lost? And so sometimes anybody who like jumps
[18:52] Speaker 1: in the show, sometimes it is good to bring back,
[18:56] Speaker 1: bring those things back up because maybe people don't know.
[18:58] Speaker 1: Sometimes we can come down hard on people. But I
[19:00] Speaker 1: think that for the both of us, when we come
[19:02] Speaker 1: down real hard, it's because we've been there and you
[19:05] Speaker 1: need to go back, yeah and listen, because now we
[19:08] Speaker 1: are reliving it and we just want to save you.
[19:12] Speaker 1: I try not to talk to people too hard because
[19:14] Speaker 1: I don't really receive that well, but sometimes y'all do.
[19:16] Speaker 1: So I just try it out and whatever we can
[19:19] Speaker 1: do to help y'all.
[19:20] Speaker 2: I don't talk to people really hard unless I'm drunk.
[19:22] Speaker 2: And then if I'm not drunk and I'm talking to
[19:24] Speaker 2: you about like a situation that I've been in, I'm
[19:27] Speaker 2: more so just being like, I'm gonna be very soft
[19:29] Speaker 2: with you because i know you're still gonna do it,
[19:32] Speaker 2: point blank period. You don't care about the experience, you
[19:34] Speaker 2: don't care about what happened, You're still gonna do it.
[19:37] Speaker 2: But I'm just here to let you know you're gonna
[19:39] Speaker 2: sit in the bathtub and cry.
[19:40] Speaker 1: A lot of times, I think that sometimes people just
[19:43] Speaker 1: want to be hurt. They don't really want advice, and
[19:45] Speaker 1: that's the best time because then I don't need to
[19:47] Speaker 1: be getting myself all stressed out about whatever you're going through.
[19:51] Speaker 1: And I'm going to be here every step of the
[19:52] Speaker 1: way to hear the tea. I would like to hear
[19:54] Speaker 1: it because I'm not trying to make the mistakes no more.
[19:57] Speaker 1: But the stories are entertaining. It's sad that it's somebody
[20:00] Speaker 1: were like, well, go ahead and tell a girl all listen.
[20:02] Speaker 1: I can be a listening ear and if you want feedback,
[20:04] Speaker 1: just say something and I'll give it. But yeah, anyway,
[20:09] Speaker 1: that's it for word sex. In the spirit of reflecting
[20:11] Speaker 1: in the new year, last year, we did a whole recap.
[20:15] Speaker 2: I loved that our last year's New Year's episode. That
[20:17] Speaker 2: was fun because it seems like it was just yesterday.
[20:20] Speaker 2: It's actually twenty twenty five. I know, it's so crazy,
[20:25] Speaker 2: such a long way away. I was watching something on
[20:27] Speaker 2: TV and they it was like a long time ago,
[20:31] Speaker 2: but when we were alive. I'm not that old, but
[20:34] Speaker 2: it was like, Oh, the future in twenty twenty five.
[20:36] Speaker 2: It don't look like that, but it's very close. There's
[20:38] Speaker 2: a lot of things that are happening. I'm like, that's
[20:40] Speaker 2: so crazy.
[20:41] Speaker 3: That this is the future.
[20:43] Speaker 1: That movies that haven't been around for two hundred years,
[20:47] Speaker 1: we're thinking about it and we're here.
[20:49] Speaker 2: Let me ask you a question. Yes, and you don't
[20:51] Speaker 2: have to say who Is there anybody I.
[20:52] Speaker 1: Won't You ain't gotta worry about me. You ain't gotta
[20:57] Speaker 1: worry about me.
[20:59] Speaker 2: Is there anybody who is not making it to twenty
[21:04] Speaker 2: twenty five with you? Not that because they died, not
[21:06] Speaker 2: like not like that, but just like you're just like
[21:09] Speaker 2: they're you're really I thought you were coming with me
[21:12] Speaker 2: and you're not.
[21:15] Speaker 1: I shout to say yes, but no, no, I think
[21:19] Speaker 1: that I did a lot of cutting off the past.
[21:22] Speaker 2: Two years you were snipping into you.
[21:25] Speaker 1: Was like, I need change, especially last year when I
[21:28] Speaker 1: was stressed the fuck out. Oh nobody, you you are
[21:31] Speaker 1: stressing me out more. My hair is falling out. I
[21:33] Speaker 1: am tired of picking up all this hair off the
[21:35] Speaker 1: bathroom floor. Yeah, I think that everybody. I think. I
[21:41] Speaker 1: don't know. And if I forgot about you, well oops,
[21:43] Speaker 1: you slid through the cracks. But you will get the
[21:45] Speaker 1: boot before February. I don't think I'm leaving anybody behind
[21:48] Speaker 1: this year. I don't think ohe not. I have really liked.
[21:55] Speaker 1: It's not been that many people that I have interacted with,
[22:00] Speaker 1: and it was lonely at first it was different, but
[22:06] Speaker 1: as the year went on, it was like I forgot
[22:09] Speaker 1: and it's like, oh, well, maybe you feel lighter because
[22:12] Speaker 1: you're not even thinking about that anymore.
[22:14] Speaker 3: And it was weighing you down. And that's part of it.
[22:17] Speaker 1: And sometimes you do have to let people go. Sometimes
[22:21] Speaker 1: it's four seasons, sometimes it is forever, and that's all right.
[22:26] Speaker 1: I try not to look at look at it always
[22:28] Speaker 1: as a bad thing unless they did something really bad.
[22:31] Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't think, so what about you?
[22:36] Speaker 2: M hm, Yeah, unfortunately a lot of people are just
[22:40] Speaker 2: it's just two people and it's sad. And it's really
[22:43] Speaker 2: interesting because I've been doing a lot of reflecting and
[22:45] Speaker 2: a lot of recapping. It's just reels running in my head,
[22:49] Speaker 2: like personal reels. You ever have that happen where it's.
[22:53] Speaker 1: Like I said, you can put it together just so
[22:56] Speaker 1: I could watch it like on the TV to let
[22:58] Speaker 1: it hit home for real.
[22:59] Speaker 2: Yeah, you wish you could that. Maybe that's coming in
[23:01] Speaker 2: twenty twenty five where you can just like, maybe can
[23:03] Speaker 2: bluetooth your mind to the TV?
[23:05] Speaker 1: What if?
[23:06] Speaker 3: But I wouldn't want that because what if it glitches.
[23:09] Speaker 1: And it's just stuck, or like what if it glitches
[23:11] Speaker 1: and it starts playing when everybody don't need to see you?
[23:14] Speaker 1: Might it could be like this right here, next thing
[23:17] Speaker 1: we know, the monitor for the camera starts glitching, is
[23:20] Speaker 1: replaying everything, and I don't need everybody to see everything.
[23:23] Speaker 2: I don't. That would be a really good Black Mirror episode.
[23:26] Speaker 2: And it's like, all of a sudden, you have to
[23:27] Speaker 2: really master the craft of alignment.
[23:30] Speaker 1: Oh okay, we gotta stop saying this.
[23:32] Speaker 2: They're gonna start stealing our ship and on Netflix and
[23:35] Speaker 2: I'm sewing. Somebody give me my royalties. So I was
[23:40] Speaker 2: gonna say, well, wait before I say speaking of the
[23:43] Speaker 2: Instagram reels running your head, it's really interesting. I was
[23:45] Speaker 2: telling my sister the other day. I was like, wow,
[23:46] Speaker 2: sometimes I feel crazy, like the way that I see
[23:48] Speaker 2: these visions in my mind, Like it's it's.
[23:50] Speaker 3: Like that's a raven Bro.
[23:52] Speaker 2: But it'd be like movies and it's like, there's this
[23:55] Speaker 2: me in my head and I'm standing there and everything
[23:59] Speaker 2: was going so great. I was so happy everybody was there.
[24:03] Speaker 2: I'm looking beautiful and I'm still in there looking I
[24:06] Speaker 2: still look good, and she's in there, like Medina's in there,
[24:10] Speaker 2: and it's a difference. It's not me Medina. It's a
[24:12] Speaker 2: this the real Medina in my mind, real r E
[24:15] Speaker 2: E L. It's this real. And now she's standing there
[24:19] Speaker 2: and she's like, okay, bish, why did we just push pause?
[24:22] Speaker 2: Where the fuck did everybody go? Like she's literally I
[24:24] Speaker 2: can see her right now. She's standing there just looking
[24:28] Speaker 2: like we were just having a great time. What the
[24:32] Speaker 2: fuck happened? It's absolutely weird. I've never had this type
[24:35] Speaker 2: of experience before. So I can see her though, but
[24:39] Speaker 2: she's like, I'm like, just hold on, we're gonna push
[24:40] Speaker 2: play again in a second. We just had to. We
[24:43] Speaker 2: had to, We had to pause this. But there's definitely
[24:47] Speaker 2: some some people who won't make some people who won't
[24:50] Speaker 2: make it. And it's weird because when I went to
[24:51] Speaker 2: the Woman Evolved Conference for my birthday, it was like
[24:56] Speaker 2: that was my gift to myself. Yes, and I was
[24:58] Speaker 2: very I was very intentional about it. I was very like,
[25:01] Speaker 2: I'm going. I was so excited about it. And that
[25:03] Speaker 2: was something where I was like, I've never been to
[25:05] Speaker 2: a woman's conference. I told you that, and I knew
[25:08] Speaker 2: the theme was surrender, but I didn't know what I
[25:11] Speaker 2: was surrendering. And I'm not like, I'll talk about it
[25:15] Speaker 2: eventually on the show. Right now won't be the day
[25:17] Speaker 2: because I'm not I haven't really like get a process. Yeah,
[25:20] Speaker 2: you had process things. And so when I was there,
[25:22] Speaker 2: I went with my sister, me and my one of
[25:26] Speaker 2: my childhood friends, Sharina. She ended up we didn't plan this,
[25:28] Speaker 2: but she was there and so we went together. And
[25:30] Speaker 2: the whole theme of the Woman Evolved conference was surrendered.
[25:34] Speaker 2: And Sarah Jakes kept talking about how like when y'all
[25:38] Speaker 2: get back home from this conference, shit is gonna shake up.
[25:42] Speaker 2: And I was like, bitch, I shouldn't be on the
[25:44] Speaker 2: past their beach.
[25:44] Speaker 1: But I was like, who you talking about?
[25:47] Speaker 2: I felt a fandy like I felt at TAG. I'm good,
[25:50] Speaker 2: Like no, I got really happening. I was in there
[25:53] Speaker 2: and I was worshiping and I was doing all. It
[25:55] Speaker 2: was great. It was an amazing experience. I saw Carla
[25:57] Speaker 2: there be someone was there. It was amazing. And I'm like,
[26:01] Speaker 2: everybody's crying talking about what they about.
[26:02] Speaker 1: The surrender and you feel like you don't have surrender.
[26:06] Speaker 2: And then I got home and Kiki hit so much
[26:13] Speaker 2: fell apart in my life in twenty twenty four that
[26:15] Speaker 2: I that I haven't talked about and so going into
[26:19] Speaker 2: twenty twenty five without certain people, it is so painful.
[26:29] Speaker 2: But I also see the dang like you needed it,
[26:35] Speaker 2: you know what I mean.
[26:36] Speaker 1: When you're like, sometimes it's almost like so cliche, but
[26:42] Speaker 1: sometimes those most painful lessons when you thought that you
[26:46] Speaker 1: couldn't pick yourself back up again are the ones that
[26:50] Speaker 1: you really need, and they're also the ones that are
[26:53] Speaker 1: going to be the true mark of the change, like
[26:58] Speaker 1: a real change, Like you know, how we try to
[27:00] Speaker 1: make little changes all the time, and that's great, but
[27:04] Speaker 1: sometimes things happen and a big change happens where you
[27:08] Speaker 1: don't go back. You not spending the block, You are
[27:11] Speaker 1: not repeating that even if you have to build a
[27:15] Speaker 1: wall up. I don't advise that for everybody, but if
[27:19] Speaker 1: you feel like you are a weak ass bitch like
[27:21] Speaker 1: I have been and can be, and many times, you
[27:24] Speaker 1: have to and fuck what everybody says about you having
[27:26] Speaker 1: your wall up. If you know that you do not
[27:28] Speaker 1: make good decisions, put that wall up until you are
[27:32] Speaker 1: ready and feeling confident in yourself to make good decisions,
[27:35] Speaker 1: because you gotta do it. Because when you look back
[27:37] Speaker 1: on your when I've looked back on my reels, it's
[27:40] Speaker 1: just like what in the Too B movie?
[27:42] Speaker 3: Hell is going on?
[27:44] Speaker 2: Bitch?
[27:45] Speaker 1: You weren't raised like this. You wouldn't advise anybody else
[27:49] Speaker 1: to do this. You're not that fucking bored. You can
[27:52] Speaker 1: keep telling yourself, Oh it's bored, I did this.
[27:54] Speaker 2: Oh was bored.
[27:55] Speaker 1: I did this, and that's part of it, but like,
[27:57] Speaker 1: what is it really? You weren't feeling like you wanted
[28:02] Speaker 1: to feel, and you were doing things that you knew
[28:05] Speaker 1: would fill your voice quickly even if they weren't real
[28:09] Speaker 1: is that what you want for your whole life time
[28:11] Speaker 1: is passing you by.
[28:12] Speaker 2: And sometimes even to that, like sometimes sometimes you really
[28:16] Speaker 2: don't realize it because like I was saying, like in
[28:20] Speaker 2: the Christmas Eve episode, like your mind, your brain will
[28:24] Speaker 2: sometimes try to save you in a way where it's
[28:27] Speaker 2: also like turning against you because it's romanticizing something that
[28:31] Speaker 2: shouldn't be, whether it's a friendship, whether it's how you're eating,
[28:34] Speaker 2: whether it's just whenever you're allowing in your life and
[28:37] Speaker 2: you keep trying to like push things and make things
[28:41] Speaker 2: work and fit triangles into circles. It can be the
[28:44] Speaker 2: slightest thing. Everything doesn't have to be like a nigga's
[28:45] Speaker 2: going upside your head and it's like you really needed that.
[28:48] Speaker 2: Sometimes it can be like the most subtle things and
[28:50] Speaker 2: you have these like it's so interesting because like twenty
[28:54] Speaker 2: twenty four was really rough for me, but in the
[28:56] Speaker 2: same breath, I can say that like God was taught
[29:00] Speaker 2: talking to me, and I didn't know it was God
[29:02] Speaker 2: talking to me because I've never really had like a
[29:04] Speaker 2: spiritual journey like I have this year this year, and
[29:08] Speaker 2: so I didn't know how to tell like what it like.
[29:12] Speaker 3: How to identify it?
[29:14] Speaker 2: Yeah, how to identify I was having like these moments happened,
[29:16] Speaker 2: and these in moments where it was like, but this
[29:18] Speaker 2: doesn't make sense, This doesn't make sense that this is
[29:22] Speaker 2: something I should be any when it's going so great,
[29:24] Speaker 2: and sometimes it doesn't make sense. And it's like Kiki,
[29:27] Speaker 2: when I tell you, it's just been like a total
[29:32] Speaker 2: shift of like going into twenty twenty five and really
[29:35] Speaker 2: like okay, bitch, here we go. And for me, the
[29:45] Speaker 2: I feel like I'm buckling up for like a healing journey,
[29:48] Speaker 2: one that I've never experienced before, and I thought I
[29:51] Speaker 2: had before, but this is a totally different type. It's
[29:54] Speaker 2: like I'm scared, but I don't say scared in a
[29:58] Speaker 2: negative way though, it's just like what makes you can't
[30:01] Speaker 2: see that I can't see what's unfolding, but I know
[30:06] Speaker 2: that it's good.
[30:07] Speaker 1: It's like scary because it's like you're venturing off into
[30:09] Speaker 1: the unknown.
[30:11] Speaker 2: And making like decisions on my own to be like
[30:14] Speaker 2: you can't come. It's not like this dramatic unfolding happen.
[30:18] Speaker 2: It's just like I gotta listen now. It's very interesting.
[30:22] Speaker 2: Twenty twenty five is very interesting, it's very there's a plan.
[30:30] Speaker 1: Do you find that lately you have been spending a
[30:33] Speaker 1: lot more time by yourself in your own thoughts without
[30:38] Speaker 1: other people's influence.
[30:40] Speaker 2: I feel like lately I've been getting a lot of
[30:43] Speaker 2: influence from God.
[30:45] Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I mean. But you're alone, like no
[30:47] Speaker 1: people here that you can see intide. Isn't it crazy
[30:52] Speaker 1: how you see things different, how you feel different in
[30:56] Speaker 1: those moments.
[30:57] Speaker 2: And it changes your life and you be trying to
[31:00] Speaker 2: hold on this stuff, and it's just I don't know.
[31:03] Speaker 2: I'm sharing this because like I feel like if you
[31:11] Speaker 2: just got to share stuff, I feel like people don't
[31:13] Speaker 2: really share a lot of like your journeys when it's
[31:15] Speaker 2: like kind of rough, and I want to because somebody
[31:19] Speaker 2: listening to the show might be feeling like, dang, I
[31:21] Speaker 2: feel like I'm losing everything. But try to find like
[31:24] Speaker 2: the silver lining in it and pay attention to what
[31:29] Speaker 2: you're supposed to learn in the the loss, in the struggle,
[31:34] Speaker 2: in the you keep getting done dirty by niggas, in
[31:38] Speaker 2: the you keep settling for like less, and really you
[31:43] Speaker 2: think you.
[31:44] Speaker 1: Even what you don't want, because sometimes it's not necessarily less,
[31:47] Speaker 1: it's different and it's just like, well, I got this,
[31:50] Speaker 1: so I should keep it, but it's not really what
[31:52] Speaker 1: you want.
[31:53] Speaker 2: And sometimes those things start to unfold and it's okay.
[31:56] Speaker 2: I was listening to an Abraham Hicks. I listened to
[31:59] Speaker 2: a lot out of Abraham Higgs. Abraham Hicks. Now she
[32:02] Speaker 2: is somebody, but if you start listening to her, you
[32:04] Speaker 2: are going to be like, what the fuck is she
[32:06] Speaker 2: talking about? And then one day you'll be like, oh
[32:08] Speaker 2: my gosh, like it makes sense because because it makes sense.
[32:12] Speaker 2: And she talks a lot about like letting people go
[32:15] Speaker 2: or letting things go, even if it's somebody dying. And
[32:19] Speaker 2: I won't go into it now because it'll bore you.
[32:21] Speaker 2: But if you guys, are going through something where you
[32:24] Speaker 2: feel like you're experiencing a lot of loss, so you
[32:26] Speaker 2: feel like your life just got flipped the fuck upside down,
[32:30] Speaker 2: I'm talking about the fuck upside down you going to
[32:34] Speaker 2: church on a Saturday. I was at church Saturday, Saturday,
[32:37] Speaker 2: a Saturday. You know what.
[32:40] Speaker 1: I'm not making fun of this situation, but I told
[32:43] Speaker 1: one of my homegirls, I said, we need to check
[32:45] Speaker 1: on our friend because we text friends and we'll say, hey, girl,
[32:50] Speaker 1: what you doing this weekend and she said, nothing, girl off,
[32:53] Speaker 1: but I'm going to church on Sunday. And she don't
[32:55] Speaker 1: never go to church. And so I'm like, it's nothing
[32:57] Speaker 1: wrong with that.
[32:58] Speaker 2: That is good.
[32:58] Speaker 1: But for a person who does not go to church
[33:01] Speaker 1: and they suddenly going to church and they just said that,
[33:04] Speaker 1: they just left church too, like it's Saturday tomorrow, it's Sunday.
[33:09] Speaker 1: You are not a Seventh day Adventist. What's tea says?
[33:12] Speaker 1: You can't see you wasn't at choir rehearsal, Like what's
[33:15] Speaker 1: going on? And again, nothing wrong with it. But sometimes
[33:19] Speaker 1: you'd be like, oh, I didn't know my friend was
[33:20] Speaker 1: going through something. Look at the patterns. Three months ago
[33:26] Speaker 1: it was I don't know, it could have been anything.
[33:29] Speaker 1: Oh I'm going out, Oh I'm with my man, all
[33:31] Speaker 1: this stuff. Now all of a sudden, it's nothing but this.
[33:35] Speaker 1: And so that's fine, and that can be good. But
[33:38] Speaker 1: sometimes I think when people's patterns change, no matter what
[33:41] Speaker 1: it is, whether it's good or bad, check in on
[33:43] Speaker 1: you peak go to church.
[33:44] Speaker 2: With her, because here's what I will say. It's like,
[33:46] Speaker 2: it's not it's not a bad thing. It's like you,
[33:48] Speaker 2: it's something happened that was like, Holy God, you can
[33:52] Speaker 2: get me through this.
[33:55] Speaker 1: And when people feel like that, even though only God
[33:58] Speaker 1: truly can, you can still be there for the person
[34:02] Speaker 1: and let him know that, like, Okay, you can talk
[34:06] Speaker 1: to God, but you don't know if this is the
[34:08] Speaker 1: moment when he's gonna say something back. Sometimes I have
[34:12] Speaker 1: been praying and said different things and she's just like, Okay,
[34:15] Speaker 1: I guess I gotta sit in that, or maybe I
[34:17] Speaker 1: wasn't listening last time, so you like go back to
[34:20] Speaker 1: what my last message.
[34:22] Speaker 2: I really would be looking at us like you need
[34:24] Speaker 2: to be rolling his eyes like I think he just
[34:27] Speaker 2: told you leave that nigga alone. Let come on, give
[34:30] Speaker 2: it a heartache, a heartache, Gabriel sit down there and
[34:33] Speaker 2: punching her heart puncher in her chest. Since you don't
[34:37] Speaker 2: want to listen.
[34:38] Speaker 3: I am on, do not disturb a lot of time,
[34:39] Speaker 3: because like.
[34:40] Speaker 1: Baby, per my last email, per my last situation, ship,
[34:46] Speaker 1: per my last heartbreak, per my last he ain't even
[34:50] Speaker 1: call you back, And now you're drunk in the street
[34:52] Speaker 1: blowing somebody's phone up, Grow up, you bout fifty. It's
[34:58] Speaker 1: other people on the line. You are are you send
[35:03] Speaker 1: it to Lucifer because that's where you're about to go.
[35:07] Speaker 2: I'm not probably with y'all no more. I bet God
[35:09] Speaker 2: be up there like I'm not playing with you, niggas
[35:11] Speaker 2: no more seen.
[35:13] Speaker 1: And that's why we got global warming and a slow
[35:16] Speaker 1: fuck niggas would podcast.
[35:21] Speaker 2: Twenty twenty five.
[35:24] Speaker 3: Anyway, I didn't think it was gonna go there. But
[35:26] Speaker 3: you know, sometimes the spirit moveshit had.
[35:30] Speaker 1: And God knows my heart and when my language is
[35:32] Speaker 1: not always great, my heart is always make the best choices.
[35:37] Speaker 1: But again, my heart is because He is there, and
[35:40] Speaker 1: you just never know when a message will come through.
[35:44] Speaker 3: I bet you didn't think he was getting the word today.
[35:46] Speaker 1: They got a little word. We need to start a
[35:48] Speaker 1: little church now.
[35:51] Speaker 3: Now, while I'm drinking, I just well, let.
[35:54] Speaker 2: Me tell you a little secret.
[35:56] Speaker 3: I am you be drinking at church?
[35:58] Speaker 1: No, you're progressive, but not that in.
[36:03] Speaker 2: Church and I go to the very I go to
[36:04] Speaker 2: the front, and i'd be worshiping. I'd be on the
[36:06] Speaker 2: front row, and not the front. I go to the
[36:08] Speaker 2: fourth row. That's just my row. I feel very like
[36:10] Speaker 2: that's comfortable. But whenever we have a whenever I have
[36:13] Speaker 2: a moment at church and afterward somebody it'll This has
[36:17] Speaker 2: happened several ways. Somebody will either DM me and be like,
[36:21] Speaker 2: I don't think this was you, but were you just
[36:22] Speaker 2: were you just at live crying?
[36:26] Speaker 1: Y'all could have left the crying part out where you
[36:28] Speaker 1: live on Sunday and not in Miami, baby.
[36:33] Speaker 2: And then or sometimes it'll be like we do like
[36:36] Speaker 2: right after they do the worship service, you go and
[36:38] Speaker 2: you do a meeting, they're like, everybody goes say hi,
[36:40] Speaker 2: I do each other. And then I'll go say hi
[36:42] Speaker 2: and see like I'd be looking different in church, so
[36:45] Speaker 2: it's like I don't have any makeup blients is not
[36:47] Speaker 2: very like I know I'm gonna be crying most of
[36:49] Speaker 2: the time. So like so when people are like, oh,
[36:52] Speaker 2: I listen to cocktails, I'm always like, oh god, okay,
[36:57] Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, okay, what are we doing? How're we doing?
[37:02] Speaker 1: I know a similar feeling when I go home. Y'all know,
[37:06] Speaker 1: if you knew who you don't, but if you, oh,
[37:08] Speaker 1: you know, my granddaddy is a pastor and he's still
[37:10] Speaker 1: a pastor, blind and all.
[37:12] Speaker 3: He has not shipped down.
[37:14] Speaker 1: When I go back to Louisiana and I go to
[37:16] Speaker 1: church and we're in the fellowship hall. Everybody loves to
[37:21] Speaker 1: come up. I've been watching your podcast.
[37:23] Speaker 2: And it's so uncomfortable, but it's also.
[37:27] Speaker 1: I'd be like, thank you. Can we talk about it later?
[37:28] Speaker 1: Hit me up if you see me on the ground,
[37:30] Speaker 1: hip me up.
[37:31] Speaker 2: All there.
[37:33] Speaker 1: I'm trying to be a good girl today.
[37:35] Speaker 3: And he's still asking how to listen.
[37:37] Speaker 2: And you should you should send him a link. Well
[37:40] Speaker 2: I'm not okay, but can you let me tell you this.
[37:43] Speaker 2: I am considering, not considering. I'm actually I'm going to
[37:46] Speaker 2: be auditioning to be on the worship team in my church,
[37:49] Speaker 2: like on the like singing.
[37:52] Speaker 1: Like the choir or something.
[37:53] Speaker 2: You don't call it the choir. It's called the worship team,
[37:58] Speaker 2: and you don't dance. But like you got an audition.
[38:02] Speaker 1: I thought it might be like a mix of the
[38:03] Speaker 1: choir and the praise dancing team. Oh okay, if you
[38:08] Speaker 1: because I thought it might be like that.
[38:11] Speaker 2: It was kind of a white church.
[38:13] Speaker 1: They do it all.
[38:14] Speaker 2: They're not dancing. I'm telling you that right now.
[38:16] Speaker 1: They might send you a white church. They had. They
[38:19] Speaker 1: did a Christmas program. Did you watch the Right Cheous Gymstones?
[38:23] Speaker 2: I did, but I never finished it.
[38:25] Speaker 1: Go back and watch Baby. That church was lit for
[38:29] Speaker 1: the Christmas program. They had elves flying up. Well, it
[38:33] Speaker 1: probably wasn't an elf, it was probably an angel. I
[38:35] Speaker 1: think it probably just Christmas color. But somebody was flying
[38:39] Speaker 1: from the sky. It was a big old choir, like
[38:41] Speaker 1: bigger than the Mississippi Mass Choir. I mean, it was
[38:44] Speaker 1: just a big old choir.
[38:45] Speaker 3: They had performers all wen.
[38:50] Speaker 1: But it was a white church, so they do it
[38:52] Speaker 1: big too.
[38:52] Speaker 3: Sometimes they do.
[38:53] Speaker 2: They're kind of like cool with it, like what you mean,
[38:56] Speaker 2: nobody laid back, like laid back and like nobody I
[39:00] Speaker 2: don't know if you're going to get to that point
[39:01] Speaker 2: and if they wait, it is the pasture way. No,
[39:03] Speaker 2: he's black, okay, So I'd have been asking everybody in
[39:07] Speaker 2: Nacotish about this past Does anybody know him? No?
[39:10] Speaker 1: Okay, So I got to ask some more people, I
[39:12] Speaker 1: think because he said live there still my last week
[39:15] Speaker 1: in church.
[39:16] Speaker 2: What he said was Nakadish was the largest city next
[39:19] Speaker 2: to his town. And I forget what he said the town,
[39:22] Speaker 2: but he said when they were going to town, town
[39:24] Speaker 2: was Nacodish.
[39:25] Speaker 1: Yeah, because Nacodish is a city. And I realized now
[39:29] Speaker 1: when I be saying I'm from a small town in Louisian.
[39:31] Speaker 1: I gotta stop saying that it's thousands of people there.
[39:34] Speaker 1: This isn't, no one hundred people. There are communities. I
[39:39] Speaker 1: didn't even know that was a thing, like an incorporated community.
[39:42] Speaker 1: It's not. They don't have a mayor, they don't have
[39:44] Speaker 1: any of that. They rely on the parish. And then
[39:46] Speaker 1: there's like other types of municipalities. When I went with
[39:49] Speaker 1: Grace to Cape Maine, New Jersey, I said, I want
[39:54] Speaker 1: a refund on all the times y'all call me country
[39:57] Speaker 1: and was talking about how small my hometown was, because
[40:00] Speaker 1: this is small. Kate is way smaller than that is.
[40:04] Speaker 3: It's like eighteen to twenty.
[40:06] Speaker 1: Thousand people, a nack dish proper. And then there's the
[40:09] Speaker 1: small places with zero to one thousand people. So, yeah,
[40:13] Speaker 1: it is he might.
[40:14] Speaker 3: Be from Klutcheville.
[40:16] Speaker 1: If I hear it, I'll know mal Rows, I'll figure
[40:21] Speaker 1: it out.
[40:22] Speaker 3: And religion, yeah, let me know. I wonder I wonder where.
[40:25] Speaker 2: Yeah, and then when I when I have my first
[40:27] Speaker 2: debut on the stage and sing a song, because.
[40:29] Speaker 1: They were like I got a you already the audition.
[40:31] Speaker 2: I didn't do the audition, Okay, I'm doing it when
[40:32] Speaker 2: I get back in Acrosstreecod and then I'm gonna do it.
[40:35] Speaker 2: I'm very nervous, and I told you would perform. I'll
[40:38] Speaker 2: just let you know when I'm gonna do it.
[40:41] Speaker 1: Is it open? Like I can come watch?
[40:43] Speaker 2: Like you know what I'm saying. You have to come
[40:45] Speaker 2: to church and watch me. I'm gonna be once you
[40:47] Speaker 2: make yeah one squad. I know I'm gonna make the squad.
[40:50] Speaker 2: I'm making the squad like well, I.
[40:52] Speaker 1: Will absolutely okay, and I will be there in my
[40:55] Speaker 1: church club.
[40:56] Speaker 2: Will you take a little video? Okay?
[40:58] Speaker 1: Is that appropriate there? I'm be nervous to take videos
[41:01] Speaker 1: in church. I know people do it, but i'd be like,
[41:03] Speaker 1: I guess I'm my old school baby.
[41:04] Speaker 3: I don't be pulling my phone now.
[41:06] Speaker 1: I don't use no Bible app. I bring my real
[41:08] Speaker 1: physical Bible. I'm old school, but I was raised by
[41:14] Speaker 1: my grandparents. This is really a year and I wanted
[41:20] Speaker 1: to ask you something. I don't know that I've asked
[41:22] Speaker 1: you this at all before. What made you decide to
[41:25] Speaker 1: start going to church? Because I do know that this
[41:30] Speaker 1: is something pretty new in recent years for you.
[41:35] Speaker 2: What made me start going to church I started feeling
[41:39] Speaker 2: like this really intense calling. It was weird and I
[41:44] Speaker 2: never felt it before. It was like, and this all
[41:47] Speaker 2: happened when I'm trying to think if there was like
[41:51] Speaker 2: a significant moment, because it's even though it seems like
[41:54] Speaker 2: this is all happening now, this has happened within like
[41:56] Speaker 2: the past three years. I started feeling it, but I
[41:59] Speaker 2: felt embarrased is to act on it in a weird way.
[42:02] Speaker 2: And if y'all don't know my background, which you probably don't,
[42:05] Speaker 2: I grew up Muslim, like a job. My name is
[42:09] Speaker 2: Medina Ali. My sister's name is Mecca Ali. My dad
[42:12] Speaker 2: was the nation of Islam. He named us after the
[42:15] Speaker 2: twin city cities in the Middle East, Mecca Amadina. My
[42:17] Speaker 2: brother's name is Malik, our last name. Like that was
[42:20] Speaker 2: my background.
[42:21] Speaker 1: Mm hm.
[42:22] Speaker 2: I feel like when life started busting me upside my
[42:25] Speaker 2: head in different moments, even years ago, there was just
[42:29] Speaker 2: different areas in my life that keep showing up and
[42:33] Speaker 2: like me going to God or thinking I was like
[42:37] Speaker 2: on my own. I wanted to be around like community,
[42:41] Speaker 2: but I didn't know really how to get there. So
[42:44] Speaker 2: when I got in a relationship, but it was the
[42:48] Speaker 2: same thing. I kept feeling like this almost this calling
[42:51] Speaker 2: of like y'all, like God needs to be somewhere in this,
[42:54] Speaker 2: but I didn't even know how to get there. And
[42:57] Speaker 2: so I started. I was like, hey, like babe, let's start.
[43:00] Speaker 2: Let's go to He grew up in church, but he
[43:02] Speaker 2: wasn't going to church and we weren't like doing the things.
[43:05] Speaker 2: And I was like, okay, so everybody be struggling. You
[43:08] Speaker 2: could grow up with this foundation, but you're not actually
[43:11] Speaker 2: like practicing it. You were just like, well, I grew
[43:13] Speaker 2: up in church and I'm good. And that didn't feel
[43:16] Speaker 2: I don't know, it's just there was this feeling, this
[43:18] Speaker 2: heavy feeling like all my chest of like I feel
[43:21] Speaker 2: like I need to be more intentional about God. And
[43:23] Speaker 2: like I said, it started like about three years ago,
[43:24] Speaker 2: and then last year it really was like I want
[43:28] Speaker 2: to go to church, but Kiki, I really felt embarrassed.
[43:31] Speaker 2: And I don't know why I think I felt. Maybe
[43:34] Speaker 2: it was because like, I don't I'm not someone where
[43:36] Speaker 2: like I'm gonna go in the church and I know
[43:37] Speaker 2: all the songs and I'm one of them people where
[43:39] Speaker 2: I can just like spit the scriptures out and be
[43:41] Speaker 2: like I got something for you, like this is the
[43:43] Speaker 2: one for that. I don't know all the characters in
[43:45] Speaker 2: the Bible. I don't know all the and I so
[43:46] Speaker 2: I was like, maybe you don't really belong there, but
[43:48] Speaker 2: I kept feeling like I needed to be there. I
[43:50] Speaker 2: love Sarah Jakes Roberts and I'm always watching her YouTube
[43:53] Speaker 2: videos and that, and so me and my boyfriend, but
[43:58] Speaker 2: I don't even want to include him in that because
[44:01] Speaker 2: it was me. It was like a me thing. I
[44:04] Speaker 2: wanted to be around people that were worshiping God and
[44:06] Speaker 2: I wanted to see, like do I want to be
[44:08] Speaker 2: a Christian? Because I didn't have a solid foundation in
[44:11] Speaker 2: religion because after my mom had like told my dad
[44:14] Speaker 2: like I'm not about to be raising my daughter to
[44:16] Speaker 2: just like bow down the men and in Islam and
[44:21] Speaker 2: you got to be in the back of the mosque,
[44:22] Speaker 2: and my mom was like, no, Niggod, this is not
[44:25] Speaker 2: what we do. We already black like they know. So
[44:29] Speaker 2: shout out to my mama, because if you did, I
[44:33] Speaker 2: get it too. I was like, I really do get
[44:34] Speaker 2: why you were like no. And then then my parents
[44:38] Speaker 2: didn't really give us like this solid foundation and one
[44:40] Speaker 2: thing I know about life and I've always known this,
[44:43] Speaker 2: even like in college when I went through these struggles.
[44:46] Speaker 2: You need something to believe in, you need something to.
[44:51] Speaker 1: Like lean on you.
[44:53] Speaker 2: Yeah, and I didn't have it. I was leaning on something,
[44:55] Speaker 2: but I have like the foundation, and I just I
[44:58] Speaker 2: kept feeling the strong urge to get the foundoundation. And
[45:00] Speaker 2: then like finally I was like, man, like, I kept
[45:04] Speaker 2: seeing Live. I had tried a couple up, a couple
[45:06] Speaker 2: of other churches, and I kept seeing Live, and I
[45:08] Speaker 2: was like, bro, I had my first kiss with my
[45:11] Speaker 2: man under the Live signed up because it was above
[45:15] Speaker 2: Gold Room, and I said, okay, and then we went
[45:18] Speaker 2: and also.
[45:20] Speaker 1: What an interesting origin story?
[45:23] Speaker 2: And I told the pastor that what is say? He
[45:26] Speaker 2: was like, we were wondering how that billboard was going
[45:29] Speaker 2: to do above Gold Room and it had caused some
[45:31] Speaker 2: beef between the other church that's over there because they
[45:35] Speaker 2: and he was like, and so we took it down.
[45:37] Speaker 2: But I'm glad that it got to somebody. I said,
[45:39] Speaker 2: it got to the right one, and that's.
[45:41] Speaker 1: Good because you never know where you find somebody.
[45:43] Speaker 3: But it's crazy that it caused beef.
[45:45] Speaker 1: With that church. Because if we're all Christian and the
[45:49] Speaker 1: mission is to get everybody to God.
[45:51] Speaker 3: What's the beef?
[45:52] Speaker 2: What's the beef?
[45:53] Speaker 3: That's why I beside eyes. Some people.
[45:56] Speaker 1: Reided I chose church that you chose, but h and
[46:00] Speaker 1: I don't know that other one like that. I just
[46:01] Speaker 1: know they be having a lot going on. And I
[46:03] Speaker 1: do watch Righteous Gymstones that is very is a comedy,
[46:11] Speaker 1: but it's very much based on real stuff. And I
[46:15] Speaker 1: think now that you have been going to church and
[46:17] Speaker 1: you've had your own experiences started over because you might
[46:20] Speaker 1: have a different take on it. There is comedy in it,
[46:24] Speaker 1: but it's like crazy because and I've been very vocal
[46:27] Speaker 1: about this forever, every church is not the same. And
[46:32] Speaker 1: I'm so grateful that. Well, I don't always listen to
[46:36] Speaker 1: do what my grandaddy tells me. I do believe that
[46:41] Speaker 1: he does things from his heart. He is truly somebody
[46:46] Speaker 1: of God that wants to help people do the things
[46:50] Speaker 1: that we all think. Christianity is about the positive things.
[46:55] Speaker 1: And you see these other experiences. So if you've ever
[46:58] Speaker 1: been scared to figure out if this is for you,
[47:04] Speaker 1: if Christianity is for you, to be clear not cocktails,
[47:09] Speaker 1: just try it. Every church ain't the same, and some
[47:11] Speaker 1: people have bad experiences, and I see it and I
[47:15] Speaker 1: feel for them because I hate that for people like
[47:20] Speaker 1: people who grow up into like a bad situation in church,
[47:24] Speaker 1: not even like a non existent one, but about when
[47:26] Speaker 1: I'm like, I see how you can be turned off.
[47:27] Speaker 1: But everybody's not like that, and I hate that when
[47:30] Speaker 1: people do feel that way. I thought about that when
[47:32] Speaker 1: you said there was beefing about a billboard, because excuse me, what,
[47:36] Speaker 1: we're not all trying to get to the same final destination.
[47:41] Speaker 1: That's it on your spirit. I don't be going to
[47:43] Speaker 1: that church. I know what talk about. It is down
[47:45] Speaker 1: in that down the hill near the.
[47:48] Speaker 3: Yeah passion.
[47:50] Speaker 1: Too many guitars, too much mess going on. I'm sorry.
[47:54] Speaker 1: I'm sorry anybody goes there. If you like it, good
[47:56] Speaker 1: for you. And hopefully it's not what I think, but
[47:59] Speaker 1: I do looking at.
[48:01] Speaker 2: Let me ask you this and then we can switch gears.
[48:03] Speaker 2: Did you watch Mary on Netflix? No?
[48:07] Speaker 3: I haven't watched it.
[48:08] Speaker 1: I haven't watched much Netflix.
[48:12] Speaker 2: Lately.
[48:13] Speaker 1: I haven't want Well, the last thing I watched was
[48:15] Speaker 1: lion Ass.
[48:17] Speaker 2: What is it on?
[48:18] Speaker 3: It's on Amazon Prime and Apple TV. I don't know
[48:21] Speaker 3: where else. It's a paramount show.
[48:23] Speaker 2: Is it about a Lion not at all.
[48:26] Speaker 1: It's about it's about some military people, CIA stuff like that,
[48:30] Speaker 1: but it's I.
[48:31] Speaker 3: Love a strong female lead. Y'all know, I'm girl power
[48:34] Speaker 3: to the day I die. It's Zoe Saldana.
[48:37] Speaker 1: And Nicole Kidman, and you know I love me some Nicole.
[48:41] Speaker 1: I kind of had an issue with Zoe back in
[48:44] Speaker 1: the day because she was trying to act like she
[48:45] Speaker 1: wasn't black. But we've gotten over that, and I think
[48:47] Speaker 1: that the cultural differences she understood.
[48:50] Speaker 2: People because sometimes Dominican, but when your mama don't be black.
[48:55] Speaker 1: Is she's Dominican, And you know how sometimes Dominican people
[48:58] Speaker 1: feel like they're not black, but they're not understanding that
[49:00] Speaker 1: it's not about African American. Like you came straight here.
[49:02] Speaker 1: We know you Dominican, bitch.
[49:03] Speaker 3: And you still black.
[49:04] Speaker 2: But y'all got black in it.
[49:08] Speaker 1: Well your skin, we're looking at you, bitch. Anyway, she
[49:13] Speaker 1: is a great actress. Nicole Kimmins and some other people, Uh,
[49:16] Speaker 1: Morgan Freeman is in it. It's a lot of like
[49:18] Speaker 1: big people in it.
[49:19] Speaker 3: Anyway.
[49:20] Speaker 1: They have this crew of people who's like a special.
[49:25] Speaker 2: Twenty twenty five.
[49:27] Speaker 1: No, we're make jewelry. That's a goddamn line because fashion
[49:30] Speaker 1: over till the day I died, because I lose a
[49:32] Speaker 1: ring every day and my little two dollar diamonds, they're
[49:35] Speaker 1: gonna stay with me. Anyway. There's a special ops team
[49:38] Speaker 1: in the military and they're going to like do different things,
[49:42] Speaker 1: and so they have one girl that they call the
[49:44] Speaker 1: lion Ass because she is like the woman who has
[49:48] Speaker 1: to go in like undercover to help take down something.
[49:52] Speaker 1: So there's two seasons. The first season the lion Ass,
[49:56] Speaker 1: she's a victim of domestic violence, ends up joining the
[49:59] Speaker 1: Marines in like a crazy way, but it all unfolds
[50:02] Speaker 1: in the first episode and then she becomes the Lioness
[50:06] Speaker 1: on this mission to take down somebody who is like
[50:10] Speaker 1: a big time oil money man from the Middle East
[50:16] Speaker 1: and he's like funding these terrorist organizations and stuff like that.
[50:20] Speaker 1: Maybe the way I won't give it away if you
[50:23] Speaker 1: haven't watched it, but the way these women kick ass.
[50:28] Speaker 3: And it's not just women, it's women and men.
[50:30] Speaker 1: So I think it's something like if the men don't
[50:31] Speaker 1: want to see too many girls doing it, and it's fine,
[50:34] Speaker 1: but it's a little love story in there. It's some drama,
[50:37] Speaker 1: it's some different elements it's good. And then the second season,
[50:40] Speaker 1: I don't know, we in Mexico and Texas with it,
[50:43] Speaker 1: and it's.
[50:43] Speaker 3: Some drugs and some human trafficking. So I'm very interested.
[50:48] Speaker 1: But I got to stop watching TV late at night
[50:50] Speaker 1: because I be falling asleep. Anyway, I haven't been.
[50:53] Speaker 3: Watching a lot of that.
[50:53] Speaker 1: I've just been too busy, but I want to, and
[50:56] Speaker 1: starting next week I will. I want to indulge in
[51:01] Speaker 1: the last week of the year, and me and my
[51:04] Speaker 1: family love watching movies and TV shows and stuff like that. Together.
[51:07] Speaker 1: I think we're gonna go to that that game show place.
[51:11] Speaker 2: Please go.
[51:13] Speaker 1: They take me back, and I hope that it's still
[51:16] Speaker 1: there's still some bookings available, but I want to go
[51:18] Speaker 1: real bad and I need enough people. You gotta have eight,
[51:21] Speaker 1: so we'll see what happens.
[51:22] Speaker 3: But I'm excited.
[51:24] Speaker 2: Choice gentle parenting. I told my mom, Hey, listen, I said,
[51:31] Speaker 2: I'm watching everybody gentle parent and I'm popping my kids.
[51:35] Speaker 2: And I told her, I said, at first, I was like,
[51:37] Speaker 2: I'm not gonna be popping kids when I get my kids.
[51:40] Speaker 1: I sure did say that I'm.
[51:42] Speaker 2: Gonna pop you getting popped. I'm not even gonna act
[51:44] Speaker 2: like I'm gonna I think I'm not getting acting crazy,
[51:48] Speaker 2: but you getting to pop?
[51:51] Speaker 1: Whyn't you gotta just do what you gotta do?
[51:53] Speaker 2: Or a thumb? What I do with my nieces and
[51:55] Speaker 2: my nephews, I thump them in their forehead? What I sure?
[51:58] Speaker 1: Do that as obscene? And everybody therefore.
[52:02] Speaker 2: Head right in their forehead and they and everybody stopped
[52:06] Speaker 2: and they stop what they doing thump and every and
[52:10] Speaker 2: they're like, yeah, stop, I said, stop thump. I thump
[52:16] Speaker 2: them one thump and everything shuts down.
[52:18] Speaker 1: I bet it. Does you do this in public?
[52:20] Speaker 2: I do it in I have to do it in public,
[52:22] Speaker 2: because when I do it in private, it's enough.
[52:25] Speaker 1: Girls, you're talking about I should thump you in your head?
[52:27] Speaker 1: And you always want to run up to her every
[52:30] Speaker 1: time we get here, and you be all in her face,
[52:32] Speaker 1: look at her in a half head.
[52:36] Speaker 3: Want me to thump you in the base?
[52:38] Speaker 2: Now?
[52:38] Speaker 1: What would I what? Oh?
[52:41] Speaker 3: Good, heavens?
[52:42] Speaker 2: Yes, girl? Anything else you want to say for about
[52:45] Speaker 2: twenty twenty five, anything you want to try and you
[52:49] Speaker 2: want to try in your love life, let's talk about that.
[52:55] Speaker 1: I would like to try to be more patient.
[53:01] Speaker 2: I like that.
[53:02] Speaker 1: I am not a patient person sometimes well, I don't know.
[53:08] Speaker 1: In some situations I can be others I can't, but
[53:12] Speaker 1: I do be getting irritated. I want my patience to
[53:14] Speaker 1: run through because sometimes it's like, Okay, I'm being patient
[53:17] Speaker 1: by not necessarily reacting or doing something, but it's like
[53:20] Speaker 1: I'm still irritating. I want that irritationally. So I'm gonna
[53:24] Speaker 1: work on being more patient. That's all I can really
[53:29] Speaker 1: commit to that. I won't yees yeah, be more patient.
[53:34] Speaker 1: Like sometimes even when people are talking, it's a add
[53:39] Speaker 1: but it's taking you too.
[53:40] Speaker 3: Long to teach the point.
[53:41] Speaker 1: And I know I got some nerve on right, I know,
[53:45] Speaker 1: I know everybody's thinking it. But spit it out, bitch,
[53:49] Speaker 1: because you're losing me. It's not that interesting. I'm trying
[53:52] Speaker 1: to pay attention. I'm not that interested. You're talking backwards.
[53:54] Speaker 1: Therefore I just can't. So I would like to be
[53:56] Speaker 1: more patient patient in that way, and also just slow
[54:01] Speaker 1: down and listen more and pay attention more to things
[54:05] Speaker 1: that aren't being said, because sometimes it's like, okay, well
[54:09] Speaker 1: you said this, and you said this, and you said this,
[54:12] Speaker 1: but if I really look back, sometimes it's like, okay,
[54:15] Speaker 1: this was said, but look at all the other nonverbal
[54:18] Speaker 1: cues you got, they got to ignore because you.
[54:21] Speaker 3: Put too much value on what was verbalized.
[54:25] Speaker 1: And maybe that person that's not all you need to
[54:29] Speaker 1: look at, or maybe that's not their strongest form of communication.
[54:32] Speaker 1: Look at the other stuff to have a better view
[54:35] Speaker 1: and a better understanding. If that is what I want,
[54:38] Speaker 1: and I would like to have more understanding. I want that,
[54:40] Speaker 1: and then what else would I like? I don't even
[54:45] Speaker 1: know if y'all care anymore? My saxe drive is slowly
[54:47] Speaker 1: coming back.
[54:48] Speaker 2: Really, it feels good, like have you had sex lately?
[54:53] Speaker 1: I'll actually said share a cartail when you say yours.
[54:56] Speaker 1: But yeah, it was coming back, and it was a
[54:59] Speaker 1: long time I was gone, And at first I was
[55:01] Speaker 1: really worried. Then I didn't care anymore. I never, ever, ever, ever, ever,
[55:07] Speaker 1: ever thought I would feel like that because I really
[55:09] Speaker 1: like sex. But I was just I had like a
[55:14] Speaker 1: block up about sex and I want it. I wasn't
[55:18] Speaker 1: even like masturbating every day like I used to.
[55:20] Speaker 3: And y'all know I love to get my little rubber
[55:22] Speaker 3: dub dub on you do, Yeah?
[55:26] Speaker 1: And I realized what night was that Monday night? That
[55:31] Speaker 1: your what night Monday?
[55:33] Speaker 2: Like?
[55:34] Speaker 1: This week Monday, a rage of horniness overcame me, and
[55:41] Speaker 1: I'm going through my We got all these toys right
[55:44] Speaker 1: from different sponsors and stuff, and they've just been sitting and.
[55:47] Speaker 2: It is actually alarming, Like sometimes I look at all
[55:50] Speaker 2: of that and this is wild. Like if I check
[55:53] Speaker 2: out and everyone has to go through my stulf, they're
[55:55] Speaker 2: gonna beay, what's going on? Like what I got twenty
[55:59] Speaker 2: five things of lube in my trunk.
[56:02] Speaker 1: A bottom of lube spilled out and sucked up some
[56:06] Speaker 1: chargers and some other miscellaneous papers. I don't even know
[56:09] Speaker 1: what's in there because now the ink is gone. It's
[56:11] Speaker 1: just like greasy paper. But you know what I did
[56:14] Speaker 1: realize was my favorite vibrator died.
[56:17] Speaker 2: Oh my god, I would die if my favorite vibrator died.
[56:20] Speaker 1: Y'all could have seen me in that frenzy that I
[56:22] Speaker 1: was in whiley was in there and she was just like,
[56:24] Speaker 1: what's going on?
[56:24] Speaker 2: Was going on?
[56:25] Speaker 1: She was scared and stuff, and I was scared too,
[56:27] Speaker 1: because like what am I supposed to do? Then I
[56:29] Speaker 1: called a man about a horse and that man was
[56:32] Speaker 1: sleep and I was like, oh hell no. When when
[56:36] Speaker 1: it came back, this is the moment. So I'm like
[56:38] Speaker 1: scrambling and stuff. I Oh, I wish I remember the company.
[56:43] Speaker 1: Who was the company they sent us something? I found
[56:46] Speaker 1: one that was still wrapped up in a cellophane. Thank god,
[56:50] Speaker 1: I guess the batteries. Last song I think it was Blush,
[56:54] Speaker 1: so shout out to Blush.
[56:55] Speaker 3: Dum it came in handy.
[56:58] Speaker 1: I don't want no more toy in twenty twenty five
[57:02] Speaker 1: that don't have a USBC charger. I don't need none
[57:05] Speaker 1: of them specialty sex toy chargers because that was another thing.
[57:07] Speaker 1: I'm ramming stuff in there. These motherfucker plugs don't fit.
[57:11] Speaker 1: It's like trying to stick a dick that's too big
[57:13] Speaker 1: into a tight ass pussy or sticking a little pencil
[57:17] Speaker 1: dick into a season pussy. It doesn't fit. It's not
[57:24] Speaker 1: gonna charge an egg gone rouse on No that I
[57:27] Speaker 1: was upset.
[57:28] Speaker 2: Season well, season one.
[57:32] Speaker 1: You know it's tender. It can it can flex a
[57:35] Speaker 1: little bit.
[57:36] Speaker 2: You can put a little stuffing in it.
[57:38] Speaker 1: You can, but a little pencil, little egg ro ain't
[57:42] Speaker 1: gonna do it.
[57:42] Speaker 2: Yeah, so bad.
[57:44] Speaker 1: Anyway, I forgot the point of that. But yeah, that
[57:48] Speaker 1: was my set. That was update on my sex life.
[57:50] Speaker 1: It's coming back. I'm surprised about it, but I'm welcoming it.
[57:54] Speaker 1: But it is under control. It's not what it what
[57:57] Speaker 1: once was.
[57:58] Speaker 2: And just so we know, the question I had asked
[58:00] Speaker 2: for was do you want to do something new? Oh,
[58:02] Speaker 2: but you don't.
[58:03] Speaker 3: Want to have more sex? And I want to because
[58:06] Speaker 3: I miss it.
[58:07] Speaker 2: Were taking cocktails to the beginning, y'all about to get
[58:09] Speaker 2: more sex stories.
[58:10] Speaker 1: Well, let's hope pray for me.
[58:13] Speaker 3: Put me on your resolutions.
[58:14] Speaker 1: It doesn't matter if it's like I want that and
[58:17] Speaker 1: I want to be more patient?
[58:19] Speaker 3: What about you?
[58:23] Speaker 2: I think? What about me? Oh, it's such an interesting
[58:29] Speaker 2: place that I am in my life. I think that
[58:34] Speaker 2: I want to do better. Okay, we're talking about relationships
[58:41] Speaker 2: in our love life. So because I don't want people
[58:43] Speaker 2: to take this and be like, well you matter too,
[58:45] Speaker 2: I do, and I want you to know that I do.
[58:47] Speaker 2: And I'm poring into myself as well. I really want
[58:52] Speaker 2: to try my best to be intentional about understanding men.
[59:01] Speaker 1: There is a.
[59:04] Speaker 2: There is like a sometimes I feel I had a
[59:11] Speaker 2: conversation with my cousin, and I love my cousin so much,
[59:15] Speaker 2: and we always have these amazing conversations and we just
[59:17] Speaker 2: talk about life. Is an attorney. He's done really well
[59:20] Speaker 2: for himself, but he's also just like this amazing person.
[59:23] Speaker 2: He always goes to prisons and he's helping like men
[59:28] Speaker 2: and trying to like speak for the black voice in jail,
[59:32] Speaker 2: you know the thing. He's probably desert anyway. So he's
[59:34] Speaker 2: an amazing person. And we always have these conversations about relationships.
[59:38] Speaker 2: Y'all know, I love talking about relationships. Relationships are the
[59:40] Speaker 2: most difficult things, one of the most difficult things in
[59:44] Speaker 2: the world, and the fact that people still choose to
[59:46] Speaker 2: get married and do life with people is still it's
[59:49] Speaker 2: also the most beautiful thing in the world that you
[59:51] Speaker 2: can go into something that's so fucking crazy. And so
[59:56] Speaker 2: he was telling me that. He was like, you know,
[59:59] Speaker 2: I'm gonna tell you something that a man would never
[1:00:01] Speaker 2: tell you men. And I don't know, I'm not a man.
[1:00:05] Speaker 2: I'm just regurgitating what I heard. And it was a
[1:00:07] Speaker 2: beautiful conversation. He was like, ninety nine percent of men,
[1:00:12] Speaker 2: even if they have a woman, even if they are married,
[1:00:16] Speaker 2: even if they have kids, even if they have loved
[1:00:18] Speaker 2: surrounding them, they feel lonely. Why is that? And it's
[1:00:27] Speaker 2: we would have to have a whole other episode for
[1:00:28] Speaker 2: me to like dive into this, and so I can't.
[1:00:32] Speaker 2: But the point is he said that, and my initial
[1:00:37] Speaker 2: response was like yours, like why is that? And my
[1:00:39] Speaker 2: face was just like yours. It was like, well, why
[1:00:41] Speaker 2: is that? It wasn't like dang, it wasn't like a
[1:00:48] Speaker 2: concerning why is that? And I didn't like that. I
[1:00:50] Speaker 2: didn't like that If that is how men feel, I
[1:00:56] Speaker 2: don't want my man to feel the way. I'm not
[1:00:58] Speaker 2: speaking for all men in the world, but like I
[1:01:01] Speaker 2: would not want my men to feel that way. And
[1:01:03] Speaker 2: I've noticed, like in different scenarios, like when it comes
[1:01:07] Speaker 2: to men, like they're expected to do these things. And
[1:01:09] Speaker 2: this is not a battle of the sexes. This is
[1:01:11] Speaker 2: me just talking about this specific situation. Women are amazing
[1:01:15] Speaker 2: and women do a lot, and kids wouldn't be who
[1:01:18] Speaker 2: the fuck they were if it wasn't for their mama.
[1:01:20] Speaker 2: That's just that is how I feel on that. But
[1:01:22] Speaker 2: at the same time, it's like I am a woman
[1:01:25] Speaker 2: where I'm like, I want my man to feel appreciated
[1:01:28] Speaker 2: and men don't be feeling appreciated. And so one thing
[1:01:33] Speaker 2: that I have told myself is like I want to
[1:01:35] Speaker 2: try to challenge myself to, like before I prune my
[1:01:38] Speaker 2: face up or be like, that's what's wrong with you,
[1:01:44] Speaker 2: even if it don't make sense. I really want to
[1:01:47] Speaker 2: try to understand where men are coming from. Because when
[1:01:52] Speaker 2: my cousin told me that like niggas just be feeling lonely,
[1:01:55] Speaker 2: there was like a part of me that like felt
[1:01:57] Speaker 2: that because most of the time, when like men speak
[1:01:59] Speaker 2: up about something, whatever it might be that's emotional or
[1:02:02] Speaker 2: they want something done, they might not know how to
[1:02:05] Speaker 2: communicate it, and we know why they can't communicate it.
[1:02:08] Speaker 2: And there's like, for me, I'm not speaking for every woman,
[1:02:11] Speaker 2: there's like a lack of understanding from where they're coming from.
[1:02:14] Speaker 2: But you want somebody to understand where you're coming from, right,
[1:02:16] Speaker 2: And that is just not in my world. I'm not
[1:02:19] Speaker 2: speaking for anybody else because I know this is gonna
[1:02:22] Speaker 2: be some business in these comments going in in my
[1:02:25] Speaker 2: world that's not okay. Like, I really have lately been
[1:02:28] Speaker 2: thinking about how I want my forever relationship to be
[1:02:34] Speaker 2: and it is not something where it's like it's about me, me, me,
[1:02:37] Speaker 2: me me everything I want I get. I want you
[1:02:40] Speaker 2: to get what you want to You're saying somebody's not
[1:02:43] Speaker 2: cleaning up, clean up, You're saying you need somebody. It's
[1:02:48] Speaker 2: just like this thing where it's like I don't want
[1:02:49] Speaker 2: to be the woman, where it's like I am a
[1:02:51] Speaker 2: woman and this is what's expected and this is what
[1:02:54] Speaker 2: I deserve. Not that that's not true. However, he has
[1:02:57] Speaker 2: a thing that he wants to and let's make sure
[1:02:59] Speaker 2: that doing that also. And so like I forgot what
[1:03:03] Speaker 2: I was talking about, but that's what you shirt.
[1:03:05] Speaker 1: I was talking about your cousin and visiting the prisons
[1:03:08] Speaker 1: and talking to different men, and I guess he was
[1:03:11] Speaker 1: like mentoring men.
[1:03:12] Speaker 2: The new thing I want in love is to actually
[1:03:14] Speaker 2: and factually try to understand where a man is coming
[1:03:18] Speaker 2: from at the root, not just and and if I
[1:03:20] Speaker 2: do get mad trying to sift through those feelings of
[1:03:25] Speaker 2: why do we feel this way when you do the
[1:03:27] Speaker 2: same thing, I.
[1:03:29] Speaker 1: Feel you about that I made a face that I
[1:03:31] Speaker 1: was trying to understand the correlation when we was going
[1:03:34] Speaker 1: from the.
[1:03:35] Speaker 3: Mentor and all this stuff.
[1:03:37] Speaker 1: It's funny that you say that I too am interested
[1:03:41] Speaker 1: in understanding. Well, I'm always interested in understanding people more
[1:03:44] Speaker 1: because I do realize we are also different. But specifically men.
[1:03:47] Speaker 1: And it's funny that you say that, because that is
[1:03:50] Speaker 1: what I'm doing on the new show. Is like, I always.
[1:03:54] Speaker 3: Talk to men.
[1:03:56] Speaker 1: And I know it's only men, and it's it's been
[1:04:00] Speaker 1: really interesting every time I think only one or two
[1:04:08] Speaker 1: people were who I thought that they were ahead of
[1:04:14] Speaker 1: the interview. And it's like, as I talk to these
[1:04:17] Speaker 1: men and listen to their stories, listen to their experiences
[1:04:20] Speaker 1: with an open mind, even if I'm not sure if
[1:04:25] Speaker 1: they're telling the.
[1:04:25] Speaker 2: Truth or not, cause niggas also do be lying.
[1:04:29] Speaker 1: And I know i'd be lying too sometimes, so I
[1:04:30] Speaker 1: get it. We see each other, right. It's really interesting
[1:04:35] Speaker 1: when and I welcome this feeling. And I like it
[1:04:38] Speaker 1: when I have an idea of someone and then I
[1:04:42] Speaker 1: meet them and instead of allowing whatever my preconceived notions
[1:04:47] Speaker 1: were about said person to supersede anything else, I do
[1:04:51] Speaker 1: still show up with an open mind. I have my questions,
[1:04:54] Speaker 1: but I'm still showing up with an open mind, and
[1:04:56] Speaker 1: I'm talking to them and I'm allowing myself to be
[1:04:58] Speaker 1: open to who they might be. I don't like when
[1:05:01] Speaker 1: people have a preconceived notion about me and they just
[1:05:04] Speaker 1: wait for a moment for me to do the thing
[1:05:06] Speaker 1: that they thought I was going to do, or that
[1:05:07] Speaker 1: they knew I was going to do, or whatever to
[1:05:10] Speaker 1: substantiate whatever anybody said about me or whatever anybody thinks.
[1:05:14] Speaker 1: It's like we all do that right where you think
[1:05:17] Speaker 1: something about somebody because you don't know a person, you
[1:05:19] Speaker 1: want to figure them out. But like, let's go into
[1:05:21] Speaker 1: it with an open mind. It is interesting to hear me.
[1:05:24] Speaker 1: And when they do speak up, a lot of them
[1:05:28] Speaker 1: say that they don't feel seen, they don't feel heard
[1:05:32] Speaker 1: and all that, and I'm like, wow, I said the
[1:05:37] Speaker 1: truth in it, because there are That's why I say
[1:05:39] Speaker 1: it's interesting because I wouldn't expect them to say that
[1:05:42] Speaker 1: because from my point of view, it doesn't seem that way.
[1:05:45] Speaker 1: But I'm glad we're having a conversation so I can
[1:05:47] Speaker 1: understand how you feel. Because this is just outside looking in.
[1:05:52] Speaker 1: It doesn't matter what I think is happening. It does
[1:05:55] Speaker 1: matter what you think because it's your life. And so
[1:05:58] Speaker 1: if you feel like you're not being seen and heard,
[1:06:01] Speaker 1: that's a that's valid and I'm glad that you can
[1:06:05] Speaker 1: share that. It's just interesting to talk to people and
[1:06:07] Speaker 1: when you actually allow people to tell their stories, tell
[1:06:11] Speaker 1: their opinions and stuff without perpetuating whatever you thought about
[1:06:15] Speaker 1: them or whatever anybody else said about them.
[1:06:18] Speaker 3: You never know what you're gonna get.
[1:06:19] Speaker 2: You don't. And one thing that I have done in
[1:06:22] Speaker 2: the past is I have recorded arguments between.
[1:06:27] Speaker 1: And not think you were to say that.
[1:06:29] Speaker 2: It's not like he didn't know that it was happening,
[1:06:32] Speaker 2: but yeah, yeah, And the therapist said, y'all should record
[1:06:35] Speaker 2: arguments so that you can't say, like, you said this,
[1:06:37] Speaker 2: and like then the person's like, I didn't say that,
[1:06:39] Speaker 2: and then you really don't remember if they said or not.
[1:06:41] Speaker 2: So what Ladarius and I started doing was recording our
[1:06:44] Speaker 2: arguments and then when I would go back and play
[1:06:48] Speaker 2: them back, I would I would see the wrong. I
[1:06:51] Speaker 2: would see my wrong in it and be like wow, like,
[1:06:54] Speaker 2: oh that's not not that it was a crazy we're
[1:06:58] Speaker 2: talking crazy to each other, but just like you're not here.
[1:07:01] Speaker 2: Remember you're not listening to what somebody saying, and like women,
[1:07:06] Speaker 2: a lot of the times are like you know, you
[1:07:08] Speaker 2: just need to hear me and my what my needs are.
[1:07:11] Speaker 2: And so that has been a thing that in my
[1:07:13] Speaker 2: love life and in my dating life, not in my
[1:07:15] Speaker 2: whole world. Before somebody get jumps in here because people
[1:07:17] Speaker 2: love to be saying stuff about me and relationships but
[1:07:23] Speaker 2: pretending to love and dating like I do want to
[1:07:25] Speaker 2: really try to understand the sex that I want to
[1:07:27] Speaker 2: be with, which is a man, and I love me
[1:07:30] Speaker 2: not level and I want whoever to feel that. You
[1:07:35] Speaker 2: know what I mean?
[1:07:36] Speaker 1: Yeah, well, good luck to us.
[1:07:40] Speaker 2: You can let to us and y'all, because y'all niggas
[1:07:42] Speaker 2: is out here struggling to don't stop looking at me.
[1:07:44] Speaker 2: It's crazy, and judge you, it's crazy somebody looking at
[1:07:48] Speaker 2: the show.
[1:07:49] Speaker 1: We don't judge what we start off saying, Oh, we
[1:07:54] Speaker 1: are welcoming the new year with positive energy. Were leaving
[1:07:58] Speaker 1: that behind. We're not taking that with easier said today,
[1:08:02] Speaker 1: We're not taking that. Nobody's looking at us crazy and
[1:08:05] Speaker 1: if they are, God will stripe them blind. Okay, And
[1:08:08] Speaker 1: on that note.
[1:08:09] Speaker 2: Oh wait, indecisive Diana. Well all right, we're gonna move
[1:08:12] Speaker 2: on the indecisive Diana. And when we come back now
[1:08:15] Speaker 2: in and on work. Oh, we have some advice for
[1:08:20] Speaker 2: you guys.
[1:08:24] Speaker 1: Would you stop thinking about what everyone wants?
[1:08:26] Speaker 2: Stop thinking about what I want? What do you want?
[1:08:28] Speaker 2: What your parents want? What do you want?
[1:08:31] Speaker 1: What do you want, it's what do you want?
[1:08:36] Speaker 2: What do you want?
[1:08:41] Speaker 4: Hey, you ladies, it's me Diane, and you know we're
[1:08:45] Speaker 4: always he had cocktails, trying to create new opportunities and
[1:08:49] Speaker 4: experience for you ladies, to experience a little bit of
[1:08:51] Speaker 4: life and listen. Kiki has a trip planned for you,
[1:08:54] Speaker 4: and I would love for you to attend. I think
[1:08:57] Speaker 4: I might even go. It's in March and she's going
[1:08:59] Speaker 4: to yours out. You're gonna love it. Go to her
[1:09:02] Speaker 4: Instagram at Kiki Setzel, click the link in her bio
[1:09:06] Speaker 4: and sign up.
[1:09:07] Speaker 1: Now there's only five spots left. Plan your trip.
[1:09:10] Speaker 2: Now.
[1:09:38] Speaker 1: All right, you guys, we are back from Indecisive Diana.
[1:09:41] Speaker 1: It's time for advice your godly sisters.
[1:09:44] Speaker 2: All right?
[1:09:45] Speaker 1: Should I say something or not?
[1:09:49] Speaker 3: I'm starting to say you should, but who knows.
[1:09:51] Speaker 1: Let's see, Hi, y'all, y'all can just call me Findick
[1:09:56] Speaker 1: now of a baker, of all the names to pick,
[1:10:00] Speaker 1: why did you pick Fandika? Did you get some Findy
[1:10:03] Speaker 1: and some Dick in a day?
[1:10:05] Speaker 3: Findika?
[1:10:07] Speaker 1: Okay?
[1:10:08] Speaker 2: Whatever?
[1:10:08] Speaker 1: Hey, Bendika girl. I stumbled up on your podcast one
[1:10:12] Speaker 1: day while I work and now I'm a faithful listening.
[1:10:17] Speaker 2: Y'all got the proof because kicking gonna call you out.
[1:10:20] Speaker 2: You did it, not me.
[1:10:22] Speaker 1: I just read what was in the email and took
[1:10:24] Speaker 1: a goal. All right, So I need advice about a
[1:10:28] Speaker 1: man I am kind of seeing.
[1:10:30] Speaker 2: Lol, She crying, it's sad on the weekends.
[1:10:34] Speaker 1: We will get into that. On another letter. Well, lin't
[1:10:38] Speaker 1: this I guess I should read and find out. Here's
[1:10:40] Speaker 1: the situation. This is a single dad to four kids.
[1:10:48] Speaker 1: Since are you to the show? I wonder? Okay, he
[1:10:53] Speaker 1: wrote us, We're gonna help you, Medina said. She claimed
[1:10:57] Speaker 1: she listened and she don't judge. But she is in
[1:11:00] Speaker 1: church now and she is strengthening her bond with the Lord.
[1:11:05] Speaker 1: We're gonna get her time.
[1:11:06] Speaker 2: Jesus flipped the tables over, so he was a little
[1:11:08] Speaker 2: judging too. He was judging, but he.
[1:11:12] Speaker 1: Is God, and if you're gonna judge, let's do it.
[1:11:15] Speaker 1: I say, how I am judging, but that's all right.
[1:11:17] Speaker 1: Still tell us because it's.
[1:11:18] Speaker 3: Coming from a loving place.
[1:11:20] Speaker 1: Anyway, single daddy got four kids ages twelve to sixteen.
[1:11:25] Speaker 2: So I'm telling you right now, I'm sprinting down the
[1:11:28] Speaker 2: cul de sac. Ain't no way.
[1:11:31] Speaker 1: I don't think it's no cul de Sac. But all right,
[1:11:33] Speaker 1: it's a project. Well, a lot of places are doing
[1:11:37] Speaker 1: away with those anyways. I just think it's multiple homes
[1:11:40] Speaker 1: in different places anyway, them and owns one. The mama
[1:11:45] Speaker 1: is in present whatsoever?
[1:11:48] Speaker 2: Oh hell nah?
[1:11:50] Speaker 1: He has them twenty four to seven. His mama helps
[1:11:54] Speaker 1: him with the kids. I instantly got stressed. My shoulders hurt, I.
[1:11:59] Speaker 2: Got a I got actually got stressed too because sometimes
[1:12:02] Speaker 2: and my nephews, like those aren't even my kids, and
[1:12:05] Speaker 2: it's not whoever I'm dating's kids. And I just be
[1:12:07] Speaker 2: looking at everybody like do you even have Why are
[1:12:09] Speaker 2: you all screaming and writing on the wall and yelling stop?
[1:12:15] Speaker 2: And why is this table got crumbs and apple mush
[1:12:19] Speaker 2: everywhere in the apple mush everywhere? Apple? What apple mush? Oh?
[1:12:25] Speaker 2: Banana mush?
[1:12:27] Speaker 1: What is y'all doing over there? Fucking pop tar?
[1:12:31] Speaker 2: Everything is dirty, The house is not sexy. It's nothing
[1:12:34] Speaker 2: is cute in anyone's home with children.
[1:12:38] Speaker 1: Especially when I say cars, like we've been talking about
[1:12:40] Speaker 1: how dirty our cars are. The crimes that you find
[1:12:43] Speaker 1: in the crevices, baby, it could feed the whole underground. Anyway. Okay,
[1:12:51] Speaker 1: I'm sorry, girl, we forgot about you. We got to
[1:12:54] Speaker 1: strike it, okay. So here's the situation. It's a single
[1:12:56] Speaker 1: dad to four kids, ages twelve to sixteen. The mom
[1:12:59] Speaker 1: is in president whatsoever, and he has in twenty four
[1:13:01] Speaker 1: to seven. His mama helps him with the kids. I
[1:13:04] Speaker 1: know you are not about to ask us about a
[1:13:06] Speaker 1: situation where a man is expecting you to act like
[1:13:09] Speaker 1: his mama. Let us pray we we ever talking. What
[1:13:15] Speaker 1: I guess we've been talking is what you mean. We've
[1:13:18] Speaker 1: been talking for like a month and a half and
[1:13:19] Speaker 1: I finally went to his house and it was dirty,
[1:13:21] Speaker 1: just like he said, look at that premonition. Shoes everywhere,
[1:13:27] Speaker 1: kids underwear or the step on the step. The bathroom
[1:13:31] Speaker 1: curtain was a Disney kids towel. Hell to the.
[1:13:37] Speaker 2: He is forty taking care of his kids.
[1:13:40] Speaker 1: Like, where's the shower curtain. It's a towel, not a
[1:13:44] Speaker 1: shower curtain. He's forty. No, because even when he had
[1:13:50] Speaker 1: that oldest baby, he was still an adult. He wasn't
[1:13:54] Speaker 1: a teen dad. Anyway, there's one on date niggas with kids.
[1:14:01] Speaker 2: I'm not doing this. This is a lot.
[1:14:04] Speaker 1: I think dating a man with a kid and dating
[1:14:06] Speaker 1: a man with a twenty four seven full custody. Primary
[1:14:10] Speaker 1: parent is totally different.
[1:14:12] Speaker 2: Let me tell you that.
[1:14:13] Speaker 1: Oh, I understand, I'm just saying.
[1:14:15] Speaker 2: Disney shower curtain.
[1:14:17] Speaker 1: It wasn't no curtain, girl, It's a towel, That's what
[1:14:20] Speaker 1: she's saying. It's like he didn't put a curtain up.
[1:14:22] Speaker 1: He put a towel.
[1:14:23] Speaker 3: And that's not a Oh the Disney.
[1:14:25] Speaker 2: Bathroom curtain was a The bathroom curtain was a Disney
[1:14:28] Speaker 2: kid's a towel.
[1:14:31] Speaker 1: You see what I'm saying. Taking up what I'm putting down,
[1:14:33] Speaker 1: all right, all right, So he is forty years old,
[1:14:37] Speaker 1: He has a good job, and I didn't expect his
[1:14:39] Speaker 1: house to look to look the way it did. The
[1:14:42] Speaker 1: carpets are white and nasty. Why are you there? I
[1:14:45] Speaker 1: went over there for the third time and someone I
[1:14:49] Speaker 1: know you fucking lie. Y'all come close, they said, or
[1:14:55] Speaker 1: homegirl said, what is this? What's her Findka Bendika said,
[1:15:01] Speaker 1: I went over there for the third time and someone
[1:15:07] Speaker 1: had explosive diarrhea and it was on the toilet. I
[1:15:15] Speaker 1: don't know how to tell him his house is start, but.
[1:15:17] Speaker 2: You don't have to.
[1:15:18] Speaker 1: He knows. But here's what I want to He is okay,
[1:15:22] Speaker 1: with it. He is okay. He is stressed out, overwhelmed.
[1:15:25] Speaker 3: It's too much going on.
[1:15:27] Speaker 1: He needs help and he's super.
[1:15:29] Speaker 2: Laying the dick down because the third time, she said,
[1:15:32] Speaker 2: this is the third time I've been on.
[1:15:34] Speaker 3: I don't want no doodo dick anyway.
[1:15:37] Speaker 1: I don't want him to take in it. Are you
[1:15:42] Speaker 1: technique dirty? And she can't, right, I don't want him
[1:15:48] Speaker 1: to take it like I'm being smart or join jonesing
[1:15:56] Speaker 1: maybe joning it says join with a G at the end,
[1:16:01] Speaker 1: to be clear, that's how.
[1:16:03] Speaker 2: You spell that.
[1:16:05] Speaker 1: I know what jananh is, but I never seen nobody
[1:16:08] Speaker 1: put an.
[1:16:08] Speaker 2: Eye in it.
[1:16:09] Speaker 3: But all right, shout out to y'all, is this a
[1:16:12] Speaker 3: DC thing?
[1:16:14] Speaker 2: Oh?
[1:16:15] Speaker 1: Are you a d csis?
[1:16:17] Speaker 2: Okay? Okay?
[1:16:22] Speaker 1: Why I show wish somebody would have put a trans
[1:16:25] Speaker 1: y'all need matter of fact going forward? Say where you're
[1:16:29] Speaker 1: from at the top so we can figure out. All right, anyway, okay,
[1:16:34] Speaker 1: But his house is distributing, she meant disturbed. She meant disturbed,
[1:16:42] Speaker 1: but it's sad distributing and it has a smell. I
[1:16:45] Speaker 1: don't see a further she meant future cool, look at
[1:16:50] Speaker 1: me a translator. I'm addening to my resume. I don't
[1:16:53] Speaker 1: see a future with this man and kind of view
[1:16:56] Speaker 1: him as a friend. Okay, so, but it's on my
[1:16:59] Speaker 1: spirit to say something. But what also, this is something
[1:17:02] Speaker 1: I run into it functions in my city ever so
[1:17:05] Speaker 1: often in my city, and that's what he liked to
[1:17:08] Speaker 1: reconnect and be on my line again. Girl, I'll tell
[1:17:10] Speaker 1: you what you need to connect to. Hooked on Bonner's eye,
[1:17:13] Speaker 1: so no one else to say. Baby, we got to
[1:17:17] Speaker 1: add the chat GPT keyboard to the device you got.
[1:17:22] Speaker 2: You was really trying to go in on him, and
[1:17:24] Speaker 2: we were trying to understand.
[1:17:25] Speaker 1: Which to be that damn dirty. But you don't need
[1:17:28] Speaker 1: to be there, and you already have recognized you friends
[1:17:31] Speaker 1: owning this nigga. You don't need to say if his
[1:17:33] Speaker 1: house steak the kids back, he's probably honestly overwhelmed. If
[1:17:38] Speaker 1: you want to do something, get him a just because
[1:17:40] Speaker 1: gift with some therapy so that he can start outlining
[1:17:43] Speaker 1: these things, or see if super Nanny or some other
[1:17:46] Speaker 1: similar show is filming.
[1:17:47] Speaker 2: And okay, I'm not gonna lie, and you're gonna be
[1:17:50] Speaker 2: so mad at me, FANDKA and I am so and
[1:17:53] Speaker 2: when I go to church on Sunday, I will pray
[1:17:55] Speaker 2: for you, but right now it is Thursday on cocktails,
[1:17:59] Speaker 2: and so I got to tell you really how I
[1:18:01] Speaker 2: feel for my cocktails. Asshard Bing. You have manifested this.
[1:18:08] Speaker 2: Just like people be talking about manifesting like positive things
[1:18:11] Speaker 2: into their lives, you can also manifest some poverished shit
[1:18:15] Speaker 2: in your life. And the reason why this has happened to.
[1:18:18] Speaker 1: You, this is backing up word poverish, Hey, sirious, poverish, impoverished,
[1:18:26] Speaker 1: whatever the word is, it's what you are.
[1:18:30] Speaker 2: So what I want Siri talking.
[1:18:34] Speaker 1: Talking, She's gonna cush you findko.
[1:18:37] Speaker 2: What I want you to know is I am a
[1:18:39] Speaker 2: woman of God, but I am a woman who believes
[1:18:42] Speaker 2: in the law of attraction. And so you cannot attract
[1:18:46] Speaker 2: anything that you are not. And so everything that is
[1:18:48] Speaker 2: in this letter that you sent us is in with you,
[1:18:51] Speaker 2: within you, and it is in you. And so there
[1:18:55] Speaker 2: is no way that you can keep going to somebody's
[1:18:58] Speaker 2: home three one two, three times in a row and
[1:19:03] Speaker 2: notice that they got a Disney towel up as a
[1:19:05] Speaker 2: shower curtain, doodoo on the toilet, and you're okay with it.
[1:19:09] Speaker 2: There is something going on with you friend, and this
[1:19:12] Speaker 2: is not a dig. You gotta fix it. You have
[1:19:15] Speaker 2: to do the work. I am a firm believer, even
[1:19:18] Speaker 2: with myself. When a man does me dirty and when
[1:19:22] Speaker 2: shit keeps happening, it is something that is disrupted in
[1:19:26] Speaker 2: my own self and that is hard to look at.
[1:19:28] Speaker 2: But there is some shit that's going on in you
[1:19:30] Speaker 2: that is attracting a nigga that got four kids between
[1:19:34] Speaker 2: the ages of twelve to sixteen with dookie on the toilet.
[1:19:37] Speaker 2: You got dookie in your life. You got dookie in
[1:19:40] Speaker 2: your life. Get the dookie out, bitch, because this is
[1:19:43] Speaker 2: gonna keep happening if you don't. For real, you think
[1:19:48] Speaker 2: his mama did it. I think his mama, his daddy,
[1:19:51] Speaker 2: everybody did it. This city is fighting for his life
[1:19:55] Speaker 2: and so is Finduka Fukaduka. Dookie is Dookie in and
[1:20:01] Speaker 2: y'all got to get this shit away from me because
[1:20:03] Speaker 2: this is y'all. Don't write this shit into us no more,
[1:20:06] Speaker 2: because I don't want it in my vicinity. This is
[1:20:09] Speaker 2: this is something where you attracted it to yourself and
[1:20:12] Speaker 2: you talking about it's him, no bitch, it's you.
[1:20:15] Speaker 1: Well, I say it's both of y'all because I'm sorry,
[1:20:18] Speaker 1: that is just I forgot the kids was twelve to sixteen.
[1:20:21] Speaker 1: I'm glad you're kids. I will sometimes exposed to diarrhea
[1:20:26] Speaker 1: does happen, but when it happens to you, no matter
[1:20:29] Speaker 1: where you are, you need to clean up behind yourself
[1:20:31] Speaker 1: and lift that set up for you. Be shamed.
[1:20:35] Speaker 2: You need to proof read your email.
[1:20:38] Speaker 1: Because she's just so upset and with so it was.
[1:20:41] Speaker 2: Too many mistakes in here. It was too many in
[1:20:44] Speaker 2: a world of change.
[1:20:45] Speaker 1: She told us that they typed different in DC. I
[1:20:47] Speaker 1: was in DC, but I was at school, and uh,
[1:20:52] Speaker 1: it was different.
[1:20:53] Speaker 2: This is the type of shit I be wanting people
[1:20:55] Speaker 2: to look at you real quick, to complain about your
[1:20:58] Speaker 2: dating experiences and your and you're not looking at yourself already?
[1:21:02] Speaker 1: Friends on him?
[1:21:02] Speaker 2: What? What?
[1:21:03] Speaker 1: What you want us to tell you? How to read
[1:21:05] Speaker 1: him down? You know what? Y'all sit in the bathroom
[1:21:10] Speaker 1: with some La salt and some florox, some gloves and
[1:21:15] Speaker 1: a mask like what's that boy's name?
[1:21:18] Speaker 3: I forget the same. Y'all know the word from Saint Louis.
[1:21:20] Speaker 1: Wear your mask.
[1:21:21] Speaker 3: We talked about it.
[1:21:22] Speaker 2: We your mask, you got wear it?
[1:21:25] Speaker 1: And y'all need to sit there and listen to a way, y'all,
[1:21:27] Speaker 1: clean the bathroom and fix your life.
[1:21:29] Speaker 2: If somebody has four children, and this is not a dig,
[1:21:34] Speaker 2: because there are some people where they're like I want
[1:21:36] Speaker 2: someone to have kids. But if somebody I'm letting you know,
[1:21:46] Speaker 2: are you catching your words?
[1:21:47] Speaker 3: Or you got to pick ups?
[1:21:50] Speaker 1: Because I also have to pee, so get it out.
[1:21:53] Speaker 1: I'm trying to.
[1:21:53] Speaker 2: Understand, like what do people be expecting from what you see?
[1:21:57] Speaker 2: That's really sometimes and I'm not trying. I don't have
[1:22:00] Speaker 2: it all together.
[1:22:01] Speaker 1: I don't.
[1:22:01] Speaker 2: But sometimes you see shit and when you continue to walk,
[1:22:06] Speaker 2: and I'm always like, what did you inspect? You said
[1:22:10] Speaker 2: the first time she went three times? The first time
[1:22:13] Speaker 2: you saw a Disney towel as a curtain and you
[1:22:15] Speaker 2: went back second in thrace? Why fuck did you do that?
[1:22:19] Speaker 1: Like, I don't I know you listen to kea, y'all,
[1:22:24] Speaker 1: I didn't pour this drink. To be clear, before y'all
[1:22:27] Speaker 1: tell me I got her cutting up. I don't have
[1:22:29] Speaker 1: the pay.
[1:22:30] Speaker 2: There are certain things right, just be like, I think
[1:22:32] Speaker 2: you're right? What are we doing? I don't like one
[1:22:37] Speaker 2: child is I'm.
[1:22:38] Speaker 1: Not It's nothing for me. It's not the number of
[1:22:40] Speaker 1: children because I havn't. That's a lot of kids, right.
[1:22:44] Speaker 1: But initially, before I arrived at the Dookie House, I
[1:22:49] Speaker 1: would think that if your children are twelve to sixteen,
[1:22:52] Speaker 1: they're older, they're self sufficient to a certain degree, especially.
[1:22:58] Speaker 2: Of him.
[1:22:59] Speaker 1: They are like I'm saying, like, if we dial it
[1:23:02] Speaker 1: back right. But when I get there and I see
[1:23:06] Speaker 1: that everybody is acting real elementary pre k head start.
[1:23:13] Speaker 1: You're putting up what I'm putting down. I learned that recently.
[1:23:15] Speaker 1: I love to say, are you putting up what I'm putting?
[1:23:18] Speaker 2: No?
[1:23:18] Speaker 3: Are you picking up when I'm putting down?
[1:23:20] Speaker 2: I love that one.
[1:23:21] Speaker 1: Y'all know how you getting head start? If it's giving that?
[1:23:27] Speaker 2: I just if I want a date with a man.
[1:23:31] Speaker 2: And the second he says them, I have four kids
[1:23:34] Speaker 2: and their mom is not in their life, I know
[1:23:36] Speaker 2: he's not. God didn't send you to me, And no
[1:23:39] Speaker 2: way you can put this work on me.
[1:23:40] Speaker 1: I'm working on me. Well where they at and did
[1:23:43] Speaker 1: they do their homework? Because I'm also I could be
[1:23:45] Speaker 1: a step mama.
[1:23:46] Speaker 2: I can't.
[1:23:47] Speaker 1: But I can't be a step mama to four goddamn
[1:23:50] Speaker 1: grown ass kids. That's a lot.
[1:23:52] Speaker 3: And now that I'm a mother, it's different because you
[1:23:58] Speaker 3: want me to do that.
[1:23:59] Speaker 2: I got my own child to.
[1:24:00] Speaker 1: Take care of. She's at school, she has a tutor,
[1:24:06] Speaker 1: she goes to the doctor, she has play dates. My
[1:24:10] Speaker 1: baby has a life. Okay, we dog wetly dog or not,
[1:24:14] Speaker 1: I don't care. She got things going on and she ch.
[1:24:19] Speaker 2: I'm glad that you said that, because I do feel
[1:24:21] Speaker 2: like as even though I am a woman who is
[1:24:24] Speaker 2: not dating a nigga with kids, if you are, there
[1:24:26] Speaker 2: are a lot of women who will and will and yeah,
[1:24:29] Speaker 2: and you will, but you would also look at his
[1:24:31] Speaker 2: behavior with his children. If your child ain't and tutoring,
[1:24:34] Speaker 2: and if you don't care about your child and they
[1:24:36] Speaker 2: not learning the different languages and they don't have other
[1:24:39] Speaker 2: involvement in activities that you should run.
[1:24:42] Speaker 1: I've gotten into deep conversations with people because I used
[1:24:47] Speaker 1: to feel like with a man who has kids, like
[1:24:50] Speaker 1: it's touchy, right, you never know, and so I'm trying
[1:24:53] Speaker 1: to I've been in multiple situations like that, and I
[1:24:56] Speaker 1: was trying to figure out how to navigate it. I
[1:25:00] Speaker 1: did not always do well, but whatever, I had questions
[1:25:02] Speaker 1: and they was gonna get asked somewhere or another. But
[1:25:04] Speaker 1: I figured out how to have more couth about it,
[1:25:06] Speaker 1: to get to like not a fight, but it is
[1:25:10] Speaker 1: important no matter what your questions, feelings, anything is you
[1:25:17] Speaker 1: guys hoalstle people because you need to see where they
[1:25:19] Speaker 1: head at, because do you want to join the club?
[1:25:21] Speaker 1: And his baby mama in That's what I ask myself
[1:25:24] Speaker 1: all the time, like, Okay, I see how you feel
[1:25:26] Speaker 1: about this and you talking about her, But I'll be
[1:25:28] Speaker 1: trying to look at it like as much as I
[1:25:34] Speaker 1: want to have your back, I'm not in an argument.
[1:25:38] Speaker 1: I'm looking out for me and I gotta do what
[1:25:40] Speaker 1: it's best for me, Lucius, because I'm looking at like
[1:25:42] Speaker 1: this is how you look at a situation.
[1:25:44] Speaker 3: What if I was in her position? Can I see
[1:25:47] Speaker 3: the other side of it?
[1:25:48] Speaker 1: I think as much as people be trying to be
[1:25:50] Speaker 1: down for their man, you gotta be down for self first.
[1:25:54] Speaker 3: And call it what you want, but.
[1:25:56] Speaker 1: You've got to look out for you because sometimes we
[1:25:59] Speaker 1: get so locked up as women, not me, but as
[1:26:02] Speaker 1: women if in our DNA to get lost. You want
[1:26:06] Speaker 1: to support this person they're telling you stuff. You want
[1:26:08] Speaker 1: to have their back, just do you want to believe them?
[1:26:10] Speaker 1: Just like as a key you know your best friend,
[1:26:12] Speaker 1: always right, and then you get all didn't realize this,
[1:26:13] Speaker 1: bitch kind of trifling. So we gotta like speak up.
[1:26:17] Speaker 1: You have to ask and look at things and put
[1:26:19] Speaker 1: yourself in that position because when you would a man
[1:26:23] Speaker 1: and I don't have a single example of somebody who
[1:26:26] Speaker 1: does not fit this mode. If you got one, sent
[1:26:28] Speaker 1: them to me, and I'll send you a ten dollars
[1:26:31] Speaker 1: gift card to where anywhere if you're choosing for ten dollars,
[1:26:35] Speaker 1: maybe even twenty Starbucks. Sure, okay, because if you dog
[1:26:41] Speaker 1: out your baby mama to a woman O you're dating,
[1:26:47] Speaker 1: and then that woman has a baby, do you really
[1:26:50] Speaker 1: treat her different? I don't know nobody who does it different.
[1:26:53] Speaker 1: Eventually your day will come. So you gotta look out
[1:26:57] Speaker 1: for that. How they talk about the baby mamas and
[1:26:59] Speaker 1: how they talk about their own mama's, how they talk
[1:27:01] Speaker 1: about women. So many look at that, it matters. There
[1:27:05] Speaker 1: is one thing to where there are instances where people
[1:27:09] Speaker 1: have issues where the woman is truly the problem. But
[1:27:13] Speaker 1: even how responsible respectful man speaks about said woman is
[1:27:19] Speaker 1: gonna be a lot different than somebody who is like, okay,
[1:27:22] Speaker 1: well yeah, you met your match, bitch. Because y'all both raggedy.
[1:27:25] Speaker 1: Y'all gotta be looking out.
[1:27:26] Speaker 2: You gotta be looking out. You gott look at yourself,
[1:27:28] Speaker 2: you gotta look at him. If somebody is talking to
[1:27:30] Speaker 2: mama crazy, ain't no way. I'm telling you right now,
[1:27:34] Speaker 2: I'll punch you in your fucking throat. I don't even
[1:27:37] Speaker 2: gotta meet your mom because they ain't no way. You
[1:27:41] Speaker 2: thought you was gonna get access to grade a pussy?
[1:27:45] Speaker 2: Are you talking to your mama like you lost your
[1:27:48] Speaker 2: fucking mind. I'm telling you right now, I'm not a man.
[1:27:52] Speaker 2: This is why I want situation. I don't want to
[1:27:55] Speaker 2: I want kids. I don't want a son at all.
[1:27:57] Speaker 2: Because it's too much. People think that the girl too much. No, no, no,
[1:28:01] Speaker 2: you little niggas.
[1:28:05] Speaker 1: Just adding dramatic effects with your New Year's thing because
[1:28:10] Speaker 1: they're bouncing, they are shaking in.
[1:28:13] Speaker 2: Twenty five, I'm telling eight year old little niggas. Niggas
[1:28:17] Speaker 2: is too much. I can't deal with this because it's
[1:28:20] Speaker 2: like one thing goes wrong and now you just hate bitches. No, no,
[1:28:24] Speaker 2: I can't do this.
[1:28:25] Speaker 1: We've got to stop the kindergarten hate of the women.
[1:28:30] Speaker 1: I don't know what needs happened is something happens in kindergarten.
[1:28:34] Speaker 1: I'm gonna ask the next man what happened in kindergarten?
[1:28:36] Speaker 1: He not even gonna know why I asked, what do
[1:28:38] Speaker 1: you remember from kindergarten?
[1:28:39] Speaker 2: EYBODEE should ask a man what happened? Just just don't
[1:28:43] Speaker 2: even say that what happened? Just walk up to niggas,
[1:28:46] Speaker 2: just start walking back. What happened?
[1:28:48] Speaker 1: Well, I don't know about that what happened?
[1:28:51] Speaker 2: Because why you're walking around here acting like this? What happened?
[1:28:55] Speaker 1: They be like, what happened to you? Why you're screaming
[1:28:58] Speaker 1: at me? Are too aggressive? Y'all want to be the man?
[1:29:01] Speaker 3: You know how they do? You gotta so what happened?
[1:29:06] Speaker 1: We gotta do it like that. You gotta very very
[1:29:09] Speaker 1: cute see and make a make a meal?
[1:29:12] Speaker 2: Poor cocktail.
[1:29:13] Speaker 1: Well, hold up, this is a man on the street.
[1:29:17] Speaker 1: Make a meal.
[1:29:18] Speaker 3: I guess if it's your man, you can.
[1:29:20] Speaker 2: It's a lot of people's men's now good luck.
[1:29:28] Speaker 3: I mean fandka you said.
[1:29:31] Speaker 1: Fdica, But like girl, leave a situation. Stop with the
[1:29:37] Speaker 1: whatever you telling jooning and all that other stuff you're
[1:29:42] Speaker 1: talking about. Leave it alone and leave them Disney towers alone.
[1:29:46] Speaker 1: We all move on to cocktails cocktails at cocktailspot dot com,
[1:29:50] Speaker 1: and make sure you put cocktail in the subject line.
[1:30:03] Speaker 1: But I mean, is it some cat once upon a time,
[1:30:14] Speaker 1: not long ago, I was all.
[1:30:18] Speaker 3: Right, So on our twenty twenty five, I do have
[1:30:21] Speaker 3: a short cocktail. It's not gonna be.
[1:30:22] Speaker 2: You're gonna You're not gonna read this when you're gonna.
[1:30:25] Speaker 3: Tell y'all something to happen.
[1:30:27] Speaker 1: Look at me.
[1:30:27] Speaker 2: I told y'all, it's been so long since one of
[1:30:30] Speaker 2: us has had an O G cocktail. If you were
[1:30:33] Speaker 2: new here, I really haven't been fucking. If you are
[1:30:35] Speaker 2: new here at cocktails, then you you don't know that.
[1:30:39] Speaker 2: In the beginning of our saga and Kiki and I
[1:30:43] Speaker 2: have known each other since high school, if you are
[1:30:45] Speaker 2: also new here, every cocktail was a cocktail, like a
[1:30:49] Speaker 2: personal cocktail from her or from me, and we would
[1:30:53] Speaker 2: share our personal sexual experiences here in Atlanta or from wherever.
[1:30:58] Speaker 2: I When I was a light attending, I was fucking
[1:31:01] Speaker 2: eggs and so we shared them. And a lot of
[1:31:03] Speaker 2: the times when we reflect back on those times, it's embarrassing,
[1:31:07] Speaker 2: and a lot of the times we can't hold down
[1:31:09] Speaker 2: relationships because of them, and so to know.
[1:31:12] Speaker 3: That, yeah, made me catch straight.
[1:31:15] Speaker 2: I'm sorry I didn't haven't shared who I left in
[1:31:19] Speaker 2: twenty twenty four. So so so this is like a
[1:31:23] Speaker 2: this is a this is an amazing moment for like
[1:31:26] Speaker 2: you to have an og cocktail.
[1:31:29] Speaker 1: It is, and thank you for all of that warm up.
[1:31:33] Speaker 1: Was this anti clemactic story. I thought before I got here,
[1:31:41] Speaker 1: I was like, do you even have a deep moment
[1:31:44] Speaker 1: and share where I was depressed?
[1:31:45] Speaker 3: And I was like, no, I'm just do not.
[1:31:47] Speaker 1: Okay, we're gonna end on a happy note. So the
[1:31:51] Speaker 1: other night, you guys, I was at home in my bed.
[1:31:56] Speaker 3: I took a high love gummy.
[1:31:57] Speaker 1: And this is not an ad. I don't even know
[1:31:59] Speaker 1: if a goes in this episode, but this is organic
[1:32:02] Speaker 1: for real.
[1:32:03] Speaker 3: So shout out to y'all. By him got my new package.
[1:32:08] Speaker 1: I love now that was a care package. I thought
[1:32:11] Speaker 1: I got a gift from like somebody. I thought it
[1:32:14] Speaker 1: was my secret Sanding gift. I'm in a few different
[1:32:16] Speaker 1: secret Santa pots and then.
[1:32:18] Speaker 2: Wait, pause, I have a new friend. Her name is Dorry,
[1:32:20] Speaker 2: and I met her at church Dory Dory.
[1:32:24] Speaker 1: The movie, Yes, Yes, Yes, And.
[1:32:26] Speaker 2: I met her through church and I gave her some
[1:32:28] Speaker 2: High Love Gummies so she could better. I'm sorry this
[1:32:32] Speaker 2: is hopefully the church ain't listening, but I love her
[1:32:35] Speaker 2: and she and I gave it to it.
[1:32:37] Speaker 1: Well, my auntie gave my granddaddy gummies. And it's not
[1:32:39] Speaker 1: the end of the world. It comes from the earth,
[1:32:41] Speaker 1: that's what That's what people say when they justify anyway,
[1:32:45] Speaker 1: the High Love gummies are great. So anyway, they send
[1:32:47] Speaker 1: me this care package. And when I say it's just screet,
[1:32:50] Speaker 1: I use the shop app so I get notifications that
[1:32:54] Speaker 1: something is coming. I had no idea what this was
[1:32:58] Speaker 1: because it does not even save him. So anybody who
[1:33:01] Speaker 1: is nervous, maybe you live with your parents or something,
[1:33:03] Speaker 1: you don't want them know. Discreet, they mean fucking discreet.
[1:33:07] Speaker 1: It was like I was like, I hope it ain't
[1:33:10] Speaker 1: nothing coming from like the CIA, because I've been watching
[1:33:12] Speaker 1: line as.
[1:33:13] Speaker 2: But I was like.
[1:33:15] Speaker 1: Nothing, I don't know. I was paranoid because what the
[1:33:17] Speaker 1: fuck is this mystery package coming? And they said it
[1:33:19] Speaker 1: was heavy anyway, so I took my High Love got
[1:33:21] Speaker 1: me hours before I'm in the bad, I'm watching TV.
[1:33:26] Speaker 1: I'm relaxing. All of a sudden, I just was like
[1:33:30] Speaker 1: I didn't even realize I was doing. I was in
[1:33:32] Speaker 1: the bedroom myself like this right, just like all of
[1:33:35] Speaker 1: my body and it felt good, like I know.
[1:33:37] Speaker 3: I used my OCA.
[1:33:39] Speaker 1: Products, I had taken up a shower. Then I got
[1:33:42] Speaker 1: in the bathtub and seachd I used the body pology,
[1:33:45] Speaker 1: I used to well, I use everything right. Then I
[1:33:48] Speaker 1: got out and I was like, you know what, something
[1:33:52] Speaker 1: has come over me. So this man who I have
[1:33:59] Speaker 1: been sleeping with on the three occasions I had sex this.
[1:34:02] Speaker 2: Year, not the three occasions of twenty twenty four that
[1:34:06] Speaker 2: you got.
[1:34:08] Speaker 1: Yeah, the three times.
[1:34:10] Speaker 3: So something got the best of me.
[1:34:12] Speaker 1: And like I said, at the end of the day,
[1:34:14] Speaker 1: I am a mother and we are a package deal.
[1:34:16] Speaker 1: So I said with the come on, baby girl, were
[1:34:18] Speaker 1: about to go downstairs. You think I was gonna leave
[1:34:21] Speaker 1: my one year old at home?
[1:34:23] Speaker 2: What type of mother are you? Oh? Good?
[1:34:25] Speaker 1: You think I'm gonna leave my baby at home for
[1:34:27] Speaker 1: some dick.
[1:34:28] Speaker 2: I have left Shy at home for a weekend.
[1:34:32] Speaker 1: If they had CPS for dogs, I would have called
[1:34:34] Speaker 1: them people out here?
[1:34:38] Speaker 2: Is there you better learn?
[1:34:41] Speaker 1: Oh no, I bring my baby and you need to
[1:34:43] Speaker 1: love her too, anyway you know her?
[1:34:47] Speaker 3: So anyway we go downstairs.
[1:34:49] Speaker 1: I got to coach at the door, and I was like,
[1:34:51] Speaker 1: I hope the de boat is on there, because then
[1:34:54] Speaker 1: I couldn't get in right and you high yeah, But
[1:34:57] Speaker 1: I didn't realize I was hot till the next day.
[1:35:00] Speaker 1: I'm just thinking my sex drive came back like in
[1:35:02] Speaker 1: the like a thiefa of the night right, and I'm like, well,
[1:35:04] Speaker 1: I've got to act on it because maybe if I
[1:35:06] Speaker 1: don't act on it, then it.
[1:35:08] Speaker 2: Will leave.
[1:35:10] Speaker 1: And just never come back. I'm like, is that the
[1:35:12] Speaker 1: life I want to live? I mean, it's okay, but
[1:35:13] Speaker 1: it's very boring. I'll be honest as I reflect on
[1:35:17] Speaker 1: twenty twenty four. Anyway, So I go down there, I
[1:35:19] Speaker 1: put in the code. It works so cool.
[1:35:22] Speaker 2: Inside.
[1:35:23] Speaker 3: Then I was like, oh shit, this nigga keep a
[1:35:26] Speaker 3: gun under the pillow.
[1:35:28] Speaker 1: I should probably announce myself because what he can't see?
[1:35:31] Speaker 3: So what if he thinks like something's going on?
[1:35:34] Speaker 2: Baby?
[1:35:35] Speaker 1: He was fucking storing. I'm ready too deep in the
[1:35:39] Speaker 1: story to turn back now, so let me tell y'all
[1:35:41] Speaker 1: what I did. So I took quickly off the leash
[1:35:42] Speaker 1: so that she could calm down. She's got a bed there.
[1:35:45] Speaker 3: I go in the room I pulled back the covers.
[1:35:48] Speaker 3: I was like, hey, it's me for you being started.
[1:35:51] Speaker 1: Well, at first I was trying to be sexy, but
[1:35:53] Speaker 1: then I was like, I don't know where the gun
[1:35:55] Speaker 1: is okay, and he can't see, so what if he
[1:35:59] Speaker 1: just pull it out? I was like, it's me, but
[1:36:01] Speaker 1: you can relax. So he's said, huh huh, what's going on?
[1:36:03] Speaker 1: I was like, well, I hope don't nobody ever break
[1:36:05] Speaker 1: it here, bitch, because y'all reflex this is a little slow. Anyway,
[1:36:11] Speaker 1: I take back the covers. I don't even like second
[1:36:13] Speaker 1: dick no more. I used to be a dig second
[1:36:15] Speaker 1: and like I used to like to do it.
[1:36:17] Speaker 3: I took pride in my work. And then I was like, bitch,
[1:36:20] Speaker 3: fuck that shit.
[1:36:21] Speaker 2: I don't even have to do this.
[1:36:23] Speaker 1: I don't want to do it.
[1:36:24] Speaker 2: I have to.
[1:36:25] Speaker 3: I don't want you. And if the nigga feels like
[1:36:26] Speaker 3: I have to.
[1:36:27] Speaker 1: I won't and I'll be alone.
[1:36:28] Speaker 3: I got a dog, I'm good, I'll collect a cat
[1:36:31] Speaker 3: if need be.
[1:36:32] Speaker 1: Anyway, I pulled back the covers and I crawl into
[1:36:36] Speaker 1: the bed. I just started sucking his dick, and then
[1:36:38] Speaker 1: halfway through, I was like, how are you?
[1:36:41] Speaker 3: And then the other side was just like, but you
[1:36:43] Speaker 3: go with it. It's been a rough here.
[1:36:47] Speaker 2: Feel good?
[1:36:48] Speaker 1: Does he not make you feel good? Is he not
[1:36:50] Speaker 1: nice to you? Is he not helpful for you? And
[1:36:52] Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, you're right. So I just went
[1:36:55] Speaker 1: to town on that right. And then I was like,
[1:36:58] Speaker 1: j'all tired. I really want to go to sleep. He
[1:37:00] Speaker 1: was already sleep, Like is he gonna be mad if
[1:37:02] Speaker 1: I just like tap out? Because I think I got
[1:37:04] Speaker 1: a little over zealous and I was really excited to
[1:37:06] Speaker 1: do something sexual. Then honestly, bitch, I was tired, So
[1:37:09] Speaker 1: anybody out there who'll getting.
[1:37:10] Speaker 3: Tired, I feel you.
[1:37:12] Speaker 1: But then I was like, my mama ain't raised on hole.
[1:37:15] Speaker 1: Well maybe she did anyway. So then next thing I know,
[1:37:21] Speaker 1: I just it was like twenty nineteen Kiki, I hopped
[1:37:25] Speaker 1: on his dick. I was fucking in my I got
[1:37:27] Speaker 1: on top. I retired from being on top in like
[1:37:30] Speaker 1: twenty twenty one, twenty two. I was sired of that.
[1:37:32] Speaker 2: Twenty nine, twenty twenty night, what say you hold out
[1:37:41] Speaker 2: real quick? Twenty nineteen Kiki was getting burnt by hookahs
[1:37:46] Speaker 2: like her hookah called twenty nineteen. He would tork over
[1:37:50] Speaker 2: a table and the hookahould spilling her back and she
[1:37:52] Speaker 2: would just be like, shake it off.
[1:37:54] Speaker 1: I was twenty eighteen, but yeah, yes, yes, I did
[1:37:57] Speaker 1: have a nasty escapade in the club.
[1:38:00] Speaker 2: That was a fine kee key.
[1:38:03] Speaker 1: That was fine. And then I got older. Hip started hurting,
[1:38:07] Speaker 1: priority started shifting, bitch got boring.
[1:38:09] Speaker 2: I know it.
[1:38:11] Speaker 3: Seeho's comments.
[1:38:12] Speaker 2: I get it.
[1:38:12] Speaker 1: But anyway, so I hopped up there and I channeled
[1:38:15] Speaker 1: my younger self and I said, you know what, it
[1:38:19] Speaker 1: kind of feels good.
[1:38:20] Speaker 2: I mean tap back in.
[1:38:22] Speaker 1: Yeah, it tap back in.
[1:38:25] Speaker 2: Okay, So I hopped all oday.
[1:38:28] Speaker 5: He was so appreciative, and he was just like he said,
[1:38:33] Speaker 5: he was in a dream sequence. So the next morning
[1:38:36] Speaker 5: when we woke up, I woke come up, I said, hey,
[1:38:38] Speaker 5: we gotta go. I got shit to do, So me
[1:38:40] Speaker 5: and my baby we left because I did.
[1:38:42] Speaker 1: Bring Whitley to my dick appointment that when it was
[1:38:46] Speaker 1: a dick ambush, I brought her with me and we
[1:38:48] Speaker 1: left and we went back home and I got back
[1:38:50] Speaker 1: to work and I did the things DOWN used to do,
[1:38:52] Speaker 1: and he was so happy for the rest of the day.
[1:38:54] Speaker 2: And I.
[1:38:58] Speaker 1: Think it was needed, and that was a nice, unexpected
[1:39:01] Speaker 1: gift that I gave to somebody that didn't cost me
[1:39:03] Speaker 1: nothing but my time and.
[1:39:07] Speaker 3: I don't even know, like my hip hurts.
[1:39:10] Speaker 1: Okay, well it was worth it. It was a good
[1:39:13] Speaker 1: time and it was like, you know what, it also
[1:39:15] Speaker 1: feels good to get a piece of the old me
[1:39:18] Speaker 1: back without being too wild. But like, sexy is important
[1:39:22] Speaker 1: even if you're not gonna have it. I don't think
[1:39:24] Speaker 1: you have to have sex all the time.
[1:39:25] Speaker 2: You do what works for you.
[1:39:27] Speaker 1: But it was missing, and I think.
[1:39:29] Speaker 2: That'd be the part that I was like talking about
[1:39:31] Speaker 2: where it's like men and I'm not just trying to
[1:39:34] Speaker 2: put the whole light on men, but like men, some
[1:39:36] Speaker 2: of the stuff that they want versus what we want,
[1:39:38] Speaker 2: would they be wanting it really be like that's it.
[1:39:42] Speaker 2: They just want you to hop on the dick in
[1:39:43] Speaker 2: the middle of the night, suck and dick and act
[1:39:46] Speaker 2: like you happy.
[1:39:47] Speaker 3: That was amazing, Like they came in there and like
[1:39:53] Speaker 3: a sex demon.
[1:39:55] Speaker 2: Imagine if a man was saying some of the things
[1:39:57] Speaker 2: that we want, like we want you to do certain things,
[1:40:00] Speaker 2: and it's like, imagine if if all you want me to.
[1:40:03] Speaker 1: Do is fuck you, that's actually not that hard, which
[1:40:08] Speaker 1: can't as long as you're feeling okay. As long as
[1:40:11] Speaker 1: you're feeling okay, will you don't be feeling good. I
[1:40:13] Speaker 1: don't want to fuck because I'm not gonna do a
[1:40:15] Speaker 1: good job. And then I'm gonna be embarrassed because I
[1:40:18] Speaker 1: was a.
[1:40:18] Speaker 3: Bad I think they'll still take it.
[1:40:20] Speaker 1: They would still take it, But do it embarrassed.
[1:40:25] Speaker 2: Just hop on the day, hop on it. Just hop
[1:40:29] Speaker 2: on it.
[1:40:30] Speaker 3: Hop on it with your boot.
[1:40:32] Speaker 2: We don't have to argue about anything else. But put
[1:40:34] Speaker 2: some makeup on, curl your hair. Fuck that nigga.
[1:40:38] Speaker 1: Next thing, I know, I had lunch coming. I said, see,
[1:40:42] Speaker 1: and that's all I really be wanting us to be fed.
[1:40:45] Speaker 1: I just want to be fed. I mean I like
[1:40:47] Speaker 1: other stuff too, but that's that's that's my basic thing.
[1:40:50] Speaker 1: What's the basic thing you be wanting on a regular basis?
[1:40:52] Speaker 1: I want to be fed and I want somebody else
[1:40:54] Speaker 1: to make the decision about what I'm gonna eat because
[1:40:56] Speaker 1: I get stressed out and I will wait four fucking hours.
[1:40:58] Speaker 1: When we were on that thing yesterday the Patreon Live,
[1:41:02] Speaker 1: I started looking at what I wanted for dinner at
[1:41:03] Speaker 1: five thirty pm.
[1:41:05] Speaker 2: Wow, the basic thing that I want and I don't
[1:41:08] Speaker 2: know to me. It's just like, I don't ever want
[1:41:11] Speaker 2: to have to go to the gas station.
[1:41:13] Speaker 1: If you go, jesus, I don't.
[1:41:16] Speaker 2: I'm I'm talking about. I don't even want to have to.
[1:41:18] Speaker 2: Every time I get in the car, I wanted to
[1:41:19] Speaker 2: be on full I'm sucking. Your jaw is numb. Don't
[1:41:24] Speaker 2: play with me. What you need, that's it. You don't
[1:41:26] Speaker 2: even got to do nothing else. I don't want to
[1:41:29] Speaker 2: go to the gas station. Going to the gas station
[1:41:31] Speaker 2: as a fine woman. It's going to the jungle. It's
[1:41:36] Speaker 2: hard out here.
[1:41:37] Speaker 1: I pull up, I pull up, pop out, and.
[1:41:41] Speaker 2: Niggas is shorting at me.
[1:41:43] Speaker 1: I don't want to do it what it's shot at you.
[1:41:46] Speaker 2: I can't When I go to the gas station, I
[1:41:49] Speaker 2: get hollered at every time. And I'm not saying that
[1:41:51] Speaker 2: you team, I'm talking about you look at me. I
[1:41:55] Speaker 2: don't know. I don't like that. I don't like it.
[1:41:58] Speaker 2: I don't like it. I don't want it. I don't
[1:42:00] Speaker 2: like the attention. I don't want. Going to the gas
[1:42:02] Speaker 2: station reminds me of when I was a kid and
[1:42:04] Speaker 2: I watched this movie and it was called Vanished, and
[1:42:06] Speaker 2: the Vanished movie it had andrela Bullock in it, and
[1:42:10] Speaker 2: I forget who the Angela Bullock? Angela Bullock? Is that
[1:42:13] Speaker 2: her name?
[1:42:14] Speaker 1: Sandra Sandra.
[1:42:16] Speaker 2: I'm like Warren Be knowing the people. Sandra Bullock and
[1:42:19] Speaker 2: I remember this as a vanish I wasn't supposed to be.
[1:42:22] Speaker 2: It's called Vanished and she goes to the gas station
[1:42:25] Speaker 2: and she gets snatched up and kidnapped, and she's with
[1:42:27] Speaker 2: her boyfriend but he didn't go in and check on her.
[1:42:29] Speaker 2: It's a really good movie. It's an old movie. I
[1:42:31] Speaker 2: think it's on it might be on Amazon Prime. I
[1:42:33] Speaker 2: know it's not on Netflix, and you're gonna have to
[1:42:34] Speaker 2: pay for it, but it's worth it. And she and
[1:42:37] Speaker 2: I remember watching this movie as a child and being like, Nigga,
[1:42:40] Speaker 2: I'm not going to the gas station. Ever. Clearly I
[1:42:44] Speaker 2: had to go because you gotta get gassed. But however,
[1:42:46] Speaker 2: like I want, I do, like my man has to know,
[1:42:49] Speaker 2: like that's not like, that's not in my This is
[1:42:53] Speaker 2: just not like going to the gas station as a woman.
[1:42:55] Speaker 2: It's just so dangerous and it's just not it. I
[1:42:58] Speaker 2: don't fucking stint and it thinks and it's just very manly.
[1:43:02] Speaker 2: I don't want to go to home depot. I don't
[1:43:03] Speaker 2: want to do this shit. I don't want to do it.
[1:43:06] Speaker 1: What you're doing at home, depot, I'm gonna.
[1:43:09] Speaker 2: Get an air filter. I don't want to do it,
[1:43:14] Speaker 2: and I don't want to do it, and so like
[1:43:16] Speaker 2: those are the simple things that I'll be looking at
[1:43:17] Speaker 2: where it's like, bro, I gotta have like a manly ass,
[1:43:20] Speaker 2: fucking man. I don't want to pump the gas. I
[1:43:22] Speaker 2: don't even and I want you to know, I am
[1:43:26] Speaker 2: a fucking mother of dragons. Don't even have me in
[1:43:29] Speaker 2: the position where I have to go and pump my
[1:43:31] Speaker 2: own fucking gas.
[1:43:33] Speaker 3: It's not to blow the gas station up.
[1:43:35] Speaker 2: No, he don't. I don't. Nobody has to build a
[1:43:37] Speaker 2: gas station.
[1:43:37] Speaker 1: No blow it up. You're gonna blow it up because
[1:43:39] Speaker 1: you're the mother of dragon.
[1:43:40] Speaker 2: I don't. Just don't. Let's not do this. I'm not
[1:43:42] Speaker 2: gonna blow the gas station up. But your dick not
[1:43:44] Speaker 2: getting sucked because here we are. Here we are. I'm
[1:43:48] Speaker 2: at the gas station pumping gas with niggas with dirty hands.
[1:43:52] Speaker 1: They want to kidnap me.
[1:43:53] Speaker 2: And vanished me like Sandra Bullick. No, the movie was traumatizing.
[1:43:57] Speaker 2: He snatched her up in the gas station nobody found her.
[1:44:00] Speaker 2: She died, and she was killed and buried in the
[1:44:04] Speaker 2: backyard of a weird man at the gas station that
[1:44:08] Speaker 2: you see who's trying to holler at you.
[1:44:10] Speaker 3: Did they build like pavement over her grades, Yes, and.
[1:44:14] Speaker 2: Her boln never stopped trying to find her. And he
[1:44:16] Speaker 2: got a new girlfriend, and he told a new girlfriend,
[1:44:18] Speaker 2: I love this girl. We gotta figure out what happened
[1:44:21] Speaker 2: to her. She helped him figure out what happened to her,
[1:44:23] Speaker 2: like bitches do they make your life better? And she
[1:44:26] Speaker 2: helped him find his dead girlfriend who got kidnapped at
[1:44:28] Speaker 2: the gas station for popping her own fucking gas. I'm
[1:44:31] Speaker 2: not pumping it, man.
[1:44:33] Speaker 1: I'm not helping you find the last bitch that she
[1:44:35] Speaker 1: left her dead. I'll help you find the last bah
[1:44:38] Speaker 1: I won't. I'll help you will help her because I'm
[1:44:41] Speaker 1: gonna be pissed off and you could be down up
[1:44:43] Speaker 1: under that motherfucker gas station with her too, You raggedy
[1:44:46] Speaker 1: ass nigga? Why am I helping you investigate a bitch
[1:44:50] Speaker 1: that she was at the gas station? Would to begin
[1:44:52] Speaker 1: with you were there. If you would have did the
[1:44:55] Speaker 1: right thing from the jump, we wouldn't be in this predicament.
[1:44:59] Speaker 1: And now I'm over here helping you like a dumb,
[1:45:01] Speaker 1: sad ass bitch. I can't get nobody else, and I'm
[1:45:04] Speaker 1: helping you. Be a Carmeen san Diego, travel around the
[1:45:07] Speaker 1: goddamn world, be an investigator. What's the girl Nancy Drew?
[1:45:11] Speaker 2: And this is why y'all need to pay attention to
[1:45:14] Speaker 2: men's behavior, because if you pull.
[1:45:16] Speaker 1: Y'n investigation discuss off again, lifetime and a maroon crime.
[1:45:21] Speaker 2: Because if you pull up to a gas station and
[1:45:23] Speaker 2: your nick and when that's emotional, no, when I say
[1:45:27] Speaker 2: your nikka, I mean if you just pull up to
[1:45:29] Speaker 2: a gas station, your nikka could be your brother, your baby, daddy,
[1:45:33] Speaker 2: your boyfriend, your daddy, your husband, and you get out
[1:45:37] Speaker 2: of the car and you pump gas and he doesn't
[1:45:39] Speaker 2: do it. That's a red flag. That is a maroon flag.
[1:45:43] Speaker 2: That is a flaming, red hot flag. And you need
[1:45:46] Speaker 2: to run because here's what's gonna happen. You're gonna get kidnapped,
[1:45:50] Speaker 2: sold into human sex trafficking, You're gonna die, and you're
[1:45:53] Speaker 2: gonna be buried under a gas station, the very same
[1:45:57] Speaker 2: gas station that you let that nigga take you to.
[1:45:59] Speaker 2: And you who got out and pumped the gas yourself,
[1:46:04] Speaker 2: and now.
[1:46:05] Speaker 3: You're sitting in your grave with gasoline hands.
[1:46:09] Speaker 2: Smelling like gas. And God is like, bitch, I'm sending
[1:46:12] Speaker 2: you to little down because you're dumb. Bit. Just get bitch,
[1:46:17] Speaker 2: wake up. God said it, he said bach.
[1:46:22] Speaker 3: Well, well, well, well I don't.
[1:46:24] Speaker 1: I don't think he said it, but someone did anyway,
[1:46:29] Speaker 1: Frederica what was her name? Just it made me think
[1:46:35] Speaker 1: about you because you're making bad decisions. But I hope
[1:46:40] Speaker 1: anybody who was like me now I remember what we
[1:46:43] Speaker 1: were talking about. Anybody who was feeling like me and
[1:46:46] Speaker 1: you lost your sex drive, I hope it comes back
[1:46:48] Speaker 1: to you this year too. There's hope. It did take
[1:46:51] Speaker 1: up about a full year. But that's all right because
[1:46:55] Speaker 1: guess what you back. Well, I was gonna say the
[1:46:59] Speaker 1: laser hair re move. Well I've been doing that for
[1:47:01] Speaker 1: about a full year too, So now I don't even
[1:47:03] Speaker 1: have to worry about that part, because you know, I
[1:47:05] Speaker 1: don't really like to show up for an appointment with
[1:47:07] Speaker 1: a bush. I'm not a jungle girl.
[1:47:10] Speaker 3: So you know, there's hope.
[1:47:12] Speaker 1: Sometimes you got to take some time, and as uncomfortable
[1:47:15] Speaker 1: as it is, as much as everybody tells you, oh,
[1:47:17] Speaker 1: just get back to that, No, bitch, Well, you know
[1:47:19] Speaker 1: that you're making raggedy as decisions.
[1:47:21] Speaker 3: Whether it's for yourself or that affect other people.
[1:47:24] Speaker 1: Stop drop and roll into therapy okay, and if one
[1:47:30] Speaker 1: therapist ain't working, you keep rolling, rolling, rolling, Well, KICKI
[1:47:34] Speaker 1: let them know.
[1:47:35] Speaker 2: How do you know if you're making bad decisions? Cause
[1:47:37] Speaker 2: I feel like sometimes I'm.
[1:47:38] Speaker 1: Unhappy, i am sad, i am crying. I'm starting to
[1:47:41] Speaker 1: feel I'm getting an attitude when I vent. This is
[1:47:46] Speaker 1: this is really the one that I think a lot
[1:47:49] Speaker 1: of people will see. First you vent to your friends.
[1:47:53] Speaker 1: Then you start getting an attitude about the response that
[1:47:56] Speaker 1: your friends are giving you. They're telling you the truth,
[1:48:01] Speaker 1: they're giving you advice unsolicited or not, and you're just like, well,
[1:48:04] Speaker 1: I didn't ask her for advice, or she doesn't understand.
[1:48:07] Speaker 1: When you start feeling like all your people looking at
[1:48:10] Speaker 1: you sideways, you're giving you bad advice. They're probably not
[1:48:13] Speaker 1: giving your bad advice. You're probably in a bad situation
[1:48:16] Speaker 1: and you're making bad choice in they're.
[1:48:18] Speaker 2: Fed up, and nobody's trying to make it sound like
[1:48:23] Speaker 2: it's easy. It's not easy.
[1:48:25] Speaker 3: I mean, ill, it's taking me the whole career of cocktails.
[1:48:28] Speaker 2: So yeah, but.
[1:48:30] Speaker 1: Twenty five years later, I'm still on my journey of
[1:48:35] Speaker 1: being a better me. But hey, it doesn't matter when
[1:48:38] Speaker 1: you start to start, because at some point you realize
[1:48:41] Speaker 1: I'm not actually happy with the life that I'm living
[1:48:43] Speaker 1: and I want to change, And it doesn't matter how
[1:48:45] Speaker 1: long it takes. The journey can be beautiful. You can
[1:48:48] Speaker 1: create something beautiful. I was telling Coreoel before we started.
[1:48:52] Speaker 1: I was like, you know, I've just been trying to
[1:48:56] Speaker 1: be on this path of let's look at the mistakes
[1:48:58] Speaker 1: and not like being myself up about them, because I've
[1:49:02] Speaker 1: done that a lot. Even though I would continue to
[1:49:04] Speaker 1: make same ones, I will still beat myself up about it.
[1:49:06] Speaker 1: It was just like an abusive relationship with myself. Some
[1:49:11] Speaker 1: beautiful things come from mistakes. If I wasn't making dumb
[1:49:15] Speaker 1: ass decisions, y'all wouldn't be able to laugh at us
[1:49:17] Speaker 1: and talk shit in the comments. Hello, we're helping each other.
[1:49:22] Speaker 2: Some of the beautiful messages that I get, I'm like, Oh,
[1:49:26] Speaker 2: I wasn't a hope for no reason doing the Lord's work.
[1:49:30] Speaker 2: Call me Mary, I'm pregnant with Jesus.
[1:49:35] Speaker 1: Now we're getting farther and farther away. Sorry, it's all right,
[1:49:40] Speaker 1: It's sorry. Hey, we fall down.
[1:49:43] Speaker 2: But we get up?
[1:49:44] Speaker 1: Aha, you know it?
[1:49:45] Speaker 2: Now? Could you name the episode that we fall down
[1:49:49] Speaker 2: but we get up?
[1:49:50] Speaker 1: Yes, that's a good one. Name the episode. I like
[1:49:53] Speaker 1: to say it, so I see it in the notes
[1:49:55] Speaker 1: that come up. Name the episode we fall down but
[1:49:57] Speaker 1: we get up?
[1:49:58] Speaker 2: I got that.
[1:49:59] Speaker 1: Anyway, you go, guys, welcome to twenty twenty five. I
[1:50:02] Speaker 1: hope that it brings you something good. Send us some
[1:50:05] Speaker 1: messages or leave a comment. Let us know what you
[1:50:07] Speaker 1: leaving behind, who's not coming with you, what's not coming
[1:50:11] Speaker 1: with you, and what is like we could what are
[1:50:14] Speaker 1: we leaving and what we're bringing?
[1:50:16] Speaker 3: Where are we welcoming?
[1:50:19] Speaker 2: That's a good one. What are we welcoming?
[1:50:21] Speaker 1: Maybe some of you ain't never had before.
[1:50:25] Speaker 2: Little bootyhole action.
[1:50:27] Speaker 1: Well I was thinking I might try es cargo, but okay,
[1:50:31] Speaker 1: I'm not doing a bootyhole action would do bootyhole Before escargo.
[1:50:36] Speaker 2: I had a little cargo and a little booty hall,
[1:50:38] Speaker 2: So maybe I need to just figure something else.
[1:50:41] Speaker 1: Ound you just need a new location, okay, Well, and
[1:50:44] Speaker 1: then you'll find it there. Anyway. Oh, before we go,
[1:50:50] Speaker 1: y'all got like a week left to sign up for
[1:50:51] Speaker 1: my trip to South Please.
[1:50:53] Speaker 2: Sign up for the trip to y'all.
[1:50:56] Speaker 3: We're going in March.
[1:50:58] Speaker 1: You want to try something new, you want to treat ourselves,
[1:51:00] Speaker 1: do it. It's going to be a trip right now.
[1:51:03] Speaker 1: It's all women. Men are welcome, but it's all women
[1:51:06] Speaker 1: right now, and we're just gonna go.
[1:51:08] Speaker 3: We are leaving bullshit behind.
[1:51:09] Speaker 1: We are treating ourselves, we are celebrating ourselves, and we
[1:51:12] Speaker 1: are just coming together to have a good time, enjoy ourselves,
[1:51:17] Speaker 1: have new experiences, try new food, try new things, meet
[1:51:20] Speaker 1: new people, and just welcome the new and start that.
[1:51:23] Speaker 1: You're off right in a beautiful place with beautiful stands.
[1:51:27] Speaker 1: The men do look good there, really everybody. A lot
[1:51:30] Speaker 1: of people looked really good, really like they're healthy. They're
[1:51:35] Speaker 1: working out there, moving, beautiful skin, beautiful faces.
[1:51:40] Speaker 2: Imagine all the people coming like on your retreat, and
[1:51:46] Speaker 2: then like they meet these beautiful men there and everybody
[1:51:48] Speaker 2: has these amazing one night stands.
[1:51:53] Speaker 1: They wrap it up.
[1:51:54] Speaker 2: You're in the sky Lounge on the way back to Atlanta.
[1:51:56] Speaker 1: And like everybody is telling me that they was fucking
[1:51:59] Speaker 1: the whole everyone.
[1:52:01] Speaker 2: And then like maybe one person is like, but I
[1:52:02] Speaker 2: have an itch?
[1:52:04] Speaker 1: No, but didn't. Don't you put that on my damn trip.
[1:52:07] Speaker 1: We're not bringing back no itches. If you got an
[1:52:09] Speaker 1: itches because you got the sumburn because that some was
[1:52:12] Speaker 1: so good and you didn't want to go inside, I
[1:52:14] Speaker 1: head back with the sumburb.
[1:52:15] Speaker 3: It's fine.
[1:52:16] Speaker 1: They also have lots of Alvera farms and excellent sunscreen
[1:52:19] Speaker 1: and other treatments. Anyway, y'all come, We're gonna have a blast, okay,
[1:52:25] Speaker 1: and there's nothing else you won't leave hunger.
[1:52:26] Speaker 2: I love it. Happy New Year, Happy twenty twenty five,
[1:52:29] Speaker 2: you guys, I'm calling it happy twenty twenty nine. Get
[1:52:32] Speaker 2: your titties done, get it twenty twenty fine?
[1:52:36] Speaker 1: Oh fin, I at you said twenty twenty nine, It's.
[1:52:38] Speaker 2: Like maybe good time jump say twenty twenty fine, get
[1:52:41] Speaker 2: your titties done, get a get a bb out.
[1:52:43] Speaker 1: I do want some titties for my birthday.
[1:52:45] Speaker 2: I do it already, got mine, I know, and.
[1:52:48] Speaker 1: They look good.
[1:52:48] Speaker 3: I've seen the nipples all episodes.
[1:52:50] Speaker 1: They look great.
[1:52:52] Speaker 2: What I'll be working on on twenty twenty five is
[1:52:54] Speaker 2: my face and just making it like way more prettier.
[1:52:57] Speaker 1: So get ready, bitches, get ready, bitches.
[1:53:02] Speaker 3: I think I want to grow my.
[1:53:03] Speaker 1: Hair out now.
[1:53:04] Speaker 2: I think I'm gonna chop mine off. I think I'm
[1:53:06] Speaker 2: gonna do like a Tony Braxton cut. I think you
[1:53:08] Speaker 2: should do it like an early nineties Tony.
[1:53:11] Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna rocket curly or like get the
[1:53:13] Speaker 1: little curling iron.
[1:53:14] Speaker 2: And I think I'm I don't really know. I have
[1:53:17] Speaker 2: to figure out. I'm not a hair person, so like
[1:53:19] Speaker 2: whatever I get it cut, like I would like to
[1:53:21] Speaker 2: try to maintain that, but then like I don't know
[1:53:23] Speaker 2: what's going to actually happen. But we'll see. I uh,
[1:53:27] Speaker 2: we'll see. And I love you guys, and happy New Year.
[1:53:31] Speaker 2: And I hope that you do all the things that
[1:53:33] Speaker 2: you say you're gonna do, because this is the year
[1:53:35] Speaker 2: for that. And if you are going through a breakup
[1:53:38] Speaker 2: or if you are leaving somebody behind a friendship or somebody,
[1:53:41] Speaker 2: I promise you're gonna be okay. I promise you gonna
[1:53:45] Speaker 2: be okay.
[1:53:46] Speaker 1: Well, amen to that, looking forwards and not backwards, Okay. Anyway, guys,
[1:53:53] Speaker 1: thank you so much for sticking sticking it through with
[1:53:56] Speaker 1: us and listening, supporting in whatever way you do. Up
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[1:54:12] Speaker 1: coffee band And until next week, you guys, good bye, good.
[1:54:16] Speaker 2: Bye, bye
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