# "Hot Yoga, Hot Men & Hot Mess Advice Letters"

An episode of [Cocktales with Kiki](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1149484402), 22 Aug 2025, 1 h 05 min.

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Kiki and Medinah are back with a no-guest episode full of stories, laughs, and a little real talk. From church crushes and splits that should’ve stayed retired, to wild mall chaos and situationships that feel more like soul ties, nothing is off-limits. The ladies get reflective about health, stress, and why peace is work (not silence), before diving into this week’s advice letter that mixes astrology with a messy situationship. Whether you’re here for the laughs, the life lessons, or just to hear why soda is basically crack, this episode is for you. 💻 Join the Drinks & Reads Book Club on Patreon www.patreon.com/kikisaidso Join Kiki in Jamaica at Hedo with WBT, Let them Know Kiki Sent You! www.worstbehaviortour.com 📺 Kiki's new show: xoMAN Podcast is out now! Check it out here: https://lnk.to/6JdRUZ 🌵 Sedona Retreat Day Passes via Paradise & Vibe https://paradiseandvibe.com/ To Join The Cancer Walk or Make a donation: Cancer Walk Info Go to brooklynbedding.com and use our promo code COCKTALES at checkout to get 30% off sitewide. 💉 LifeRx.md - Use code COCKTALES for $50 off LifeRX.MD - Start your health journey today with LifeRX and use code COCKTALES at checkout for $50 off. LIFERX Use code COCKTALES- CLICK HERE https://liferx.md/?u1=188&_ef_transaction_id&oid=1&affid=188 Chapters 00:00 – intro & “Agua” cocktail of the week 01:00 – Last week’s flirty fallout & church lust confessions 04:15 – Recapping guests & male perspectives 07:00 – Health reflections & stress talk 10:45 – Soda = crack & healthy swaps 11:30 – Save the Tatas Walk + travel updates 13:00 – Travel Tribe Thailand trip plans 14:00 – Drinks & Reads Book Club updates 16:00 – XO Man podcast shoutout 21:30 – Fashion chaos & mall fights 23:00 – Sensitivity vs understanding men 29:00 – Men who want “peace” but don’t do the work 35:00 – Hot yoga & self-reflection 36:30 – Advice Letter: Astrology & soul ties 48:00 – Perfect match or perfect mess? 55:00 – Knowing if someone’s really for you 1:02:00 – Closing thoughts, chaos & cocktails Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cocktales-with-kiki--2818687/support. CONNECT WITH US Follow the host and join the conversation after the episode: Kiki Said So (Kiara Walker) Instagram: @kikisaidso TikTok: @kikisaidso Cocktales With Kiki Instagram:@cocktalespodcast TikTok: @cocktalespodcast Want to be a guest on Cocktales? We are always looking for interesting guests, experts, and storytellers to join the show. If you would like to be considered, please fill out our guest submission form here: Guest Interest Form

## Transcript

[0:02] Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah. Check one two, check one two. Is this
[0:04] Speaker 1: Mike on? Is this Mike oning? Hey listen man, it's
[0:07] Speaker 1: the one and only Trenks that the DJ sis And
[0:09] Speaker 1: you're listening to Cocktails Dirty Discussions with Kiki and Medina
[0:13] Speaker 1: Monroe here. Today's cocktail is called Agua man Agua man,
[0:24] Speaker 1: and that's just a little water over some ice because
[0:27] Speaker 1: you bitches need to hydrate.
[0:29] Speaker 2: Drink up, ah white jeesus. Welcome back to Cocktail Shirty Discussions.
[0:35] Speaker 2: You guys. I am Kiki said so hey y'all, I
[0:39] Speaker 2: am Medina Mine Road and welcome back to another episode
[0:43] Speaker 2: of Cocktail Shirty Discussions.
[0:45] Speaker 1: All.
[0:45] Speaker 2: Last week's was very still hot in here. The windows
[0:48] Speaker 2: are fine.
[0:49] Speaker 1: My edges are sweated out, and I had to take
[0:51] Speaker 1: my ponytail down. I just want to apologize my wig
[0:54] Speaker 1: and napped up on the bottom piece. I do not
[0:58] Speaker 1: mean to flirt like that. Oh you did it. No,
[1:00] Speaker 1: he was making a marriage to me, not to like
[1:04] Speaker 1: I am just like, I was like, oh my god, okay,
[1:06] Speaker 1: so it's still in me. My pussy was thumping.
[1:08] Speaker 2: I knew it wasn't I start to day, but I
[1:10] Speaker 2: was like, I don't want to be instigating the situation
[1:13] Speaker 2: anymore than I am.
[1:14] Speaker 1: And that's why you know I don't need to go
[1:15] Speaker 1: on a date with that man. Really, don't you think no?
[1:19] Speaker 2: I mean because it's like the response Kiera would be like, no,
[1:24] Speaker 2: you shouldn't go on a date because I don't think
[1:26] Speaker 2: that you have to self control. Okay, but Kiki wants
[1:29] Speaker 2: you to go. I want to hear the story.
[1:31] Speaker 1: It's like but like it's like the little angels over
[1:34] Speaker 1: here and the little Devil's over here, like go beach go.
[1:36] Speaker 1: You know you want to go. You don't even want
[1:37] Speaker 1: to pop down.
[1:38] Speaker 2: You know it's been a long time since you did
[1:40] Speaker 2: a split.
[1:41] Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like, you know, like go go. And then
[1:43] Speaker 1: this one's like Medina, you just gotta say and do
[1:47] Speaker 1: not bring him to church because I'm ready to be
[1:49] Speaker 1: like okay, yeah, because I'm not.
[1:54] Speaker 2: I don't like being in church having lustful thoughts.
[1:57] Speaker 1: I've never been in church with a lustful thought.
[2:00] Speaker 2: I don't go to church with men that I'm attracted
[2:03] Speaker 2: to because I will have lessful thoughts. And I just
[2:05] Speaker 2: be feeling like Jesus is gonna strike me down right.
[2:07] Speaker 1: This is what I'm gonna I'm gonna post what church
[2:08] Speaker 1: I go to and just see if he shows up,
[2:10] Speaker 1: I'm not gonna invite him.
[2:11] Speaker 2: Would I ever make you feel like it's a bit
[2:14] Speaker 2: crazy because he'll see it. But what if somebody else does.
[2:17] Speaker 1: I mean they be seeing me at church? Anyways?
[2:19] Speaker 2: Yeah, but like, okay, go do it. Let's see Joe.
[2:26] Speaker 1: Okay. But he was a great guest. Let's say that
[2:28] Speaker 1: he was a great guess.
[2:29] Speaker 2: He's a great guest. He's very entertaining, very well spoken.
[2:32] Speaker 1: He could clearly answer a question.
[2:34] Speaker 2: Well, I don't know if I would go that far.
[2:36] Speaker 2: He answered some questions with some questions I was. I
[2:39] Speaker 2: felt like I was very clear and he wasn't understanding
[2:42] Speaker 2: me or understanding the question when I simply asked him
[2:46] Speaker 2: if the both of you, if there was an issue,
[2:49] Speaker 2: If you give a man question, they can't get away.
[2:51] Speaker 2: They can't which is which is not clear? So that's
[2:53] Speaker 2: why I'm saying, Nah, I wouldn't say that.
[2:55] Speaker 1: Would you say there was more that? I felt like
[2:57] Speaker 1: he was overall a good guy.
[2:58] Speaker 2: I think he was a typical man in so I
[3:00] Speaker 2: think overall, yes, great guests. Being a clear answer to
[3:04] Speaker 2: like actual questions not so much. But I still think
[3:06] Speaker 2: it was great conversation because he still had thoughts. But
[3:10] Speaker 2: sometimes it seems like, and I find this a lot
[3:12] Speaker 2: with men guests, very generic thoughts, and it's like, but
[3:16] Speaker 2: we really are asking about you, So it's okay that
[3:19] Speaker 2: you're making generalizations, but we do want to know what
[3:21] Speaker 2: you think, and we don't expect you to speak for
[3:23] Speaker 2: all men.
[3:24] Speaker 1: What is your thought?
[3:25] Speaker 2: So you know there is that. But I totally enjoyed
[3:29] Speaker 2: him a plus guest. I would love to have him
[3:31] Speaker 2: back again. There's more questions. I had some too, So
[3:35] Speaker 2: maybe next time he's in town in come and some
[3:39] Speaker 2: of the other guys that were a part of the
[3:41] Speaker 2: show might be good guests too. Do you think the
[3:43] Speaker 2: way y'all talked about.
[3:44] Speaker 1: Them, I now, now, I don't know. I don't know,
[3:47] Speaker 1: but I think just the fact that they're funny, I
[3:49] Speaker 1: feel like I feel like comedians are such good guests.
[3:51] Speaker 1: The host Detroit read he was really funny. Let's I'm
[3:56] Speaker 1: gonna hit him out. I think he lives in Atlanta,
[3:57] Speaker 1: and see if he could come up with the thirteen year
[3:59] Speaker 1: old and not so much. Can't come on here, but
[4:01] Speaker 1: I'll be baby, Yeah, we'll see. We'll see that. Because
[4:04] Speaker 1: comedians are great. What if we did a whole season
[4:07] Speaker 1: of just men. Nah, I can't handle it. No, Yeah,
[4:10] Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
[4:13] Speaker 2: But I mean we recorded fifteen fucking episodes and we
[4:16] Speaker 2: didn't recorded another one since the end of February, and
[4:19] Speaker 2: I'm glad we bulked those up and left them alone,
[4:21] Speaker 2: because like it's a lot, Yeah, especially when you want
[4:25] Speaker 2: them to open. But I would be down to do
[4:28] Speaker 2: like four episodes of like comments. We could do four guys,
[4:32] Speaker 2: four girls. I'm open. I went on a podcast. She
[4:39] Speaker 2: said it first this week it comes out. It came out.
[4:43] Speaker 2: I guess when y'all hear this, it will have come
[4:45] Speaker 2: out the previous Thursday. And I really enjoyed is the
[4:49] Speaker 2: recording with them. I hadn't met them before, and we
[4:53] Speaker 2: had talked with Hugo about like your network and like
[4:56] Speaker 2: pouring into people and all this stuff that we talk
[4:58] Speaker 2: about often. One of the guys who convinced me to
[5:04] Speaker 2: audition to be on the radio when I was in DC,
[5:07] Speaker 2: he's a producer for this show, well their show, but
[5:11] Speaker 2: she said it, but he does something with Urban one,
[5:15] Speaker 2: which is like Radio one, and all of them with
[5:18] Speaker 2: their podcasts, all of the podcasts, Like he's over something
[5:21] Speaker 2: I don't know, but anyway, he hit me up to
[5:24] Speaker 2: come on the show, and I was like, you know,
[5:26] Speaker 2: I was talking to him briefly and I was just
[5:28] Speaker 2: thinking about it, like I've known this guy for a
[5:30] Speaker 2: long time. This is one of my Howard people, and
[5:33] Speaker 2: like we did the radio together and that was like
[5:35] Speaker 2: a close knit group, and I just was glad that
[5:39] Speaker 2: I didn't burn a ton of bridges throughout college and stuff,
[5:42] Speaker 2: because you just never know where people are going to go,
[5:44] Speaker 2: and you never know like who remembers you. You remember people,
[5:47] Speaker 2: but you don't know who remembers you and who will
[5:49] Speaker 2: think of you. So shout out to JAHI. I call
[5:52] Speaker 2: him Jay High because that was his radio name, but
[5:54] Speaker 2: his name is actually JAHI, So shout out to you.
[5:56] Speaker 2: And then there he works with some other people, and
[5:59] Speaker 2: I've been running into a lot of people and I
[6:01] Speaker 2: was like, you must have been talking me up. And
[6:03] Speaker 2: I appreciate that. It's nice when that happens, especially when
[6:07] Speaker 2: you didn't ask, you didn't say anything, you didn't even
[6:09] Speaker 2: know the person thought about you.
[6:10] Speaker 1: It feels good that that's a good feeling. I'm doing
[6:15] Speaker 1: something good, so something right.
[6:16] Speaker 2: Yeah, and we all hear this I'll still be in Dallas,
[6:19] Speaker 2: but hopefully everything went well. Whenever we come back and
[6:22] Speaker 2: we record again, I would love to share whatever happened.
[6:28] Speaker 2: There's a few people that I've already connected with that
[6:30] Speaker 2: I plan to hang out with. I want to see
[6:32] Speaker 2: my friends and family. I'm so happy it's in Dallas
[6:34] Speaker 2: because I feel like, Okay, this is gonna be a
[6:36] Speaker 2: good trip. That's why I'm going ahead of the conference.
[6:38] Speaker 2: A couple of days ahead, I have to say one
[6:41] Speaker 2: of my friends and we also work together, passed away.
[6:46] Speaker 2: He was thirty eight cardiac arrest, just like out of nowhere,
[6:53] Speaker 2: and his funeral is next weekend. I'm not sure if
[6:59] Speaker 2: I'll be able to make it or not. I'm going
[7:01] Speaker 2: to try to, but I just wanted to say that
[7:04] Speaker 2: to remind y'all not only to contact Life or X
[7:07] Speaker 2: aside from plugging our actual sponsors. Is like, think about
[7:10] Speaker 2: your health. I'm saying that with cocktail in hand, but
[7:13] Speaker 2: I do think about it. So you think about it,
[7:15] Speaker 2: especially if you got kids adult Okay, I mean, they're
[7:20] Speaker 2: interesting creatures, they'll be all right, But the adults and
[7:22] Speaker 2: the babies in your family and your wife or whoever,
[7:26] Speaker 2: like life is precious. Even if nothing is wrong with
[7:29] Speaker 2: you health wise, anything could happen, And so I hope
[7:33] Speaker 2: that I start can real reflective around this time of year.
[7:36] Speaker 2: You know, our birthdays are coming up. I hope that everybody,
[7:42] Speaker 2: whenever you decide to do this at the point in
[7:44] Speaker 2: your year, and if you never do it, do it
[7:45] Speaker 2: with us during this time of the year, think about
[7:48] Speaker 2: your life and where you are, where you want to go,
[7:50] Speaker 2: where you came from, and what you want and how
[7:53] Speaker 2: you're going to make those things happen. Not in like
[7:57] Speaker 2: a stressed out situation, but like do you have you.
[7:59] Speaker 1: Been feeling happy lately?
[8:01] Speaker 3: No?
[8:01] Speaker 2: What would make you happy? What little things can I
[8:04] Speaker 2: do to make myself happy? Take a time to reset
[8:06] Speaker 2: and think about that. Because something that we don't talk about.
[8:09] Speaker 2: We talk about being fat, we talk about drugs, we
[8:11] Speaker 2: talk about drinking, we talk about gang shit, all kinds
[8:13] Speaker 2: of things that can kill you. But the stress of
[8:17] Speaker 2: life can take a toll on your body in so
[8:20] Speaker 2: many ways. So I hope that you guys try to
[8:21] Speaker 2: find some happiness and peace and joy and yet every day,
[8:25] Speaker 2: even if it comes in the form of a tall
[8:27] Speaker 2: man with an icy chain, and go, do you and he's.
[8:30] Speaker 1: A comedian name you go. I also just want to
[8:33] Speaker 1: say about the health thing because I just feel like
[8:35] Speaker 1: this has to be said, and I'm really not trying
[8:36] Speaker 1: to be go any but y'all do need to be
[8:38] Speaker 1: healthy and stop being taking so much sugar. If you're
[8:40] Speaker 1: gonna have a lot of sugar, let the sugar be
[8:42] Speaker 1: the alcohol. I mean, I know, alcohola not that.
[8:44] Speaker 2: Great your pison.
[8:45] Speaker 1: You gotta pick your poison. But I want to say
[8:46] Speaker 1: this about like, when I see grown people drinking soda,
[8:49] Speaker 1: it just gets It makes me so sad, especially or
[8:51] Speaker 1: if you're giving your kids soda when they're when we
[8:53] Speaker 1: have options that almost taste the same to me they do.
[8:56] Speaker 1: There is a soda called ollipop. I love a olipod.
[9:00] Speaker 2: They are good, but they don't taste the same.
[9:02] Speaker 1: I like them, and they're good for you. At the
[9:04] Speaker 1: end of the day, it's like I don't need it
[9:05] Speaker 1: to really taste like, you know, whatever it is. They
[9:07] Speaker 1: got a ginger ale version, they got a Coca cola version.
[9:10] Speaker 1: At least if you not gonna do it for yourself,
[9:12] Speaker 1: get it to the children. Is drinking a full can
[9:17] Speaker 1: of Coca cola. It's like a baby doesn't need that.
[9:20] Speaker 1: I don't care if it's an issue with it. The
[9:22] Speaker 1: point is it is not the sugar is just what
[9:25] Speaker 1: it's crack. It's crack. Please y'all try to find the
[9:29] Speaker 1: healthy version of whatever it is that you are in taking.
[9:34] Speaker 1: What you put into your body will expose itself even
[9:37] Speaker 1: if it's not doing it now when you get older.
[9:40] Speaker 1: I mean, I just I've been talking to so many
[9:41] Speaker 1: young people where it's like you're having these issues and
[9:43] Speaker 1: it's because of your everybody. Have you ever talked to
[9:45] Speaker 1: somebody it's like they're going through every other reason as
[9:48] Speaker 1: to what could be wrong except for what you're putting
[9:50] Speaker 1: in your body. I have. I've been talking to this
[9:53] Speaker 1: She's like and you kind of just like fall back
[9:55] Speaker 1: because sometimes people just don't want to hear it's like, yeah,
[9:56] Speaker 1: I'm not giving up my ribs or I'm not giving
[9:58] Speaker 1: up my fried and it's like, I don't care, you're
[10:01] Speaker 1: gonna be I don't.
[10:02] Speaker 2: Choose to engage in those like m M. But I
[10:05] Speaker 2: mean not to tell people not to drink the lollipops.
[10:08] Speaker 2: I like them. But I just wanted to put that
[10:11] Speaker 2: out there. While we're talking about health, there was something
[10:13] Speaker 2: about them and how they market them to be certain things.
[10:16] Speaker 2: So not the sugar aspect, but it's the probiotic thing, y'all.
[10:20] Speaker 2: Get y'all being more hell, I'm worrying about the sugar part.
[10:23] Speaker 2: Sugar is literally like like crack. Like watch the documentary
[10:27] Speaker 2: on Netflix and do ash judgebt.
[10:29] Speaker 1: You don't even have to look that hard. It's really
[10:31] Speaker 1: especially for kids. If you're an adult, you want to
[10:32] Speaker 1: do see yourself, but for the children, it's just to try,
[10:36] Speaker 1: just try to make a better uh choice. I want
[10:43] Speaker 1: to remind you, guys to save the Tata's two point
[10:45] Speaker 1: zero Breast Cancer Awareness Walk is October twenty fifth in Tampa, Florida.
[10:50] Speaker 1: One of my good girlfriends lost her mother to breast cancer.
[10:53] Speaker 1: The foundation is called Lula's Legacy of Love Foundation, and
[10:57] Speaker 1: it's one of the very very few breast cancer or
[11:00] Speaker 1: organizations in the US that specifically is dedicated to serving
[11:03] Speaker 1: African American women. They have a mission to bridge the
[11:06] Speaker 1: gap in the care for minority women and so they
[11:09] Speaker 1: help get wigs, they help you go get your checkups.
[11:12] Speaker 1: So make sure you guys donate or attend the walk.
[11:14] Speaker 1: Go to www Dot Lula's Legacy of Love Foundation dot org.
[11:23] Speaker 2: And you have any other announcements.
[11:26] Speaker 1: Lover Girls Trip is in full effect. Y'all is five
[11:28] Speaker 1: spots left and if they fill up by the time
[11:31] Speaker 1: you hear this, still join because you can be added
[11:35] Speaker 1: to a waitlist because since the trip is a year away,
[11:38] Speaker 1: if someone, if something comes up for someone, we can
[11:41] Speaker 1: fill that gap with you on the waitlist. So we'll
[11:44] Speaker 1: put the link in the description for you to attend.
[11:47] Speaker 1: It's gonna be a really good time. We're gonna get
[11:49] Speaker 1: matching tattoos, and we have amazing I put together like
[11:54] Speaker 1: a I know the company is like reach, this is
[11:56] Speaker 1: what we do. I was like, well, I've got some
[11:58] Speaker 1: other stuff. So I put together a super curated itinerary
[12:01] Speaker 1: for the girls, the lover girls of the world that
[12:03] Speaker 1: got their heart stomped on uh recently and when I
[12:07] Speaker 1: say recently, the past five years. Bitch, if you was sad,
[12:09] Speaker 1: even if you happy, now come come have a good
[12:11] Speaker 1: time with the girls. We have a group chat going.
[12:13] Speaker 1: It's really great. We start off with a morning inspiration,
[12:16] Speaker 1: ended with a night an evening question and just it's
[12:18] Speaker 1: always all these discussions going on, learning what people are
[12:21] Speaker 1: going through, what you're struggling with what you need to
[12:22] Speaker 1: help with. So if you want to come, if you
[12:25] Speaker 1: want to join that community, make sure you look at
[12:27] Speaker 1: our descriptions and click that link. Also, I will be
[12:29] Speaker 1: doing a how to write your will by the time
[12:32] Speaker 1: you read this. By the time you hear this, it
[12:33] Speaker 1: might have already happened. But I'm gonna make this a
[12:35] Speaker 1: reoccurring thing because again, health and planning for your death death,
[12:39] Speaker 1: some of us struggle with that. And you should have
[12:42] Speaker 1: a will if you were an adult, if you own anything,
[12:44] Speaker 1: you should have a will.
[12:46] Speaker 2: So, yeah, you guys, do you know where you're staying
[12:50] Speaker 2: in Thailand? Yeah?
[12:52] Speaker 1: I do, but I don't know what I've stopped my
[12:53] Speaker 1: head honestly. Yeah, but if you join, if you get
[12:56] Speaker 1: the trip, you will definitely see the hotel one of
[12:58] Speaker 1: them stars of the and I think I stay they're
[13:00] Speaker 1: the last time I went to Tyler really the one
[13:02] Speaker 1: in Bangkok, not Fouquet, but because.
[13:04] Speaker 2: Those are the two cities, are going to right, Okay.
[13:07] Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll start off in Bangkok and then we'll stay
[13:10] Speaker 1: in Bangkok for a few days and then we will
[13:11] Speaker 1: fly to Fuquet and ended in Fuquet, and Fuquet is
[13:14] Speaker 1: a Fuqut is the party city, so you go there.
[13:17] Speaker 1: There's the beaches. We're gonna have a boat day and
[13:19] Speaker 1: tour all the different islands and Peepee Island. I'm really
[13:23] Speaker 1: excited about this trip because it's just very intentional. It's
[13:26] Speaker 1: all me. It's not a paradise and vibe trip. However,
[13:29] Speaker 1: if you do want to steal, come to go to
[13:31] Speaker 1: the paradiviobe dot com and come see me interview Easter
[13:33] Speaker 1: Ray if it hasn't happened by the time this comes out.
[13:36] Speaker 1: And thank you guys just for supporting me. I'm really
[13:38] Speaker 1: I'm always like overwhelmed by the amount of support that
[13:42] Speaker 1: we get through cocktails, that I get through any other
[13:45] Speaker 1: thing that I ever tell anybody about. I really, I
[13:49] Speaker 1: just I appreciate you guys so much. Sometimes I feel
[13:51] Speaker 1: like I know you and I don't.
[13:54] Speaker 2: It does feel good. I want to remind you guys
[13:57] Speaker 2: to join my book club this month. We are reading
[14:00] Speaker 2: a book like Kimberly Brown if you ever love me,
[14:03] Speaker 2: I think it's the name of it. We are trying
[14:07] Speaker 2: to have her at the meeting. I will let you
[14:09] Speaker 2: guys know for sure if she will be there or not.
[14:11] Speaker 2: I'll post it I have a Patreon specifically for the
[14:14] Speaker 2: book club, and we have a really good group of ladies.
[14:16] Speaker 2: A lot of times people don't join the meetings, and
[14:20] Speaker 2: I want to take a second to remind y'all, I
[14:22] Speaker 2: did it this summer, and then more people started actually
[14:25] Speaker 2: joining the meeting, because people will sign up, but they
[14:28] Speaker 2: don't ever join the meeting. So it's like, there's all
[14:30] Speaker 2: these people in the book club, but we have the
[14:32] Speaker 2: same like fifteen to twenty that show up every time.
[14:35] Speaker 2: So it's a little curious about that, like what's going on?
[14:38] Speaker 2: And then I realize, Oh, some people aren't coming because
[14:42] Speaker 2: they didn't finish the book on time, or you know,
[14:45] Speaker 2: little things like that. You guys, it is a stress
[14:49] Speaker 2: free environment. If you didn't read the book, if you
[14:51] Speaker 2: didn't finish the book, we are not snooty at all
[14:54] Speaker 2: about it. If you didn't read it and you don't
[14:57] Speaker 2: want spoilers, then yeah, don't join. But if you don't
[15:00] Speaker 2: mind the spoilers, you want to come and chitchat We
[15:03] Speaker 2: talk about the book, and then just like any other
[15:06] Speaker 2: rendition of a Housewives version of a book club on
[15:11] Speaker 2: TV that you would see, we talk about all kinds
[15:13] Speaker 2: of stuff. It isn't so wonderful for me being able
[15:18] Speaker 2: to make friends with some of these ladies, meet different people,
[15:22] Speaker 2: hear other perspectives.
[15:24] Speaker 1: To me, that's.
[15:24] Speaker 2: Always like the joy in doing things where you get
[15:28] Speaker 2: to meet different people. Because I only know what I know.
[15:32] Speaker 2: I only feel what I feel, and until I talk
[15:35] Speaker 2: to people and listen to people, I'll never have those
[15:39] Speaker 2: other things because some things that are like I will
[15:41] Speaker 2: never think that way or how did you even get there?
[15:44] Speaker 2: Is just like second nature to someone else. So I
[15:48] Speaker 2: just think it helps with so many different aspects of life.
[15:51] Speaker 2: But anyway, it's a great group of women. Y'all can
[15:54] Speaker 2: join by going to patreon dot com. Slash Kiki said,
[15:56] Speaker 2: So now the conference. I'll tell you guys about that later,
[16:01] Speaker 2: and I am seriously considering doing some things for I
[16:06] Speaker 2: don't know if it'll be a bootcamp or a digital
[16:09] Speaker 2: thing or what, but if you are interested in learning
[16:12] Speaker 2: more about podcasting media, digital media specifically, and things in
[16:18] Speaker 2: that realm, please send me an email or a DM.
[16:22] Speaker 2: I would prefer an email, And I will also be
[16:26] Speaker 2: posting soon, so make sure that you are following me
[16:28] Speaker 2: on all the platforms. I've been posting stuff, y'all, because
[16:32] Speaker 2: pretty soon I will be looking for some interns for
[16:37] Speaker 2: some upcoming things that are going on, and these are
[16:39] Speaker 2: internships for college students. It will be twelve weeks. So
[16:43] Speaker 2: if when y'all hear this, if everything is ready to go,
[16:46] Speaker 2: there will be a form that you can click in
[16:48] Speaker 2: the description to fill it out. If not, you know,
[16:50] Speaker 2: you can send me an email or DM and I'll
[16:52] Speaker 2: let you know. And then also lastly, make sure you
[16:55] Speaker 2: guys are checking out the Xoman podcast where I sit
[16:59] Speaker 2: an interview black man every single week about different aspects
[17:02] Speaker 2: of black masculinity and their experience through it. It has
[17:07] Speaker 2: really been an eye opening experience to me. I really
[17:09] Speaker 2: am listening to them and I've got thoughts and I
[17:13] Speaker 2: would love for y'all to tune into the show to
[17:15] Speaker 2: hear them. I think the next episode when you'll hear this,
[17:19] Speaker 2: it's either my friend Ferrari Simmons, who is also a
[17:23] Speaker 2: radio personality and a father and just an actual good guy.
[17:27] Speaker 2: I think it's either him or well, I don't know,
[17:32] Speaker 2: Hopefully it's him. If it's not him, you just heard him,
[17:34] Speaker 2: So make sure you check out the episode. And there's
[17:36] Speaker 2: a ton of other people, all right, y'all, let's talk
[17:39] Speaker 2: about something that I didn't realize I needed to fully upgrade,
[17:44] Speaker 2: not know going halfway in putting a little toe in
[17:47] Speaker 2: the pool. I really needed to upgrade my whole bedroom set,
[17:53] Speaker 2: not just the mattress. So I upgraded the mattress to
[17:56] Speaker 2: a Brooklyn Betting mattress. I think the model is the Sedon.
[18:00] Speaker 2: I'm an elite. I got a queen size bed. It
[18:03] Speaker 2: is so comfortable. But not only did I neath that,
[18:07] Speaker 2: I got the cooling pillows too, and I got two
[18:12] Speaker 2: of those, and then I also got some sheets, and
[18:14] Speaker 2: then you know what else. You know, I've had a
[18:16] Speaker 2: lot of fun times in my day in my bed,
[18:18] Speaker 2: those slats up under the mattress, those slats, and it's
[18:29] Speaker 2: been a long time since I had somebody in mind.
[18:30] Speaker 2: So I should have been fixed this. I put the
[18:32] Speaker 2: new mattress on the old slats, but I should have
[18:35] Speaker 2: waited and got the whole new bed system. So now
[18:38] Speaker 2: that I have a better base, y'all check them slats
[18:40] Speaker 2: up under your bed if you have them, or whatever's
[18:42] Speaker 2: going on underneath, because you know, I'm being a little
[18:45] Speaker 2: rocky sometimes. New mattress, new sheets, new pillows. I went
[18:49] Speaker 2: from feeling like I just had a street fight the
[18:54] Speaker 2: night before every day when I was waking up, or
[18:56] Speaker 2: like I wanted to fight somebody because I'm just I
[18:59] Speaker 2: just was in pain too, feeling like a princess when
[19:03] Speaker 2: I woke up, like there must have been somebody massaging
[19:06] Speaker 2: me while I was sleeping. I don't know how I
[19:09] Speaker 2: slept so good, and I don't know how I called
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[19:15] Speaker 2: it all in the car, okay, to upgrade everything I am.
[19:18] Speaker 1: I want to get a comforter. I want to get
[19:20] Speaker 1: like the extra pillow top on the matches. I too
[19:22] Speaker 1: have the Sedona Elite mattress. And when I get up,
[19:25] Speaker 1: I don't want to get up. It's so hard for
[19:27] Speaker 1: me to get up out of the bed. And it's
[19:28] Speaker 1: just so comfortable. It feels like the soft life that
[19:31] Speaker 1: you wish your man would provide for you. And it
[19:33] Speaker 1: turns into a debate every time you just be like,
[19:34] Speaker 1: I just want to I just want to have soft life.
[19:36] Speaker 1: The Sedona Elite mattress gives it to you. You feel like
[19:39] Speaker 1: you have woken up and just everything is taken care of.
[19:41] Speaker 1: It's hard for me to get out of that bed.
[19:43] Speaker 1: Those pillows though, they're cooling gel pillows, And I was like,
[19:47] Speaker 1: am I really gonna feel cooler when I sleep? Because
[19:49] Speaker 1: I did get a little hot when I sleep. I
[19:51] Speaker 1: need a fan on now. I didn't used to be
[19:52] Speaker 1: like that. I need the fan on high. And that
[19:56] Speaker 1: look cooling pillow.
[19:57] Speaker 2: It helps heavyweighted Like it's just a different type of sleep.
[20:04] Speaker 2: It's like laying on a man's chest. So it works out,
[20:07] Speaker 2: but like doesn't work out so hard that you know
[20:09] Speaker 2: he's on them shots and all kinds of other drugs.
[20:12] Speaker 2: It's just like a good muscle, but not too much.
[20:15] Speaker 1: Yeah, like he cares about you. He gonna support you.
[20:19] Speaker 1: I mean, I just really have the sheets also and
[20:21] Speaker 1: the pillowcases, and I just feel like a real adult.
[20:24] Speaker 4: I do too.
[20:25] Speaker 2: And y'all let's be we're all adults here. If you're
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[20:34] Speaker 2: We've talked about like losing weight and staying healthy in
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[20:39] Speaker 2: phase you are in that part of your journey. You
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[21:33] Speaker 2: But that's all mine. Oh, last, last, last, I was
[21:36] Speaker 2: getting trusted out fashion. Iv Ha been texting me, did
[21:38] Speaker 2: you see anything anywhere about she in having a store
[21:43] Speaker 2: in Atlanta?
[21:44] Speaker 1: A pop up app so people.
[21:47] Speaker 2: Just want to look.
[21:48] Speaker 1: I knew I wasn't going. I knew it was gonna
[21:49] Speaker 1: be crazy.
[21:50] Speaker 2: I didn't go.
[21:51] Speaker 1: I wasn't even going. Well. I was like, I'm not
[21:53] Speaker 1: gonna go little fifty cent outfits. Not that I love
[21:56] Speaker 1: a good she in, but I knew it was gonna
[21:57] Speaker 1: be crazy. Did you see that line?
[21:58] Speaker 2: No, I didn't see none of it. I just saw
[22:00] Speaker 2: she in with people. It was the steal before you
[22:02] Speaker 2: click the video. I didn't even click the video. It
[22:05] Speaker 2: was gonna be chaos.
[22:06] Speaker 1: That straightening out chaotic. However, my home.
[22:09] Speaker 2: Brother me about it. They don't live here, they live
[22:12] Speaker 2: in Texas, and they were like is this First one
[22:15] Speaker 2: was like is this real? She texted met like two am.
[22:17] Speaker 2: She's a nurse, she works overnights, so she text me.
[22:19] Speaker 2: She's like is this real? Say, oh yeah sorry. The
[22:21] Speaker 2: other one text me this morning she's like, were you there?
[22:23] Speaker 1: Girl?
[22:24] Speaker 2: Hell no, y'all know I don't like to shop in person.
[22:27] Speaker 2: It is stressful as too many people. Did you see
[22:29] Speaker 2: the little girl who somebody reported her for shoplifting and
[22:34] Speaker 2: she went and found she's a little girl, like little,
[22:37] Speaker 2: like eighten like little. You know, she don't look like
[22:41] Speaker 2: no teenager. She saw them ladies, went up the escalator,
[22:44] Speaker 2: bought them, drag them bopped them, dragged one lady by
[22:49] Speaker 2: the hair was her mom?
[22:50] Speaker 1: I don't know.
[22:51] Speaker 2: I mean she was in there stealing, so I don't
[22:52] Speaker 2: think her mama was with her, But I don't know
[22:54] Speaker 2: where her mama was. Maybe she was the one filming that.
[22:57] Speaker 2: I don't know. It seemed like just a bystander was like,
[23:00] Speaker 2: what is going on from the other side of the mall. Anyway,
[23:01] Speaker 2: she went up there, She drugged the woman by her hair,
[23:04] Speaker 2: threw her bag over her back, went back down the escalator,
[23:07] Speaker 2: and proceeded to walk up the mall. You know she was.
[23:12] Speaker 1: Wait, I feel like I missed so much. Why does
[23:14] Speaker 1: she do that?
[23:15] Speaker 2: She just won because the ladies told on her for stealing,
[23:18] Speaker 2: so she wasn't actually stealing. Yeah, she wasn't innocent by
[23:22] Speaker 2: no means.
[23:23] Speaker 1: And she was a white girl, and she went and
[23:25] Speaker 1: beat the other white ladies up.
[23:28] Speaker 2: Well she I wouldn't say she beat them up because
[23:30] Speaker 2: they were grown women and they knew better than to
[23:32] Speaker 2: fight a little kid.
[23:33] Speaker 1: Because jail bitch, who the fuck are you?
[23:39] Speaker 2: And I may not get it, but it's like have
[23:41] Speaker 2: some self control. And they were probably also in shock
[23:43] Speaker 2: because who thinks that little mini mouse is gonna come
[23:46] Speaker 2: up and do this anyway. Anyway, I have spent a
[23:48] Speaker 2: lot of time on the internet. I have been posting
[23:50] Speaker 2: on the Tiki took follow me and talk to me.
[23:54] Speaker 2: I've been hosting little things. My sisters sending me stuff.
[23:57] Speaker 2: Anybody in well making of sisters, my sister recording she
[24:01] Speaker 2: still calling. I see sister, sister, sister is going on
[24:04] Speaker 2: that phone.
[24:05] Speaker 1: Is Oh no, I just wanted to talk I met.
[24:13] Speaker 2: Anyways.
[24:13] Speaker 1: I was gonna ask you that doing the X Man podcast,
[24:17] Speaker 1: are you gaining like a sensitivity for men like that
[24:21] Speaker 1: you haven't had sensitivity?
[24:23] Speaker 2: No better understanding?
[24:24] Speaker 1: Yes, Okay, why I know sensitivity? M I don't know.
[24:31] Speaker 2: Maybe I don't have that uh whatever hormony you need
[24:34] Speaker 2: for that, I don't know. I'm very sensitive, but I
[24:37] Speaker 2: don't have a greater sensitivity for them. But I have, uh,
[24:43] Speaker 2: I'm more apt to listen.
[24:46] Speaker 1: I mean, I don't even know.
[24:47] Speaker 2: What a greater sensitivity for them would look like or
[24:50] Speaker 2: sound like for me. Actually, I guess that's why I
[24:53] Speaker 2: can't say yes. But I know that I feel like
[24:56] Speaker 2: a better understanding and I know that.
[25:01] Speaker 1: Like, have you noticed it has transferred into your personal life?
[25:04] Speaker 1: On like maybe how you treat men, not assuming that
[25:06] Speaker 1: you treat them a certain way, but just have it.
[25:08] Speaker 1: Are you like, oh, wow, okay, I'm listening to this,
[25:10] Speaker 1: or I'm.
[25:10] Speaker 2: Willing and not assuming that I treat because.
[25:13] Speaker 1: I don't want people to be like, well is she
[25:14] Speaker 1: treating the missione?
[25:15] Speaker 2: Well, we're all thinking it. It's fine. In certain times,
[25:21] Speaker 2: I will try to like, oh, let me remember what's
[25:24] Speaker 2: such and such said, because he said something, I put
[25:26] Speaker 2: a pin in it, I put it in my notes.
[25:28] Speaker 2: Where's my note? Let me let me find it. Like
[25:30] Speaker 2: there are a few things where it's I never looked
[25:32] Speaker 2: at it like that. Let me change my perspective. But
[25:36] Speaker 2: then it's hard to say that I'm sensitive because when
[25:39] Speaker 2: I try.
[25:40] Speaker 1: It's somebody to do that and you're like, this is
[25:42] Speaker 1: why I don't fuck with y'all for real.
[25:44] Speaker 2: Or it's like I try to like be that whatever
[25:47] Speaker 2: the men have collectively said that they need basically, and okay.
[25:51] Speaker 1: I get it.
[25:51] Speaker 2: It makes me sense. It makes sense to me, but
[25:54] Speaker 2: it hasn't gotten me to the point of anybody like
[25:57] Speaker 2: not doing what I thought or hoped or want to
[26:00] Speaker 2: them to do, where I feel like I'm just never
[26:02] Speaker 2: gonna do it. I just maybe more since I don't know.
[26:06] Speaker 2: I don't know what the word is. But what I
[26:08] Speaker 2: do know is I have a better understanding of why
[26:13] Speaker 2: so many of them do not do well with expressing
[26:18] Speaker 2: their feelings because a lot of times they don't know
[26:23] Speaker 2: how to identify their feelings, they don't know what it is,
[26:25] Speaker 2: they can't put the word to it because they're so
[26:28] Speaker 2: used to suppressing it. And I think that the biggest
[26:32] Speaker 2: thing that makes me be able to do this is
[26:36] Speaker 2: because sometimes I feel the same way. I think I've
[26:39] Speaker 2: got way too much testosterone. And there have been been
[26:42] Speaker 2: noy'll joke about like I'm too much of a nigga
[26:45] Speaker 2: for them, and I get it. But I do think
[26:48] Speaker 2: sometimes like suppressing emotions and things like that, I have
[26:50] Speaker 2: that in common with a lot of men, or not
[26:53] Speaker 2: wanting to talk about things. I ask the question to
[26:55] Speaker 2: you and you go because sometimes I feel that way,
[26:58] Speaker 2: like when somebody is asking me about what's wrong, what's wrong?
[27:02] Speaker 2: What's wrong? Sometimes because I'm anticipating the feelings that I
[27:08] Speaker 2: think I will have when I say these things out loud,
[27:11] Speaker 2: and I'm anticipating them because when I've done it by myself,
[27:14] Speaker 2: that's what happens. So if I'm telling you all this
[27:16] Speaker 2: and I go through this emotional roller coaster, but all
[27:19] Speaker 2: I'm doing is like letting you listen to me, and
[27:23] Speaker 2: there's no solution, I don't always feel like I have
[27:27] Speaker 2: the mental capacity or emotional capacity to go through that
[27:31] Speaker 2: roller coaster, so I won't because there is no solution.
[27:36] Speaker 2: Right now, you don't have a solution. I don't want
[27:39] Speaker 2: to let all of these feelings out because I know
[27:41] Speaker 2: like the ripple effect that it has for me. Not
[27:43] Speaker 2: that I can't ever let them out, but sometimes it
[27:46] Speaker 2: is so annoying to me when somebody picks at you
[27:48] Speaker 2: and picks it you and picks at you to open
[27:50] Speaker 2: up and express a feeling. You express the feeling, and
[27:54] Speaker 2: it's like, well, what did you really ask me for?
[27:56] Speaker 2: Because in the end, nothing you did change. Something might
[28:00] Speaker 2: happen later. You act like you don't understand when I
[28:02] Speaker 2: poured my heart out, so you weren't really listening. You
[28:05] Speaker 2: sat there like a listening ear. It's just like little
[28:08] Speaker 2: things like that. So that's a work in progress for
[28:11] Speaker 2: me because I have to remind myself that because I
[28:13] Speaker 2: had an experience with one person, or even if I
[28:15] Speaker 2: had an experience, Like if I have an experience with
[28:17] Speaker 2: you today, that doesn't mean that every time in the
[28:20] Speaker 2: future something similar happens, the experience is going to have
[28:24] Speaker 2: the same outcome where both people we are both working
[28:28] Speaker 2: on ourselves and doing things. So it's like, you gotta
[28:31] Speaker 2: if you don't want somebody to hold you to who
[28:32] Speaker 2: you have been or who they think you are, you
[28:35] Speaker 2: can't do that to other people. So it's just like
[28:36] Speaker 2: a lot And sometimes I don't feel like it, and
[28:39] Speaker 2: so I'll say that and people don't like it, and
[28:43] Speaker 2: I get that, but it's like I don't like it either,
[28:45] Speaker 2: So what makes your feelings more important than mine? And
[28:49] Speaker 2: I've been having to be more firm on that. But
[28:51] Speaker 2: it's really interesting to hear some of the things that
[28:54] Speaker 2: really make them feel the way that they feel, because
[28:58] Speaker 2: sometimes it's really simple, and I was thinking it would
[29:00] Speaker 2: be something deeper, Like I've said this to a few
[29:03] Speaker 2: people when they ask about it. Men acting out and
[29:07] Speaker 2: like doing what I would just call dumb shit like
[29:10] Speaker 2: attention seeking behavior and stuff like that. I have all
[29:14] Speaker 2: these ideas about why it is, but this guy on
[29:16] Speaker 2: the show was like, they just want to feel seen
[29:19] Speaker 2: and they don't even know how to be seen, so
[29:21] Speaker 2: they just do stuff and they're not connecting it because
[29:24] Speaker 2: they're not self aware enough to understand. But a lot
[29:26] Speaker 2: of black men don't feel seen. And I was like,
[29:29] Speaker 2: that is something so small. But I can see that
[29:31] Speaker 2: in every black man I know pretty much. How like
[29:33] Speaker 2: some of the things that they did, you probably just
[29:35] Speaker 2: wanted to feel seen and you hadn't been, and that sucks.
[29:39] Speaker 2: I can only imagine what that must feel like to
[29:42] Speaker 2: be them. But overall, like talking to them is, I
[29:46] Speaker 2: like it. Even when I don't agree with them or
[29:50] Speaker 2: I don't truly understand how they arrived at like how
[29:55] Speaker 2: they look at life and how they think, it's still
[29:58] Speaker 2: interesting to hear their reasoning. And I'm okay with not agreeing.
[30:02] Speaker 2: It's not something where it's like, okay, you need to
[30:05] Speaker 2: we have to see each other and we have to
[30:06] Speaker 2: reach an agreement at the end. No, I just want
[30:09] Speaker 2: to hear men, and hear you when I think that
[30:12] Speaker 2: you are actually saying what you feel versus what you
[30:16] Speaker 2: think people want to hear. Because I be's so tired
[30:19] Speaker 2: of the performative stuff online, you.
[30:21] Speaker 1: Know, I'll be tired of the and this ain't even online.
[30:23] Speaker 1: This is just in real life, what is wrong with you?
[30:25] Speaker 1: Like I just don't I'm and this.
[30:27] Speaker 2: Is somebody asking you that or no, you know, for.
[30:29] Speaker 1: Men sometimes like the more that I like listen to everyone,
[30:32] Speaker 1: Like you said, like sometimes it don't even be that
[30:34] Speaker 1: big of a deal, but you've caused so much chaos
[30:36] Speaker 1: around this thing that's not a big deal. And at
[30:38] Speaker 1: the end of the day, it is twenty twenty five
[30:41] Speaker 1: and we have the tools and the more. Sometimes there's
[30:44] Speaker 1: this like common saying with men where they're like, I
[30:47] Speaker 1: just want peace, and then you'll ask me question peaceful,
[30:51] Speaker 1: what are you doing? Like it's very hard. And again,
[30:54] Speaker 1: if you're not in a relationship with somebody or you're
[30:56] Speaker 1: not trying to have an it's your sex. I'm not,
[30:58] Speaker 1: this isn't for you. But if you are, if you're
[31:00] Speaker 1: in a marriage, or if you have something binding you
[31:01] Speaker 1: to a person like a kid, like it's like, how
[31:05] Speaker 1: do you figure everything else out? You want to you
[31:08] Speaker 1: we know how to work towards a goal. Accomplishing a goal,
[31:11] Speaker 1: there was something that you wanted to accomplish, you dealt
[31:13] Speaker 1: with the ebbs and the flows, the herds and the
[31:16] Speaker 1: easy parts, all of the journey of like whatever it
[31:19] Speaker 1: is that you were trying to accomplish, and everybody has
[31:21] Speaker 1: different goals and you can watch a man like go
[31:25] Speaker 1: through it and be like, I'm gonna figure it out.
[31:28] Speaker 1: And then when it comes down to like certain things
[31:30] Speaker 1: where it's like you say you love the person, you
[31:32] Speaker 1: want to be with the person. In some instances you're
[31:35] Speaker 1: married to the person, and you actually said vows, you
[31:37] Speaker 1: promised these things, and now all of a sudden it's
[31:39] Speaker 1: like I don't know what to do and there's no tools.
[31:41] Speaker 1: And then you'd be like, have you read a book
[31:42] Speaker 1: about relationships? No, I don't need to do that. You do,
[31:46] Speaker 1: but you do. And I've been having a lot of
[31:49] Speaker 1: personal conversations with men who are going not men I'm
[31:52] Speaker 1: attracted to not it's not a relationship, just friends and
[31:55] Speaker 1: family members. And then you ask like, so what have
[31:59] Speaker 1: you done to work on it? And if the question
[32:03] Speaker 1: if the answer is always like, well, I don't need
[32:05] Speaker 1: to talk about it, I don't know. You do, though,
[32:07] Speaker 1: like you do. And so sometimes with men it's just
[32:09] Speaker 1: like just because you don't want to feel uncomfortable with
[32:12] Speaker 1: the emotions, that doesn't mean that you just get a
[32:15] Speaker 1: way out to not if you're sharing a life with someone, like,
[32:19] Speaker 1: have your space and have your boundaries. But sometimes it's
[32:22] Speaker 1: it feels like when men are like, well, I just
[32:24] Speaker 1: want my piece. All men want is peace, but you're
[32:28] Speaker 1: not actually peaceful. You can't be if you're not working
[32:31] Speaker 1: through what is causing you chaos in you and you
[32:35] Speaker 1: never want to work on it. How do you? Sometimes
[32:38] Speaker 1: it seems like peace means you don't want anybody to
[32:40] Speaker 1: bring anything up, and that that's so.
[32:42] Speaker 2: Does I think that you guys think peace sings silence.
[32:46] Speaker 2: Peace and silence are not the same thing.
[32:49] Speaker 1: Piece is work and peace.
[32:52] Speaker 2: Like if you don't know what makes you feel at piece,
[32:55] Speaker 2: that's okay, read a book you can figure it out, right.
[32:59] Speaker 2: But when somebody like you say you want peace, anybody
[33:03] Speaker 2: listen to this man or woman right now, you should
[33:05] Speaker 2: ask yourself what would it look like, feel like, sound like,
[33:09] Speaker 2: tastes like, feel like to be at peace in this
[33:13] Speaker 2: very moment. You might not know, and that's okay. If
[33:18] Speaker 2: we don't know.
[33:19] Speaker 1: Seek the information.
[33:21] Speaker 2: Like, try different things, talk to people, get in touch
[33:25] Speaker 2: with your emotions. Reading books is cool, but also you
[33:29] Speaker 2: can't read a book and get the answers if you
[33:33] Speaker 2: don't know what's troubling you, So you got.
[33:35] Speaker 1: When you read the book, you start to be like, oh,
[33:38] Speaker 1: identify with that. You can't just sit here and be like,
[33:41] Speaker 1: something's wrong and I don't want to talk about it
[33:43] Speaker 1: and I don't want to know anything about it.
[33:45] Speaker 2: So I hope that anybody who is looking for peace
[33:48] Speaker 2: right now and doesn't feel it in their life like you,
[33:50] Speaker 2: do some introspective work, read some books, talk to the lady.
[33:54] Speaker 2: I'm being serious, and just really figure out how you feel.
[34:00] Speaker 2: You can talk to other people, but I'm not adding
[34:03] Speaker 2: that to my list of suggestions only because I think oftentimes,
[34:07] Speaker 2: when you already don't know, you can let other people's ideas, thoughts,
[34:12] Speaker 2: and feelings intrude your own and cause confusion when you
[34:16] Speaker 2: already don't know how you feel. And so I don't
[34:20] Speaker 2: want you to look outside of yourself to figure out
[34:23] Speaker 2: what's wrong or certain things now how to fix it? Now,
[34:26] Speaker 2: that's you're gonna need some help. But like, what is
[34:28] Speaker 2: troubling you? Are you upset because you don't like your
[34:31] Speaker 2: whole life? Are you upset because you don't like the
[34:33] Speaker 2: person that you're with and you're scared to break up?
[34:35] Speaker 2: Are you upset because you don't know how to vocalize
[34:39] Speaker 2: your feelings and you feel the person slipping away from
[34:41] Speaker 2: you and you don't want to lose them, but you
[34:43] Speaker 2: don't know how figure out what it is because you
[34:46] Speaker 2: can't fix something when you don't even know what the
[34:49] Speaker 2: fuck is broke, and when it's like taking your car
[34:52] Speaker 2: to get fixed and you keep spending all this money
[34:55] Speaker 2: and you don't know what the fuck is wrong, and
[34:57] Speaker 2: they keep fixing everything but the right thing. So like, yeah.
[35:01] Speaker 1: One of my guy friends was talking to me about
[35:03] Speaker 1: some things, some feelings that he was having and some
[35:04] Speaker 1: issues he was having. In my My goals was always
[35:07] Speaker 1: gonna be okay. Let's say you're like, I don't like
[35:08] Speaker 1: to read, which I hate that read a book. But
[35:12] Speaker 1: I was like, okay, well my next go to. Have
[35:15] Speaker 1: you tried hot yoga? Y'all high yoga? It doesn't allow
[35:22] Speaker 1: you to hide? Because he was like, what, you don't
[35:24] Speaker 1: have to become a yoga go to, I mean a
[35:26] Speaker 1: yoga go to. You want to be a yogi, go
[35:29] Speaker 1: to a hot yoga class in your community, preferably if
[35:32] Speaker 1: you could go to be high in Atlanta, go to
[35:34] Speaker 1: Ayana Edwards class. It changes your life because when you
[35:38] Speaker 1: do hot yoga, whether you want to continue it or not,
[35:41] Speaker 1: hot yoga makes you face yourself. You don't have to
[35:44] Speaker 1: tell anybody else, you don't have to read a book,
[35:46] Speaker 1: you don't even have to talk about it. When you
[35:48] Speaker 1: get in hot yoga, it makes you face yourself and
[35:52] Speaker 1: see where you're truly at, and you'll either come back
[35:56] Speaker 1: and do it again or you'll be like, I don't
[35:58] Speaker 1: want to see this again. You have to look in
[35:59] Speaker 1: the you have to at least try to get in alignment.
[36:03] Speaker 1: You don't have to be perfect, but it shows you
[36:05] Speaker 1: where you're at, and it is, oh my, it's so
[36:08] Speaker 1: intertwined with relationships, with how you communicate, with how you
[36:11] Speaker 1: do business, with how it's just a beautiful it's to me,
[36:15] Speaker 1: it's art and it's like if you really are struggling,
[36:17] Speaker 1: you're like, I don't know what the fuck do and
[36:18] Speaker 1: I don't want to talk to nobody. Go do a
[36:20] Speaker 1: hot yoga class. You about to be like you gonna
[36:22] Speaker 1: me and they're crying. That's what's gonna happen. And just
[36:24] Speaker 1: act like it's sweat because it's so hot, it's gonna
[36:26] Speaker 1: look like sweat. But I love it.
[36:30] Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna skip weird sex this week because we
[36:33] Speaker 2: have been going way, way way over time and it's
[36:36] Speaker 2: Friday night, and I'll be honest, I want to play
[36:40] Speaker 2: the same so bad, and I want to play with
[36:43] Speaker 2: my baby girl, Whitley.
[36:44] Speaker 1: I want to go to Hero Show, so I.
[36:46] Speaker 2: Know you do. I'm gonna there was something you wanted
[36:49] Speaker 2: to ask me that you said in the hallway, and
[36:51] Speaker 2: you say, what we're talking about it here?
[36:53] Speaker 1: Do you remember? No?
[36:55] Speaker 2: Okay, well it escapes us. Aunties are getting old, y'all.
[37:00] Speaker 2: I would love it. Also, if you guys would send
[37:02] Speaker 2: me some ideas for food stuff. I don't know who's
[37:11] Speaker 2: gonna eat it.
[37:13] Speaker 1: I'll need it. Do you have enough appetite?
[37:15] Speaker 2: I haven't been having enough appetite off my Oh okay.
[37:18] Speaker 1: Yeah, you make it a little snackable sizes.
[37:21] Speaker 2: Chop that shit out. You know what I really want
[37:23] Speaker 2: some ribs? No, actually, nope, salad. I'm just gonna tell you.
[37:31] Speaker 2: I really want an open hearth, outdoor kitchen. I want
[37:36] Speaker 2: to roast fish every day. I just love it. I've
[37:41] Speaker 2: been on this kick and it's just so good. There's
[37:44] Speaker 2: a restaurant in Atlanta called Fia I went there for
[37:48] Speaker 2: my birthday last year, and I've been a few times before.
[37:52] Speaker 2: I love it. It's in the Burgess Hotel and Buckhead
[37:56] Speaker 2: and it is just so good. They have other things
[37:59] Speaker 2: that are really good, but it just roasted brands. You know,
[38:01] Speaker 2: it's the whole fish. I love the way a whole
[38:03] Speaker 2: roasted fish looks. I'm just really into it. And so
[38:07] Speaker 2: I want a house.
[38:09] Speaker 1: With that where you pick I'm gonna put you on,
[38:13] Speaker 1: and what I would put you on if you were
[38:14] Speaker 1: my client to send you the houses. Were just gonna
[38:15] Speaker 1: act like you're a millionaire and we should go and
[38:18] Speaker 1: look at houses and you rate them. But now you
[38:21] Speaker 1: got to act like you're a real client. Just get camera.
[38:24] Speaker 2: I got business outfits. I can buy shit outfits, yep,
[38:27] Speaker 2: and we'll.
[38:27] Speaker 1: Go through and like and like film it and like
[38:29] Speaker 1: you you have a drone? I do, but I love it.
[38:33] Speaker 2: At that next, well, guess what you're in, luck girl,
[38:36] Speaker 2: because I've got a gift on the way. Oh it's
[38:39] Speaker 2: my gift. But do you want one?
[38:40] Speaker 1: Yeah?
[38:41] Speaker 2: Okay, maybe that's what you'll get for your birthday. There's
[38:43] Speaker 2: one that's easy to use. It small, and I have
[38:46] Speaker 2: been eyeing it for a while. It's the Digi Dji Digit.
[38:51] Speaker 2: I don't know how you said that ship, I'll be
[38:53] Speaker 2: saying Digit. But it's small and it's supposed to be
[38:57] Speaker 2: super user friendly. Because I've never flown a drum.
[39:00] Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know how people want to be crashnated.
[39:01] Speaker 2: But it follows you. It's like automated. So like when
[39:04] Speaker 2: you go do the home tours. And one of my
[39:06] Speaker 2: friends who does really say he's been doing it for
[39:08] Speaker 2: a while. He upgraded all his ship and he goes
[39:11] Speaker 2: in the homes and I love how the videos look
[39:14] Speaker 2: like he has the drone and so.
[39:16] Speaker 1: He'll be in the drone, goes inside the house.
[39:18] Speaker 2: Yes, he'll use the drone to get the view of
[39:20] Speaker 2: the house and like go around and it's so steady
[39:23] Speaker 2: and it looks so good and I could tell the
[39:25] Speaker 2: upgrade from whatever he had before to this. Anyways, Yeah, content,
[39:33] Speaker 2: and they don't how to worry about Trumpott just need
[39:36] Speaker 2: a charger anyway. Yeah, I'm doubt to do that. I
[39:39] Speaker 2: have several I need to send you that list. I
[39:41] Speaker 2: never sent it from last time. Anyways, if you guys
[39:45] Speaker 2: have any idea, suggestions or thoughts about things that you
[39:47] Speaker 2: want to hear our takes on as long as it's
[39:50] Speaker 2: not involving court, send it our way. I don't really
[39:54] Speaker 2: want to talk about court stuff. Remember when they were like, oh,
[39:56] Speaker 2: y'all talk about the Diddy.
[39:57] Speaker 1: Kase, I don't want y'all not gonna want to hear
[39:59] Speaker 1: me and I just don't want to talk about it.
[40:01] Speaker 1: It's like, y'all, I don't want to talk about it.
[40:04] Speaker 1: I'm so fucking horny. I don't want to talk about that.
[40:07] Speaker 1: She can't.
[40:08] Speaker 2: All right, So on that note, we're gonna We're just
[40:10] Speaker 2: gonna move on on the next segment, and yeah, all right.
[40:16] Speaker 2: Losing weight and improving your health used to feel like
[40:19] Speaker 2: something impossible. I felt like I was on a hamster
[40:22] Speaker 2: wheel and I was going nowhere at all fasts. Something
[40:26] Speaker 2: that I've realized after being a part of the life
[40:29] Speaker 2: our XMD family for quite some time now is how
[40:33] Speaker 2: much the cravings that I would have, like sugar cravings
[40:37] Speaker 2: st I mean, I just y'all know, I love me
[40:39] Speaker 2: some flavors. When I would crave stuff, I literally had
[40:43] Speaker 2: like no self control. It was like food was a
[40:46] Speaker 2: fine ass man or something. I mean, I just don't know.
[40:48] Speaker 2: I was just like I had to have a lick,
[40:49] Speaker 2: just a taste, and then you have a taste, and
[40:52] Speaker 2: then you want some more than you want the whole thing.
[40:53] Speaker 2: And like I needed help. I couldn't do it on
[40:56] Speaker 2: my own. I just can't be out here while dog
[40:58] Speaker 2: in life like this, I just can't. So anyway, I
[41:01] Speaker 2: have realized that so many of the things that I
[41:03] Speaker 2: used to crave. Chips, candy, rice, creased retreats. Who I
[41:08] Speaker 2: love a good rice, creasedy treats. Ice cream, Yes, I
[41:10] Speaker 2: love them. I like to make them, I like to
[41:12] Speaker 2: buy them. It doesn't matter. Ice cream, y'all. I have
[41:15] Speaker 2: had ice cream in my freezer for a few months
[41:19] Speaker 2: that did not happen before. Like I have had this
[41:22] Speaker 2: one pint and it's just sitting there because I don't
[41:24] Speaker 2: really crave it. Like sometimes I want something cold, and
[41:26] Speaker 2: you know what I do, I just chew on my
[41:28] Speaker 2: little ice Wow. I have a little nugget ice maker
[41:32] Speaker 2: and I love it. It gives you that good crushed ice
[41:34] Speaker 2: and that's water and it makes me drink more water.
[41:38] Speaker 2: I do miss the days of eating those things, but
[41:42] Speaker 2: I don't actually missed the taste. And it's not until
[41:44] Speaker 2: I get to talking about it. But then I can
[41:45] Speaker 2: just look at videos on my phone or on my
[41:47] Speaker 2: iPad and I'm good. It's just like, I never thought
[41:50] Speaker 2: I could get over the cravings like that, and y'all,
[41:52] Speaker 2: I think they're pretty much gone.
[41:54] Speaker 1: Yeah. I never thought that I could lose these two
[41:56] Speaker 1: rolls that was in my back, and I know I
[41:58] Speaker 1: talk about it every other week, but it was really challenging,
[42:00] Speaker 1: and I was like, how am I gonna actually get
[42:02] Speaker 1: rid of these roles life OIXMD. They are out here
[42:05] Speaker 1: doing the Lord's work if you ask me, Because like
[42:07] Speaker 1: Kiki said, those cravings they just go away. And it's
[42:10] Speaker 1: okay if sometimes you need a little help to lose
[42:14] Speaker 1: the little extra pounds that maybe you gained from that
[42:17] Speaker 1: breakup or whatever else you maybe gained it from, and
[42:22] Speaker 1: it's okay. I love that. For me, It's made me
[42:24] Speaker 1: be more intentional because it's like, Okay, it took the cravings.
[42:27] Speaker 1: It took the cravings away. Now I make a plan
[42:29] Speaker 1: for what I'm gonna eat so I can make sure
[42:31] Speaker 1: I eat at the right times and keep my energy up.
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[42:45] Speaker 1: I love that you have to talk to a nurse.
[42:47] Speaker 1: If you do start taking them and something isn't feeling right,
[42:49] Speaker 1: you can contact your nurse. You can go into their
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[42:54] Speaker 1: about your health, whether you're on it or off it.
[42:56] Speaker 1: They sure do.
[42:57] Speaker 2: Because I was telling them I was like not eating
[43:00] Speaker 2: a lot, but there was a point where I stopped
[43:03] Speaker 2: dropping pounds and I expected to drop pounds because I
[43:06] Speaker 2: wasn't working out, So what nothing turned into muscle. And
[43:09] Speaker 2: so when we talked about like my patterns of eating,
[43:13] Speaker 2: she's like, oh, you've got to spread that out more
[43:15] Speaker 2: and just like little things that you don't think about.
[43:17] Speaker 2: But it's like, Okay, I thought suppressing my appetite, I
[43:20] Speaker 2: gotta eat less, But she's like, no, you still need
[43:22] Speaker 2: to eat throughout the day. Just break it up, have
[43:24] Speaker 2: a little protein shake or something. And so once I
[43:26] Speaker 2: started doing that, like within a week or two, it's like, Okay, yeah,
[43:29] Speaker 2: I see now.
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[44:55] Speaker 1: Okay, okay, So this one is titled astrology situationship question. Right,
[45:02] Speaker 1: I'm already like ah. Also, speaking of astrology and situationships,
[45:07] Speaker 1: is it a season for exes to come back? I
[45:10] Speaker 1: have this retrograde I'm talking about the way. Do you
[45:14] Speaker 1: remember this white man that I used to talk to,
[45:17] Speaker 1: which one I don't know, but he popped up on
[45:20] Speaker 1: he is a coach for a major league school and
[45:23] Speaker 1: he is looking fine. I was like, I might got
[45:26] Speaker 1: to go back and figure him out. I'm gonna show
[45:30] Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you. But I was like, I'm highly considered.
[45:32] Speaker 1: He was like, I'm gonna be in Atlanta. We have
[45:34] Speaker 1: a game out there, and I would just love to
[45:35] Speaker 1: like revisit like us because I'm gonna different space. I
[45:39] Speaker 1: don't know it's college is college football. And I was like, well,
[45:43] Speaker 1: you know what I'm actually open.
[45:44] Speaker 2: To maybe Georgia Tech.
[45:45] Speaker 1: Yeah. I was like, I'm in a space where maybe
[45:48] Speaker 1: we could do it. But then I saw he popped
[45:50] Speaker 1: up in my feed on YouTube in an interview, and
[45:52] Speaker 1: I was like.
[45:53] Speaker 2: Don't you be blinded by the lights?
[45:55] Speaker 1: Mmm, he looks good. Number morning.
[45:59] Speaker 2: Well, I don't want you to be.
[46:02] Speaker 1: Somebody. I just want to kiss. That's all I want
[46:05] Speaker 1: to do. I'm like, I just feel like in high school,
[46:07] Speaker 1: you don't have to want to kiss and fill the
[46:08] Speaker 1: tip with the advice. Hi, ladies, maybe you can help
[46:13] Speaker 1: me with some astrology advice. I an Aquarius woman born
[46:17] Speaker 1: the Auarius.
[46:19] Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
[46:20] Speaker 1: Friends, feel like when you know your cusp and all
[46:23] Speaker 1: the things. Something is wrong. You need a little medicine. Okay.
[46:27] Speaker 1: I am an Aquarius woman born on the Aquarius capricorn.
[46:31] Speaker 1: Cuss have been dating this guy Gemini born on the
[46:34] Speaker 1: Gemini cancer nouse? Is this my friend writing this in?
[46:40] Speaker 1: For about seven months now? That's how long we've been
[46:43] Speaker 1: seeing each other. Okay. In the beginning he said he
[46:46] Speaker 1: didn't want a relationship.
[46:48] Speaker 2: There you go with that, clean them ears out and
[46:50] Speaker 2: you will save yourself some typing.
[46:52] Speaker 1: So I ended things okay, all right, only for him
[46:56] Speaker 1: to reach back out to continue dating. I was a
[46:59] Speaker 1: bit confus used, but agreed. Fast forward seven going on
[47:04] Speaker 1: eight months now, and we're in a whole relationship. We
[47:08] Speaker 1: have a whole routine and it's kind of what is you? No, No,
[47:14] Speaker 1: you need to speak it. I'm talking about this. I'm
[47:16] Speaker 1: not gonna talk, Nigga, you don't talk, okay. Why do
[47:19] Speaker 1: I have such a strong bond with him? It's as
[47:22] Speaker 1: if we have soul ties together?
[47:25] Speaker 2: Well, it was fucking him and I'm sure it was raw.
[47:27] Speaker 2: He can got all up in your guts, your sol
[47:28] Speaker 2: your nostrils.
[47:29] Speaker 1: I've read into our astrologies to find out we're a
[47:32] Speaker 1: great match. But have you asked God? That's what I
[47:36] Speaker 1: want to know.
[47:37] Speaker 2: Did you send me the charts? Because I think y'all
[47:40] Speaker 2: be seeing what y'all want to see?
[47:41] Speaker 1: Definitely, I'm trying not to be delusional.
[47:44] Speaker 2: Hm, So what does she do instead?
[47:48] Speaker 1: Our perfect match are? Perfect match is a thing? And
[47:52] Speaker 1: does it truly exist? How do you know when you
[47:56] Speaker 1: and your partner are on the same wavelength? How do
[47:59] Speaker 1: you know there is karmic connection between the two of you.
[48:06] Speaker 2: You might not like what I have to say. This
[48:07] Speaker 2: is what I'll say to answer your actual question. How
[48:10] Speaker 2: do you know?
[48:10] Speaker 1: Right?
[48:11] Speaker 2: Do I think a perfect match exists?
[48:13] Speaker 1: Yes?
[48:13] Speaker 2: My idea of perfect is not everything is right. I
[48:16] Speaker 2: think some things are what I want. Some things are
[48:19] Speaker 2: not what I want. But I learned to we learn
[48:22] Speaker 2: how to work together to have this coexistence. I think
[48:27] Speaker 2: that you know that you're with the right person when
[48:29] Speaker 2: you don't no shade, I'll save the shape for later.
[48:34] Speaker 2: But you know that it's perfect when you don't find
[48:37] Speaker 2: yourself constantly asking your friends for advice on your relationship,
[48:40] Speaker 2: when you don't find yourself searching birth charts, chatch ebt,
[48:45] Speaker 2: all these outside sources to figure out if this should
[48:49] Speaker 2: be because you're inside your heart, everything about your being
[48:54] Speaker 2: is making you uncomfortable in this situation because it's not right.
[48:58] Speaker 2: Sometimes that happens when things are new, but sometimes it
[49:01] Speaker 2: happens because it's not right, and that's why you always
[49:03] Speaker 2: feel unsettled, uneasy, unsure. When you feel sure, you don't
[49:10] Speaker 2: think about the fact that you do feel sure. It's
[49:12] Speaker 2: not until you hear something like this, and it's like,
[49:16] Speaker 2: maybe you feel like you know that you're as a
[49:18] Speaker 2: right person when you don't find yourself constantly questioning at
[49:21] Speaker 2: every turn of an issue. Like if you have an issue,
[49:26] Speaker 2: y'all work through it, or even if you're in the
[49:28] Speaker 2: midst of it, but you don't feel the need to
[49:30] Speaker 2: like seek validation, reassurance and all these other things from
[49:34] Speaker 2: outside sources who aren't in your relationship. Sometimes we want
[49:36] Speaker 2: those other people to tell us that to make us
[49:39] Speaker 2: feel better about making the wrong decisions. And you got
[49:41] Speaker 2: to tune that noise out you're unhappy. I don't know
[49:45] Speaker 2: what y'all's whole routine is, but you can be in
[49:48] Speaker 2: a routine and let me tell you, as a queen
[49:50] Speaker 2: of a situationship, even when I didn't want it to
[49:52] Speaker 2: be a situationship and it was because well, yeah it
[49:57] Speaker 2: was that, and I didn't want it to be that. Yeah,
[50:00] Speaker 2: there were routines, there were all sorts of things they
[50:02] Speaker 2: can do, all the things that look like a relationship,
[50:04] Speaker 2: look like they love you, look like they care about you,
[50:06] Speaker 2: look like they at least give a fuck if you
[50:08] Speaker 2: live or die. And then something happens and you realize
[50:12] Speaker 2: they don't because you allowed all of this outside stuff
[50:17] Speaker 2: to infiltrate your thoughts. And I don't think that anything
[50:22] Speaker 2: should be easy, and it doesn't come without issue, But
[50:25] Speaker 2: when you find yourself constantly searching to make something right,
[50:29] Speaker 2: that should be a sign that maybe it's just not
[50:32] Speaker 2: right at all, and you need to let it go.
[50:35] Speaker 2: It's okay to let things go, it's okay to be
[50:37] Speaker 2: to start over. It is okay to not be okay.
[50:42] Speaker 1: And realize it and move on.
[50:43] Speaker 2: And I hope that more of us will learn to
[50:46] Speaker 2: be okay with that. But that's how I think. You know,
[50:49] Speaker 2: when you constantly feel like I don't know what to do,
[50:52] Speaker 2: I'm upset, I'm easy, it doesn't feel good. You just
[50:55] Speaker 2: feel unsettled and you're searching for answers constantly and nothing
[50:59] Speaker 2: fits this ain't this don't fit.
[51:02] Speaker 1: You're part of on the same wavelength. My answer, surprisingly
[51:05] Speaker 1: is going to be simple and short. I think you
[51:07] Speaker 1: know and this is tried and true for me in
[51:10] Speaker 1: my life. If you're on the same wavelength when you
[51:12] Speaker 1: experience something really tough, whether it's you or him, and
[51:15] Speaker 1: they have your back, and that's how I'd be knowing
[51:19] Speaker 1: that we on the same wavelength, because at the end
[51:21] Speaker 1: of the day, life is fucking hard, and shit be
[51:23] Speaker 1: going on in life be life, and if if somebody
[51:25] Speaker 1: can rock it through with you, with a friend or
[51:28] Speaker 1: a romantic person or even just someone you're not necessarily
[51:31] Speaker 1: you ever know somebody that you're not really in a
[51:32] Speaker 1: relationship with, but they really fuck with you, oh do
[51:35] Speaker 1: I And it's like, wow, you really got my back,
[51:40] Speaker 1: like you care about me. We're on the same wavelength,
[51:42] Speaker 1: you get it. That's how, unfortunately I have figured out
[51:46] Speaker 1: the people that truly fuck with me in life. That's
[51:48] Speaker 1: what honestly matters. If I'm up and everything's going well
[51:51] Speaker 1: and you got my back, it don't really matter. It matters.
[51:54] Speaker 1: I'm not saying it doesn't matter, thank you, But when
[51:57] Speaker 1: life be life, in which we've all been in a
[51:59] Speaker 1: life be life in situation who is there? Is he?
[52:03] Speaker 1: And we've all been fucking somebody at times where it's
[52:05] Speaker 1: like you know, he not gonna be there, and you
[52:06] Speaker 1: just you don't. You also want to lose that dick,
[52:08] Speaker 1: so you just don't even bring those things up to them.
[52:09] Speaker 2: But the people you can bring this little thing that
[52:11] Speaker 2: you can hold on.
[52:12] Speaker 1: Yeah, you're like if I tell him, then I'm going
[52:13] Speaker 1: he's gonna be like, oh here you go get an emotion.
[52:15] Speaker 1: But the people in your life that it's like I
[52:17] Speaker 1: got somebody like that where it's like it can be sexual,
[52:19] Speaker 1: it can be friend, it can be something, and everybody
[52:22] Speaker 1: in my life might not know him, but like he
[52:24] Speaker 1: gets me in a way where it's like wow, like
[52:26] Speaker 1: I appreciate this, Like it's the wavelength we don't have
[52:29] Speaker 1: to be even in a relationship. But I hope that
[52:32] Speaker 1: somebody that I'm gonna be in a relationship with can
[52:34] Speaker 1: be like that. Like I don't want it to be
[52:35] Speaker 1: a situation where it's like, let me just tell Kiki this,
[52:39] Speaker 1: because I know if I tell my man, he not
[52:41] Speaker 1: gonna he's gonna have an attitude and he's gonna start
[52:43] Speaker 1: an argument he's not gonna get it. He's not gonna
[52:45] Speaker 1: see me, he's not gonna try to see it. Let
[52:47] Speaker 1: me tell you how I knew somebody. Really.
[52:49] Speaker 2: I mean, it was a few things, but then I
[52:50] Speaker 2: just really had a moment. And I've been very emotional
[52:53] Speaker 2: these past couple of months, like a real woman. It's
[52:55] Speaker 2: so weird and uncomfortable. I don't know hormone steel ain't regulated, yeah,
[53:00] Speaker 2: because I've always felt a little disconnected. Like not that
[53:03] Speaker 2: I thought I was a man or anything, but I
[53:04] Speaker 2: mean I literally had a lot on testosterone. I think
[53:06] Speaker 2: that's why I'm so hairy. Anyways, when my grandfather passed
[53:12] Speaker 2: away that I mean, it's still hard, but it gets easier.
[53:17] Speaker 2: This man was like, well, I said, I have all
[53:19] Speaker 2: this stuff to do. I don't know how I'm gonna
[53:21] Speaker 2: get there. I don't know when the funeral is gonna be.
[53:22] Speaker 2: I have to cancel things. I don't know what to do.
[53:23] Speaker 2: I gotta record today, Like I'm always overwhelmed. I'm always crazy, y'all.
[53:29] Speaker 2: Not my head ain't right. The wigs ain't been too tight.
[53:33] Speaker 2: They've actually been too loose. But that's another thing. If
[53:34] Speaker 2: you have a wig, send it to me. But I
[53:38] Speaker 2: was like, what am I gonna do with my baby girl?
[53:41] Speaker 2: What am I gonna do with baby girl?
[53:42] Speaker 1: Why?
[53:42] Speaker 2: I don't know how long I'm gonna go. I don't
[53:43] Speaker 2: want to feel rush like I don't know. So he
[53:45] Speaker 2: was like, well, I know you don't like to drive,
[53:48] Speaker 2: but would it be easier if we drove. I'll come
[53:50] Speaker 2: with you. He don't like my family, and I don't
[53:53] Speaker 2: blame him. Well, I won't say he doesn't like them,
[53:56] Speaker 2: but some people have made it very clear that they're
[53:59] Speaker 2: not interested in him. It was very uncomfortable. Maybe even
[54:02] Speaker 2: it could be a patrio.
[54:02] Speaker 1: Conversations like that, that's an honest conversation, at least, not
[54:05] Speaker 1: holding on to it like faking it.
[54:07] Speaker 2: It's like he's like, yeah, And I was like, and
[54:09] Speaker 2: this one, I told you. I don't want to bring
[54:11] Speaker 2: nobody around because I get it. It's it's a tough crowd,
[54:15] Speaker 2: like y'all think y'all know me. Oh wait till it's
[54:18] Speaker 2: the tribe I came from. Like imagine that. Yeah, so
[54:23] Speaker 2: it can be uncomfortable. Ain't shit else to do. It's fun,
[54:26] Speaker 2: we're gathering for a sad occasion. But he drove the
[54:29] Speaker 2: whole way, even though I didn't sleep the night before
[54:31] Speaker 2: we recorded. I went how I'm supposed to sleep, didn't.
[54:34] Speaker 2: We drove there and meet him and Whitley. He rented
[54:37] Speaker 2: a car, We stayed at a hotel. We stayed there
[54:39] Speaker 2: for a long time. He didn't rush me to leave,
[54:42] Speaker 2: and he was just there. And it's like little things
[54:44] Speaker 2: like that, I know you didn't want to be there.
[54:46] Speaker 2: I wouldn't have wanted to be there. And then I
[54:48] Speaker 2: had to ask myself on the drive would I have
[54:50] Speaker 2: done the same thing? And that's another thing that I
[54:55] Speaker 2: think we have to ask ourselves, like when you want
[54:58] Speaker 2: these things from different people, would you reciprocate? And when
[55:02] Speaker 2: you question it, that's okay, but like really ask yourself,
[55:04] Speaker 2: because I don't think any sort of relationship, friendship, anything
[55:08] Speaker 2: should be one sided. Would you be willing to do this?
[55:11] Speaker 2: I didn't ask that, but I really appreciated that. Could
[55:13] Speaker 2: I do it? Yeah? Would I like it?
[55:15] Speaker 1: Maybe not?
[55:16] Speaker 2: But could I do it?
[55:17] Speaker 1: Yeah?
[55:17] Speaker 2: And so it's important to look at things like that,
[55:19] Speaker 2: like it's somebody willing to do things that are uncomfortable
[55:22] Speaker 2: to them that they really don't want to do, that
[55:24] Speaker 2: cost them thousands of dollars. They didn't plan to spend.
[55:30] Speaker 2: You gotta ask and do that, and then you ask
[55:33] Speaker 2: do they throw it in your face later? Because that's
[55:36] Speaker 2: the other side. You don't want somebody who throws it
[55:39] Speaker 2: in your face because it feels good when you know
[55:41] Speaker 2: that somebody is there for you, But then it feels like, well,
[55:43] Speaker 2: are you really there for me if you're gonna keep
[55:45] Speaker 2: reminding me. I thought you were really being supportive or
[55:48] Speaker 2: like trying to help me, because I've been through that too.
[55:51] Speaker 2: It's just like, don't ever give me a goddamn thing,
[55:55] Speaker 2: because boy, fuck you, And now I want to slash
[55:57] Speaker 2: your tires and put sugar in your tank. I didn't
[55:59] Speaker 2: say that. I haven't ever done that, actually, but I've
[56:03] Speaker 2: thought about it anyways. I think that we've all got
[56:06] Speaker 2: to ask ourselves these questions. But you miss girl in
[56:09] Speaker 2: the email, you're unhappy. Yeah, and Heed say it out
[56:13] Speaker 2: loud three times a year.
[56:14] Speaker 1: And I'm gonna say it again. I said it in
[56:15] Speaker 1: the beginning several times. Cut out the sugar and read
[56:18] Speaker 1: a book.
[56:20] Speaker 2: Sugar does make your mind do crazy things, and they
[56:23] Speaker 2: putting all kind of stuff in there. I didn't know
[56:24] Speaker 2: that Red forty in the chips that your nephew was
[56:26] Speaker 2: talking about. I think that's what he was talking about. Maltred,
[56:29] Speaker 2: oh something way longer name. Ask him about the Red forty.
[56:34] Speaker 2: I bet he knows. He probably does, because I didn't
[56:36] Speaker 2: know that a lot of people don't want the kids
[56:38] Speaker 2: eating talkies. I thought it was because heartburns and heart
[56:41] Speaker 2: attacks and salt and stuff. But apparently red forty does something.
[56:46] Speaker 2: And when the kids have a lot of it in
[56:48] Speaker 2: their system, sometimes they get diagnosed with autism and ADHD,
[56:55] Speaker 2: but the symptoms are the same. But it's really that.
[56:58] Speaker 2: And so when you cut that out of their diet,
[57:00] Speaker 2: after some time, retest and you see like you have
[57:04] Speaker 2: a change in the kids. And so they didn't really
[57:06] Speaker 2: have it. It's just something that mimics it.
[57:08] Speaker 1: If you're looking for a healthy chip for your child, sorry, y'all,
[57:11] Speaker 1: really a healthy chip, it's called and this. I love them.
[57:16] Speaker 1: You don't even have to be like these were healths
[57:17] Speaker 1: and they're not. They're not expensive. There's a blame version.
[57:20] Speaker 1: Now they got flavors. There's lime. There's a nacho cheese.
[57:23] Speaker 1: I don't like the notch cheese, but there is. If
[57:24] Speaker 1: you just are someone where you need a flavor, they
[57:26] Speaker 1: have flavors. I love the flavorless and I love the lime,
[57:31] Speaker 1: and they're really good with time. It's like a dorito,
[57:32] Speaker 1: but it's not. It doesn't have all the extra shit
[57:34] Speaker 1: in it.
[57:35] Speaker 2: They make regular like taco shells, like the crunchy.
[57:38] Speaker 1: Kinds they make, but if you get the soft and
[57:41] Speaker 1: you eat them, you're like this nasty. Nope, no, nope,
[57:43] Speaker 1: you got to put at olive oil in the pan.
[57:44] Speaker 1: You gotta heat it up. And that changed.
[57:47] Speaker 2: To read telling you to heat it.
[57:50] Speaker 1: And they're good and it's like a healthy And that's
[57:53] Speaker 1: a flowerless tortilla right there. I use the I use
[57:56] Speaker 1: the Cia everything, the chips and the tortillas. I'm making
[57:58] Speaker 1: my tacos. I'll make a little toast y'all, just make as.
[58:03] Speaker 2: With no meat or anything, and just the avocado because
[58:06] Speaker 2: I know you've been on your avocado cake.
[58:07] Speaker 1: I'll be putting a little meat on there because I
[58:08] Speaker 1: mean energy, because I've been really lifting. But I do
[58:12] Speaker 1: a little meat. I'll do a little avocado. I do
[58:14] Speaker 1: my little Greek yogurt, a little salt and pepper or
[58:16] Speaker 1: little candors. I don't care what nobody tell me about kenders.
[58:18] Speaker 1: If you got I be like, I'm sorry, I'm using kender. Y'all.
[58:25] Speaker 1: That's one of the ones where it's like we can't
[58:27] Speaker 1: be perfect. You still fucking with niggas that you don't
[58:29] Speaker 1: even be fucking with, And when I get back out there,
[58:31] Speaker 1: I probably will too. So I don't know what to
[58:33] Speaker 1: tell you.
[58:33] Speaker 2: I'm un makes the story and that's what we got
[58:36] Speaker 2: right here, and we're just all having story time. Y'all
[58:38] Speaker 2: keep sending us your cocktails and whatever you're going through.
[58:41] Speaker 2: Do you have a question that you need advice or
[58:42] Speaker 2: do you have a question and you just want us
[58:44] Speaker 2: to talk about it, Like you're just curious about thoughts,
[58:46] Speaker 2: because even if you have things like that you can
[58:47] Speaker 2: send them.
[58:48] Speaker 1: To, you're in confusion, maybe that you've reached a point
[58:50] Speaker 1: with a friendship or a relationship or even at work,
[58:52] Speaker 1: and you're like, I just really don't what should I
[58:54] Speaker 1: do with this? Let us know. I want to know
[58:56] Speaker 1: where y'all are at.
[58:58] Speaker 2: I want to know where I'm at. I'm not quite sure,
[59:01] Speaker 2: but at a.
[59:01] Speaker 1: Point where now it's like, can I go the full
[59:03] Speaker 1: year without dating? I want to? I want to any wait.
[59:07] Speaker 2: Can we put this on prospect? Can we get a
[59:11] Speaker 2: bad going I wait because I'm ready to cash out.
[59:14] Speaker 1: I want to kiss some man. I want I want the.
[59:16] Speaker 2: Last time you kissed somebody last in twenty twenty four.
[59:19] Speaker 2: You gonna say last week.
[59:20] Speaker 1: No, I haven't. I haven't done the things I mean obviously,
[59:23] Speaker 1: you see. I haven't been going out. I'm really nervous
[59:24] Speaker 1: because this weekend is my girlfriend Chanelle's birthday. She's ali,
[59:28] Speaker 1: they be trying to act like they don't want attention.
[59:30] Speaker 1: They do. I was just dating one and then he anyway,
[59:33] Speaker 1: she's doing a whole week She's like, I'm not going
[59:34] Speaker 1: to do anything. It's a whole weekend of events. I'm
[59:37] Speaker 1: not They did a boat day to day. I was like,
[59:38] Speaker 1: I'm not going on the boat. It's too many people
[59:40] Speaker 1: down on the water. I'm sorry, I'm not going y'all
[59:41] Speaker 1: drinking Lake Alatuna okay? And she was like, well, such
[59:45] Speaker 1: just I was like, who's going to be the captain?
[59:47] Speaker 1: Is it a certified captain? She was like, no, Bobby
[59:49] Speaker 1: from the gym. I'm sorry, y'all, I'm not going out.
[59:52] Speaker 2: I need somebody just strictly on the clock.
[59:54] Speaker 1: And you're not drinking, You're not.
[59:55] Speaker 2: I don't even want to know you.
[59:56] Speaker 1: I can't risk it. And so but tomorrow she was like,
[59:59] Speaker 1: you're gonna come Saturday. I was like, I'm coming. So
[1:00:01] Speaker 1: we're going to dinner at Master or something. And after
[1:00:05] Speaker 1: that she's like, please come to the club. I'm going
[1:00:09] Speaker 1: with it. I don't know. I think maybe revel, but
[1:00:11] Speaker 1: I said, I'm going. It's your birthday, Like, yeah, this
[1:00:14] Speaker 1: is called for a bitch. I'm nervous.
[1:00:16] Speaker 2: Sit in the corner of this section, not in the
[1:00:18] Speaker 2: middle where everybody. You need to sit in the corner
[1:00:20] Speaker 2: where everybody on the side can cover you up and
[1:00:22] Speaker 2: block your bed.
[1:00:23] Speaker 1: That's the thing. It's not that I don't want to
[1:00:24] Speaker 1: go to the clubs. It's not fun. I'm normal have fun.
[1:00:26] Speaker 2: I'm not gonna tell you, but I need you to
[1:00:28] Speaker 2: be in the corner so that you can stay safe
[1:00:30] Speaker 2: because I know you gonna cut up next thing. I
[1:00:32] Speaker 2: know that hang on, throw up. She gonna be having
[1:00:35] Speaker 2: that bang. Don't let that sweat start rolling down her body.
[1:00:38] Speaker 2: Somebody's gonna pay a compliment. But then you cannot help
[1:00:40] Speaker 2: but flirt. She's a natural fir and she's very good
[1:00:42] Speaker 2: at it. Sometimes I just sit back and watch. I'm
[1:00:44] Speaker 2: a horrible fir. I don't know how. I am very
[1:00:47] Speaker 2: much Angelica, and so I just be watching like, oh okay,
[1:00:51] Speaker 2: so I want a giggle or a little let me
[1:00:54] Speaker 2: lean in, Okay, okay, take the note and the next
[1:00:56] Speaker 2: thing I know, I got a pee and then all
[1:00:57] Speaker 2: fineologies flush down the toilet.
[1:00:59] Speaker 1: I just want to I just want to kiss somebody.
[1:01:02] Speaker 2: But when I say that, you give a woman a kiss, like,
[1:01:07] Speaker 2: if you give a boy a cookie, he's gonna want
[1:01:09] Speaker 2: some milk. If you give this girl a kiss, I'm
[1:01:12] Speaker 2: gonna want some dick. And I was gonna say.
[1:01:15] Speaker 1: A love story, but yeah, I wanted I'm gonna go
[1:01:19] Speaker 1: to Higos show and I'm gonna kiss him.
[1:01:23] Speaker 2: I know that's right. Cast That's what I was because girl,
[1:01:26] Speaker 2: like what where are we? I was gonna let you
[1:01:29] Speaker 2: make it, but I also want to let you know
[1:01:31] Speaker 2: it's not remissed me and listen, we had no communication,
[1:01:38] Speaker 2: but you let it slip who you had a little
[1:01:40] Speaker 2: ship chat with. And somebody left a comment on the
[1:01:42] Speaker 2: YouTube video Lieutenant Bay was now slide back in. She
[1:01:47] Speaker 2: just let it let it go in there.
[1:01:49] Speaker 1: That was because I had a ticket and I really
[1:01:50] Speaker 1: was like, can you and.
[1:01:53] Speaker 2: You just start talking about life.
[1:01:54] Speaker 1: That's how it goes. But listen, I'm gonna kiss him
[1:01:57] Speaker 1: tonight and I'm gonna he's gonna go, is gonna gleeve
[1:02:00] Speaker 1: and then some kissing because I just need a kiss.
[1:02:02] Speaker 2: I'm just gonna go set up your camera, okay, so
[1:02:05] Speaker 2: we can see this, because then we won't believe it.
[1:02:08] Speaker 2: If there's no footage of it, we don't believe it.
[1:02:11] Speaker 2: He lets you put put he puts you in the splits,
[1:02:15] Speaker 2: and he did that nasty thing that I heard the
[1:02:17] Speaker 2: Q dogs.
[1:02:18] Speaker 1: Dude.
[1:02:18] Speaker 2: What anyway, y'all checked a description box. Sign up for Patreon.
[1:02:26] Speaker 2: I'm gonna try and get this tea out and I'm
[1:02:28] Speaker 2: gonna try and do something to give y'all something Sometimes
[1:02:31] Speaker 2: I don't think that y'all believe us. Well.
[1:02:35] Speaker 1: Challenge and by the end of the challenge, because by
[1:02:38] Speaker 1: the end of the year, we both have to have
[1:02:41] Speaker 1: a cocktail.
[1:02:42] Speaker 2: I got a cocktail, but is it a good one.
[1:02:45] Speaker 2: I've had a little bit of sake. I wasn't in
[1:02:47] Speaker 2: a sex mood. I can go have some sex. This
[1:02:51] Speaker 2: is what I need. We can do that, but this
[1:02:53] Speaker 2: is what I need for y'all to help me out.
[1:02:55] Speaker 2: I would like for y'all to give me a suggestion
[1:02:57] Speaker 2: of something that maybe you have allways want to try
[1:03:01] Speaker 2: but you haven't, and you want me to try it first.
[1:03:03] Speaker 2: No blood, no dookie ooh hell no, no animals, nothing illegal,
[1:03:09] Speaker 2: just nothing too crazy, something very simple that are an
[1:03:13] Speaker 2: old auntie with bad joints can do. I got arthritis
[1:03:17] Speaker 2: in my neck. I got oversized feet, so they're fucked up. Yeah,
[1:03:25] Speaker 2: but I'm willing to try a few things and I'll
[1:03:27] Speaker 2: tell you all about it. I'm not recording video. Yeah,
[1:03:31] Speaker 2: but let's see Modina.
[1:03:33] Speaker 1: What is your child?
[1:03:34] Speaker 2: Oh you need a cocktail by the end of the year. Well,
[1:03:37] Speaker 2: I don't think that'll be hard at all. So Prize
[1:03:40] Speaker 2: picks holler at me because we ready to get these
[1:03:42] Speaker 2: bets going. And I would like to make myself a
[1:03:44] Speaker 2: rich woman. But maybe it'll be one of y'all because
[1:03:46] Speaker 2: we got to get something on the leaderboard. Y'all leave
[1:03:49] Speaker 2: a comment and let me know what the things could be,
[1:03:51] Speaker 2: Like how it was the Super Bowl with Taylor Swift. Oh,
[1:03:53] Speaker 2: they'll kids, She'll wear a red lipstick. All that Medina
[1:03:56] Speaker 2: is going to do X, Y and Z and I'm
[1:03:59] Speaker 2: just gonna look kiss and we need timeline.
[1:04:02] Speaker 4: So nothing is like an old ugly sugar baby dad,
[1:04:07] Speaker 4: Like what why, I'll just give me a little kiss, baby,
[1:04:10] Speaker 4: just no, I just need to look kiss like.
[1:04:13] Speaker 2: I was saying a paraplegic. But that's where my mind goes. Anyway,
[1:04:17] Speaker 2: you guys, that's it for today. We gotta go and
[1:04:19] Speaker 2: I've gotta pee.
[1:04:20] Speaker 4: Okay, thank you, We love you.
[1:04:26] Speaker 1: Bye bye bye bye bye weir dry bye bye

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