# Ep. 456 "Do You Want a Title or Nah? Let’s Talk Marriage Insurance & Men Who Can’t Lead"

An episode of [Cocktales with Kiki](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1149484402), 7 Aug 2025, 1 h 13 min.

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This week we’re talking titles, toxic takes, and whether marriage needs an insurance policy. Kiki and Medinah are back with stories about wild traffic stops, real estate wins, cheating scandals on the kiss cam, and the exhausting emotional labor Black women carry in love and life. We’re asking: → Why do some men expect leadership with no labor? → Is marriage insurance the new prenup? → Do we sound bitter, or are we just done with the BS? Plus, Medina shares a major real estate milestone, Kiki wants to grow corn in her dream backyard, and your favorite THC libido gummies are back on the mic. Segments include: • Cocktail of the Week: Late Checkout • Real Estate Glow-Ups • The “Side Chick or Wife?” Listener Letter • Why Men Need Emotional Education • Marriage, Divorce & Soft Life Desires • Sponsor Highlights from LifeRX and VIIA 🎉 If you’re 21+, try VIIA! For 15% off AND a free gift with your first order head to viia.co/COCKTALES and use code COCKTALES! #viiapartner 💉 LifeRx.md - Use code COCKTALES for $50 off LifeRX.MD - Start your health journey today with LifeRX and use code COCKTALES at checkout for $50 off. LIFERX Use code COCKTALES- CLICK HERE https://liferx.md/?u1=188&_ef_transaction_id&oid=1&affid=188 💻 Join the Drinks & Reads Book Club on Patreon www.patreon.com/kikisaidso Join Kiki in Jamaica at Hedo with WBT, Let them Know Kiki Sent You! www.worstbehaviortour.com 📺 Kiki's new show: xoMAN Podcast is out now! Check it out here: https://lnk.to/6JdRUZ 🌵 Sedona Retreat Day Passes via Paradise & Vibe https://paradiseandvibe.com/ To Join The Cancer Walk or Make a donation: Cancer Walk Info Visit www.soakingwet.com and use code COCKTALES 💉 LifeRx.md - Use code COCKTALES for $50 off LifeRX.MD - Start your health journey today with LifeRX and use code COCKTALES at checkout for $50 off. LIFERX Use code COCKTALES- CLICK HERE https://liferx.md/?u1=188&_ef_transaction_id&oid=1&affid=188 📲 Follow Us: Instagram: @cocktalespodcast Instagram: @kikisaidso Instagram: @coffeebeandean 🛒 Support the Show For all promo codes and links for promotions in the episode as well as other current offers, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/cocktalesads Contact Us! Advice: advice@cocktalespod.com Cocktales: cocktales@cocktalespod.com Weird Sex: weirdsex@cocktalespod.com Sponsorship: sales@cocktalespod.com Guest Request/General Inquiries: info@cocktalespod.com Chapters: 00:00 – Cocktail of the Week: Late Checkout 06:00 – Grandma goals, spiked sweet tea & aging dreams 15:00 – Traffic stops, real estate flexes & calling in favors 25:00 – Porn site blocks, pink porn debates & scandalous kiss cam moments 40:00 – Should wives stay through cheating? Why men don’t get emotional labor 58:00 – What is marriage insurance (and why we might need it)? 1:12:00 – Bitter or just honest? 1:30:00 – Real estate glow-up + luxury client moment 1:42:00 – VIIA ad – the high love we needed 1:50:00 – Listener letter: “Am I the side chick?” 2:00:00 – Ayahuasca trips, parallel universes, and... back rolls disappearing?! Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cocktales-with-kiki--2818687/support. CONNECT WITH US Follow the host and join the conversation after the episode: Kiki Said So (Kiara Walker) Instagram: @kikisaidso TikTok: @kikisaidso Cocktales With Kiki Instagram:@cocktalespodcast TikTok: @cocktalespodcast Want to be a guest on Cocktales? We are always looking for interesting guests, experts, and storytellers to join the show. If you would like to be considered, please fill out our guest submission form here: Guest Interest Form

## Transcript

[0:02] Speaker 1: Yeah, you're a check one two, check one two?
[0:04] Speaker 2: Is this Mike On? Is this Mike On?
[0:06] Speaker 3: Hey?
[0:06] Speaker 1: Listen man, it's the one and only Trenks that a dj.
[0:09] Speaker 2: Sis and you're listening to cocktails dirty discussions with Kikia
[0:13] Speaker 2: Medina Monroe.
[0:14] Speaker 1: Here. Today's cocktail is called late checkout. I love a
[0:23] Speaker 1: late checkout. The ingredients you need, Sir Davis whiskey, two
[0:27] Speaker 1: ounces of it, a half ounce of lime juice, a
[0:29] Speaker 1: half ounce of a gave neck or spicy a gave
[0:34] Speaker 1: if you want to look kick in it, two dashes
[0:36] Speaker 1: of angos or bitters, and you're gonna top it off
[0:38] Speaker 1: with some ginger beer or sprite whatever that's writ in a.
[0:40] Speaker 2: Minute every now and I need an emergency sprite.
[0:44] Speaker 1: Every now and again. And you're gonna garnish this with
[0:46] Speaker 1: a lime wheel or a candy ginger. I love a
[0:48] Speaker 1: good old ginger chew. This is how you're gonna make it.
[0:51] Speaker 1: You're gonna add your whiskey, your lime juice, you're a
[0:53] Speaker 1: gave and your bitterer's to a shaker with ice. Shake
[0:55] Speaker 1: it like you need a late checkout extension? Can I
[0:58] Speaker 1: go till two not eleven? I need the two PM checkout,
[1:01] Speaker 1: or four strain into a rocks or a highball glass
[1:05] Speaker 1: with fresh ice, and then top it with that ginger
[1:08] Speaker 1: beer for the spicy grown vibe or the sprite for
[1:11] Speaker 1: sweet and flirty, which one are you? And garnish it
[1:14] Speaker 1: with the lime wheel and there you have it, guys,
[1:16] Speaker 1: a late check out.
[1:19] Speaker 2: I am a spicy old lady and I cannot wait
[1:23] Speaker 2: until I hopefully I make it toll like eighty something,
[1:26] Speaker 2: because I think that's when I will reach my final form.
[1:29] Speaker 2: A lot of the things that I aspire to do
[1:31] Speaker 2: in my life, just like on a personal level or
[1:34] Speaker 2: old lady activities. I want to sit on my porch
[1:37] Speaker 2: every day in a rocking chair or even a glider.
[1:40] Speaker 2: If I'm filling new age with some spiked lemonador sweet
[1:45] Speaker 2: tea with liquor. Oh, I don't know what kind of look.
[1:50] Speaker 1: I tell you can't drink anymore?
[1:52] Speaker 2: Who won't check me? That's the other parts that I'm
[1:55] Speaker 2: looking forward to. When you're old, you.
[1:58] Speaker 1: Do what you want to do unless somebody steps in.
[2:02] Speaker 1: It's like take the drink from her.
[2:04] Speaker 2: And you can take it, and I'm gonna bop you
[2:05] Speaker 2: with my cane one time, y'all, Uh, my grandma got
[2:10] Speaker 2: pulled over. Right, She wasn't drinking or anything. Does she
[2:13] Speaker 2: drink though, but she doesn't drink a lot now. She
[2:17] Speaker 2: used to. She also got epilepsy. I don't think she looky.
[2:20] Speaker 2: I don't think's supposed to drink at all. So every
[2:22] Speaker 2: now and again she will have like a little few
[2:25] Speaker 2: SIPs of moscato, like on her birthday, Christmas, Thanksgiving. That's it.
[2:29] Speaker 2: And then that thing start beeping on her phone. Glue
[2:31] Speaker 2: close too high, you know how the diabetes skull, she's
[2:34] Speaker 2: got the sugar at this point. Anyways, she gets pulled over.
[2:38] Speaker 2: She was going somewhere back in that fish This guy
[2:41] Speaker 2: pulls her over. The cop. She's looking at him. I
[2:44] Speaker 2: guess she was like, I don't know what she was doing.
[2:47] Speaker 2: Something wasn't right. He takes her license stuff. She's looking
[2:50] Speaker 2: at him. She's like, wait a minute, are you such
[2:52] Speaker 2: and such. My grandma was a band director for many
[2:55] Speaker 2: years out there, so she's been working in the schools
[2:58] Speaker 2: for a long time. This is a former shuite enough,
[3:00] Speaker 2: hers all grown up and this is like in the
[3:02] Speaker 2: past ten or fifteen years. Anyway, he was like, well,
[3:06] Speaker 2: I pulled you over because you were swerving or something
[3:08] Speaker 2: like that. He said. He was like, I didn't know
[3:09] Speaker 2: if you were a drunk driver or not. Get me
[3:12] Speaker 2: back my license. I'm not drunk. I'm going to wherever
[3:16] Speaker 2: she was going give it back. Now. You know what
[3:20] Speaker 2: he did. He gave her that license back and he
[3:22] Speaker 2: told her to have a good day, and she went on,
[3:24] Speaker 2: those are the things that I want to do when
[3:26] Speaker 2: I'm old.
[3:27] Speaker 1: I got a ticket the other day.
[3:28] Speaker 2: You didn't even drive fast. I don't. I didn't.
[3:33] Speaker 1: I just I picked up my phone. I was on
[3:35] Speaker 1: a zoom call.
[3:36] Speaker 2: Oh hell no, I was.
[3:38] Speaker 1: I have a deal right now. It's an international deal.
[3:40] Speaker 1: I'm a real estate agent, right. I was like, So,
[3:43] Speaker 1: I was on the phone with the other agent that's
[3:45] Speaker 1: in uh, Dominican Republic, and we're I just picked up
[3:49] Speaker 1: the phone to move it and.
[3:51] Speaker 2: And I would.
[3:52] Speaker 1: We weren't even like really driving. It was the you
[3:54] Speaker 1: know how gets clogged up right when you're leaving Linux.
[3:57] Speaker 1: It wasn't even like real driving.
[3:59] Speaker 2: And I'm like, what is he pulling me over for?
[4:00] Speaker 1: I didn't even do anything.
[4:01] Speaker 2: I was like, oh my.
[4:02] Speaker 1: God, like it's my life. I just didn't know what
[4:04] Speaker 1: was going on.
[4:04] Speaker 2: It's my tag bag. What's going on?
[4:06] Speaker 1: So I pulled, I pull over and I'm just are
[4:08] Speaker 1: you just already be annoyed with the police? And then
[4:10] Speaker 1: he he comes up and he's like he was Jamaican
[4:14] Speaker 1: and he was like, do you know what you did?
[4:15] Speaker 2: And I was like, I don't know.
[4:17] Speaker 1: I'm on the phone, Like I hate when they asked
[4:20] Speaker 1: that you must get to it.
[4:22] Speaker 2: Yeah, I was like what did I do?
[4:23] Speaker 1: And I was just so annoyed. He was like, I
[4:25] Speaker 1: need to see your license. I was like, well, sir,
[4:27] Speaker 1: it's in the trunk. My purse is in the trunk
[4:29] Speaker 1: and my license is in my purse. And he was like,
[4:31] Speaker 1: do you have any weapons? And I was like, do
[4:33] Speaker 1: I look like I have any where?
[4:35] Speaker 2: You was going to gun class. Maybe you saw the episode.
[4:37] Speaker 1: This was before that. This was several weeks ago, like
[4:40] Speaker 1: maybe even months at this point. Anyways, he was like,
[4:44] Speaker 1: he really gave me a ticket.
[4:45] Speaker 2: I thought he was.
[4:46] Speaker 1: I thought I was gonna be when I got off
[4:47] Speaker 1: the car like Booty and he gonna not give me
[4:49] Speaker 1: a ticket.
[4:49] Speaker 2: Gave me a ticket.
[4:50] Speaker 1: You know what?
[4:51] Speaker 2: I did? What?
[4:52] Speaker 1: Call Lieutenant Bay, call that nigga, tell him take this off?
[4:55] Speaker 3: What?
[4:56] Speaker 2: And he did do yeah, I don't know pace to
[5:02] Speaker 2: know people. It does because I was like, sir, I've
[5:06] Speaker 2: gotten pulled over for a phone thing. I did have
[5:08] Speaker 2: the phone in my hand. I need to see something.
[5:10] Speaker 2: Y'all got a whole fucking laptop, and I don't even
[5:13] Speaker 2: think y'all be working. Sometimes I wish the tent was
[5:16] Speaker 2: not as dark so I could see, because I got
[5:18] Speaker 2: a feeling some of y'all's on their playing games. You're
[5:20] Speaker 2: playing Grand Theft, Auto, the two K, the sports absolutely,
[5:27] Speaker 2: and where y'all getting that at? By the way, my
[5:29] Speaker 2: favorite site. You know, we can't see that here in
[5:31] Speaker 2: this damn state. They blocked up. Well, obviously I'm the
[5:38] Speaker 2: only masturbating bitch in the room. Well it's been blocked
[5:41] Speaker 2: for where you go. I knew you was gonna say that.
[5:47] Speaker 2: I hate that ghetto ass website, but I've been on it.
[5:50] Speaker 2: It's on my private browser. I have to be very careful.
[5:56] Speaker 2: The aesthetic. Well it looks like two thousand and two.
[6:00] Speaker 1: Well, you gotta look. It has to be white people born.
[6:03] Speaker 1: I watched white people born.
[6:04] Speaker 2: I didn't know that, and I forgot. I realized, actually
[6:09] Speaker 2: I am really good and not only blacking out when
[6:11] Speaker 2: I get drunk, but like blacking out memories like that.
[6:15] Speaker 2: I should remember, you don't.
[6:17] Speaker 1: Watch white people born.
[6:18] Speaker 2: I don't like it every now and then again, I
[6:21] Speaker 2: will every now and again. It's too pink. I don't
[6:26] Speaker 2: want to see pink pussies, pink nipples and pink dicks.
[6:28] Speaker 2: I don't like it. It starts making me think about abuse,
[6:34] Speaker 2: rashes and getting your ass beat and sunburn, all very
[6:39] Speaker 2: uncomfortable things. Yeah, I don't, especially the men.
[6:46] Speaker 1: I don't. I only watch lesbian born.
[6:49] Speaker 2: And I need to see a dick in there, and
[6:51] Speaker 2: not a fake one, not nothing you bought down at
[6:55] Speaker 2: the dr office building that is also a plastic surgery center.
[7:02] Speaker 2: I don't want to see no manufactured parts, not on
[7:06] Speaker 2: the men and the woman. Okay, yeah, anyway, I don't
[7:09] Speaker 2: know where I was going with that, but yeah, I
[7:11] Speaker 2: don't like the pink porn. But more power to you
[7:14] Speaker 2: if you're making that. I hope also that if you
[7:16] Speaker 2: guys are out here making stuff that your only source
[7:20] Speaker 2: of income wouldn't fucking porn hub, because what the fuck
[7:22] Speaker 2: are they doing? I was so confused because I wasn't
[7:25] Speaker 2: reading all that. When you go to porn hub right
[7:27] Speaker 2: now on your phone, it's gonna have a message from
[7:30] Speaker 2: a lady. She's sitting there, real serious, and I'm just like, okay, No,
[7:36] Speaker 2: it's like she's at work at a desk. I don't
[7:39] Speaker 2: know if it's ar or what. She got a blond
[7:41] Speaker 2: wig on. It's less stiff than mine. And what I'm
[7:44] Speaker 2: saying wei is probably not anyway. She looks like that
[7:46] Speaker 2: lady that was at the Coldplay concert with her boss.
[7:51] Speaker 1: Think about that. I think about that. And did you
[7:54] Speaker 1: read the statement from the wife. That's not real, that's
[7:57] Speaker 1: not real. You've seen the typos. Yeah, well let me say,
[8:00] Speaker 1: let me not say it's not real. It's unconfirmed. I
[8:03] Speaker 1: kept seeing it circulated. I did read it, and I
[8:05] Speaker 1: loved it, but it I was like, it's sepposing. I
[8:06] Speaker 1: don't think she did this anyways. That in the picture
[8:09] Speaker 1: within babies, that's not her. It's another lady I found
[8:11] Speaker 1: her on Facebook. LinkedIn was in shambles. I don't really
[8:15] Speaker 1: care for LinkedIn too much like it to me. I
[8:17] Speaker 1: try to use it very professionally. I am a professional
[8:20] Speaker 1: on there. Whatever professional shit I'm talking about engaging with
[8:26] Speaker 1: it turned messy. People started commenting on their pages.
[8:33] Speaker 2: They were commenting and stuff. Early in the morning time
[8:36] Speaker 2: I wake up, me and Whitley on a walk. This
[8:38] Speaker 2: is what I see all down my timeline. I was like,
[8:39] Speaker 2: oh my god, I'm so glad I got up early.
[8:41] Speaker 2: I can go to LinkedIn and see for myself. I
[8:43] Speaker 2: saw it, so I know it was happening. People were
[8:47] Speaker 2: leaving comments like they wanted a job, because obviously these
[8:51] Speaker 2: people about to be out of them right. People were
[8:54] Speaker 2: commenting like, I'm a crisis manager if you need help,
[8:58] Speaker 2: bah blah. Somebody had the same name as the man,
[9:02] Speaker 2: and I can't remember what he did professionally, but like
[9:05] Speaker 2: everybody was coming to his LinkedIn, so of course he
[9:08] Speaker 2: was smart enough to know. Let me let y'all know
[9:12] Speaker 2: what I do do though, just in case you want XYZ. Yeah.
[9:15] Speaker 2: And it was something something I can't remember what it was.
[9:18] Speaker 2: Didn't apply to me anyway. I thought it was wild.
[9:21] Speaker 2: Then I try to put myself in their spouse issues.
[9:24] Speaker 2: I would be so embarrassed. I want that letter to
[9:28] Speaker 2: be real, the statement from the wife, but either way
[9:32] Speaker 2: it goes. I just wonder, and I've wondered this often
[9:35] Speaker 2: with people who be out and they're with someone who
[9:38] Speaker 2: is married or they are married and they're out with
[9:40] Speaker 2: someone very publicly, I'd be wondering, like, what do you
[9:45] Speaker 2: do for a living? What do you have for yourself?
[9:48] Speaker 2: What would happen if your world came tumbling down because
[9:50] Speaker 2: somebody found out about this affair? Or is it okay?
[9:53] Speaker 2: Because I also have to remind myself everybody is not
[9:57] Speaker 2: going to take issue with this, like some people do
[9:59] Speaker 2: have open relationships, open marriages and they're not public about
[10:03] Speaker 2: it because they did it. But I'm just saying, like
[10:06] Speaker 2: I'll be thinking about all that. When I saw this,
[10:09] Speaker 2: I was just like, this is what are the odds?
[10:11] Speaker 1: Like my mind, I made it a whole Olivia Pope moment,
[10:13] Speaker 1: like I was like.
[10:14] Speaker 2: What would you do if you were Olivia Pope?
[10:16] Speaker 1: Well wait, I'm not Olivia. I just made it like
[10:17] Speaker 1: a show. I was like, did the what if the
[10:19] Speaker 1: wife curated all that? Because it was just like what
[10:21] Speaker 1: are the odds at a concert? I mean because then
[10:25] Speaker 1: it also I saw something where it was like the
[10:26] Speaker 1: wife did know somebody in a part of the Coldplay team,
[10:31] Speaker 1: and so then I'm.
[10:32] Speaker 2: Like, sounds like a scheme that the wife set up
[10:36] Speaker 2: and I'm not at.
[10:37] Speaker 1: It like she had been saying, I don't know, you
[10:39] Speaker 1: cheating on me, and he was like.
[10:40] Speaker 2: Oh, I'm not, I'm not. I don't like to see
[10:43] Speaker 2: this kind of stuff. I do a lot for this family.
[10:47] Speaker 2: I'm working at an astronomy do for the family. Like,
[10:51] Speaker 2: still don't know what atmosphere, what are they even doing?
[10:54] Speaker 2: I don't.
[10:57] Speaker 1: Cheating, Like I really want a cheating ass nigga A man,
[11:00] Speaker 1: not a woman. It's just different for some reason, because
[11:03] Speaker 1: why do y'all do this?
[11:05] Speaker 2: It's like he has so many assuming he had a
[11:08] Speaker 2: lot to lose.
[11:09] Speaker 1: Yeah, and you didn't want to just stay in the hotel.
[11:14] Speaker 2: You did. This is the other thing, y'all. I'm not
[11:19] Speaker 2: saying it. I'm not to say it. Okay, I'm not
[11:22] Speaker 2: trying to offend people. But for real, a lot of y'all,
[11:25] Speaker 2: nobody would have known who you were. For real, if
[11:28] Speaker 2: y'all didn't act the way that you did once you
[11:29] Speaker 2: realized you were on the screen, all that ducking and dodging,
[11:32] Speaker 2: it would have been very easy to say that was
[11:35] Speaker 2: such and such. Y'all know what I'm saying. Rebetween the line.
[11:40] Speaker 2: It wouldn't have been all over the time. People are
[11:42] Speaker 2: on kiss camps every sporting event. The fact that y'all
[11:46] Speaker 2: did that, everybody was like, oh, Halla, Halla, halla, what's
[11:49] Speaker 2: going on? What's going on? I wasn't cute? What No?
[11:54] Speaker 2: I couldn't see because the light. But then I did. No,
[11:56] Speaker 2: we were good anyway. You see people on a kiss
[12:01] Speaker 2: cam and on the camera, but when you do all
[12:04] Speaker 2: that ducking and dodge and you running off is why?
[12:06] Speaker 2: And then the girl that works there that recently got
[12:08] Speaker 2: the promotion with the brown hair, that was sitting over
[12:10] Speaker 2: there cheesy now I would like to speak, Not really,
[12:14] Speaker 2: I don't think she's in trouble. But what I want
[12:16] Speaker 2: to know is did you get the promotion because they
[12:22] Speaker 2: offered it to you to keep the secret? Or were
[12:25] Speaker 2: you a part of the scheme?
[12:26] Speaker 1: Are you in the threesome with them?
[12:28] Speaker 2: Well? No, not that scheme, but that's another good I
[12:30] Speaker 2: didn't think about them. After I've it sounds like we
[12:34] Speaker 2: actually need to sit down, stop talking to y'all and
[12:37] Speaker 2: sit down and have a meeting and come up with
[12:38] Speaker 2: some scripts because I need I need everybody on the job.
[12:42] Speaker 2: I want Hulu to do a limited series. I would
[12:46] Speaker 2: like HBO, Max or Max whatever the fuck your name
[12:50] Speaker 2: is today, I want y'all to do a movie. I
[12:52] Speaker 2: want to be to do something to hold me over
[12:55] Speaker 2: and give somebody else a chance, and then who else
[12:57] Speaker 2: be doing the things? Flick? Netflix's gonna have the real documentary.
[13:02] Speaker 2: I want them to have the real documentary with the
[13:04] Speaker 2: swinging cameras while everybody's sitting there and half of your
[13:07] Speaker 2: faces dark. I want real documentary. Hulu gets the limited series,
[13:13] Speaker 2: HBO Max gets the movie to be Do what You Do.
[13:18] Speaker 1: I want to know why in today's day and age,
[13:20] Speaker 1: why are you doing this? Like at the end of
[13:22] Speaker 1: the day, like and if you guys don't know, let
[13:24] Speaker 1: me let you know. You are being recorded. I mean,
[13:28] Speaker 1: that's just it. You're gonna be on camp if you're cheating,
[13:31] Speaker 1: if you're stealing, if you're mistreating somebody like you're you're
[13:35] Speaker 1: likely gonna get caught.
[13:36] Speaker 2: And so it's just to me, it's just interesting.
[13:38] Speaker 1: I was having a conversation with a friend I don't
[13:41] Speaker 1: even want to be his friend no more, because he
[13:43] Speaker 1: was stupid. Like, you know, I give you some like
[13:46] Speaker 1: their opinion, she's like, sorre, you're dumb. So we were
[13:49] Speaker 1: talking about cheating and marriages and he was like, well,
[13:51] Speaker 1: you know, women uh uh immediately shouldn't like. He was like,
[13:58] Speaker 1: it's too many women right now that are just like
[14:00] Speaker 1: divorcing their husbands. And I said, do you know why
[14:02] Speaker 1: do you follow that Asian lawyer? I forget her name,
[14:05] Speaker 1: but I follow her. My mom sent her to me, And.
[14:07] Speaker 2: Is she just the airline hacks.
[14:08] Speaker 1: No, No, she's an attorney. She's a divorce attorney. And
[14:12] Speaker 1: she's been talking about how there's an influx of older
[14:14] Speaker 1: women who.
[14:14] Speaker 2: Send it to me I would love to get.
[14:16] Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, she is really she's really breaking it down.
[14:18] Speaker 1: She's like, there's an influx of older women who are
[14:20] Speaker 1: leaving their husbands. Dude, and him and I were talking
[14:23] Speaker 1: about all this, the cheating, the stuff that men just
[14:25] Speaker 1: He's like, you're a man basher now, and I was like, no,
[14:28] Speaker 1: I'm not. I was like, I just am looking at
[14:30] Speaker 1: things for what they all.
[14:31] Speaker 2: Get more realistic and just saying.
[14:34] Speaker 1: Like, talk about it. Tell me why men cheat? Tell
[14:37] Speaker 1: me why you think that his wife shouldn't leave him
[14:40] Speaker 1: for that. He's like, because women shouldn't leave their husbands.
[14:43] Speaker 3: Why.
[14:43] Speaker 2: I said, well, what if he leave her to go
[14:47] Speaker 2: be with the hooch? You mind?
[14:49] Speaker 1: Well, he was like well, men can do that because
[14:51] Speaker 1: we're going to actually have options out here. And I
[14:52] Speaker 1: was like, it's twenty twenty five and you're actually saying
[14:55] Speaker 1: this out loud. He was like yeah, he was like,
[14:57] Speaker 1: but just look at it. He was like, with a woman,
[14:59] Speaker 1: if you you leave the husband, he's the one who's
[15:01] Speaker 1: probably making the money and you now you want to
[15:05] Speaker 1: take all his stuff, you're gonna go live your life
[15:07] Speaker 1: by yourself and you don't have anything.
[15:08] Speaker 2: But she have options so good.
[15:10] Speaker 1: And you're not going to be able to get a man.
[15:13] Speaker 1: And he was like, so it just behooves women another
[15:15] Speaker 1: you to stay with their husband. He said, look at
[15:18] Speaker 1: Cardi B. She did all that and now the man
[15:19] Speaker 1: did what he did.
[15:20] Speaker 2: And I was like, you, Cardi B is up and
[15:23] Speaker 2: is stuck. Like she said, she got more money than him.
[15:28] Speaker 1: I just don't think it's all about the money. I'm like,
[15:30] Speaker 1: what about happy To his.
[15:31] Speaker 2: Point like, she can't get another, she don't need one.
[15:35] Speaker 1: She probably does want one, though, no, I.
[15:37] Speaker 2: Said need like she she will be fine, she wants one,
[15:41] Speaker 2: I'm sure. Yeah.
[15:42] Speaker 1: And so his argument was, yeah, y'all do want men,
[15:45] Speaker 1: and they're not gonna want you if you're at a
[15:46] Speaker 1: certain age and you leave your man. You need to
[15:48] Speaker 1: stay with your husband.
[15:48] Speaker 2: I said, even through abuse.
[15:50] Speaker 1: And he was like, he's like, well, what do you
[15:52] Speaker 1: consider abuse? And I was like, uh, are you There
[15:59] Speaker 1: are a lot of men then think like this.
[16:01] Speaker 2: And it's like, y'all, what are we doing?
[16:03] Speaker 1: I said, so, wait a minute, are you saying that
[16:05] Speaker 1: you don't believe that emotional abuse is abuse that matters?
[16:10] Speaker 1: And he was like talking about words. I was like,
[16:17] Speaker 1: are you like, y'all need to have some of these
[16:19] Speaker 1: conversations with the men in your lives. These are the conversations.
[16:22] Speaker 1: These are the conversation because you start to see you're like,
[16:24] Speaker 1: wait what. I was like, yeah, So if a woman
[16:27] Speaker 1: is in the house in a marriage and she lets
[16:29] Speaker 1: say she's been married thirty years and all the whole past,
[16:34] Speaker 1: the past uh seventeen years, he's been called her out
[16:38] Speaker 1: of her name. Maybe he doesn't hit entertain Let's say
[16:40] Speaker 1: seventeen women stick it out. I know a few of them.
[16:44] Speaker 1: He's talking crazy to her. He's they have kids. Your
[16:47] Speaker 1: kids are seeing this, like he is disrespectful, he doesn't help.
[16:51] Speaker 1: You're saying that the woman should stay so.
[16:54] Speaker 2: Then because she can't get another one of this raggety
[16:58] Speaker 2: version of the human.
[17:00] Speaker 1: So then I was like, you know what I think
[17:02] Speaker 1: it is. Hmm, I said, you know, I think that
[17:04] Speaker 1: there's a pain tolerance because I even look at myself
[17:07] Speaker 1: and some of the things that I've put up with.
[17:08] Speaker 2: I think that.
[17:09] Speaker 1: And I'm gonna say black women specifically. I don't think
[17:11] Speaker 1: that the white women have this, but I think that
[17:14] Speaker 1: black women have a certain pain tolerance and we don't
[17:16] Speaker 1: look at it like that. We stick things out. We
[17:19] Speaker 1: have a pain tolerance that gets passed down from mom,
[17:22] Speaker 1: from grandma, from everybody, and black men not everybody. But
[17:27] Speaker 1: I think this is the because too many people are
[17:29] Speaker 1: saying where it's like, bro, that's not okay.
[17:31] Speaker 2: You see the you've seen.
[17:33] Speaker 1: Your mom work really hard or your grandma work really
[17:36] Speaker 1: hard and deal with what she dealt with and stick
[17:38] Speaker 1: it out, and so now you just look at everybody
[17:40] Speaker 1: else like, yeah, you're good. No, you're not good. You
[17:44] Speaker 1: don't need to have this much pain ton you need
[17:47] Speaker 1: to leave if it is that. If it's bad, emotional abuse,
[17:49] Speaker 1: especially physical abuse, financial abuse, there's so many different levels
[17:53] Speaker 1: of abuse that men think is silly. They're just like,
[17:55] Speaker 1: that's not y'all just making it up.
[17:57] Speaker 2: Now what and I'd be willing to get it cash
[18:00] Speaker 2: and don't even matter. Now why do you uh, I
[18:04] Speaker 2: don't need anything? Coming back to hunt me? Why do
[18:07] Speaker 2: you say you don't think white women deal with this?
[18:10] Speaker 2: What do you think is different?
[18:11] Speaker 1: And none of this is factual? But I think I
[18:14] Speaker 1: just thought.
[18:14] Speaker 4: I thought.
[18:15] Speaker 1: I think that I don't really think in white ladies.
[18:18] Speaker 1: If anybody's listening, please correct me if I'm wrong. I
[18:20] Speaker 1: don't really think that they grow up seeing like what
[18:25] Speaker 1: we see our moms do.
[18:27] Speaker 2: Like just like the dysfunction.
[18:28] Speaker 1: No, no, no, not dysfunction, just like a lot of
[18:30] Speaker 1: hard work, like just you're doing a lot. You're doing
[18:33] Speaker 1: like seven things and taking care of kids and cooking
[18:36] Speaker 1: and working, and just like you just carry it all
[18:39] Speaker 1: and you are tired. I feel like white women can
[18:41] Speaker 1: say they're tired and they can go to sleep. And
[18:44] Speaker 1: if we are like I'm tired and I want to
[18:46] Speaker 1: go to sleep, everybody's like get up. It's like seeing
[18:49] Speaker 1: when your parents see you taking a nap and they
[18:50] Speaker 1: just mad, why can't I just lay down?
[18:53] Speaker 2: Why is it?
[18:54] Speaker 1: And this is coming a lot from like seeing things
[18:56] Speaker 1: on social media different arguments and different things pop up
[18:58] Speaker 1: in my timeline where it's like the men be getting
[19:00] Speaker 1: so mad when they hear black women talk about wanting
[19:03] Speaker 1: a soft life, and you assume that that she's saying
[19:05] Speaker 1: she doesn't want to work, when that's not what that means.
[19:08] Speaker 1: They just want to feel soft every once in a while.
[19:10] Speaker 1: And I don't really see that in the white world.
[19:13] Speaker 1: I'm not saying it doesn't happen, but it showed me.
[19:16] Speaker 1: I guess, well, I don't go and a lot of
[19:19] Speaker 1: the people that I know who are white, it's like,
[19:21] Speaker 1: oh no, my mom didn't work. She was a mom.
[19:24] Speaker 1: It's like, oh no, my mom was a mom and
[19:26] Speaker 1: she worked more than one job, and she was a
[19:30] Speaker 1: great wife and she could you know what I mean.
[19:32] Speaker 1: It's like and we all saw that and we kind
[19:33] Speaker 1: of are like, that's just what you do. You can
[19:37] Speaker 1: do it. But now we're kind of like, well, why
[19:39] Speaker 1: aren't it I'm tired. I ain't even know it all
[19:43] Speaker 1: of it.
[19:44] Speaker 2: Yeah, it is frustrating because it feels like y'all really
[19:47] Speaker 2: want us to be not only working fucking mules, but
[19:55] Speaker 2: you want to be in charge. That going back to
[20:01] Speaker 2: something you said, you didn't say that, but that's what
[20:03] Speaker 2: I heard last episode. It boils my blood. It's making
[20:10] Speaker 2: my wigs slide off, and the clippings I added into it.
[20:16] Speaker 1: The way to find balance and peace because I just
[20:19] Speaker 1: I do think that the argument if your girl is
[20:22] Speaker 1: like I just want softness.
[20:26] Speaker 2: It's frustrating to me because it's like, how can you
[20:29] Speaker 2: say that you want to be in charge and you
[20:33] Speaker 2: want to lead, but I actually do more work. And
[20:37] Speaker 2: then it's like, oh, you think this is like a
[20:40] Speaker 2: regular job. Then it makes if there's not actually a
[20:45] Speaker 2: related it's like, Okay, the person at the top, they
[20:47] Speaker 2: make lots of decisions in a company. You make all
[20:50] Speaker 2: the decisions, You do all this stuff, but you don't
[20:51] Speaker 2: have to do like the grunt work, okay, answering the phone,
[20:57] Speaker 2: the report, you're analyzing the report. You don't have to
[21:00] Speaker 2: do the stuff. You have all these other people under you.
[21:03] Speaker 2: So then it starts to feel like you think you're that,
[21:06] Speaker 2: but it's like, how the fuck you think you're that?
[21:08] Speaker 2: I do. You could leave and it won't I might
[21:13] Speaker 2: be sad, maybe there's a little bit less money, but like,
[21:16] Speaker 2: shit will go on. You actually don't do that much,
[21:20] Speaker 2: so why the fuck do you think you get to
[21:21] Speaker 2: lead the situation as a man, you know. And it's
[21:24] Speaker 2: like if I have to work, if I'm taking care
[21:26] Speaker 2: of the kids, I'm doing their doctor's appointments, I'm staying
[21:29] Speaker 2: on top of all of these things to run the family.
[21:32] Speaker 2: And you go to your job whatever that is, or
[21:35] Speaker 2: run your business, and you bring home some money, but
[21:38] Speaker 2: I still got to put in money for everything else.
[21:42] Speaker 2: You are actually the weakest link. You need to rub
[21:45] Speaker 2: my feet.
[21:46] Speaker 1: I just don't work where we meet in the middle.
[21:49] Speaker 1: Because again I'm gonna give you an example.
[21:50] Speaker 2: I don't want to meet in the middle. I want
[21:52] Speaker 2: them to go away from me with the bullshit. But
[21:56] Speaker 2: what are you thinking? Confused?
[21:59] Speaker 1: Because I don't what are we all doing. I have
[22:01] Speaker 1: another friend going through divorce and he was telling me how,
[22:05] Speaker 1: oh a man friend. This is a man friend. Okay,
[22:08] Speaker 1: the wife wants no, he's mad. I not only care
[22:11] Speaker 1: about their money, I mean that would. And I know
[22:14] Speaker 1: a lot of people right now going through divorces. The
[22:15] Speaker 1: women are sad and the men are only like, you
[22:17] Speaker 1: can't have anything, like they just all they care about
[22:20] Speaker 1: is the money.
[22:21] Speaker 2: And so I saw they got to hang on to
[22:23] Speaker 2: not even their hairlines go ahead.
[22:25] Speaker 1: I'm so I'm listening. He's having them. He's like, can
[22:27] Speaker 1: you just can I? Can I just tell you something?
[22:29] Speaker 1: He's telling me the things he's like, she's trying to
[22:31] Speaker 1: take some of my money that it's like it's not hers.
[22:34] Speaker 1: And I was like, I'm listening. I'm listening because now, y'all,
[22:36] Speaker 1: I don't know shit either. I don't know shit about nothing.
[22:40] Speaker 1: So I was like, okay. I was like, so she's
[22:42] Speaker 1: trying to take the money. Okay, how long were y
[22:44] Speaker 1: all married? A long time?
[22:46] Speaker 2: Okay?
[22:46] Speaker 1: I said, Okay, I said, well kids, kid, okay, I
[22:51] Speaker 1: said okay. So I said, no, let me just ask
[22:54] Speaker 1: you something just out of like, that's your money. Did
[22:57] Speaker 1: she work?
[22:58] Speaker 2: Yeah?
[22:58] Speaker 1: But she didn't make a lot of man said okay, okay,
[23:01] Speaker 1: you're keeping the house.
[23:02] Speaker 2: Okay, I said, So let me ask him. Do you
[23:05] Speaker 2: care about her?
[23:05] Speaker 1: Like I know this is happening and this is probably
[23:08] Speaker 1: really rough for both of y'all. Yeah, what is the goal?
[23:11] Speaker 1: I said, because at the end of the day, I
[23:13] Speaker 1: was like, she took would you say she was a
[23:15] Speaker 1: good mom?
[23:16] Speaker 2: Yeah?
[23:18] Speaker 1: Why don't you want to give her anything? Like are
[23:20] Speaker 1: you actually saying that? Like you don't think that she
[23:23] Speaker 1: deserves anything.
[23:27] Speaker 2: What sense does that make?
[23:28] Speaker 1: And he really was like, you're just taking a woman.
[23:30] Speaker 2: No, I'm not. I'm really curious.
[23:33] Speaker 1: I'm trying to understand. How do you make this make sense?
[23:36] Speaker 1: Y'all are leaving each other. Y'all have been together almost
[23:39] Speaker 1: your whole lives. She you're keeping everything, and she has
[23:43] Speaker 1: to go into the world. You start to think that
[23:45] Speaker 1: you owe her something. I think you do, don't You
[23:50] Speaker 1: don't even want to give her something?
[23:51] Speaker 2: Is he taking this? I said, you don't want m
[23:53] Speaker 2: hm he is. That doesn't to me that Sue doesn't.
[23:57] Speaker 2: I was just wondering because I was gonna have something
[23:58] Speaker 2: else to say, But okay, I'll take that back.
[24:01] Speaker 1: Okay, so he's taking the kids and so that's probably
[24:03] Speaker 1: be gone. I said, you don't just want to help
[24:06] Speaker 1: her like she? I said, let's just really.
[24:08] Speaker 2: Think about it.
[24:08] Speaker 1: You probably had times in your marriage where she was
[24:10] Speaker 1: probably doing a lot for you.
[24:13] Speaker 2: Well, he say, it was just quiet. He had to
[24:16] Speaker 2: think about that. Yeah. I was like, I don't.
[24:19] Speaker 1: I don't know what men be expecting you have, especially
[24:22] Speaker 1: if you have the money you have to give it.
[24:24] Speaker 1: I don't really know what to tell you.
[24:26] Speaker 5: You're giving the money, and she probably deserves it, if
[24:30] Speaker 5: we're being honest and the whole the time, I always
[24:33] Speaker 5: go back when people don't want to listen to always
[24:34] Speaker 5: go back to, hey, listen, I don't know your situation,
[24:36] Speaker 5: but let's look at your mom.
[24:38] Speaker 1: You think your mom deserved a little something more from
[24:40] Speaker 1: your dad? I bet we all would say yes. We
[24:43] Speaker 1: probably all would say.
[24:44] Speaker 2: I don't know why.
[24:45] Speaker 1: We can acknowledge the hard work that our mom does,
[24:48] Speaker 1: but men can acknowledge that your wife is doing the
[24:50] Speaker 1: same thing.
[24:52] Speaker 2: I think they get stuck on that that loop of
[24:58] Speaker 2: thinking about, oh, I gotta have a legacy. Your legacy
[25:00] Speaker 2: is shit, bitch, That's what it is. When this is
[25:03] Speaker 2: the type of person that you would be because you
[25:05] Speaker 2: would create another life with another person, and then because
[25:09] Speaker 2: things work out now as long as she didn't do
[25:11] Speaker 2: nothing too crazy, like against you or your child or
[25:14] Speaker 2: something truly horrific, the relationship just didn't work out. Now
[25:19] Speaker 2: all of a sudden, this person, you shouldn't be.
[25:21] Speaker 1: Here if you're okay, Like I will.
[25:24] Speaker 2: Be honest, I would wonder you're taking the kid, what's
[25:28] Speaker 2: up with that? But if we've been married for a
[25:31] Speaker 2: really long time. What did you do throughout the were
[25:34] Speaker 2: you supportive of her doing something else to make more money?
[25:37] Speaker 2: Does she want to make more money? Did she have
[25:39] Speaker 2: career dreams and you made her put them on hold?
[25:42] Speaker 2: Or did she not have career dreams and she just
[25:44] Speaker 2: kept a job because you made her.
[25:46] Speaker 1: That's on you, sir. I don't know what God has
[25:53] Speaker 1: in store for me. The girls are for you for everybody. Oh,
[25:56] Speaker 1: I don't think it really benefits. I think it benefits everybody.
[25:59] Speaker 1: Just hear me out, hear me. Now, this is what
[26:00] Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, well, should I be blessed to
[26:03] Speaker 1: meet the man that has the capacity to love me?
[26:05] Speaker 1: And we love each other and we want to do this,
[26:07] Speaker 1: and we choose to do this. No one's forcing the
[26:09] Speaker 1: other one. We're trying to change the other one. I
[26:12] Speaker 1: think there should be marriage insurance, and I think there
[26:16] Speaker 1: should be marriage and insurance, like there's car insurance, like
[26:19] Speaker 1: there's home insurance, like there's life insurance. And I think
[26:20] Speaker 1: this is what it is. If you decide that you're
[26:22] Speaker 1: gonna get married, that's a big deal. And apparently nobody's
[26:25] Speaker 1: treating it like it is because now it's ending and
[26:27] Speaker 1: everybody's like oh I'm taking everything.
[26:28] Speaker 2: No, nigga, you're not.
[26:30] Speaker 1: Cause now I'm fat and got kids, and I done
[26:33] Speaker 1: sat down at home to help take care of these
[26:36] Speaker 1: lashy kids. So I think there should be marriage insurance.
[26:41] Speaker 2: I think if you.
[26:41] Speaker 1: Decide marriage insurance is going to be this, we decide
[26:45] Speaker 1: we're getting married. So what we do is there is
[26:47] Speaker 1: an amount of money. We look at what everybody's bringing
[26:49] Speaker 1: in that goes into this insurance pot, so that if
[26:53] Speaker 1: we decide to get a divorce. Whoever is saying they
[26:56] Speaker 1: don't want to give anything, Okay, great, I already have
[26:59] Speaker 1: what I'm taking. I'm taking the marriage insurance money. Okay,
[27:03] Speaker 1: I got a few things to work out, but I
[27:05] Speaker 1: think it makes sense. Hey, guess what.
[27:07] Speaker 2: There's something very similar to.
[27:08] Speaker 1: That, a prenup.
[27:09] Speaker 2: Yes, and why are you running from that?
[27:12] Speaker 1: No?
[27:12] Speaker 2: It is though, because you can decide from the jump,
[27:15] Speaker 2: this is what we have, this is what we're sharing.
[27:19] Speaker 2: It's not you sign a prenup, you leave with nothing.
[27:22] Speaker 2: We will talk it out beforehand. But because so you're saying,
[27:26] Speaker 2: the insurance the person who decides to leave.
[27:28] Speaker 1: Well, the insurance can go up with the prenup. What
[27:30] Speaker 1: I don't like about the prenup is if we do
[27:32] Speaker 1: this prenup and we was both broken, we did the
[27:34] Speaker 1: prenup and there's somebody less. They wrote a book or
[27:36] Speaker 1: something and it blows up and it's like, now you
[27:38] Speaker 1: can stay in there.
[27:39] Speaker 2: But what if your future endeavors you can you can
[27:42] Speaker 2: spell out Okay.
[27:43] Speaker 1: If that was never a future endeavor, let's just say
[27:45] Speaker 1: that wasn't a future endeavor and something happens, something happened
[27:48] Speaker 1: that you didn't plan, and somebody got some money, and
[27:51] Speaker 1: it's like, okay, you're leaving here what you came.
[27:53] Speaker 2: With and how that works. So that's my point. Oh
[27:56] Speaker 2: so if you if you sign a prenup, you can say, okay,
[28:00] Speaker 2: this is what you have, this is what I have.
[28:02] Speaker 2: If we're getting married, we're going into the marriage, we
[28:04] Speaker 2: will decide okay, we're coming together. If this doesn't work out,
[28:10] Speaker 2: you leave with what you came in. I leave with
[28:12] Speaker 2: what I came in and everything that we established during
[28:15] Speaker 2: the marriage. We will split however we decide to split it.
[28:18] Speaker 2: You get to make the terms. There's also a post up.
[28:21] Speaker 2: So if you get married and you didn't do that
[28:23] Speaker 2: shit before, or you need to change it, you can
[28:25] Speaker 2: change it. You make the rules. Every The men especially
[28:29] Speaker 2: would like you to think that a prenup is you
[28:32] Speaker 2: only leave with what you came with. That's not it.
[28:36] Speaker 2: You believe what's an agreement is whatever, and you make
[28:39] Speaker 2: your agreement. I think that time. But if you have
[28:42] Speaker 2: an insurance policy, it's just like when you buy car
[28:44] Speaker 2: insurance right or life insurance. You decide what your policy is,
[28:50] Speaker 2: what the amount is, and.
[28:51] Speaker 1: What is policy can go up, the price can go up.
[28:55] Speaker 2: So for your monthly fee.
[28:57] Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, both, and we can add on different things
[29:00] Speaker 1: freeing up and marriage insurance. Who's with me? Raise your hand?
[29:03] Speaker 1: At this point, I actually don't even know if I
[29:06] Speaker 1: can do it. I am seeing so many people fail
[29:09] Speaker 1: at this. It doesn't marriage. Yeah, it's starting to be
[29:11] Speaker 1: like what is what happened?
[29:16] Speaker 2: I don't know, you know what. Honestly, I hate to
[29:18] Speaker 2: say it, don't log off from us, but the people
[29:22] Speaker 2: gotta log off and touch grass. I think people spend
[29:25] Speaker 2: way too much time listening to other people and what
[29:29] Speaker 2: they're going through and taking what other people like podcasters,
[29:34] Speaker 2: media personalities, everybody. That's why I said I hate to
[29:36] Speaker 2: say it, but I think that even sometimes you'll be
[29:39] Speaker 2: writing in a vice Sometimes I'm like, how do you feel?
[29:43] Speaker 2: We can tell you what we think when we're looking
[29:45] Speaker 2: at this, but we are only getting whatever you put
[29:47] Speaker 2: in the email. There's no extra context. Sometimes you gotta
[29:51] Speaker 2: like check in with yourself.
[29:53] Speaker 1: That is true, you know. I look at sometimes and
[29:55] Speaker 1: I'm like, Wow, she really doesn't care what anyone is saying.
[29:58] Speaker 1: She's like, I love him, Meggan good with Jonathan Major's
[30:01] Speaker 1: she did not give a fuck what everybody was saying.
[30:03] Speaker 1: That baby said, I love him.
[30:05] Speaker 2: I think she needs a pork chop. I think she
[30:08] Speaker 2: looks beautiful, but I think she needs to eat something.
[30:13] Speaker 2: I don't be seeing her in real life. And yeah,
[30:15] Speaker 2: I don't know more protein. I think a lack of
[30:19] Speaker 2: protein is doing something to the brain. Because that was
[30:21] Speaker 2: all weird. Beautiful girl, beautiful gowns.
[30:24] Speaker 1: But she didn't care. So she was like, I don't care.
[30:26] Speaker 2: A lot of people don't and that's going. Do you
[30:29] Speaker 2: think it will last for some reason? I do? How long?
[30:33] Speaker 2: I think a lifetime A long time.
[30:35] Speaker 1: I think they're going to be together. I think that
[30:39] Speaker 1: real or fake. I think they're gonna be together because
[30:44] Speaker 1: I think when the I think that if the man
[30:46] Speaker 1: is making it, it can last longer. I think that
[30:49] Speaker 1: he is. I think Jonathan made it is in a
[30:51] Speaker 1: position where that he better.
[30:54] Speaker 2: Count that.
[30:55] Speaker 1: I mean like, I think he's good. I think that
[30:57] Speaker 1: I think it's gonna stay all right.
[31:00] Speaker 2: What are your bets on it? I wish it was
[31:03] Speaker 2: on prize picks for one of the maps, I got
[31:05] Speaker 2: one hundred dollars. I met this man one time. He
[31:06] Speaker 2: gave me one hundred dollars on prize picks at gambling
[31:09] Speaker 2: app for the sports. I don't know what he did
[31:12] Speaker 2: for saying I hadn't forgot hey, but I don't know
[31:16] Speaker 2: how to do it. I don't know which way to bet.
[31:18] Speaker 2: I'm gonna try in football season, y'all. Let me know
[31:21] Speaker 2: who I should be betting for when it starts up.
[31:23] Speaker 2: I know it's coming up around the corner. I can't wait.
[31:26] Speaker 2: Do you be going to football games?
[31:29] Speaker 1: I mean I have, But.
[31:30] Speaker 2: What's that time a long time ago? No?
[31:33] Speaker 1: I went to uh oh no, that was a basketball game.
[31:39] Speaker 1: I guess it has been a little minute. But it's
[31:40] Speaker 1: funny because there is a guy that I went on
[31:43] Speaker 1: a date with. I thought he wanted to buy a house.
[31:44] Speaker 1: I did not know this was about to be a
[31:46] Speaker 1: date and I.
[31:46] Speaker 2: Was the guy you're telling us about.
[31:48] Speaker 1: No, this is a different man.
[31:50] Speaker 2: Oh you sweeped another day in the gotcha okay, okay, okay.
[31:57] Speaker 2: So you go on this real estate date.
[31:59] Speaker 1: Yeah, And I said to him, Oh, I thought you
[32:02] Speaker 1: wanted to do about real estate, Like, we got to
[32:04] Speaker 1: talk about some real estate if if you want to stay.
[32:07] Speaker 1: And we did, and he is, he's pretty done, really
[32:10] Speaker 1: well for himself and is in a good circle. And
[32:12] Speaker 1: I was like, you need to I'm starting to, you know.
[32:14] Speaker 1: We were talking about boundaries and stuff I'm.
[32:16] Speaker 2: Starting to do.
[32:16] Speaker 1: I'm starting to be really good with like business boundaries,
[32:20] Speaker 1: like oh, good things and not feeling like like I
[32:25] Speaker 1: don't want to see come off this way. No, y'all
[32:28] Speaker 1: need to buy some houses. I don't really know what
[32:30] Speaker 1: to tell you, like I don't waste my time. Yeah,
[32:32] Speaker 1: And I'm not dating and really standing on that. And
[32:34] Speaker 1: there are some people that have been like not listening
[32:37] Speaker 1: to I'm not dating. And so you keep communicating with
[32:39] Speaker 1: me in a way that you think you're gonna I'm
[32:42] Speaker 1: not responding in the way I'm not calling.
[32:44] Speaker 2: I'm about to pull my panties to the side for you. Yeah.
[32:46] Speaker 1: The one dude to me A damman was like, oh,
[32:48] Speaker 1: I see what you're doing. Good good, But if you
[32:51] Speaker 1: know which one to purchase a home or if you
[32:54] Speaker 1: want to purchase a home, even though I don't want
[32:56] Speaker 1: to date you, we can still do that. It's not
[32:58] Speaker 1: no anyway. So the one dude, I still have phone
[33:01] Speaker 1: with him though, Like this, this guy that we ended
[33:03] Speaker 1: up going to Takakia is really good. The food is good.
[33:06] Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I love that place. Yeah, you know, I
[33:10] Speaker 2: love me in Persian restaurant me too.
[33:12] Speaker 1: I used to not really care for them, but now
[33:14] Speaker 1: I'm like little greatly. Anyways, I was like, granted, you
[33:19] Speaker 1: need to refer a few people to me, and he
[33:21] Speaker 1: was like, I got you for real, and now you're
[33:23] Speaker 1: on my newsletter. So what you're trying to do?
[33:27] Speaker 2: Buy housing? All right? Okay, got it off my phone.
[33:30] Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't really have the pages where I was
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[36:24] Speaker 2: People wasting your time, men feeling entitled. Perhaps that's what
[36:29] Speaker 2: I was saying, sound bitter, bitter. I tried to do it.
[36:36] Speaker 2: It didn't come out. Maybe, but I don't really care.
[36:40] Speaker 2: I don't. I have had surely moments where I knew
[36:46] Speaker 2: that I sounded bitter. Whether I felt that or not,
[36:50] Speaker 2: I have absolutely felt bitter, bitter, bitcher, bitter to the core.
[36:55] Speaker 1: I'm not though, because sometimes I'm like, is it bitter
[36:58] Speaker 1: or is it like it's when we were talking about
[37:00] Speaker 1: with Ashley, like a lot of things were created to
[37:03] Speaker 1: really benefit men, and it seems like the women that
[37:07] Speaker 1: see that and talk about it, it's like you're just
[37:10] Speaker 1: mad because you don't have a man.
[37:12] Speaker 2: Okay, that's not true. It's just trying to figure this
[37:17] Speaker 2: out my whole fucking life. Okay, the well, where is
[37:23] Speaker 2: your man at? That's why you're single? Shut the fuck up?
[37:28] Speaker 2: Because you might not be single. You might have had
[37:30] Speaker 2: ten long term relationships. Well what does that say about
[37:34] Speaker 2: you if you've had If you're forty and you've had
[37:37] Speaker 2: ten long term relationships and you're still not happy? I
[37:40] Speaker 2: think we might be riding on the same fucking boat. Bitch,
[37:43] Speaker 2: get back to the back in your seat now. There
[37:46] Speaker 2: have been times where I will honestly say I was bitter.
[37:50] Speaker 2: I was depressed. I did not feel good. I didn't
[37:52] Speaker 2: feel good about myself. I didn't feel good about the
[37:54] Speaker 2: decisions I was making. But bitterer because you didn't have
[37:57] Speaker 2: a man, not better because I didn't have a man.
[37:59] Speaker 1: I think the bitterness was like life was just not
[38:03] Speaker 1: going how you thought it was.
[38:04] Speaker 2: It wasn't going how I wanted to go, and I
[38:06] Speaker 2: was upset and disappointed in myself because it's like, have
[38:11] Speaker 2: you ever felt like I know that I'm making bad decisions.
[38:15] Speaker 2: I know what I should be doing, but for whatever reason,
[38:20] Speaker 2: I'm over here like fucking can't get right. I just
[38:24] Speaker 2: I just keep doing the wrong thing. I know what
[38:27] Speaker 2: is right, and I'm trying, but I'm not. I'm not
[38:30] Speaker 2: doing it. Something's not clicking, something's wrong.
[38:32] Speaker 1: But is that bitter or is that depressed?
[38:35] Speaker 2: I was both? But I think that like, Okay, I
[38:38] Speaker 2: was depressed. His nigga's walking up in here. Okay, there's
[38:42] Speaker 2: some different looking ones. These ain't the ones from early
[38:44] Speaker 2: These ain't the interns. We gotta hurry up, listen or
[38:48] Speaker 2: not shift this week. Okay, I couldn't either. These lights
[38:52] Speaker 2: is bright, but that's all right. We look cute. That's
[38:54] Speaker 2: what matters. I should probably cover my booty cheek up.
[38:56] Speaker 2: I forgot I had on these panty shorts. My bad, y'all.
[38:58] Speaker 2: It's all well, but I'm gonna stand on. It was
[39:06] Speaker 2: giving bitter because that is kind of how I felt, like.
[39:10] Speaker 2: You know, I don't know if you know or not,
[39:13] Speaker 2: but I will say I felt like, not only was
[39:15] Speaker 2: I depressed, disappointing myself, upset at like so many different things,
[39:20] Speaker 2: I never felt like I couldn't get out of it.
[39:22] Speaker 2: I knew that it was well. I prayed and hoped
[39:25] Speaker 2: that it was temporary. But I'm gonna say that it
[39:28] Speaker 2: was bitter because it wasn't like I had a bad
[39:32] Speaker 2: experience and I'm having a bad day. I started to
[39:37] Speaker 2: as a result of everything else, the depression and everything else,
[39:40] Speaker 2: I started to have a negative view of everybody and everything.
[39:45] Speaker 2: And it's just like I'm listening to other people, even
[39:48] Speaker 2: shit I wasn't going through, but I'm listening to people
[39:51] Speaker 2: who have had shitty situations. And I started to like
[39:55] Speaker 2: accept that as this is what it is.
[40:00] Speaker 1: To me.
[40:03] Speaker 2: That's not okay, that's not how I truly want to be.
[40:07] Speaker 2: I'm not there now, but I was, and it's like, okay,
[40:10] Speaker 2: I've got to get out of this and make sure
[40:12] Speaker 2: that I'm forming my own opinions because I'm listening to
[40:17] Speaker 2: everybody else and I'm not listening to me. And that's
[40:21] Speaker 2: another thing that's causing like this weird feeling in my
[40:27] Speaker 2: body is because everything is at odds and I don't
[40:30] Speaker 2: even know how I feel. So until I feel strong
[40:33] Speaker 2: enough to be sure of what I think, I can't
[40:36] Speaker 2: be listening to too much of what everybody else says
[40:39] Speaker 2: because people will speak as if it is fact because
[40:42] Speaker 2: that is their experience and maybe it is a fact
[40:45] Speaker 2: for their life. But I do not believe that all
[40:48] Speaker 2: of us are the same. I don't think all men
[40:50] Speaker 2: are bad. I don't think all women are bad a lot,
[40:54] Speaker 2: but not all. And I just I was sucking that
[40:58] Speaker 2: and just like not seeing the light in that moment
[41:03] Speaker 2: is the main thing. That's like nailing the coffin to
[41:06] Speaker 2: that was bitter, yeah, And I'm happy to not be there,
[41:10] Speaker 2: and I sometimes I feel it kind of trying to
[41:14] Speaker 2: poke out, especially when I'm listening to other people and
[41:16] Speaker 2: they're going through shit, or I'm about to be on
[41:19] Speaker 2: my period or am on my period. I mean, so
[41:21] Speaker 2: it's like most of the month, but one week after month,
[41:24] Speaker 2: I'm good. Same. And that's when I try to have
[41:26] Speaker 2: these self reflective moments because every other time, like my day,
[41:29] Speaker 2: might I.
[41:31] Speaker 1: Think my mind is right, But I also think that
[41:33] Speaker 1: sometimes I guess maybe sometimes I don't want to call
[41:36] Speaker 1: it bitter. I just want to call it like something else,
[41:38] Speaker 1: because there's.
[41:39] Speaker 2: A bitter makes you uncomfortable. It doesn't say that.
[41:41] Speaker 1: I just don't know if that's the right way to
[41:43] Speaker 1: describe it, because Okay, all men are not one way
[41:47] Speaker 1: and all women are not one way, but we do.
[41:49] Speaker 1: Then you you do look at certain things and you're like,
[41:51] Speaker 1: I mean, well a lot of you. I can always
[41:53] Speaker 1: bring it back to okay, when people are having babies,
[41:56] Speaker 1: and again, if you're a woman, you probably have had
[41:59] Speaker 1: friends have babies, sisters who had babies, cousins, and you see.
[42:03] Speaker 2: Babies to heaven yeah huh, sent some babies to heaven,
[42:06] Speaker 2: oh yeah, or somewhere else.
[42:09] Speaker 1: And you see, like I feel like women see the
[42:12] Speaker 1: things that you see when women have babies, there's a
[42:16] Speaker 1: lot that goes into it. Your body, for instance, is
[42:18] Speaker 1: like gone, like you are literally lending your body to
[42:22] Speaker 1: have a baby. And then you look at like lately
[42:25] Speaker 1: I've been looking at like, okay, all the preparation that
[42:28] Speaker 1: women do, even when you're married, Like all the preparation
[42:32] Speaker 1: that women do to make sure that you're gonna at
[42:35] Speaker 1: least try to be a good mom, going to a
[42:37] Speaker 1: lama's class, doing things to like prep to be a mom,
[42:40] Speaker 1: reading books about you're about to be a parent, reading
[42:43] Speaker 1: things about a baby, and making sure you understand the
[42:46] Speaker 1: different stages of their lives. And even the good men.
[42:48] Speaker 1: I look at the men and I'm like, do y'all
[42:50] Speaker 1: have a group? Are you seeking guidance to become a parent.
[42:55] Speaker 2: In fantasy football? Are you in high school dreams? That's
[42:59] Speaker 2: their community?
[43:00] Speaker 1: Are you seeking communities to learn how to be a dad,
[43:03] Speaker 1: to know what the child does at different stages? And
[43:07] Speaker 1: all I'm saying is I don't see it. I'm not
[43:09] Speaker 1: saying it's not real, but can someone send me a group?
[43:13] Speaker 1: When the women go to the Lebonn's class, the women
[43:17] Speaker 1: are normally like, let's go to this in the middle, like,
[43:18] Speaker 1: we don't need that. You do need it, You need it.
[43:22] Speaker 1: You've never done this before, and so in my mind
[43:27] Speaker 1: is going like what, okay, so all men don't do this.
[43:30] Speaker 3: But.
[43:31] Speaker 2: Where is the group?
[43:34] Speaker 1: What do y'all do to prepare for the things you
[43:37] Speaker 1: don't because you know the woman's gonna do it.
[43:40] Speaker 2: And you know what they do. They go to work
[43:42] Speaker 2: and their excuses, well, I'm making money.
[43:46] Speaker 1: What if your wife dies?
[43:48] Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Like that, I don't understand
[43:50] Speaker 2: what you're gonna do. You don't even know when they
[43:53] Speaker 2: supposed to get their motherfucking teeth. You're gonna be trying
[43:56] Speaker 2: to give these babies happy meals at three months old.
[44:00] Speaker 2: That baby will choke and die next thing. You know,
[44:02] Speaker 2: you sitting in prison. Is that what you want for
[44:04] Speaker 2: your life?
[44:05] Speaker 1: I mean, I really am just like, why can't we
[44:08] Speaker 1: just say the truth? Y'all don't try to do certain things.
[44:14] Speaker 2: They feel like it's women's business. But the moment I
[44:16] Speaker 2: asked you to pick something up, you want to remind
[44:19] Speaker 2: me that I said I was independent. I told you
[44:22] Speaker 2: I have to be independent. This is not a choice,
[44:25] Speaker 2: it is by circumstance. I would love to sit back
[44:28] Speaker 2: and grow corn in my backyard at my estate. Dry
[44:35] Speaker 2: out those kernels, shave them down, put them in paper
[44:38] Speaker 2: bags with everybody's names and their birthstones, and let you
[44:43] Speaker 2: pop them in some new age microwave. Like Megan Markle,
[44:47] Speaker 2: I want to be doing fucking arts and crafts. I
[44:50] Speaker 2: want to be sitting on my thing. I hell no,
[44:54] Speaker 2: because let me tell you that I have done seen
[44:55] Speaker 2: some things on that side, not from my own personal
[44:57] Speaker 2: experiences outside looking in, but I was close enough. No,
[45:00] Speaker 2: and I'm not going over there. You tried, and you
[45:05] Speaker 2: can report. A woman once told me who's been with
[45:10] Speaker 2: the whites a black woman, and she was like, you know,
[45:15] Speaker 2: people feel like and I'm like, you're saying people, but
[45:17] Speaker 2: I think this is just you sharing your feelings. But
[45:21] Speaker 2: it don't matter. People feel like, oh you date a
[45:25] Speaker 2: white man, You're not gonna have to deal with this.
[45:28] Speaker 2: They have their bullshit too. I bet I think everybody does.
[45:32] Speaker 2: And uh yeah, I And again, I don't want to
[45:35] Speaker 2: make me.
[45:36] Speaker 1: I don't know what I want, but what I do
[45:38] Speaker 1: know is.
[45:39] Speaker 2: A rip from Fox brothers. Brothers, but I have them
[45:46] Speaker 2: on Friday.
[45:47] Speaker 1: I just want happiness, honesty and peace.
[45:52] Speaker 2: What's the last thing that made you happy.
[45:55] Speaker 1: M The last thing that made me happy.
[45:59] Speaker 2: Was place where thing it doesn't matter anything where you
[46:03] Speaker 2: really was like I feel good right now, you know.
[46:06] Speaker 1: And this was recently, and this has to do with
[46:08] Speaker 1: real estate. I will say that real estate lately has
[46:10] Speaker 1: had me really happy. Like even just like sometimes when
[46:13] Speaker 1: I'm up late working and like if I'm talking to
[46:16] Speaker 1: it from They're like, you need to go to sleep,
[46:17] Speaker 1: and it was like, I don't know, I actually am
[46:19] Speaker 1: like enjoying reading this or creating this, or like learning
[46:22] Speaker 1: how to find an avenue for my client. Like I
[46:26] Speaker 1: had a moment where like I had to really like
[46:28] Speaker 1: give myself a pat on the back and realize I've
[46:30] Speaker 1: only been doing this for a year.
[46:32] Speaker 2: And I got an email the other day that.
[46:34] Speaker 1: Said I had made I hit a certain amount of
[46:38] Speaker 1: money made in real estate that I'm considered like I
[46:42] Speaker 1: can call myself just like a luxury agent and they
[46:45] Speaker 1: send me like there's this whole luxury group and like
[46:48] Speaker 1: you get like into a door. So yeah, and I
[46:51] Speaker 1: just felt really really good. I was like, oh my gosh,
[46:55] Speaker 1: like I did that, like because I did that, and
[46:58] Speaker 1: God did that and a lot of y'all don't know,
[47:01] Speaker 1: I don't talk about the real estate path a lot.
[47:02] Speaker 1: Really quick. I'll keep it really quick. My ex made
[47:06] Speaker 1: me feel like a broke bach. He started to do
[47:08] Speaker 1: that and started to be like, you know, we talked
[47:10] Speaker 1: about it, and so when we ended things and everything
[47:12] Speaker 1: went left, and it was really sad and.
[47:15] Speaker 2: I it was rough.
[47:16] Speaker 1: Maybe I'll talk about it one day, but it was rough,
[47:18] Speaker 1: and I didn't really have anything, and I was just praying.
[47:23] Speaker 1: And one day I got a call from a guy
[47:26] Speaker 1: and I didn't know who it wasn't honestly thought I
[47:27] Speaker 1: was going to get murdered, but I didn't. He wanted
[47:30] Speaker 1: to go say that he wanted to go see a house.
[47:33] Speaker 1: And being a real estate agent is really expensive. No
[47:35] Speaker 1: one tells you that when.
[47:36] Speaker 2: You get in it. I heard about this.
[47:38] Speaker 1: There's so much you have to pay for. And I
[47:40] Speaker 1: was so deep in that. I was like, I gotta
[47:42] Speaker 1: keep doing it because I got it. I have this
[47:44] Speaker 1: has to work.
[47:45] Speaker 2: I remember saying, yeah, it's too late to turn out.
[47:47] Speaker 3: Yeah.
[47:48] Speaker 1: And anyways, this man had called me and he ended
[47:50] Speaker 1: up being my first client. He didn't know that, and
[47:53] Speaker 1: he bought a home for one point three million dollars
[47:56] Speaker 1: and that commission check was thirty nine thousand dollars and
[47:58] Speaker 1: I really need it. And even that, like I learned
[48:04] Speaker 1: what needed to be learned to get through what needed
[48:07] Speaker 1: to get through, because there was a lot of issues.
[48:10] Speaker 1: Every deal that I've had, minus Lex has had like
[48:13] Speaker 1: these things where people like this just doesn't happen. But
[48:17] Speaker 1: you were in the crash course and one of one
[48:19] Speaker 1: of my mentors was like, you know what agents like this,
[48:22] Speaker 1: like real people who get in real estate and this
[48:23] Speaker 1: type of shit be happening. You got a great you
[48:26] Speaker 1: have a great thing ahead of you for real like
[48:28] Speaker 1: you you you got it, and so like that, real
[48:31] Speaker 1: estate has been making me happy, bro, like wow, and
[48:35] Speaker 1: it feels good and I feel good and even though
[48:39] Speaker 1: i'd be soundest sad, y'all, I'm good for real now.
[48:43] Speaker 2: I just want to also point out this time last year,
[48:46] Speaker 2: we were at another studio and you were stressed about
[48:51] Speaker 2: real estate. And I don't know a lot about real estate,
[48:57] Speaker 2: but I was like, but what I do know is
[48:59] Speaker 2: like most people Medina has been talking about selling houses, right.
[49:03] Speaker 2: I remember saying something to you, and I knew this
[49:06] Speaker 2: because I know a lot of people who get into it.
[49:08] Speaker 2: A lot of people don't be selling stuff in their
[49:10] Speaker 2: first year. It takes a year. This girl, once she
[49:14] Speaker 2: did the test, she got her certificate, whatever you call it.
[49:17] Speaker 2: She's licensed. She can do the damn thing. It wasn't
[49:22] Speaker 2: even six months, Medina, and you sold a home over
[49:26] Speaker 2: a million dollars in this economy, and I'm like, she's
[49:30] Speaker 2: over your stress. And I'm like, Okay, I don't know
[49:33] Speaker 2: what all is going on. I get it because when
[49:35] Speaker 2: you work hard, you want to see some results, So
[49:38] Speaker 2: I get it. But I'm like, she's been really hard
[49:39] Speaker 2: on herself and then you sold that and you seld
[49:42] Speaker 2: more and it's just like mine, what a difference a
[49:45] Speaker 2: year make. So I hope that you are really proud
[49:48] Speaker 2: of yourself. And sometimes I hope that you go back
[49:50] Speaker 2: and think about that it's only been a year. Has
[49:53] Speaker 2: it even been one full? Just year?
[49:56] Speaker 1: Just I'm bad at looking at stuff like that.
[49:59] Speaker 2: It's just July.
[50:01] Speaker 1: My year was sometime in June. I don't know when
[50:03] Speaker 1: it was, but it was in June. And one a
[50:04] Speaker 1: guy that I went to school, he told me that
[50:06] Speaker 1: he was like, because he hadn't sold anything, he actually.
[50:08] Speaker 2: Exactly, he's the average. Yeah, Because I was like Okay,
[50:15] Speaker 2: you want to sell it like, that's good, but like
[50:17] Speaker 2: from what I art, most people don't. Not that you can't,
[50:20] Speaker 2: but most people don't. So don't be hard on yourself,
[50:23] Speaker 2: is what I was saying. I'm like, well, you know,
[50:25] Speaker 2: when you care about something, you care and don't matter
[50:27] Speaker 2: what everybody else to do. I don't give a fuck.
[50:29] Speaker 2: I'm trying to do the damn thing anyway. Proud of
[50:31] Speaker 2: you and I'm happy for you. Hopefully one day I
[50:34] Speaker 2: can be a client.
[50:36] Speaker 1: Oh you definitely will be. How much fun will that be?
[50:39] Speaker 2: Can y'all imagine a bunch of stuff? I ought to
[50:43] Speaker 2: share the notes so you can.
[50:44] Speaker 1: Just sorry to keep my eye out put a pin
[50:46] Speaker 1: in that. Now that's gonna be fun.
[50:48] Speaker 2: And just I need to also remind myself by these
[50:50] Speaker 2: lottery tickets. Some of this ship. I don't know how
[50:52] Speaker 2: I could ever earn the money. Well you get alone, No,
[50:56] Speaker 2: I mean like to quality. I mean I'll be looking
[50:59] Speaker 2: at ship like bitch, calm down.
[51:01] Speaker 1: I had to tell Lexa.
[51:02] Speaker 2: Also, I was like, because I'd be looking at Beyonce
[51:05] Speaker 2: style home. Yeah, but really I wouldn't waste your time
[51:09] Speaker 2: like that.
[51:10] Speaker 1: I have a but you can if there ever is
[51:11] Speaker 1: a house you just want to go see a play?
[51:13] Speaker 1: We could go through.
[51:14] Speaker 2: No, okay, I didn't know you had time for that,
[51:16] Speaker 2: because I'm gonna be bookier. But realistically, I have like
[51:20] Speaker 2: on Zillo and the other apps and stuff and all
[51:23] Speaker 2: these other sites I'd be saving realistic dream. One of
[51:30] Speaker 2: Jay's franch's about the house is in Douglasville. I better
[51:33] Speaker 2: say that he got a nice little bang for his bug,
[51:36] Speaker 2: brand new bill and shout out to you, Matt. Him
[51:39] Speaker 2: and his fiance got the house brand new. Construction is huge.
[51:43] Speaker 2: The thing that made me go I said, oh my god,
[51:47] Speaker 2: I'm old. The pot filler ladies comes out over the stove.
[51:53] Speaker 2: And then I wasn't gonna ask, but I was thinking it,
[51:55] Speaker 2: so I'm glad he did. He was like, y'all, ain't
[51:57] Speaker 2: get gassed because I just feel like you need a
[52:00] Speaker 2: gas though in a kitchen like that. He was like, man, no,
[52:04] Speaker 2: but only because they don't have it available there. And
[52:07] Speaker 2: that was something else. So that's something to consider. I
[52:11] Speaker 2: need to be somewhere where a gas stove is available.
[52:14] Speaker 2: I need a good outdoor kitchen. Even if I got
[52:17] Speaker 2: to like make everything else smaller, I need outdoor kitchen
[52:20] Speaker 2: for my crawfish, bulls and barbecuing.
[52:22] Speaker 1: Okay, Okay, I need a gas I don't have to
[52:25] Speaker 1: have a gas line.
[52:26] Speaker 2: I can get a propane tank. That's not a big deal.
[52:28] Speaker 2: But I need outdoor kitchen area, crawfish board. When I barbecue,
[52:32] Speaker 2: I'm gonna have charcoal. I'm not hang heel. But this
[52:35] Speaker 2: ain't about that. I've got a lot of things. But yeah,
[52:37] Speaker 2: I got you, and I got a bunch of examples.
[52:41] Speaker 2: I like the what is it French something style? These
[52:48] Speaker 2: these trendy uh modern farmhouses.
[52:51] Speaker 1: They're okay, they're starting to go overboard with them though
[52:53] Speaker 1: it's like, okay, y'all, I.
[52:55] Speaker 2: Don't know about that. A funch provincial or something like that.
[52:59] Speaker 1: I think it's called the houses white.
[53:01] Speaker 2: I like them, the white houses. Yes, I'm loving the
[53:04] Speaker 2: white and black. And I'd be looking at home, like, okay,
[53:07] Speaker 2: it's white and black right now. How would I feel
[53:09] Speaker 2: if I didn't want to totally redo the exterior, but
[53:12] Speaker 2: I just want to change the color. Would I still
[53:15] Speaker 2: like it? That's something that I want to think about.
[53:18] Speaker 2: I would like my first purchase, if it's my goddamn money.
[53:22] Speaker 2: I want to live there after. I want to do
[53:26] Speaker 2: the investment property, but I need a home. I can't
[53:30] Speaker 2: see you see it. It will come. I I was
[53:35] Speaker 2: talking to someone who wants to buy a home. I'm
[53:40] Speaker 2: not ready to have them talk to you yet because
[53:43] Speaker 2: I need to convince them that it's a home that
[53:45] Speaker 2: I would want.
[53:46] Speaker 1: Oh. Well, the house is beautiful Douglasville.
[53:51] Speaker 2: If it was well in a big ass house, yeah,
[53:54] Speaker 2: I could because they got land too, acres and acres.
[53:58] Speaker 2: Goat it's room for that. I don't want that. Uh.
[54:03] Speaker 2: And I would ask you to have a fence if
[54:04] Speaker 2: you are my neighbor. I want a little garden with
[54:08] Speaker 2: things to eat. Yeah, not just flowers for the front.
[54:12] Speaker 2: I need some leftuce. I need herbs. Anyway, y'all please
[54:20] Speaker 2: share this episode where everybody, so we can back and
[54:22] Speaker 2: buy a house. Yeah, and so I can sell yeah yeah,
[54:26] Speaker 2: I need somewhere money. Oh. Also, please continue to check
[54:29] Speaker 2: out XO Man podcast. Leave comments on there, watch it everything.
[54:33] Speaker 1: My sister is reading Will Packer's book right now.
[54:37] Speaker 2: This is a good book.
[54:38] Speaker 1: I forgot what it's called to me, but she was like,
[54:40] Speaker 1: you have she talks about it every day. She's obsessed
[54:42] Speaker 1: with him.
[54:42] Speaker 2: And I was like, I have the book. You want it, Yeah,
[54:44] Speaker 2: I'll just give it to you because I have like
[54:47] Speaker 2: you like to read the book to read it in
[54:49] Speaker 2: your car? No, but I can get it to you tomorrow.
[54:53] Speaker 1: Yeah, let me get it. Read the plane.
[54:56] Speaker 2: It's a really good book.
[54:58] Speaker 1: And your episode with U. Why was I about to
[55:00] Speaker 1: say Bernie Mac It wasn't Bernie dead, David Banner. I
[55:06] Speaker 1: was really good. I am really flirting.
[55:13] Speaker 2: Don't get in trouble now. Who's gonna check me booth?
[55:16] Speaker 2: I don't know, because nobody brought me no house and
[55:19] Speaker 2: I paid my rent, so again, who gonna check me?
[55:25] Speaker 2: No one? Okay, I mean they could try.
[55:29] Speaker 1: I really do wonder if I am ever gonna get
[55:30] Speaker 1: a man and what he gonna be like.
[55:33] Speaker 2: I wonder if I'm ever gonna be able to commit
[55:35] Speaker 2: to somebody or any I mean, I can't commit to
[55:38] Speaker 2: a damn outfit half the time. And I just feel
[55:41] Speaker 2: like I just need patience. I don't know, maybe I
[55:43] Speaker 2: need more.
[55:44] Speaker 1: Ma me means, because sometimes I don't wonder the stuff
[55:45] Speaker 1: that I was going through, it was like, well, y'all
[55:47] Speaker 1: going through that, and then y'all just worked through it
[55:48] Speaker 1: and got through it, and it was like yeah, he
[55:50] Speaker 1: did used to abuse me, but we're good now.
[55:52] Speaker 2: I would hope not. Also, Okay, this is so random,
[55:55] Speaker 2: but I have to ask y'all, don't think I'm crazy
[55:57] Speaker 2: and it's gonna be time for all of us to
[55:59] Speaker 2: walk off. I told you already about my obsession with
[56:02] Speaker 2: the time loops, time travel and all that shit. Right,
[56:06] Speaker 2: it ain't gone nowhere, I promise you. I don't know
[56:09] Speaker 2: if it was the weed drink that I had because
[56:10] Speaker 2: I have one to go to bed, because I was
[56:12] Speaker 2: not going to go to sleep, and I was like,
[56:13] Speaker 2: I've got to get some sleep. I don't know if
[56:15] Speaker 2: it was that or just something was happening. I started
[56:17] Speaker 2: having a weird feeling while I was laying in the bed,
[56:20] Speaker 2: and I was like, I think.
[56:21] Speaker 4: There's a parallel universe definitely, and my person is in
[56:26] Speaker 4: there is trying to get over or maybe she like
[56:29] Speaker 4: trip if she's really me a woman, Well, I mean
[56:33] Speaker 4: it's a parallel you.
[56:34] Speaker 1: I'm a wall it's you, yeah, But I mean like.
[56:36] Speaker 2: My person on the other side, on the other side
[56:40] Speaker 2: of this this our universe, that's their universe. Don't need
[56:42] Speaker 2: to stay over there. Sometimes people bend here. Well, that's
[56:47] Speaker 2: why I think I was feeling uncomfortable because something happened
[56:50] Speaker 2: because she was like stuck in a portal or something,
[56:53] Speaker 2: and I had to go people. I wasn't getting up.
[56:55] Speaker 2: I was like, is it in the bathroom? Like I
[56:56] Speaker 2: don't fucking know. Anyway, it was feeling weird. I was
[56:58] Speaker 2: seeing weird things. But I also was trying to edit
[57:01] Speaker 2: a video on cap cut where it does like the outline,
[57:04] Speaker 2: so it could have been a combination of both. Anyway,
[57:07] Speaker 2: can everybody span my sister Mallory alexis m A L
[57:09] Speaker 2: A R I A L e X. I ask on
[57:13] Speaker 2: whatever social media and tell her please just edit all
[57:15] Speaker 2: of my videos. I cried later on for it and
[57:19] Speaker 2: cried it was just a rough time, so it's probably
[57:20] Speaker 2: just a psychotic break. And then I'm saying this out loud,
[57:23] Speaker 2: thank you all for listening. But I did kind of
[57:25] Speaker 2: feel like somebody was trying to tug me, and I
[57:27] Speaker 2: do wonder I'm not joking. Have I ever went somewhere
[57:33] Speaker 2: else and then made it back, whether it was like
[57:36] Speaker 2: going to a different time period or going to a
[57:41] Speaker 2: parallel universe. Has anybody had an experience like this? I've
[57:44] Speaker 2: been watching too much spooky scary storytime from Ashley Inc.
[57:48] Speaker 2: On the YouTube and the Tiki Tak and everything. Often
[57:51] Speaker 2: I want to know if y'all have, because I think
[57:53] Speaker 2: I have, And I think that's why sometimes I feel
[57:56] Speaker 2: so convinced that something happens and I be feeling like
[57:59] Speaker 2: people are gas fighting me or whatever, because I know
[58:02] Speaker 2: it happened, but I'm like I was on the other side, or.
[58:05] Speaker 1: You were dehydrated.
[58:08] Speaker 2: That could be true.
[58:09] Speaker 1: But sometimes it's like, nah, okay, we should go do
[58:13] Speaker 1: an ayahuasca trip.
[58:14] Speaker 2: See now you talk about real drug.
[58:16] Speaker 1: I mean, let's just go ahead and go there.
[58:17] Speaker 2: You wonder aluasca? Yeah, that does time travel.
[58:20] Speaker 1: It took me to a.
[58:23] Speaker 2: Wait a minute, I didn't know that. No need and
[58:30] Speaker 2: do it on door dash because I get my drugs.
[58:34] Speaker 2: I get drippy and my rosewater lemonade with the ta.
[58:39] Speaker 1: We need to go to and that would be fine
[58:43] Speaker 1: if you want to come. You guys, just put a
[58:45] Speaker 1: little plant in the comment section. Not no, We're gonna
[58:49] Speaker 1: take a break and we come back. We have some
[58:51] Speaker 1: advice to read for you guys.
[58:54] Speaker 2: Losing weight and improving your help does not have to
[58:58] Speaker 2: feel impossible. I feel like you can trust that for me,
[59:01] Speaker 2: because y'all know I will give up at the drop
[59:03] Speaker 2: of a dime. I don't like working out. I don't
[59:06] Speaker 2: like eating healthy all the time because sometimes it's like, Okay,
[59:10] Speaker 2: you want to combat a problem or you know, whether
[59:13] Speaker 2: it's like truly like health or just vanity. Because I
[59:16] Speaker 2: got both, I get discourage very easily, y'all. I have
[59:21] Speaker 2: never felt this way about any of the things that
[59:24] Speaker 2: I have done or taken to try and do better
[59:28] Speaker 2: with taking care of myself is so much easier. I'm
[59:31] Speaker 2: not feeling discouraged. I am seeing results everything that they
[59:35] Speaker 2: have said was going to happen. I'm doing it for
[59:37] Speaker 2: weight loss. I don't know what the medicine is called.
[59:41] Speaker 2: It's touched the tea, but it is great because what's
[59:45] Speaker 2: happening is I'm not having those sugar cravings like I
[59:48] Speaker 2: used to. It only happens. I'll be honest. There were
[59:51] Speaker 2: days where I wasn't taking my medicine like I was
[59:53] Speaker 2: supposed to do. I'm supposed to take it every day.
[59:55] Speaker 2: That's user error. So if you're not doing the instructions,
[59:59] Speaker 2: that could happen. But when you get back on it,
[1:00:01] Speaker 2: it's just like, ah, I'm good, Like I was turning down.
[1:00:04] Speaker 2: So I was in Houston, you guys, where there's so
[1:00:07] Speaker 2: much great food, and I was turning stuff down. I
[1:00:09] Speaker 2: was like, Oh, I'm just gonna have this. I just
[1:00:11] Speaker 2: want a little We all stopped at the table at
[1:00:15] Speaker 2: one day, like, what's going on, baby, I'm on that
[1:00:17] Speaker 2: life OURX plan and they are getting my gut right,
[1:00:19] Speaker 2: they're getting this body right. I am dropping pounds, I
[1:00:22] Speaker 2: am feeling lighter, I'm sleeping better. They didn't even say
[1:00:25] Speaker 2: that that is what would happen. I just can't tell
[1:00:28] Speaker 2: y'all how much I love it. And I love that
[1:00:30] Speaker 2: even though I was rambling during my appointment with the
[1:00:34] Speaker 2: medical professional, because that's what you'll do when you start off.
[1:00:38] Speaker 2: You talk to somebody and you tell them what you're
[1:00:39] Speaker 2: trying to do, what your concerns are, talk about your history,
[1:00:42] Speaker 2: you know all that stuff. You're really talking to somebody.
[1:00:46] Speaker 2: They're not giving everyone the same thing, and they're going
[1:00:50] Speaker 2: to make sure that you know they're monitoring what's going on.
[1:00:54] Speaker 2: You have to check in every month, and I like
[1:00:56] Speaker 2: that because I don't want you just ship me stuff
[1:00:58] Speaker 2: without ever checking in. Then I feel like, well, what
[1:01:00] Speaker 2: am I taking? You know, you don't have to worry
[1:01:02] Speaker 2: about any of that. I am feeling good on it.
[1:01:04] Speaker 2: I'm loving it. How has your experience been?
[1:01:06] Speaker 1: So my journey with lifear x empty is really it's interesting.
[1:01:11] Speaker 1: I at first was on the breakup diet, like I
[1:01:14] Speaker 1: just wasn't eating and I wasn't working out, and I
[1:01:17] Speaker 1: was just not being healthy by not eating, and so
[1:01:21] Speaker 1: it's interesting, Like the journey was, Okay, bitch, you gotta
[1:01:23] Speaker 1: eat some food and you need to start working out.
[1:01:25] Speaker 1: One of my friends made me start working out. So
[1:01:27] Speaker 1: when you implement working out, did that? Then I was like,
[1:01:31] Speaker 1: let me actually start eating right, eating right, and then
[1:01:35] Speaker 1: the lifear x you can remix it how you want
[1:01:37] Speaker 1: to remix it. If you are like, bitch, I'm not
[1:01:38] Speaker 1: about to be working out, cool, you can take the pill.
[1:01:40] Speaker 1: You're still gonna be or whatever medicine they give you. You're
[1:01:43] Speaker 1: still going to lose weight. In my journey, I was like, Okay,
[1:01:46] Speaker 1: I want to lose weight and build muscle, and I
[1:01:48] Speaker 1: don't want to lose too much weight. So they capped
[1:01:51] Speaker 1: me at like the number where it's like this will
[1:01:53] Speaker 1: help me just maintain what I was building. And I
[1:01:56] Speaker 1: absolutely love that I have the power to do that
[1:01:58] Speaker 1: because I was losing weight, but there was like a
[1:02:00] Speaker 1: little pudge that I just couldn't get rid of. There
[1:02:02] Speaker 1: was two rolls on the back of my sides, Kiki.
[1:02:06] Speaker 1: I've never been able to get rid of those roles.
[1:02:08] Speaker 1: They I took a video in the gym the other day.
[1:02:11] Speaker 1: I asked my girl and I said, well, you take
[1:02:12] Speaker 1: a video of my back. The roles are gone. And
[1:02:14] Speaker 1: I know that's the life our XMD Like, I'm just
[1:02:16] Speaker 1: like you. Sometimes you just need a little help. So
[1:02:19] Speaker 1: you might be listening and be like, I don't want
[1:02:21] Speaker 1: to be walking around look like a bobblehead. You don't
[1:02:22] Speaker 1: have to. You might just want to lose like a
[1:02:24] Speaker 1: few little pounds and you can. You can do that,
[1:02:27] Speaker 1: and that's what I just love it. I also love
[1:02:29] Speaker 1: that there's no contracts if you try it and you're like,
[1:02:30] Speaker 1: I don't want to re up. I don't want to,
[1:02:33] Speaker 1: you don't have to.
[1:02:34] Speaker 2: Yeah, whatever.
[1:02:35] Speaker 1: I can honestly say, I'm wholeheartedly excited about this brand,
[1:02:41] Speaker 1: and I've been looking at before and after photos. I
[1:02:45] Speaker 1: just did this last night, and I cannot believe just
[1:02:49] Speaker 1: where I'm at right now. It also helped me chisel
[1:02:51] Speaker 1: down my face, like you can't do that working out
[1:02:55] Speaker 1: like you know what I mean, Like it helps you
[1:02:56] Speaker 1: target some of those areas that really are just difficult.
[1:02:59] Speaker 1: I don't care what y'all say.
[1:03:01] Speaker 2: I love it. I love it too. I have been
[1:03:05] Speaker 2: very pleased. I am so happy that we are working
[1:03:09] Speaker 2: with them. I'm happy with the overall experience, and I
[1:03:13] Speaker 2: am going to continue to use them. I have more goals.
[1:03:16] Speaker 2: And then I was like, you know what, I've scheduled
[1:03:18] Speaker 2: another appointment because I wanted to talk to them and
[1:03:21] Speaker 2: just like address some other little things going on and
[1:03:25] Speaker 2: just see if they maybe have something to help me.
[1:03:28] Speaker 2: And so I'll keep your guys posted about that and
[1:03:31] Speaker 2: let you know if there's anything else. But I know
[1:03:33] Speaker 2: that they do stuff for like men's hair loss. Oh,
[1:03:38] Speaker 2: they just stuff for a rectile dysfunction. There is no
[1:03:41] Speaker 2: reason to be walking around here with the what's his
[1:03:44] Speaker 2: name George Jefferson and a limp noodle if you don't
[1:03:52] Speaker 2: have to, if you want to live your life like that,
[1:03:55] Speaker 2: your baby that ain't got nothing to do with me.
[1:03:56] Speaker 2: But if you don't want to, there's no reason and
[1:03:58] Speaker 2: there's no shame. We all need a little.
[1:04:01] Speaker 1: Help and it makes me even wonder like I don't
[1:04:03] Speaker 1: know how to put ribs down. You know how we
[1:04:05] Speaker 1: always talk about the men with the big hips and
[1:04:07] Speaker 1: how it's really hard because you were just born like that.
[1:04:09] Speaker 2: But if it's fat and not just a wide set
[1:04:12] Speaker 2: perfect bone because your bones, if you really are big
[1:04:15] Speaker 2: bone down there, I mean, they can't do nothing about that.
[1:04:17] Speaker 2: But if it's a little stubborn.
[1:04:18] Speaker 1: Fast, just try it and tell us how you like it.
[1:04:22] Speaker 2: And it's for everybody. It's not just a women, women
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[1:04:27] Speaker 2: gotta check it out. So enough of us telling you
[1:04:30] Speaker 2: about how much we love it. We want you to
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[1:05:09] Speaker 6: And now we'll get back to the show. All right,
[1:05:38] Speaker 6: you guys, we are back and it's time for the advice.
[1:05:41] Speaker 6: If you have a question that you want us to
[1:05:43] Speaker 6: possibly answer on the show, hopefully it's not a dire need,
[1:05:46] Speaker 6: email us advice at cocktailspod dot com.
[1:05:50] Speaker 2: Okay, you want to read it? Yeah, okay, I'm gonna
[1:05:52] Speaker 2: do the side check one. Okay, So this one says,
[1:05:55] Speaker 2: am I the side check or the wife without a ring?
[1:06:00] Speaker 2: If you want to ask, why ain't I no ring?
[1:06:04] Speaker 2: If you think you a wife, you're not the wife,
[1:06:06] Speaker 2: but you are without a ring. I'm sorry, let me
[1:06:08] Speaker 2: read it.
[1:06:09] Speaker 1: She thinks he's gonna propose.
[1:06:11] Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, don't hold her brother? Oh sorry, Okay, in
[1:06:15] Speaker 2: her thoughts was just escaping. Hey, Kiki and Medina, love
[1:06:18] Speaker 2: y'all so much. Please help because I am spiraling in silence.
[1:06:24] Speaker 2: I've been dating this guy for seven months. I was
[1:06:28] Speaker 2: gonna say years.
[1:06:29] Speaker 1: Okay.
[1:06:30] Speaker 2: He's consistent, sweet, fine and tells me all the right things.
[1:06:34] Speaker 2: We've met each other's families, gone on trips, and I
[1:06:37] Speaker 2: keep a toothbrush at his house. She didn't say how
[1:06:41] Speaker 2: old she was. Okay, but he refuses to call me
[1:06:44] Speaker 2: his girlfriend. He says, is this me? It's like I
[1:06:51] Speaker 2: got flipped and wrote the letters. Our performative. Titles are performative.
[1:06:58] Speaker 3: I'm not mad at him.
[1:06:59] Speaker 2: Okay. He says titles are performative and that he's not
[1:07:02] Speaker 2: trying to do what society says we have to do.
[1:07:06] Speaker 2: I'm starting to feel like I'm playing wife with no benefits.
[1:07:09] Speaker 2: But every time I try to end it, he says,
[1:07:11] Speaker 2: I'm overthinking and we're good. Am I being slow?
[1:07:13] Speaker 1: Yes?
[1:07:14] Speaker 2: Or is this man spiritually single? Help me get my
[1:07:17] Speaker 2: mind back side? And the title is wonder Okay, you're wondering.
[1:07:23] Speaker 2: He doesn't want the title, right, Okay, there's no negating that.
[1:07:28] Speaker 2: What do you want? Is he gonna give it to you?
[1:07:31] Speaker 2: If it's the title, he says, no, then why are
[1:07:35] Speaker 2: you dealing with it?
[1:07:36] Speaker 1: Because women have really been this seven months but the
[1:07:40] Speaker 1: bullshit and it's like, I really hope that I get
[1:07:42] Speaker 1: to have daughters because I'm not doing this to them.
[1:07:44] Speaker 1: We all are fucked up. I mean, that's really just
[1:07:46] Speaker 1: what it comes down to here. This is why we
[1:07:48] Speaker 1: question ourselves. We second. Guess it's like he literally he
[1:07:51] Speaker 1: said it, and I'm not.
[1:07:53] Speaker 2: I've said what he says. He said what he said,
[1:07:55] Speaker 2: and we all do this. Girl.
[1:07:57] Speaker 1: Some of us make it through and passed the test,
[1:07:59] Speaker 1: and then a lot of us he said it, and
[1:08:01] Speaker 1: you're still like, does he love me? He doesn't. And
[1:08:05] Speaker 1: that's just we have a hard time really seeing the truth.
[1:08:09] Speaker 1: The man is showing you the truth. So the answer is, yes,
[1:08:12] Speaker 1: you're being slow. I don't know what to tell you.
[1:08:16] Speaker 1: You want a title, he doesn't want a title. Do
[1:08:18] Speaker 1: you know what that means? That means you move on?
[1:08:20] Speaker 1: And if he really does see the value in you
[1:08:22] Speaker 1: and he chases you and comes back and it's like,
[1:08:24] Speaker 1: you know what I was wrong?
[1:08:24] Speaker 2: You were right?
[1:08:25] Speaker 1: Then cool, then maybe you can do it. But you're
[1:08:27] Speaker 1: gonna be fighting for something that you want. He doesn't
[1:08:30] Speaker 1: want it. I can't keep I feel bad for us,
[1:08:33] Speaker 1: I really do. The world was made for men.
[1:08:37] Speaker 2: This is a man's world. Ain't know what James Brown said.
[1:08:39] Speaker 2: He wants to jail plenty of times and got out
[1:08:41] Speaker 2: and we're still out here terrorizing the streets and beating
[1:08:43] Speaker 2: on women. So yeah, I think you're right about that.
[1:08:46] Speaker 2: Now what I'll say this, I don't think that because
[1:08:50] Speaker 2: he doesn't want what you want means that he doesn't
[1:08:52] Speaker 2: love you. But you also didn't tell this that he
[1:08:54] Speaker 2: ever said it. Think about that one two. At the
[1:08:59] Speaker 2: end of the day, no matter how he feels about you,
[1:09:02] Speaker 2: he does not feel like committing to you. And it
[1:09:05] Speaker 2: sounds like this is a major issue for you. What
[1:09:10] Speaker 2: is the good You have to answer this for yourself,
[1:09:14] Speaker 2: But what is the good in holding on to somebody
[1:09:17] Speaker 2: when the biggest thing that you want they literally have
[1:09:21] Speaker 2: refused and stonewalled you. And then when you want to leave,
[1:09:25] Speaker 2: they want to keep you there, but they're not willing
[1:09:29] Speaker 2: to give it. So why do you keep staying when
[1:09:33] Speaker 2: he pulls you back? Do you think that him doing
[1:09:36] Speaker 2: that like something is going to change as a person
[1:09:39] Speaker 2: who is kind of like him in the sense of
[1:09:43] Speaker 2: I don't think the titles are always performative. Sometimes they are.
[1:09:46] Speaker 2: Sometimes people feel like, well, it's like a possessive thing.
[1:09:53] Speaker 2: I don't like that. There's a ton of things that
[1:09:56] Speaker 2: I don't like, but there are some things that I
[1:09:58] Speaker 2: do like. So I don't feel like I never want
[1:10:00] Speaker 2: to have a title, but I also don't want to
[1:10:04] Speaker 2: pacifize somebody who hasn't done what I have said I
[1:10:08] Speaker 2: want and give you the title in hopes that things
[1:10:11] Speaker 2: will change. You got to stop holding on to this
[1:10:14] Speaker 2: man hoping that things will change. This is what you want.
[1:10:17] Speaker 2: If he doesn't want to give it, you have to
[1:10:19] Speaker 2: move on. If he changes his mind and can find you,
[1:10:23] Speaker 2: then you can revisit it at that point. And that's
[1:10:27] Speaker 2: just it. Stop being stuck here. You're not happy, That's
[1:10:31] Speaker 2: why you wrote us. Ali.
[1:10:33] Speaker 1: I just think it's so crazy how men really don't
[1:10:35] Speaker 1: move like that. If the man I just was telling
[1:10:38] Speaker 1: y'all last week, I was like, oh, no, I don't
[1:10:40] Speaker 1: want to have sex right now.
[1:10:41] Speaker 2: It wasn't like he was like I get it. He
[1:10:43] Speaker 2: was like, no, you need to have sex. I guess
[1:10:45] Speaker 2: when a man has But once he gets to the
[1:10:47] Speaker 2: point of a rectile dysfunction, you're supposed to be understanding
[1:10:49] Speaker 2: to think about that, and you.
[1:10:51] Speaker 1: Will be nine times out of ten, I don't understand.
[1:10:53] Speaker 1: I'm going home will.
[1:10:54] Speaker 2: Be number ten. All right, Well, y'all keep sending us
[1:10:57] Speaker 2: this advice and we're gonna give it to you. Like
[1:10:58] Speaker 2: it just He is vice at cocktailspot dot com. Rawn
[1:11:04] Speaker 2: Strike Straight unlike some people. Cocktails, okay, you want to
[1:11:09] Speaker 2: isn't long?
[1:11:10] Speaker 3: Long?
[1:11:11] Speaker 2: Isn't okay? We're not doing that. Neither too long? Read
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[1:11:21] Speaker 1: You guys will read cocktails. Next week for real, we'll
[1:11:23] Speaker 1: have a whole episode of coming. Try to make some
[1:11:25] Speaker 1: This is long. Thank you for listening to the show.
[1:11:28] Speaker 1: We love you. I'm really tired. Honestly, we've been here
[1:11:31] Speaker 1: and I didn't go to sleep last night until six
[1:11:33] Speaker 1: am because I couldn't go to sleep and.
[1:11:35] Speaker 2: And I had to be a mother, and so y'all
[1:11:41] Speaker 2: know i'd be upset about that for three weeks. I
[1:11:43] Speaker 2: ain't gonna say nothing right now because I found out
[1:11:44] Speaker 2: people be googling me.
[1:11:46] Speaker 1: So so send in your cocktails, still, send them in.
[1:11:48] Speaker 1: If it's long, send it in, send it in. Next
[1:11:50] Speaker 1: week we will be revitalizing, ready to take on the
[1:11:52] Speaker 1: world with vacoline on our faces.
[1:11:55] Speaker 2: Thank you for listening. The children up I just got.
[1:12:00] Speaker 2: But once you said later, I was like, i'mna be
[1:12:02] Speaker 2: extra shoty sitting in here like a damn Christmas ornament. Anyway,
[1:12:06] Speaker 2: Me and Blondie, one of my blondies will be back.
[1:12:09] Speaker 1: Yeah, if y'all really would want to do an Aowaska
[1:12:12] Speaker 1: trip with Kiki and I, please do let us know
[1:12:13] Speaker 1: because then that maybe could be something that we could
[1:12:15] Speaker 1: put together. And that's really not an expensive trip because
[1:12:17] Speaker 1: it's not. Peru is cheap and you know what I love,
[1:12:20] Speaker 1: say in the jungle.
[1:12:21] Speaker 2: Peruvian chicken, and that is my ship. Also, if you
[1:12:25] Speaker 2: make wigs, hit me up. I would like one for
[1:12:28] Speaker 2: free in exchange, but I'll buy one because I want
[1:12:31] Speaker 2: some more wigs. I don't know when I'm gonna get
[1:12:32] Speaker 2: a great appointment. Life is rough. Pray for us virtual hugs.
[1:12:36] Speaker 2: Woo woo. We will see you guys soon. Checks the
[1:12:39] Speaker 2: description box for everything. And until next time you guys,
[1:12:44] Speaker 2: good bye.
[1:12:45] Speaker 3: Good bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye
[1:13:00] Speaker 3: bye

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