# Ep. 426 "Santa’s Naughty List: Margaritas, Men & Mischief" ft. Koereyelle Mallard

An episode of [Cocktales with Kiki](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1149484402), 26 Dec 2024, 1 h 25 min.

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Koereylle from the "Girl Stop Playing" podcast stops by to share her inspiring journey from a workaholic mindset to one of personal growth and fulfillment. We dive into her transition from the "Confessions of a Workaholic" podcast and how her past venture, the Single Wives Club, led her to her husband and a happier marriage. Koereylle offers valuable insights into balancing career ambitions with personal goals, and we explore how meaningful conversations can be sparked using a fun game called "I'm Curious to Know." Get ready for some festive cheer as we whip up a Snow Globe Margarita that dazzles both in taste and presentation. Perfect for the holiday season, this cocktail combines white cranberry juice, lime juice, tequila, and a sprinkle of edible glitter, served whimsically in a clear, fillable ornament. For those who prefer a booze-free version, sparkling water does the trick. The addition of a rosemary sprig brings a festive nod to Christmas trees, ensuring your holiday gatherings are both merry and bright. We navigate a multitude of relationship dynamics, from traditional gender roles and the etiquette of texting exes during the holidays, to the art of regifting and the complexities of non-committed relationships. Listen in for lively discussions on everything from the ethics of re-gifting to the spicy tales of holiday party escapades. The episode wraps up with a heartwarming engagement story set against the early pandemic's backdrop, illustrating love's resilience and creativity. Whether you're here for the cocktails or the candid chats, there's something to engage everyone. Follow Us! @cocktalespodcast @kikisaidso @coffeebeandean Follow Our Guest @koereyelle Join Kiki In Curacao- https://www.seekdharma.com/trips/kikis-travel-tribe/ Join Medinah in ICosta Rica- www.paradiseandvibe.com For all promo codes and links for promotions in the episode, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/cocktalesads Contact Us! Advice: advice@cocktalespod.com Cocktales: cocktales@cocktalespod.com Weird Sex: weirdsex@cocktalespod.com Live Show Sponsorship: sales@cocktalespod.com Guest Request/ General Inquiries info@cocktalespod.com Get your Vesper and other Jewelry From Crave https://lovecrave.com/cocktales Get Your Merch & Pre-Order Your Card Game Purchase Merch (Next Drop Arrives December 2024) www.imcurioustoknow.com Get Klassy Baste! Learn to Cook with Kiki www.klassybaste.com Join Kiki's Book Club- December's Book- The Boyfriend https://www.patreon.com/kikisaidso Travel with Kiki! We're going to Curacao! Reserve Your Spot Here! Travel With Medinah! Visit ParadiseandVibe.com Interested in sponsoring? Contact sales@cocktalespod.com today! Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cocktales-with-kiki--2818687/support. CONNECT WITH US Follow the host and join the conversation after the episode: Kiki Said So (Kiara Walker) Instagram: @kikisaidso TikTok: @kikisaidso Cocktales With Kiki Instagram:@cocktalespodcast TikTok: @cocktalespodcast Want to be a guest on Cocktales? We are always looking for interesting guests, experts, and storytellers to join the show. If you would like to be considered, please fill out our guest submission form here: Guest Interest Form

## Transcript

[0:02] Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah. Check one two, Check one two.
[0:04] Speaker 2: Is this Mike On?
[0:05] Speaker 1: Is this Mike On?
[0:06] Speaker 3: Hey? Listen man, it's the one and only Trunks that
[0:08] Speaker 3: a DJ system and you're listening to cocktails Dirty Discussions
[0:12] Speaker 3: with Kikia Medina Monroe.
[0:14] Speaker 1: Here. Today's cocktail is called a snow globe margarita. So
[0:24] Speaker 1: this is a good festive holiday drink. So for this one,
[0:27] Speaker 1: you're gonna need two ounces of white cranberry juice, an
[0:30] Speaker 1: ounce of lime juice, one and a half ounces of
[0:33] Speaker 1: tequila of your choice. You'll need some frozen cranberries. I
[0:36] Speaker 1: forgot mine at home, but it's really just gonna add
[0:38] Speaker 1: a little razzle dazzle to the finished product some edible glitter.
[0:42] Speaker 1: You'll need a cocktail glass, a clear fillable ornament, and
[0:46] Speaker 1: a little glitter. So what you're gonna do is you'll
[0:49] Speaker 1: take your cocktail glass that'll be the final thing, and
[0:53] Speaker 1: you're gonna fill it up with ice, put a little
[0:55] Speaker 1: rosemary sprig in there for garnish, and if you have
[0:59] Speaker 1: the frozen cranberry you would put them in there just
[1:01] Speaker 1: a few and so then you'll take a cocktail shaker
[1:04] Speaker 1: and you're going to fill that with ice and then
[1:06] Speaker 1: we're gonna add in our liquid ingredients. So see we've
[1:09] Speaker 1: got the cranberry juice and this one, if you wanted
[1:12] Speaker 1: it to be a mocktail, it could be a motail.
[1:15] Speaker 1: You would just add in place of the tequila, put
[1:19] Speaker 1: some sparkling water, and then, of course, remember don't put
[1:23] Speaker 1: the sparkling water in your shaker. So we've got the tequila.
[1:27] Speaker 1: Then we'll add in the lime juice. Teqitha. All right,
[1:34] Speaker 1: So my ornament it has a decent size opening. If
[1:39] Speaker 1: your ornament has a small opening, or your little light
[1:43] Speaker 1: on your hands, I mean heavy on your hands, you
[1:45] Speaker 1: might want to use a little funnel or something just
[1:47] Speaker 1: so that you don't make a mess. And then we're
[1:50] Speaker 1: gonna take the ornament. We'll put a little dash of
[1:53] Speaker 1: the glitter in there because it's gonna make it sparkle.
[1:58] Speaker 1: We're gonna take our shaker shake this salt up. So
[2:06] Speaker 1: what you're gonna do to make this super cute is
[2:09] Speaker 1: you'll pour your ingredients in here. Depending on the size
[2:14] Speaker 1: of your ornament will determine how much we'll fit. If
[2:19] Speaker 1: you can get the big ones, get the big ones,
[2:22] Speaker 1: and then when you serve it, you serve it like this,
[2:26] Speaker 1: and whenever somebody's ready to drink it, you'll just take it,
[2:30] Speaker 1: turn it upside down and you have a snow globe
[2:33] Speaker 1: Margarita cheers.
[2:38] Speaker 4: On the first day of Christmas, my true love gate
[2:41] Speaker 4: to me.
[2:43] Speaker 2: A game off. I'm curious to know.
[2:45] Speaker 1: Well, welcome back to cocktails Jerry Discussions. You guys. Hey, y'all,
[2:48] Speaker 1: so I just made these oop oop Mine is sinking
[2:51] Speaker 1: in there, so oh sho. So what you're gonna do?
[2:56] Speaker 1: Yours should not sink because mine already had liquid. So
[2:58] Speaker 1: you will un screw your order, give it a shake.
[3:02] Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
[3:03] Speaker 1: You see the glitter, Okay, now unscrew it and pour
[3:08] Speaker 1: it it into your thing.
[3:13] Speaker 2: And then take your globe out.
[3:14] Speaker 1: But these are fun, and then this is something that
[3:17] Speaker 1: you could make this part, the little ornament part early
[3:20] Speaker 1: if you were having a party or something, and then
[3:22] Speaker 1: as people get there, get the ice. And also added
[3:26] Speaker 1: a little rosemary spree because it kind of looks like
[3:28] Speaker 1: pine needles for a Christmas tree. So you know, if
[3:30] Speaker 1: you're feeling festive this Christmas season, go ahead and try
[3:34] Speaker 1: out one of our holiday tree.
[3:36] Speaker 3: And I like that it's really light, like this doesn't
[3:38] Speaker 3: seem like a Christmas drink where someone's gonna be drunk
[3:40] Speaker 3: and embarrassing Christmas.
[3:41] Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just a it's just a shot of tequila
[3:44] Speaker 1: in there and that's it and some juice and ice,
[3:46] Speaker 1: lot's of vice.
[3:47] Speaker 3: Yes, okay, guys. So this week on Cocktails, we have
[3:51] Speaker 3: a very special guest. We have a Gurriel coriol from
[3:56] Speaker 3: Girls Stop Playing Podcasts.
[4:00] Speaker 5: I love being on this side, so thank you.
[4:02] Speaker 1: Isn't it fun? It's different, right?
[4:03] Speaker 5: Yes, no pressure, all eyes on you. Oh pressure.
[4:08] Speaker 1: So tell us what your show is about.
[4:11] Speaker 6: So Girls Stop Playing podcasts. It's all about encouraging black
[4:14] Speaker 6: women to stop playing with their potential and start working for.
[4:17] Speaker 5: What they want.
[4:17] Speaker 6: I transitioned from Confessions of a Workaholic podcast, which was
[4:22] Speaker 6: all about entrepreneurship, and I felt like my voice was
[4:25] Speaker 6: getting lost in the black women make money, make money, climb, climb,
[4:29] Speaker 6: climb conversation when I really know that we have to
[4:33] Speaker 6: be able to make the money, but we also want
[4:35] Speaker 6: to get the honey. So Girls Stop Playing kind of
[4:37] Speaker 6: brings together both of those desires, which you know a
[4:41] Speaker 6: lot of, or at least my audience has.
[4:43] Speaker 2: I like that.
[4:44] Speaker 3: Did you find that when you were doing the get money,
[4:47] Speaker 3: get money. We get money as women, and we wear
[4:49] Speaker 3: business power suits all day. Did you find that it
[4:52] Speaker 3: was hard to get fine love or to date.
[4:56] Speaker 5: I don't think that.
[4:56] Speaker 6: It was necessarily hard. It just wasn't the priority. It
[4:59] Speaker 6: wasn't the focus. Nothing is hard when you, you know,
[5:02] Speaker 6: focus on a creative plan and you know, take action
[5:04] Speaker 6: behind it. But a lot of people are focusing on
[5:07] Speaker 6: the make money, make money, make money, and that is
[5:09] Speaker 6: kind of clouding their I guess capacity to be able
[5:12] Speaker 6: to focus on the other side.
[5:14] Speaker 2: But were you people? Oh?
[5:16] Speaker 5: Yes, I was people, Okay, I was people.
[5:18] Speaker 6: So so in addition to the podcast, I had a
[5:20] Speaker 6: whole business called the Single Wives Club. It was literally
[5:23] Speaker 6: single women preparing to become wives. So I was literally
[5:26] Speaker 6: working professionally in the relationship readiness space but not really
[5:30] Speaker 6: taking my own relationship status seriously. And the year that
[5:34] Speaker 6: I closed down that business is the year that I
[5:36] Speaker 6: met my husband.
[5:36] Speaker 5: Really, God was like, girls, stop playing.
[5:40] Speaker 1: Did a part of you want to stop that business
[5:43] Speaker 1: mainly because you wanted to be in a relationship and
[5:46] Speaker 1: you were like, this is taking up all my time?
[5:49] Speaker 5: No.
[5:49] Speaker 6: I stopped that business because the single women like got
[5:52] Speaker 6: on my they I ran into so many why do
[5:56] Speaker 6: I have to do anything for a man?
[5:58] Speaker 5: He should to take me as I am.
[5:59] Speaker 6: Kind of a conversation which my whole mission and message
[6:02] Speaker 6: was never do X y Z to get a man.
[6:05] Speaker 6: It was become a better woman before becoming a wife.
[6:07] Speaker 6: That was my whole for the single for the single yeah,
[6:11] Speaker 6: for the single wife's club, because it's if you become
[6:12] Speaker 6: the best woman that you could be, you're going to
[6:14] Speaker 6: attract better quality men. So it's not do this to
[6:17] Speaker 6: to get that, but it's do this because this is
[6:20] Speaker 6: truly for you.
[6:21] Speaker 5: This is what's best for you. So whatever that is,
[6:22] Speaker 5: do that.
[6:23] Speaker 6: And so it was it came down to me literally
[6:26] Speaker 6: fighting against the people that I was trying to help
[6:28] Speaker 6: because I'm like, well, let's focus on improving, and they're like,
[6:31] Speaker 6: girl delivered me a man. They wanted a matchmaker, and
[6:33] Speaker 6: I was never a matchmaker. That was never it. But
[6:35] Speaker 6: I did find that when I stopped focusing solely on
[6:38] Speaker 6: the professional my professional goals and really got serious about
[6:41] Speaker 6: my personal goals, which was marriage, that is when you know,
[6:45] Speaker 6: things didn't necessarily fall into place, but I started.
[6:47] Speaker 5: Being serious and taking action towards that goal.
[6:50] Speaker 1: And taking your own advice. Well, congratulations and married.
[6:55] Speaker 6: Yeah so our four year wedding anniversary is New Year's Day.
[7:00] Speaker 1: Oh well, early, congratulations, happy anniversary, all that good stuff.
[7:05] Speaker 2: I love that you're gonna have your anniversary and your
[7:08] Speaker 2: New Year's case.
[7:09] Speaker 6: Yes, that was I wanted to start the new year
[7:12] Speaker 6: with like a new life.
[7:13] Speaker 5: That was my thing. I always wanted a New Year's
[7:15] Speaker 5: Eve wedding for that reason.
[7:16] Speaker 3: I always wanted a New Year's Eve will because it
[7:20] Speaker 3: wasn't to start the new life.
[7:21] Speaker 2: But I like that I might steal it.
[7:22] Speaker 3: I got into my notes, But I think that the
[7:26] Speaker 3: idea of starting the new year off going to a
[7:29] Speaker 3: wedding like attending a wedding, because no one ever has
[7:32] Speaker 3: plans on New Year's Eve, and when you get older,
[7:34] Speaker 3: you're not going to the club, at least I'm not.
[7:36] Speaker 3: I would like to be at a if we're gonna
[7:38] Speaker 3: party at somebody's house, and it'd be like in a Yeah,
[7:42] Speaker 3: like we still get dressed up, we still get pretty imagined,
[7:45] Speaker 3: imagined doing had a wedding.
[7:46] Speaker 2: I love that you did that.
[7:47] Speaker 1: Yeah, well, we are going to play a quick round
[7:53] Speaker 1: or a quick few rounds of our game. I'm curious
[7:55] Speaker 1: to Know. If you guys would like to play I'm
[7:58] Speaker 1: Curious to Know as well, you can order it by
[8:01] Speaker 1: going to I'm Curious to Know dot com.
[8:03] Speaker 3: So, Coriol if you didn't know kickin, I came out
[8:06] Speaker 3: with a game. It's called I'm Curious to Know. And
[8:07] Speaker 3: we came out with this game to help people with
[8:11] Speaker 3: their conversations with the people they love, people you want
[8:14] Speaker 3: to have sex with, someone you might be on a
[8:16] Speaker 3: date with, because what we have discovered is that people
[8:19] Speaker 3: don't know how to talk, whether you're nervous or you're
[8:21] Speaker 3: just boring. So we're helping. We're helping, We're helping the people.
[8:25] Speaker 3: So I'll go first, Coriol. I am curious to know?
[8:29] Speaker 3: Do you know your love language?
[8:31] Speaker 5: I do what?
[8:33] Speaker 6: I am very much an acts of service girl. Take
[8:36] Speaker 6: care of some stuff for me, baby, Please make me.
[8:40] Speaker 6: I don't want to think about the things I love.
[8:43] Speaker 1: That. That's a good one. Okay. My question is how
[8:46] Speaker 1: did you meet your best friend? Oh?
[8:50] Speaker 6: So, I actually so, My best friend and I met.
[8:53] Speaker 6: We met in college. But I think what kind of
[8:56] Speaker 6: brought us together is she went through a bad breakup
[8:59] Speaker 6: in college and I felt very much so not necessarily
[9:04] Speaker 6: a big sister because she's older than me. But I
[9:06] Speaker 6: felt very like defensive, like yeah, like this is my girl,
[9:10] Speaker 6: and I feel like seeing her go through that was
[9:12] Speaker 6: so much humility and just like her goodness shining through
[9:18] Speaker 6: that to me was kind of what brought us together.
[9:19] Speaker 5: But we man in college.
[9:20] Speaker 3: Okay.
[9:21] Speaker 2: I love a good best friends story, especially if it lasts.
[9:25] Speaker 6: Girl, I have so many stories. This girl has saved
[9:27] Speaker 6: my life things have Yeah, this is.
[9:29] Speaker 5: Mine, girl.
[9:30] Speaker 2: Girl.
[9:31] Speaker 1: Where'd y'all go to school?
[9:32] Speaker 5: Tennessee State University? Okay, shout out to the HBCUs Right,
[9:35] Speaker 5: we all went to both and.
[9:38] Speaker 1: Howards Okay, Coreol.
[9:42] Speaker 3: I'm curious to know how do you feel about traditional
[9:46] Speaker 3: gender roles in a relationship.
[9:48] Speaker 5: Oh?
[9:51] Speaker 6: I am one of those want my cake and eat
[9:53] Speaker 6: it too kind of thing because I'm like, I want
[9:57] Speaker 6: you to follow your gender roles, but I want a
[9:59] Speaker 6: little flexible. You don't want, No, I don't want to
[10:04] Speaker 6: be because fair and balance leads down that like, well,
[10:07] Speaker 6: if you want to be fair, then are you paying
[10:09] Speaker 6: fifty percent of these bills?
[10:10] Speaker 5: I don't want to be that fair.
[10:11] Speaker 6: I don't want that much of us being have an equality.
[10:17] Speaker 6: I very much so appreciate my husband being what we
[10:21] Speaker 6: as a society would consider.
[10:22] Speaker 5: The man in our relationship.
[10:25] Speaker 6: However, he is very much so active father, which by
[10:29] Speaker 6: those same societal standards, that may not be the most
[10:32] Speaker 6: masculine thing.
[10:34] Speaker 5: I don't know.
[10:34] Speaker 6: I think times are changing now and men are looked
[10:36] Speaker 6: at as expected to be more active fathers. But I
[10:40] Speaker 6: I guess I do kind of appreciate the.
[10:43] Speaker 2: Gender roles attitude, or you don't have to feel bad.
[10:45] Speaker 3: I like when I read this question, I'm always like, Okay,
[10:48] Speaker 3: it doesn't really matter about how I feel about traditional
[10:51] Speaker 3: gender roles in a relationship. But what I do know
[10:53] Speaker 3: that's important is that man that comes into my life,
[10:55] Speaker 3: I want him to love traditional gender roles.
[10:58] Speaker 6: But then it goes But then it's like how far
[11:00] Speaker 6: with the tradition? How far do you want to go?
[11:02] Speaker 6: Because if he's very very traditional, that could mean girl,
[11:07] Speaker 6: what you're doing down at that podcast, you need to
[11:09] Speaker 6: be at this house with the that family is your
[11:11] Speaker 6: priority now.
[11:11] Speaker 5: So that's where it gets tricky.
[11:13] Speaker 7: It gets tricky, it does, and I think that's like
[11:16] Speaker 7: people grow up differently too, and so their idea of
[11:20] Speaker 7: what is traditional or normal or whatever could be very different.
[11:23] Speaker 1: And that's why We always say, y'all need to be
[11:25] Speaker 1: asking each other questions. Yeah, talking and getting a deep
[11:28] Speaker 1: understanding of what these things are when we say things
[11:32] Speaker 1: like traditional and stuff like that, because your traditional and
[11:35] Speaker 1: his traditional or her traditional may be different.
[11:37] Speaker 5: Totally different.
[11:38] Speaker 6: And I will say too, I wish I had these
[11:40] Speaker 6: cards when I was dating my husband because I can
[11:42] Speaker 6: tell you, hands down, the foundation of our relationship was
[11:46] Speaker 6: a friendship based on me asking every dad just had
[11:49] Speaker 6: a random question and it was not a put the
[11:51] Speaker 6: pressure on you because we're trying to dating. You got
[11:53] Speaker 6: to impress me with my It was like we were
[11:55] Speaker 6: friends and we were having these very open, random conversations things.
[12:01] Speaker 6: So y'all are definitely on the right path with people
[12:04] Speaker 6: ain't talking, y'all not asking the right questions.
[12:06] Speaker 2: People don't be talking. I'll just be like I talk
[12:09] Speaker 2: a lot.
[12:10] Speaker 1: You know this. Why don't you ask? If you don't
[12:12] Speaker 1: know you're asking me? Girl, I'm not here, Okay. Do
[12:16] Speaker 1: you think it's okay to remain friends with an X
[12:19] Speaker 1: when you're in a new relationship or your whole face
[12:22] Speaker 1: before the sin has even been in? Absolutely not no, no,
[12:27] Speaker 1: And why do you say, well, I think my personal
[12:30] Speaker 1: bad choices, and man, it has led me to not
[12:34] Speaker 1: ever want to see anybody I ever dated ever again
[12:36] Speaker 1: in life.
[12:37] Speaker 5: So because I.
[12:37] Speaker 6: Don't have relationships with those people, I couldn't imagine a
[12:40] Speaker 6: real need for anybody else to either. Yeah, it's just
[12:44] Speaker 6: totally me and my bad choices.
[12:47] Speaker 3: I know. This just made me think of something, And
[12:49] Speaker 3: I'm just gonna ask you a question has nothing to
[12:52] Speaker 3: do with me, y'all. Okay, how would you feel if
[12:57] Speaker 3: someone you were in a relationship with ex hit them
[13:01] Speaker 3: up and ask them to move their resume, like forward
[13:06] Speaker 3: their resume along to the job that they work at
[13:08] Speaker 3: because they want to work for that company. And the
[13:11] Speaker 3: person did it, the man who you're in a relationship
[13:14] Speaker 3: did it?
[13:15] Speaker 5: Did he do it.
[13:15] Speaker 6: After talking to this person that's not you? Because this
[13:20] Speaker 6: ain't just scenarios.
[13:21] Speaker 1: This isn't yours. This is somebody that somebody else.
[13:24] Speaker 6: But did they get a warning or did they get
[13:26] Speaker 6: the story after it was done?
[13:27] Speaker 2: The girlfriend?
[13:28] Speaker 5: His girl girlfriend?
[13:30] Speaker 2: They got the they just got the story after.
[13:34] Speaker 1: I would feel way about that. I'm not sure which
[13:36] Speaker 1: way it would make me make that face, but you
[13:39] Speaker 1: make it right, that's weird? Or like, why didn't you
[13:42] Speaker 1: say anything? Then I mean, you don't have the answers,
[13:45] Speaker 1: But I'm curious as to how it even came up
[13:47] Speaker 1: in the conversation because at this point exactly that if
[13:51] Speaker 1: you were going to do that and you knew it
[13:53] Speaker 1: was going to have me perturbed, why even tell me?
[13:57] Speaker 1: Because I would oftimes sometimes ignore if you're not up
[14:01] Speaker 1: to anything, but you know it like upset me, but
[14:04] Speaker 1: it's not really gonna hurt me because it doesn't have
[14:07] Speaker 1: any real effect. There's nothing going on with y'all. It's
[14:10] Speaker 1: okay for me. It's okay for you to keep some
[14:12] Speaker 1: stuff to yourself. Yeah, I would not feel good about
[14:16] Speaker 1: that though. It would just be weird why you want
[14:18] Speaker 1: them so close?
[14:18] Speaker 3: But that's interesting because I am at a point in
[14:21] Speaker 3: my life now where when something upsets me, I try
[14:24] Speaker 3: to think, have you ever been upset about something but
[14:26] Speaker 3: you can't vocalize why exactly you're upset about it?
[14:29] Speaker 1: Yeah?
[14:30] Speaker 2: Like that's but I don't know. I don't know what triggered.
[14:35] Speaker 3: Is not even a trigger, it's like somebody, it's like
[14:38] Speaker 3: you did it, I'm mad, And then it's like why
[14:40] Speaker 3: am I mad?
[14:41] Speaker 2: Though, Like I don't know why.
[14:43] Speaker 6: In that scenario, I would I would be upset that
[14:47] Speaker 6: if you felt like this was an important thing that
[14:49] Speaker 6: you wanted me to know, why didn't you consider my
[14:52] Speaker 6: feelings beforehand? Because at this point it doesn't matter what
[14:55] Speaker 6: I think because you've already done it.
[14:56] Speaker 5: So why did you even tell me?
[14:57] Speaker 1: Now? I feel like an afterthought?
[14:59] Speaker 3: But then it was because then the person thought about
[15:02] Speaker 3: it like this. If you would have told me beforehand
[15:06] Speaker 3: the type of person I am, it's not like I
[15:07] Speaker 3: would be like, don't get that bitch job, like let
[15:09] Speaker 3: her let her be.
[15:12] Speaker 1: You should have said something in the jump, because what
[15:14] Speaker 1: did you think I was there? Because it's not really
[15:16] Speaker 1: about the forwarding of the resume. It's this conversation.
[15:20] Speaker 3: It's about the absence of someone not knowing, and.
[15:23] Speaker 6: It's also about the potential of this girl not working
[15:26] Speaker 6: at this job that y'all working at together. You know,
[15:28] Speaker 6: like all of that is like.
[15:29] Speaker 2: Granted, is remote, but it still was like, yeah, yeah.
[15:33] Speaker 1: I don't know. I would just hope if you felt
[15:36] Speaker 1: the need to tell me, tell me on the front end,
[15:38] Speaker 1: not the back end, and then things could be avoided
[15:42] Speaker 1: any sort of unnecessary stress.
[15:44] Speaker 2: Play the game, y'all, play the game.
[15:45] Speaker 3: Things will come up Okay, next one, Coreell, I'm curious
[15:49] Speaker 3: to know.
[15:50] Speaker 2: Can you have too much sex?
[15:52] Speaker 5: Yes?
[15:57] Speaker 2: Girl?
[15:58] Speaker 5: How much is too much? I think your body.
[16:00] Speaker 6: I don't know how people do the things that they do,
[16:03] Speaker 6: but the way that my body works.
[16:05] Speaker 5: No, I'm not doing all of that. I'm not doing.
[16:08] Speaker 6: All of that whatever, all of that is. That's what
[16:10] Speaker 6: too much sex is. When things start hurting, that's too what.
[16:15] Speaker 6: I'm not a pleasure pain girl. I'm a pleasure pleasure girl.
[16:18] Speaker 6: If it starts hurting, yeah, it's different.
[16:21] Speaker 2: We don't want to be sore in the morning. We
[16:23] Speaker 2: don't want to walk the limb.
[16:24] Speaker 3: No, maybe your kidney got a little pain kidney.
[16:27] Speaker 1: Your kidney's a never hurt.
[16:29] Speaker 3: No.
[16:30] Speaker 1: Okay, okay, this is my last one. Do you believe
[16:34] Speaker 1: in living together before marriage?
[16:36] Speaker 5: You let me look y'all in your eyes when I
[16:38] Speaker 5: answered this.
[16:40] Speaker 6: Living with the man that I was engaged to before
[16:44] Speaker 6: I actually got married is what literally saved my life.
[16:47] Speaker 6: Like I when you can leave and go close your
[16:50] Speaker 6: door and just go on to your own house, you
[16:53] Speaker 6: can take your real personality and your true character with you.
[16:56] Speaker 6: But when you are living and literally cohabitating with someone
[17:02] Speaker 6: on a not necessarily twenty four to seven. But if
[17:04] Speaker 6: you're working remote, it could feel like that. But when
[17:06] Speaker 6: you are that intertwined with someone, the things that you
[17:09] Speaker 6: are forced to talk about, the everyday mundane habits that
[17:14] Speaker 6: you see, just the conversations that you overhear them, having
[17:16] Speaker 6: all of those things that usually are not gonna happen
[17:19] Speaker 6: unless you are either traveling together extensively or living together.
[17:22] Speaker 6: I think that that's necessarily necessary to truly know a person.
[17:27] Speaker 2: Okay, this is my last one. I'm curious to know.
[17:31] Speaker 2: Excuse me. What's the longest you have waited to have
[17:33] Speaker 2: sex with someone?
[17:35] Speaker 5: Oh? More than a year? Really? Yes? I told them
[17:40] Speaker 5: before we start that I am very lame.
[17:42] Speaker 6: So yeah, if you came to this episode for some
[17:44] Speaker 6: spicy'll probably still gonna get some spice, but it ain't
[17:46] Speaker 6: gonna be my spice. But my spice level is very
[17:49] Speaker 6: what's the non spicy pepper or child? Yeah, I'm very
[17:53] Speaker 6: one pepper on the menu.
[17:54] Speaker 2: Okay, but that's like a bell pepper.
[17:56] Speaker 6: Bell pepper, Yeah right, that's me. Sweet chili, yes, one
[18:02] Speaker 6: of those.
[18:03] Speaker 1: Well, that's sweet chili salce okay, because the ti chilies
[18:08] Speaker 1: are very hot.
[18:09] Speaker 3: The good thing about cocktails is. It's not always spicyer Okay.
[18:13] Speaker 3: Sometimes we don't have any spies to add to the pot.
[18:16] Speaker 3: Sometimes we talk about friendships. Sometimes episode talking about ghosts.
[18:22] Speaker 3: You just never know how ghost You never know what
[18:25] Speaker 3: you're gonna get. So that was our game. I'm curious
[18:28] Speaker 3: to know if you guys are interested in getting it good.
[18:29] Speaker 3: I'm curious noo dot com and purchase it. Get it
[18:31] Speaker 3: for a friend for New Year so they can be
[18:33] Speaker 3: a new version of themselves in their dating lives. Before
[18:36] Speaker 3: we get to know our girl, Corey O a little
[18:38] Speaker 3: bit more, We're going to move on to weird sex.
[18:43] Speaker 2: You said a man is not a necessity.
[18:46] Speaker 5: A man is a luxury like dessert. Yeah, a man
[18:51] Speaker 5: is absolutely not necessity.
[18:52] Speaker 1: Did you mean that to sound mean it bitter? Oh
[18:56] Speaker 1: not at all.
[18:58] Speaker 5: I adore dessert.
[18:59] Speaker 1: I love I think men are the coolest, but you
[19:02] Speaker 1: don't really need them to live, all right, you guys,
[19:09] Speaker 1: this week's weird sex. So many of you guys sent
[19:12] Speaker 1: me this story, and this one was wild. So this
[19:14] Speaker 1: is one that has been brewing since earlier in the year.
[19:18] Speaker 1: So this guy, Josh Peters, he dropped a documentary. It's
[19:22] Speaker 1: forty seven minutes long and he was following this OnlyFans
[19:26] Speaker 1: creator Lily Phillips, who's twenty three on her journey, because
[19:31] Speaker 1: she declared at some point prior to that she wanted
[19:35] Speaker 1: to sleep with one hundred men in a day. Now,
[19:39] Speaker 1: that is not the first time somebody has done something
[19:42] Speaker 1: like that. I don't know if they did a whole
[19:44] Speaker 1: documentary behind it, but somebody broke the world record in
[19:48] Speaker 1: two thousand and four. She slept with nine hundred and
[19:51] Speaker 1: nineteen men in one day. Now, I don't I don't
[19:54] Speaker 1: even want to imagine how you could accomplish that. And
[19:58] Speaker 1: like our good cis core Yo just told us doing
[20:01] Speaker 1: too much, just too much? Right, So I know the
[20:04] Speaker 1: eyes are rolling back, Like girl, what anyway, she wanted
[20:08] Speaker 1: to do this, So she does it, and it took
[20:10] Speaker 1: like a lot of planning because she's screening these people.
[20:13] Speaker 1: She has a team of assistance. This guy is getting
[20:15] Speaker 1: the documentary together or leading the team on that. So
[20:18] Speaker 1: all these people have been documenting. Well, it happened, it
[20:21] Speaker 1: got released. Guess what she's doing it? Oh no, no,
[20:27] Speaker 1: she recorded herself on internet crying because now she's stressed
[20:31] Speaker 1: out about all of the backlash. So she's and I mean,
[20:33] Speaker 1: she's been getting backlash about it and just everything and regret, remorse,
[20:39] Speaker 1: all this stuff on the end. So I'm sure you
[20:44] Speaker 1: guys have seen a lot of stuff about this girl,
[20:47] Speaker 1: because so many of you guys sent it to me.
[20:51] Speaker 1: She's upset and she's crying. But let this be a
[20:53] Speaker 1: cautionary tale to anyone out there. One cocktail is enough.
[20:57] Speaker 1: You don't have to do a hundred, okay for you
[21:00] Speaker 1: be on the internet crying and sad and as much
[21:03] Speaker 1: fun as it can be. When we think about being young,
[21:06] Speaker 1: wild and free and sexually liberated, part of that liberation
[21:12] Speaker 1: is coming with the freedom to not just do stuff
[21:15] Speaker 1: for atension. You can do things that you want to do,
[21:17] Speaker 1: you can abstain, there's so many other things that you
[21:19] Speaker 1: can do. So y'all be careful out here while y'all
[21:21] Speaker 1: trying to be buck wild, because too many shots of
[21:25] Speaker 1: tequila and maybe even a few drugs could lead you
[21:28] Speaker 1: down a path of crying on the internet. And you
[21:30] Speaker 1: know how we talk about people crying on the internet anyway.
[21:32] Speaker 3: Because if you think that that is living young, wild
[21:35] Speaker 3: and free, I don't want it.
[21:38] Speaker 1: I don't want that.
[21:40] Speaker 2: Is absolutely a lot I want to do that. Yes,
[21:43] Speaker 2: I'm judging you.
[21:45] Speaker 1: I don't know why she wanted to. I don't know
[21:47] Speaker 1: what it was. I don't know if she thought that
[21:50] Speaker 1: she wouldn't do it at first, and it was just
[21:53] Speaker 1: like something to say for shock value, and then it's like,
[21:56] Speaker 1: I'm too deep. I don't know. I haven't watched the
[21:58] Speaker 1: documentary honestly, probably won't. Not that curious, but it's a
[22:03] Speaker 1: wild story. I'll link it if you guys would like
[22:05] Speaker 1: to see.
[22:06] Speaker 5: I heard she's going for a thousand though the same
[22:09] Speaker 5: girl to be.
[22:11] Speaker 1: I didn't hear about this girl. Wow, everybody has been
[22:14] Speaker 1: sending to me. I was seeing it all over the place.
[22:19] Speaker 1: She said it was a fantasy at first.
[22:21] Speaker 2: What is her ethnicity?
[22:22] Speaker 5: Girl? You know what her She's Caucasian?
[22:25] Speaker 2: Okay, mmm okay.
[22:28] Speaker 5: And they did not do STD testing. It is such
[22:30] Speaker 5: a rabbit heart.
[22:31] Speaker 2: So when she said screening, what was the screening?
[22:33] Speaker 6: I think they had to send their information but they
[22:35] Speaker 6: didn't have to do Yeah, identity, they didn't have to,
[22:37] Speaker 6: she said. They they gave priority to the people who
[22:39] Speaker 6: did get STD testing.
[22:41] Speaker 2: They got.
[22:44] Speaker 1: She oh, yeah, she wanted to break that other lady's
[22:46] Speaker 1: record from two thousand and four. With a thousand men
[22:51] Speaker 1: is no horror Phobia and sex works stigma are so
[22:56] Speaker 1: pervasive that it's easy to blame the blah blah blah blah. Look,
[23:00] Speaker 1: I just think that that's a lot. It's it's a lot.
[23:04] Speaker 1: Y'all gotta be here for a year.
[23:06] Speaker 5: I couldn't imagine.
[23:06] Speaker 1: What would you do if somebody told you, oh, I
[23:10] Speaker 1: just had sex with like nine hundred people yesterday. Would
[23:14] Speaker 1: you do? Girl? I went to publics and got some groceries,
[23:16] Speaker 1: Like what?
[23:17] Speaker 6: What I kept thinking about, though, was the hundred men,
[23:20] Speaker 6: because those one hundred men surely went out and had
[23:23] Speaker 6: sex with other women very soon after.
[23:26] Speaker 5: I'm sure, well, you.
[23:27] Speaker 1: Know, maybe what if they couldn't get them and they
[23:28] Speaker 1: had to?
[23:29] Speaker 2: You know? But how would you feel if?
[23:33] Speaker 3: This is one of the questions that I've asked people
[23:34] Speaker 3: that I'm dating, And it's not like a judgmental question.
[23:36] Speaker 3: I just be wondering, have you ever paid for sex
[23:39] Speaker 3: in like a prostitution way? Like have you ever pulled
[23:41] Speaker 3: up and bought a prostitute?
[23:43] Speaker 5: How do you feel?
[23:43] Speaker 2: Answers? I'm always shock.
[23:45] Speaker 3: I haven't had a man tell oh, yes, I haven't
[23:49] Speaker 3: had one man tell me no that he hasn't done it.
[23:51] Speaker 2: Most men have said that they did it.
[23:53] Speaker 3: So I wonder if, like you were dating somebody or
[23:55] Speaker 3: your husband was like, oh yeah, Like one time there
[23:58] Speaker 3: was this girl who wanted to sleep with one hundred men,
[23:59] Speaker 3: and I was one of the men.
[24:00] Speaker 2: I went to the house in state the line.
[24:02] Speaker 5: No.
[24:02] Speaker 2: I don't know how I think I would be like.
[24:05] Speaker 1: Wow, the paying for sex, I don't think I would
[24:08] Speaker 1: be so shocked about that, but participating in like some
[24:12] Speaker 1: sort of challenge, like I want to be one of
[24:14] Speaker 1: the one hundred or one of the thousands.
[24:17] Speaker 2: You know, why did you do that? I don't know.
[24:20] Speaker 5: I ask my husband that on our first date, though.
[24:22] Speaker 3: Have you ever paid a prosecut for sex, like a
[24:24] Speaker 3: real raw procect?
[24:25] Speaker 2: Did he know?
[24:26] Speaker 5: He said that?
[24:26] Speaker 1: Okay, okay, I've only asked a few people that question.
[24:30] Speaker 1: Some guys said that they had done it for themselves.
[24:32] Speaker 1: Some of them said that they have paid, but they
[24:35] Speaker 1: paid for a frind like it was a friend's birthday
[24:37] Speaker 1: or something like that, or he got deployed. I mean
[24:41] Speaker 1: it is common, because you know, I just think if
[24:44] Speaker 1: you're gonna pay for I hope you paid them well
[24:46] Speaker 1: and you paid their price and you weren't trying to
[24:47] Speaker 1: run an though, I mean, like pay them what they
[24:50] Speaker 1: asked for. Well, you because try and get somebody. I
[24:54] Speaker 1: think it depends. I think it depends, but I do
[24:57] Speaker 1: think it's it's crazy if you agree to pay and
[25:00] Speaker 1: then you don't. Oh yeah, that's yeah, you know that's
[25:02] Speaker 1: not okay either. Anyway, that's it for weird sex this week.
[25:06] Speaker 1: Now we'll get back to the.
[25:08] Speaker 3: Show to end up with the man who ran off
[25:10] Speaker 3: on the Columbian prostitute is wild girl, I'm breaking up
[25:14] Speaker 3: with you now you're gonna run off on me and
[25:16] Speaker 3: these kids?
[25:18] Speaker 1: Yeah, ran off for way less. Okay. So this week, Coreo,
[25:22] Speaker 1: we are going to be talking about a few different
[25:26] Speaker 1: dating relationships, sex scenarios, and we're going to be deciding
[25:30] Speaker 1: if this would land you on the NAZI or the
[25:33] Speaker 1: nice list. Okay, you want to start? You want me to,
[25:37] Speaker 1: so you can start, Kiki, Okay the first one? Do
[25:41] Speaker 1: you think it? I have a feeling what your answer
[25:44] Speaker 1: would be. I want both y'all to answer. Texting your
[25:46] Speaker 1: ex to say Merry Christmas? Is that naughty or nice?
[25:51] Speaker 2: Oh? Man, that's such an interesting.
[25:55] Speaker 5: If you're in a relationship, are there any other deals?
[25:57] Speaker 1: Are you here?
[25:57] Speaker 5: Period?
[25:58] Speaker 1: You? In general, everybody used to get their own ok yeah, yeah, naughty.
[26:04] Speaker 3: Okay, So that's naughty. Texting your ex Merry Christmas. It's naughty. Yeah,
[26:09] Speaker 3: it's it's naughty unless y'all got kids together. And I
[26:12] Speaker 3: don't date men who already have children. So it's naughty. Okay,
[26:18] Speaker 3: it's a naughty thing. You can't do that.
[26:21] Speaker 1: You keep saying it.
[26:22] Speaker 5: Did you have to think about it for a minute.
[26:25] Speaker 1: The reason why I.
[26:26] Speaker 2: Was, Yeah, it's naughty. Okay, what about you? Kiki?
[26:30] Speaker 1: Oh, I think it's naughty.
[26:32] Speaker 2: You think what do you what do we need to wish?
[26:34] Speaker 1: Mary?
[26:35] Speaker 2: What are we doing?
[26:35] Speaker 5: Yeah?
[26:37] Speaker 1: I think that that's one of those little things that
[26:39] Speaker 1: people do, whether they're in a relationship or not, to
[26:41] Speaker 1: keep that door open to check and see what's going. See.
[26:45] Speaker 3: That's where I was, like, that's where I don't agree
[26:47] Speaker 3: with it, because y'all know, I used to date somebody.
[26:49] Speaker 3: His name is Carlos, and he was my boyfriend for
[26:50] Speaker 3: eight years and like I cheated on him the whole relation.
[26:53] Speaker 3: It really was over before it was even over for real,
[26:56] Speaker 3: and like one this year I did text him Happy Birthday,
[26:59] Speaker 3: And there is appssolutely nothing.
[27:01] Speaker 2: It's not to keep a door open.
[27:02] Speaker 3: It is just simply because it's like, I know it's
[27:05] Speaker 3: your birthday, might be naughty. I don't know, but I
[27:10] Speaker 3: have been on the cydeberhere it's like this, there's really
[27:12] Speaker 3: not not nandor what made.
[27:14] Speaker 2: You want to do it? Though he had a rough year.
[27:17] Speaker 2: He had a rough year. And it's not even that
[27:19] Speaker 2: I knew it from his word of mouth, like because.
[27:21] Speaker 1: That was gonna be my next version, you know, he
[27:22] Speaker 1: had a rough year.
[27:23] Speaker 3: People posting their whole lives on Instagram and it was
[27:25] Speaker 3: like people passing away. And sometimes I do think when
[27:27] Speaker 3: it's like you have a connection with somebody in a
[27:32] Speaker 3: way and this has nothing to do with sex or romance,
[27:35] Speaker 3: but when you really know somebody and you know they
[27:37] Speaker 3: might be struggling with something sometimes and I'm not saying
[27:40] Speaker 3: with everybody with that specific situation, there's absolutely nothing there.
[27:44] Speaker 3: There has been no conversation, and it was just simply
[27:46] Speaker 3: like happy birthday. I hope you're doing well, not I
[27:50] Speaker 3: hope you're doing well so that I can get back.
[27:51] Speaker 2: I don't want to get back there. He don't want
[27:53] Speaker 2: and it was.
[27:53] Speaker 3: Just like I don't know sometimes when you have certain
[27:56] Speaker 3: roots with people, it's just like it's sad when you
[27:59] Speaker 3: see certain things into them, do you know what I mean?
[28:01] Speaker 3: And I don't always think it's okay that you make
[28:03] Speaker 3: somebody be like you better not ever check on them
[28:06] Speaker 3: again because you're mine and so but that's just me.
[28:09] Speaker 2: That is just me.
[28:10] Speaker 1: I wouldn't put the pressure on somebody else, but I
[28:12] Speaker 1: don't like it, and I can let that be know,
[28:15] Speaker 1: And then the choice is yours, and you decide if
[28:17] Speaker 1: those roots are strong enough that you're married or anyone's
[28:20] Speaker 1: worth it?
[28:21] Speaker 6: Yeah, if that one, if that merry Christmas is worth it?
[28:24] Speaker 2: Yeah? You know.
[28:25] Speaker 3: Do you really think that though when it comes to marriage,
[28:28] Speaker 3: like a merry Christmas or a happy Birthday could end
[28:30] Speaker 3: the marriage?
[28:30] Speaker 5: No? But what are you doing that for? I don't
[28:33] Speaker 5: think your decision making, couldn't you know?
[28:34] Speaker 6: Like your And I am not gonga holl about divorce either,
[28:37] Speaker 6: so I'll say that, but no.
[28:40] Speaker 5: Because what are you doing that for?
[28:41] Speaker 2: Yeah?
[28:42] Speaker 5: And then how did I find out?
[28:43] Speaker 6: Because I'm not a snooper either, So if I even
[28:45] Speaker 6: know that information, you've taken a wrong turn.
[28:49] Speaker 3: Yeah.
[28:49] Speaker 1: Yeah, I think it's just one of those things where
[28:51] Speaker 1: It's not like a deal breaker or something that's a
[28:54] Speaker 1: huge fight about, but it is.
[28:55] Speaker 6: Something I'm like, Yeah, you're gonna make a mental note.
[28:58] Speaker 6: Just okay, okay, what you got?
[29:00] Speaker 2: Okay? Naughty or nice?
[29:02] Speaker 3: You guys, that is definitely naughty. You've been too busy
[29:13] Speaker 3: to see your partner, but you've still had time to
[29:16] Speaker 3: post on Instagram.
[29:16] Speaker 2: And go out with your friends.
[29:20] Speaker 1: That's naughty.
[29:21] Speaker 2: That's mean, Like do.
[29:23] Speaker 1: You like your partner? Yeah?
[29:26] Speaker 5: Yeah, what is there has like? That's not naughty? Nice?
[29:28] Speaker 6: They're like a non existent Like that's in the non
[29:31] Speaker 6: existent category, Like this relationship is non existent if you
[29:33] Speaker 6: don't even care to.
[29:35] Speaker 1: Yeah, because like how could you not make time?
[29:38] Speaker 2: You guys were looking confused with people are dealing with this.
[29:41] Speaker 1: I'm sure, but that would be my question to the
[29:44] Speaker 1: person if I was like on the receiving end of that,
[29:46] Speaker 1: I see somebody posting on Instagram or wherever, and they've
[29:51] Speaker 1: been telling me they're too busy for everything. You couldn't
[29:53] Speaker 1: squeeze nothing in.
[29:54] Speaker 6: This is the thing, though, now that I am on
[29:57] Speaker 6: the other side as a married woman, what I thought
[30:01] Speaker 6: as a single woman, and what I feel like a
[30:03] Speaker 6: lot of single women think is that they have to
[30:06] Speaker 6: deal with people like that and you don't. That to
[30:09] Speaker 6: me tells That would tell me that this person is
[30:12] Speaker 6: not really into me.
[30:13] Speaker 5: Because we have.
[30:14] Speaker 6: All had men that we would leave on red, that
[30:16] Speaker 6: we would be posting on social media and they DM
[30:18] Speaker 6: in us and we don't care.
[30:19] Speaker 5: And we have those guys that we don't really care about.
[30:23] Speaker 6: We weren't about to marry those guys, like, no, they
[30:25] Speaker 6: were just somebody that were texting us and entertaining us
[30:28] Speaker 6: or whatever. So that would tell me that I'm in
[30:31] Speaker 6: that category for you, that there's some other girl who's
[30:33] Speaker 6: called you will not miss. Everybody has that person, so
[30:37] Speaker 6: you're just not that person. We have to accept when
[30:39] Speaker 6: we're not that person, and most don't want to accept that.
[30:41] Speaker 6: And I didn't even realize that until I met the
[30:43] Speaker 6: person who I was the person.
[30:46] Speaker 2: It's so interesting to me.
[30:47] Speaker 3: You say, like, the people who don't want to acknowledge
[30:50] Speaker 3: that they're not the person you need, you're unwell because
[30:54] Speaker 3: and I say that because if I even get a
[30:58] Speaker 3: slight tinge of like it seems like I'm not that
[31:01] Speaker 3: does not feel good turn off. It's a turn off,
[31:04] Speaker 3: but it also is just like it's embarrassing. It doesn't
[31:08] Speaker 3: feel good, and it makes you almost feel like you're
[31:10] Speaker 3: betraying yourself to keep moving forward in this. And when
[31:13] Speaker 3: you start betraying yourself.
[31:15] Speaker 1: Oh, it is a problem.
[31:17] Speaker 3: It's a problem. And I know some of y'all going
[31:19] Speaker 3: through this right now. Stop just you just ain't it
[31:22] Speaker 3: crying the bathtub. Put on some Beyonce and get over it.
[31:25] Speaker 5: And don't let the holiday blues have you out here
[31:27] Speaker 5: making moves that you're gonna regret.
[31:29] Speaker 1: That's the real thing.
[31:30] Speaker 6: This is the season, gro this is the season to
[31:33] Speaker 6: make some terrible choices. This is the season.
[31:36] Speaker 1: The holidays will do it. The emotion to high for
[31:39] Speaker 1: so many reasons, on your nerves and with questions, all
[31:42] Speaker 1: that stuff making you feel insecure.
[31:43] Speaker 2: You want to get a gift from somebody.
[31:46] Speaker 5: It's a hard time for a lot of people.
[31:48] Speaker 1: Yeah, get a dog. That's what I did. And this
[31:53] Speaker 1: is one of the best decisions I made. Okay, I'm
[31:54] Speaker 1: gonna be making those bad decisions I used to. I
[31:56] Speaker 1: got a baby. I have a child to think of.
[31:58] Speaker 1: Now I'm older and wiser and I am a mother
[32:02] Speaker 1: and we're a packaged deal. So you don't like my baby, well,
[32:07] Speaker 1: kick rocks. I don't have that problem anyway. Speaking of
[32:11] Speaker 1: treating yourself and getting gifts, what do you think about
[32:14] Speaker 1: regifting a present from an ex to your current partner?
[32:20] Speaker 1: Do they know? You know? They don't have to know.
[32:24] Speaker 1: And it's a nice gift, it's nice. It's not some
[32:27] Speaker 1: trink it's something nice.
[32:29] Speaker 5: That they would like and want, and they would never know.
[32:32] Speaker 1: Mm hmm. They would never know. That's why sometimes I
[32:36] Speaker 1: think it's okay to take things to the grave. But
[32:38] Speaker 1: what if you got some real, real goods to the grave?
[32:41] Speaker 2: Girl?
[32:42] Speaker 6: Everything is does not have to be so answer I
[32:46] Speaker 6: would it's nice list. I say, nice list, I say,
[32:50] Speaker 6: because if you have something that is a value that
[32:52] Speaker 6: you think I would like that I would never know
[32:54] Speaker 6: that this belongs to someone else.
[32:57] Speaker 5: By all means, my body hole got tight.
[33:00] Speaker 2: He got tight because did you do it before? No?
[33:03] Speaker 3: I was thinking about if it was done to me,
[33:04] Speaker 3: because I was like, well, what if it was, like,
[33:06] Speaker 3: it is a really nice gift. But then I'm just thinking,
[33:09] Speaker 3: like if you find out.
[33:11] Speaker 1: Depending on what it is, I mean, if it's something nice, okay,
[33:14] Speaker 1: So it's from an X to the other person, So
[33:18] Speaker 1: this is a unisex gift. I'm thinking it's some sort
[33:22] Speaker 1: of camera. It's from a gift from your ex. Oh,
[33:27] Speaker 1: I thought it was something I bought for an ex.
[33:29] Speaker 1: I get back and from your ex he gave it
[33:31] Speaker 1: to you. No, I wouldn't do that. You wouldn't.
[33:33] Speaker 2: I understood it wrong.
[33:35] Speaker 1: So it's not it's a gift from an ex and
[33:37] Speaker 1: I'm giving it to my new man.
[33:39] Speaker 2: Okay, No, no naughty.
[33:41] Speaker 1: Well, okay, I guess i'd be a naughty girl then,
[33:43] Speaker 1: because I think something. I mean nice stuff, no trinkets,
[33:46] Speaker 1: no little bullshit. But if it's something that I had
[33:49] Speaker 1: that I never used, maybe didn't even want, or it
[33:52] Speaker 1: didn't apply or like what.
[33:54] Speaker 2: I don't know.
[33:55] Speaker 5: I'm thinking, like that's an example. Give us an example.
[33:57] Speaker 1: If I just gave a camera, like nice camera, like
[34:00] Speaker 1: one of these, so someone gets you a box up,
[34:03] Speaker 1: it's still I never like Okay, okay, because I also
[34:07] Speaker 1: could have sold it and then just went and bought some.
[34:09] Speaker 1: But it's like I'm giving this is this is a
[34:11] Speaker 1: nice given. It's more than what I can buy for you.
[34:13] Speaker 1: You can buy these cameras. They're high. I think it
[34:17] Speaker 1: depends well.
[34:19] Speaker 2: Because I'm just thinking about it. If I if he
[34:21] Speaker 2: did to me, because.
[34:23] Speaker 1: Let's what if unless it's something like an engagement ring
[34:27] Speaker 1: or something, I don't want that regifted. But so I
[34:31] Speaker 1: would be okay with certain things, really certain things.
[34:34] Speaker 5: And if I had no idea that is.
[34:36] Speaker 1: The biggest I don't know either. Both sides of however,
[34:39] Speaker 1: y'all understood it was to say the other person won't
[34:42] Speaker 1: know whoever is getting to give.
[34:44] Speaker 3: You really don't know people, even when you think you
[34:45] Speaker 3: know people, because it's probably happened.
[34:47] Speaker 2: Honestly, right.
[34:48] Speaker 5: I mean, I have definitely regifted things to people yesterday.
[34:53] Speaker 1: Maybe I've never regifted anything that somebody like I was
[34:58] Speaker 1: romantically involved with every gave me or that I bought
[35:01] Speaker 1: for them, and I was like, I ain't getting it
[35:02] Speaker 1: no more. I've never done that. But I've definitely gifted stuff,
[35:08] Speaker 1: and I'm like, these are good things, Like it was
[35:09] Speaker 1: something I want. Maybe I have two Maybe one year
[35:12] Speaker 1: I got three of the same damn skincare sets, so
[35:16] Speaker 1: I gave two of them away.
[35:18] Speaker 2: That's different. I just this isn't technically regifting.
[35:25] Speaker 3: But this was just a gift that was from another man,
[35:27] Speaker 3: and it was it just got real awkward.
[35:29] Speaker 2: Something happened to one of my bags, and I.
[35:31] Speaker 3: Took it to the store to get it to send
[35:33] Speaker 3: it off to get it fixed, and my boyfriend came
[35:36] Speaker 3: with me.
[35:37] Speaker 2: This was so uncomfortable, y'all.
[35:38] Speaker 3: And this has nothing to do with regifting, but it
[35:40] Speaker 3: just scarred me toward It was like, if the name,
[35:42] Speaker 3: if a name is tied to it in any way,
[35:43] Speaker 3: I just don't Let's just let's just do this in private.
[35:46] Speaker 3: And I wish I would have did this in private.
[35:48] Speaker 3: He the bag. You know how if you're at certain stores,
[35:52] Speaker 3: you create a profile for what you buy, and he
[35:54] Speaker 3: called him the man's name that by the other man's
[35:57] Speaker 3: name who bought the back, and it was just this
[35:58] Speaker 3: who it was. I was so I felt like a prostitute.
[36:02] Speaker 3: I actually felt like a prostitute. Like it just looked
[36:04] Speaker 3: like it was just all bad. So I'm probably just
[36:07] Speaker 3: not gonna regift it because what if the camera got
[36:09] Speaker 3: registered in his name? I just can't do it. And
[36:12] Speaker 3: now I'm stressed, and now I'm looking embarrassed.
[36:15] Speaker 1: Yeah, you are for life.
[36:17] Speaker 5: That sounds embarrassing.
[36:18] Speaker 3: I feel you, okay with this land somebody on the
[36:20] Speaker 3: Naughty or Nice list, you broke up with someone by
[36:24] Speaker 3: using the classic it's not you, it's me line, But
[36:26] Speaker 3: really you were just bored.
[36:29] Speaker 5: No, I think that's nice.
[36:30] Speaker 1: I think that's nice too. Sometimes I think it's okay
[36:32] Speaker 1: to spare people's feelings.
[36:34] Speaker 6: And not waste their time. I'd rather you just cut
[36:35] Speaker 6: me loose and not waste my time. That is naughty
[36:38] Speaker 6: to me, wasting my time. No one that this ain't
[36:40] Speaker 6: going to where you don't like me?
[36:41] Speaker 1: Yeah, I agree. Okay, let's see sending a flirty holiday
[36:53] Speaker 1: DM to someone you know is in a relationship, y'all
[36:57] Speaker 1: ever get those are the relationship is earlier? I mean
[37:01] Speaker 1: as you get them, Like, do you ever get them?
[37:04] Speaker 1: People sending you messages like that and they know good
[37:07] Speaker 1: and well that y'all are in relationships.
[37:08] Speaker 3: You know, I get people more so people are respectful,
[37:12] Speaker 3: but but I do get the they're testing the waters,
[37:15] Speaker 3: like are you still in a relationship?
[37:17] Speaker 2: Are you still happy?
[37:18] Speaker 3: M M?
[37:20] Speaker 6: I don't really like on TikTok where people don't really
[37:22] Speaker 6: know me. Sometimes you know, people are stupid, But I
[37:24] Speaker 6: feel like on Instagram, if you don't know that I'm married,
[37:27] Speaker 6: or you don't care that I'm really.
[37:28] Speaker 1: I gonna say, it's not gonna be the they don't know.
[37:30] Speaker 5: Yeah, don't.
[37:30] Speaker 1: Yeah, I think. I think it's naughty either way, but
[37:36] Speaker 1: nothing naughtiest of things be it? You know what you're
[37:39] Speaker 1: doing again?
[37:40] Speaker 5: Now responding right now? Your response is what makes it naughty?
[37:43] Speaker 2: Are nice? Okay you're not.
[37:46] Speaker 3: Let's say you're not married, but you are dating someone
[37:48] Speaker 3: and you invite your situationship to your work holiday party.
[37:52] Speaker 1: Wait say that again.
[37:53] Speaker 3: You invite your situationship to your work holiday party.
[37:59] Speaker 5: But you're dating somebody else.
[38:03] Speaker 1: Now, why would you go into a silly thing like that? Yeah,
[38:07] Speaker 1: that is asking for unnecessary drama.
[38:09] Speaker 2: This is messy.
[38:12] Speaker 1: I have one about holiday parties too. If you invite
[38:15] Speaker 1: a plus one to the holiday party, but you spend
[38:18] Speaker 1: all night flirting with somebody else.
[38:19] Speaker 5: They oh, absolutely not. That is very naughty.
[38:23] Speaker 2: That is very naughty.
[38:27] Speaker 1: I was at a holiday party earlier this week and
[38:30] Speaker 1: that was happening. There was somebody who was flirting with
[38:34] Speaker 1: me a lot, and I kept like trying to like
[38:36] Speaker 1: move around and stuff like that. First of all, I
[38:38] Speaker 1: don't even know who he was or how he got
[38:40] Speaker 1: there because he didn't work for the same station. I
[38:43] Speaker 1: was like, I don't know, I don't know what's going on,
[38:45] Speaker 1: and then later as the night progresses, I realized, you're
[38:48] Speaker 1: here on a date with somebody. That's the worst.
[38:51] Speaker 2: When you're on the other end of you're like, I'm
[38:53] Speaker 2: innocent here lead you go to.
[38:55] Speaker 5: Your girl because I don't want this man, get him
[38:58] Speaker 5: out of here.
[38:59] Speaker 1: And well she it was worse because she was just
[39:01] Speaker 1: oblivious and I was like, well, I hope this isn't
[39:04] Speaker 1: too serious, and maybe she's just leaning into it. Maybe
[39:06] Speaker 1: she had a few drinks and she's just feeling really
[39:09] Speaker 1: close right now. I don't know, But that was so
[39:10] Speaker 1: all your.
[39:11] Speaker 3: Parties are always so interesting when it's a company holiday party.
[39:14] Speaker 3: So Keller, Williams, Buckhead have their holiday party.
[39:16] Speaker 2: And I went, and I'm new, so I don't really know.
[39:21] Speaker 3: And you know how some people know who the drunk
[39:23] Speaker 3: person is, who's the inappropriate person.
[39:27] Speaker 1: Who was walking in here?
[39:32] Speaker 3: And yeah, there were a couple of people where I
[39:35] Speaker 3: was like, oh, y'all drunk, drunk, like always trying to leave,
[39:39] Speaker 3: like I know I'm old because now I know what
[39:40] Speaker 3: are they doing? Just very handsy, very touchy, very like
[39:44] Speaker 3: we're not a booty grab or nothing, but just like yes,
[39:48] Speaker 3: And I was just like, I don't even want to
[39:52] Speaker 3: be a part of this. It's time for me to leave.
[39:56] Speaker 1: Okay, let's we're working. Weally got a little excited. We
[40:02] Speaker 1: have a small live studio audience. But yeah, coworkers acting
[40:07] Speaker 1: up as a holiday parties is interesting. This one was
[40:11] Speaker 1: just so different when I went because we did it combined,
[40:15] Speaker 1: and then there were a lot of like clients there.
[40:17] Speaker 1: I worked for a radio station outside of this, and
[40:20] Speaker 1: so a lot of our clients were there, and so
[40:23] Speaker 1: we don't know all of these people. So I'm like, oh,
[40:25] Speaker 1: it's a lot of people here. Who is everybody? I
[40:27] Speaker 1: knew who the usual suspects are, and it's funny to
[40:30] Speaker 1: see people be the same every single year.
[40:33] Speaker 5: It will be turned.
[40:34] Speaker 3: I don't know how you don't be embarrassed. I have
[40:36] Speaker 3: just been so embarrassed and drunk on this show. So
[40:39] Speaker 3: to do it at like your holiday work party, that
[40:42] Speaker 3: is just like, I'm going to quit.
[40:45] Speaker 1: Luckily, nobody got too messed up. The only thing that
[40:47] Speaker 1: ever really happens is old men just get too flirty.
[40:51] Speaker 1: That's that's the one.
[40:53] Speaker 3: Okay, is this naughty or nice? This isn't on the
[40:55] Speaker 3: LISTA I just thought about this. You're married, but you
[40:57] Speaker 3: want to get a divorce so you can go and
[40:59] Speaker 3: cheat on them.
[41:00] Speaker 1: Buddy. Okay, that is naughty, naughty, naughty, so naughty.
[41:06] Speaker 2: Okay, that's bad. Don't do that, y'all.
[41:08] Speaker 5: Don't do it.
[41:10] Speaker 1: I had to let her calm down. Okay, let's see
[41:15] Speaker 1: next one. Making this is like God, well, I guess
[41:22] Speaker 1: it depends on how you look at it. Making your
[41:24] Speaker 1: partner's gift something that's really for you, like concert tickets
[41:29] Speaker 1: for your favorite artists, or something.
[41:30] Speaker 5: That's don't do that.
[41:33] Speaker 2: Don't do that.
[41:34] Speaker 3: I'm selfish, Hue. Are you a good gift giver in
[41:39] Speaker 3: your relationship?
[41:40] Speaker 6: I am a good gift giver because I give gifts
[41:42] Speaker 6: that are like useful and things not necessarily things you need,
[41:46] Speaker 6: like they're not fun, but things that are meaningful for
[41:49] Speaker 6: you and not just like a Colonne set.
[41:51] Speaker 3: And that's important because you pay attention to what the
[41:55] Speaker 3: person that you love likes. It's different if it's just
[41:58] Speaker 3: like a random gift throughout the week and you're just like,
[42:01] Speaker 3: I just thought you would like it. But when it's
[42:02] Speaker 3: a birthday or Christmas, somebody you had, time you had,
[42:06] Speaker 3: it's never when people be like, you know, Christmas is like, what.
[42:12] Speaker 1: What does that mean.
[42:14] Speaker 3: People always know what these excuses like, you don't know
[42:16] Speaker 3: that Christmas is December twenty fifth. Every year, you don't
[42:19] Speaker 3: know somebody's birthday is the same day of their birth
[42:22] Speaker 3: Every single year, you had time, baby, you had time.
[42:25] Speaker 2: This is not an excuse. I think it does not care.
[42:27] Speaker 1: I will say this. I think that it can be
[42:30] Speaker 1: difficult to buy for certain people, not because you're not
[42:32] Speaker 1: thought for or anything, but if the person you want
[42:35] Speaker 1: to get a gift for is a combination of these
[42:37] Speaker 1: two things. One they never give you a chance to
[42:41] Speaker 1: ever want anything because they are quick to get at themselves.
[42:45] Speaker 1: And then two if they don't like to say what
[42:48] Speaker 1: they want. So there was a guy I wanted to
[42:51] Speaker 1: get him a gift, and I did get him something.
[42:52] Speaker 1: He really liked it, but he has this habit of
[42:58] Speaker 1: saying things that he needs. And I'm like, it's okay
[43:01] Speaker 1: to just want something. It doesn't have to be a
[43:03] Speaker 1: practical gift. It could be something very impractical as long
[43:07] Speaker 1: as you want it, like just say And I'm like,
[43:10] Speaker 1: what is that about. I think it's something from childhood.
[43:12] Speaker 1: I don't know, but yeah, I think that that can
[43:15] Speaker 1: be difficult, But you can be thoughtful and even if
[43:17] Speaker 1: they don't like it, do put effort in it. You know,
[43:20] Speaker 1: I think the lack of effort in trying to figure
[43:23] Speaker 1: it out, it's not cut that out.
[43:26] Speaker 2: That's the effort.
[43:27] Speaker 6: That's where the whole thought is, the thought that counts
[43:29] Speaker 6: thing comes from. Because I feel like I would much
[43:31] Speaker 6: rather have a gift that you put some thought into
[43:35] Speaker 6: that costs nothing, versus you going out and spending stupid
[43:39] Speaker 6: money on something that is just a complete waste.
[43:42] Speaker 1: Or even if it's something I don't like, we can
[43:44] Speaker 1: set the side of the cost aside. But you thought
[43:47] Speaker 1: that I want it because maybe I said something or
[43:50] Speaker 1: you notice something, you thought this would be a great gift.
[43:52] Speaker 1: And I'm disappointed because I don't really like to give.
[43:54] Speaker 1: But the thought and that you are listening, I can
[43:57] Speaker 1: appreciate that.
[43:58] Speaker 5: I agree.
[43:58] Speaker 1: I've had that happen before. It INSI right, I don't
[44:00] Speaker 1: want this, but thank you.
[44:02] Speaker 5: Yeah, And I wear it and I appreciate it.
[44:04] Speaker 1: I really do.
[44:05] Speaker 3: And if you're dating somebody who is hard to just
[44:07] Speaker 3: like get a gift for, I always like to say, listen,
[44:11] Speaker 3: do you remember that one year when I got my
[44:13] Speaker 3: boyfriend a song made and I honestly wasn't sure how
[44:17] Speaker 3: he was even gonna take it because it was like,
[44:19] Speaker 3: who does that crying?
[44:21] Speaker 2: I'm talking about instant tears. He didn't even go to.
[44:25] Speaker 1: What is that company's song, fins.
[44:27] Speaker 3: Songfinch dot com and get somebody a song made.
[44:30] Speaker 2: I'm talking about instant tears. If you listen to this,
[44:32] Speaker 2: now you didn't get a gift, you clearly don't care
[44:33] Speaker 2: about him.
[44:34] Speaker 3: Because its the day before Christmas. But if their birthday
[44:36] Speaker 3: is coming up, do something.
[44:38] Speaker 1: Like, yeah, it's after Christmas.
[44:40] Speaker 3: Now, yeah, but yeah, that's a good one. Like it
[44:46] Speaker 3: it's you don't you don't know you needed it, but
[44:48] Speaker 3: then you needed it because in the details of the
[44:50] Speaker 3: song you put you can you create the lyrics, you
[44:53] Speaker 3: put your story in it.
[44:54] Speaker 2: You It was just a beautiful situation I did.
[44:58] Speaker 1: I did one for my grandmother for her eightieth birthday,
[45:01] Speaker 1: and she was crying. I don't even think she could
[45:04] Speaker 1: really understand all of what was being in the song,
[45:06] Speaker 1: because when it was done and she was done crying,
[45:08] Speaker 1: she asked me to send her the lyrics. She has
[45:09] Speaker 1: a hearing problem, but just she could pick up on it,
[45:13] Speaker 1: and then I did send it to her. She was
[45:15] Speaker 1: able to read it and it's nice and they have
[45:17] Speaker 1: like nice little gift giving things. And there was another
[45:19] Speaker 1: company that we had worked with in the past. I
[45:22] Speaker 1: think it's called Paint Your Life. They will paint a
[45:24] Speaker 1: portrait for and it's like actually a painting, painting, not
[45:28] Speaker 1: digital print, and you give them a picture. There's little
[45:32] Speaker 1: things like that that somebody wouldn't know that they would want.
[45:36] Speaker 1: That's thoughtful and special. And it doesn't even have to
[45:39] Speaker 1: be a picture of them. I know somebody did a
[45:42] Speaker 1: picture and they the guy's mom had passed away, and
[45:46] Speaker 1: so she got him a portrait made with him and
[45:50] Speaker 1: his mom and his grandma. They don't have a picture
[45:53] Speaker 1: with the three of them, but they're able to make one.
[45:55] Speaker 1: So yeah, y'all, Well, we just gave y' all.
[45:57] Speaker 5: Some good ideas.
[45:59] Speaker 1: And it could be or birthday or just because you
[46:01] Speaker 1: don't have to wait for a holiday to give it,
[46:03] Speaker 1: give a gift to somebody. The unexpected ones I personally
[46:06] Speaker 1: think are even better, just because.
[46:10] Speaker 3: Okay, so I have one that just popped off the
[46:12] Speaker 3: top of my head. Is this naughty or nice? You're
[46:15] Speaker 3: dating someone you are you think something's wrong with them,
[46:21] Speaker 3: like mentally and so you gift them a therapy session.
[46:26] Speaker 2: Is that naughty or nice?
[46:29] Speaker 5: That's nice?
[46:31] Speaker 1: It's nice. Is this a Christmas gift?
[46:34] Speaker 3: It's a Christmas gift? Okay, you wrap it up. Still,
[46:38] Speaker 3: you wrap it up, You put an envelope, put it
[46:39] Speaker 3: under the tree. They cold get some therapy because something's
[46:42] Speaker 3: wrong with you.
[46:43] Speaker 5: I think it's nice.
[46:44] Speaker 3: They don't think they have a problem, then I'm sorry.
[46:49] Speaker 3: I still think it's nice because somebody you if I
[46:52] Speaker 3: don't help you, who is.
[46:53] Speaker 1: The thought does count? However, I think it's all in presentation.
[46:58] Speaker 1: That is not I feel like, like, you know you crazy, right?
[47:02] Speaker 1: That would set somebody on Christmas because imagine if they
[47:05] Speaker 1: felt the same about you, and you open up your
[47:07] Speaker 1: gifts and that's what it is, and you thinking I've
[47:09] Speaker 1: been going to therapy already and say well you need
[47:11] Speaker 1: another one because we're trying to be doing it. I
[47:15] Speaker 1: don't know. I think that you could give somebody therapy
[47:18] Speaker 1: that's a good just because and like have a conversation
[47:20] Speaker 1: like I got this for you and go. But that
[47:26] Speaker 1: that is a tough I would be upset if that
[47:29] Speaker 1: was what I opened up, if there was.
[47:31] Speaker 5: No prior conversation, if we if you hadn't mentioned it before,
[47:34] Speaker 5: and then.
[47:35] Speaker 1: If you know I wanted for it, don't know where
[47:39] Speaker 1: to go. Okay, but if ain't none of that going on,
[47:43] Speaker 1: that's gonna certify.
[47:46] Speaker 5: How crazy I ain't. They're going to prove it.
[47:52] Speaker 1: Okay. What about if you cancel your holiday plans with
[48:00] Speaker 1: your significant other to spend time with your family instead,
[48:04] Speaker 1: and maybe you uninvited them too because they thought they
[48:07] Speaker 1: could come and now they can't.
[48:09] Speaker 5: Very naughty, and we're done.
[48:12] Speaker 2: Say it again.
[48:14] Speaker 1: You cancel plans with your significant other to spend time
[48:17] Speaker 1: with your family instead, and you might have also uninvited
[48:21] Speaker 1: them by doing that because they thought that they could come.
[48:24] Speaker 2: M that's mean.
[48:26] Speaker 1: What if you did not uninvite them.
[48:28] Speaker 2: You just never invited them?
[48:31] Speaker 5: Still mean?
[48:31] Speaker 1: But you made plans with them too, like you double
[48:34] Speaker 1: booked yourself and now you got to cancel.
[48:36] Speaker 2: And you chose your family over.
[48:39] Speaker 3: I get weird about the holidays and dating because I'm
[48:42] Speaker 3: one of those people where it's like, choose me.
[48:46] Speaker 1: I think it's naughty only because if you made plans
[48:51] Speaker 1: and then you canceled them, that makes it naughty. If
[48:54] Speaker 1: you just didn't make the plans, that's different.
[48:57] Speaker 6: I still want to know why, because what are we
[48:59] Speaker 6: doing in this relationship ship if we're not spending the holid?
[49:01] Speaker 1: Yeah, I think that's not a balid conversation.
[49:04] Speaker 3: Yeah, if we're in a relationship and then the holidays
[49:06] Speaker 3: come around and it's starting to get weird and we
[49:08] Speaker 3: don't want to talk about, like what we're doing with families.
[49:10] Speaker 3: If I'm not saying I need to be embedded. You
[49:12] Speaker 3: never know how long you've been dating. But I'm one
[49:14] Speaker 3: of those people. I don't care how long we've been dating.
[49:15] Speaker 3: If we're saying we're dating and you are entering in
[49:18] Speaker 3: my body, somebody's coming to somebody's family's house.
[49:21] Speaker 5: Or you're at least inviting me and giving me the chance,
[49:24] Speaker 5: you're not.
[49:24] Speaker 2: Just like, so what you doing?
[49:27] Speaker 1: Conversation?
[49:28] Speaker 3: You were we gotta communicate, sir. You're sending me a
[49:32] Speaker 3: plenty of.
[49:33] Speaker 1: Food, upset your hat.
[49:37] Speaker 3: We're gonna get real, real different around the holidays.
[49:41] Speaker 1: And I think it's because things get real a lot
[49:43] Speaker 1: more serious. It's not play places the same force would
[49:46] Speaker 1: you love barbecues.
[49:47] Speaker 3: And you start to know your place in somebody's life,
[49:49] Speaker 3: because if you're not the one getting chosen somebody else
[49:52] Speaker 3: seeing that way grandma getting to school a potato sal or.
[49:56] Speaker 1: Nobody is and they have no plans to bring anybody
[49:59] Speaker 1: for a while, and they are actually just not interested
[50:02] Speaker 1: in moving forward. Yeah, either way, you're not the one.
[50:06] Speaker 1: So if you wanted it to be the one you
[50:08] Speaker 1: thought it was and he was waiting around, well, I mean,
[50:10] Speaker 1: you know now it's after Christmas.
[50:12] Speaker 2: You know it wasn't you.
[50:13] Speaker 1: But take this time between now and the new year
[50:16] Speaker 1: and maybe like, don't bring that person in because y'all
[50:19] Speaker 1: are not on the same page, or get a ticket
[50:23] Speaker 1: out of Dululu Island. Because sometimes I will say, and
[50:26] Speaker 1: this happens on both sides. People act like they thought
[50:29] Speaker 1: that something was going to happen, but when they explain
[50:32] Speaker 1: the situation, it's like, well, how did you ever think
[50:35] Speaker 1: that nothing that the other person did should have led
[50:39] Speaker 1: you to believe.
[50:39] Speaker 2: That you were coming for Christmas? Like he ain't been texting.
[50:42] Speaker 1: You, like you're not coming to anything. You can't come
[50:46] Speaker 1: to church nothing.
[50:48] Speaker 2: Oh I don't.
[50:51] Speaker 6: I can't know your place. Just know your place and
[50:54] Speaker 6: don't pretend like it's somewhere.
[50:55] Speaker 1: That's keep your eyes open. That's hard for a lot
[50:57] Speaker 1: of people.
[50:57] Speaker 6: It's very hard because you weren't you want you want
[51:00] Speaker 6: them to want you.
[51:02] Speaker 3: Somebody told me something the other day. I was talking
[51:04] Speaker 3: to a girlfriend of mine. She's a yoga instructor and
[51:06] Speaker 3: so she always goes real deep, and she was like,
[51:09] Speaker 3: you know, our brains were designed to save our lives literally,
[51:13] Speaker 3: so they will romanticize certain things to save you from pain.
[51:19] Speaker 3: Sometimes you gotta like video record your pain and go
[51:23] Speaker 3: back and watch it just to remind your brain. No, no, no,
[51:27] Speaker 3: baby girl, we romanticize in the situation that does not
[51:30] Speaker 3: deserve to be romanticized.
[51:32] Speaker 2: Women can be very forgetful.
[51:34] Speaker 3: There's a word for it, and it's because we give
[51:36] Speaker 3: We're made to give birth, and so you forget, you
[51:39] Speaker 3: forget pain, you forget it. That's how you can have
[51:42] Speaker 3: multiple kids, y'all. Was just like, oh shit, let me
[51:44] Speaker 3: start video recording.
[51:45] Speaker 6: Listen my breakup strategy. When I was a single woman,
[51:48] Speaker 6: I felt like I was like a breakup artist. I
[51:49] Speaker 6: was like, I was like master this thing. But one
[51:53] Speaker 6: of the things that I would do is I would
[51:54] Speaker 6: literally make like a breakup list in my phone of
[51:57] Speaker 6: like all of the horrible things that this person has
[51:59] Speaker 6: done to me. So if I ever slipped back into
[52:02] Speaker 6: de Lulu lane. I can just remind myself like, no,
[52:06] Speaker 6: there's no way, and then.
[52:08] Speaker 3: It's like if, but if the way does come and
[52:10] Speaker 3: you just ignore the list, it's.
[52:11] Speaker 5: Like, yeah, you have this evidence.
[52:14] Speaker 2: Yes, you need the therapy.
[52:16] Speaker 6: You have to remind yourself of those things, because we
[52:18] Speaker 6: will go to the fantasy of what we thought it
[52:20] Speaker 6: was going to be in the good times we had
[52:22] Speaker 6: and all the ship he told you, and then you'll
[52:24] Speaker 6: slip right back into that.
[52:26] Speaker 2: Now you're in the bathtub crying with a yeast affection.
[52:29] Speaker 5: Girl and a baby. No, no, we made up a
[52:33] Speaker 5: whole scenario and a baby. Don't do it. Don't do it.
[52:40] Speaker 1: That sounds stressful and very uncomfortable to all my lady parts.
[52:43] Speaker 3: Okay, okay, this is my last this, this is the
[52:46] Speaker 3: last one. It's just popped in my head too. Is
[52:47] Speaker 3: this naughty or nice? Okay, you're going on a trip.
[52:50] Speaker 3: He planned it and it's a good trip. You getting
[52:53] Speaker 3: flued out, you're in love. He got himself a first
[52:57] Speaker 3: class ticket and you and you in comfort place.
[53:00] Speaker 1: That is very naughty.
[53:01] Speaker 5: Question.
[53:02] Speaker 6: Did he get randomly upgraded or did he purchase himself
[53:05] Speaker 6: a first class question?
[53:07] Speaker 2: Let's say that.
[53:09] Speaker 6: Either way, my man cannot sit in first class without me,
[53:11] Speaker 6: so it don't really matter what that This is a
[53:13] Speaker 6: real question.
[53:13] Speaker 5: Me and my husband had.
[53:14] Speaker 6: No, you can't do it because this has happened where
[53:16] Speaker 6: he will get the random upgrade. No, nigga, and he'll
[53:18] Speaker 6: be like, you can go. No, we are on this
[53:20] Speaker 6: flight together.
[53:22] Speaker 2: This is the first woman that sat the girl in
[53:24] Speaker 2: it together.
[53:25] Speaker 1: Yeah, you going to first class, absolutely, and I've done it.
[53:29] Speaker 3: I had.
[53:30] Speaker 1: We were on the same flight when you did it,
[53:31] Speaker 1: and I walked. I was in first class. The man
[53:35] Speaker 1: that came I got the upgrade, and I'm not passing
[53:37] Speaker 1: rade though, Yeah.
[53:38] Speaker 5: Okay, you wanted to pass back a free drink.
[53:41] Speaker 1: He was in Comfort Plus, so he had drinks and
[53:44] Speaker 1: I offered. When I got the upgrade, I was going
[53:48] Speaker 1: to see if I could just surprise him and pay
[53:50] Speaker 1: for his upgrade. I was going to do that, but
[53:53] Speaker 1: they didn't have no more upgrades available. So I'm sorry
[53:56] Speaker 1: to that man. He still made it to the destination.
[53:59] Speaker 1: We still got there, and it wasn't like he paid
[54:01] Speaker 1: for the destination. That was that was a trip because
[54:05] Speaker 1: of us, so and he had a great time circumstances,
[54:08] Speaker 1: but it's not like everything lied together, we died together.
[54:14] Speaker 2: If I get an upgrade, I'm denying me.
[54:16] Speaker 1: I'm coming to the buy am not. And what do
[54:18] Speaker 1: they tell you on the plane? You know, because you've
[54:20] Speaker 1: been in a flight attendant before for many years, you
[54:23] Speaker 1: gotta save yourself first before you can help anybody else.
[54:27] Speaker 1: And we all were on the plane. We all made
[54:30] Speaker 1: it to the destination. Everything was fine.
[54:32] Speaker 5: He didn't.
[54:34] Speaker 1: Because he could have bought it. He got guy, he
[54:37] Speaker 1: could have bought a first class ticket to begin with,
[54:39] Speaker 1: because when we were going on the trip, initially the
[54:42] Speaker 1: first class was open, so if you if you need
[54:45] Speaker 1: to really get there. And so it didn't work out.
[54:46] Speaker 1: But on the way back we sat together. But on
[54:49] Speaker 1: the way there isn't happening. Oh well, and I would
[54:51] Speaker 1: do it again. I also on the flip side, I'll
[54:55] Speaker 1: be honest. On the flip side, I would not have
[54:57] Speaker 1: been upset if his flight got upgraded and mine didn't
[55:00] Speaker 1: and I had to sit back there, like go have
[55:02] Speaker 1: fun and enjoy it.
[55:03] Speaker 3: Is why I would be pissed because most people that
[55:07] Speaker 3: I date, we have so much fun together, Like the
[55:12] Speaker 3: actual presence of us just being everything we do is
[55:16] Speaker 3: like we just have fun.
[55:17] Speaker 2: Together. No, so we.
[55:19] Speaker 5: Come back in for the fun.
[55:20] Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like what you're doing on the plane together,
[55:22] Speaker 1: playing games.
[55:23] Speaker 3: We'll download certain shows, movies like I'm a We just
[55:28] Speaker 3: have so much fun, telling jokes, talking about people, like
[55:32] Speaker 3: holding hands and cuddling and sleeping, like I want if
[55:35] Speaker 3: I'm traveling with you, I truly want to be I
[55:37] Speaker 3: want to just.
[55:38] Speaker 2: Be with you. When is jo I'm a Libra, I'm
[55:41] Speaker 2: a lover girl.
[55:42] Speaker 6: I love definitely Libra And I'm like, so none of that,
[55:46] Speaker 6: but I love that October.
[55:48] Speaker 3: That's what I'm a September September libers. And also they
[55:51] Speaker 3: totally did different ouse. I'm like, oh, what what is
[55:55] Speaker 3: that I expect?
[55:57] Speaker 2: Girl, I'm talking about I need. I want to hold
[55:59] Speaker 2: hands the whole flight, to be in their skin.
[56:01] Speaker 5: I am that that way a little bit. Yeah I can't.
[56:06] Speaker 1: I can handle the end for a little bit, but
[56:08] Speaker 1: I haven't needing space needs space, And I like to
[56:12] Speaker 1: communicate that so that everybody knows this is me. I
[56:17] Speaker 1: just don't be offended.
[56:18] Speaker 6: But I mean, and if you travel with someone like
[56:22] Speaker 6: for more than five days, do you start feeling like, Okay,
[56:25] Speaker 6: I gotta run downstairs and take thirty minutes to myself
[56:28] Speaker 6: or do you start feeling like that or are you
[56:30] Speaker 6: still like what's your max that you can like be
[56:32] Speaker 6: up under someone?
[56:34] Speaker 2: It depends on who it is. Honestly, it depends on
[56:36] Speaker 2: who it is.
[56:37] Speaker 3: I'm the type of person where I know, like in
[56:39] Speaker 3: a relationship, I like to do most things together and
[56:44] Speaker 3: I want to be with somebody that. But I've been
[56:49] Speaker 3: in the position where I'm traveling with someone and it
[56:51] Speaker 3: is like, oh no, I need a minute, like I
[56:54] Speaker 3: need a break, and I'm actually just gonna lie and
[56:56] Speaker 3: act like I have.
[56:57] Speaker 2: Something cool and I don't.
[56:59] Speaker 3: Or if I friend in the city, I'm going and
[57:01] Speaker 3: you can't come like but but that wouldn't work for me.
[57:04] Speaker 3: I'm someone that pays attention to, like I want to
[57:06] Speaker 3: be married, and so if I feel that way, it's
[57:09] Speaker 3: probably not my guy because I don't want to be
[57:10] Speaker 3: running from you. I'm running where are we going?
[57:15] Speaker 1: Sometimes it's not about the other person. You just want
[57:18] Speaker 1: some space sometime or not even mad, like I'm fine,
[57:22] Speaker 1: but I just I don't want to talk. I don't
[57:23] Speaker 1: want to do it, and you're going to be upset
[57:26] Speaker 1: if I don't want to engage and I don't want
[57:27] Speaker 1: to upset you, so like, let me just take a
[57:29] Speaker 1: minute because I need a minute. It's a lot of
[57:32] Speaker 1: togetherness and I just want a little space and I
[57:35] Speaker 1: don't want to upset you either, but now I'm getting upset.
[57:38] Speaker 1: So the compromise is I will go do something and
[57:40] Speaker 1: I might pick a time when you sleep anyway, or
[57:43] Speaker 1: you can you can go do this other thing that
[57:45] Speaker 1: you wanted to do by yourself.
[57:46] Speaker 3: I be mad and still want to be with you.
[57:50] Speaker 1: You absolutely not no, no, no.
[57:54] Speaker 3: No, but to the flight back to the flight thing.
[57:56] Speaker 3: I just wanted to share this story because scenarios be
[57:59] Speaker 3: all different. One time, when I was getting fluke out
[58:01] Speaker 3: with a man who is now dead, rest in.
[58:03] Speaker 2: Peace, niggas.
[58:04] Speaker 3: He this was before you could like do the whole
[58:07] Speaker 3: check in on your phone and everything, and.
[58:09] Speaker 6: Girl, you said rest in peace, nigga. I have never
[58:11] Speaker 6: heard it before. Please continue.
[58:13] Speaker 5: Wow.
[58:14] Speaker 2: He was like, do you want to come?
[58:16] Speaker 3: He had a he was like a manager and Lord Jesus,
[58:21] Speaker 3: he was like, do you want to come to Orlando
[58:23] Speaker 3: with us like such and such as a show?
[58:25] Speaker 2: You want to come? I was so excited. I was
[58:27] Speaker 2: so excited.
[58:28] Speaker 3: You'd be dumb in your twenties and I'm like, yeah,
[58:31] Speaker 3: I'm going to go. And so he gets the flights
[58:33] Speaker 3: and this is before like you're checking in online. You
[58:35] Speaker 3: got to go to the gate and like check in.
[58:37] Speaker 3: This is some years ago and we met at the airport.
[58:40] Speaker 3: He was at the gate. I go check in. I
[58:42] Speaker 3: meet him at the gate and I'm just like so excited.
[58:44] Speaker 3: I'm like fine with him and this like celebrity dude.
[58:49] Speaker 3: We go to board. They start calling the groups. They're
[58:51] Speaker 3: like first class. He gets up to go board and
[58:53] Speaker 3: I was like, hmm, I was in group nine.
[58:58] Speaker 2: I get up to go board.
[59:00] Speaker 3: I get up to go board. I walked past him
[59:02] Speaker 3: on first class. We are traveling together. He brought me
[59:06] Speaker 3: a drink to the back. I might I might be triggered.
[59:09] Speaker 3: That's why I need to sit with you and your
[59:10] Speaker 3: hand and laid my hand on your shoulder the whole
[59:12] Speaker 3: fucking flight. He brought me a drink back and this
[59:15] Speaker 3: white lady was sitting next to me and she was like, honey,
[59:17] Speaker 3: are you traveling with him?
[59:19] Speaker 2: And I was like yeah.
[59:19] Speaker 3: She was like this is unacceptable. I know your mother
[59:22] Speaker 3: raised you better than this. I was so embarrassed and
[59:26] Speaker 3: I didn't even know that I should have been before
[59:27] Speaker 3: the white lady tapped me. I was like, I'm getting
[59:30] Speaker 3: fleued out, and I didn't know. That's not how you
[59:32] Speaker 3: do it. That's not how you do it. If that's
[59:34] Speaker 3: happening to you, that's not how you do it.
[59:36] Speaker 2: And he brought me my drink back. He went sat
[59:38] Speaker 2: back down, And.
[59:39] Speaker 5: How did the rest of the trip go? Because that
[59:41] Speaker 5: was on the way where y'all were.
[59:42] Speaker 1: Going were That was on the way.
[59:44] Speaker 3: That was on the way, and you have to remember
[59:45] Speaker 3: I was in my twenties, So the rest of the
[59:47] Speaker 3: trip still went really good. What everybody, well, I am
[59:55] Speaker 3: so sorry that that happened to you.
[59:58] Speaker 1: That's the only space and I will be in first
[1:00:01] Speaker 1: and you can be wherever you're gonna be. You pay
[1:00:03] Speaker 1: for your own upgrade or do whatever you need to do,
[1:00:07] Speaker 1: and don't be mad. Read your book, take a nap.
[1:00:09] Speaker 1: She can be energized when we get there, because I
[1:00:12] Speaker 1: also don't like when I get to a destination and
[1:00:14] Speaker 1: you stayed up on the whole flight. Now you need
[1:00:16] Speaker 1: the TV shows and now you want to sleep all day.
[1:00:18] Speaker 1: I don't want to sleep. We're here. You should took
[1:00:20] Speaker 1: your nap. You need to drink your drink so that
[1:00:22] Speaker 1: you can sleep easily. Please tell me scared.
[1:00:24] Speaker 5: Please tell me your zodiac sign as well. Yes, I guess. Oh,
[1:00:31] Speaker 5: I don't want to guess. It could be offensive.
[1:00:32] Speaker 1: She does, I won't be I won't. She likes space,
[1:00:36] Speaker 1: I like I won't be offended. Yes, in a date
[1:00:42] Speaker 1: September thirteenth, I don't like space.
[1:00:46] Speaker 5: Okay, you said you should. You need to have taken
[1:00:48] Speaker 5: your nap when you said that, Yes, virgo your nap.
[1:00:53] Speaker 1: To talk about these things like, okay, we're trying. How
[1:00:56] Speaker 1: you like to do it, especially if I haven't done
[1:00:57] Speaker 1: it with you before. How do you like to do things?
[1:01:00] Speaker 1: Would kind of trip? I need to know these things
[1:01:03] Speaker 1: because I gotta mentally kind of traveler?
[1:01:05] Speaker 5: Are you? That's a real thing, dude.
[1:01:07] Speaker 3: I always tell people you're dating somebody, make sure you travel.
[1:01:11] Speaker 2: With them before you get married. When you travel with somebody,
[1:01:15] Speaker 2: you learn a lot about them. You see how they
[1:01:17] Speaker 2: treat people. You see if they're on time. I'm not.
[1:01:19] Speaker 2: I don't play with time in the airport. If you
[1:01:21] Speaker 2: run in late by the skin of your chinny, chin chin,
[1:01:24] Speaker 2: I don't like that shit.
[1:01:25] Speaker 3: It is a character flaw. Why are you doing this
[1:01:28] Speaker 3: at the airport. Why didn't you pack right?
[1:01:30] Speaker 1: You knew you had a bottle of lotion in the luggage.
[1:01:33] Speaker 1: Why don't you have pre check or clear We could.
[1:01:37] Speaker 5: Have set it up, but you didn't plan.
[1:01:40] Speaker 2: It tells you a lot about somebody.
[1:01:43] Speaker 1: Telling you there too. If you don't have pre check
[1:01:46] Speaker 1: Global Entraine.
[1:01:47] Speaker 5: Now, yeah, that's different, that's totally.
[1:01:50] Speaker 2: But I also have not experienced it.
[1:01:51] Speaker 3: Girl.
[1:01:52] Speaker 5: I'm not saying in general admission for.
[1:01:54] Speaker 2: But here's what you do.
[1:01:55] Speaker 3: I need to we need to have a conversation, like
[1:01:57] Speaker 3: before we even get to the flight.
[1:01:58] Speaker 2: You got to pre check. You have clearly get it. Yeah,
[1:02:01] Speaker 2: let's get it.
[1:02:02] Speaker 1: I mean pre check is something that you can get overnight.
[1:02:05] Speaker 1: I have a plan for that, but yeah, playing I
[1:02:08] Speaker 1: send the promo code.
[1:02:09] Speaker 3: When you travel with somebody, you see if they're a planner,
[1:02:11] Speaker 3: you get to see who's the planner.
[1:02:12] Speaker 5: You didn't even know what Global Entry was.
[1:02:15] Speaker 1: Even the free mobile passport app. You don't have your passport.
[1:02:19] Speaker 2: They're like, I don't have a passport.
[1:02:20] Speaker 5: All of those things those tell you who you are.
[1:02:23] Speaker 1: We talk about an international trip. If you don't have
[1:02:26] Speaker 1: the proper document.
[1:02:28] Speaker 3: Well, let's just say we're trying to see where we're
[1:02:29] Speaker 3: going in the summer. You just happen to say, let's
[1:02:31] Speaker 3: go to I don't know, let's go to Tulum. And
[1:02:32] Speaker 3: he's like, oh, I have a passport?
[1:02:34] Speaker 1: Oh okay, well are you ready to get it. I'm
[1:02:39] Speaker 1: not gonna lie.
[1:02:40] Speaker 3: I can't continue this because why that would be we
[1:02:42] Speaker 3: are forty six years old?
[1:02:44] Speaker 1: Forty six I'm not Did you see the comment on
[1:02:49] Speaker 1: one of the episode was a little we made a joke.
[1:02:51] Speaker 1: We always talk about our are seventy eight. I have
[1:02:54] Speaker 1: lied so much about my age, and this day I
[1:02:57] Speaker 1: told the truth. Whatever my age is, who knows, anyway,
[1:03:00] Speaker 1: I told the truth and Medina we're the same age.
[1:03:03] Speaker 1: We are ten days together. Yeah, she's like, I'm not
[1:03:07] Speaker 1: whatever age I said to day, I'm not that. And
[1:03:10] Speaker 1: I was like, oh okay, And so somebody was like, oh,
[1:03:12] Speaker 1: I didn't realize y'all were so far apartoner age. I
[1:03:14] Speaker 1: was like, girl, that was a joke.
[1:03:16] Speaker 3: And that's why I'm going to get some feelers in
[1:03:18] Speaker 3: my face and my chin done because y'all think we.
[1:03:20] Speaker 5: Old don't do it. Did you see the lady with
[1:03:23] Speaker 5: the pas.
[1:03:23] Speaker 2: I'm doing it? Yeah? Good? Did you that.
[1:03:29] Speaker 1: You I'm not dying before. Sometimes people go to people
[1:03:36] Speaker 1: no matter how much money they have, they are still
[1:03:38] Speaker 1: going to people you are not like.
[1:03:43] Speaker 5: Do you know what that is?
[1:03:44] Speaker 1: Well, she said it was a paras I think she
[1:03:46] Speaker 1: just had a bad feeler, drive and sympathy. She was
[1:03:50] Speaker 1: on some reality shows that I watched. She has a
[1:03:53] Speaker 1: lot of unscrupulous behaviors.
[1:03:54] Speaker 5: Okay, Okay, so she's not a good example.
[1:03:58] Speaker 1: Okay, there's there's other you know. Have you seen Lindsay
[1:04:01] Speaker 1: Lohan lately? She and Linda and Hilaria Is that Okay?
[1:04:07] Speaker 1: They've been looking nice and lots of people do it,
[1:04:10] Speaker 1: whether you realize it or not. The key is to
[1:04:12] Speaker 1: be conservative in your enhancements. And you don't have to
[1:04:16] Speaker 1: change your face. You enhance your features and that'll help.
[1:04:20] Speaker 5: Don't change your face, enhance your features like make up.
[1:04:23] Speaker 1: But more permanent.
[1:04:24] Speaker 2: I love it more, do it? Okay? So I'm not not.
[1:04:27] Speaker 2: We're gonna move on in Decisive Diana.
[1:04:29] Speaker 3: When we come back, coriol is going to help us
[1:04:31] Speaker 3: give you, ladies and gentlemen, some advice.
[1:04:36] Speaker 5: Would you stop thinking about what everyone wants?
[1:04:39] Speaker 1: Stop thinking about what I want?
[1:04:40] Speaker 2: What do you want?
[1:04:41] Speaker 1: What your parents want.
[1:04:42] Speaker 5: What do you want?
[1:04:43] Speaker 3: What do you want?
[1:04:45] Speaker 5: What do you want?
[1:04:48] Speaker 1: What do you want?
[1:04:54] Speaker 4: Hey, ladies and gentlemen, if you're in the house this
[1:04:59] Speaker 4: week's date, I it's coming from the heart literally. I
[1:05:03] Speaker 4: think you should plan something and this should be a
[1:05:05] Speaker 4: date or you can do it's solo. But do something
[1:05:08] Speaker 4: when you're giving back to the less fortunate, help somebody
[1:05:11] Speaker 4: who needs a little bit of help. Ask your babe
[1:05:14] Speaker 4: if they're interested in giving back. Maybe you go to
[1:05:17] Speaker 4: a soup kitchen. Maybe you donates some clothes. If they
[1:05:20] Speaker 4: say no to that, and if you don't want.
[1:05:22] Speaker 8: To do it, what does it say about you?
[1:05:51] Speaker 1: All Right, and we are back from Indecisive Diana and
[1:05:54] Speaker 1: it's time for the advice. If you have a question
[1:05:56] Speaker 1: that you would like for us to answer on an episode,
[1:06:00] Speaker 1: please email us. The email for that is at vice
[1:06:03] Speaker 1: at cocktailspod dot com and put advice in the subject line.
[1:06:07] Speaker 3: Okay, so this one is titled does she really need
[1:06:13] Speaker 3: to know?
[1:06:17] Speaker 2: I'm gonna just get straight to the point.
[1:06:19] Speaker 1: Thank you.
[1:06:20] Speaker 3: Me and my coworker have been working together for a
[1:06:22] Speaker 3: couple of years. Recently, she told me she's not happy
[1:06:25] Speaker 3: with her pay and is considering a different job. I
[1:06:28] Speaker 3: really didn't want her to leave, but ultimately supported her decision.
[1:06:32] Speaker 3: So I helped with her resume and did some references
[1:06:36] Speaker 3: for her. She ended up getting an offer for eight
[1:06:39] Speaker 3: k more than what she was making now. However, during
[1:06:44] Speaker 3: this time, I got a promotion and would be her manager.
[1:06:48] Speaker 3: The change would happen on January first, twenty twenty five.
[1:06:51] Speaker 3: I can't and won't give her the pay she's looking for.
[1:06:54] Speaker 3: But since we are having a baby in March, why
[1:06:57] Speaker 3: is this the coworker?
[1:07:00] Speaker 2: Okay, people will be outside.
[1:07:04] Speaker 3: Okay, so since we are having a baby in March,
[1:07:08] Speaker 3: nobody knows that at the office. See the holiday party,
[1:07:11] Speaker 3: That's what happened.
[1:07:12] Speaker 2: Does she really need.
[1:07:13] Speaker 3: To know I got promoted and we'll be making an
[1:07:14] Speaker 3: additional seventeen k per year, or does it not matter
[1:07:17] Speaker 3: because she's leaving?
[1:07:18] Speaker 2: Best?
[1:07:21] Speaker 1: No way, the goddamn miss.
[1:07:23] Speaker 2: I'm very confused.
[1:07:24] Speaker 1: You are having a baby, a baby with your coworker.
[1:07:29] Speaker 1: Your coworker wants to leave because she's not making enough.
[1:07:33] Speaker 1: But you, since she's been applying for jobs and she's
[1:07:37] Speaker 1: gotten an offer, you are getting a job with your
[1:07:40] Speaker 1: baby mama or baby daddy baby mama, and you're going
[1:07:45] Speaker 1: to be making seventeen thousand more dollars. You don't want
[1:07:50] Speaker 1: to tell her that you got a pay increase or
[1:07:53] Speaker 1: that you got a promotion, And is that a secret
[1:07:55] Speaker 1: that you really intend to keep from her? And you're
[1:07:59] Speaker 1: calling her worker? So like, did y'all do like one
[1:08:02] Speaker 1: of those team building retreats and you really worked on
[1:08:05] Speaker 1: building but instead of building a team, you started trying
[1:08:07] Speaker 1: to build a family. And then you were like, how
[1:08:10] Speaker 1: did this happen? This is why I say say no
[1:08:11] Speaker 1: to coworkers. But you know, sometimes it works out. I
[1:08:14] Speaker 1: don't know many people it does. This is wild, and
[1:08:18] Speaker 1: then that would be really inappropriate. I don't well, I
[1:08:23] Speaker 1: don't know if y'all are dating. I think that part
[1:08:26] Speaker 1: will not work because you likes to keep real, big
[1:08:28] Speaker 1: important secrets. I think it. I think it matters, But
[1:08:34] Speaker 1: I don't want you to tell her because I don't
[1:08:35] Speaker 1: want you to stress her out. If she is about
[1:08:37] Speaker 1: to have this baby in three months, she's in the end.
[1:08:41] Speaker 3: I just think she's gonna find out when she is
[1:08:44] Speaker 3: getting child support from me, So tell her now or don't.
[1:08:47] Speaker 2: She's gonna get a check from you.
[1:08:49] Speaker 1: And if this sounds like your man, you let us
[1:08:51] Speaker 1: know because girl, and tell us how you like?
[1:08:56] Speaker 2: What do you think you should tell her?
[1:08:59] Speaker 5: My question is why she wants to tell her?
[1:09:01] Speaker 3: That's what I'm confused about, Like what is it when
[1:09:03] Speaker 3: people be like should I shu?
[1:09:06] Speaker 5: Why shouldn't you?
[1:09:07] Speaker 1: I don't get it. I feel like the only thing
[1:09:11] Speaker 1: that doesn't sound like the absolute worst, which most of
[1:09:16] Speaker 1: my ideas that are coming to my head right now
[1:09:18] Speaker 1: are like horrible. The only thing I can think of
[1:09:20] Speaker 1: is it possibly starting an argument, because now he would
[1:09:25] Speaker 1: be her manager and she might feel like he will
[1:09:28] Speaker 1: have the power to give her the race that she
[1:09:31] Speaker 1: wants and to avoid that. Maybe that's why that's the
[1:09:35] Speaker 1: only half nothing.
[1:09:36] Speaker 6: To do with the seventeen thousand, that has to do
[1:09:38] Speaker 6: with the the promotion to manager. But why would you
[1:09:42] Speaker 6: not want her to know you're making more money? To me,
[1:09:44] Speaker 6: that's like you're hiding that you're making more money?
[1:09:45] Speaker 1: Does she know how much money you make?
[1:09:47] Speaker 2: All right?
[1:09:47] Speaker 1: Already?
[1:09:48] Speaker 3: I think this is where like good communication comes into place,
[1:09:51] Speaker 3: because technically nobody has to tell anybody how much they're making.
[1:09:54] Speaker 6: But if they've already been having these active conversations, I'm
[1:09:56] Speaker 6: making this, I'm making this, and now it changes and
[1:09:58] Speaker 6: then you don't say the guys.
[1:10:00] Speaker 3: I think when he didn't ever tell her how much
[1:10:03] Speaker 3: he was making, she did it.
[1:10:05] Speaker 5: But I thought she knew how much less she was
[1:10:07] Speaker 5: making than him.
[1:10:07] Speaker 2: It came more than what she was making.
[1:10:09] Speaker 3: Oh, she was telling she's making more than what she
[1:10:12] Speaker 3: was making out she gave all that information.
[1:10:14] Speaker 2: I actually don't think you need to tell her.
[1:10:16] Speaker 3: But the way that you posed it, it made it
[1:10:17] Speaker 3: seem like you were doing something wrong, but you really not.
[1:10:20] Speaker 2: I don't really know, sir. Just do your job.
[1:10:24] Speaker 1: But I think they're having a baby together. That is
[1:10:29] Speaker 1: when you need to discuss finances.
[1:10:31] Speaker 5: Why didn't he say my girlfriend?
[1:10:32] Speaker 2: Why did?
[1:10:33] Speaker 3: I don't think girl? So do you need to discuss finances.
[1:10:37] Speaker 1: If you're having a baby together and there are still
[1:10:39] Speaker 1: financial obligations that need to be had.
[1:10:42] Speaker 3: But that doesn't include you knowing how much I make.
[1:10:44] Speaker 3: Like I said, if the government gets involved, that you're
[1:10:46] Speaker 3: gonna get a check. But I think I think that
[1:10:48] Speaker 3: you need to write Everybody needs to write down their expenses,
[1:10:50] Speaker 3: and you need to talk about what you're gonna pay
[1:10:52] Speaker 3: and whatever, but you don't need to actually be like, hey,
[1:10:53] Speaker 3: this is how much I make, Like you need to
[1:10:56] Speaker 3: take care of your baby. But I'm not sure if
[1:10:57] Speaker 3: y'all not going to have a commitment to each other,
[1:10:59] Speaker 3: you might that's not You're gonna be like this wasn't
[1:11:01] Speaker 3: my four oh one k and this is how well
[1:11:02] Speaker 3: I'm doing.
[1:11:02] Speaker 1: Well, I'm not saying that, but if you if you
[1:11:05] Speaker 1: are acting like you make sixty thousand dollars a year
[1:11:08] Speaker 1: when you make one hundred and twenty and so now
[1:11:11] Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, well we're talking about things that we
[1:11:14] Speaker 1: want and budgeting for the baby. How much can you contribute?
[1:11:18] Speaker 1: And you tell me three hundred dollars when it could.
[1:11:20] Speaker 2: Possibly even if we're not angry with each other, you're
[1:11:24] Speaker 2: because I need it.
[1:11:25] Speaker 1: Well, that's why I say, I think it's important to
[1:11:27] Speaker 1: talk about these things. I hope that you get over
[1:11:29] Speaker 1: whatever your fear is in communicating fully and start communicating,
[1:11:35] Speaker 1: because it's going to be a lot more communicating than
[1:11:37] Speaker 1: needs to be done. And if this how you starting off, yeah,
[1:11:41] Speaker 1: I'm scared for everyone involved.
[1:11:43] Speaker 3: You got a promotion in your career, but you need
[1:11:45] Speaker 3: to promote your communication level.
[1:11:49] Speaker 1: All right, Well, good luck. Let us know how it goes,
[1:11:51] Speaker 1: because I'm really curious. Send us a follow up. I'll
[1:11:53] Speaker 1: be waiting, Okay, next one. Hey, y'all, I've been asked.
[1:11:58] Speaker 1: I've been talking to this guy for the past I
[1:12:00] Speaker 1: was recently at his house sleeping over and I went
[1:12:03] Speaker 1: to throw something in the trash and saw a condom,
[1:12:05] Speaker 1: and we don't use condoms, okay. I asked him about
[1:12:10] Speaker 1: it and he lied and said it was his friend.
[1:12:13] Speaker 1: So we went back and forth. He never admitted to anything,
[1:12:16] Speaker 1: so I left. I know he's not my boyfriend, But
[1:12:18] Speaker 1: how would you guys feel react to this? Do I
[1:12:21] Speaker 1: have a right to be upset even though we're not
[1:12:23] Speaker 1: in a relationship. Sent from my iPhone. I'll let y'all answer.
[1:12:26] Speaker 2: First, we listen, We don't judge.
[1:12:29] Speaker 1: Please.
[1:12:30] Speaker 6: No, you do not have the right to be upset.
[1:12:33] Speaker 6: That's my answer, Wow, Because you are not in a
[1:12:36] Speaker 6: committed relationship with this person, and he's obviously having safe
[1:12:41] Speaker 6: sex with whoever else he's sleeping with. So the lack
[1:12:44] Speaker 6: of commitment, in my opinion, gives you no leg to
[1:12:47] Speaker 6: stand on. Now, if we have committed to each other,
[1:12:50] Speaker 6: I have the reasonable expectation that you are not having
[1:12:53] Speaker 6: sex with anybody else unless that's something that we've discussed.
[1:12:56] Speaker 6: But if we have not had a conversation, then I
[1:12:57] Speaker 6: just can't make that assumption.
[1:13:00] Speaker 2: Smart girl right there, But the girls aren't smart.
[1:13:02] Speaker 1: What do you do?
[1:13:05] Speaker 3: I think listen, I don't Sometimes I just don't know
[1:13:12] Speaker 3: how people. I don't know how who if we are
[1:13:19] Speaker 3: not committed. I see what you're saying, because it is like, bro,
[1:13:24] Speaker 3: when I was out there, it was like, you gotta
[1:13:27] Speaker 3: protect your heart and your feelings and we're not perfect
[1:13:30] Speaker 3: and everybody is gonna make mistakes. There were some men
[1:13:33] Speaker 3: that I have dealt with where it was like I
[1:13:36] Speaker 3: already know that doesn't mean that everything they did was
[1:13:39] Speaker 3: right or everything they did was wrong, but it's still
[1:13:41] Speaker 3: like when it comes to like that, are you having
[1:13:43] Speaker 3: sex with other people? I stand on this, even if
[1:13:46] Speaker 3: your feelings are hurt, If you don't have the conversation,
[1:13:51] Speaker 3: I don't know what to tell you. And there are
[1:13:52] Speaker 3: so many men and women who won't just be like,
[1:13:55] Speaker 3: even if you're heading towards a relationship. When I got
[1:13:58] Speaker 3: in a relationship with my boyfriend and I asked him
[1:14:00] Speaker 3: was he having sex with other people? Because you people
[1:14:02] Speaker 3: aren't going to just outwardly give you that information if
[1:14:05] Speaker 3: you don't ask.
[1:14:06] Speaker 2: I was alarmed at the number of women.
[1:14:07] Speaker 3: He was having sex with, and I was still having
[1:14:10] Speaker 3: sex with people, so I couldn't even be mad. Like
[1:14:12] Speaker 3: what you have to literally verbat them say are you
[1:14:16] Speaker 3: having sex with anybody else?
[1:14:17] Speaker 1: Or else?
[1:14:17] Speaker 3: People are having sex with other people? That is literally
[1:14:20] Speaker 3: how it goes. I don't care how serious you think
[1:14:23] Speaker 3: you are. I don't care, bro, you got to have
[1:14:26] Speaker 3: the conversation. So I think that it sucks that you
[1:14:27] Speaker 3: find yourself in this situation, but you have to ask
[1:14:30] Speaker 3: people if it's serious to you. There have been men
[1:14:31] Speaker 3: where it's like, I know you're having sex with other people,
[1:14:33] Speaker 3: and I don't want to actually know. So if I
[1:14:35] Speaker 3: look in the trash and I see a condom, I
[1:14:37] Speaker 3: can't even be mad at anybody but myself because I
[1:14:39] Speaker 3: already knew that this was going on. Now, like answer,
[1:14:43] Speaker 3: we said the same answer, Like you said, It's like,
[1:14:45] Speaker 3: if we have the conversation, then that's a different thing.
[1:14:47] Speaker 3: And if you have the conversation, you would be surprised
[1:14:50] Speaker 3: at how honest certain people would be. I think it
[1:14:52] Speaker 3: depends on the type of man you like, cause some
[1:14:53] Speaker 3: people you just do go for men that just ain't
[1:14:55] Speaker 3: shit and that's on you or women who just ancient
[1:14:58] Speaker 3: and that's on you. So it's like, y'all gotta communicate.
[1:15:01] Speaker 3: If someone you're dealing with someone, whether you're serious or not,
[1:15:05] Speaker 3: and they're having sex with them, having sex with their people,
[1:15:07] Speaker 3: would bother you. You have to ask. You have to just ask.
[1:15:11] Speaker 3: I don't know what are you having sex with other people?
[1:15:15] Speaker 3: Does anyone else think that you're their boyfriend?
[1:15:19] Speaker 1: I think that a big mistake people make is thinking
[1:15:22] Speaker 1: that when you are having sex with somebody on some
[1:15:27] Speaker 1: form of a consistent basis, or just more than once,
[1:15:30] Speaker 1: twice or three times or on holidays, just because you
[1:15:36] Speaker 1: have unprotected sex. There is no unwritten rule, law, regulation
[1:15:43] Speaker 1: that says that the person can't be with somebody else
[1:15:46] Speaker 1: or is not with somebody else, whether they choose to
[1:15:49] Speaker 1: use protection with the other people or not. I agree
[1:15:53] Speaker 1: with the point that you can't be upset that he
[1:15:57] Speaker 1: has sex with somebody else because it doesn't sound like
[1:16:01] Speaker 1: there was any sort of commitment. I think that you
[1:16:03] Speaker 1: might have assumed that there was because y'all are having
[1:16:07] Speaker 1: unprotected sex. Now you said that he lied. I feel
[1:16:13] Speaker 1: like he lied too, right, But you don't really know
[1:16:17] Speaker 1: that he lied, just like you also don't know where
[1:16:20] Speaker 1: y'all really stand what else is going on, And instead
[1:16:25] Speaker 1: of picking a fight about the trash, I think a
[1:16:29] Speaker 1: better and possibly a better opportunity for you to get
[1:16:34] Speaker 1: some real clarity on whatever it is y'all were doing
[1:16:37] Speaker 1: when you saw the condom. Instead of asking him about
[1:16:39] Speaker 1: the condom, just take that as a sign that you
[1:16:42] Speaker 1: need to talk to him about who else he's sleeping with,
[1:16:46] Speaker 1: without doing the accusatory thing and all of that. Sometimes,
[1:16:49] Speaker 1: when you find yourself in situations like this, because it
[1:16:52] Speaker 1: does happen, instead of doing this stuff where probably gonna lie,
[1:16:58] Speaker 1: skip that, get to the root of it, because the
[1:17:00] Speaker 1: root of it is you want to know is this
[1:17:02] Speaker 1: person fucking somebody else? Now you're convinced you don't really
[1:17:05] Speaker 1: know unless you saw it happen. He never told you that.
[1:17:07] Speaker 1: You're assuming that he's lying. I agree, but I don't
[1:17:11] Speaker 1: know neither because I wasn't there and I don't know
[1:17:13] Speaker 1: anybody involved. You have got to start asking the questions.
[1:17:17] Speaker 1: And because something looks like something walks like something, I
[1:17:20] Speaker 1: know they say looks like a duck walks like a duck,
[1:17:22] Speaker 1: it's a duck.
[1:17:23] Speaker 2: Not always, because sometimes it looks like a man and
[1:17:25] Speaker 2: is a woman.
[1:17:28] Speaker 5: It's a fact these.
[1:17:31] Speaker 1: Well, I was just gonna say, sometimes it looks like
[1:17:32] Speaker 1: a relationship and sometimes it's a placeholder, but okay, that
[1:17:36] Speaker 1: can apply as well. So I just hope that going forward,
[1:17:41] Speaker 1: skip that part that's gonna help you get to the
[1:17:44] Speaker 1: truth more. It's gonna help. It's not a solution, it
[1:17:47] Speaker 1: will help and just sometimes you got to look at
[1:17:50] Speaker 1: the non verbal too. So good luck to you, girl.
[1:17:52] Speaker 1: And I don't think that you're wrong for leaving. Asked
[1:17:55] Speaker 1: us what we would have done in that situation. If
[1:17:57] Speaker 1: I was in the situation and I felt like somebody
[1:17:59] Speaker 1: was lying to me, I would leave too. You were
[1:18:02] Speaker 1: not wrong for that, because at the end of the day,
[1:18:05] Speaker 1: is your body is your choice, and it's also your feelings,
[1:18:08] Speaker 1: and you feel like he's lying, so you have every
[1:18:11] Speaker 1: right to get up and go and in that situation.
[1:18:13] Speaker 1: Good luck, and I hope this is something that you
[1:18:16] Speaker 1: leave behind.
[1:18:17] Speaker 2: To add something to this real case.
[1:18:19] Speaker 3: This is I'm just being funny at this one because
[1:18:21] Speaker 3: I had a friend that was in a situation literally
[1:18:22] Speaker 3: kind of like this.
[1:18:23] Speaker 2: I'm like, is this her? And she was like, he's
[1:18:25] Speaker 2: sleeping with someone else. I saw the content and the thing.
[1:18:27] Speaker 3: And I was just listening to her because I'm her
[1:18:29] Speaker 3: friend and I'm listening and I'm like, oh man, I
[1:18:30] Speaker 3: love you so much. And I and She's like, and
[1:18:32] Speaker 3: I know I'm sleeping other people too, but and I
[1:18:34] Speaker 3: was like, now.
[1:18:36] Speaker 2: Friend, what are we talking? Sometimes I really do you
[1:18:39] Speaker 2: ever just be like, what are we doing?
[1:18:41] Speaker 3: Y'all? So if you are also sleeping with somebody else's
[1:18:44] Speaker 3: also maybe you need the gift of therapy, y'all. Soo, okay,
[1:18:47] Speaker 3: thank you for writing men.
[1:18:49] Speaker 1: All right, And on that note, we're going to move
[1:18:51] Speaker 1: on to the cocktails before we get out of here.
[1:18:53] Speaker 1: So if you have a cocktail that you like to
[1:18:55] Speaker 1: share on the show, please send it to us. The
[1:18:57] Speaker 1: email is cocktail coockt A L. E. S at cocktails
[1:19:02] Speaker 1: pod dot com and put cocktails in the subject line.
[1:19:06] Speaker 5: Uh uh, but it ain't got them on? Is this
[1:19:20] Speaker 5: on cash and the pot?
[1:19:24] Speaker 1: Once upon a time, not long.
[1:19:25] Speaker 8: Ago, I was all.
[1:19:30] Speaker 1: Right, coreyol, it's your time to shine. We are so
[1:19:34] Speaker 1: ready to hear your cocktail.
[1:19:35] Speaker 6: You're so ready. So disclaimer. Now you all said this
[1:19:40] Speaker 6: cocktail could be romantic.
[1:19:41] Speaker 1: Also, yeah, we've had a few romantic ones.
[1:19:44] Speaker 6: Okay, so my cocktail is my engagement story. Okay, So
[1:19:50] Speaker 6: my boyfriend at the time had set up plans for
[1:19:57] Speaker 6: all of my friends to meet us in Vegas, and
[1:20:00] Speaker 6: he had this proposal planned that was March twenty twenty,
[1:20:06] Speaker 6: so we're supposed to go, I think like the first
[1:20:07] Speaker 6: week of April. The first week of April, we're supposed
[1:20:10] Speaker 6: to go. It was like April fourth weekend. COVID literally
[1:20:15] Speaker 6: happened and shut everything down like the week prior to,
[1:20:18] Speaker 6: so everybody's flights got canceled, everything got canceled. But he
[1:20:21] Speaker 6: wanted to propose to me on four four, twenty twenty,
[1:20:25] Speaker 6: and so he ended up having to change plans because
[1:20:28] Speaker 6: everything was closed down. But y'all know, Atlanta was still
[1:20:31] Speaker 6: kind of hallway open. So he ended up finding a
[1:20:33] Speaker 6: loft here Castlebury Hill, and it ended up being private
[1:20:37] Speaker 6: and romantic, which is what I wanted because I am
[1:20:39] Speaker 6: not the hey will you marry me with the sign
[1:20:41] Speaker 6: kind of girl. So I do think that God had
[1:20:43] Speaker 6: me in mind when all of this happened. But he
[1:20:45] Speaker 6: ended up having to plan everything himself, decorated everything himself.
[1:20:50] Speaker 5: It was just me and him.
[1:20:50] Speaker 6: He had this rooftop picnic and he had ordered if
[1:20:53] Speaker 6: y'all ever been in Chicago, yes, okay, so he had
[1:20:55] Speaker 6: ordered Portillo's, which is like my favorite food. I grew
[1:20:58] Speaker 6: up in Chicago, So he had ordered that, and so
[1:21:01] Speaker 6: we had that at the picnic. He had Jane Iico
[1:21:03] Speaker 6: when we were young, playing like I would.
[1:21:08] Speaker 5: Have been nicely what that would have been a real cocktail.
[1:21:10] Speaker 6: But no, he had this song on repeat that ended
[1:21:12] Speaker 6: up being the song I walked down the aisle to had.
[1:21:15] Speaker 5: I don't think I had ever heard that song. It's
[1:21:18] Speaker 5: while We're young. Go listen to it.
[1:21:20] Speaker 6: I know it on the way it's just like everything.
[1:21:23] Speaker 6: But yeah, so that was the proposal night. And then
[1:21:26] Speaker 6: the next day, you know, all my friends I found
[1:21:28] Speaker 6: out about the Vegas story. But he planned like a
[1:21:31] Speaker 6: surprise engagement kind of party with the friends who could come,
[1:21:34] Speaker 6: because again it was like the lockdown. But what took
[1:21:37] Speaker 6: it over the top was he had my makeup artists,
[1:21:40] Speaker 6: Like he had went out of his way to schedule
[1:21:43] Speaker 6: for my makeup artists to come to the loft. So
[1:21:45] Speaker 6: when I came out, like came downstairs and saw her there,
[1:21:47] Speaker 6: I just broke down in tears because that was the
[1:21:50] Speaker 6: icing on cake. That he had planned for me to
[1:21:53] Speaker 6: look nice for this engagement party, and that, to me
[1:21:56] Speaker 6: is just a testament. I have a million romantic cocktails
[1:22:00] Speaker 6: for this man, but that was a testament of you
[1:22:03] Speaker 6: went over the tip to wanting me to look good
[1:22:06] Speaker 6: for this moment, for the effort.
[1:22:09] Speaker 3: Now, even though we're ending, I do have a question,
[1:22:11] Speaker 3: do you put in the same effort.
[1:22:14] Speaker 6: I feel like I want to say yes, but he
[1:22:18] Speaker 6: is so good to me that I hope.
[1:22:21] Speaker 5: So that's my answer. I hope. So I hope he
[1:22:23] Speaker 5: feels the same way he does. I hope.
[1:22:25] Speaker 2: So if that's your answer, he does, that's so beautiful.
[1:22:29] Speaker 1: I would love to see where Kia somewhere. If I'm
[1:22:31] Speaker 1: about to get engaged.
[1:22:32] Speaker 3: You just walk down. Could you imagine if you were
[1:22:34] Speaker 3: like and we're like, oh my gosh, She's.
[1:22:37] Speaker 1: Like, I would already know what time it is.
[1:22:40] Speaker 5: No, so this was the next day after I had
[1:22:42] Speaker 5: got engaged. This is the.
[1:22:43] Speaker 1: Party, Yeah, the party. Okay, so this is a separate times.
[1:22:46] Speaker 5: Yeah it was two separate times. Yeah.
[1:22:48] Speaker 1: Yeah, oh well that helps y.
[1:22:50] Speaker 5: Yes, he did not speil the surprise. I had no idea,
[1:22:52] Speaker 5: But that's beautiful.
[1:22:54] Speaker 1: I love a good engagement story.
[1:22:55] Speaker 2: Me too. I love a good love story, of a
[1:22:57] Speaker 2: good engagement story. I love and how we met story of.
[1:23:01] Speaker 5: All the story.
[1:23:01] Speaker 6: I want to say this one last thing, though some
[1:23:03] Speaker 6: hopes are the single ladies. I have a laundry list
[1:23:06] Speaker 6: of romantic stories from one man. Before that, I got
[1:23:12] Speaker 6: a laundry list of it was a shit show. It
[1:23:15] Speaker 6: was hell date, you know, over and over again.
[1:23:17] Speaker 5: So I say that to say I can.
[1:23:19] Speaker 6: I brag about my husband all the time, but I
[1:23:22] Speaker 6: was very unlucky in love before my husband, and I
[1:23:25] Speaker 6: love to share that for women who feel like every
[1:23:28] Speaker 6: man that they meet is supposed to just be all
[1:23:31] Speaker 6: of the things, because most of the men that I
[1:23:33] Speaker 6: knew before my husband were none of the things. But
[1:23:35] Speaker 6: I feel like God or whoever y'all believe in, saved
[1:23:39] Speaker 6: that one for me. So if y'all all you need.
[1:23:43] Speaker 5: Is one, all you need is one.
[1:23:46] Speaker 3: All you need is all weley needs is that one
[1:23:48] Speaker 3: leg this one way, baby, Thank you.
[1:23:51] Speaker 2: So much for joining us.
[1:23:52] Speaker 3: Let our listeners know exactly where they can find you,
[1:23:55] Speaker 3: how they can listen to your podcast, and whatever else
[1:23:57] Speaker 3: you got going on.
[1:23:58] Speaker 2: Thank you.
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[1:24:36] Speaker 2: Can I act like a mama.
[1:24:39] Speaker 6: And we're gonna have to implement a screening process?
[1:24:43] Speaker 1: Is okay? Where are the birth certificates? It's like they
[1:24:46] Speaker 1: say at the Little League games. I need to see that baby.
[1:24:49] Speaker 1: He too, b he is not five with y'all feeding
[1:24:52] Speaker 1: him pork chops. Anyway, thank you guys so much for
[1:24:55] Speaker 1: tuning in again this week. I will make sure to
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[1:25:14] Speaker 6: Goodbye, bye bye bye dot Dot Issue

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