# 419- Cheers to Chaos, Cocktails and CockTales with a Thankful Margarita

An episode of [Cocktales with Kiki](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1149484402), 7 Nov 2024, 1 h 09 min.

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Kicking things off with a cocktail that’s bound to be the talk of your Thanksgiving table, we give you the Thankful Margarita, a festive blend of tequila, Grand Marnier, lime juice, simple syrup, and a splash of Prosecco. Meanwhile, Kiki Said So and Medinah Monroe catch up on their eventful Thursdays, sharing tales of meetings, dinner outings, and a few memorable chaotic situations! Whether it's the sharp-tongued humor of a niece or the surprising demands of being a dog mom, the importance of humor and open communication weaves through each story, offering a lighthearted look at the chaos and joy of everyday interactions. The episode takes a whimsical turn as we imagine eyebrow aesthetics and brainstorm fashion innovations like glasses that don’t smudge makeup. From quirky dog stories to the transformative power of sexual escapades, it’s a whirlwind of topics wrapped in humor and reflection. Whether you're tuning in for laughs, insights into relationship dynamics, an escape from what's going in America after the election, or just a fresh perspective on life's adventures, this episode promises a delightful mix that’s sure to entertain and inspire. So, grab your Thankful Margarita, sit back, and let us take you on a journey through the vibrant tapestry of life’s many facets. Follow Us @cocktalespodcast @kikisaidso @coffeebeandean Visit soakingwet.com and use code COCKTALES for a special discount! Join Kiki In Curacao- https://www.seekdharma.com/trips/kikis-travel-tribe/ Join Medinah in ICosta Rica- www.paradiseandvibe.com For all promo codes and links for promotions in the episode, follow this link: https://linktr.ee/cocktalesads Contact Us! Advice: advice@cocktalespod.com Cocktales: cocktales@cocktalespod.com Weird Sex: weirdsex@cocktalespod.com Live Show Sponsorship: sales@cocktalespod.com Guest Request/ General Inquiries info@cocktalespod.com Get your Vesper and other Jewelry From Crave https://lovecrave.com/cocktales Get Your Merch & Pre-Order Your Card Game Purchase Merch (Next Drop Arrives December 2024) www.imcurioustoknow.com Get Klassy Baste! Learn to Cook with Kiki www.klassybaste.com Join Kiki's Book Club- October's Book- The Stillwater Girls https://www.patreon.com/kikisaidso Travel with Kiki! We're going to Curacao! Reserve Your Spot Here! Travel With Medinah! Visit ParadiseandVibe.com Purchase Medinah's Coffee Mug! www.medinahmonroe.com Interested in sponsoring? Contact sales@cocktalespod.com today! Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/cocktales-with-kiki--2818687/support. CONNECT WITH US Follow the host and join the conversation after the episode: Kiki Said So (Kiara Walker) Instagram: @kikisaidso TikTok: @kikisaidso Cocktales With Kiki Instagram:@cocktalespodcast TikTok: @cocktalespodcast Want to be a guest on Cocktales? We are always looking for interesting guests, experts, and storytellers to join the show. If you would like to be considered, please fill out our guest submission form here: Guest Interest Form

## Transcript

[0:02] Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Check one two, check one two.
[0:04] Speaker 2: Is this Mike on?
[0:05] Speaker 3: Is this Mike going?
[0:06] Speaker 2: Hey? Listen man, it's the one and only trunks that
[0:08] Speaker 2: the DJ system and you're listening to cocktails Dirty Discussions
[0:12] Speaker 2: with Kikia Medina Monroe. Here.
[0:19] Speaker 1: Today's cocktail is called the Thankful Margarita. It's November and
[0:23] Speaker 1: it's almost time for Thanksgiving. So maybe you'll be thankful
[0:26] Speaker 1: for your family, thankful for your blessings, thankful for the food,
[0:30] Speaker 1: or you'll be thankful you got some alcohol and a
[0:32] Speaker 1: good cocktail to wash it all down with. So what
[0:34] Speaker 1: you're gonna need for this cocktail is three ounces of tequila.
[0:38] Speaker 1: I have Teremuna reposada right here, and then you'll need
[0:42] Speaker 1: three ounces of Grandmaier, an ounce of lime juice, a
[0:47] Speaker 1: tablespoon of simple syrup, and some chill prosecco to top
[0:51] Speaker 1: it all off. So what you're going to do to
[0:52] Speaker 1: make this cocktail is take a cocktail shaker, fill it
[0:55] Speaker 1: with ice, and then we're gonna ask the three ounces
[0:59] Speaker 1: of tequila. I have had this shaker. I just realized
[1:03] Speaker 1: I I have the one from Rebell. I used to
[1:05] Speaker 1: work for Rebell, and I don't know Rebel does not
[1:08] Speaker 1: make alcohol, but y'all know a good red Bull and
[1:11] Speaker 1: vodka or Rebel and rum or Rebel in anything that
[1:16] Speaker 1: was pre espresso martini era, good times. I love this
[1:20] Speaker 1: little shaker. I'm gonna keep it as long as I can, Okay,
[1:22] Speaker 1: So three ounces of that. Then we'll add three ounces
[1:26] Speaker 1: of Gradmrinier. If you don't have Grandmarnier or control, using
[1:30] Speaker 1: just a triple sec is perfectly fine, okay. And then
[1:36] Speaker 1: we're going to add in a ounce of lime juice.
[1:42] Speaker 1: You ideally want to use fresh squeeze, but I don't
[1:45] Speaker 1: have time for all that today. It was one of
[1:47] Speaker 1: those days, y'all know how it goes. These little line
[1:51] Speaker 1: things were just fine. So an ounce of that. I
[1:56] Speaker 1: don't have any tablespoon measures, so I'm just gonna do
[1:59] Speaker 1: it like a That should be good enough. And then
[2:04] Speaker 1: you're gonna take this and we're gonna shake it. There's
[2:10] Speaker 1: no ice in this drink, so make sure you shake
[2:12] Speaker 1: it really well so it's nice and cool. It's probably
[2:17] Speaker 1: hot in there with all your family members, all right,
[2:19] Speaker 1: So we're gonna pour this into the champagne flute. I've
[2:26] Speaker 1: got much room left, and then we'll top it off
[2:29] Speaker 1: with persecco. Had a little bubbly and that is a
[2:34] Speaker 1: thankful Margarita.
[2:36] Speaker 2: Cheers.
[2:37] Speaker 1: Welcome back to Cocktails Jerney Discussions. You guys, Hey, y'all,
[2:42] Speaker 1: I'm Kiki said, so.
[2:44] Speaker 2: I'm Medina Monroel.
[2:47] Speaker 1: And we're back again. It's just sus this week.
[2:50] Speaker 2: Another Thursday. What are Thursdays typically like for you?
[2:55] Speaker 1: Thursdays are usually pretty jam packed. Now, you know, last
[2:58] Speaker 1: Thursday we had our meeting. We had a meeting last week,
[3:00] Speaker 1: we typically do our meetings. That day, my eye was swollen.
[3:04] Speaker 2: Wait, did you figure out what happened?
[3:05] Speaker 1: It was an allergic reaction to the outside like nature. Okay,
[3:09] Speaker 1: to nature, hold on, you fuck with nature like that sometimes.
[3:12] Speaker 1: But I was outside playing with Whitley and we were
[3:15] Speaker 1: having a good time, and you know, I love to
[3:17] Speaker 1: snug on my girl. I guess it was just too
[3:19] Speaker 1: much for me. All that grass and nature and dirt
[3:23] Speaker 1: and grass and twigs and things. It irritated me. My
[3:27] Speaker 1: eyes were itchy, so I had been rubbing them, but
[3:30] Speaker 1: and then when I went to bed it kind of hurt.
[3:33] Speaker 1: But I was like, probably because I've been rubbing them
[3:35] Speaker 1: all day. The next day it was swollen but it
[3:37] Speaker 1: just seemed a little swollen. I was like, maybe it's
[3:39] Speaker 1: because I haven't gotten enough rest, but it progressively got bigger,
[3:42] Speaker 1: and then I hadn't been in a mirror. And then
[3:44] Speaker 1: when I got on the Google meet for the meeting,
[3:46] Speaker 1: I said, oh, hell, no, camera off, this is disturbed.
[3:50] Speaker 1: I look like Quasimodo.
[3:52] Speaker 2: Did you really? Yes?
[3:55] Speaker 1: I mean I didn't have a hunchback with damn near
[3:57] Speaker 1: because I was slauh. I mean it was just ugly.
[3:59] Speaker 1: So I when it got me a little steroid shot
[4:01] Speaker 1: and by the end of the day I was good
[4:02] Speaker 1: to go.
[4:04] Speaker 2: That was because I hate when something does happen on
[4:06] Speaker 2: your face and it's like, oh my gosh.
[4:09] Speaker 1: I imagine if we had to record, I would be
[4:10] Speaker 1: sitting here in glasses, like big ass sunglasses. And I
[4:13] Speaker 1: hate when people wear sunglasses inside, like who are you and.
[4:16] Speaker 2: What are you doing? Take them off?
[4:18] Speaker 1: Do you think you're jay Z? Like what's going on?
[4:20] Speaker 1: It's not that anyway. Yeah. Thursdays are typically pretty busy.
[4:25] Speaker 1: I have a lot of meetings and then I like
[4:29] Speaker 1: to go out to dinner, typically if I can make
[4:32] Speaker 1: the time for it, but sometimes I'm too tired. Last
[4:34] Speaker 1: week I didn't go because obviously under the weather, my
[4:37] Speaker 1: face was at least And then past couple of weeks,
[4:40] Speaker 1: I've been trying different sushi restaurants and I mean repeats,
[4:43] Speaker 1: but just not my usual and finding new little coffee
[4:47] Speaker 1: shops and little loungy spots that aren't super turned up
[4:51] Speaker 1: because every now and then I like going to like
[4:53] Speaker 1: the clubstaurants.
[4:54] Speaker 2: Right, but the clubstaurant, Wow, I never heard of refer
[4:58] Speaker 2: to that. What is it like?
[4:59] Speaker 1: Like like most of the places in Atlanta. So there's
[5:02] Speaker 1: a DJ that's loud as fuck. It's not a place
[5:04] Speaker 1: where you can go and have an intimate dinner. It's loud.
[5:06] Speaker 1: There's probably hookah Okay, it's just loud. Everything is overpriced.
[5:12] Speaker 1: Definitely grass on the wall with Neon signs.
[5:15] Speaker 2: You know.
[5:15] Speaker 1: Have you been at Toulom No, I've heard about it.
[5:19] Speaker 1: To loom has like a three point something on YELP.
[5:21] Speaker 1: So I just stay away now if I'm already out
[5:24] Speaker 1: hanging out and we end up there, okay, but that
[5:26] Speaker 1: has never been my destination.
[5:27] Speaker 2: No house. Sorry, Corey, I know the owner. I'm so
[5:30] Speaker 2: sorry because I'm proud of you as a businessman. But
[5:33] Speaker 2: I went and I was like, y'all need to lower
[5:36] Speaker 2: these prices, and what were.
[5:38] Speaker 1: The prices like just not what they should like high
[5:41] Speaker 1: end steakhouse prices.
[5:43] Speaker 2: Yeah, and then you have plastic silver plastic wear and it's.
[5:46] Speaker 1: Like I don't stand that, Like you have high ass prices,
[5:50] Speaker 1: but y'all have plastic shit or even like the nice
[5:54] Speaker 1: plastic plates that look cute but it's plastic.
[5:57] Speaker 2: Yeah. Like it was like it's yeah, yeah, I give it.
[6:01] Speaker 1: What's the point of the prices being that high? Like
[6:04] Speaker 1: if it's a cheap hole in the wall, okay, whatever,
[6:06] Speaker 1: it's given cookout, but you know at the Bougian's house.
[6:10] Speaker 3: But do you see my hat?
[6:13] Speaker 1: I love it.
[6:14] Speaker 3: I love wearing this comma.
[6:16] Speaker 1: It's my president.
[6:19] Speaker 3: M y'all see the comma in the love.
[6:21] Speaker 2: Every time I walk the people, I'm like, do you
[6:23] Speaker 2: see what is my hat? Saying everyone's always like la
[6:26] Speaker 2: I saw.
[6:27] Speaker 1: A law And then I was like, oh, mama, because
[6:30] Speaker 1: y'all us started saying Madam Vice's President's name wrong, Kama
[6:35] Speaker 1: love like her little nieces and carry.
[6:37] Speaker 2: WATCHA said have you voted yet?
[6:40] Speaker 1: I have not? When y'all hear this, I will have
[6:42] Speaker 1: absolutely Yeah.
[6:43] Speaker 2: Yeah, we're voting, but y'all know, we pre record, so
[6:46] Speaker 2: it's still October. I haven't.
[6:47] Speaker 1: I didn't vote early, and I wasn't going to vote early.
[6:50] Speaker 1: I was going to go on election day because they
[6:52] Speaker 1: are playing vicious games out here. It reminds me of Scandal.
[6:56] Speaker 1: Did you watch Scandal?
[6:57] Speaker 2: Never watched Scandal? Was it? Say' worth it? Should I
[7:01] Speaker 2: go back?
[7:01] Speaker 3: And I love me somebody?
[7:02] Speaker 2: Ola Davies. I was really mad when they took her
[7:04] Speaker 2: off of them.
[7:05] Speaker 1: That's the other that's how to get away with murder.
[7:09] Speaker 1: Carrie Washington, Yeah.
[7:14] Speaker 3: Okay, I did watch Scandal, okay, but only with my mom.
[7:17] Speaker 3: I didn't watch it all the time.
[7:18] Speaker 1: It's good. So if you haven't, we're going to talk
[7:20] Speaker 1: about tea later. And you know, they were at one
[7:24] Speaker 1: of her rallies. Carrie Washington and whatever fits his real
[7:28] Speaker 1: name is the actor.
[7:29] Speaker 3: They feel like they really like each other.
[7:31] Speaker 1: They really do. And I forget that Carrie Washington is
[7:34] Speaker 1: actually married. Oh she had kids and everything, because she
[7:38] Speaker 1: was pregnant during Scandal at one point, and so she
[7:40] Speaker 1: had on all these cute pea coats and stuff. And
[7:42] Speaker 1: they were doing like how they used to do on
[7:44] Speaker 1: the Cosmic Show, and other shows where they hide the belly,
[7:47] Speaker 1: but she was absolutely tracking it to a black man.
[7:50] Speaker 2: His name is.
[7:50] Speaker 1: Nandi and he was a football player. Wow, they're very
[7:54] Speaker 1: private about that. I've never seen a picture of the kids.
[7:58] Speaker 1: If the husband hadn't been in the NFL, probably would
[8:00] Speaker 1: have never seen a picture of him. But yeah, she's married,
[8:03] Speaker 1: but their sexual chemistry is strong.
[8:06] Speaker 3: Talk about her TV husband, yes.
[8:09] Speaker 1: Because I don't know what's going on with a real
[8:10] Speaker 1: husband and some rumors about him.
[8:12] Speaker 2: But I always wonder, like the wives and husbands of
[8:16] Speaker 2: actors and actresses, is there ever a moment where like
[8:18] Speaker 2: they really do get upset because I think we're just
[8:21] Speaker 2: little podcasters and people get upset if you have to
[8:25] Speaker 2: really have a sexy and you're really kissing people and
[8:27] Speaker 2: then you're like, hey, I really got to go study
[8:29] Speaker 2: with my scene partner or naked or naked and for
[8:32] Speaker 2: you to get comfortable. If you're a method actor, you're like,
[8:35] Speaker 2: I really gotta lay my teddy in.
[8:36] Speaker 1: His mouth like so and if he find I'm gonna do.
[8:39] Speaker 3: It, I know the spouse is be getting mad.
[8:44] Speaker 2: Yeah.
[8:44] Speaker 1: I mean a lot of things end up in divorced.
[8:46] Speaker 1: Think about Brad Pitt and Angelina Joelee. Before things went south,
[8:49] Speaker 1: he was still married to Jennifer Anistani and they.
[8:52] Speaker 2: Say, story made me so upset.
[8:55] Speaker 1: They did mister and missus Smith and then it was
[8:58] Speaker 1: like this whirlwind romance. But I mean, sometimes you need
[9:02] Speaker 1: to tread lightly because look at them now.
[9:04] Speaker 3: But they did have a very full life together.
[9:08] Speaker 1: Yeah, full of drama and all kinds of shit going on.
[9:14] Speaker 1: But yeah, so Carrie Washington was as a thing, and
[9:19] Speaker 1: that chemistry is just something else, and I'd be thinking
[9:22] Speaker 1: about it sometimes, and there's certain couples. Maybe we should
[9:24] Speaker 1: do an episode like that one day, thinking about people
[9:27] Speaker 1: who have great, honestcing on screen chemistry, and then we
[9:30] Speaker 1: can speculate, you know, just for fun, what we think
[9:33] Speaker 1: be going on behind closed doors would.
[9:35] Speaker 2: Be going on. You were talking about being outside with
[9:38] Speaker 2: Whitley and nature and stuff, and I thought about my
[9:41] Speaker 2: little shy shy shy. I caught her eating poop. I
[9:46] Speaker 2: was so mad, like afresh her own. It was her own,
[9:50] Speaker 2: freshly dookie poop. And I was looking at her like.
[9:55] Speaker 3: Well, are you feeding my girl?
[9:57] Speaker 2: I'm feeding the girl and I'm still cooking her. No.
[10:01] Speaker 1: Well, she like I need some swet and war.
[10:03] Speaker 2: Because I looked up the reasons why dogs because she
[10:06] Speaker 2: has done this before and it's so annoying. Like, so
[10:09] Speaker 2: I looked up the reasons why dogs do it, and
[10:12] Speaker 2: it's either they have a medical problem or but she doesn't,
[10:14] Speaker 2: or they're missing a nutrient out of their dog food,
[10:17] Speaker 2: which I did just switch her dog food, so I.
[10:21] Speaker 3: Don't know if that's it.
[10:21] Speaker 2: But there's another. The rest of the reasons. You know
[10:23] Speaker 2: what they are attention it said. One of the reasons
[10:26] Speaker 2: was if if they want attention. Another one, the last
[10:29] Speaker 2: one said if you act really shocked when you see
[10:33] Speaker 2: your dog eating the poop, they will continue to do
[10:35] Speaker 2: it because they liked the attention that you gave them.
[10:38] Speaker 3: Those little bastards.
[10:39] Speaker 2: They are so smart, Like I really be looking at them,
[10:43] Speaker 2: like you're really a smart, intelligent creature.
[10:46] Speaker 1: I just wish they could speak English, me too, I
[10:48] Speaker 1: really wish they could tired, I guess in sometimes have you.
[10:51] Speaker 2: Ever looked up what Whitley's breed was bred for?
[10:55] Speaker 1: Yeah, and I forget because Whitley's a mixed soap. She's
[10:59] Speaker 1: a Kava poo, so she's half Cavalier King Charles Spaniel
[11:03] Speaker 1: kind of like a cocker spaniel, but they're not as cute.
[11:05] Speaker 1: So thank god you're mixed with that poodle and then
[11:07] Speaker 1: a poodle. I don't know what she was bread for.
[11:11] Speaker 2: These were bread for to I like hunt rodent. It's
[11:14] Speaker 2: like scavenge, like they would get like little bugs and
[11:17] Speaker 2: little fruits that fell on the ground and little rats
[11:19] Speaker 2: and little mice and like as they are. That makes sense. Yeah,
[11:22] Speaker 2: And they were like really good hunters. And I see
[11:23] Speaker 2: her doing it, and it's funny because she still she
[11:25] Speaker 2: likes vegetables, she likes fruits. When she sees the little girl,
[11:27] Speaker 2: she really tries to get them. I'm like, girl, you
[11:29] Speaker 2: are an old lady.
[11:32] Speaker 3: To put your hip out and were not getting surgery.
[11:34] Speaker 2: So yeah, we're at the end of.
[11:36] Speaker 1: The rope for her.
[11:39] Speaker 4: You said a man is not a necessity.
[11:41] Speaker 5: A man is a luxury like dessert.
[11:45] Speaker 4: Yeah, a man is absolutely not necessity. Did you mean
[11:48] Speaker 4: that to sound meaning bitter?
[11:51] Speaker 1: Oh not at all. I adore dessert. I love man, and.
[11:55] Speaker 6: I think man are the coolest, but you don't really
[11:58] Speaker 6: need them to live.
[12:03] Speaker 1: So I don't know if I told you all this
[12:05] Speaker 1: one of these last couple of episodes, but Whitley has
[12:09] Speaker 1: been in heat again because once again, I still haven't
[12:11] Speaker 1: been to get her fixed. I've been too busy. So
[12:15] Speaker 1: now when heat cycled number two, and this was a
[12:17] Speaker 1: real blood like that first one she had in April,
[12:23] Speaker 1: it was more like spotting. My first period was nothing
[12:27] Speaker 1: like that. I do remember talking about that on an
[12:29] Speaker 1: episode a couple months ago. But this one it's like, Okay,
[12:32] Speaker 1: this is bigger. But before that happened. So it short
[12:35] Speaker 1: at the beginning of October. It just ended over the weekend,
[12:37] Speaker 1: so a full three weeks. That's a long ass time
[12:40] Speaker 1: to be bleeding. I gave her all these diapers. After
[12:43] Speaker 1: like a week and a half, She's like taking her
[12:45] Speaker 1: diapers off, and I'm like, you're not about to be
[12:47] Speaker 1: free bleeding. We are not in France. We're not doing that.
[12:50] Speaker 1: That's like too progressive. But in September I knew it
[12:53] Speaker 1: was coming. Nipples started getting hard her. It starts like
[12:59] Speaker 1: swelling her vagina and start swelling.
[13:03] Speaker 2: Yeah.
[13:04] Speaker 1: So one day I had Walker, and Walker I just
[13:09] Speaker 1: hear him say Whitley stop. So I look to make
[13:11] Speaker 1: sure she's not trying to bite him or nothing crazy,
[13:13] Speaker 1: because I'd hate to have to get rid of my baby.
[13:16] Speaker 1: She was huh, this leg right. So I'm like, you're
[13:19] Speaker 1: a girl, say, isn't how this goes?
[13:21] Speaker 6: So?
[13:22] Speaker 1: Like you, I'm looking online attention what else essie attention?
[13:27] Speaker 1: Or they just be doing shit essentially. And then more
[13:31] Speaker 1: recently I looked it up somewhere because she started doing
[13:33] Speaker 1: it when I take my girl out to go for
[13:37] Speaker 1: our daily walks on the belt line, when we go
[13:39] Speaker 1: to the dog park, when we go to the potty park.
[13:42] Speaker 1: Please Peter, don't come get me. I just I'm just
[13:45] Speaker 1: trying to be progressive and just she stressed out. I
[13:49] Speaker 1: know what it's like. But she might jump on my
[13:50] Speaker 1: leg and before I know she's she's jumping on my
[13:52] Speaker 1: back trying to grab my arm and stuff. I'm like,
[13:54] Speaker 1: whoa there, baby, you gotta calm down. But if you
[13:56] Speaker 1: just want to jump up here like I don't know me, well,
[14:00] Speaker 1: not even money, just my foot with my shoe on it.
[14:02] Speaker 1: And so it's like, all right, let baby go ahead
[14:04] Speaker 1: and juice come out.
[14:06] Speaker 3: Nothing comes out.
[14:06] Speaker 1: She's just doing I mean she has on a diaper.
[14:08] Speaker 2: Wow, So you are progressing, yeah, And I'm just.
[14:13] Speaker 1: Like, you know, just everybody ignore her, don't give her
[14:15] Speaker 1: any extra attention. We're not going to feed into it
[14:18] Speaker 1: because if it is for the attention's sake, won't want
[14:21] Speaker 1: to do it. Well, I should have read further on
[14:23] Speaker 1: the article or articles that I found, And now I
[14:27] Speaker 1: was just like, well the fuck I am weird sex
[14:30] Speaker 1: this week? Because I did let her jump up the
[14:34] Speaker 1: every I didn't know, and I was just like, well,
[14:36] Speaker 1: she's a girl dog. And the first things I saw
[14:38] Speaker 1: was like, it's not sexual. They're doing it for attention.
[14:41] Speaker 1: I thought she might have had like a bladder infection,
[14:44] Speaker 1: u TI or something. Took her to the vet. It
[14:46] Speaker 1: wasn't that. So it's like, well, I don't know what's
[14:48] Speaker 1: going on. You get bathed regularly, everything's fine, but she
[14:53] Speaker 1: was so I bought her some toys something toys mm hmm,
[14:57] Speaker 1: some giant stuffed toys. So right now she has a
[15:00] Speaker 1: back because it's Halloween. There was a lamb chop. She
[15:02] Speaker 1: tore lamb chop to smith Reen.
[15:04] Speaker 3: My baby girl loves her little lamb chop.
[15:06] Speaker 1: Really, this is a big lamb chop, like it's as
[15:09] Speaker 1: big as your backpack, and she just hops on it
[15:11] Speaker 1: and goes to town. There was an old pillow I
[15:13] Speaker 1: let her have, but she also digs and scratches, and
[15:16] Speaker 1: I don't want all the cotton pieces everywhere. Anyway, I
[15:20] Speaker 1: learned that she won't be doing that again, and in December,
[15:24] Speaker 1: we don't We don't have a lot going on, so
[15:27] Speaker 1: I will definitely have two weeks to dedicate to her
[15:29] Speaker 1: to make sure she's not biting her stitches out, because
[15:31] Speaker 1: that's what I'm afraid of. When she gets big, I
[15:33] Speaker 1: feel like she will find a way to get about
[15:36] Speaker 1: that cone or the donut or whatever I have to
[15:38] Speaker 1: put her in so that she's not gnawing at her
[15:40] Speaker 1: stitches because I don't want your inside's falling out. Being
[15:43] Speaker 1: a dog mom has been quite a journey.
[15:46] Speaker 2: It's a journey, but I love it.
[15:47] Speaker 1: I wouldn't trade it for nothing. I love my baby girl, Whitley.
[15:51] Speaker 2: I love that.
[15:51] Speaker 1: You know what, this is the season to be thankful,
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[16:59] Speaker 1: and all different aspects of your health, but sometimes you
[17:02] Speaker 1: need to hone in on specific parts of your body,
[17:04] Speaker 1: like your vagina. Now only is it gonna keep it healthy,
[17:07] Speaker 1: maintain that vaginal floor. I have everything right, but when
[17:10] Speaker 1: it comes to sex, because I know that's what it's
[17:11] Speaker 1: all about at the end of the day, you want it,
[17:14] Speaker 1: why you want it functioning. You do not want to
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[17:26] Speaker 2: you traveling for Christmas?
[17:29] Speaker 1: I'm not sure, so Thanksgiving is coming up. I'm gonna
[17:33] Speaker 1: stay here, but I think it's the weekend this episode
[17:37] Speaker 1: comes out. I'm gonna go to Dallas. My niece is
[17:39] Speaker 1: turning fifteen. I gotta believe she's so old because that
[17:45] Speaker 1: makes me old. And it's just like she has an
[17:49] Speaker 1: attitude like and a personality fully developed. She has her
[17:53] Speaker 1: own thoughts, she has ideas about what she wants in
[17:55] Speaker 1: the world. The other day, we were on the phone
[17:58] Speaker 1: on FaceTime on Chaotic ass some call. She was shading me.
[18:01] Speaker 1: I don't really like that, but I appreciated the wit
[18:04] Speaker 1: so because she didn't say anything totally inappropriate. I did
[18:07] Speaker 1: not chastise her because I don't want to stifle her creativity.
[18:12] Speaker 1: She was quick witted, she was on time, and she
[18:15] Speaker 1: wasn't disrespectful. It just hurt my feelings what she say.
[18:19] Speaker 1: She's talking about wanting a boyfriend, and I was like, well,
[18:22] Speaker 1: what do you want a boyfriend for? Like you're fourteen?
[18:24] Speaker 1: And she said to carry her books and buy her
[18:26] Speaker 1: stuff and I was like, well, okay, carry your books
[18:29] Speaker 1: is one thing, but like you can't just be using
[18:31] Speaker 1: guys Like I get it.
[18:33] Speaker 3: And I love to carry my books and buy anythings.
[18:35] Speaker 1: What do you mean, Yeah, exactly what do you what
[18:38] Speaker 1: do you want? Well? Her Christmas not Christmas Birthday wish
[18:41] Speaker 1: list is rather extensive, and I was like, a few
[18:43] Speaker 1: years ago I brought her an iPad. She's very much
[18:46] Speaker 1: into art, and she was talking about wanting to get
[18:50] Speaker 1: into animation. And I'm all about supporting the kids and
[18:53] Speaker 1: the family with anything that could be an employable or
[18:57] Speaker 1: profitable skill. Right. So she is really really good at drawing,
[19:02] Speaker 1: at drawing, and she can do it digitally, she can
[19:05] Speaker 1: do it on pen and paper, and she's like really
[19:07] Speaker 1: into it so many different styles. And so me and
[19:10] Speaker 1: my mom were talking we buy her the iPad. I
[19:12] Speaker 1: ain't seen but two animations and one drawing, and I
[19:16] Speaker 1: had a bag her to see that, and I was like, no, ma'am,
[19:18] Speaker 1: you want me getting nothing else. I really wanted to
[19:20] Speaker 1: upgrade my desktop computer, so because mine is still in
[19:23] Speaker 1: good condition, I was thinking about upgrading for myself and
[19:28] Speaker 1: just wiping my current one and giving it to her
[19:31] Speaker 1: for her birthday. But then I thought about it.
[19:34] Speaker 2: No, I'm not.
[19:35] Speaker 1: You don't even call me to check on me.
[19:38] Speaker 2: Using like a real auntie. I am.
[19:40] Speaker 1: I'm very much auntie because the last time she did
[19:43] Speaker 1: call me to check on me, y'all, while the little
[19:45] Speaker 1: girl gonna say, well, Auntie diva, she was about to
[19:50] Speaker 1: ask me something, she stopped herself and she's like, well,
[19:53] Speaker 1: let me ask you how you're doing and what's going
[19:55] Speaker 1: on in your life before I ask you for what
[19:57] Speaker 1: I want.
[19:58] Speaker 2: Smart she should said it out, so I.
[20:03] Speaker 1: So I answered her, and then I said, okay, and
[20:05] Speaker 1: baby girl, let me just food for thought. Next time
[20:09] Speaker 1: you do this, don't let the intrusive thoughts win. You
[20:12] Speaker 1: say that inside, don't say it out loud because it
[20:16] Speaker 1: just takes away. You could have just got to the point.
[20:17] Speaker 1: You really could have texted me. But whatever, So she
[20:20] Speaker 1: ain't getting that shit. I don't know what she's getting
[20:22] Speaker 1: for her birthday, but the stuff on her list was
[20:25] Speaker 1: very big.
[20:25] Speaker 3: And did she get her boyfriend?
[20:28] Speaker 1: I don't know. She ain't called me to check on her,
[20:29] Speaker 1: so I'm not calling her to check on her because
[20:31] Speaker 1: I know she's just gonna ask for something. But what
[20:34] Speaker 1: she said to me was, I'm not trying to be
[20:35] Speaker 1: old and single like you. And it was me and
[20:39] Speaker 1: two of my aunts on the call, and so she
[20:41] Speaker 1: was talking about me and one of my aunts and
[20:43] Speaker 1: she was like, y'all just and I don't even know
[20:45] Speaker 1: what's going on with the other one.
[20:47] Speaker 2: And so I was at her ten year old we
[20:49] Speaker 2: canceling the King Sanata mm hmm.
[20:53] Speaker 1: And what's crazy that you mentioned King Sanatta?
[20:55] Speaker 3: I had.
[20:56] Speaker 1: She got on the line because I was I was
[20:58] Speaker 1: really talking to Phoenix, that's what girl.
[21:00] Speaker 2: Now.
[21:00] Speaker 1: Now she's talking and everything and she's cool. Gizelle jumps
[21:04] Speaker 1: on the line and I was like, oh, you look
[21:06] Speaker 1: really pretty because she went to it can say the
[21:08] Speaker 1: weekend before Melorie sent me pictures and everything. She's getting
[21:11] Speaker 1: into more girly stuff and she was in a wr phase,
[21:14] Speaker 1: but she's out of that. You know, watching kids grow
[21:16] Speaker 1: up is interesting. And she's like, thanks, I'm trying to
[21:19] Speaker 1: get a boyfriend. And that's how that kicked off. And
[21:21] Speaker 1: then she shaded me. I said, well, interestingly enough, I
[21:25] Speaker 1: just hadn't event on Tuesday with Cocktails, you know my
[21:28] Speaker 1: podcast that's successful. While you're talking about wanting to boyfriend
[21:32] Speaker 1: and all this stuff and shading me for being single,
[21:34] Speaker 1: and Elizabeth Gilbert said, studies report that it's really more
[21:38] Speaker 1: beneficial for men than women, and the women who are married,
[21:43] Speaker 1: which is what sometimes comes next after boyfriend and engagement
[21:47] Speaker 1: is a marriage, and especially the women with kids, it
[21:51] Speaker 1: doesn't really work out in your favor. So let's just
[21:53] Speaker 1: see who finishes out on top. And she's like, I mean,
[21:57] Speaker 1: we'll see, but I'm getting a boyfriend. I was like, okay, girl, whatever,
[22:00] Speaker 1: and don't call me when you need something. So I mean,
[22:02] Speaker 1: maybe that's why she hasn't got me. I don't know,
[22:05] Speaker 1: we get spicy, but now she said she's a teenager,
[22:07] Speaker 1: she's a ninth grade. Oh, we're gonna get spicy. And
[22:10] Speaker 1: I just gotta remember, don't get my feelings hurt. And
[22:12] Speaker 1: then middle child Gianna is funny. I was talking to Mallory.
[22:16] Speaker 1: She said that her husband was like kind of scared
[22:19] Speaker 1: of her because not like she'll do something to them,
[22:23] Speaker 1: but just like her comeback.
[22:24] Speaker 2: She is very quick with it. Oh you think she
[22:26] Speaker 2: gets that room, which did side of the family.
[22:29] Speaker 1: Okay, definitely Mallory because even when Gizelle was younger and
[22:34] Speaker 1: when they were younger and my mom too. They would
[22:37] Speaker 1: do these things, you know how people used to like
[22:39] Speaker 1: roast each other and then watching like wild'n Out and
[22:42] Speaker 1: whatever came before that, all the shows. It's fun and
[22:44] Speaker 1: it can be fun, and we like watching shady shows.
[22:47] Speaker 1: They spend a lot of time with my mom and
[22:49] Speaker 1: we're watching housewives in reality TV, so you know there's
[22:52] Speaker 1: gonna be lots of shady moments, and so we.
[22:55] Speaker 2: Let them watch it.
[22:55] Speaker 1: It's like, don't be disrespectful, but have a comeback because
[22:58] Speaker 1: sometimes people will try you and you don't want to
[23:00] Speaker 1: be stuck on stupid, but they've got to die down sometimes.
[23:05] Speaker 1: So I don't know. Okay, she called my sister broke
[23:10] Speaker 1: the other day.
[23:10] Speaker 3: She was, okay, turn the shows off.
[23:13] Speaker 1: Turn them off. And what's crazy is it's not my sister,
[23:16] Speaker 1: it's my mama. So she was like, they're roasting each
[23:20] Speaker 1: other back and forth and it was all funny games.
[23:22] Speaker 1: She's like, and that's why you're broke, and some someing
[23:24] Speaker 1: and am I always like okay, So she went to
[23:25] Speaker 1: her room and reevaluated. I don't know how that ended out.
[23:28] Speaker 1: I was like, well, I'm scared for the holidays, so
[23:31] Speaker 1: I'm going to come with small gifts, and I just
[23:33] Speaker 1: hope everybody's nice. I'm going to take them to one
[23:35] Speaker 1: of their downtown lunches or dinners. They're always like, can
[23:38] Speaker 1: we go downtown?
[23:39] Speaker 2: Is you know?
[23:40] Speaker 1: They don't live in the city, so they like to
[23:41] Speaker 1: go to the city, order their mocktails, try different stuff.
[23:45] Speaker 1: They like to get adventurous, cause I'm like, we're not
[23:47] Speaker 1: going place with kids MENI so you're gonna have to mature.
[23:50] Speaker 1: And I enjoyed those moments. So we'll see how it goes.
[23:53] Speaker 1: I'll report back at the end of the month.
[23:55] Speaker 2: Speaking of reporting back, have you since have you started
[23:59] Speaker 2: reading the gift asking?
[24:01] Speaker 1: I started listening to it. I got it on audible
[24:02] Speaker 1: and I love that is her voice?
[24:05] Speaker 2: Is it her? Okay?
[24:05] Speaker 3: I read the hard copy.
[24:07] Speaker 2: I don't listen to it.
[24:08] Speaker 1: Have you because she gets you together?
[24:10] Speaker 2: She does and a.
[24:11] Speaker 1: Few times it's like I started doing other stuff and
[24:13] Speaker 1: then she says something and it's just like the tone.
[24:17] Speaker 1: I'm like, oh I missed something, let me start over.
[24:20] Speaker 1: But it's good. I'm enjoying it.
[24:22] Speaker 2: Have you found yourself like trying to apply some of
[24:24] Speaker 2: the things, like or even based off of the conversation
[24:27] Speaker 2: we had with kemmy like. I love how she ended
[24:30] Speaker 2: the episode, and she talked about like, make sure you're
[24:32] Speaker 2: also asking people if they need anything from you, and
[24:36] Speaker 2: I've been doing that, not with everybody now because now
[24:40] Speaker 2: she also says, make sure you want to do it
[24:42] Speaker 2: and willing to do it for who is asking, because
[24:45] Speaker 2: more than likely they gonna come back with it.
[24:47] Speaker 3: They might even be like no, and.
[24:48] Speaker 2: Then they call you back like remember earlier when you
[24:50] Speaker 2: asked me offer, Yeah, baby, I didn't mean it like that,
[24:54] Speaker 2: but yes, have you been applying any of it or
[24:56] Speaker 2: not yet?
[24:57] Speaker 1: I have And I've also been like I remember she
[25:01] Speaker 1: said this in the episode, and again, I'm not finished
[25:03] Speaker 1: with the book, but setting boundaries and also asking people
[25:06] Speaker 1: who ask me for a lot of stuff. Could you
[25:09] Speaker 1: let me know if this is a need or want,
[25:12] Speaker 1: because if it's a need, I'm more inclined to do it.
[25:15] Speaker 1: But sometimes the way that you ask me, it feels
[25:18] Speaker 1: like a need and then it's a want and I'm
[25:20] Speaker 1: like I should have said no. So just having like
[25:23] Speaker 1: better communication, being more open And again I don't know
[25:27] Speaker 1: if this is a part of the teachings or not,
[25:28] Speaker 1: but something else I've been trying to work on it's new.
[25:32] Speaker 1: It just started on Sunday. But when I am helping
[25:37] Speaker 1: people and then I feel like they might be a
[25:41] Speaker 1: little overly thankful, just like oh I'm sorry, or very
[25:45] Speaker 1: apologetic or just like overly grateful, I like to remind
[25:49] Speaker 1: them it's okay. I don't mind, to let them know,
[25:52] Speaker 1: like it's not a stress. I don't want you to
[25:54] Speaker 1: feel stressed, because maybe that's what you feel, and it's
[25:56] Speaker 1: okay to lean on me or to ask me for whatever,
[25:59] Speaker 1: and it's not a problem. So that they know that
[26:01] Speaker 1: the door is open.
[26:02] Speaker 2: I feel you on that. The overly stuff, like there's
[26:06] Speaker 2: certain situations where I've caught myself doing it and I'm
[26:11] Speaker 2: doing better at it, Like it is like, calm down,
[26:13] Speaker 2: I'm co listing a property with an agent and the way,
[26:17] Speaker 2: have you ever been doing something with somebody and maybe
[26:19] Speaker 2: you're the newer one and they want to make sure
[26:21] Speaker 2: I'm a direct person when it's time to get serious
[26:23] Speaker 2: when we do when we do live shows and stuff
[26:25] Speaker 2: like there's a funny medina and then there's the other
[26:26] Speaker 2: side where it's like business to get serious. Yeah, Like
[26:29] Speaker 2: it's not like funny in jokes, it's like, let's get
[26:32] Speaker 2: lets everybody make sure we do what we're supposed to do.
[26:33] Speaker 3: And it is two different people, and I.
[26:35] Speaker 2: Don't there's rude and there's just direct. And he was
[26:39] Speaker 2: being direct and he was like, I just want to
[26:42] Speaker 2: let you know. I don't mean to and I was like,
[26:43] Speaker 2: can you.
[26:43] Speaker 1: Oh, it's a guy. Yeah, but also it's probably overly
[26:46] Speaker 1: sensitive because he might have thought you were going to
[26:48] Speaker 1: be sensitive as a woman. You know, I have men
[26:49] Speaker 1: be thinking that sometimes.
[26:50] Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't think he was even thinking that, but
[26:53] Speaker 2: he but I was like, it was making me uncomfortable
[26:55] Speaker 2: because I'm not. I was like, I get it, Like
[26:57] Speaker 2: we got to get the stuff done and it's a
[27:01] Speaker 2: big deal. So I was like can I felt proud
[27:03] Speaker 2: of myself because I said, I was like, can you.
[27:04] Speaker 2: You don't have to keep like apologizing for being direct
[27:07] Speaker 2: to make sure that I'm doing the things correctly. I'm
[27:09] Speaker 2: telling you right now, you don't because I might be new,
[27:12] Speaker 2: but I'm not new new to peopling in the people world.
[27:14] Speaker 3: Like, I'm gonna tell you too.
[27:15] Speaker 2: I got some things to say as well, and I'm
[27:17] Speaker 2: not gonna apologize for the tone because it's not rude
[27:19] Speaker 2: or disrespectful.
[27:20] Speaker 3: It is just direct and you want to make sure
[27:22] Speaker 3: it's right.
[27:22] Speaker 2: Who's like okay?
[27:23] Speaker 1: I was like, yeah, yeah, how did it feel when
[27:28] Speaker 1: you were being direct with him and letting him know?
[27:30] Speaker 1: It felt really good?
[27:32] Speaker 3: Like it felt really good.
[27:33] Speaker 2: So yeah, y'all make sure I'll get the Gift of
[27:36] Speaker 2: Asking and really apply. It's just one of those life
[27:38] Speaker 2: changing books that makes you try to be a little
[27:42] Speaker 2: bit better.
[27:43] Speaker 1: M It's on the Libby app well, depending on where
[27:46] Speaker 1: you live. If y'all don't know about the liby at
[27:48] Speaker 1: we've been talking about in the book club, I don't
[27:51] Speaker 1: know what we're reading for November, but I'll put it
[27:53] Speaker 1: in an episode description. But most libraries are a part
[27:57] Speaker 1: of Libby or some other Peopla or some other digital
[28:02] Speaker 1: something where you put in your library cards so you
[28:04] Speaker 1: can check out books. They have audio books and the
[28:06] Speaker 1: ebooks right and then also if you are an Amazon
[28:09] Speaker 1: Prime member or you have Audible or whatever, they have
[28:12] Speaker 1: free books on there. The audio version of the Gift
[28:15] Speaker 1: of Asking is only like three and a half hours,
[28:17] Speaker 1: so like, you can listen to that in a day
[28:19] Speaker 1: of writing traffic and get your life together. Next up,
[28:22] Speaker 1: I'm going to listen to Power. I think Power or
[28:26] Speaker 1: the path. Yes, I'm very excited to hear that one too,
[28:30] Speaker 1: but I want to get through the gift of asking first,
[28:33] Speaker 1: and then I need to make sure I listen to
[28:34] Speaker 1: power before I go spend family time.
[28:37] Speaker 3: We really be reading the self help books.
[28:40] Speaker 1: I love them.
[28:40] Speaker 3: Was weird sex really or weird sex?
[28:42] Speaker 1: Yes, that's it, I say, because I was being a
[28:44] Speaker 1: progressive mama and I don't need any of the pet
[28:47] Speaker 1: people coming after me nothing. There was no actual beastiality,
[28:50] Speaker 1: to be clear, I just didn't know what was happening.
[28:53] Speaker 1: I just thought she wanted attention because that was the
[28:55] Speaker 1: article that I read, and she did, but it was
[28:58] Speaker 1: a different kind. And so things have changed in our home.
[29:01] Speaker 1: But I think within the next two weeks everything should
[29:04] Speaker 1: wind down and get back. I wish by a hip
[29:08] Speaker 1: would create something for pets. Maybe we should send them
[29:12] Speaker 1: an email.
[29:12] Speaker 2: Yeah, they need to just go ahead and make us
[29:14] Speaker 2: partners or maybe make us part of the creative.
[29:18] Speaker 1: I would like to do a real commercial, take us
[29:20] Speaker 1: to LA. I would like to go back to college.
[29:23] Speaker 1: I want to go through the factory. I would love
[29:26] Speaker 1: that and just see I want to see where they
[29:28] Speaker 1: grow it. They said all the things about the flowers.
[29:30] Speaker 1: I don't know really much about it. I just know
[29:32] Speaker 1: the ones I like and how they make me feel.
[29:34] Speaker 2: Okay, it was like some body was like, whatever type
[29:38] Speaker 2: of product you want to come out with, Like, I'm
[29:40] Speaker 2: going to just sponsor the whole thing, take care of everything, branding,
[29:44] Speaker 2: marketing or anything you need. Would you do you have
[29:46] Speaker 2: a product that you'd be like, I would love to
[29:48] Speaker 2: create this so.
[29:49] Speaker 1: Many but what would be the biggest one? Definitely, I
[29:52] Speaker 1: don't know which one, but something in the kitchen, something
[29:57] Speaker 1: in the kitchen. At first, I was thinking makeup stuff.
[30:00] Speaker 1: I hate seeing bad eyebrows, and mine aren't always great.
[30:02] Speaker 2: I now eyebrows.
[30:04] Speaker 1: Seeing it really upsets me. And like if I if
[30:07] Speaker 1: I was sitting here with you and your eyebrows were bad, honestly,
[30:10] Speaker 1: I probably wouldn't have hurt, shit you said, because I
[30:12] Speaker 1: would be looking at you, but I would be distracted
[30:14] Speaker 1: by those caterpillars or whatever you or pencils that you
[30:18] Speaker 1: had on your head. It can be very distracted. I
[30:21] Speaker 1: hate to think about that for a moment. Okay, do you.
[30:24] Speaker 2: Think that bad eyebrows?
[30:26] Speaker 1: Do you think that bad people?
[30:28] Speaker 2: Not that they're bad people, but do you think that
[30:30] Speaker 2: it says something about them.
[30:33] Speaker 1: Yeah. One, well it depends on what kind of what
[30:38] Speaker 1: depends on what they look like. But I definitely make
[30:40] Speaker 1: my assessments. And again I'm not listening to shit you
[30:42] Speaker 1: have to say, because you have distracted me. Where is
[30:44] Speaker 1: your hat and your bank?
[30:46] Speaker 2: Where is your mask? I would absolutely love it. You
[30:50] Speaker 2: know how people rate dick pics. I would love it
[30:53] Speaker 2: if people would send us just their eyebrows, like just
[30:55] Speaker 2: their eye and up and we get you think you
[30:57] Speaker 2: got really great eyebrows, or we get to just like
[31:01] Speaker 2: rate them and like critique the eyebrow. Please somebody that
[31:04] Speaker 2: baby send the picture and don't.
[31:06] Speaker 1: Send us none of our eyebrows on a bad eyebrows
[31:08] Speaker 1: because I've definitely had many recently, not recently, I've had.
[31:13] Speaker 3: Bad eyebrow days.
[31:15] Speaker 2: It was like a whole the society had bad eyebrows.
[31:17] Speaker 1: I saw on TikTok. I'm trying to get hip, y'all
[31:21] Speaker 1: keep sending me stuff. I appreciate it because I don't
[31:23] Speaker 1: really know how to work that shit. Anyway, I saw
[31:25] Speaker 1: something it was like eyebrow blindness, and people were showing
[31:29] Speaker 1: like they're saying they had eyebrow blindness because they didn't
[31:32] Speaker 1: realize how bad their brows were, and so it's like
[31:36] Speaker 1: they put it on the thing and then something swipes
[31:39] Speaker 1: across and then it's a picture of their eyebrows when
[31:41] Speaker 1: they had the eyebrow blindness. Oh, I don't even want
[31:46] Speaker 1: to go back to twenty fifteen and prior.
[31:50] Speaker 2: Ire on purpose, like me square in the front. Yeah,
[31:56] Speaker 2: I'm talking about like but it was like a too hard.
[31:58] Speaker 2: It was really harsh.
[32:00] Speaker 1: Yeah I had I had a face like that, too thin,
[32:03] Speaker 1: over arching them, getting them over, wax plucked whatever, too
[32:07] Speaker 1: dark and good brows. I still feel this way they
[32:13] Speaker 1: will make or break a face. If your eyebrows look
[32:16] Speaker 1: great some of the other stuff, you can look over
[32:19] Speaker 1: it or you don't, might not even need it. I
[32:21] Speaker 1: wish I had naturally thick, full brows. Some time ago.
[32:27] Speaker 1: I got my eyebrows microblade. It's time for a touch up.
[32:30] Speaker 1: But that was one of the best things since slice bread.
[32:32] Speaker 1: It helps a lot. But yeah, eyebrows, eyebrows.
[32:36] Speaker 2: Can do a lot.
[32:38] Speaker 1: And the good or the bad, what's your think? It
[32:39] Speaker 1: says about people.
[32:41] Speaker 3: I really don't know that you're rushing. There's a bad
[32:43] Speaker 3: eyebrow where it's just like you.
[32:45] Speaker 2: Are rushing and it's bad, and then there's a bad
[32:47] Speaker 2: eyebrow where you're just like you really you think this
[32:49] Speaker 2: looks good. I think maybe you're.
[32:50] Speaker 1: Concern when it looks like you took time on this
[32:52] Speaker 1: and it looks like Halloween.
[32:54] Speaker 3: Yeah, like you maybe just don't know style, or you
[32:57] Speaker 3: don't keep up with the trends. It's not It doesn't make.
[32:58] Speaker 1: You bad eyes checked. Sometimes I think about that.
[33:03] Speaker 2: You don't want to spend the money on the quality
[33:05] Speaker 2: products that could also be it, But but no, that's
[33:08] Speaker 2: not it because you can make it. You can use
[33:09] Speaker 2: a cheap product, you can use Yeah, yeah, I gotta
[33:14] Speaker 2: dig deeper into that.
[33:16] Speaker 1: Or maybe you just do want to look like el
[33:18] Speaker 1: Vira Princess of the Dark or what's that movie with
[33:22] Speaker 1: a little stick figure cartoons? Oh, Nightmare before Christmas or
[33:27] Speaker 1: whatever it is? What is that the vibe?
[33:31] Speaker 2: No?
[33:31] Speaker 1: No, but you know, different strokes for different folks. Yeah,
[33:37] Speaker 1: what product would you make?
[33:42] Speaker 2: I would make? I was gonna say makeup. I'm gonna
[33:47] Speaker 2: steer away from makeup. That's a good question.
[33:52] Speaker 1: You know what I picture for you? While you're thinking glasses?
[33:55] Speaker 1: Glasses are hats? Those are your thing? Like a wear
[33:59] Speaker 1: a lot of hats, and hats are unisex. They don't
[34:05] Speaker 1: really go out of style. Maybe what's on there does,
[34:08] Speaker 1: but you are a hat person, hat girl. Even if
[34:11] Speaker 1: it was just like I don't know what it's called,
[34:13] Speaker 1: like a baseball cap, that kind of I.
[34:14] Speaker 3: Know what I would make what because I've actually thought
[34:16] Speaker 3: about this before.
[34:17] Speaker 2: Okay, glasses girls, I'm a glasses girl. I would rather
[34:21] Speaker 2: have contacts, but I would rather wear glasses.
[34:23] Speaker 1: I always like Grace, you are up to the club
[34:26] Speaker 1: where you used to go, I will, I'll still wear them.
[34:29] Speaker 1: We do have some old club pictures where you was
[34:31] Speaker 1: definitely in the glasses. I must be yelling at Grace,
[34:34] Speaker 1: why do you? Why are you wearing that to the club.
[34:36] Speaker 1: She don't go no more, but you know, back in
[34:38] Speaker 1: the day anyway.
[34:39] Speaker 2: So I would make I always complain about I literally
[34:43] Speaker 2: I keep my handkerchief in my pocket always or in
[34:45] Speaker 2: my fanny pactice for my glasses. And if you look
[34:49] Speaker 2: very closely, there's so much makeup on the glasses, like
[34:52] Speaker 2: when you if you're a glasses girl, handkerchief and the glasses,
[34:56] Speaker 2: it gets on the glasses.
[34:57] Speaker 3: You gotta wipe it off.
[34:58] Speaker 2: And so I've always wish that somebody would create like
[35:02] Speaker 2: something that could also be stylish and you really don't
[35:04] Speaker 2: see it unless you look from the side. But it
[35:05] Speaker 2: doesn't matter because we already have these bars. Something that
[35:07] Speaker 2: can just slightly lift your glasses up and off of
[35:11] Speaker 2: your face so when you put them on, they're not
[35:13] Speaker 2: actually messing your makeup up?
[35:16] Speaker 1: Is that not what them little adjustable things that are
[35:18] Speaker 1: on some glasses are for.
[35:20] Speaker 2: No, because that's still pressing in your nose, so it's
[35:22] Speaker 2: still on you. Like I don't know how anybody could
[35:25] Speaker 2: even do it, but just something where it's like it
[35:27] Speaker 2: could still fit on your face tight and comfortably, but
[35:30] Speaker 2: it's not actually like sitting on any part of your
[35:32] Speaker 2: nose or your cheeks and messing up your conceiler.
[35:35] Speaker 1: Hmmm, maybe you need to meet an engineer friend to
[35:39] Speaker 1: help you put that together. I'm wondering would it feel secure?
[35:43] Speaker 1: You think maybe you just need a strap around the
[35:46] Speaker 1: back to I'm not I mean, I'm not a glasses girl.
[35:51] Speaker 1: Anytime I wear them is strapped.
[35:53] Speaker 2: Now, that's real.
[35:57] Speaker 1: To just set your glasses.
[35:58] Speaker 2: I could put an extend in between the this. Maybe
[36:02] Speaker 2: they could do an extender and stick them out just
[36:03] Speaker 2: a little bit. I'm not sure what they could, like
[36:06] Speaker 2: an extender between where this where the bar to here
[36:09] Speaker 2: farm is, yeah, and what where the glasses like this
[36:13] Speaker 2: can break? How this can come off? Mm hmm, like
[36:16] Speaker 2: it would be in between here.
[36:20] Speaker 1: Glasses something like that. Are you like what we figured
[36:24] Speaker 1: it out? Because I'm sure that people who do wear
[36:27] Speaker 1: glasses can totally relate and they would love that shit
[36:30] Speaker 1: and they're gonna eat it up.
[36:31] Speaker 2: Yeah, I would definitely get it, just.
[36:33] Speaker 1: Like I have. I know somebody and they have a
[36:38] Speaker 1: very bad vision, Like I'm like, are you legally blonde?
[36:42] Speaker 1: I remember that girl? I'm legally blonde. No, you don't
[36:45] Speaker 1: remember that girl that was hanging on the car. I
[36:47] Speaker 1: can't remember what she said. Anyway, she's legally blond, and
[36:51] Speaker 1: that's why she was trying to get out of getting arrested.
[36:53] Speaker 1: Didn't work. But glasses are so fucking thick, And I
[36:57] Speaker 1: was like, well, I would think that after sin trees
[37:00] Speaker 1: of people wearing glasses, there's something that could be figured out.
[37:03] Speaker 1: Because when I'm looking at you head on your eyes,
[37:07] Speaker 1: it's like I'm seeing like it's like a kaliscope, not you,
[37:12] Speaker 1: You're really looking at you. I'm talking to you. No,
[37:15] Speaker 1: yours look fine. So I don't know what your prescription is,
[37:17] Speaker 1: but it's not given that you blind, even though I
[37:19] Speaker 1: know you said you are. So you got the script
[37:23] Speaker 1: with the right lenses. He was like, it is, but
[37:26] Speaker 1: it costs way more. And that's why these are my
[37:28] Speaker 1: nighttime glasses because I broke my other glasses. That's why
[37:31] Speaker 1: these are so thick. And I'm like, baby, you need
[37:33] Speaker 1: to fix this because I'm looking at you and it
[37:35] Speaker 1: looks like I'm looking at eight of you in your
[37:37] Speaker 1: two sets of eyes and they're just thinking. They're just
[37:39] Speaker 1: reflecting back and forth. And he was just like, I said, well,
[37:42] Speaker 1: I get it. You gotta see put your contacts seeing.
[37:44] Speaker 1: Don't break these because what you're gonna do, But that's crazy.
[37:48] Speaker 1: If you guys are engineers or whatever, you need to
[37:51] Speaker 1: be optimal optomologists, optimologists him Adina up, she's got an
[37:56] Speaker 1: idea patting something and get something going, break or.
[38:00] Speaker 3: Flya little glasses be cute.
[38:03] Speaker 2: While we're making announcements, I wanted to make an announcement
[38:06] Speaker 2: that you guys, I really want to just play matchmaker.
[38:09] Speaker 2: You don't have to pay me, like, I just want
[38:11] Speaker 2: to play with it. Because there's so many people in
[38:13] Speaker 2: the world that'd be like, do you know anybody? And
[38:14] Speaker 2: I don't, But I'm like, we have a whole platform
[38:19] Speaker 2: of people that listen. If you know any good single men.
[38:23] Speaker 3: Good good single.
[38:25] Speaker 2: Men, Okay, say both, because some of y'all don't want
[38:28] Speaker 2: the good men. Like just like whatever you're you think
[38:30] Speaker 2: is good and they're single, and you also want them
[38:32] Speaker 2: to get hooked up with somebody, Will you please DM
[38:35] Speaker 2: me or the cocktails page and then figure like we
[38:37] Speaker 2: can figure it out.
[38:38] Speaker 3: The age range is.
[38:39] Speaker 2: I'm currently looking for a man, an older man for
[38:41] Speaker 2: an older, beautiful woman who is very successful. How old
[38:45] Speaker 2: I don't know how.
[38:45] Speaker 3: Old she is, but she's older.
[38:46] Speaker 2: He can be like forty five and up and he's
[38:49] Speaker 2: to be forty five and up for that one.
[38:50] Speaker 3: So send me a few forty five and ups.
[38:52] Speaker 2: Send me some of y'all daddies and uncles and stuff
[38:54] Speaker 2: and cousins, and then also send me somebody you know
[38:57] Speaker 2: late thirties to forties, So y'all send them, send them
[39:01] Speaker 2: in so we so I can play. I want to
[39:02] Speaker 2: just play.
[39:03] Speaker 1: We did a Patreon live I guess it was last September,
[39:07] Speaker 1: and we were talking about one of the old advice letters,
[39:13] Speaker 1: and then we were talking about it with our patrons.
[39:15] Speaker 1: So patriots will get first priority. But y'all need to
[39:19] Speaker 1: send that stuff in, send your pictures, send your profiles in.
[39:21] Speaker 1: And even wants to help you. I'm gonna look, I'll
[39:23] Speaker 1: help her. I'll be her assistant.
[39:25] Speaker 3: Do you know any older men that are single?
[39:28] Speaker 1: Not that I would recommend. I know, I know trifling ones.
[39:31] Speaker 1: I know one trifling. I would never put them onto
[39:35] Speaker 1: anybody unless you wanted your world to collapse.
[39:41] Speaker 3: H wow.
[39:44] Speaker 1: I just don't have any trust in them, and I
[39:45] Speaker 1: would never want to stick my neck out say oh
[39:48] Speaker 1: I know that. Nope, nope, nope, no, because I know
[39:51] Speaker 1: how you do the women, and you're not about to
[39:52] Speaker 1: be messing up our cocktails people and have them upset
[39:55] Speaker 1: with us and then on you because I'm just your assistant,
[39:58] Speaker 1: so it's gonna.
[39:58] Speaker 2: Be on you.
[39:59] Speaker 1: But then in the match and they're gonna be like
[40:00] Speaker 1: her matchmaking is shitty.
[40:03] Speaker 3: When now I'm at court, you are a baby, and.
[40:05] Speaker 1: Then I don't care, and yeah, we're not having those problems.
[40:09] Speaker 1: Yeah I don't. I don't know any good quality ones.
[40:12] Speaker 1: But if I do find some, because constantly mean. People's
[40:16] Speaker 1: relationships change. The last person I met who I felt
[40:19] Speaker 1: like might be a quality match is my brother that
[40:21] Speaker 1: I met on ancestory dot com. But he got a
[40:23] Speaker 1: new girl.
[40:24] Speaker 2: Oh okay, yeah, but.
[40:27] Speaker 1: I had when we went and when we went to
[40:29] Speaker 1: Seattle last year, he was in a relationship. I don't
[40:34] Speaker 1: know what's going on with that. I guess I should
[40:35] Speaker 1: call him or something. My dad asked for a match again,
[40:39] Speaker 1: like I said, refer to what I said thirty five
[40:42] Speaker 1: seconds ago. No, he wants a nurse, a housekeeper, a cook.
[40:46] Speaker 1: I said, you want hired help. That is not what
[40:49] Speaker 1: a partner should be in my mind. So I ain't
[40:54] Speaker 1: got nobody for you.
[40:55] Speaker 2: Baby.
[40:55] Speaker 1: You should have did that twenty thirty, forty fifty years ago,
[41:00] Speaker 1: even would have been appropriate, because you all now that's
[41:03] Speaker 1: what happens.
[41:05] Speaker 2: Well, you know, I guess we can tackle some of
[41:08] Speaker 2: these things topics that are on here. If our guest
[41:13] Speaker 2: isn't here in which I think I heard of it.
[41:14] Speaker 1: It's here, but we can do. Let's do like two
[41:16] Speaker 1: or three and we can save the rest for another day.
[41:18] Speaker 2: Okay.
[41:19] Speaker 1: I found I was on BuzzFeed. I love BuzzFeed because
[41:23] Speaker 1: I love a listicle, but I don't know what's going
[41:26] Speaker 1: on their website because it's very slow to load. Y'all
[41:28] Speaker 1: got to get that under control. But there were a
[41:32] Speaker 1: lot of different ones about different dating things. So pull
[41:35] Speaker 1: some stuff about, like some toxic traits that people have.
[41:42] Speaker 1: So I thought it might be interesting for us to
[41:45] Speaker 1: go through and pick and choose a few. We'll just
[41:47] Speaker 1: do like three or four today and we'll share if
[41:50] Speaker 1: we've experienced these and with the experience, have we been
[41:54] Speaker 1: the one who did it or were we on the
[41:57] Speaker 1: receiving end?
[41:59] Speaker 2: What's your f one?
[42:00] Speaker 1: Okay, let me open up my phone again. All right,
[42:03] Speaker 1: So first one is stonewalling. Okay, so this therapist did
[42:15] Speaker 1: they consult it doctor or butch orton? It doesn't matter
[42:20] Speaker 1: the doctor, doctor, oh said stone Walling is when a
[42:24] Speaker 1: partner leaves the room and the and the partner without
[42:27] Speaker 1: saying anything or addressing their concerns or their partner's concerned,
[42:31] Speaker 1: so they just leave, kind of like ghosting, but more
[42:34] Speaker 1: in an immediate sense, which you haven't left the home.
[42:37] Speaker 3: You're in the middle of a disagreement or argument, and
[42:39] Speaker 3: it's just like.
[42:40] Speaker 1: It's just like giving a silent treatment. So it's just
[42:42] Speaker 1: like you know what, I'm not saying shit else I'm
[42:44] Speaker 1: just gonna leave. I'm gonna retreat.
[42:46] Speaker 2: I've been on both sides of it. I've been the
[42:48] Speaker 2: one doing it and I've had it done to me.
[42:52] Speaker 1: And how did it feel when it was done to you?
[42:55] Speaker 1: It was horrible?
[42:56] Speaker 2: Like it feels like after so long it be feeling.
[42:59] Speaker 1: Like abuse, Like, bro, what do you do or the
[43:03] Speaker 1: last time it happened? If you can remember it?
[43:05] Speaker 2: Really, it depends on like what it is, if like
[43:08] Speaker 2: if I really because when that happens, when the person
[43:10] Speaker 2: is doing it, Tea, it's like you probably are the
[43:12] Speaker 2: one who did the wrong thing or whatever it was
[43:14] Speaker 2: your fault, like you caused whatever.
[43:16] Speaker 3: This whole discussion was.
[43:17] Speaker 2: Over, And so that makes me feel really bad when
[43:20] Speaker 2: anybody does it to me, like and I can't even
[43:25] Speaker 2: do it that long to like somebody that I really loved.
[43:27] Speaker 2: But when you can really go along.
[43:28] Speaker 1: With it, what's long?
[43:31] Speaker 2: The whole day so long, like you get up and
[43:34] Speaker 2: get out of the conversation is like I'm done talking
[43:37] Speaker 2: about it, and then you just don't say anything and
[43:38] Speaker 2: then you leave because like I don't know, not that
[43:40] Speaker 2: I haven't done it before. I have, and I'm not
[43:42] Speaker 2: proud of it. I don't think same.
[43:44] Speaker 3: It doesn't feel good.
[43:45] Speaker 2: It really does feel like, oh my gosh, like you're
[43:46] Speaker 2: really not talking to me. And then I instantly go
[43:49] Speaker 2: to I'm dramatic. I go to like, Okay, we don't
[43:51] Speaker 2: left the house, we're not talking to each other. What
[43:52] Speaker 2: if something happens to somebody, that's the last thing we're
[43:55] Speaker 2: gonna remember, and it's gonna be. Now I'm falling out
[43:59] Speaker 2: hanging on the cab and you didn't have to do that.
[44:01] Speaker 1: When it's like, let's Kingdom come. You said that movie
[44:06] Speaker 1: when Jada Pinkett fell out at that funeral.
[44:09] Speaker 2: I mean I think about that all yeah, because your
[44:11] Speaker 2: last words with somebody was probably crazy or just non existent.
[44:13] Speaker 2: That's not going to feel good. So I don't like
[44:15] Speaker 2: to I've gotten better with that type of thing. It's like,
[44:19] Speaker 2: let's just say, hey, I think let's take a little break.
[44:21] Speaker 2: I don't want to really talk about it anymore.
[44:24] Speaker 1: That's what makes you do that, though, makes you stonewall
[44:27] Speaker 1: when you're the one doing it to someone else.
[44:30] Speaker 2: You have really pissed me off, like or you but
[44:33] Speaker 2: like how maybe you said something that was like a.
[44:38] Speaker 3: Not necessarily disrespectful, a.
[44:40] Speaker 2: Dig or you really like hit a nerve that you
[44:44] Speaker 2: know how sometimes you know certain intimate things about somebody
[44:47] Speaker 2: that really could crush them, Like we know that about
[44:49] Speaker 2: our best friends, we know what about it if you
[44:51] Speaker 2: got a manager, even if you just laid up with somebody,
[44:53] Speaker 2: there's certain things you know about people worry about.
[44:54] Speaker 3: I said, low blow, see a low blow? You hit
[44:58] Speaker 3: me with a low blow.
[44:59] Speaker 2: I can normally communic hate through most things, but if
[45:01] Speaker 2: it's a low blow, I would like, I want to hate.
[45:04] Speaker 3: You for real, and so I got to get up
[45:07] Speaker 3: and walk out.
[45:08] Speaker 1: I totally agree. If it's a low blow, I'm getting silent,
[45:12] Speaker 1: and I want you to be as scared as my
[45:14] Speaker 1: brother in law is of his middle child, more scared.
[45:19] Speaker 1: And I'm scared too, because it's just like, Okay, is
[45:22] Speaker 1: this going to be the moment that you snap? Is
[45:24] Speaker 1: your story going to end on Oxygen, own Lifetime or
[45:29] Speaker 1: Phulu hopefully at least Netflix, but like, hopefully it doesn't
[45:33] Speaker 1: have to go there. You know, Netflix will glamorize it
[45:37] Speaker 1: for you. But I think about that low blows or
[45:40] Speaker 1: the other thing that's not as dramatic, because I'm totally
[45:43] Speaker 1: with you on that. The other thing is when I'm
[45:45] Speaker 1: talking and I feel like you're convinced that you don't
[45:50] Speaker 1: want to understand me or that you can't understand me,
[45:52] Speaker 1: so you're not really listening and you're just it's too combative.
[45:56] Speaker 1: It's just like, Okay, I'm trying to pivot and like
[45:59] Speaker 1: meet you where you at or overthink things. I'm trying
[46:03] Speaker 1: to reach a resolve because no matter the argument, I
[46:05] Speaker 1: do want to reach a resolve. If I don't care
[46:07] Speaker 1: about a resolve, I'm not going to even engage. That's
[46:11] Speaker 1: gonna be a different type of stonewall. That's gonna be
[46:13] Speaker 1: stone hinge. I'll be in the Faery Mountains in the
[46:17] Speaker 1: UK somewhere, but I won't because I can do that.
[46:20] Speaker 1: But if I will talk at least a little bit
[46:22] Speaker 1: or instapone or whatever, I care. But it's frustrating when
[46:27] Speaker 1: it feels like you are convinced on disagreeing or not
[46:32] Speaker 1: understanding or not listening, and that is so hard to
[46:34] Speaker 1: get through. It is hard to get through, and especially
[46:36] Speaker 1: when I'm wrong.
[46:39] Speaker 2: It's really funny that we're talking about this because I'm
[46:41] Speaker 2: reading a book right now on audible or on audiobooks
[46:43] Speaker 2: dot Com. They have a whole special going in is
[46:46] Speaker 2: for you for thirty days.
[46:47] Speaker 1: I know that's right. I love a deal, so do I.
[46:49] Speaker 2: And so there's this book that I'm reading that my
[46:51] Speaker 2: brother suggested to me. It's called Fight Right. Have you
[46:54] Speaker 2: heard about it? No?
[46:55] Speaker 1: But let me add it to let me check all
[46:57] Speaker 1: the girl because I got two credits.
[47:00] Speaker 2: Download this book. I'm almost already done with it. Fight
[47:03] Speaker 2: Fight Right by Julian and John Gotman. Julie and John Gotman,
[47:07] Speaker 2: they're married and their therapist and they do these studies
[47:10] Speaker 2: on They got forty thousand couples together, goddamn forty thousand
[47:16] Speaker 2: to get this, to get this research and this data.
[47:18] Speaker 1: It goes two hundred and sixteen. They got five stars
[47:22] Speaker 1: on Audible. Y'all show the god whoever's reading it, whether
[47:25] Speaker 1: it's them or somebody else, that makes a difference.
[47:27] Speaker 3: It is a very good book.
[47:29] Speaker 2: I thought it was gonna be one of books where
[47:30] Speaker 2: you reading and it's like, you know how people make
[47:32] Speaker 2: the couple of books, and it's like, but you don't
[47:33] Speaker 2: know everything about it.
[47:34] Speaker 1: I don't read couple's books, so we're gonna find out.
[47:36] Speaker 2: But part like it's like Okay, this is not like relatable.
[47:39] Speaker 2: It's so really I'm not a married person, and it's
[47:41] Speaker 2: about like married people. And they they literally created this
[47:45] Speaker 2: whole research, Like they research couples, and they research like
[47:50] Speaker 2: how you fight and like the like even the most
[47:54] Speaker 2: healthiest relationships.
[47:56] Speaker 1: I wonder, actually, wait, is this the same author. Oh no,
[48:01] Speaker 1: this is a different person from one of those articles
[48:03] Speaker 1: that I saved. I think that they were contributors to
[48:06] Speaker 1: the article one of the articles that I say from BuzzFeed.
[48:09] Speaker 3: I wonder.
[48:10] Speaker 2: But they study these partners, They study these couples literally,
[48:13] Speaker 2: there are certain parts of the study where they put
[48:17] Speaker 2: them up to a computer, like with the tubes and
[48:19] Speaker 2: stuff to see how your heart rate, your blood rises
[48:23] Speaker 2: when an argument happens. They record you in an argument.
[48:26] Speaker 2: They bring up hard discussions that everybody has, like one
[48:29] Speaker 2: argument that you just always have in your relationship. And
[48:32] Speaker 2: they talk about how like people look at conflict in
[48:35] Speaker 2: a relationship like it's a bad thing, when actually it's
[48:37] Speaker 2: a really good thing. Even the most worst of conflicts.
[48:41] Speaker 2: You shouldn't be hitting each other. That's different when abuse
[48:43] Speaker 2: comes in. But conflict is it helps you, It gives
[48:48] Speaker 2: you a moment of intimacy, like to get closer to
[48:51] Speaker 2: somebody because there's a problem. We need to get to
[48:53] Speaker 2: the bottom of it. But you probably never will. Like
[48:55] Speaker 2: they actually talk about in the book, how eighty eight
[48:57] Speaker 2: percent or some crazy number or crazy high number of
[49:00] Speaker 2: problems are not solvable. You can't solve some of the
[49:04] Speaker 2: problems in as a couple. It's you have to learn
[49:07] Speaker 2: how to talk about them and get your feelings out
[49:09] Speaker 2: and listen to each other and work through. But they're
[49:12] Speaker 2: not solvable there I think they said perpetual, and that
[49:16] Speaker 2: is and people try to get to this resolve and
[49:17] Speaker 2: that's when people get mad because it's like, there's really
[49:19] Speaker 2: not anything we can solve about this. Most of the
[49:21] Speaker 2: arguments come from fear, dreams not being not coming true.
[49:25] Speaker 2: Finding You have to learn how to like just maneuver
[49:27] Speaker 2: these conversations as an adult, and that gets hard because
[49:30] Speaker 2: emotions get involved. Your blood pressure starts rise and heart
[49:32] Speaker 2: starts beating. And they actually said that a lot of
[49:35] Speaker 2: men die from that. You got to read the book, bitch,
[49:37] Speaker 2: it was so great.
[49:38] Speaker 1: I'm always looking up things while men be having heart
[49:41] Speaker 1: attexts because y'all be checking out, And I know it's
[49:43] Speaker 1: because y'all be stressed out about stuff. And I was
[49:46] Speaker 1: talking to some men one day. I can't remember what
[49:48] Speaker 1: the situation was, but I was like, this is exactly
[49:51] Speaker 1: why y'all feel like you got a hole things in
[49:54] Speaker 1: and y'all, this is why you blood pressure hot. It's
[49:56] Speaker 1: not what you ate. Well, that's a contribute in factor,
[50:00] Speaker 1: but on top of that bullshit that you ate, you
[50:03] Speaker 1: also are holding things in or and it started having
[50:05] Speaker 1: arguments and expecting somebody to change and you know they
[50:08] Speaker 1: want and then you're choosing to stay there and it's
[50:10] Speaker 1: like your blood pressure gonna be high.
[50:12] Speaker 2: But it's also starting to get my ours because, like
[50:13] Speaker 2: I do, I love men and I love the conversation
[50:16] Speaker 2: of men being like we can't. We wasn't raised to
[50:19] Speaker 2: talk about our feelings. Yeah, but we're in a new
[50:21] Speaker 2: state in the world and it's like we're trying to
[50:23] Speaker 2: help everybody talk about their feelings. And now we're in
[50:25] Speaker 2: a moment where you can talk about your feelings. Talk
[50:27] Speaker 2: about your feelings, even if it's a little inch, that's
[50:29] Speaker 2: better than yesterday.
[50:30] Speaker 3: Bro, say something you holding it in it don't feel good?
[50:32] Speaker 1: Say something I feel you on that because it's like Okay,
[50:36] Speaker 1: I don't. At this point, we are one hundred years old.
[50:40] Speaker 1: Why are we talking about how we were raised. If
[50:43] Speaker 1: we can also sit here and share with each other
[50:46] Speaker 1: that we don't like some things from the past, why
[50:48] Speaker 1: are we gonna keep doing the shit that we've already
[50:51] Speaker 1: I just tried in some bullshit.
[50:53] Speaker 2: I do some research the other day with a man
[50:55] Speaker 2: and he was like, it was easy for women. I
[50:57] Speaker 2: hate that conversation. It's not easy. It's still very hard,
[51:00] Speaker 2: it's still embarrassing.
[51:02] Speaker 1: You need to be upset and crying sometimes I be crying.
[51:04] Speaker 2: I don't want to be crying.
[51:05] Speaker 1: I don't want to be washed like I want to
[51:07] Speaker 1: listen to something besides Fly like a Bird by Myrick
[51:10] Speaker 1: Carey that I had to repeat all more, and the
[51:13] Speaker 1: only way to get me out of it I had
[51:14] Speaker 1: to turn on Jeezy? Is that really how I need
[51:17] Speaker 1: to have my day?
[51:19] Speaker 2: Well?
[51:19] Speaker 1: Forty five? Just no, it's not about time. It's not
[51:24] Speaker 1: just time. I should not be listening to Jeezy. She
[51:27] Speaker 1: turned on Kirk Franklin, But then I thought about his
[51:29] Speaker 1: porn addiction, and it cycled me back to the bullshit
[51:31] Speaker 1: that I knew.
[51:32] Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not easy, and I don't like when me
[51:35] Speaker 2: saying it's easy for y'all. It's really not easy, y'all,
[51:36] Speaker 2: but it doesn't feel good to hold it in, like,
[51:39] Speaker 2: oh my god.
[51:39] Speaker 1: It's not easy to be super emotional. And I hate
[51:42] Speaker 1: when the men. I ain't gonna harp on y'all too
[51:44] Speaker 1: bad today because we wrap this up, but I hate
[51:46] Speaker 1: with a man talk about how emotional women are as
[51:50] Speaker 1: they're y'all. Are y'all show it, maybe in different ways.
[51:53] Speaker 1: Maybe you're not crying in front of us or wileside,
[51:56] Speaker 1: but y'all be doing some fuck shit. Okay, I have
[51:58] Speaker 1: one more that I want to bring up. We'll definitely
[52:01] Speaker 1: save this one, not delete this from the dogs, and
[52:03] Speaker 1: we can get into this another time because we've got
[52:05] Speaker 1: plenty more episodes to record this year. But one thing
[52:09] Speaker 1: that to which one do I want? Okay, I'm gonna
[52:14] Speaker 1: pick what dismissing your partner's feelings. I cannot stand when
[52:20] Speaker 1: something bothers me and I've brought it up, and if
[52:27] Speaker 1: I've brought it up, I did do a lot of
[52:28] Speaker 1: overthinking because that is me and I'm working through it.
[52:31] Speaker 1: But I bring it up and then you dismiss it
[52:34] Speaker 1: as if my feelings are invalid, they don't matter, or
[52:37] Speaker 1: it's like you're overreacting, you're being emotional. That is extremely
[52:41] Speaker 1: frustrating for somebody to dismiss your feelings about whatever. I
[52:45] Speaker 1: would rather you talk about them and tell me you
[52:48] Speaker 1: didn't see it that way and you're sorry, and you
[52:51] Speaker 1: can even have a short response to it because it
[52:53] Speaker 1: wasn't a big deal to you and you didn't know.
[52:56] Speaker 1: But to act like I'm tripping because I feel away
[52:59] Speaker 1: like these are my feeling Have you ever been in
[53:01] Speaker 1: a situation where somebody was like making you feel like
[53:04] Speaker 1: your feelings were just like, girl, what you're talking about.
[53:07] Speaker 2: I've done both. I've literally been on both sides of it.
[53:11] Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, and it's frustrating. It's like, I think
[53:17] Speaker 1: that when you are in a situation where because I've
[53:20] Speaker 1: been on the other side where it's like you talking
[53:22] Speaker 1: about some bullshit, maybe just don't say that out loud.
[53:26] Speaker 2: I don't feel it, And if you do feel you
[53:28] Speaker 2: should just be curious and ask the question like what
[53:31] Speaker 2: exact can you explain?
[53:32] Speaker 1: Ask more questions when you want to say what the
[53:35] Speaker 1: fuck you talk about? Pause, take a deep breath and
[53:39] Speaker 1: think about it. If you were in their shoes and
[53:42] Speaker 1: you had an issue, it obviously wouldn't be this one,
[53:44] Speaker 1: because in your mind is some bullshit. How would you feel?
[53:47] Speaker 1: What do you think is going on? Just don't dismiss it,
[53:49] Speaker 1: because when somebody is building up the courage to address
[53:53] Speaker 1: an issue, a concern or whatever, when you do that shit,
[53:56] Speaker 1: it's just like you don't know if your chef is
[53:59] Speaker 1: going to be on, if your tires will be slashed,
[54:02] Speaker 1: or if they'll be jump.
[54:04] Speaker 2: How do you know?
[54:05] Speaker 1: You just never know what's going on? I told you
[54:08] Speaker 1: jump anyway. Okay, well, we'll move on said we don't
[54:14] Speaker 1: get too deep in the crazy pool, so we can
[54:16] Speaker 1: get to the next episode before we get into advice, though,
[54:19] Speaker 1: we will move on to Indecisive Diane, and we'll table
[54:22] Speaker 1: the rest of these little talking points for another day.
[54:24] Speaker 1: But y'all, let us know. What are some things that
[54:28] Speaker 1: you feel like upset you or you feel like your
[54:33] Speaker 1: partner might not understand, like little issues. Are things that
[54:35] Speaker 1: you get in fights about that could be red flags
[54:38] Speaker 1: or deal breakers that you wish you had the words
[54:42] Speaker 1: to express properly how you feel and why it's important
[54:45] Speaker 1: to you. Let us know in the comments or in
[54:47] Speaker 1: a message dm whatever, email, it doesn't matter, Okay. So
[54:50] Speaker 1: we'll go on to Indecisive Diane, and when we come back,
[54:52] Speaker 1: it's time for advice.
[54:56] Speaker 3: Would you stop.
[54:56] Speaker 2: Thinking about what everyone wants? Stop thinking about what I'm want?
[55:00] Speaker 2: What do you want? What your parents want?
[55:02] Speaker 5: What do you want?
[55:03] Speaker 3: What do you want?
[55:05] Speaker 4: What do you want?
[55:08] Speaker 3: What do you want?
[55:13] Speaker 6: Hey, ladies, it's me Diane and I want to remind
[55:18] Speaker 6: you let your hair down.
[55:19] Speaker 3: For New Year's Eve.
[55:21] Speaker 6: Coffee Beanjean is hosting a really nice retreat, a hot
[55:25] Speaker 6: yoga retreat all levels with Elizabeth Gilbert and Paradise and Vibe.
[55:31] Speaker 3: Go to Paradise and.
[55:32] Speaker 6: Vibe dot com to start your payment plan or if
[55:35] Speaker 6: you're a rich bitch paying fool. But if you're not,
[55:38] Speaker 6: it's all right. They have a firm. Happy New Year.
[55:41] Speaker 4: Bye.
[56:11] Speaker 1: All right, So we are back from Indecisive Diane, and
[56:13] Speaker 1: it is time for the advice. If you have a
[56:15] Speaker 1: question that you would like to ask us on the show,
[56:17] Speaker 1: email us ask cocktails at cocktailspot dot com. Okay, so
[56:24] Speaker 1: or sorry advice. I don't know why I said ask
[56:27] Speaker 1: cocktails advice at cocktail spot dot com.
[56:31] Speaker 2: That mayby made up a whole new email.
[56:32] Speaker 1: That was the old email asked cocktails at Gmail.
[56:35] Speaker 2: Okay, we'll read one advice. So this one is titled
[56:38] Speaker 2: should I send my boobs or not? Hey, ladies, I
[56:42] Speaker 2: love the show and I love y'all. Here's my dilemma.
[56:44] Speaker 2: I've been seeing this guy for about a year and
[56:46] Speaker 2: a half. He's pretty cool and I enjoy spending time
[56:49] Speaker 2: with him. In the time we've spent together, we have
[56:52] Speaker 2: built a deep bond in connection. He's a great time
[56:55] Speaker 2: and I enjoy spending time with him. She said, that's
[56:57] Speaker 2: several times. The sex is great and that's not the problem.
[57:00] Speaker 2: He often asked me for sexy pictures, and even though
[57:02] Speaker 2: I'm thirty, that's something I've never done before. You know,
[57:06] Speaker 2: if you scared, I get it. That is the scariest
[57:09] Speaker 2: thing if.
[57:10] Speaker 1: You haven't done it. Yeah, it's kind of like what
[57:12] Speaker 1: it did.
[57:12] Speaker 2: Be scary. It's just like what you doing to do
[57:14] Speaker 2: with the picture you're gonna show somebody, Okay, not just
[57:17] Speaker 2: with not just with Current Bay, but with no one ever.
[57:20] Speaker 2: I know that's crazy, No it's not, but something you see,
[57:23] Speaker 2: something has always stopped me from sending them. I really
[57:26] Speaker 2: liked Current Bay, so I wanted to be more open
[57:27] Speaker 2: to exploring nudes with him. A while ago, Medina talked
[57:30] Speaker 2: about an app for sending sexy messages and pictures and
[57:33] Speaker 2: we tried it. When I sent a teaser in the app,
[57:36] Speaker 2: he basically roasted me. Was it fieled? No? Remember that app?
[57:41] Speaker 2: And it was like I played with it for a
[57:44] Speaker 2: little bit. It was really fun. I can't remember the
[57:45] Speaker 2: name of it. And it would give you could play
[57:47] Speaker 2: little games and it would be like.
[57:48] Speaker 3: Oh, the guy was based in La.
[57:50] Speaker 1: It was yeah, I do remember, though vaguely.
[57:54] Speaker 2: Damn okay, so damn that's me. So he basically started
[57:58] Speaker 2: roasting me, calling me child for sending my boobs covered
[58:01] Speaker 2: up now. I ad meant the picture was modest, but
[58:04] Speaker 2: I was trying to see how the app worked before
[58:06] Speaker 2: taking my tea out.
[58:08] Speaker 1: Very classic. Well that's just.
[58:10] Speaker 2: That just discouraged me completely told and I told him
[58:13] Speaker 2: I didn't want to use the app anymore. Fast forward
[58:15] Speaker 2: to now, and he asked pretty frequently for them and
[58:17] Speaker 2: I still haven't given him. Usually when he asked me,
[58:21] Speaker 2: I respond with telling him to come see them in person. However,
[58:24] Speaker 2: lately this has turned into a much bigger conversation in
[58:26] Speaker 2: our relationship. And he feels that I don't trust him
[58:29] Speaker 2: because I don't send him naked pictures. On one hand,
[58:32] Speaker 2: I said, and don't because the fact that he got
[58:36] Speaker 2: an attitude whow On one hand, I don't want this
[58:40] Speaker 2: to get in the way and I don't want him
[58:42] Speaker 2: to feel like I don't trust him. On the other hand,
[58:44] Speaker 2: we have had to work through some other things, and
[58:47] Speaker 2: sometimes he talks like, if I just started sending him nudes,
[58:49] Speaker 2: our problems would be fixed. I'm not delusional. Sending nuds
[58:53] Speaker 2: won't fix all of our other issues. Should I hold
[58:55] Speaker 2: out on sending him my tits until our other issues
[58:59] Speaker 2: are resolved? Her? Am I overthinking it sent from my iPhone?
[59:04] Speaker 1: Well, iPhone? I don't think that you're wrong. I think
[59:07] Speaker 1: that him having all these issues that is raising all
[59:11] Speaker 1: the rape red flags to me. I don't like it.
[59:13] Speaker 1: He should not be that thirsty for your naked pictures,
[59:16] Speaker 1: especially when porn hub is still free.
[59:19] Speaker 2: I do.
[59:21] Speaker 1: But if she sent it and he's like, oh, well
[59:24] Speaker 1: you need to send it and they have other issues,
[59:26] Speaker 1: you still.
[59:27] Speaker 2: For the town Because it's, like she said, he roast her.
[59:30] Speaker 2: When she said roast, I'm not always going to be
[59:32] Speaker 2: like a roast. He just was like, you really you
[59:35] Speaker 2: really modest with the titties.
[59:36] Speaker 1: Well that's all he said. Or he roasted her, and
[59:39] Speaker 1: she's saying that she's modest because I heard it as
[59:43] Speaker 1: she's saying she's modest, but he roasted her first, because
[59:47] Speaker 1: I'm like, why would you roast somebody?
[59:48] Speaker 2: He roasted me, He called me childish, persent in my
[59:50] Speaker 2: boobs covered that. I thought he was like talking about
[59:52] Speaker 2: her titties, like that's all you got, like something like that.
[59:55] Speaker 1: Okay, he's saying like, bitch, why are you covering that
[59:57] Speaker 1: shit up? I've already put them in my mouth and
[59:59] Speaker 1: you wrote on my ass like what, I don't know,
[1:00:02] Speaker 1: that's a rose? Could have that could have been a
[1:00:04] Speaker 1: flirt moment. She felt like it was a rose. So
[1:00:07] Speaker 1: it's also like you gotta be conscious of the other
[1:00:11] Speaker 1: person's feelings and if you are making her uncomfortable, what
[1:00:13] Speaker 1: the fuck is gonna make her want to send pictures?
[1:00:15] Speaker 1: You had to send the pictures.
[1:00:17] Speaker 3: I get it.
[1:00:17] Speaker 2: I think if you like him, I think it should
[1:00:19] Speaker 2: be a conversation and just be like, dang, not really
[1:00:21] Speaker 2: hurt my feelings And it made me feel uncomfortable and
[1:00:23] Speaker 2: then see if y'all can move forward still with sending
[1:00:25] Speaker 2: sexy pictures, and then maybe he can help you and
[1:00:28] Speaker 2: y'all can have a cute little date night where he
[1:00:30] Speaker 2: tries to like take the pictures of you, and this
[1:00:32] Speaker 2: whole negative can be turned into a positive. CEIs that's
[1:00:35] Speaker 2: what I think. I don't think it's that big of
[1:00:36] Speaker 2: a deal. But if you think it's that big of
[1:00:39] Speaker 2: a deal, talk to him about it and be like,
[1:00:40] Speaker 2: that really hurt my feelings.
[1:00:42] Speaker 1: I definitely agree to a certain extent that you should
[1:00:45] Speaker 1: talk to him. Tell him it could be cute for
[1:00:47] Speaker 1: him to take the pictures, and maybe if you do
[1:00:49] Speaker 1: it in person it could be like fun. But open up,
[1:00:53] Speaker 1: let him know you're a little shy, you're scared, you
[1:00:54] Speaker 1: never done this before. But if he's still making jokes
[1:00:57] Speaker 1: and shit, bitch, are you a comedian, let me go
[1:00:59] Speaker 1: see you at your sh show. Not in my text messages,
[1:01:02] Speaker 1: I wouldn't like it. So just see how he reacts
[1:01:04] Speaker 1: to you telling him it made you feel uncomfortable or
[1:01:07] Speaker 1: you felt like he was playing you, or you know,
[1:01:10] Speaker 1: making things too light when it is serious to you,
[1:01:13] Speaker 1: And see how he reacts. Because I'm not sending nobody.
[1:01:16] Speaker 1: I'll send news to a lot of people, but I'm
[1:01:19] Speaker 1: not sending them if you roasted me. Now, that's where
[1:01:22] Speaker 1: the book stops, and it doesn't stop too many week
[1:01:25] Speaker 1: let us let us know if you hit him up
[1:01:28] Speaker 1: and tell him this and take Medina's advice, and if
[1:01:31] Speaker 1: he's like, okay, if things soften up, but if he
[1:01:33] Speaker 1: still talks to you and it makes you uncomfortable, girl
[1:01:35] Speaker 1: a board mission. All right, So on that note, we'll
[1:01:38] Speaker 1: move on to the cocktails. And if you have a
[1:01:41] Speaker 1: cocktail that you want to share, and make sure you
[1:01:43] Speaker 1: email it to us cocktails at cocktailspod dot com.
[1:01:48] Speaker 5: Uh, but if you ain't got took on comfort? How
[1:01:58] Speaker 5: didn't mean you think no.
[1:02:02] Speaker 6: Cat?
[1:02:06] Speaker 1: Once upon a time, not long ago, I was all right,
[1:02:12] Speaker 1: this one says choot choo. I think, oh oh lord,
[1:02:17] Speaker 1: she's smiling though, so I think it might be the
[1:02:19] Speaker 1: emoji is a smiley woman some context. Twenty two year
[1:02:23] Speaker 1: old black girl dating a forty year old white guy.
[1:02:28] Speaker 1: All right, At the time of this story, we were
[1:02:33] Speaker 1: about two years in. Yeah, okay, looking back, I was
[1:02:37] Speaker 1: definitely trifling, but I knew that my boyfriend would bend
[1:02:40] Speaker 1: over backwards to keep me I had cheated on him
[1:02:43] Speaker 1: several times, and each time he still came crawling back.
[1:02:48] Speaker 1: It disgusted me, honestly, but at the same time I
[1:02:52] Speaker 1: used it. I told him the only way I'd stay
[1:02:55] Speaker 1: was if he let me fuck other men. Well, all right, girl,
[1:03:00] Speaker 1: life by the neck and tell it what you want,
[1:03:03] Speaker 1: and to her surprise, he agreed. It wasn't long before
[1:03:06] Speaker 1: he suggested putting an ad on Craigslist. How old is this.
[1:03:10] Speaker 3: Sweet, craigs, You're gonna get murdered.
[1:03:13] Speaker 1: They're gonna be on the first forty D or Hulu
[1:03:17] Speaker 1: or Snap or over or oxygen.
[1:03:20] Speaker 2: Apps like safe appslist.
[1:03:24] Speaker 1: They want to live life on the edge. They want
[1:03:26] Speaker 1: to be down at the truck stops. All right, lot lizards,
[1:03:29] Speaker 1: all right? Okay, So we got drunk one day and
[1:03:32] Speaker 1: the idea didn't seem so crazy. In fact, he thought
[1:03:35] Speaker 1: of random men coming over to fuck me in the
[1:03:38] Speaker 1: mid afternoon, and it turned me on. The first guy
[1:03:42] Speaker 1: came over and it was laughable. He was young and
[1:03:47] Speaker 1: so nervous that he could barely function. His hands were
[1:03:51] Speaker 1: trembling putting the condom on, and his stroke game was whap.
[1:03:56] Speaker 1: I wonder why even agreed to this. In the first place.
[1:03:59] Speaker 1: Maybe this thing was a mistake. After he left, we
[1:04:02] Speaker 1: sat down for a few minutes, then st bucket and
[1:04:05] Speaker 1: hit up the next dude. Second guy was older, not
[1:04:08] Speaker 1: really my type, but he knew how to handle He
[1:04:11] Speaker 1: knew how to handle himself. His stroke game was solid,
[1:04:14] Speaker 1: but again I wasn't feeling it. At this point. I
[1:04:18] Speaker 1: was reconsidering all of my life choices. Is this really
[1:04:23] Speaker 1: what's out here? Mediocre dick, that's the choice?
[1:04:28] Speaker 2: I was questioned?
[1:04:30] Speaker 1: Right, okay? Determined to not take a complete l loser,
[1:04:36] Speaker 1: I gambled on a third encounter. The inbox was flooded
[1:04:40] Speaker 1: at this point, but this particular guy caught my eye.
[1:04:43] Speaker 1: I was not ready. She put a period in between everything,
[1:04:48] Speaker 1: so I had to do it for dramatic effect. This man,
[1:04:52] Speaker 1: he walked in like he owned the room. A firefighter
[1:04:56] Speaker 1: with broad shoulders, strong hands, and a smile.
[1:05:00] Speaker 2: Firefighters do be fine, Like it's very rare that I
[1:05:03] Speaker 2: see an ugly firefighter. I'd be looking at them like
[1:05:05] Speaker 2: y'all do, especially the Atlanta ones. They'd be like fine,
[1:05:09] Speaker 2: I don't see him.
[1:05:10] Speaker 1: I trying not to burn my house down, but I
[1:05:11] Speaker 1: get it.
[1:05:12] Speaker 3: My mama standing outside Kroger. Allay, my mama.
[1:05:17] Speaker 1: Knows about the firefighters, so she does be burning houses down,
[1:05:20] Speaker 1: and but she said they'd be fine anyway. Okay. Before
[1:05:23] Speaker 1: I knew it, he was between my legs, and damn,
[1:05:27] Speaker 1: he knew how to eat puss it puss, puss it.
[1:05:32] Speaker 2: Well.
[1:05:32] Speaker 1: I didn't put a w in there. I just felt
[1:05:34] Speaker 1: like she might. I don't know, that's the vibe I got. Okay,
[1:05:38] Speaker 1: his mouth was doing things I didn't even know where possible,
[1:05:42] Speaker 1: and I was soaking it up, enjoying every second of it.
[1:05:47] Speaker 1: Mind you, the whole time my boyfriend was watching all
[1:05:52] Speaker 1: of these I forgot she had a boyfriend.
[1:05:53] Speaker 2: I didn't.
[1:05:54] Speaker 3: He's the one who invited the man over this job,
[1:05:56] Speaker 3: like slavery.
[1:05:57] Speaker 1: I forgot about all this shit. Okay, okay, okay, mind you.
[1:06:01] Speaker 1: The whole time my boyfriend was watching all of these encounters,
[1:06:05] Speaker 1: and he could tell that this was different. He became
[1:06:09] Speaker 1: more assertive and got pushy about joining in. Why was
[1:06:13] Speaker 1: he even there? Well, bitch, because he started up a
[1:06:17] Speaker 1: little annoyed. I took my boyfriend's dick into my mouth
[1:06:21] Speaker 1: while the firefo firefighter pounded me from behind. They both
[1:06:27] Speaker 1: came hard one in my mouth and the other on
[1:06:30] Speaker 1: my ass come dropping down, dropping dropping down my chin
[1:06:36] Speaker 1: and pussy. I cannot Yes, I let this stranger fuck
[1:06:43] Speaker 1: me raw, and I loved every second of it.
[1:06:49] Speaker 2: To come on as with a representative, to talk about aides.
[1:06:52] Speaker 1: Exactly, and this is this is the story. This is
[1:06:55] Speaker 1: not my story. Okay. The next day, damn, this is
[1:07:00] Speaker 1: a continuance. Okay. The next day, all three guys messaged
[1:07:04] Speaker 1: my boyfriend, thanking him and asking him for another round.
[1:07:07] Speaker 1: But I didn't care about the first two. The firefighter
[1:07:10] Speaker 1: was the only one on my mind. I considered reaching
[1:07:13] Speaker 1: out to him privately, but that's when something clicked. I
[1:07:17] Speaker 1: spoke candidly to my boyfriend about how I was feeling
[1:07:20] Speaker 1: and broke up with him. Well that clicked fast. Since then,
[1:07:25] Speaker 1: I've done nothing even remotely close to that. I'm now
[1:07:28] Speaker 1: in my mid thirties and have been This is a
[1:07:31] Speaker 1: major turn. I'm now my mid thirties and have been
[1:07:34] Speaker 1: celibate for a few years. Lol. It tickles me how
[1:07:37] Speaker 1: guys assume that I'm the most dainty flower and treating
[1:07:40] Speaker 1: as such. Listening to your podcast and is conjuring up
[1:07:45] Speaker 1: old memories and I don't know what to do with myself.
[1:07:48] Speaker 1: Love you ladies anonymous. Okay, so she had a total
[1:07:50] Speaker 1: life change after this whole wild night to Poundtown.
[1:07:53] Speaker 2: And it's so funny that she said, listening to your
[1:07:55] Speaker 2: podcast has me conjurgal old memories. I wonder if she's
[1:07:57] Speaker 2: a new listener and she's in the very beginning, probably
[1:07:59] Speaker 2: so oh about.
[1:08:04] Speaker 1: New experiences because babe, he was not playing anyway. That's
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[1:08:46] Speaker 1: to get out and you're tired of work, You're tired
[1:08:49] Speaker 1: of everything in your everyday life. We can escape. We're
[1:08:52] Speaker 1: not gonna be talking about work. Were gonna have a
[1:08:53] Speaker 1: good time, meet new friends, relaxing, eating good food, and
[1:08:57] Speaker 1: feeling good, looking good.
[1:08:59] Speaker 2: I love that, y'all. Make sure you click check the descriptions,
[1:09:02] Speaker 2: click all the links. Go with Kiki on her trip.
[1:09:04] Speaker 2: Follow us on Instagram. We're at Cocktails Podcast, I'm at
[1:09:06] Speaker 2: Coffee Bean.
[1:09:07] Speaker 1: Dean, and I'm at Kiki said so And until next week,
[1:09:10] Speaker 1: you guys, goodbye.
[1:09:12] Speaker 5: Good bye, bye bye bye population, goodbye, bye bye

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