# Annoying Partners, Aging Parents, Impossible Coworkers: Buddhist Advice for Conflict, Communication, and "Patience with Teeth" | devon and nico hase

An episode of [10% Happier with Dan Harris](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/podcast/1087147821), 30 Sep 2026, 1 h 13 min.

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Which conflict style are you? Plus: avoiding the "trance of nice," walking the high wire, and an uber-hack for getting over irritation. devon + nico hase serve as guiding teachers of the online dharma community Refuge of Belonging. They teach at the Insight Meditation Society, Spirit Rock, and other centers, offer online and in-person retreats, and speak with students in one-on-one sessions. They are the co-authors of How Not to Be a Hot Mess and the new This Messy, Gorgeous Love: A Buddhist Guide to Lasting Partnership. In this episode we talk about: • Why friction in relationships is a feature, not a bug • The three directions of listening • Why joy isn't a nice-to-have • How contemplating death can dissolve everyday irritation • Whether you're a volcano, a diplomat, or a dodger • How to rupture like a pro • Why real patience has teeth • What it means to walk the high wire in a conflict Related Episodes: • The Sex Episode Get the 10% with Dan Harris app here Sign up for Dan's free newsletter here Follow Dan on social: Instagram, TikTok Subscribe to our YouTube Channel To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris

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