# How can we overcome a fear of love?

- Institution: TED
- Department: TEDxSMUWomen
- Speaker: Trillion Small
- Year: 2018
- Level: For everyone
- Language: English
- Subjects: Psychology and the brain
- Source: [TED](https://www.ted.com/talks/trillion_small_how_can_we_overcome_a_fear_of_love)
- Licence: [CC BY-NC-ND 4.0](https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd/4.0/) (Non-commercial use only, and no changed versions.)
- Who can watch: Teens profiles and older (sources give no ratings; placed by Invisible Network from the source's own words)

Irrational or not, love can feel really scary. But is it love itself that we fear? According to counselor Trillion Small, the stories we tell ourselves about negative dating experiences trigger hardwired survival instincts, keeping real connection at arms length. Through an exploration of the brain's processing system and her own dating mishaps, Small explains why negative emotions creep into our perceptions of love and maps an escape from this limiting feedback loop.

## Lectures

1. [How can we overcome a fear of love?](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/learn/ted/trillion_small_how_can_we_overcome_a_fear_of_love/2f1e98e62e5c), 20 min (TED's player)