# The secret to desire in a long-term relationship

- Institution: TED
- Department: TEDSalon NY2013
- Speaker: Esther Perel
- Year: 2013
- Level: For everyone
- Language: English
- Source: [TED](https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship)
- Licence: [CC BY-NC-ND 4.0](https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-nd/4.0/) (Non-commercial use only, and no changed versions.)
- Who can watch: Adult profiles and older (sources give no ratings; placed by Invisible Network from the source's own words)

In long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire? With wit and eloquence, Perel lets us in on the mystery of erotic intelligence.

## Lectures

1. [The secret to desire in a long-term relationship](https://invisiblenetwork.ai/learn/ted/esther_perel_the_secret_to_desire_in_a_long_term_relationship/0bbec01f510e), 19 min (TED's player)